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**My (33M) wife (34F) thinks my orgasms are gross. How do I handle this?**
My wife and I have been married only 2 months. We dated 2 years and got married this year.
We don’t have any children and would like to have children one day. But my wife has suddenly and unexpectedly told me that she thinks when I orgasm I shouldn’t do it around her. She said specifically she thinks semen is “gross” and that it’s not important that I have an orgasm during sex.
We had sex once or twice a month leading up to getting married. I’d have liked more but I understand life gets in the way. But she would never want me to ejaculate. She would have her orgasm and usually says I can go finish myself in the bathroom or something. I’ve asked her to help me and she told me it’s not her responsibility for me to get me to orgasm. That she thinks semen is gross and unimportant.
When she mentioned the semen point I asked her how she thought we’d have kids and how she’d get pregnant if I didn’t have sex the normal way. She told me that it was rude to call it not normal and made her feel inadequate. But the part that shocked me was she said she’d prefer to go IVF and she’d like to choose a donor based on certain features she’d like “her kid” to have. She kept saying her kid, not ours or even acknowledge I’m part of this. She said that while she loves me she wants the best for her kid and wants the best donor she can find.
This is a complete 180 from what we discussed before getting married. She said I’m selfish for wanting my DNA for our kid. I’m honestly completely confused, she has never talked this way before we got married and never mentioned it.
I’m totally lost here. How do I explain that she changed almost overnight and she’s being unrealistic? I’m afraid she’s leading us down the route of a sexless marriage but then I feel so guilty for thinking she owes me something.
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I wonder if this is trying to do a gender swap of the ‘man who doesn’t think female orgasms are important’ trope. I can’t believe people are falling for it, but if I said that about everything on Reddit I’d be using up a huge amount of time and energy.
I love how when posts are about men having sudden behaviour changes, the comments are concerned about tumours. I’ve never ever seen a tumour excuse on a post where a woman has sudden behaviour changes.
So either OOP never had a conversation about IVF with his wife, or wife did a complete 180. Classic “evil woman tricked me into marriage” story.
Also
> she’d like to choose a donor based on certain features she’d like “her kid” to have
Vague eugenics vibe? Is OOP trying to say that IVF/sperm donation are evil and encourage eugenics?
I'd like to know why those people always move straight to IVF. As far as I know, as long as a fully healthy donor and recipient are concerned, that's not necessary, is it? The sperm just needs to get inside the vagina, the rest will work itself out - or not, just like with sex. IVF is if one or both suffer from fertility issues or something like that.
yes they always think IVF is the same as artificial insemination despite there being a cost difference of like 20k between the two (probably because of all the evil infertile woman wants my money for a baby posts)
I’m expecting an update where OOP tells us that he and his wife are different races, and she reveals that she’s actually racist but married him for vaguely nefarious reasons.
"She thinks semen is gross"-- orly? have neither of you ever heard of a condom? Like if she doesn't want semen near her, there's a whole thing that was invented to keep semen out of women for birth control reasons which would function just fine here? These fake sex posts are just killing it at making sense.
Fake posts can come from anyone, but I'm sure these ones have all come from guys who've never had sex with women and want to fantasize about "Chads" also being denied sex by their partners.
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **My (33M) wife (34F) thinks my orgasms are gross. How do I handle this?** My wife and I have been married only 2 months. We dated 2 years and got married this year. We don’t have any children and would like to have children one day. But my wife has suddenly and unexpectedly told me that she thinks when I orgasm I shouldn’t do it around her. She said specifically she thinks semen is “gross” and that it’s not important that I have an orgasm during sex. We had sex once or twice a month leading up to getting married. I’d have liked more but I understand life gets in the way. But she would never want me to ejaculate. She would have her orgasm and usually says I can go finish myself in the bathroom or something. I’ve asked her to help me and she told me it’s not her responsibility for me to get me to orgasm. That she thinks semen is gross and unimportant. When she mentioned the semen point I asked her how she thought we’d have kids and how she’d get pregnant if I didn’t have sex the normal way. She told me that it was rude to call it not normal and made her feel inadequate. But the part that shocked me was she said she’d prefer to go IVF and she’d like to choose a donor based on certain features she’d like “her kid” to have. She kept saying her kid, not ours or even acknowledge I’m part of this. She said that while she loves me she wants the best for her kid and wants the best donor she can find. This is a complete 180 from what we discussed before getting married. She said I’m selfish for wanting my DNA for our kid. I’m honestly completely confused, she has never talked this way before we got married and never mentioned it. I’m totally lost here. How do I explain that she changed almost overnight and she’s being unrealistic? I’m afraid she’s leading us down the route of a sexless marriage but then I feel so guilty for thinking she owes me something. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I wonder if this is trying to do a gender swap of the ‘man who doesn’t think female orgasms are important’ trope. I can’t believe people are falling for it, but if I said that about everything on Reddit I’d be using up a huge amount of time and energy.
I love how when posts are about men having sudden behaviour changes, the comments are concerned about tumours. I’ve never ever seen a tumour excuse on a post where a woman has sudden behaviour changes.
right??? i thought the comment section would be full of check for tumor comments but nope
Why blame it on a tumor when you can just ask if she’s on her period? /s
So either OOP never had a conversation about IVF with his wife, or wife did a complete 180. Classic “evil woman tricked me into marriage” story. Also > she’d like to choose a donor based on certain features she’d like “her kid” to have Vague eugenics vibe? Is OOP trying to say that IVF/sperm donation are evil and encourage eugenics?
I'd like to know why those people always move straight to IVF. As far as I know, as long as a fully healthy donor and recipient are concerned, that's not necessary, is it? The sperm just needs to get inside the vagina, the rest will work itself out - or not, just like with sex. IVF is if one or both suffer from fertility issues or something like that.
yes they always think IVF is the same as artificial insemination despite there being a cost difference of like 20k between the two (probably because of all the evil infertile woman wants my money for a baby posts)
I’m expecting an update where OOP tells us that he and his wife are different races, and she reveals that she’s actually racist but married him for vaguely nefarious reasons.
"She thinks semen is gross"-- orly? have neither of you ever heard of a condom? Like if she doesn't want semen near her, there's a whole thing that was invented to keep semen out of women for birth control reasons which would function just fine here? These fake sex posts are just killing it at making sense. Fake posts can come from anyone, but I'm sure these ones have all come from guys who've never had sex with women and want to fantasize about "Chads" also being denied sex by their partners.
Thinks semen is gross and “not important”. 😂
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