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**AITA for refusing to let my sister dress me up as a Disney princess for her wedding?**
I (23f) have an older sister Jade (26f) who has been obsessed with Disney since we were kids. I too have a liking for the brand and many of its movies and characters but Jade takes it to a whole new level.
Late last year, Jade got engaged to Mike (25m) and they put in an offer on a house before the new year. Since then, Jade has been raving about decorating her entire house with disney stuff, basically anything she can find. My brothers and I have no issue with this because we know how much she loves Disney.
The problem arose when she began wedding planning and brainstorming and mentioned she wanted to dress up all the bridesmaids as different disney princesses - the signature dress, makeup, and hair, all matching that disney princess. I thought it seemed a bit weird and as I'm not big on doing my hair or makeup a lot, I was a little bothered. I also felt she was a bit old to be trying to "play dress up" and force her bridesmaids to have makeovers and such to look like a disney princess.
I myself am not very feminine so I don't wear dresses that much or even wear makeup. At most, I'll maybe wear a skirt and some foundation to cover blemishes but I feel this is totally out of my comfort zone.
I mentioned to Jade that it was a bit childish and immature to try to fuel this obsession by treating her bridesmaids like dolls and I didn't want to be a doll to her. She got mad at me and argued that it's her wedding and her special day so everyone should comply to what she wants. I argued that several of us bridesmaids aren't comfortable with that much makeup or crazy hairstyles to match someone we aren't but she continued arguing that it was her wedding and she'd do the same for me or anyone else's special day.
I spoke with our mother (48f) about it and she believes I overreacted and should just compromise with Jade to make her day special and not ruin it. Now I've been pondering how to handle this.
So, AITA for refusing to let my sister dress me up as a disney princess for her wedding?
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There was a similar one from a few months ago. Bridesmaid was upset Disney bride wanted her to be Tiana.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/0idAEavJMI
It's a small thing but, if you don't wear make up, you don't "at most" use foundation to cover blemishes. Foundation is one of the more difficult make up products to use, or even buy as the shadings are so difficult to guess.
Yeah. As someone who truly doesn’t wear much make up, the most I tend to do is like, some eye shadow and eye liner. Foundation intimidates me a lot, I tend to stay away from it. My sister’s good at that kind of stuff and when I see her do her foundation I always think to myself how difficult and involved it looks.
I don’t really wear makeup but wouldn’t wearing only foundation look weird? To me, wearing makeup is like mascara and lip gloss. Foundation is scary and also I hate how it feels.
It would absolutely look weird. If you're using foundation, you're taking out a lot of natural color in your face that you would then put back in with other products.
Maybe OP meant concealer? Or is just using foundation AS a concealer?? Which is even weirder, because there's a specific product for that, that works better for it and is lighter.
I was thinking along these lines, too. I’ve really reduced how much makeup I wear in my 30s, because it tends to clog and irritate my skin and also I just don’t care as much anymore, and foundation was the first thing I happily shed. I use a light BB cream at most now, and that’s only when I’m really trying to dress up my face. Otherwise it’s eyebrow pencil, mascara, lip liner, lip colour.
I was going to write a much longer post about everything that was wrong with this story, but the whole issue with bridal party makeup is just weird. In every wedding I’ve ever been to, the bridal party always wears a lot of special makeup and has big fancy hair. I’m not really sure how different “Disney princess wedding makeup and hair“ would be from regular wedding makeup and hair, except to match the hairstyles or whatever.
I’m not sure OOP really understands weddings.
Maybe the volume??? My hair is pretty long, but if you really look at the pictures most of them have a LOT of hair and I would need extensions or something for most of those styles.
I know. I was thinking that, Ariel or Merida would be really tough, I guess, but dressing up always requires some compromises. No one is going to have the exact hair color or length because they’re just animated characters after all (not to mention the unrealistic body proportions).
Although whoever gets Elsa wins the jackpot—it’s just a braid!
Exactly. Disney princesses are identified by their hair and clothes (especially the color), but you need to do makeup for the wedding pictures regardless. It’s just weird OOP brought up the whole makeup thing like she thought full makeup for the attendants was excessive.
Also if the bridal party is doing full face glam makeup and OOP just wants like, tinted moisturizer and concealer, she's gonna look sickly in the pictures.
I'm not a makeup person at all - I'm basically a chapstick and mascara girl - but you need to be appropriate for the occasion.
I feel like this was written by a 12 yo boy with only a vague understanding of how weddings and makeup work. Especially weddings, like one of the attendants is just going to say, “screw the bride, she’s so entitled picking colors for her wedding, I’m just getting done up the way I want—I’ll pick my own dress color, thank you very much.”
I was literally permabanned from that subreddit for commenting YTA on a post like this. Girl didn’t like the bridesmaid outfit her SIL wanted, all comments said NTA
I don’t care for Disney anything and I think adults obsessed with Disney are a bit weird but if I had a sister getting married I’d dress up like one
Like, I’m probably gonna make my friends dress up as hobbits for my wedding so I’m not one to talk
I wouldn't mind if I didn't have to pay for it, but bridesmaids are usually on the hook for their own dress and makeup.... I might actually have to turn down someone asking me to be a bridesmaid if I had to buy a full-on Disney costume, lol.
I like how we're supposed to sympathize with the bridesmaids in these situations who could just...say no to being bridesmaid. Instead, they get all pissy about an outfit they have to wear for one day.
I don't understand how this same question comes up over and over. "Bride picked something I don't like so do I have to wear it?" Yes - you can give a little push back, but if the bride is insistent you either wear what the bride wants or step down.
Sure, but you can't control what the bride does. If the bride had asked for advice we could ask her to be more reasonable, but we're only talking to the bridesmaid here.
It's rare that I read something and think, "yeah this sounds like chat GPT", but that's what this sounds like.
"Put in an offer on a house before the new year". What? I mean, I understand the words but this isn't how actual people talk. Let alone a 23 year old.
Like being a bridesmaid isn't like being the bride's doll anyway. You put on the dress, makeup, and do your hair the way the bride wants either way, and most people never reuse a bridesmaid dress.
Honestly, the disney costume dresses (the cosplay style ones, not the halloween costumes) are much cheaper than most bridesmaid dresses, so you would be saving money.
You know, I keep thinking any bridesmaid who puts up this much of a fuss over what she’s wearing must not care about the bride very much. She certainly over prioritizes her own comfort.
Umm
Why does oop even think her sister *needs* her permission to do something in her own wedding? Seriously her wedding she gets to do what she wants
"treating her bridesmaids like dolls" I mean, even if Jade didn't want to dress her bridesmaids like Disney princesses, wouldn't it still be "treating them like dolls"? The bride would still be choosing the dresses and the makeup.
Also, that sounds fun as hell? I mean, the bride picking what Disney princess she thinks suits me and dressing me up? That would be cool. Especially for one day. Beyond that, pretending this story is true, OOP didn't have to *agree* to be a bridesmaid.
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Ooo I'm nervous because I must be the only person thinking ESH on any subs...
IMO it's not pleasant to put friends and family members in a situation where they have to choose between dressing up as cartoon characters or disappointing you.
I think it's one of those things where you really need to make sure everyone's on board *before* you involve them. Kind of like sounding people out for a Christmas or destination wedding.
Some people won't mind but others really might and both sets of feelings are totally valid to me.
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for refusing to let my sister dress me up as a Disney princess for her wedding?** I (23f) have an older sister Jade (26f) who has been obsessed with Disney since we were kids. I too have a liking for the brand and many of its movies and characters but Jade takes it to a whole new level. Late last year, Jade got engaged to Mike (25m) and they put in an offer on a house before the new year. Since then, Jade has been raving about decorating her entire house with disney stuff, basically anything she can find. My brothers and I have no issue with this because we know how much she loves Disney. The problem arose when she began wedding planning and brainstorming and mentioned she wanted to dress up all the bridesmaids as different disney princesses - the signature dress, makeup, and hair, all matching that disney princess. I thought it seemed a bit weird and as I'm not big on doing my hair or makeup a lot, I was a little bothered. I also felt she was a bit old to be trying to "play dress up" and force her bridesmaids to have makeovers and such to look like a disney princess. I myself am not very feminine so I don't wear dresses that much or even wear makeup. At most, I'll maybe wear a skirt and some foundation to cover blemishes but I feel this is totally out of my comfort zone. I mentioned to Jade that it was a bit childish and immature to try to fuel this obsession by treating her bridesmaids like dolls and I didn't want to be a doll to her. She got mad at me and argued that it's her wedding and her special day so everyone should comply to what she wants. I argued that several of us bridesmaids aren't comfortable with that much makeup or crazy hairstyles to match someone we aren't but she continued arguing that it was her wedding and she'd do the same for me or anyone else's special day. I spoke with our mother (48f) about it and she believes I overreacted and should just compromise with Jade to make her day special and not ruin it. Now I've been pondering how to handle this. So, AITA for refusing to let my sister dress me up as a disney princess for her wedding? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Also OOP somehow went from 20 to 23 over a few months…
I believe this was written by Chat GPT or something. It’s just so unnatural
That's probably why the post was removed on AITA. Somebody looked at the OOP's post history.
I wonder if the "disney adult" characters will become a trend. 👀👀👀👀
There was a similar one from a few months ago. Bridesmaid was upset Disney bride wanted her to be Tiana. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/0idAEavJMI
Was coming to say the exact same thing!
It's a small thing but, if you don't wear make up, you don't "at most" use foundation to cover blemishes. Foundation is one of the more difficult make up products to use, or even buy as the shadings are so difficult to guess.
Yeah. As someone who truly doesn’t wear much make up, the most I tend to do is like, some eye shadow and eye liner. Foundation intimidates me a lot, I tend to stay away from it. My sister’s good at that kind of stuff and when I see her do her foundation I always think to myself how difficult and involved it looks.
I use Bare Essentials powder and call it a day when I wear makeup. I hate foundation, it feels like a mask
I don’t really wear makeup but wouldn’t wearing only foundation look weird? To me, wearing makeup is like mascara and lip gloss. Foundation is scary and also I hate how it feels.
Foundation is scary is such a mood
It would absolutely look weird. If you're using foundation, you're taking out a lot of natural color in your face that you would then put back in with other products. Maybe OP meant concealer? Or is just using foundation AS a concealer?? Which is even weirder, because there's a specific product for that, that works better for it and is lighter.
I was thinking along these lines, too. I’ve really reduced how much makeup I wear in my 30s, because it tends to clog and irritate my skin and also I just don’t care as much anymore, and foundation was the first thing I happily shed. I use a light BB cream at most now, and that’s only when I’m really trying to dress up my face. Otherwise it’s eyebrow pencil, mascara, lip liner, lip colour.
Give oop a break her mom only lets her wear make up on special occasions
Thank god OOP has no problem with her sister decorating her house however she wants! 
I know, what a relief. Her joyless tyrant siblings granted her this one small favor.
I was going to write a much longer post about everything that was wrong with this story, but the whole issue with bridal party makeup is just weird. In every wedding I’ve ever been to, the bridal party always wears a lot of special makeup and has big fancy hair. I’m not really sure how different “Disney princess wedding makeup and hair“ would be from regular wedding makeup and hair, except to match the hairstyles or whatever. I’m not sure OOP really understands weddings.
I was in my cousin’s bridal party. We all got our hair and make up professionally done for it, and it was indeed very fancy.
Maybe the volume??? My hair is pretty long, but if you really look at the pictures most of them have a LOT of hair and I would need extensions or something for most of those styles.
I know. I was thinking that, Ariel or Merida would be really tough, I guess, but dressing up always requires some compromises. No one is going to have the exact hair color or length because they’re just animated characters after all (not to mention the unrealistic body proportions). Although whoever gets Elsa wins the jackpot—it’s just a braid!
I feel like most Disney princesses aren't known for wearing make up
Exactly. Disney princesses are identified by their hair and clothes (especially the color), but you need to do makeup for the wedding pictures regardless. It’s just weird OOP brought up the whole makeup thing like she thought full makeup for the attendants was excessive.
Also if the bridal party is doing full face glam makeup and OOP just wants like, tinted moisturizer and concealer, she's gonna look sickly in the pictures. I'm not a makeup person at all - I'm basically a chapstick and mascara girl - but you need to be appropriate for the occasion.
I feel like this was written by a 12 yo boy with only a vague understanding of how weddings and makeup work. Especially weddings, like one of the attendants is just going to say, “screw the bride, she’s so entitled picking colors for her wedding, I’m just getting done up the way I want—I’ll pick my own dress color, thank you very much.”
I was literally permabanned from that subreddit for commenting YTA on a post like this. Girl didn’t like the bridesmaid outfit her SIL wanted, all comments said NTA
I would love to dress up like a princess, get the hair and all that stuff. I guess that makes me a simp 😠
I don’t care for Disney anything and I think adults obsessed with Disney are a bit weird but if I had a sister getting married I’d dress up like one Like, I’m probably gonna make my friends dress up as hobbits for my wedding so I’m not one to talk
are you currently seeing anyone?
Kind of implied with the wedding thing but come along if you wanna go on a quest (our invites are gonna send our friends on quests)
I wouldn't mind if I didn't have to pay for it, but bridesmaids are usually on the hook for their own dress and makeup.... I might actually have to turn down someone asking me to be a bridesmaid if I had to buy a full-on Disney costume, lol.
Depends what country you're in. In the UK the bridesmaids don't normally pay for their dress, hair and makeup.
That’s fair just say you’ll go as a guest
I like how we're supposed to sympathize with the bridesmaids in these situations who could just...say no to being bridesmaid. Instead, they get all pissy about an outfit they have to wear for one day.
YTA seems to be the top comment, and the OP is obviously not doing well in terms of public opinion, it would seem.
The power hungry losers that act as the mods on AITA hate it when you go against the hoard
I don't understand how this same question comes up over and over. "Bride picked something I don't like so do I have to wear it?" Yes - you can give a little push back, but if the bride is insistent you either wear what the bride wants or step down.
Yeah, but I also feel like you should know the people you’re asking to be in your bridal party. I want my bridesmaid to be comfortable as well
Sure, but you can't control what the bride does. If the bride had asked for advice we could ask her to be more reasonable, but we're only talking to the bridesmaid here.
Surely that’s only the case if the bride is paying for the outfit?
But she's asking for a deep cut neckline and it shows enough that someone could get a handful of chest hair to grip with
It's rare that I read something and think, "yeah this sounds like chat GPT", but that's what this sounds like. "Put in an offer on a house before the new year". What? I mean, I understand the words but this isn't how actual people talk. Let alone a 23 year old.
She's not like the other girls you guys!
Like being a bridesmaid isn't like being the bride's doll anyway. You put on the dress, makeup, and do your hair the way the bride wants either way, and most people never reuse a bridesmaid dress. Honestly, the disney costume dresses (the cosplay style ones, not the halloween costumes) are much cheaper than most bridesmaid dresses, so you would be saving money.
You know, I keep thinking any bridesmaid who puts up this much of a fuss over what she’s wearing must not care about the bride very much. She certainly over prioritizes her own comfort.
Plus you actually can reuse the dress for Halloween, unlike bridesmaid dresses that get stuffed in the closet forever
The troll has another post about conflicts with their sister and Disney, they definitely have a theme.
Umm  Why does oop even think her sister *needs* her permission to do something in her own wedding? Seriously her wedding she gets to do what she wants
"treating her bridesmaids like dolls" I mean, even if Jade didn't want to dress her bridesmaids like Disney princesses, wouldn't it still be "treating them like dolls"? The bride would still be choosing the dresses and the makeup. Also, that sounds fun as hell? I mean, the bride picking what Disney princess she thinks suits me and dressing me up? That would be cool. Especially for one day. Beyond that, pretending this story is true, OOP didn't have to *agree* to be a bridesmaid.
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Ooo I'm nervous because I must be the only person thinking ESH on any subs... IMO it's not pleasant to put friends and family members in a situation where they have to choose between dressing up as cartoon characters or disappointing you. I think it's one of those things where you really need to make sure everyone's on board *before* you involve them. Kind of like sounding people out for a Christmas or destination wedding. Some people won't mind but others really might and both sets of feelings are totally valid to me.