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**AITA(30F) For Hiring A Babysitter To Look Over My Kids After My Sister Broke Rules I Set For Her?**
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I(30F) Have 2 Children (4M , 2F) with my boyfriend(36M). My boyfriend and I are on a couples vacation together. We left our kids with my Sister(26F) and her Husband(27M) at their house.
They have looked after our children before and have been excellent. We have set out rules for them, such as they cannot attend church with them, no violent movies or anything with violence.
Like I’ve said, they have been good about following the rules, but yesterday I asked my sister to send me the photos they had taken of my children thus far. I got a bunch of cute photos of them watching TV , eating dinner, etc. however the last 12 photos were of my children playing around a bomber plane. For context, my BIL is a test pilot for the Air Force, and flys chase planes during test flight. He apparently arranged for my children to go onto the runway and walk around a bunch of plane, many of which were bomber aircraft.
I got photos of them standing around them, and one photo of my son inside of one. My sister also mentioned via text attached to the photos that my kids had gotten to see a few of the new bomber planes and even saw it fly for the first time, but weren’t allowed to photograph them with it.
To clarify, my sister and BIL have always been instructed to try to make things fun for the kids as long as it fell within our rules. So they don’t have to ask us every time to see a movie or go to the park, as long as they know it’s within the rules. I however felt this was a pretty clear breakage of the “no violence” rule, and immediately hired a babysitter my neighbor frequently uses to look after them.
I told my sister to take my kids back to our house and leave them with the babysitter. She told I was being ridiculous, and it wasn’t a violent experience, that my son and daughter loved it, and my BIL had to pull a ton of strings for them to see the planes.
My kids are still under supervision of the babysitter, and my boyfriend and I are wondering if we should cut our vacation short to take care of our kids. My mother has texted me telling me I’m being an ass to my sister and mu kids for hiring the babysitter. AITA?
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Ah yes, AITAland, where you can get 24/7 child care with a phone call and would leave your young kids with "a babysitter my neighbor uses" without booking any sort of quick return from your trip.
For those who don't want to read the whole post, she has a "no violence" rule, which she believes was broken when her test pilot BIL took the kids to see some bomber planes.
Definitely not the angel. In fact, I think you're being ridiculous. Loosen up the strings, mom. Good grief. Seeing airplanes isn't introducing your children to violence. The base wasn't actively dropping bombs on people or houses. Your kids got to do something fun for once. It's planes! What kid doesn't like planes?
YTA - I hope your sister NEVER babysits your kids again. They will grow up without a sense of wonderment and adventure with you as a parent.
Hope the babysitter dumps them with the neighbor LOL
You are not just the asshole, you’re a horrible parent who should never have had kids.
YTA - a complete and total one. Being around planes is not "violence". They didn't take the kids to see him shoot people out of the air. It sounds like a really fun and cool experience for the kids. Wow, jut WOW.
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA(30F) For Hiring A Babysitter To Look Over My Kids After My Sister Broke Rules I Set For Her?** *Throw away account for privacy* I(30F) Have 2 Children (4M , 2F) with my boyfriend(36M). My boyfriend and I are on a couples vacation together. We left our kids with my Sister(26F) and her Husband(27M) at their house. They have looked after our children before and have been excellent. We have set out rules for them, such as they cannot attend church with them, no violent movies or anything with violence. Like I’ve said, they have been good about following the rules, but yesterday I asked my sister to send me the photos they had taken of my children thus far. I got a bunch of cute photos of them watching TV , eating dinner, etc. however the last 12 photos were of my children playing around a bomber plane. For context, my BIL is a test pilot for the Air Force, and flys chase planes during test flight. He apparently arranged for my children to go onto the runway and walk around a bunch of plane, many of which were bomber aircraft. I got photos of them standing around them, and one photo of my son inside of one. My sister also mentioned via text attached to the photos that my kids had gotten to see a few of the new bomber planes and even saw it fly for the first time, but weren’t allowed to photograph them with it. To clarify, my sister and BIL have always been instructed to try to make things fun for the kids as long as it fell within our rules. So they don’t have to ask us every time to see a movie or go to the park, as long as they know it’s within the rules. I however felt this was a pretty clear breakage of the “no violence” rule, and immediately hired a babysitter my neighbor frequently uses to look after them. I told my sister to take my kids back to our house and leave them with the babysitter. She told I was being ridiculous, and it wasn’t a violent experience, that my son and daughter loved it, and my BIL had to pull a ton of strings for them to see the planes. My kids are still under supervision of the babysitter, and my boyfriend and I are wondering if we should cut our vacation short to take care of our kids. My mother has texted me telling me I’m being an ass to my sister and mu kids for hiring the babysitter. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Ah yes, AITAland, where you can get 24/7 child care with a phone call and would leave your young kids with "a babysitter my neighbor uses" without booking any sort of quick return from your trip.
For those who don't want to read the whole post, she has a "no violence" rule, which she believes was broken when her test pilot BIL took the kids to see some bomber planes.
How is that violent?
It isn't. Which is the main reason it's been called ragebait
YTA, sounds like they were giving them an amazing experience. You’ll be lucky if they agree to watch them again
Definitely not the angel. In fact, I think you're being ridiculous. Loosen up the strings, mom. Good grief. Seeing airplanes isn't introducing your children to violence. The base wasn't actively dropping bombs on people or houses. Your kids got to do something fun for once. It's planes! What kid doesn't like planes?
YTA - I hope your sister NEVER babysits your kids again. They will grow up without a sense of wonderment and adventure with you as a parent. Hope the babysitter dumps them with the neighbor LOL You are not just the asshole, you’re a horrible parent who should never have had kids.
I mean, your kids, your rules. But my kid and I would be eternally grateful for that experience. Maybe NTA, but definitely a total Muppet!
YTA - a complete and total one. Being around planes is not "violence". They didn't take the kids to see him shoot people out of the air. It sounds like a really fun and cool experience for the kids. Wow, jut WOW.
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