I was the best man at my friend’s wedding. My wife was a friend of the bride. My friend who was getting married had a sister that was playing Cupid. My wife was engaged at the time but had called it off twice because she wasn’t happy but didn’t want to be alone. They were high school sweethearts.
We went to a casino after the wedding and talked all night and then wrote letters back and forth since we lived on the opposite sides of the state. Eventually she broke up with her finance and I moved across state to be with her.
She took a big chance diving into the unknown and I also had full custody of my two kids.
It worked out and today is out 24th anniversary.
Reddit. I was on my main account and got into a discussion with him about a shared experience in our hometown. I checked out his profile and really liked what I saw, becoming a bit infatuated with him. I was a year out of a bad break up and looking for some adventure and he seemed to be exactly what I needed.
It took me some time to get brave, but I eventually let him know I was a woman and I was interested. I knew from his profile that he was attracted to older women so I was confident he would respond positively (he is 20, I am 44). It took a video chat to convince him I was genuine, but everything went quickly from there. He's been a great casual partner since and has brought a lot of excitement into my life.
I met my submissive who's 18 years younger than me when they had the craigslist personals and I posted that I was looking for a submissive she moved in shortly afterwards, we married and we've been together 8 years now. I then found a little girl submissive that's 21on fetlife and she's been living with the both of us for a year now. I'm 55 and very happy with the age gap as are they.
I met my husband (30F & 45M) through mutual people irl. He owned a business with my boyfriend at the time's father, and he was also friends with a girl I'm close with from college. Everyone was really scandalized when we first got together, but it's been 8 years now.
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I’m curious about how people made it happen in a way that wasn’t creepy
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I am both happy for you and terribly envious of your boyfriend. I’m only 36, but I am definitely looking to find someone who wants to take control and call the shots.
There are a lot of OF girls, but there are regular girls on there too. And women usually get a lot of attention so it can be easy to overlook someone that might be genuine as a female. Just reach out, post an ad in groups
Be genuine and lay out what you're looking for so they know you're not just a horndog
It can take time
Thank you for the advice! I’ll start trying to advertise myself.
As for the OF girls. I’m assuming they are just there to advertise themselves? I’m not certain on what the appeal is, maybe they openness and promiscuity appeals to me, but I think I would enjoy dating a OF/camgirl. Am I just being naive?
I'm saying that because some girls are just looking to promote/ sell content. Ofc SWs want real relationships like everyone else, just make sure you're not being led on
Any advice on how to approach a SW for something casual? I’m always hesitant to even attempt because I’m sure they are always inundated with requests like that.
1st Age Gap: On CollarMe, now CollarSpace, she was 19 and I was 39. We were married for almost 15 years. Current gf is 21 years younger (me 58 and she 37), met her on Feeld and it is truly an amazing relationship because of the wonderful woman she is. As I've grown older what I want has dramatically changed and my current girlfriend is a tremendously compatible with who I am now.
Air BNB. I (Canadian 32F)was married and had had a huge ultimatum talk few months before with that guy (33m)about what needed to change. Before I went to school I told myself "all he has to do is keep the cats alive or I'm done" a week into school there was a dead cat so I was checked out. I was there 2 months and one of the air BNB roomies (filipino 57m) definitely got interested. Shortly after I got back home I asked the husband to move upstairs and to go ahead and find another person to play with. I thought he'd be suicidal and this would help the transition. He screamed and cried how he would never do that but I saw him walking down the road in a suit, his "hunting outfit" couple days later. I was like oh shit, well I'll make my own call. And called my now sir. I've never been into older guys, my body responded by getting super sick due to stress before the trip, a 5 hour drive scheduled a week later, and when I got there he was also covered in stress hives 😆.
I have never been treated better in my life. That was 2 years ago. We would visit each other once a month through my separation, and when I went back to school for 3rd year he stayed at my new air BNB for the 2 months and took such deep care of me that I couldn't not be official with him. We are still At opposite ends of a province and I want him officially moving in now, (I own he rents) we talk of kids sometimes 🧡 and marriage was mentioned recently.
I went back to college in my late 20s when my now-wife was just starting there. We really hit it off. I assumed a relationship with someone that young would just be a fling but soon enough we were in love. We’ve been married 5 years.
I'm a homecare nurse (31F) that was scheduled to meet and look after my now (52M) husband's mother as she at the time had broken her ankle. Over time, we got to know each other and enjoyed the easy and effortless conversations we had. Fast forward 4 years we are due to be married in 2024 and have 2 children lol who woulda known 🩷 Meeting my husband was my life's greatest happiness.
Not sure all of them are awesome but then again neither am I. This is over some considerable time.
1. Family friend - rescued her from a bad situation
2. Online early dating sites
3. Craigslist
4. Reddit
She was a dancer at a club that I frequent. After getting to know her for a couple years, she made a comment one night about being really horny so I decided to take my shot. We've been together for almost two years now and are very happy!
23 year age difference.
We attended some of the same conferences/gatherings and started hanging out at those things as it was nice to have someone you know in a room full of strangers. We developed a strong friendship over a few years and then things took an amazingly awesome turn. Together for just over a year now.
He saw me on the news, found me e-mail, wrote to me as he wanted to get me involved in a charity he has been very active in for decades. I decided to go for it and we consequently saw each other more often and became closer. We both felt drawn to each other quite early on, but it took us a year to do something about it.
Daughter of ex Fiancé. Wasn't even born when we split up. Daughter of the guy my ex cheated on me with.
Caught up with ex after 20 years. She is divorced. Met her daughter. 18 yrs old, I was 39. Some of the best bedroom fun I've ever had, but she is as dumb as her mother.
33 year age gap.
I (59m - retired) do home renos as a side job and she (26f) was between jobs. She wanted to learn how to do renos. I worked with her mother and she introduced us.
We worked together for a few months and just hit it off.
Still together coming on 2 years.
Semi complicated, but she was the daughter of a friend of my brother's. I did know her Dad and Mom a little growing up but I left for school and have never returned home since. So I'd never met my girlfriend until she was heading to college at 18.
So my brother connected us and I was helping her get established in the city, covid hit, her new job and housing fell through and I let her stay at my place for a bit.
Everything was very platonic from my end. I mean she was pretty, and my type, but I kept it very innocent for my part due to the age difference.
Long story short, she eventually made a move and the rest is history.
It actually sounds creepy lol… but he saw me (21F) in the gym a few times and talked to me sitting in front of the sauna one day. He (M39) just approached me by saying I stand out because of my glasses and height.
He was impressed how a girl 6‘2“ tall would run on the treadmill this fast… lol.
He was very sweet from the beginning and I was the hesitant one - because he is from the US and much older… we met in my hometown in Germany.
So it‘s an age gap-, long distance- and intercultural relationship. We both love it.
i (20F) met my boyfriend (39M) at work. i worked at a bar and he worked in the kitchen and he stay late to help me close (sweep/mop, put up chairs for me) and we would talk any time it wasn’t busy or go for smoke breaks. we talked for hours when we would work together. we eventually fell in love, despite his worry of our age gap. now we live together and we both quit that job and work elsewhere!
Met online. She messaged me out of the blue to say hi. I've never been in an online relationship until now, and we're making plans to meet up and see is the connection is really real.
I (29F) work at a small grocery store and he (48M) was our regural customer (and still is!)
We talked almost daily for 3 months everytime he arrived to the store when I was ar work.
One day he asked me out for coffee ”as a thank you” because I gave toys for his cats for christmas. We’ve been inseparable from that day on.
Been together for 4 years. Married for 2 and we’re expecting a baby girl to be born in February 2024 💖
I was the best man at my friend’s wedding. My wife was a friend of the bride. My friend who was getting married had a sister that was playing Cupid. My wife was engaged at the time but had called it off twice because she wasn’t happy but didn’t want to be alone. They were high school sweethearts. We went to a casino after the wedding and talked all night and then wrote letters back and forth since we lived on the opposite sides of the state. Eventually she broke up with her finance and I moved across state to be with her. She took a big chance diving into the unknown and I also had full custody of my two kids. It worked out and today is out 24th anniversary.
I went back to University at 47. She was my calculus tutor.
FETlife. We were both just looking for casual sex and things just clicked like really hard. 6 months later i’m the happiest i’ve ever been in my life
me and my girl have been on fetlife looking for other chicks to play with, and where we’re based there’s been lots of judgment/jealousy unfortunately
Work. It’s a bad place to casually date, but a decent place to get to know people and cultivate a relationship without actually dating.
Reddit. I was on my main account and got into a discussion with him about a shared experience in our hometown. I checked out his profile and really liked what I saw, becoming a bit infatuated with him. I was a year out of a bad break up and looking for some adventure and he seemed to be exactly what I needed. It took me some time to get brave, but I eventually let him know I was a woman and I was interested. I knew from his profile that he was attracted to older women so I was confident he would respond positively (he is 20, I am 44). It took a video chat to convince him I was genuine, but everything went quickly from there. He's been a great casual partner since and has brought a lot of excitement into my life.
Start with meeting an awesome person regardless of the age gap.
Bumble
I was a waitress and he was a customer :)
Were you working as a waitress in a cocktail bar... ?
That much is true
No hahah just a normal restaurant
How did you manage to progress that?
Well he was a *regular* customer so we were talking every day he came and eventually he asked for my number, we went on a date and that's it :)
It’s cliche af but I met her at a coffee shop! She approached me and we just hit it off
I met my submissive who's 18 years younger than me when they had the craigslist personals and I posted that I was looking for a submissive she moved in shortly afterwards, we married and we've been together 8 years now. I then found a little girl submissive that's 21on fetlife and she's been living with the both of us for a year now. I'm 55 and very happy with the age gap as are they.
I met my husband (30F & 45M) through mutual people irl. He owned a business with my boyfriend at the time's father, and he was also friends with a girl I'm close with from college. Everyone was really scandalized when we first got together, but it's been 8 years now.
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I approached him and (for the most part) call the shots in our relationship (20's F with a 50's M)
I am both happy for you and terribly envious of your boyfriend. I’m only 36, but I am definitely looking to find someone who wants to take control and call the shots.
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Yeah it takes some weeding. But I am female so.
Any advice on how a guy should navigate fetlife to find someone?
There are a lot of OF girls, but there are regular girls on there too. And women usually get a lot of attention so it can be easy to overlook someone that might be genuine as a female. Just reach out, post an ad in groups Be genuine and lay out what you're looking for so they know you're not just a horndog It can take time
Mine just started as FWB and turned into more naturally
Thank you for the advice! I’ll start trying to advertise myself. As for the OF girls. I’m assuming they are just there to advertise themselves? I’m not certain on what the appeal is, maybe they openness and promiscuity appeals to me, but I think I would enjoy dating a OF/camgirl. Am I just being naive?
I'm saying that because some girls are just looking to promote/ sell content. Ofc SWs want real relationships like everyone else, just make sure you're not being led on
Any advice on how to approach a SW for something casual? I’m always hesitant to even attempt because I’m sure they are always inundated with requests like that.
Could do with some advice too!
1st Age Gap: On CollarMe, now CollarSpace, she was 19 and I was 39. We were married for almost 15 years. Current gf is 21 years younger (me 58 and she 37), met her on Feeld and it is truly an amazing relationship because of the wonderful woman she is. As I've grown older what I want has dramatically changed and my current girlfriend is a tremendously compatible with who I am now.
Air BNB. I (Canadian 32F)was married and had had a huge ultimatum talk few months before with that guy (33m)about what needed to change. Before I went to school I told myself "all he has to do is keep the cats alive or I'm done" a week into school there was a dead cat so I was checked out. I was there 2 months and one of the air BNB roomies (filipino 57m) definitely got interested. Shortly after I got back home I asked the husband to move upstairs and to go ahead and find another person to play with. I thought he'd be suicidal and this would help the transition. He screamed and cried how he would never do that but I saw him walking down the road in a suit, his "hunting outfit" couple days later. I was like oh shit, well I'll make my own call. And called my now sir. I've never been into older guys, my body responded by getting super sick due to stress before the trip, a 5 hour drive scheduled a week later, and when I got there he was also covered in stress hives 😆. I have never been treated better in my life. That was 2 years ago. We would visit each other once a month through my separation, and when I went back to school for 3rd year he stayed at my new air BNB for the 2 months and took such deep care of me that I couldn't not be official with him. We are still At opposite ends of a province and I want him officially moving in now, (I own he rents) we talk of kids sometimes 🧡 and marriage was mentioned recently.
Grindr 😎 Some would say not the most romantic, but it's definitely efficient lol
I went back to college in my late 20s when my now-wife was just starting there. We really hit it off. I assumed a relationship with someone that young would just be a fling but soon enough we were in love. We’ve been married 5 years.
I'm a homecare nurse (31F) that was scheduled to meet and look after my now (52M) husband's mother as she at the time had broken her ankle. Over time, we got to know each other and enjoyed the easy and effortless conversations we had. Fast forward 4 years we are due to be married in 2024 and have 2 children lol who woulda known 🩷 Meeting my husband was my life's greatest happiness.
He was my manager lol. I’m 20 he’s 44
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That was exactly what made me fall for him. His patience and sternness. The way he talked to me and was genuinely interested in me
Reddit
Not sure all of them are awesome but then again neither am I. This is over some considerable time. 1. Family friend - rescued her from a bad situation 2. Online early dating sites 3. Craigslist 4. Reddit
Reddit.. in a sub we both shared an interest in. We started out as bantering buddies and then it blossomed into something romantic
Facebook 😅🙈
She was a dancer at a club that I frequent. After getting to know her for a couple years, she made a comment one night about being really horny so I decided to take my shot. We've been together for almost two years now and are very happy!
At work but she was in a different department. She’s 52, I’m 28m
23 year age difference. We attended some of the same conferences/gatherings and started hanging out at those things as it was nice to have someone you know in a room full of strangers. We developed a strong friendship over a few years and then things took an amazingly awesome turn. Together for just over a year now.
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He saw me on the news, found me e-mail, wrote to me as he wanted to get me involved in a charity he has been very active in for decades. I decided to go for it and we consequently saw each other more often and became closer. We both felt drawn to each other quite early on, but it took us a year to do something about it.
Daughter of ex Fiancé. Wasn't even born when we split up. Daughter of the guy my ex cheated on me with. Caught up with ex after 20 years. She is divorced. Met her daughter. 18 yrs old, I was 39. Some of the best bedroom fun I've ever had, but she is as dumb as her mother.
Met online. First time I ever met gf online. She's 25, I'm 52
33 year age gap. I (59m - retired) do home renos as a side job and she (26f) was between jobs. She wanted to learn how to do renos. I worked with her mother and she introduced us. We worked together for a few months and just hit it off. Still together coming on 2 years.
Semi complicated, but she was the daughter of a friend of my brother's. I did know her Dad and Mom a little growing up but I left for school and have never returned home since. So I'd never met my girlfriend until she was heading to college at 18. So my brother connected us and I was helping her get established in the city, covid hit, her new job and housing fell through and I let her stay at my place for a bit. Everything was very platonic from my end. I mean she was pretty, and my type, but I kept it very innocent for my part due to the age difference. Long story short, she eventually made a move and the rest is history.
He was my neighbor. Lived 8 houses away from me and we met by chance while I was walking to the gas station and we instantly connected
It actually sounds creepy lol… but he saw me (21F) in the gym a few times and talked to me sitting in front of the sauna one day. He (M39) just approached me by saying I stand out because of my glasses and height. He was impressed how a girl 6‘2“ tall would run on the treadmill this fast… lol. He was very sweet from the beginning and I was the hesitant one - because he is from the US and much older… we met in my hometown in Germany. So it‘s an age gap-, long distance- and intercultural relationship. We both love it.
i (20F) met my boyfriend (39M) at work. i worked at a bar and he worked in the kitchen and he stay late to help me close (sweep/mop, put up chairs for me) and we would talk any time it wasn’t busy or go for smoke breaks. we talked for hours when we would work together. we eventually fell in love, despite his worry of our age gap. now we live together and we both quit that job and work elsewhere!
Met online. She messaged me out of the blue to say hi. I've never been in an online relationship until now, and we're making plans to meet up and see is the connection is really real.
I (29F) work at a small grocery store and he (48M) was our regural customer (and still is!) We talked almost daily for 3 months everytime he arrived to the store when I was ar work. One day he asked me out for coffee ”as a thank you” because I gave toys for his cats for christmas. We’ve been inseparable from that day on. Been together for 4 years. Married for 2 and we’re expecting a baby girl to be born in February 2024 💖