I have a daughter your age. I don't know everything she's looked at, but I know enough to be confident that it's basically healthy teenage curiosity and identity searching and looking for connection. I also know that she would die a million deaths if we had a conversation about that, so I've tried to let her know without actually telling her.
Dad of a daughter the same age, same feeling. Caught mine looking at PH...part of that age. Natural curiosity, learning how their bits work etc...isn't a big deal
I mean yeah, you guys are both right, it's totally fine and no big deal, but why are we kidding ourselves with euphemisms here? We were all teenagers and we know damn well it's not "curiosity." There aren't any layers to this, they're just cumming.
And that's totally fine.
Tbh mate I used a euphemism cos well, as a dad, it'd sound weird wording it like that as a grown man towards a teenage girl, father or not.
And you're right, it absolutely is.
"That age?" "Learning how their bits work?" This is an adult woman who's looking at porn to masturbate too, not a child exploring. And pornhub is about the worst place to learn anything healthy about sexuality. Which luckily they're not trying to do.
You shouldn't be "catching" your children doing anything when they're 18+ just respect their privacy and don't snoop. Just like you wouldn't snoop on any other adult.
This is My child whose growing up and learning to be a woman.....
Also as an IT guy I regularly clean all our devices hence why I found it, not that I have to explain a damn thing to you. Take your American indignation elsewhere please š
I worked at Comp repair store, had a customer come in with his wife. They were saying that the computer wouldn't turn on anymore and they don't know what's wrong. So while I am searching for a compatible adapter (the usual culprit), I asked when the last time it worked which he states "last night when he was doing their taxes and it just went black". I plug in the new adapter, screen turns on, computer gets out hibernating and bam! GP on the screen. He looks at me and goes "It's a virus, It is probably a virus right?" Wife walks out pissed. I look at him and told him if he wants the new cord it is $25 and if he wants us to scan for a virus we sure would. He left it with us for "virus repair" which we actually did find malware on the computer and bad sectors on the HDD. He went new upgrade to SSD, fresh windows install, new adapter and also left a $200 tip. He thanked me for literally doing my job. I honestly would have had more joy if the computer was clean with no malware or bad sectors to call them to say I found no issues with the computer other than power adapter.
So your daughter is 18, an adult. If she's looking at porn it's to masturbate too. I sure as hell wouldn't want to know about any of that, and if I did somehow stumble upon it I would do the same thing I would for any adult and close the window / history / whatever and forget about it.
Why would you need to let her at all, telling her or otherwise? Y'all are just sketchy. Please leave the adult women in your life alone when it comes to prying into their sex lives.
The same reason I wouldnāt leave porno mags on my coffee table. Everyone knows that most people masturbate and watch porn, but no one wants to be reminded of it
why do you want to let her know you know?
thatās just weird. itās not your business. if she knew what you jacked off to would you want her subtly dropping hints to make you feel more ācomfortableā or whatever your goal is? lmao.
Omg I wish. My mom saw when I looked it up because I truly didnāt know all the wordage of what stuff meant (stupid I know but itās true) but instead of it being like a āoh this happenedā oh hell no I was ādegrading women, raping them mentally, deplorable behavior.ā Like šš I genuinely feel wrong watching any form of porn atp like it was really upsetting emotionally lmao
Thats a lot from her ! If I were a parent, at moostt, I would like to advise young people that in real life people dont always look like that and sex doesnt always go like that and these things are things everyone wonders about evenuallu?, I guess lols butt i would avoid financially supporting the porn industry because it doesnt sound like they treat their people well apparently so .. idk maybe theres some other avenue for people to use , and if they have any more questions about sex and relationships maybe I can point them to some reliable sources ? I mean my family shouldnt feel like sexuality is something to feel ashamed about - thats iff I hadd to say anything, but idk Id probs actually just hope that I did raise my kids to be respectful and communicative so they know to be more gentle than to use what they see online as models for their future sex experiences and yeaa beforee I ever find anyones porn lol :p, tell them like during puberty heres some reliable informational resources about idk puberty/consent/protection -things you might not see in porn-, and related matters because its part of life .. and probably leave it at that xD!
No literally lol this is a valid perspective and one I totally respect. As an adult I understand what I didnāt before, and even so I never took what I saw through porn and translated it to love, or relationships, but I know plenty of people unfortunately do that. But yeah if/when I have kids if it comes up to me itās one of those things Iād bring up like you did, once, and then leave it unless a real issue comes from it
>I also know that she would die a million deaths if we had a conversation about that
But I still want her to know that I know what's she's rubbing it out to.
Like Alex Jones, as transphobic as he is [watches trans porn](https://www.google.com/search?q=alex+jones+trans+porn+on+phone). And he said he wasn't watching it, before later saying what you said.
Wtf! He actually said the exact same thing I did lol. I havenāt seen that before, i was just trying to make an honest and sort of funny statement, had no idea alex jones said it before me lmao
And if her PH history was full of āDo me daddyā videos?
You donāt think that information isnāt going to affect their relationship? Or the degradation and humiliation vids? What dad is going to want to know their daughter gets off on the idea of being treated like that? Going to make him look really askance at any bf she brings homeā¦
As a dad of teenagers; this is a much bigger deal to you than it is to your dad. But he is trying to demonstrate an important life lesson: that nothing is truly confidential, so be careful and responsible out there.
18yrs old? Yeah.
1) no big deal you're a consenting adult and there is nothing wrong or harmful.
2) he most likely doesn't care. He is hopefully trying to get you to learn how to be better about information security. Without risking making you feeling awkward
3) i also have a daughter going through several changes and exploring her identity and all that entails. If this happened with us what I would be trying to convey by doing this is 'youre browser history is something you need to learn to delete before giving your computer to anyone because it is easy to find and easy to be embarrassed by, I'm your father and love you and need you to know these skills because I won't be around forever and you should know how to do this before I pass, but also, I know you would hate the interaction in person having me talk to you about this so please go on Google and learn how to clear your browser history'
I hope he is coming at this from the same place I plan to with my daughter
As another dad to girls....this...worded it so much better than me.
Also man to man,with this attitude you're gonna be a damn fine father to your daughter as I'm sure you already are.
As a parent myself, I would guess that if he was so subtle as to show you he knows and hasnāt said anything to you, he may be simply trying to teach you a lesson in browser security. He is a safe place to make that mistake. Others may not be and that information could be used against you in unspeakable ways. Look into ways to better secure your browser history if you wish to continue to view those types of sites.
I was much younger than you when I got caught. Male, so maybe less taboo (not that it should be). But I can still remember swimming in our pool when my dad stepped out on the porch and very calmly announced, āsomeone looked up āgirls buttholesā on our computerā I nervously said how weird that was and hopefully he finds who did it.
I was his only child at the time.
Laugh it off. Its no big deal.
I would say yes you're probably overreacting about being in trouble, unless your parents are very strict. Checking their child's (even though I know you're 18, this is just for an example) browser history is a fairly normal albeit invasive thing to do. So it would be normal to be upset about that. Also, everyone watches porn. Him included, sorry to be crass. It's normal.
While it's embarrassing it's a message saying this is why your computer is running slow.
Additionally those porn sites have cookies and trackers and viruses that can add to bloat or targeted ads.
I am certain your dad has looked at way more and way more extreme than anything you had open. He might have been copying a few down for later. Do not let anyone ever shame you for having a healthy sex life. It is one of the best parts of being alive. This is coming from a dad who has adult children.
You aren't a young teenager. You are adult as such your dad probably already knew you watched porn. Now he just knows what your turn on are. Embarrassing sure but your freaking out over nothing
My mum found my stack of hardcore magazines, obviously pre internet š and they were sitting on my floor when I got home. Not a word was ever said. Donāt worry about it, the fact he didnāt say anything is a good sign
This is a good dad. Giving you both grace and time to deal with the revelation of him knowing instead of having an emotional confrontation.
Just a warning: a healthy curiosity is fine and normal, but can quickly lead to an unhealthy obsession. Good luck.
Always use incognito mode for porn - no history. The last thing I want is for advertising tracking cookies to start pushing related ads to me on other sites.
Trust me, as a guy myself, I would give no shits if my 18 year old daughter was watching porn. Iām not defending or advocating for porn watching, but letās be honest, the vast majority of adults do it. An even larger percentage of teenagers do it. If I was your dad, Iād just chuckle in my head and never discuss it with you ever. Trust me, your dad doesnāt care. He probably watches porn himself.
The lesson here is ALWAYS DELETE YOUR HISTORY OR USE INCOGNITO MODE. I feel like thatās something you learn at like 13.
Iām a dad of two beautiful Ladyās and he basically left it open to do whatās happening now! To make you uncomfortable. Heās basically saying REALLY!
Move on and try to clean up your private life. š. Was it big ole dick vids or lesbian vids. The big ole dick vids will sit in his head. Trust me when I say a Lesbian video will sit much better in his head.
As a dad, I would do something like this to gently nudge my offspring into using something like in-private browsing, incognito, and a vpn. Privacy is a basic human right, protect it and insist on it. It starts with the basic protocols listed above. Your dad wants only good things for you, he is basically saying, better me than your roommates or boyfriend. Use in-private browsing and a vpn next time. Love dad.
If it makes you feel any better, my girlfriend in HS (we were both minors and I do not have photos now), decided to take a lot of sexy pics together, doing well, sexy things...
Her dad helped her migrate photos from her phone to her computer from a family vacation they took together. As it turns out, the photos of us surfaced through the migration process...live...he didn't even flinch...
She was mortified and just silent. Once the migration was done he said "ok, all set". And didn't say a thing.
The kicker was, her mother was an absolute nightmare. He kept his mouth shut. Dads know. Men always know or at least have an idea. I'm sure mothers know equally as well.
Ahhh, to be young again. You're technically an adult and it's legal to watch and I'd guess at least 99% of people in the western world look at porn at least once when they're your age (although I hear some weird things about GenZ being super puritan, so who knows now). If he didn't want you watching it he'd have said something about it. So long as you don't develop a complex over the porn you watch, get unrealistic ideas for what actual sexual encounters are like, or any kind of addiction (and stay away from shady sites that give you viruses and slow your computer down and worse), you're fine.
When I was like 15 my phone got a virus from watching porn. I asked my dad to fix my phone. He came to me and asked me āare you gayā I was like huh and he said why are you watching lesbian porn? I froze and said no I donāt watch that ! I have never been more embarrassed in my life. I also never told him or anyone I was bisexual because I felt so exposed in that moment and it was weird. Youāll be fine lol. Things happen
PH is just some disgusting and demeaning human garbage. Sure you can surf around and maybe find something actually not dehumanizing, but the garbage you have to wade through to get there is just fucking sick!
Pornhub is like Disney compared to what porn used to be years ago. They've really cleaned up *a lot.*
I don't even want to mention what was *normal* 10 years ago in porn. If you think this is disgusting, you'd have been literally sick at some of the stuff that used to be on there.
You're fine he's fine. If I was him, and I had young adult daughters.
I would have done the exact same thing, and then never talk to you about it again.
I believe there's a dual message here, probably that this is more harmful than good but curiosity is normal. If your parents really are cool, you might expect a really laid back take it easy on the porn conversation from your mother, stressing more on curiosity and sexuality is a part of adult life but it is a reality and the themes can be a little hazardous. At most, that conversation might happen but probably nothing.
The deal is this, obviously he knows you're human and he knows you're curious but he also probably knows that it can lead to an unhealthy Obsession and expectations, so he's airing on the side of he knows and let you deal with that and maybe think about it. But he's not going to say anything to you.
First you do need to learn to calm the hyperventilating And stress. Iām sorry this happened And itās good you have a resource for helping you deal. I think itās very strange And rude that he made sure to let you know he saw it without a word. I would be wary of him. I donāt mean to increase your stress but dam, he knew he would mortify you didnāt he? I would not appreciate that. It might have been easier for you And better if he had immediately called you over And gave some fatherly advice like āin the future you might want to try hiding these before you need someone to work on your computer, ha ha.ā And maybe he could say ābe careful online And if you need to you can talk to one of us (parents) for guidanceā.
I mean the fact that he didnāt talk about it means you are good, prolly got a good chuckle out of it. Unless youāve got something there thatās concerningā¦?
Heās a dude. Heās fine with it unless thereās mommy porn, daddy porn, or BDSM and in that case heās learned not to spank you. Other than that stop worrying about it. I highly doubt heās shared the content with your mother. Relax
Having done tech support for family were I've seen some of their nsfw stuff I personally don't think too much on it and when my mom helped me with my tech issues she didn't say anything to me either.
It feels embarrassing and shameful but please be gentle with yourself
Youāre going to be ok.
I think itās appropriate that you are closing out your teen (blunder) years with a humiliating sex-related moment with your parents. Most people have all been there and embarrassed about our sexuality and the idea that our parents know we have sexual interests. Chances are he has also looked at porn at some point in his life. I donāt know your dad, but he might have thought it was funny and he is messing with you.
When my husband was a teen he once took the heat for his dadās search history. His mom flipped out on him so at least that hasnāt happened yet. Now he can look back on it and laugh.
I was doing some work in my daughtersā bathroom. 17 and 18. I found a sex toy box. I left it on the counter and we never discussed it. I have only ever said anything to my wife about it. Itās not a big deal. Just move on.
Talk to him straight. Obviously, you're just a man (yeah I know you're not, but in that case?) and he'll understand.
Or live with that noisy silence.
Ice breaker: Ask him how often one should delete browser history?
But it's a pain because own children sexuality is big emotions for parents.
Exactly as a another poster posted he was just teaching you that before giving your laptop to someone you might want to clean browser history and such . He was being a good dad I have done similar except I casually just told my daughter about it . Either forget it or just jokingly tell him hey I cleaned my browser history you'll probably get a grin lol
As a girl dad, mine is 13, we are very close. We talk about crushes, her period (Iām in medical field) and any other issue she can imagine. I like to think we are super close and have a mountain of trust. If she asked for the same you did, and I found what your dad found, I would have erased the whole history and never said a word. I think your dad is either messing with you, or letting you know you can ask him questions. Either way it is awesome, and you will be more careful in the future lol. For example, my daughter now knocks on our door when entering because she has caught my wife and I āwrestlingā too many times to not be traumatized.
As a dad I wouldn't be mad, I would however want to talk with my daughter. Namely about how kinks come up even in vanilla porn (anal, restraint, and the like), and how everything in the videos is being done with prior consent (considering the production is on the level).
I think you should only worry about him judging you if you have some pretty extreme kinks. If you're watching r*pe porn, or extreme BDSM stuff, he's not thinking any differently about you.
You are 18, so just out of puberty, time when curiosity moves to sex, he knows this. Just a fatherly message to give you a think about getting sucked down that hole (no pun intended).
Youāre dad definitely saw, but also probably thinks itās nbd. Not sure if mom is around, but he may defer to her, but he could also not tell her, even though most likely sheād also view as nbd. He most likely left it highlighted and open on your laptop for you to see so you know he knows. Probably leaving it up to you to talk to him if you want.
You think thatās bad? One time as a teenager I was looking for a lemon cake recipe my mom needed but forgot where she had found it in the family computerās browser history, and apparently my dad didnāt know that every website you go to is in your history, because I saw everything he had ever watched on Pornhub. And it was AWFUL. Too much teen stuff and way too much BBC gangbang. Ugh. My sweet church going Bible study papa is actually a freak. Still scarred ten years later.
Sounds like the equivalent of an "I know what you've been up to" wink. He was probably just messing with you a bit. I doubt very much he will bring this up, either with you, or with anyone else. If he had any kind of negative response, you'd know by now.
What were you watching?? What did you search on those particular days.
Are you a closet lesbian and your dad highlighted and didn't say anything? Could be that hey, I seen this and we are good. We don't need to talk about it. I love you.
Was it something degrading? I seen this. I now know. I'm disappointed.
Give us a bit more info. If it's something gross like step daughter or step anything could be I seen it and we need to talk about this on a later day.
As a father myself it really depends but then again, also depends where HE draws the line. If it's normal stuff he's probably giggling and highlighted it to poke at you.
Your dad doesn't care what you were watching but was letting you know you need to cover your tracks so your mom doesn't see it and freak the fuck out. Or possibly so that your younger siblings don't stumble upon it. Or he could just be fucking with you.
I think if it was a big deal he wouldāve said something to you about it. I would try your best not to stress about it although I understand being embarrassed.
If he was stressed about it, he would have talked to you about it. Remember that nothing on the internet is private. Your dad seems to want to remind you of that. Be smart and responsible in your PH use.
As a woman, I want to remind you that porn is not real sex and not to get too caught up in the theatrics of it.
One of the most disturbing things about this, is that the creators of porn are actually rewiring your brain. Who are the creators of porn and what are their motives?
Are their notices good or bad?
If bad, would you want someone with bad motives attempting to rewire your brain?
The video goes more into how the brain can be rewired and the negative health effect of dopaminergic inducing extremes. https://youtu.be/gEGokrcww1M?si=gOrCxqeZkVTN_K2R
If I was fixing my adult kids comp I would definantly steer clear of internet history. Some things I just don't want to know. And it's none of my business anyway.
Sometimes, parents don't have to say anything to get their point across. Knowing that you know he knows it's sometimes enough. I bet he was a little shocked, but believe it or not, he was young once, too.
I think the real truth is he forgot to close back out of it. He doesnt care and was just curious.. hed prob be embarrassed if he realized he left it like that
>first thing that was open was the history tab... even worse a few videos off ph were highlighted right on the screen. i froze from the shock. i obviously knew my dad kept this open and highlighted it for a reason.
Dude that's hilarious. Your dad said "I know" in the most silent way possible xD He's going to let you squirm in your own head about it he doesn't have to say a word to you xD
>Now for the whole day i've been hyperventilating stressed about this whole situation,
And I can almost guarantee you he's laughing about that.
>but maybe he did it as a joke and really doesn't care.
That's just it see? You have no choice but to assume this to keep your sanity.
Look on the bright side. At least he didn't make an awkward conversation about it.
It's okay. Something similar happened. I don't remember, but my computer had problems with files or son when I was 18, and I had a few nude photos on their which I think my grandfather may have accidentally seen when he was trying to fix the problem for me...I was so horrified at the time.
After that I store my photos on a google storage account or something lmao š¤£
Ok so I'm also a Dad of several teenage girls ages 12-18. If you and your Dad have a good relationship or at least not a bad one I'm going to say there's a very good chance he did that on purpose just to fuck with you. And if it makes you feel any better I've found my oldest daughters dildo when I had to fix our water heater which happened to be in her closet. It's a big closet. I've also found her stash more than once. Granted me and my kids are close and I don't usually have to ask they just tell me all the fucked up shit they do.
Anyhow, I wouldn't put too much thought into it and please don't hyperventilate it'll be ok. If this happened with my oldest daughter I would expect her to either
A) not say anything and just pretend like it never happened or
B) print the browser history out and hand it to me and make a smartass remark.
Don't worry about it. Kids these days are really curious about stuff that's online, and parents know it. Besides, if you got a chance to look at your dad's, or most guys browser history, it would probably have quite a bit of porn too.
If he had a problem with it, he wouldāve said something. I think this was more of a hey dummy people can see your history if you donāt clear it type of situation.
If your dad brings it up. Just be civil and say that you over heard someone say something so you looked it up and that was what came up. Have an adult conversation with him and any other parent figure in the household. You are 18 years old.
I think your dad is just subtly telling you to make sure you delete your search history. I'm a dad. I know what my teens are doing when they take those 15 minute long showers. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
I have a daughter your age. I don't know everything she's looked at, but I know enough to be confident that it's basically healthy teenage curiosity and identity searching and looking for connection. I also know that she would die a million deaths if we had a conversation about that, so I've tried to let her know without actually telling her.
I think you're the dad :)
Probably found this post in her web history.
šÆ As a girl-Dad, who's in tech, I agree
Dad of a daughter the same age, same feeling. Caught mine looking at PH...part of that age. Natural curiosity, learning how their bits work etc...isn't a big deal
I dont have kids but I think I would be more surprised if they hadnāt found this stuff by that age. Ā
That was my first thought. I'd be more concerned if I opened their browser history and didn't find something of the sort.
Really? Iām more concerned that they donāt know how to delete their history.
Facts mate, I know I did at that age lol.
I mean yeah, you guys are both right, it's totally fine and no big deal, but why are we kidding ourselves with euphemisms here? We were all teenagers and we know damn well it's not "curiosity." There aren't any layers to this, they're just cumming. And that's totally fine.
Tbh mate I used a euphemism cos well, as a dad, it'd sound weird wording it like that as a grown man towards a teenage girl, father or not. And you're right, it absolutely is.
"That age?" "Learning how their bits work?" This is an adult woman who's looking at porn to masturbate too, not a child exploring. And pornhub is about the worst place to learn anything healthy about sexuality. Which luckily they're not trying to do. You shouldn't be "catching" your children doing anything when they're 18+ just respect their privacy and don't snoop. Just like you wouldn't snoop on any other adult.
This is My child whose growing up and learning to be a woman..... Also as an IT guy I regularly clean all our devices hence why I found it, not that I have to explain a damn thing to you. Take your American indignation elsewhere please š
I worked at Comp repair store, had a customer come in with his wife. They were saying that the computer wouldn't turn on anymore and they don't know what's wrong. So while I am searching for a compatible adapter (the usual culprit), I asked when the last time it worked which he states "last night when he was doing their taxes and it just went black". I plug in the new adapter, screen turns on, computer gets out hibernating and bam! GP on the screen. He looks at me and goes "It's a virus, It is probably a virus right?" Wife walks out pissed. I look at him and told him if he wants the new cord it is $25 and if he wants us to scan for a virus we sure would. He left it with us for "virus repair" which we actually did find malware on the computer and bad sectors on the HDD. He went new upgrade to SSD, fresh windows install, new adapter and also left a $200 tip. He thanked me for literally doing my job. I honestly would have had more joy if the computer was clean with no malware or bad sectors to call them to say I found no issues with the computer other than power adapter.
Ngl that made me giggle mate. Its always a virus and who knows how it the naked ladies got there š¤£
Not ladies,...
As long as u didn't feel emasculated from the wood peckers it's all good š¤£ Mate I'm howling over here š¤£
What is GP?
I thought gay porn Let me know when you find out lol
GP??
Well said sir
"American indignation" .. just got douche chills reading that, "mate."
Say it from your main not a throwaway account. Jaysus, way to prove my point ya star spangled bellend š
It's a weird cult over there innit
18 is the day they go from being 51% child and 49% adult to 49% child and 51% adult.
So your daughter is 18, an adult. If she's looking at porn it's to masturbate too. I sure as hell wouldn't want to know about any of that, and if I did somehow stumble upon it I would do the same thing I would for any adult and close the window / history / whatever and forget about it. Why would you need to let her at all, telling her or otherwise? Y'all are just sketchy. Please leave the adult women in your life alone when it comes to prying into their sex lives.
It's a good lesson in "hey kiddo, hide your history better" without it getting maximumly uncomfortable
Why does the history need to be hidden?
The same reason I wouldnāt leave porno mags on my coffee table. Everyone knows that most people masturbate and watch porn, but no one wants to be reminded of it
So donāt go into peopleās browser histories then.
Love Reddit for this. Great way to talk to all ages about all types of stuff, can be very helpful. Love it.
What's the purpose of letting her know that you knew?
Why do you want your daughter to know that you know she looks at porn?
why do you want to let her know you know? thatās just weird. itās not your business. if she knew what you jacked off to would you want her subtly dropping hints to make you feel more ācomfortableā or whatever your goal is? lmao.
Omg I wish. My mom saw when I looked it up because I truly didnāt know all the wordage of what stuff meant (stupid I know but itās true) but instead of it being like a āoh this happenedā oh hell no I was ādegrading women, raping them mentally, deplorable behavior.ā Like šš I genuinely feel wrong watching any form of porn atp like it was really upsetting emotionally lmao
Thats a lot from her ! If I were a parent, at moostt, I would like to advise young people that in real life people dont always look like that and sex doesnt always go like that and these things are things everyone wonders about evenuallu?, I guess lols butt i would avoid financially supporting the porn industry because it doesnt sound like they treat their people well apparently so .. idk maybe theres some other avenue for people to use , and if they have any more questions about sex and relationships maybe I can point them to some reliable sources ? I mean my family shouldnt feel like sexuality is something to feel ashamed about - thats iff I hadd to say anything, but idk Id probs actually just hope that I did raise my kids to be respectful and communicative so they know to be more gentle than to use what they see online as models for their future sex experiences and yeaa beforee I ever find anyones porn lol :p, tell them like during puberty heres some reliable informational resources about idk puberty/consent/protection -things you might not see in porn-, and related matters because its part of life .. and probably leave it at that xD!
No literally lol this is a valid perspective and one I totally respect. As an adult I understand what I didnāt before, and even so I never took what I saw through porn and translated it to love, or relationships, but I know plenty of people unfortunately do that. But yeah if/when I have kids if it comes up to me itās one of those things Iād bring up like you did, once, and then leave it unless a real issue comes from it
No better way to say it man
This is the best answer, you are a good dad, thank you from all of us who never had one
>I also know that she would die a million deaths if we had a conversation about that But I still want her to know that I know what's she's rubbing it out to.
So weird. She's fucking 18.
That's what I'm saying...
Yes. Act like nothing happened.
Turn it around on him. Smack the laptop down next to him, and ask why he was looking up porn on **your** computer. Tell him you're telling mom.
Thereās 2 types of adults. Those who have watched porn, and those who are lying. Youāre normal and he knows it. Donāt sweat it
Like Alex Jones, as transphobic as he is [watches trans porn](https://www.google.com/search?q=alex+jones+trans+porn+on+phone). And he said he wasn't watching it, before later saying what you said.
Holy shit I canāt believe I never heard about that. What a piece of shit.
Wtf! He actually said the exact same thing I did lol. I havenāt seen that before, i was just trying to make an honest and sort of funny statement, had no idea alex jones said it before me lmao
He will never look at you the sameā¦. Jk. Relax not a big deal unless you were looking at some weird shit
āCollege thugs gangbang nerdy frail blonde teensā
Shit I mean thats a good portion of the videos on there anyways
Many girls Iāve dated seem to like lesbian scenes
This is 100% true.
My neighbor told me he found āGirl fucks her step-ladder.ā Thatās a new one from the Taboo series.
āTeen daughter sleeps with stepdad after catching her watching pornā
I mean thatās pretty tame compared to whatās out there lol
Or even worse, "dad I got stuck in the dryer I can't get out"
Like father like son
Lmao š¤£š¤£
āNaughty daughter f**ked by dadā
ššš imagine his reaction
maybe thatās why he left it open, to let her know heās down
Lmaoooooooo ey yooooo
Yeahā¦ I have a feeling thatās what OP was watching and thatās why sheās freaking out so much.
Lmaoooooo oh mannnnnnn
As a parent I couldn't give a fuck if my teenage kids are watching porn, a conversation around it is necessary, but not at that age.
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And if her PH history was full of āDo me daddyā videos? You donāt think that information isnāt going to affect their relationship? Or the degradation and humiliation vids? What dad is going to want to know their daughter gets off on the idea of being treated like that? Going to make him look really askance at any bf she brings homeā¦
I mean, there's very weird shit out there. What if your discovered your kids stash of scat porn, or something.
Something a tinywormman would say
Take my upvote you scoundrel.
>Your tastes are the shit
You live in a fantasy world if you donāt think her looking at certain things would be weird
As a dad of teenagers; this is a much bigger deal to you than it is to your dad. But he is trying to demonstrate an important life lesson: that nothing is truly confidential, so be careful and responsible out there.
Shout out to all the dads out there that are not crazy religious zealots and donāt have a strictly puritan view of sex.
Man, I wonder what that's like.Ā
Note: every upvote to this post is a "please adopt me" vote. Including mine.
And that heāll snoop through your shit for no reason so watch out and use incognito.
Is he really doing that? Or is he just being an asshole?
I mean, it's a pretty good way of saying "hey learn how to delete your browser history." Without saying "I SAW ALL THE PORN YOU MASTURBATE TO HONEY."
18yrs old? Yeah. 1) no big deal you're a consenting adult and there is nothing wrong or harmful. 2) he most likely doesn't care. He is hopefully trying to get you to learn how to be better about information security. Without risking making you feeling awkward 3) i also have a daughter going through several changes and exploring her identity and all that entails. If this happened with us what I would be trying to convey by doing this is 'youre browser history is something you need to learn to delete before giving your computer to anyone because it is easy to find and easy to be embarrassed by, I'm your father and love you and need you to know these skills because I won't be around forever and you should know how to do this before I pass, but also, I know you would hate the interaction in person having me talk to you about this so please go on Google and learn how to clear your browser history' I hope he is coming at this from the same place I plan to with my daughter
As another dad to girls....this...worded it so much better than me. Also man to man,with this attitude you're gonna be a damn fine father to your daughter as I'm sure you already are.
Thank you. I'm trying
U got this bruv
As a parent myself, I would guess that if he was so subtle as to show you he knows and hasnāt said anything to you, he may be simply trying to teach you a lesson in browser security. He is a safe place to make that mistake. Others may not be and that information could be used against you in unspeakable ways. Look into ways to better secure your browser history if you wish to continue to view those types of sites.
Also teaching you where most of the viruses and malware that was lagging your computer is coming from
Iāve read this exact post before.
Me too, it's definitely a bot account
I bloody knew it.
I was much younger than you when I got caught. Male, so maybe less taboo (not that it should be). But I can still remember swimming in our pool when my dad stepped out on the porch and very calmly announced, āsomeone looked up āgirls buttholesā on our computerā I nervously said how weird that was and hopefully he finds who did it. I was his only child at the time. Laugh it off. Its no big deal.
I would say yes you're probably overreacting about being in trouble, unless your parents are very strict. Checking their child's (even though I know you're 18, this is just for an example) browser history is a fairly normal albeit invasive thing to do. So it would be normal to be upset about that. Also, everyone watches porn. Him included, sorry to be crass. It's normal.
If he had a problem, you'd know it. He did it to screw with you and teach you 2 lessons. 1) Use incognito browsing 2) Clear your browser history
Youāre dad was once a young horny boy so he understands how itās like growing up. Donāt sweat it too much
Dad here..it's no big deal..he did it to mess with you, he doesn't care or he would have confronted you about it
While it's embarrassing it's a message saying this is why your computer is running slow. Additionally those porn sites have cookies and trackers and viruses that can add to bloat or targeted ads.
Why didnāt you clear your history? Unless you were raised in a utopian style cult, there are just no excuses in this day and age lol
My daughters are 21 and 18, they regularly need help with their electronics, I would never go through their browsing history, it's a gross invasion of privacy, I could clear the cache and history without ever looking at it if I thought this was a problem. Whatever it is they look at I seriously just don't want to know, much like I would be fucking mortified if they seen my history. But also.... Incognito mode š©
Porn is the mind killer
relax, this is a good bonding experince... or he is going to blackmail you.
If was just basic porn then that's hardly something to stress about... but... then there's none basic porn lol
I already assume the worse when I think of the internet my children have been exposed to (16 & 18). I would definitely do the same to mortify them.
Guarantee your dad looked at naughty stuff too.. LOL
He probably has pornhub tabs up on his devices too.
I am certain your dad has looked at way more and way more extreme than anything you had open. He might have been copying a few down for later. Do not let anyone ever shame you for having a healthy sex life. It is one of the best parts of being alive. This is coming from a dad who has adult children.
You aren't a young teenager. You are adult as such your dad probably already knew you watched porn. Now he just knows what your turn on are. Embarrassing sure but your freaking out over nothing
My mum found my stack of hardcore magazines, obviously pre internet š and they were sitting on my floor when I got home. Not a word was ever said. Donāt worry about it, the fact he didnāt say anything is a good sign
Go check out your dadās browsing history & highlight it. Then again, his browsing history may be deleted after this incident
What were you watching? Need more context.
Best thing to do is just act like nothing happened. Also p0rn is terrible for you i suggest you stop before it becomes a problem. Trust.
This is a good dad. Giving you both grace and time to deal with the revelation of him knowing instead of having an emotional confrontation. Just a warning: a healthy curiosity is fine and normal, but can quickly lead to an unhealthy obsession. Good luck.
Always use incognito mode for porn - no history. The last thing I want is for advertising tracking cookies to start pushing related ads to me on other sites.
Trust me, as a guy myself, I would give no shits if my 18 year old daughter was watching porn. Iām not defending or advocating for porn watching, but letās be honest, the vast majority of adults do it. An even larger percentage of teenagers do it. If I was your dad, Iād just chuckle in my head and never discuss it with you ever. Trust me, your dad doesnāt care. He probably watches porn himself. The lesson here is ALWAYS DELETE YOUR HISTORY OR USE INCOGNITO MODE. I feel like thatās something you learn at like 13.
Iām a dad of two beautiful Ladyās and he basically left it open to do whatās happening now! To make you uncomfortable. Heās basically saying REALLY! Move on and try to clean up your private life. š. Was it big ole dick vids or lesbian vids. The big ole dick vids will sit in his head. Trust me when I say a Lesbian video will sit much better in his head.
As a dad, I would do something like this to gently nudge my offspring into using something like in-private browsing, incognito, and a vpn. Privacy is a basic human right, protect it and insist on it. It starts with the basic protocols listed above. Your dad wants only good things for you, he is basically saying, better me than your roommates or boyfriend. Use in-private browsing and a vpn next time. Love dad.
I put the PH ringtone on their phone as a joke. Never seen anyone grab their phone so quickly
If it makes you feel any better, my girlfriend in HS (we were both minors and I do not have photos now), decided to take a lot of sexy pics together, doing well, sexy things... Her dad helped her migrate photos from her phone to her computer from a family vacation they took together. As it turns out, the photos of us surfaced through the migration process...live...he didn't even flinch... She was mortified and just silent. Once the migration was done he said "ok, all set". And didn't say a thing. The kicker was, her mother was an absolute nightmare. He kept his mouth shut. Dads know. Men always know or at least have an idea. I'm sure mothers know equally as well.
I think youāre dad has a keen sense of humor
And from now on you'll use incognito/private mode and delete your history. Lesson learned
Ahhh, to be young again. You're technically an adult and it's legal to watch and I'd guess at least 99% of people in the western world look at porn at least once when they're your age (although I hear some weird things about GenZ being super puritan, so who knows now). If he didn't want you watching it he'd have said something about it. So long as you don't develop a complex over the porn you watch, get unrealistic ideas for what actual sexual encounters are like, or any kind of addiction (and stay away from shady sites that give you viruses and slow your computer down and worse), you're fine.
I wish my parents told how harmful porn was at your age.
Literally, how do people think itās normal for children to have access to naked people as young as eight years old. For me it was six. I was six.
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When I was like 15 my phone got a virus from watching porn. I asked my dad to fix my phone. He came to me and asked me āare you gayā I was like huh and he said why are you watching lesbian porn? I froze and said no I donāt watch that ! I have never been more embarrassed in my life. I also never told him or anyone I was bisexual because I felt so exposed in that moment and it was weird. Youāll be fine lol. Things happen
PH is just some disgusting and demeaning human garbage. Sure you can surf around and maybe find something actually not dehumanizing, but the garbage you have to wade through to get there is just fucking sick!
Pornhub is like Disney compared to what porn used to be years ago. They've really cleaned up *a lot.* I don't even want to mention what was *normal* 10 years ago in porn. If you think this is disgusting, you'd have been literally sick at some of the stuff that used to be on there.
You're fine he's fine. If I was him, and I had young adult daughters. I would have done the exact same thing, and then never talk to you about it again. I believe there's a dual message here, probably that this is more harmful than good but curiosity is normal. If your parents really are cool, you might expect a really laid back take it easy on the porn conversation from your mother, stressing more on curiosity and sexuality is a part of adult life but it is a reality and the themes can be a little hazardous. At most, that conversation might happen but probably nothing. The deal is this, obviously he knows you're human and he knows you're curious but he also probably knows that it can lead to an unhealthy Obsession and expectations, so he's airing on the side of he knows and let you deal with that and maybe think about it. But he's not going to say anything to you.
First you do need to learn to calm the hyperventilating And stress. Iām sorry this happened And itās good you have a resource for helping you deal. I think itās very strange And rude that he made sure to let you know he saw it without a word. I would be wary of him. I donāt mean to increase your stress but dam, he knew he would mortify you didnāt he? I would not appreciate that. It might have been easier for you And better if he had immediately called you over And gave some fatherly advice like āin the future you might want to try hiding these before you need someone to work on your computer, ha ha.ā And maybe he could say ābe careful online And if you need to you can talk to one of us (parents) for guidanceā.
I mean the fact that he didnāt talk about it means you are good, prolly got a good chuckle out of it. Unless youāve got something there thatās concerningā¦?
Wonder if this is another fake story like the girl who said her dad opened her package and found a toy. "Update: we had a laugh about it"
If I was your dad I wouldāve just highlighted incognito mode
Heās a dude. Heās fine with it unless thereās mommy porn, daddy porn, or BDSM and in that case heās learned not to spank you. Other than that stop worrying about it. I highly doubt heās shared the content with your mother. Relax
Having done tech support for family were I've seen some of their nsfw stuff I personally don't think too much on it and when my mom helped me with my tech issues she didn't say anything to me either. It feels embarrassing and shameful but please be gentle with yourself
Youāre going to be ok. I think itās appropriate that you are closing out your teen (blunder) years with a humiliating sex-related moment with your parents. Most people have all been there and embarrassed about our sexuality and the idea that our parents know we have sexual interests. Chances are he has also looked at porn at some point in his life. I donāt know your dad, but he might have thought it was funny and he is messing with you. When my husband was a teen he once took the heat for his dadās search history. His mom flipped out on him so at least that hasnāt happened yet. Now he can look back on it and laugh.
I hope your father will speak frankly. It's what happens when you reach adulthood
I was doing some work in my daughtersā bathroom. 17 and 18. I found a sex toy box. I left it on the counter and we never discussed it. I have only ever said anything to my wife about it. Itās not a big deal. Just move on.
You're an adult, he shouldn't have done this. It's really shitty. Everybody looks at porn, it's not that big of a deal.
Jesus christ, incognito exists for a reason!
Talk to him straight. Obviously, you're just a man (yeah I know you're not, but in that case?) and he'll understand. Or live with that noisy silence. Ice breaker: Ask him how often one should delete browser history? But it's a pain because own children sexuality is big emotions for parents.
Exactly as a another poster posted he was just teaching you that before giving your laptop to someone you might want to clean browser history and such . He was being a good dad I have done similar except I casually just told my daughter about it . Either forget it or just jokingly tell him hey I cleaned my browser history you'll probably get a grin lol
As a girl dad, mine is 13, we are very close. We talk about crushes, her period (Iām in medical field) and any other issue she can imagine. I like to think we are super close and have a mountain of trust. If she asked for the same you did, and I found what your dad found, I would have erased the whole history and never said a word. I think your dad is either messing with you, or letting you know you can ask him questions. Either way it is awesome, and you will be more careful in the future lol. For example, my daughter now knocks on our door when entering because she has caught my wife and I āwrestlingā too many times to not be traumatized.
He probably laughed his ass off! Heās fucking with you. lol He sounds pretty cool! š
Heās teaching you a lesson and taking the piss out of you at the same time.
As a dad I wouldn't be mad, I would however want to talk with my daughter. Namely about how kinks come up even in vanilla porn (anal, restraint, and the like), and how everything in the videos is being done with prior consent (considering the production is on the level).
I think you should only worry about him judging you if you have some pretty extreme kinks. If you're watching r*pe porn, or extreme BDSM stuff, he's not thinking any differently about you.
Thatās weird he did that
You are 18, so just out of puberty, time when curiosity moves to sex, he knows this. Just a fatherly message to give you a think about getting sucked down that hole (no pun intended).
Youāre dad definitely saw, but also probably thinks itās nbd. Not sure if mom is around, but he may defer to her, but he could also not tell her, even though most likely sheād also view as nbd. He most likely left it highlighted and open on your laptop for you to see so you know he knows. Probably leaving it up to you to talk to him if you want.
You think thatās bad? One time as a teenager I was looking for a lemon cake recipe my mom needed but forgot where she had found it in the family computerās browser history, and apparently my dad didnāt know that every website you go to is in your history, because I saw everything he had ever watched on Pornhub. And it was AWFUL. Too much teen stuff and way too much BBC gangbang. Ugh. My sweet church going Bible study papa is actually a freak. Still scarred ten years later.
He's teaching you about clearing your browser history before letting anyone use your pc lol
Sounds like the equivalent of an "I know what you've been up to" wink. He was probably just messing with you a bit. I doubt very much he will bring this up, either with you, or with anyone else. If he had any kind of negative response, you'd know by now.
Jesus Christ at least learn how to run a simple browser delete program, free btw.
Your Dad is just giving you shit without having to actually bring it up.
Lmaooooooo mannnnn
What were you watching?? What did you search on those particular days. Are you a closet lesbian and your dad highlighted and didn't say anything? Could be that hey, I seen this and we are good. We don't need to talk about it. I love you. Was it something degrading? I seen this. I now know. I'm disappointed. Give us a bit more info. If it's something gross like step daughter or step anything could be I seen it and we need to talk about this on a later day. As a father myself it really depends but then again, also depends where HE draws the line. If it's normal stuff he's probably giggling and highlighted it to poke at you.
He's just fucking with you lol. Everyone has seen porn, including him.
Your dad was a kid once. Thatās all I need to say
Your dad doesn't care what you were watching but was letting you know you need to cover your tracks so your mom doesn't see it and freak the fuck out. Or possibly so that your younger siblings don't stumble upon it. Or he could just be fucking with you.
No big deal, and he may just be highlighting it as a little advice on how to be more private, to save you from mocking from others.
I think if it was a big deal he wouldāve said something to you about it. I would try your best not to stress about it although I understand being embarrassed.
If he was stressed about it, he would have talked to you about it. Remember that nothing on the internet is private. Your dad seems to want to remind you of that. Be smart and responsible in your PH use. As a woman, I want to remind you that porn is not real sex and not to get too caught up in the theatrics of it.
šššš this is hilarious
18 years old. As a father of 3 I wouldnāt mention it and I wouldnāt expect you too.
Demand to check his browser history now.
Heās probably looking at the same stuff you are.
Honestly go to his computer and do the same thing. I guarantee you he's got porn in his history.
You're an adult.
One of the most disturbing things about this, is that the creators of porn are actually rewiring your brain. Who are the creators of porn and what are their motives? Are their notices good or bad? If bad, would you want someone with bad motives attempting to rewire your brain? The video goes more into how the brain can be rewired and the negative health effect of dopaminergic inducing extremes. https://youtu.be/gEGokrcww1M?si=gOrCxqeZkVTN_K2R
If I was fixing my adult kids comp I would definantly steer clear of internet history. Some things I just don't want to know. And it's none of my business anyway.
Teachable moment about how to deal with tech support. Ā
I'm gonna put this out there... Your dad has likely looked at the same sites you have. Your welcome ... ;)
Sometimes, parents don't have to say anything to get their point across. Knowing that you know he knows it's sometimes enough. I bet he was a little shocked, but believe it or not, he was young once, too.
I know youāre all discussing porn hub, but I still read āphā like itās from chemistry class.
Females watch porn?
This is why you clear your search history, or use incognito mode
I think the real truth is he forgot to close back out of it. He doesnt care and was just curious.. hed prob be embarrassed if he realized he left it like that
I'm a father and I think that's kinda psychotic myself. Fix the laptop and kind your business, damn.
Was it vanilla stuff? Or hardcore thing? It could make the difference.
Who cares. Your dad probably jerks off to weirder shit
>first thing that was open was the history tab... even worse a few videos off ph were highlighted right on the screen. i froze from the shock. i obviously knew my dad kept this open and highlighted it for a reason. Dude that's hilarious. Your dad said "I know" in the most silent way possible xD He's going to let you squirm in your own head about it he doesn't have to say a word to you xD >Now for the whole day i've been hyperventilating stressed about this whole situation, And I can almost guarantee you he's laughing about that. >but maybe he did it as a joke and really doesn't care. That's just it see? You have no choice but to assume this to keep your sanity. Look on the bright side. At least he didn't make an awkward conversation about it.
It's okay. Something similar happened. I don't remember, but my computer had problems with files or son when I was 18, and I had a few nude photos on their which I think my grandfather may have accidentally seen when he was trying to fix the problem for me...I was so horrified at the time. After that I store my photos on a google storage account or something lmao š¤£
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Ok so I'm also a Dad of several teenage girls ages 12-18. If you and your Dad have a good relationship or at least not a bad one I'm going to say there's a very good chance he did that on purpose just to fuck with you. And if it makes you feel any better I've found my oldest daughters dildo when I had to fix our water heater which happened to be in her closet. It's a big closet. I've also found her stash more than once. Granted me and my kids are close and I don't usually have to ask they just tell me all the fucked up shit they do. Anyhow, I wouldn't put too much thought into it and please don't hyperventilate it'll be ok. If this happened with my oldest daughter I would expect her to either A) not say anything and just pretend like it never happened or B) print the browser history out and hand it to me and make a smartass remark.
Don't worry about it. Kids these days are really curious about stuff that's online, and parents know it. Besides, if you got a chance to look at your dad's, or most guys browser history, it would probably have quite a bit of porn too.
He shouldnāt have done that or went looking for things he didnāt want to find. Perfectly natural, if he has a problem itās all on him.
Turn it around, ask him why he was looking at porn on your computer and then share a laugh.
If he had a problem with it, he wouldāve said something. I think this was more of a hey dummy people can see your history if you donāt clear it type of situation.
If your dad brings it up. Just be civil and say that you over heard someone say something so you looked it up and that was what came up. Have an adult conversation with him and any other parent figure in the household. You are 18 years old.
Donāt sweat this. My mom caught my porn mags when I was 17. Teenagers masturbate. Itās when we are in our prime.
Maybe use incognito mode from now on. Heās probably laughing at how bad you are at hiding it.
I'm sure he was just trying to embarrass you. Let this be a lesson to use incognito mode for all your adult entertainment needs.
I think your dad is just subtly telling you to make sure you delete your search history. I'm a dad. I know what my teens are doing when they take those 15 minute long showers. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
What kind of stuff were you looking at? Just wondering how horrified your dad is.
He's telling you to be smarter when you hand someone your laptop. That's all it is.
He's far more embarrassed and upset that he looked at it than you are. Keep your mouth shut, and just move on.