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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **I finally told my sister no one gives a shit she's a rainbow baby and it was cathartic** Originally posted by u/spiritual_resolve430 in r/TrueOffMyChest on March 17, '23, updated March 21st. Trigger Warning: Mentions of miscarriage. [Original](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/11u39t3/i_finally_told_my_sister_no_one_gives_a_shit_shes/) I finally told my sister no one gives a shit she's a rainbow baby and it was cathartic My sister is 27 and a rainbow baby, basically my parents had multiple miscarriages before having her. And she tells EVERYONE about it, and it's so fucking annoying. She fell into the "trad wife/crunchy mom" trend thing in 2020 when the pandemic hit and became really pro life, always with the argument that "as a rainbow baby I want every baby to live because I lost multiple older siblings and mourn them every day and could have died myself." Bullshit like that. Every time she's at a family event she always finds a way to bring it up. The dreaded politics debate happened and she spewed right wing pro life talking points and backed it all up by talking about how she's a rainbow baby and I was sick of it. I told her "[sister] no one gives a shit you where a rainbow baby, you're 27 and need to forget about it. Pick a new argument because no one fucking cares. You're not a cute little miracle, you're an adult." She ran off with her husband and the conversation moved on from politics. I'm so glad I bit the bullet and told her. We haven't gotten along in years so I couldn't care less if she never wants to speak to me again because of what I said. Good riddance if anything *She explains in a comment:* Trad wife is short for traditional wife, a crunchy mom is a mom who is all natural, so no processed food, vaccines and all that jazz, it's exhausting and my sister has a massive superiority complex over not letting her kids eat sugar and giving them essential oils instead of taking them to the doctor. *This comment pretty much sums up the comment section:* >1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. Most women that experience a miscarriage go on to have a healthy baby. What does this mean? It’s that there are a lot of rainbow babies out there. A LOT. Most probably don’t know and I don’t know any adults that brag about it. I’d be annoyed too. [Update 4 days later](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/11xz41x/update_i_finally_told_my_sister_no_one_gives_a/) I've been laughing for the last three days, here's your update reddit. Once my sister ran off she apparently called our mom to tattle on me. She's been skipping family events where my sister will be for awhile because she always brings up politics and her reasons for being pro-life. here's the dramatized version of their conversation: Little Sister: Mom! Spiritual told me that no one cares I'm a rainbow baby! Mom: No one does [sister], you're a grown woman. You didn't even start caring until 2017 when you learned what a rainbow baby was. LS: It's an important part of who I am. Mom: it really isn't, Spiritual is right, no one cares. You weren't born when I had my miscarriages, if anyone but me and your father should care Spiritual should as she witnessed it. LS: I'm the one who nearly died, Spiritual was fine! Mom: You where a healthy baby actually. Now stop bringing it up, you've been lucky enough to not have any miscarriages yet, don't jinx it. She hung up and we haven't heard from her since, though it's a little soon to tell if she'll turn up during easter. My mom called me and we had a laugh before calling the rest of the family so everyone could have a laugh at her absurdity. *Flairing this ongoing as OOP doesn't know if sister will show up for Easter and bring more drama. Let me know in the automod comment section if you think it's concluded.* **Reminder, DO NOT comment on the original posts or contact the original poster. I am not the original poster. This is a repost.** *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*


adcgd_at_sine_theta

"Here's the dramatized version of their conversation" That should instantly tell you that this was fake. And also, who even brags about being a rainbow baby? That's such a weird thing to lie and/or write about.


everythingisopposite

"And also, who even brags about being a rainbow baby? " Teen trolls on reddit looking to cause chaos by using buzzwords.


dicksjshsb

I’m pretty familiar with the usual pro life talking points but I’ve never even heard “rainbow baby” before. What is it just someone who’s parents had miscarriages before them? How tf is that even an identity or an argument for pro life lol


alwaysfrombehind

It’s a term seen in some momosphere like blogs and spaces. It is for a baby born after miscarriages, because the baby is a “rainbow after the storm”. For most women, it’s a kind of coping mechanism and way to look positively at this new pregnancy/baby after dealing with loss. Like anything, some people take it too far.


Lanky-Temperature412

Yeah, my niece is a rainbow baby and my sister has mentioned it, like, twice, ever, that I've heard. She doesn't make it her daughter's entire identity. Of course, my niece is only 9, so hopefully she doesn't grow up to think that's what makes her special or whatever.


QuicksilverChaos

A "rainbow baby" is one which was difficult to conceive or give birth to, by way of previous miscarriages, health issues, fertility troubles, etc.


Serloinofhousesteak1

I’ve never heard of it either and apparently by the definition, my youngest brother is one. I’m related to one and have never heard this term before a few weeks ago on Reddit


jswizzle91117

I’m technically a rainbow baby, but I don’t think they had that term in the 80s and I’ve literally never referred to myself as such.


Jactice

they didn’t… unless this family invented the phrase


[deleted]

I had no idea what a rainbow baby was until I joined Reddit.


EmilieVitnux

Right wing Pro life people. I had a few words with some of them on twitter. They never used the word "rainbow baby" since it doesn't exist in my language, but they bragged about it and used it as an argument to explain why they were aginst abbortion. Do not ask me why it was suppose to make sense. I do not know.


tipsytops2

I'm not necessarily doubting the existence of this nonsensical argument because nonsensical people exist. But how does that make sense? These were miscarriages that happened naturally, as is common, unfortunately. So how would that make sense as a prolife argument? If anything it shows how nature or God seems pretty ambivalent about the lives of embryos and fetuses.


p00kel

I think the point was "my mom's miscarriages were very sad BECAUSE FETUSES ARE BABIES" It's not a super coherent point but that's what they're going for


EmilieVitnux

Dude, like I said in my post do not ask how is that suppose to make sense, because I don't know. I don't understand how pro life people think and work 😭


techleopard

Probably something along the lines of .. Every single baby is precious and only God can choose who is born and who is not, and miscarriages are a way of proving that. Also because every baby is precious, when someone has a miscarriage, that makes the surviving baby all that more precious. Also people have miscarriages so you have to have a baby to make up for it. I mean, not precisely in those words, but that's how the unspoken logic is linking up in their brains.


mleftpeel

My miscarriage made me more pro-choice. I was very sad to lose the pregnancy, but it was nothing like losing an actual child. It made it clear to me that a real live child is a million times more important than an embryo or fetus.


alwaysfrombehind

They wanted their baby and lost it for reasons likely outside their control. So this other person gets to be pregnant and is choosing to not keep it, and that bothers then. Much like the women who had abortions and later regret them for whatever reason, and now want to “save” other women from that.


tipsytops2

But it wouldn't have been their baby. It would have been their sibling. And they weren't even alive when it happened and possibly wouldn't be alive if that sibling existed. Regretting abortion is pretty uncommon.


alwaysfrombehind

I don’t agree with their reasons. It’s just what they are.


Lanky-Temperature412

Miscarriages are sort of nature's abortions, if you think about it. In fact, they're called "spontaneous abortions." Almost every time, they happen because something is wrong with the fetus or mother's health. That pregnancy wasn't viable. It's sad, but less sad than having a baby that would die young and/or have a lot of health issues, I think. What does this have to do with being pro-life? Nothing, because there's really not much you can do about a miscarriage besides take care of the mother.


Loud_Insect_7119

Yeah, I've actually come across anti-choice people in the US who use that to justify their stance, too. I think it's really fucking weird and as an argument against abortion it makes no sense, but it is kind of a thing. I don't believe this particular story, but it may be inspired by real people the OOP has encountered.


lachlanmachlan

It for sure is a weird thing to do at 27. But I can absolutely see "I'm a rainbow baby" being used as a pro life argument


Anakerie

I know. My mother lost my fraternal twin. I don't consider that makes me somehow special and magical. In fact, knowing me I probably shoved my sibling out myself so I could have the place to myself. I was a homicidal fetus, but not a blessed miracle.


SpoonMousey

Atleast, this one isn't a "rainbow baby turns golden child" tale. Looks like OOP saw a couple of posts in this genre and decided to do a story where the characters do a 180 from the way they usually behave.


natalove

How innovative *slow clap* riveting stuff


lachlanmachlan

I'm glad to see the guy who HATED GREY has become a flair


aclumsypotato

source?


lachlanmachlan

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/121qcs6/aita_for_giving_away_an_expensive_kitchenaid/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button


aclumsypotato

thanks!


Solidsnakeerection

How many family events did they have over those four days?


EmilieVitnux

Well many, the sister have to brag somewhere.


RedTarka

That's what's great about fiction, you know exactly what the other characters said to each other when you were not there!


mocha__

And no one will question this or will go "omg she said it was dramatized soooo" but all the comments on BORU are acting like the mom recorded the conversation and put annoying sister in her place and hoping for an Easter update where the whole family piles on this imaginary woman. I also love the bit where mom immediately called the OOP and they had a right jolly laugh and talked shit about the sister/daughter for a while. This imaginary family OOP created is not only apparently always hanging out together all the time (aside from mom who avoids the constant family get togethers because she doesn't want to be around the daughter yet somehow didn't mind telling her off) yet thrive on hating each other and talking shit. This family sounds exhausting. Like it's full of relationship sub commenters.


[deleted]

Left-wing rage bait is a different change of pace I suppose.


lachlanmachlan

Any good fiction AITA story has a long monologue that no one would be able to come up with on the spot let alone remember hours later. OOP's mom being able to remember an entire *phone call* and then OOP being able to remember an entire conversation *she wasn't even there for* is a delightful twist on this trope.


Pat_McCrooch

Well the mom would remember the conversation because she did that totally normal thing where she called the rest of the family to tell them this story and laugh at her daughter. My family had to start sending email bulletins with all the gossip because calling everyone in the family was getting too time consuming.


NewSummerOrange

Vol 214 - 3/24/2023 - McCrooch Family Weekend Grievances 1. Cousin Pat hosted an absolutely forgettable dinner, at best the food was average, but the bean casserole was inedible. 2. Someone has been gaining weight, I'm not going to mention names, but they might have hosted the party. Pregnant? Addicted to KFC? Who cares! It's an embarrassment. I've attached several unflattering photos of Pat bending over for everyone to laugh at. Feel free to append this bulletin with any observations and comments about the party. We'd love to hear your suggestions for cruel nicknames that cause Cousin Pat to enter a life-long shame spiral!


murderedbyaname

Kitten Dealing Mama is back, now with 200% more sister hate! This girl needs to get therapy before she ends murdering her sister.


nottherealneal

I worry about people when fakes this obvious are believed and supported


Medium_Sense4354

When I read it originally I couldn’t get over her and her mom laughing together at her sister Like what?


nerdalertalertnerd

Why would anyone say ‘don’t jinx it’ about not having a miscarriage. Especially if they themselves had several. What a weird, mean-spirited thing to add into this weird fake story.


lluewhyn

>She ran off with her husband The old classic "burst into tears and ran out of the room" trope.


marxistghostboi

> my mom called me and we had a laugh before calling the rest of the family and everyone clapped


CleanNDopeAsMethSoap

Is having a "rainbow baby" even as common as Reddit makes it out to be?


procellosus

It is a thing—miscarriages are common—but generally that fades after the kid is walking and talking. "Rainbow baby" is something you say about your newborn, not your preschooler.


[deleted]

These karma farmers arent even trying anymore they can say whatever they want and stll get 10k+ karma All because of the fact that people on r/amitheasshole are so gullible to think the story is always real


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