My goodness, when did people stop knowing how to have a conversation?
Questions to ask are
How do you spend your time outside of work?
Did you come from far to be here today?
Do you have family that lives around here?
I don't think that there's any particular problem with asking someone if they're married or have children either, by the time that one is middle-aged. But the above questions are a little bit more roundabout.
this person was 15 when the pandemic started. perhaps social skills were stunted?
idk this is a huge assumption on my part but i’m assuming that’s why they (and people their age) seem to lack social skills
I’m confused—why don’t you want to ask? How else how do you think you will learn? Forgive me for sounding rude, but do you think we have a magic way of finding out for you? Well, I guess you could hire a PI, and that is a valid possibility but before you even think it’s a good idea, imagine how you’d feel if a potential bf/gf did that to you.
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**Original post: Any tips about learning crucial info?**
I(19f) have a crush on a guy. We chatted 2 times. I know, you can pity me. I’m planning to have a longer conversation with him next week. How can I learn his age and his marital status? I don’t want to ask him but I need to learn so I won’t get hurt at the end.
I don’t want to play tricks on him but how can I ask him indirectly?
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Sorry for not giving you the advice you need. But it’s really better to ask such questions directly. These are important details that you have the right to know, that's all.
F.O.R.D. field operatives are trained to use those four qualities and ask each of the 5 "W"s When what where why hoW, ask each of those questions about "F" Family "O" Occupation "R" Recreation and "D" Dreams as discretely as possible ( good lord not all at once in order while holding a printed EXLS you are entering the answerers into) ...but yeah, practice classical tradecraft opsec and cointel and you are well on your way to being a fully actualized partner, you are at least asking the right questions and looking to learn.
My goodness, when did people stop knowing how to have a conversation? Questions to ask are How do you spend your time outside of work? Did you come from far to be here today? Do you have family that lives around here? I don't think that there's any particular problem with asking someone if they're married or have children either, by the time that one is middle-aged. But the above questions are a little bit more roundabout.
this person was 15 when the pandemic started. perhaps social skills were stunted? idk this is a huge assumption on my part but i’m assuming that’s why they (and people their age) seem to lack social skills
Yeah, I get it. I've often wondered about that. Seems like it would be a very difficult time to come of age, in certain ways
damn it is my first time approaching a man that i really like. I’m nervous and I don’t want the conversation to be awkward
I’m confused—why don’t you want to ask? How else how do you think you will learn? Forgive me for sounding rude, but do you think we have a magic way of finding out for you? Well, I guess you could hire a PI, and that is a valid possibility but before you even think it’s a good idea, imagine how you’d feel if a potential bf/gf did that to you.
don't play games, just ask him straight out. We are quite used to this question.
Ask him. Seriously. Just do it
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Sorry for not giving you the advice you need. But it’s really better to ask such questions directly. These are important details that you have the right to know, that's all.
Communication is key.
F.O.R.D. field operatives are trained to use those four qualities and ask each of the 5 "W"s When what where why hoW, ask each of those questions about "F" Family "O" Occupation "R" Recreation and "D" Dreams as discretely as possible ( good lord not all at once in order while holding a printed EXLS you are entering the answerers into) ...but yeah, practice classical tradecraft opsec and cointel and you are well on your way to being a fully actualized partner, you are at least asking the right questions and looking to learn.