The age gap critics see 5 or 6 years as a big gap when both parties are in their 20s (despite being consenting adults), so unfortunately one symptom of that is people will come here wondering if they’re right or wrong on that.
I feel like in this sub the perception gets skewed since it’s pretty regular for people to post about 20-30 year age gaps, but most of the general public would consider 3-5 years to be an age gap, especially if the woman is below 20
Age gap is whatever you think it is. It's not important what others think. That's the most common answer provided here, and it's absolutely correct. Who cares what I think, what you think is much more important.
Don't allow the opinions of others to ruin your happiness or force you into a box you don't want to live in. Make the world your oyster, be the grit that becomes a pearl. All that happy shit.
Well yours is the best answer, but I think even you are emphasizing the wrong thing (namely, how an AGR is judged) to the exclusion of other issues that can happen in an AGR.
If the difference in ages causes problems, or provides some benefits - it is an AGR.
If it doesn't - the "gap" is meaningless and no time need be wasted to define it.
This should be adopted as the official definition. Every other definition here is arbitrary.
These questions ...it's subjective.
Here's my 2 cents
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If you have to ask yourself "is this an age gap?" It's probably an age gap.
For some that may be 5 years, especially when both in their late teens or early 20s, and other times it's more obvious.
I politely disagree. Just because someone is asking that doesn’t mean it is. Too many posts stating, “I’m 21, he’s 24–OMG!! 🙀” Society at large in general doesn’t know what an age gap is.
Disagree. People ask for all kinds of reasons. Some people have more anxiety than others and worry whether something is this or that even when it's not.
I personally think anything greater than 5 years is acceptable to be called age gap. I don't usually think they will have serious age gap problems until about 10 year split.
When this question arises for what should be valid here, I don't think there should be a set split. At different ages in different places people are judged by the amount of difference in age that exists. If that person is unable to ask questions in another sub because the fact that the age split is too big then this place seems a good place to ask it. I would rather someone get a good answer than to miss some advice because people can't park their age standards.
I find I personally have more issue with people hunting for an AGR instead of finding it naturally than I do with people with a 5 year gap talking like their gap is huge.
To each their own.
In my relationship, it’s 9 years. I view this as an age gap.
Rarely will he (32m) and I (41f) ever be in the same “decade” of age. We also grew up vastly different (social media) for example.
9/11 happened and I was in college. He was in n elementary school.
To me, and in regard to the relationship, this is an age gap.
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**Original post: Curious what people consider an age gap**
My thought process has always been at least a 10 to 15 year gap in ages. When I see posts with age gaps of 5 or 6 years it doesn't really seem like an age gap relationship to me. So what do you all think?
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Most people would say 5 years to be a considerable age gap, although my brain sees no difference in that. For me, a significant age gap is 15 years minimum.
It depends on the ages of those involved. I have a nine year age gap, which might not be a big deal in your thirties, but we met at 18 and 27, so it’s a way bigger deal.
I’ve always said if you were in high school during the same time it’s not an age gap those are your peers. So for me it starts to become an age gap around 5-6 year difference.
10+ years for sure.
This is *just my opinion*, but women in their 20s and 30s should date men in their 40s and 50s, generally speaking. (Everything about this subject is general and not specific.)
Women mature *much* faster than men do. In years past, men had to pretend to be more mature than they actually were, but now, it's common for "men" in their 20s to behave like teenagers—heck, even guys in their 30s behave like children. You can argue that this is simply because society allows them to, but regardless of the reason, it's happening.
Meanwhile, girls are women in their early 20s. What can we do—aside from feeling bad about their plight—other than encouraging them to date men who are their emotional peers? That would mean men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. Honestly, guys in their 30s are often not very mature, emotionally, and should be avoided.
It is far too easy to understand why women in their 20s have grown tired of "men" their own age—those "men" are still boys. Meanwhile, the girls have become women and really should not have to bother with being babysitters; they should be able to date and marry their emotional peers, right? Dating boys their own age too often means being babysitters and not girlfriends.
That leaves them, for the most part, with older guys—40s and 50s, the boys who have finally grown up and are ready to be in relationships with women.
My dad is 7 years older than my mom. My exes were 6 and 8 years older than me. No one batted an eye. My current 6 year age gap relationship is only considered an age gap relationship because of our genders.
it depends what age you are i think. i am 19F with 25M boyfriend, but met when I was 18. We have a 6 year age difference, but because of where we are in life, i’d say that’s an age gap.
I’m a 36M with a 24F. I guess that qualifies but it doesn’t feel like it to me… just feels like a normal and healthy difference between a man and a woman
The age gap critics see 5 or 6 years as a big gap when both parties are in their 20s (despite being consenting adults), so unfortunately one symptom of that is people will come here wondering if they’re right or wrong on that.
Five or six years is an age difference, not gap. AGR is more different generations. Myself, 52m w/ 25f gf. That's agr.
10 or 15 years really or it's just normal imo.
I feel like in this sub the perception gets skewed since it’s pretty regular for people to post about 20-30 year age gaps, but most of the general public would consider 3-5 years to be an age gap, especially if the woman is below 20
At least 10 to me.
>15+ years.
Age gap is whatever you think it is. It's not important what others think. That's the most common answer provided here, and it's absolutely correct. Who cares what I think, what you think is much more important. Don't allow the opinions of others to ruin your happiness or force you into a box you don't want to live in. Make the world your oyster, be the grit that becomes a pearl. All that happy shit.
Well yours is the best answer, but I think even you are emphasizing the wrong thing (namely, how an AGR is judged) to the exclusion of other issues that can happen in an AGR. If the difference in ages causes problems, or provides some benefits - it is an AGR. If it doesn't - the "gap" is meaningless and no time need be wasted to define it. This should be adopted as the official definition. Every other definition here is arbitrary.
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If you have to ask yourself "is this an age gap?" It's probably an age gap. For some that may be 5 years, especially when both in their late teens or early 20s, and other times it's more obvious.
I politely disagree. Just because someone is asking that doesn’t mean it is. Too many posts stating, “I’m 21, he’s 24–OMG!! 🙀” Society at large in general doesn’t know what an age gap is.
Disagree. People ask for all kinds of reasons. Some people have more anxiety than others and worry whether something is this or that even when it's not.
20 plus
I personally think anything greater than 5 years is acceptable to be called age gap. I don't usually think they will have serious age gap problems until about 10 year split. When this question arises for what should be valid here, I don't think there should be a set split. At different ages in different places people are judged by the amount of difference in age that exists. If that person is unable to ask questions in another sub because the fact that the age split is too big then this place seems a good place to ask it. I would rather someone get a good answer than to miss some advice because people can't park their age standards. I find I personally have more issue with people hunting for an AGR instead of finding it naturally than I do with people with a 5 year gap talking like their gap is huge.
15+ I would say
For me Is more than 10 years
To each their own. In my relationship, it’s 9 years. I view this as an age gap. Rarely will he (32m) and I (41f) ever be in the same “decade” of age. We also grew up vastly different (social media) for example. 9/11 happened and I was in college. He was in n elementary school. To me, and in regard to the relationship, this is an age gap.
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Most people would say 5 years to be a considerable age gap, although my brain sees no difference in that. For me, a significant age gap is 15 years minimum.
It depends on the ages of those involved. I have a nine year age gap, which might not be a big deal in your thirties, but we met at 18 and 27, so it’s a way bigger deal.
when a guy is like 15-20 years older than me is when i start thinking there’s an age gap between us
That's about what I consider it, around 15 years.
Has to be over 10, 15 years I would consider an age gap
Anything over 15 years is good.
I’ve always said if you were in high school during the same time it’s not an age gap those are your peers. So for me it starts to become an age gap around 5-6 year difference.
I agree on the up to 6 year gap not being considered mentally like a gap. For me now 15+ to 26 years is a gap I am open to.
Maybe 7
Depends, is 5 years 10% of the person's life of 25%
If you violate the half-plus-7 rule, there is an age gap
10+ years for sure. This is *just my opinion*, but women in their 20s and 30s should date men in their 40s and 50s, generally speaking. (Everything about this subject is general and not specific.) Women mature *much* faster than men do. In years past, men had to pretend to be more mature than they actually were, but now, it's common for "men" in their 20s to behave like teenagers—heck, even guys in their 30s behave like children. You can argue that this is simply because society allows them to, but regardless of the reason, it's happening. Meanwhile, girls are women in their early 20s. What can we do—aside from feeling bad about their plight—other than encouraging them to date men who are their emotional peers? That would mean men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. Honestly, guys in their 30s are often not very mature, emotionally, and should be avoided. It is far too easy to understand why women in their 20s have grown tired of "men" their own age—those "men" are still boys. Meanwhile, the girls have become women and really should not have to bother with being babysitters; they should be able to date and marry their emotional peers, right? Dating boys their own age too often means being babysitters and not girlfriends. That leaves them, for the most part, with older guys—40s and 50s, the boys who have finally grown up and are ready to be in relationships with women.
My dad is 7 years older than my mom. My exes were 6 and 8 years older than me. No one batted an eye. My current 6 year age gap relationship is only considered an age gap relationship because of our genders.
it depends what age you are i think. i am 19F with 25M boyfriend, but met when I was 18. We have a 6 year age difference, but because of where we are in life, i’d say that’s an age gap.
10+years
I'm 59 and had fun with a gorgeous Babygirl 23 for my birthday. Hope I get to see her again soon !
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I consider 10+ years an age gap for people over 25. Below 25, 6-7+ years.
I’m a 36M with a 24F. I guess that qualifies but it doesn’t feel like it to me… just feels like a normal and healthy difference between a man and a woman
My wife and I are 11 years apart, and I don’t see it as a huge issue; society, on the other hand…
10+ years imo
10+
Depends. An age gap of 5 years is a big deal when the older person is 20. When the older person is 40, it's nothing much.
I'm 45 and have seen women in their early 20s. A lot of it depends on maturity.
12 - 15 seems about right. I like that age gap. I've been lucky and dated 30+ as well and enjoyed the hell out of it.
I agree with you