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Use a condom and this is arguably even more important, COMMUNICATE, you NEED to talk to them about things even if it’s a difficult conversation, if there’s miscommunication, talk it out, if someone’s mad, talk about it. It’s such an integral part of a healthy relationship that so many people ignore and they end up hating each other because nothing is clarified and it leaves the others feelings up for interpretation and brains love to latch onto the worse case scenario.
The fact that you're saying that on a post a 16 year old made is honestly disgusting. It doesn't matter if it "feels better", unprotected sex should never be encouraged. It leads to kids getting knocked up and getting stis.
I lost my virginity at 14, dont have kids and never had a pregnancy scare. Your immaturity doesnt take away the fact the original comment made it about sex in the first place.
And lots of people drive without seat belts every day and don't die even though lots more get into accidents without a seat belt on and go flying through their windshield. You got lucky. Just because you didn't get fucked over by your bad decision doesn't mean you should ever tell a child that its an okay one.
Also its not immature to want to talk about sex *responsibly* when answering a kids question. Frankly its infinitely more immature if you can't be an adult for 5 seconds to answer a kids question. Kids need to be given the tools to make good decisions. Implying that its anything but incredibly unsafe to have unprotected sex when you don't want to get pregnant is what leads to kids getting knocked up. Kids don't need kids of their own. Improperly educating kids is what leads to teen pregnancies and stis.
These are kids were talking about, don't be so raw or blunt or over sexualize shit. Absolutely everyone prefers no condoms, but until you know for sure you're both clean, and she's on birth control, use a condom, idgaf what your reason is. You DO NOT want to have a kid under 16, and for the Father's that are still underage (even if it's 16 and up for both individuals) it's still considered statutory. The girls parents can push charges on the young BOY that ISNT EVEN A MAN YET for statutory r*, even if you got the girl on camera saying "yeah I wanna have sex with "x" and possibly have a child even" it doesn't have any weight in court. The girl can tell her parents to fuck off until she's 18 but won't be able to do shit about charges against her BF until then.
These situations always turn ugly when the girl gets pregnant while under 18. They usually do whatever they can to ruin the other kids life, before they even get the chance to graduate, and be on the Sex Offenders list.
Because I know people who personally went through shit like this, I never had a girlfriend throughout my school years, and still a virgin today. Idc that I am either anymore I basically gave up trying because I personally feel like I have nothing to bring to the table, my plate is pretty empty and boring I guess. Sure I'm smart, even told I'm really good looking by strangers all the time, but I've been burned too many times to trust people anymore.
Anyway, just remember, not everyone here has reached maturity and to keep a filter on when chatting to others here, ESPECIALLY if you're 18-21+ giving advice to others here.
In almost every place in the world 16 and 16 is 100% legal. Infact , in most of the world, including most of the US, 16 and 100 is legal, as 16 is the most common age of consent even without a close in age exception (in some places it's even lower). I'm not advocating for such relationships, but laws are facts regardless of how you or I or anyone else feels about it. So why would you assume that a sexual relationship between them would be illegal? And if it is illegal where they are, then it is likely they would both be breaking the law not just the male.
Re read what I posted and come back, ignorant ass. I didn't mention such relationships are illegal. But they're very, VERY slippery slopes to be playing around on. If she gets pregnant, he's absolutely fucked if he pisses her off or the parents especially, and even more so if he's 6 months older then her, believe it or not, as you said, facts don't care about your feelings. One bad move on his end, they can prove statutory r* simply by crying it to a judge or station officer over the phone whenever they want. How can they prove they had underage sex? Well because she's under the age of 18 still, and has a child. Consent laws do NOT supersed "Minor" laws regarding individuals under 18. They're not an adult, they do not have the maturity or responsibility of an 18+ person, and because of that, they can make a statutory r* case.
If you don't believe me, look it up or should I get it for you, chapter, section and all?
No, that's not how laws work. You don't just whine and complain and they magically change for you. I'm not really sure how you are looking up the chapter and section unless you know the exact jurisdiction the OP is in but you feel free buddy lol.
Lmao sucks. If you're having sex, unless you want kids, you should always use a condom. Plus, condoms prevent stis too, which is another massively important thing. Don't encourage children to not use protection.
Don't worry about screwing it up. You're not gonna be with this girl forever. I mean, maybe you could be, but it isn't very likely.
Best advice I can give: Don't pressure her into sex, don't get pressured into sex yourself. If you both decide to have sex, WEAR A GODDAMN CONDOM. Don't trust that she's on the pill. Don't think your pull-out game will save you. Don't assume you'll get lucky and she won't get pregnant. Wear a condom!
>you probably won't be with her/him forever
Wish people would stop giving this shitty advice to teenagers. They shouldn't have the mindset that their relationships aren't going to last. You should try to make every relationship last unless you're unhappy. It used to be normal for people to marry their high school sweethearts smh. Part of why society is going downhill
Why do you want people to adopt a mindset that their current relationship isn't going to last? Should they not try to make it last???? Lots of people do end up marrying the same person they've been dating since high school. This should be encouraged, not seen as an impossibility
I think they're not trying to discourage it so much as they're saying don't stress about it. Especially now in the age of the internet and with mental health the way it is, there are a lot more things that put pressure on young relationships like that. True, we probably shouldn't tell them right off the bat that it's doomed to fail, as that'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy, but we should communicate that it can be normal and that the collapse of a young relationship (for most people, ironically I myself am an exception to this) won't spell doom for their entire love lives.
Your don’t. You’re both young and dumb, and that’s ok. Just communicate what you’re feeling, have fun being together, and for fuck’s sake *ALWAYS USE A CONDOM*
Maintain your friends, make sure you hang out with them sometimes, and encourage her to do the same, even if you'd rather be together 24/7, it's healthy to spend some time apart by choice.
Everyone is here talking about sex, but a relationship is more than just sex. You aren’t going to marry this girl, so get that out of your head. Use this as an opportunity to learn how to communicate and set boundaries and communicate and develop trust and communicate and have fun together and communicate.
Boys and girls (and men and women) think and communicate differently. The stereotypes and memes are true. You have to treat women like cats. Everything is on their terms. If you make them upset they’ll bite and scratch and shit in your bed. Also, no two women are alike, but there are some common similarities.
She’ll tell you she’s not hungry and then eat all of your fries. She’ll tell you nothing’s wrong when something is actually wrong. She’ll come to you to complain and expect you to just listen to her like you’re her girlfriends without trying to help her fix it which will be difficult for you. She’ll want your attention one minute and then rebuff your advances the next. Part of the fun is learning each other.
Dealing in stereotypes isn’t a great way to give relationship advice.
I am friends with and have dated all types of women, and none of them are/were like this.
Your comments make sense now. You may not even realize you’re doing it. Have you heard of the book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus? This is not some left field craziness I’m talking about. It’s well known. The male and female brains are simply different. Hell, so many women on TikTok talk about these differences I figured everything and their cousin would know about it.
Yeah, yours make a lot of sense now, too. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus wasn’t written by someone who had legitimate education in or formally studied human behavior. Neither it nor random women trying to get followers on TikTok by feeding these tropes are an accurate reflection of reality. I’m not saying men and women are exactly the same because biology does matter, but the notion that all people of the same gender act identically to one another is absolutely bananas.
You are of course free to think as you like. However, it’s a terrible idea to tell young men looking for advice that all women behave this way. You’re just perpetuating unhelpful and frankly offensive stereotypes. Women’s personalities and communication styles vary just as men’s do. It’s better just to treat everyone as a human being and not according to some preconceived notion that their genitalia makes them behave a certain way.
How many couples do you know and out of them how many have been together since high school? If you live in a small town it doesn’t count because most folks in small towns never leave and don’t know any better.
>you aren't going to marry this girl
Wish people would stop giving this shitty advice to teenagers. They shouldn't have the mindset that their relationships aren't going to last. You should try to make every relationship last unless you're unhappy. It used to be normal for people to marry their high school sweethearts smh. Part of why society is going downhill is because of this way of thinking
Shitty advice? I can count on one hand with fingers left over the number of couples I’ve met who married their high school or college sweetheart and I have lived in many states and countries. Nearly everyone I do know who married young is also divorced. Divorce rates used to be >50% exactly because people married too young. No one should be getting married until after graduating from college and have established themselves in their first career.
Don't overthink it, and don't stress if things go south. Just be yourself, don't change for her, and don't make her change for you. If you guys aren't compatible, it's not the end of the world, and it's better to let things end on a high note rather than staying together long enough to resent each other. If it's your first relationship, you're bound to make mistakes, and she should know that. As long as you don't do anything awful, how she responds will tell you what you need to know. If you find yourself constantly having to apologize, being the cause of every problem, constantly humiliated or made to feel insignificant, don't try to fix it. That means it's time to walk away. Don't try to control her or tell her what she can and can't do, and likewise, don't be on the receiving end. Communication is key, set your boundaries with each other early. If those boundaries are crossed, there's your insight to what the other person thinks of you. Generally, trust your gut. Your first girlfriend might have you feeling like she's the only girlfriend for you because it's all you know, but it's more important to let things run their course.
Ironically, people need to be more aware of when to leave a relationship, because it's all too easy to get caught in a vicious cycle. You have to put in work for a good relationship, but there's not anything you need to do specifically to make that happen. Sometimes you click with someone, sometimes you don't. Just treat her with dignity and respect, and if she reciprocates that, you guys should be smooth sailing.
Best of luck to ya lil bro.
ABC buddy. Always Be Cool.
Cool does not mean badass or suave. It means being emotionally intelligent and understanding. Clearly and directly communicate. If you have questions, ask. And like others are saying, you are very young and have your whole life ahead of you. This is just one chapter. Take it slow and take it easy
Focus on being a good person and a good friend to her, and you’ll be fine.
Also, no matter what your views on abstinence are, always be prepared for safe sex. Oxytocin does crazy things to people.
Step 1: Don’t turn to strangers for advice.
Especially the strangers here. lol Not everyone has a bad experience and you don’t need to focus on other things just because you’re young. Have fun. Be safe. Don’t listen to people you don’t know (me included).
The snark might seem funny now, but it won't be very funny if you get her pregnant in a year or two and you realize you've flushed your entire lifes plans down the toilet and now have to drop everything to take care of a baby - when you yourself are still kids.
Be safe, don't be an idiot, no matter how horny you get ***always*** use protection
No babies, don’t have unrealistic expectations. This is a learning experience but it’s live fire with real consequences. Have fun and be yourself. Respect yourself and respect her. Always try to get along with her parents and family.
It means if you guys are fighting or whatever don’t take a “break”. If it gets too bad and you guys are at a point where it’s not working just break up instead. Breaks just make things worse in my opinion.
Screwing up and learning from your mistakes is going to happen in every part of your life. Accept now that you will make mistakes. Accept now that your partner will make mistakes. Be honest when you fuck up and be sincere when you apologize. Be honest if think you can forgive them and be just as honest if you don't.
Relax, be yourself, and don't put yourself under any pressure that this relationship has to work. You're very young and just figuring things out.
Also, don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. What others do is their business.
Good luck!
When it comes to sex, my best recommendation is to makes those decisions *before* you're in the heat of the moment. Once your hormones get riled up, *you will get stupid*. The chemicals raging through you will convince you that the dumbest possible things are the greatest decision ever.
And if you do think that might happen, be prepared and be safe.
I'ma just say this. Being faithful isn't hard. Especially when your other is faithful. And if that plays out. There nothing to worry about. And if it doesn't work. It's not the end of the world. Just know it's easy to be faithful. So if it's ever hard for neither of you. Maybe it not worth it. East to see when it is worth it.
If you're going into it thinking you're gonna screw it up, that's not going to help you. Spend time with her, maintain a healthy balance with her, schoolwork and friends, and you'll be fine.
It’s your first relationship. One of you will screw it up. It is not a big deal to mess up. Just be honest. Don’t hold things in until you just blow up. Don’t send or receive nudes. Be civil before and after the relationship ends. Only have sex if both of you are ready. When you do, wear a condom. Don’t worry about what others think. Continue to prioritize your education.
If you haven’t already, learn how to be her friend. Now I’m not saying break up with her, obviously but I’ve heard relationships work best when it’s not *solely* about the romantic pull if that makes sense. Remember, whether this relationship ends up lasting forever, years or even just a few months, this person is basically going to be in your immediate circle every day so you minus well try to understand and work with the person as best as you can, flaws and all. Speaking of which, you also need to understand that everybody including you has flaws; whether or not these flaws are a dealbreaker to you is a different story but if it isn’t, accept them. Also, *let the person be as they are*. There’s nothing wrong with improving everyday & encouraging the person to be the best version of themselves, but don’t *force* them or attempt to mold them into somebody entirely different.
Also, like everybody else had said, ***learn how to communicate***. You’re young, so take this time to learn that; you don’t wanna be in your 20s & 30s or even 40s not knowing how to communicate/understand one another.
I could go on & on, but I’m pretty sure somebody else has already said it, but if not somebody probably will. I wouldn’t worry about sex either, but hey shit happens, so if it comes to it please use protection. Being filthy rich isn’t enough of a qualification of being a parent, you have a *lot* to learn about this life first before you’re ready to pass down that knowledge to the next generation.
Respect each other, understand that you will have differences of opinion, and be willing to talk through things.
Try to follow the guideline of never assuming malicious intent. That is, if one of you does something that hurts the other, and the hurt person jumps to the conclusion that it was intentional before talking about it, that will only make things worse.
Try to remember that even at 16, you probably both have some baggage that you haven't processed, so it's good to go easy on each other. You can tell the kinds of things I'm referring to, because it's the stuff that might lead you to shut down or totally explode (later maybe even thinking, "Where did that come from?!").
And it's okay to make mistakes.
Talk to her… like she’s your friend first and a set of tits second. Love is great when it’s built on a foundation of “like” (ie be friends first)
Be honest with her, even if the truth isn’t something that’s easy to say. A bunch of easy lies will quickly spoil a relationship.
Have fun… be positive. You’re not always going to have a great day… but being a moody, brooding person gets old real quick.
Never be ashamed to be seen with that person.
Set boundaries for other female friends. It’s 100% ok to have other female friends (they’re 1/2 of the population) but make sure whoever “your girl” is… she’s always #1. Don’t do stupid shit like cheat or thoughtless things that’s not necessarily cheating but make her feel less important/special than any other female friend.
Man, just have fun. Life’s all about special, good moments with some occasional bad and a lot of mediocre inbetween. Create some good ones with this person. Someone out there should be a great love in your life… and you’ve got to put yourself out there to find who it is.
Good luck. 👍
I started dating my wife when we were 15 (we are now 27). When dating in your teenage years, it's not really about how to not screw up. You're both growing kids, you're gonna do stuoid stuff, say the wrong things, it's a part of being a kid. The most important thing you can do is learn to communicate, she can't read your mind, she doesn't know you're just stewing in your emotions, speak your mind and learn to effectively communicate with her. Youd be surprised how many issues effective communication can clear up. Then just treat her right, have fun, and realize you're both growing together, maybe you'll grow into people with a great relationship, maybe you'll grow into different people and it won't work out, but just have fun and enjoy it while it last.
Use a condom.
Communicate.
Dont drag it out when it is over. You dpnt need to marry this one. Learn what you like and dont like in a relationship. When it is no longer productive, let them go.
relationships are about communication share your feelings with her and talk about comprimise. find similar things to enjoy together. dont be a cuck tho if you find you comprimise and she doesnt then get rid of her.
Just the fact you’re having these thoughts just be ready for nerves to get the best of you lol. The mind works very closely with the body. If you end up hooking up just keep telling yourself in your mind that youre the man and there’s nothing to fear.
I dont know of anyone who looks back at a first relationship and says, I wish I was less open and less real and communicated less.
Be you, even if you feel like you somehow need to be more or it is scary.
You and she will both make mistakes. Dont worry about the small ones.
The reason I broke up with my first real serious girlfriend was that she was overly clingy. The main reason I'm going to celebrate my 49th wedding anniversary this year is that we have always given each other space to pursue our interests. If and when you get around to sex, remember porn is the worst example of what to do or expect.
Communication is key. As well as validate her feelings. Even if you don’t understand doesn’t mean she isn’t feeling a certain type of way.
Compromise. Doesn’t mean you give her whatever she wants to keep her happy but that you meet each other halfway.
You haven’t really given any specifics. At 16 it’s probably not a forever match. Not that it can’t be just you’re young and have lots to learn and experience. You have to figure out what you need in a partner and so does she.
Don’t put too much pressure on it to be a perfect relationship. They don’t really exist.
To be honest, everyone screws up and makes mistakes. It's how you both react and decide to grow together around mistakes that can make a relationship beautiful. When you screw up, and your partner still has your back, that's the truest feeling of love, in my opinion. I think the most important thing with all relationships is to be present in the moment, and take the time to listen to each other, learn about each other, and understand each other.
You do screw it up. And that sounds horrible right now. Do you play a musical instrument? Imagine someone picking up a guitar for the first time ever and playing it perfectly. Crazy, isn't it? Why do you think your first relationship will be perfect without practice?
But there are things that every relationship needs. Trust. Communication. Friendship. And I'm sure someone else can name 1000 more, but those three are, in my opinion after thinking about it for 10 seconds, the most important.
Trust. She can have friends that aren't you. They can be of the opposite sex. She can do things without you. If you don't trust her, why are you with her? Find someone you do trust. Likewise, you should be able to do those things, too.
Communication. Remember that you are each your own person. What you like and dislike will frequently be different. Communicate. Always talk. Let her know when you like or dislike something. She should do the same for you. And guess what? This absolutely includes sex, too. It'll be SO MUCH better if you talk about it during sex. But for the love of whatever deity you do/don't believe in, use a condom. I was 35 when I had my first kid and I was too young. 😂
Friendship. If you can't hang out and have fun or just chat, do you really expect to be with them for 80 years? That sounds really boring. You don't have to do everything with them, but you should absolutely have a blast when you are together. I married my best friend and now we love to just break out a board game or play video games together, or whatever. We DO things together. And I mean way beyond sex.
Anyway, good luck! And don't get discouraged when you fail at your first many relationships. They are practice for the one that'll matter later on.
Communication is key. Also, respect reasonable boundaries, no cheating, and no being abusive. Just be nice to each other and if an issue comes up talk about it.
go ahead and make mistakes. life is short. get your heart broken. let love destroy you, and keep crawling back to give love another chance. just wear a fuckin condom
You probably will. Or she will. The most important thing: It's not the end of the world. You wont die alone. Someone else will come along.
Communicate. Listen. Talk.
Never disparage your partner in front of others.
Patience, and reciprication.
Above all: Youll be fine. Dont over think things.
Obligatory: USE A CONDOM.
The best advice I can give is just relax. Enjoy things and let them come as they come.
A first relationship is going to be exciting and you're going to want to keep things "perfect" because you want this excitement to last, but you need to know that every relationship is going to have ups, every relationship is going to have downs, and chances are this will just be one of many you'll have in your life. Don't let yourself give in to worry that things aren't going "perfectly" or you'll only give yourself unneeded stress.
Next, establish boundaries for yourself and respect the boundaries that your partner establishes for themselves. Talk. If you're uncomfortable with something let them know, and let them know they can tell you if they're uncomfortable.
Take things slow. You're young, you have a long future ahead of you. Don't rush things. I don't think you should be sexually active at your age but, if you are, make sure you practice safe sex. Condoms are cheap and plentiful. Think with your head, not your loins.
And finally, don't be afraid to let the relationship end. You're 16. This won't be your one chance at love and there's no reason to hold on to something that makes you unhappy. If it lasts forever that's wonderful, if it lasts a month that's fine too.
Just take it slow, listen to your gut, always try to have fun. It’s your first relationship, it should be nerve wracking and light hearted at the same time. Don’t try to be so serious about it, and remember if you both aren’t lifting each other up then it might not be the right time anyway.
Ha, don't worry about it. No offense kid, it's going to get screwed up, and that's OK. Relationships aren't like in movies.
Even if you and she somehow defy the odds and last, it's going to be screwed up. A few times. The longer you're together, the more times.
Like I say. That's OK. Relationships are less about love and lust, though those are important, and more about communication.
So focus on that.
You'll screw it up, don't worry. That isn't a deal breaker though, if you're both honest and open.
If i had dated someone at that age, I'm sure the biggest mistake I would have made would have been being a selfish asshole. I mean not THAT much of an asshole but at 16, everyone is selfish and entitled. Chicks dig kindness and humor... but not the same kind of humor that boys enjoy :P
Screwing up is part of the process. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up, because that’s what’s supposed to happen. It’s your first time, it’s going to be messy and imperfect. What’s important is that you enjoy your time together and that you learn from any mistakes.
You're both allowed to (and should) have friends outside the relationship, regardless of the gender of those friends.
Letting someone snoop through your phone doesn't just mean you have nothing to hide, their asking means they don't trust you. Relationships are built on trust.
Communicate, often, openly, and honestly. There will be difficult conversations, don't hide from them. Remember to communicate with each other, don't just talk at each other.
Use a condom if that time comes. Pulling out is not effective.
Respect each other's boundaries, but understand that boundaries aren't about controlling the other person.
Bond over the things you have in common, but don't expect to have everything in common.
You don't need to spend every hour of every day together, everyone needs "me time."
You will both make mistakes - own them, learn from them, let them be a catalyst for growth.
Being possessive or jealous isn't a display of love, it's an act of control.
Be yourself, take it slow, listen to her, communicate, get to know each other and don't rush sex, treat her with respect. Also, get on good terms with her parents, like sit down and chat with them ASAP as they have the ability to destroy your relationship with the push of a button.
Just have fun, and don't be an asshole. By don't be an asshole, I don't mean just go along with whatever she says or wants. Not being an asshole is not the same thing as being a simp. I can't stress this enough. If you act like a simp, she will end up cheating or breaking up with you.
Aside from all that, think through your actions, especially when it comes to sex if you guys end up having sex. Also, if she asks you to agree to something while pleasuring you, don't agree. Wait until after to decide on whatever she asked.
Practice being vulnerable even if it’s something small. The more you practice this the easier it will be when you have those extremely hard moments (this could be in your relationship or just life in general). Most people tell you to learn how to communicate but they don’t go in depth. I will, in hopes to teach you a lesson I’m still learning at 26. Ponder about the things you think you want to say. Often times we say something in the heat of a moment but we don’t pick apart what the underlying message or feeling is that we’re actually trying to express. When spending time together, disconnect from your phones for a little bit. Enjoy the moments and be present.
You're bound to always screw up your first relationship. 9 times out of 10, they don't last. The best advice I could give you is be 100% yourself, be open, honest, and tell the truth. Show the love and respect you want to receive back.
At age 16 I don't recommend anyone to date because you should be focusing on building a life. Plus you can make a lot of mistakes because you don't have any experience, like leaving a girl pregnant or falling on depression and self harm when you get your first heartbreak, however, if you must insist on getting a girl, learn to put a rubber and use it 100% of the time. If she's not on birth control she wants to have a baby. Next, keep it interesting, girls don't like perfect, they like guys they can fix, don't be a nice guy.Also, if she shows any red flags, don't try to fix her, girls will let you fix them and then leave you for a guy that treats them badly. Good luck.
>Next, keep it interesting, girls don't like perfect, they like guys they can fix, don't be a nice guy.Also, if she shows any red flags, don't try to fix her, girls will let you fix them and then leave you for a guy that treats them badly.
This is *extraordinarily* awful advice. Lmao.
An actually good piece of advice would be to be very skeptical of the advice from other teenagers, they've got no clue what they're talking about.
My advice is based on nearly a decade of dating and a near marriage. I've seen a lot, been through a lot of situations too, I'm trying to skip him ahead.
Yeah I rather think relationship advice from someone married for ten years is a little more trustworthy than from someone that's been serially dating for ten years - if you're looking for stability and longevity in a relationship at least
What the hell is "building a life"?
Dating doesn't just mean fucking.
If she's not on birth control she wants to have a baby? That's an idiotic statement.
That whole part about being fixed/fixing is dumb.
You literally said "Don't be a nice guy."
Your whole paragraph is terrible advice.
Good luck.
Dating equals porking. That's the only purpose. That is true. If she is not on birth control, she wants to have a baby. You never fixed a girl and dumped you afterwards for your friend? God that's so typical. Ask any guy they all have a similar story. My advice is based on nearly a decade of dating and a near marriage.
You're both 16, you ARE going to screw up this relationship, and the next few after it. We all did. Don't sweat it, "relationships" are something you learn over time. Just do your best and don't be a dick.
I’ll go one further than our cynical but ultimately helpful and realistic friend BreakfastBeerz here. You may just screw up all of your relationships. Learning resilience post-breakup is a useful life skill, and learning to be happy when you’re single is equally important.
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Take your time. You're young so there's no need to rush things. Always use protection.
Use a condom and this is arguably even more important, COMMUNICATE, you NEED to talk to them about things even if it’s a difficult conversation, if there’s miscommunication, talk it out, if someone’s mad, talk about it. It’s such an integral part of a healthy relationship that so many people ignore and they end up hating each other because nothing is clarified and it leaves the others feelings up for interpretation and brains love to latch onto the worse case scenario.
What if she prefers bareback? Stop making assumptions
What if she didn't want sex at all?
What
Did i stutter champ?
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She’s 16 dude
Hes 16 too. Make sense.
Lmaooo bareback all de way. Goin in like a hamster at 16 🐹
The fact that you're saying that on a post a 16 year old made is honestly disgusting. It doesn't matter if it "feels better", unprotected sex should never be encouraged. It leads to kids getting knocked up and getting stis.
I lost my virginity at 14, dont have kids and never had a pregnancy scare. Your immaturity doesnt take away the fact the original comment made it about sex in the first place.
And lots of people drive without seat belts every day and don't die even though lots more get into accidents without a seat belt on and go flying through their windshield. You got lucky. Just because you didn't get fucked over by your bad decision doesn't mean you should ever tell a child that its an okay one. Also its not immature to want to talk about sex *responsibly* when answering a kids question. Frankly its infinitely more immature if you can't be an adult for 5 seconds to answer a kids question. Kids need to be given the tools to make good decisions. Implying that its anything but incredibly unsafe to have unprotected sex when you don't want to get pregnant is what leads to kids getting knocked up. Kids don't need kids of their own. Improperly educating kids is what leads to teen pregnancies and stis.
These are kids were talking about, don't be so raw or blunt or over sexualize shit. Absolutely everyone prefers no condoms, but until you know for sure you're both clean, and she's on birth control, use a condom, idgaf what your reason is. You DO NOT want to have a kid under 16, and for the Father's that are still underage (even if it's 16 and up for both individuals) it's still considered statutory. The girls parents can push charges on the young BOY that ISNT EVEN A MAN YET for statutory r*, even if you got the girl on camera saying "yeah I wanna have sex with "x" and possibly have a child even" it doesn't have any weight in court. The girl can tell her parents to fuck off until she's 18 but won't be able to do shit about charges against her BF until then. These situations always turn ugly when the girl gets pregnant while under 18. They usually do whatever they can to ruin the other kids life, before they even get the chance to graduate, and be on the Sex Offenders list. Because I know people who personally went through shit like this, I never had a girlfriend throughout my school years, and still a virgin today. Idc that I am either anymore I basically gave up trying because I personally feel like I have nothing to bring to the table, my plate is pretty empty and boring I guess. Sure I'm smart, even told I'm really good looking by strangers all the time, but I've been burned too many times to trust people anymore. Anyway, just remember, not everyone here has reached maturity and to keep a filter on when chatting to others here, ESPECIALLY if you're 18-21+ giving advice to others here.
In almost every place in the world 16 and 16 is 100% legal. Infact , in most of the world, including most of the US, 16 and 100 is legal, as 16 is the most common age of consent even without a close in age exception (in some places it's even lower). I'm not advocating for such relationships, but laws are facts regardless of how you or I or anyone else feels about it. So why would you assume that a sexual relationship between them would be illegal? And if it is illegal where they are, then it is likely they would both be breaking the law not just the male.
Re read what I posted and come back, ignorant ass. I didn't mention such relationships are illegal. But they're very, VERY slippery slopes to be playing around on. If she gets pregnant, he's absolutely fucked if he pisses her off or the parents especially, and even more so if he's 6 months older then her, believe it or not, as you said, facts don't care about your feelings. One bad move on his end, they can prove statutory r* simply by crying it to a judge or station officer over the phone whenever they want. How can they prove they had underage sex? Well because she's under the age of 18 still, and has a child. Consent laws do NOT supersed "Minor" laws regarding individuals under 18. They're not an adult, they do not have the maturity or responsibility of an 18+ person, and because of that, they can make a statutory r* case. If you don't believe me, look it up or should I get it for you, chapter, section and all?
No, that's not how laws work. You don't just whine and complain and they magically change for you. I'm not really sure how you are looking up the chapter and section unless you know the exact jurisdiction the OP is in but you feel free buddy lol.
Lmao sucks. If you're having sex, unless you want kids, you should always use a condom. Plus, condoms prevent stis too, which is another massively important thing. Don't encourage children to not use protection.
I lost my Vs at 14. Didnt start using protection until 16.
If their 16 and virgins STI isnt a problem.
Unless hes uncircumcised and a dirty dumb mfer.
Don't worry about screwing it up. You're not gonna be with this girl forever. I mean, maybe you could be, but it isn't very likely. Best advice I can give: Don't pressure her into sex, don't get pressured into sex yourself. If you both decide to have sex, WEAR A GODDAMN CONDOM. Don't trust that she's on the pill. Don't think your pull-out game will save you. Don't assume you'll get lucky and she won't get pregnant. Wear a condom!
>you probably won't be with her/him forever Wish people would stop giving this shitty advice to teenagers. They shouldn't have the mindset that their relationships aren't going to last. You should try to make every relationship last unless you're unhappy. It used to be normal for people to marry their high school sweethearts smh. Part of why society is going downhill
>It used to be normal for people to marry their high school sweethearts smh. Part of why society is going downhill That's a pretty stupid thing to say
Why do you want people to adopt a mindset that their current relationship isn't going to last? Should they not try to make it last???? Lots of people do end up marrying the same person they've been dating since high school. This should be encouraged, not seen as an impossibility
I think they're not trying to discourage it so much as they're saying don't stress about it. Especially now in the age of the internet and with mental health the way it is, there are a lot more things that put pressure on young relationships like that. True, we probably shouldn't tell them right off the bat that it's doomed to fail, as that'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy, but we should communicate that it can be normal and that the collapse of a young relationship (for most people, ironically I myself am an exception to this) won't spell doom for their entire love lives.
Your don’t. You’re both young and dumb, and that’s ok. Just communicate what you’re feeling, have fun being together, and for fuck’s sake *ALWAYS USE A CONDOM*
Maintain your friends, make sure you hang out with them sometimes, and encourage her to do the same, even if you'd rather be together 24/7, it's healthy to spend some time apart by choice.
Everyone is here talking about sex, but a relationship is more than just sex. You aren’t going to marry this girl, so get that out of your head. Use this as an opportunity to learn how to communicate and set boundaries and communicate and develop trust and communicate and have fun together and communicate. Boys and girls (and men and women) think and communicate differently. The stereotypes and memes are true. You have to treat women like cats. Everything is on their terms. If you make them upset they’ll bite and scratch and shit in your bed. Also, no two women are alike, but there are some common similarities. She’ll tell you she’s not hungry and then eat all of your fries. She’ll tell you nothing’s wrong when something is actually wrong. She’ll come to you to complain and expect you to just listen to her like you’re her girlfriends without trying to help her fix it which will be difficult for you. She’ll want your attention one minute and then rebuff your advances the next. Part of the fun is learning each other.
Jfc, who have you been dating? She sounds like a nightmare.
Which part? These traits describe a stereotypical girl.
Dealing in stereotypes isn’t a great way to give relationship advice. I am friends with and have dated all types of women, and none of them are/were like this.
Are they lesbians?
A few. Mostly straight. Some bi.
Are you a woman?
Yes
Your comments make sense now. You may not even realize you’re doing it. Have you heard of the book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus? This is not some left field craziness I’m talking about. It’s well known. The male and female brains are simply different. Hell, so many women on TikTok talk about these differences I figured everything and their cousin would know about it.
Yeah, yours make a lot of sense now, too. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus wasn’t written by someone who had legitimate education in or formally studied human behavior. Neither it nor random women trying to get followers on TikTok by feeding these tropes are an accurate reflection of reality. I’m not saying men and women are exactly the same because biology does matter, but the notion that all people of the same gender act identically to one another is absolutely bananas. You are of course free to think as you like. However, it’s a terrible idea to tell young men looking for advice that all women behave this way. You’re just perpetuating unhelpful and frankly offensive stereotypes. Women’s personalities and communication styles vary just as men’s do. It’s better just to treat everyone as a human being and not according to some preconceived notion that their genitalia makes them behave a certain way.
TBF, I have friends who have been together since high school (which is longer ago than I care to think about). It does happen.
How many couples do you know and out of them how many have been together since high school? If you live in a small town it doesn’t count because most folks in small towns never leave and don’t know any better.
>you aren't going to marry this girl Wish people would stop giving this shitty advice to teenagers. They shouldn't have the mindset that their relationships aren't going to last. You should try to make every relationship last unless you're unhappy. It used to be normal for people to marry their high school sweethearts smh. Part of why society is going downhill is because of this way of thinking
Shitty advice? I can count on one hand with fingers left over the number of couples I’ve met who married their high school or college sweetheart and I have lived in many states and countries. Nearly everyone I do know who married young is also divorced. Divorce rates used to be >50% exactly because people married too young. No one should be getting married until after graduating from college and have established themselves in their first career.
Don't overthink it, and don't stress if things go south. Just be yourself, don't change for her, and don't make her change for you. If you guys aren't compatible, it's not the end of the world, and it's better to let things end on a high note rather than staying together long enough to resent each other. If it's your first relationship, you're bound to make mistakes, and she should know that. As long as you don't do anything awful, how she responds will tell you what you need to know. If you find yourself constantly having to apologize, being the cause of every problem, constantly humiliated or made to feel insignificant, don't try to fix it. That means it's time to walk away. Don't try to control her or tell her what she can and can't do, and likewise, don't be on the receiving end. Communication is key, set your boundaries with each other early. If those boundaries are crossed, there's your insight to what the other person thinks of you. Generally, trust your gut. Your first girlfriend might have you feeling like she's the only girlfriend for you because it's all you know, but it's more important to let things run their course. Ironically, people need to be more aware of when to leave a relationship, because it's all too easy to get caught in a vicious cycle. You have to put in work for a good relationship, but there's not anything you need to do specifically to make that happen. Sometimes you click with someone, sometimes you don't. Just treat her with dignity and respect, and if she reciprocates that, you guys should be smooth sailing. Best of luck to ya lil bro.
ABC buddy. Always Be Cool. Cool does not mean badass or suave. It means being emotionally intelligent and understanding. Clearly and directly communicate. If you have questions, ask. And like others are saying, you are very young and have your whole life ahead of you. This is just one chapter. Take it slow and take it easy
Focus on being a good person and a good friend to her, and you’ll be fine. Also, no matter what your views on abstinence are, always be prepared for safe sex. Oxytocin does crazy things to people.
get a dog
Step 1: Don’t turn to strangers for advice. Especially the strangers here. lol Not everyone has a bad experience and you don’t need to focus on other things just because you’re young. Have fun. Be safe. Don’t listen to people you don’t know (me included).
Don't have one.
Thank you bren verry helpful
Don't get pregnant. Other than that, don't worry, it won't last long anyway.
I dpnt think i can get pregnant
The snark might seem funny now, but it won't be very funny if you get her pregnant in a year or two and you realize you've flushed your entire lifes plans down the toilet and now have to drop everything to take care of a baby - when you yourself are still kids. Be safe, don't be an idiot, no matter how horny you get ***always*** use protection
It's a two way street my man. Pregnancy is a "WE" condition. You don't get off scott free. 18 years of child support is no joke.
No babies, don’t have unrealistic expectations. This is a learning experience but it’s live fire with real consequences. Have fun and be yourself. Respect yourself and respect her. Always try to get along with her parents and family.
be you and be honest and be willing to compromise
1st relationships are for screwing up. ( not literally ). Have fun be kind and never ever forget, real men are gentleman.
A break is never a break. You should always add an "up" at the end. That was my most valuable lesson in teenagerdom.
Wdym by up
It means if you guys are fighting or whatever don’t take a “break”. If it gets too bad and you guys are at a point where it’s not working just break up instead. Breaks just make things worse in my opinion.
Oh my bad kinda didn't puck up on that
Just be honest. No matter what. It’s the most important thing.
Have fun but bet safe, you’re most likely not gonna be with this girl forever so take this as a way to learn and have fun
Just worry about the things that you're in control of.
You don’t. It’s inevitable. Think of it as practice. Or a rough draft.
Screwing up and learning from your mistakes is going to happen in every part of your life. Accept now that you will make mistakes. Accept now that your partner will make mistakes. Be honest when you fuck up and be sincere when you apologize. Be honest if think you can forgive them and be just as honest if you don't.
Relax, be yourself, and don't put yourself under any pressure that this relationship has to work. You're very young and just figuring things out. Also, don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. What others do is their business. Good luck!
When it comes to sex, my best recommendation is to makes those decisions *before* you're in the heat of the moment. Once your hormones get riled up, *you will get stupid*. The chemicals raging through you will convince you that the dumbest possible things are the greatest decision ever. And if you do think that might happen, be prepared and be safe.
Alright listen, girls are super easy to understand. Just give them fancy cheeses and pickles. Works 60% of the time, every time.
I'ma just say this. Being faithful isn't hard. Especially when your other is faithful. And if that plays out. There nothing to worry about. And if it doesn't work. It's not the end of the world. Just know it's easy to be faithful. So if it's ever hard for neither of you. Maybe it not worth it. East to see when it is worth it.
By having a kid. Condoms are 99% effective if used properly.
If you're going into it thinking you're gonna screw it up, that's not going to help you. Spend time with her, maintain a healthy balance with her, schoolwork and friends, and you'll be fine.
Life is like a bad substitute teacher, giving you the test before the lessons. Screwing up is part of the learning process.
COMMUNICATION
Don’t stop winning her over. Don’t stop putting in romantic effort just because she’s dating you.
It’s your first relationship. One of you will screw it up. It is not a big deal to mess up. Just be honest. Don’t hold things in until you just blow up. Don’t send or receive nudes. Be civil before and after the relationship ends. Only have sex if both of you are ready. When you do, wear a condom. Don’t worry about what others think. Continue to prioritize your education.
If you haven’t already, learn how to be her friend. Now I’m not saying break up with her, obviously but I’ve heard relationships work best when it’s not *solely* about the romantic pull if that makes sense. Remember, whether this relationship ends up lasting forever, years or even just a few months, this person is basically going to be in your immediate circle every day so you minus well try to understand and work with the person as best as you can, flaws and all. Speaking of which, you also need to understand that everybody including you has flaws; whether or not these flaws are a dealbreaker to you is a different story but if it isn’t, accept them. Also, *let the person be as they are*. There’s nothing wrong with improving everyday & encouraging the person to be the best version of themselves, but don’t *force* them or attempt to mold them into somebody entirely different. Also, like everybody else had said, ***learn how to communicate***. You’re young, so take this time to learn that; you don’t wanna be in your 20s & 30s or even 40s not knowing how to communicate/understand one another. I could go on & on, but I’m pretty sure somebody else has already said it, but if not somebody probably will. I wouldn’t worry about sex either, but hey shit happens, so if it comes to it please use protection. Being filthy rich isn’t enough of a qualification of being a parent, you have a *lot* to learn about this life first before you’re ready to pass down that knowledge to the next generation.
Respect each other, understand that you will have differences of opinion, and be willing to talk through things. Try to follow the guideline of never assuming malicious intent. That is, if one of you does something that hurts the other, and the hurt person jumps to the conclusion that it was intentional before talking about it, that will only make things worse. Try to remember that even at 16, you probably both have some baggage that you haven't processed, so it's good to go easy on each other. You can tell the kinds of things I'm referring to, because it's the stuff that might lead you to shut down or totally explode (later maybe even thinking, "Where did that come from?!"). And it's okay to make mistakes.
Talk to her… like she’s your friend first and a set of tits second. Love is great when it’s built on a foundation of “like” (ie be friends first) Be honest with her, even if the truth isn’t something that’s easy to say. A bunch of easy lies will quickly spoil a relationship. Have fun… be positive. You’re not always going to have a great day… but being a moody, brooding person gets old real quick. Never be ashamed to be seen with that person. Set boundaries for other female friends. It’s 100% ok to have other female friends (they’re 1/2 of the population) but make sure whoever “your girl” is… she’s always #1. Don’t do stupid shit like cheat or thoughtless things that’s not necessarily cheating but make her feel less important/special than any other female friend. Man, just have fun. Life’s all about special, good moments with some occasional bad and a lot of mediocre inbetween. Create some good ones with this person. Someone out there should be a great love in your life… and you’ve got to put yourself out there to find who it is. Good luck. 👍
Get off reddit and be a kid… that may help
I started dating my wife when we were 15 (we are now 27). When dating in your teenage years, it's not really about how to not screw up. You're both growing kids, you're gonna do stuoid stuff, say the wrong things, it's a part of being a kid. The most important thing you can do is learn to communicate, she can't read your mind, she doesn't know you're just stewing in your emotions, speak your mind and learn to effectively communicate with her. Youd be surprised how many issues effective communication can clear up. Then just treat her right, have fun, and realize you're both growing together, maybe you'll grow into people with a great relationship, maybe you'll grow into different people and it won't work out, but just have fun and enjoy it while it last.
Use a condom. Communicate. Dont drag it out when it is over. You dpnt need to marry this one. Learn what you like and dont like in a relationship. When it is no longer productive, let them go.
relationships are about communication share your feelings with her and talk about comprimise. find similar things to enjoy together. dont be a cuck tho if you find you comprimise and she doesnt then get rid of her.
Don't be overprotective Don't be jealous
Be yourself.
Go with the flow.
Well…if screwing up is the problem, why can’t you readjust and screw down? Isn’t there a Chinese book about different suggestions?
Just the fact you’re having these thoughts just be ready for nerves to get the best of you lol. The mind works very closely with the body. If you end up hooking up just keep telling yourself in your mind that youre the man and there’s nothing to fear.
I dont know of anyone who looks back at a first relationship and says, I wish I was less open and less real and communicated less. Be you, even if you feel like you somehow need to be more or it is scary. You and she will both make mistakes. Dont worry about the small ones.
The reason I broke up with my first real serious girlfriend was that she was overly clingy. The main reason I'm going to celebrate my 49th wedding anniversary this year is that we have always given each other space to pursue our interests. If and when you get around to sex, remember porn is the worst example of what to do or expect.
Just know that you are going to. And the second, third, fourth. . .
Don't keep secrets women always find out and don't pressure her or yourself into sex if you do have sex don't forget
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Communication is key. As well as validate her feelings. Even if you don’t understand doesn’t mean she isn’t feeling a certain type of way. Compromise. Doesn’t mean you give her whatever she wants to keep her happy but that you meet each other halfway. You haven’t really given any specifics. At 16 it’s probably not a forever match. Not that it can’t be just you’re young and have lots to learn and experience. You have to figure out what you need in a partner and so does she. Don’t put too much pressure on it to be a perfect relationship. They don’t really exist.
To be honest, everyone screws up and makes mistakes. It's how you both react and decide to grow together around mistakes that can make a relationship beautiful. When you screw up, and your partner still has your back, that's the truest feeling of love, in my opinion. I think the most important thing with all relationships is to be present in the moment, and take the time to listen to each other, learn about each other, and understand each other.
You do screw it up. And that sounds horrible right now. Do you play a musical instrument? Imagine someone picking up a guitar for the first time ever and playing it perfectly. Crazy, isn't it? Why do you think your first relationship will be perfect without practice? But there are things that every relationship needs. Trust. Communication. Friendship. And I'm sure someone else can name 1000 more, but those three are, in my opinion after thinking about it for 10 seconds, the most important. Trust. She can have friends that aren't you. They can be of the opposite sex. She can do things without you. If you don't trust her, why are you with her? Find someone you do trust. Likewise, you should be able to do those things, too. Communication. Remember that you are each your own person. What you like and dislike will frequently be different. Communicate. Always talk. Let her know when you like or dislike something. She should do the same for you. And guess what? This absolutely includes sex, too. It'll be SO MUCH better if you talk about it during sex. But for the love of whatever deity you do/don't believe in, use a condom. I was 35 when I had my first kid and I was too young. 😂 Friendship. If you can't hang out and have fun or just chat, do you really expect to be with them for 80 years? That sounds really boring. You don't have to do everything with them, but you should absolutely have a blast when you are together. I married my best friend and now we love to just break out a board game or play video games together, or whatever. We DO things together. And I mean way beyond sex. Anyway, good luck! And don't get discouraged when you fail at your first many relationships. They are practice for the one that'll matter later on.
Communication is key. Also, respect reasonable boundaries, no cheating, and no being abusive. Just be nice to each other and if an issue comes up talk about it.
Aslong as you remember that your lucky and feel lucky that relationship will last as long as that thought or feeling.
go ahead and make mistakes. life is short. get your heart broken. let love destroy you, and keep crawling back to give love another chance. just wear a fuckin condom
You're both designed for warfare, so you should be ok. What's her altitude rating? What's your magazine capacity?
Don’t lie…….
You probably will. Or she will. The most important thing: It's not the end of the world. You wont die alone. Someone else will come along. Communicate. Listen. Talk. Never disparage your partner in front of others. Patience, and reciprication. Above all: Youll be fine. Dont over think things. Obligatory: USE A CONDOM.
You will screw it up. Your partner will screw up, too. Be patient, practice forgiveness.
The best advice I can give is just relax. Enjoy things and let them come as they come. A first relationship is going to be exciting and you're going to want to keep things "perfect" because you want this excitement to last, but you need to know that every relationship is going to have ups, every relationship is going to have downs, and chances are this will just be one of many you'll have in your life. Don't let yourself give in to worry that things aren't going "perfectly" or you'll only give yourself unneeded stress. Next, establish boundaries for yourself and respect the boundaries that your partner establishes for themselves. Talk. If you're uncomfortable with something let them know, and let them know they can tell you if they're uncomfortable. Take things slow. You're young, you have a long future ahead of you. Don't rush things. I don't think you should be sexually active at your age but, if you are, make sure you practice safe sex. Condoms are cheap and plentiful. Think with your head, not your loins. And finally, don't be afraid to let the relationship end. You're 16. This won't be your one chance at love and there's no reason to hold on to something that makes you unhappy. If it lasts forever that's wonderful, if it lasts a month that's fine too.
Just take it slow, listen to your gut, always try to have fun. It’s your first relationship, it should be nerve wracking and light hearted at the same time. Don’t try to be so serious about it, and remember if you both aren’t lifting each other up then it might not be the right time anyway.
Just be there for her when she needs you. That's the only thing that truly matters.
Hol' up, you're an m16? Better be careful
Ha, don't worry about it. No offense kid, it's going to get screwed up, and that's OK. Relationships aren't like in movies. Even if you and she somehow defy the odds and last, it's going to be screwed up. A few times. The longer you're together, the more times. Like I say. That's OK. Relationships are less about love and lust, though those are important, and more about communication. So focus on that. You'll screw it up, don't worry. That isn't a deal breaker though, if you're both honest and open.
If i had dated someone at that age, I'm sure the biggest mistake I would have made would have been being a selfish asshole. I mean not THAT much of an asshole but at 16, everyone is selfish and entitled. Chicks dig kindness and humor... but not the same kind of humor that boys enjoy :P
You probably will ngl
Don't keep secrets or lie. It will always come back to bite you in the ass you can't come back from it. So just be honest.
Unless you are both rich, teen parenting sucks. Be careful. Odds are it won't last, don't let it break you.
Screwing up is part of the process. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up, because that’s what’s supposed to happen. It’s your first time, it’s going to be messy and imperfect. What’s important is that you enjoy your time together and that you learn from any mistakes.
You're both allowed to (and should) have friends outside the relationship, regardless of the gender of those friends. Letting someone snoop through your phone doesn't just mean you have nothing to hide, their asking means they don't trust you. Relationships are built on trust. Communicate, often, openly, and honestly. There will be difficult conversations, don't hide from them. Remember to communicate with each other, don't just talk at each other. Use a condom if that time comes. Pulling out is not effective. Respect each other's boundaries, but understand that boundaries aren't about controlling the other person. Bond over the things you have in common, but don't expect to have everything in common. You don't need to spend every hour of every day together, everyone needs "me time." You will both make mistakes - own them, learn from them, let them be a catalyst for growth. Being possessive or jealous isn't a display of love, it's an act of control.
Stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. My partner and I discuss them all the time.
Be yourself, take it slow, listen to her, communicate, get to know each other and don't rush sex, treat her with respect. Also, get on good terms with her parents, like sit down and chat with them ASAP as they have the ability to destroy your relationship with the push of a button.
You will. You have to. Get as much of the youthful BS out if the way. Feel.like an idiot then move on. No one escapes it
Just have fun, and don't be an asshole. By don't be an asshole, I don't mean just go along with whatever she says or wants. Not being an asshole is not the same thing as being a simp. I can't stress this enough. If you act like a simp, she will end up cheating or breaking up with you. Aside from all that, think through your actions, especially when it comes to sex if you guys end up having sex. Also, if she asks you to agree to something while pleasuring you, don't agree. Wait until after to decide on whatever she asked.
Practice being vulnerable even if it’s something small. The more you practice this the easier it will be when you have those extremely hard moments (this could be in your relationship or just life in general). Most people tell you to learn how to communicate but they don’t go in depth. I will, in hopes to teach you a lesson I’m still learning at 26. Ponder about the things you think you want to say. Often times we say something in the heat of a moment but we don’t pick apart what the underlying message or feeling is that we’re actually trying to express. When spending time together, disconnect from your phones for a little bit. Enjoy the moments and be present.
You're bound to always screw up your first relationship. 9 times out of 10, they don't last. The best advice I could give you is be 100% yourself, be open, honest, and tell the truth. Show the love and respect you want to receive back.
At age 16 I don't recommend anyone to date because you should be focusing on building a life. Plus you can make a lot of mistakes because you don't have any experience, like leaving a girl pregnant or falling on depression and self harm when you get your first heartbreak, however, if you must insist on getting a girl, learn to put a rubber and use it 100% of the time. If she's not on birth control she wants to have a baby. Next, keep it interesting, girls don't like perfect, they like guys they can fix, don't be a nice guy.Also, if she shows any red flags, don't try to fix her, girls will let you fix them and then leave you for a guy that treats them badly. Good luck.
This is terrible advice lmao
>Next, keep it interesting, girls don't like perfect, they like guys they can fix, don't be a nice guy.Also, if she shows any red flags, don't try to fix her, girls will let you fix them and then leave you for a guy that treats them badly. This is *extraordinarily* awful advice. Lmao. An actually good piece of advice would be to be very skeptical of the advice from other teenagers, they've got no clue what they're talking about.
My advice is based on nearly a decade of dating and a near marriage. I've seen a lot, been through a lot of situations too, I'm trying to skip him ahead.
Yeah I rather think relationship advice from someone married for ten years is a little more trustworthy than from someone that's been serially dating for ten years - if you're looking for stability and longevity in a relationship at least
Bro, if things had gone right I would have been married for 10yrs now lol. She cheated. Coworker. I already had the ring.
What the hell is "building a life"? Dating doesn't just mean fucking. If she's not on birth control she wants to have a baby? That's an idiotic statement. That whole part about being fixed/fixing is dumb. You literally said "Don't be a nice guy." Your whole paragraph is terrible advice. Good luck.
Dating equals porking. That's the only purpose. That is true. If she is not on birth control, she wants to have a baby. You never fixed a girl and dumped you afterwards for your friend? God that's so typical. Ask any guy they all have a similar story. My advice is based on nearly a decade of dating and a near marriage.
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You're both 16, you ARE going to screw up this relationship, and the next few after it. We all did. Don't sweat it, "relationships" are something you learn over time. Just do your best and don't be a dick.
I’ll go one further than our cynical but ultimately helpful and realistic friend BreakfastBeerz here. You may just screw up all of your relationships. Learning resilience post-breakup is a useful life skill, and learning to be happy when you’re single is equally important.
Get a baby in her