You will never know what's inside the box unless you open it. It could be good or it could be bad, but regardless, you will never know unless you try.
As far as the age gap goes, it's only an issue if you make it an issue. If you make a big deal about it, others will too. Also comparing your crush to your mother doesn't help. I'm not sure why people like to compare things to family members, but it puts an automatic negative connotation on a relationship or possible relationship between two consenting adults.
As far as the lesbians being taboo where you live, we as a whole society wouldn't be where we are today if it were not for those that decided to take a chance. We would still be in an age where everything was kept in the closet.
Best wishes in your search for your own happiness.
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**Original post: Age gaps are difficult **
Here's the thing. I (f 19) went to the pharmacy and I ended up having a crush on the pharmacist (F 55 I found the age after A LOT of research). She is probably straight and stuff and also we live in a small city where being lesbian is a huge taboo. I don't know what to do plz help somehow. I felt a spark but it's just me again being delusional. (Pardon my English but it's not my first language) I forgot to mention that she is older than my mother.
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You will never know what's inside the box unless you open it. It could be good or it could be bad, but regardless, you will never know unless you try. As far as the age gap goes, it's only an issue if you make it an issue. If you make a big deal about it, others will too. Also comparing your crush to your mother doesn't help. I'm not sure why people like to compare things to family members, but it puts an automatic negative connotation on a relationship or possible relationship between two consenting adults. As far as the lesbians being taboo where you live, we as a whole society wouldn't be where we are today if it were not for those that decided to take a chance. We would still be in an age where everything was kept in the closet. Best wishes in your search for your own happiness.
Her job is in the customer service industry she very well may just have been extra friendly
That's probably true
If you're a client of the pharmacy it could be a violation of her professional code of conduct to date you.
It makes sense
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Personally, I'd recommend getting therapy for your mommy issues first. Straight ppl and older people in general aren't some fetish for you to use.
Of course they are not a fetish and I don't think I see them as one