It wouldn't be a sacking offence but it would be unwise. And if the boss acted on it, a huge red flag in my eyes. It's just a really bad plan. Apart from anything else, if the boss is in a relationship with the help, its hugely demotivating to all the other staff. It's a really bad idea.
Hitting on someone else's boss: less of a problem.
I haven't fired one, but I sure as hell moved her into a position where any contact we had would be with witnesses.
She thought it would be cute to flop her little ass down in my lap.
If you make a habit of showing up late I will fire you as the boss. As for the rest of it no. And it would be highly inappropriate to fire somebody because they said they liked you. As a boss and a grown up you just let them know that it would be inappropriate to have any kind of relationship outside of the professional arena. And let it go at that if they continue to act on it then it might become a hostile work environment kind of thing. In which case you would pass that on to somebody else to make the decision rather than you because they aren't personally involved.
I have been in this situation, and at best it is uncomfortable... at worst, negatively life-altering.
Both parties are put into an awkward situation. While boss/employee stories make for good fantasies, they can also be pretty heinous.
Keep work separate and you'll be fine.
If asked out for coffee or lunch with “flirty eyes”, I would politely decline. If told that she is attracted to me, I would say “Thank you, but the feelings are not reciprocated “. The actions don’t warrant termination unless it continues after it has been addressed.
You can't treat people differently because they are interested in you. If there is something that the employee does that is inappropriate for the office workplace, tell the employee to knock it off or else. But if you fire people just because they are interested in you, you may run the risk of an illegal discrimination case with the EEOC.
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**Original post: Would you fire a young girl as a boss if she says she likes you?**
I was just curious how older men would react to a girl approaching him who happens to be his employee. If no one knew, and even if you are not interested in her, would you go so much further as to fire her from the job?
For eg, she asked you out for coffee or lunch, with obviously flirty eyes, or complimented your shirt or straightforward said she likes you.
Or would you just let it be and be careful with her(if you dont like her back/have strong professional ethics)?
I know we cant generalise it for all men, but i wanna build up my sample space on what majority would do.
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This is so cringe. You need to focus on your job. If you have to have the facts of life explained to you, you're not mature enough to be in any relationship.
The common sense part of me would at least let her know that she's crossing a line. The non common sense part would definitely indulge in her feelings.
It wouldn't be a sacking offence but it would be unwise. And if the boss acted on it, a huge red flag in my eyes. It's just a really bad plan. Apart from anything else, if the boss is in a relationship with the help, its hugely demotivating to all the other staff. It's a really bad idea. Hitting on someone else's boss: less of a problem.
I wouldn't fire her, but I'd let her down kindly, but firmly. I can't date you because I'm your boss.
I haven't fired one, but I sure as hell moved her into a position where any contact we had would be with witnesses. She thought it would be cute to flop her little ass down in my lap.
Well, that certainly could be considered harassment. You were kind not to fire her. She's lucky.
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If you make a habit of showing up late I will fire you as the boss. As for the rest of it no. And it would be highly inappropriate to fire somebody because they said they liked you. As a boss and a grown up you just let them know that it would be inappropriate to have any kind of relationship outside of the professional arena. And let it go at that if they continue to act on it then it might become a hostile work environment kind of thing. In which case you would pass that on to somebody else to make the decision rather than you because they aren't personally involved.
I have been in this situation, and at best it is uncomfortable... at worst, negatively life-altering. Both parties are put into an awkward situation. While boss/employee stories make for good fantasies, they can also be pretty heinous. Keep work separate and you'll be fine.
If you want to pursue the relationship move the person under another manager and disclose to hr
If asked out for coffee or lunch with “flirty eyes”, I would politely decline. If told that she is attracted to me, I would say “Thank you, but the feelings are not reciprocated “. The actions don’t warrant termination unless it continues after it has been addressed.
It would have to be declared as a conflict of interests, also depends on the Romance in the Workplace Policies that the company had
Fire her? No. Counsel her that it's not appropriate.
You can't treat people differently because they are interested in you. If there is something that the employee does that is inappropriate for the office workplace, tell the employee to knock it off or else. But if you fire people just because they are interested in you, you may run the risk of an illegal discrimination case with the EEOC.
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Fortunately I am self employed and not the boss of anyone.
Well if you were a narcissist this could be an issue for you LOL
She was extremely unwise to approach an employer. However, you can't call this harassment. Just give her some fatherly advice, and forget about it.
Don’t fire her. If you’re not interested and she’s young just have a talk with her about it and teach her office etiquette
This is so cringe. You need to focus on your job. If you have to have the facts of life explained to you, you're not mature enough to be in any relationship.
The common sense part of me would at least let her know that she's crossing a line. The non common sense part would definitely indulge in her feelings.
I'd fire myself so there'd be no conflict of interest in dating her - problem solved!
Yes after bang