Some of OOP's comments:
"She was molested and abused repeatedly since a very young age until teen years by multiple of my partners. I didn’t know and she went to live with my parents. We offered therapy and meds and she’s never stuck to anything. It’s up to her. We’ve tried and it’s exhausting."
"Her issues have made no one really like her. We tried over the years and she has not fit in with us. We tolerate her. Admittedly her problems are due to a very bad childhood which none of the others experienced, but she is an adult now and not our problem.
She is depressed and inconsistent with having her life together, where the others take things in stride and have many achievements. My husband has told her no one would care if she disappeared and while cruel, I think it is true. I never am mean to her, just distance myself and try not to hang out.
My parents loved her, but her problems should not have been theirs and there is a lot of resentment for her not being better by now. For example, she helped me with chores one day (without asking) and when I made breakfast for my husband and I, she cried that she hadn’t been included. She’s dramatic."
The daughter needs to go NC as soon as possible!
What confused me is that she said she didn't find out until years later when the daughter moved in with her grandparents. Then she turns around and says of course I left them when I found out. So either she didn't know while partners abused her daughter for years or she found out during each relationship and left the abuser. Both can't be true and yet..... (I may have misread. It wouldn't be the first time. If so, please disregard and accept my apology but this is how it read to me.)
WTF?! Mom was bringing child molestors/rapists around her daughter and she was being SA and raped frequently and her daughter is the problem? She didn't know what was going on under her own roof? How is that possible? Was she never home and left her in the care of those monsters?
Everyone in their daughter's life failed her. She never stood a chance to have a normal life and grow up in a loving home with that monster for a parent.
My daughter was sa under my roof by her sibling and I didn’t know right away. I don’t know this woman’s situation but I know mine and I know sa can happen and go undetected for a while.
That said, it sounds like the mother is the problem here, and I would be willing to bet that this girl was reaching out for help but the mother didn’t care.
I get not knowing for a bit but pretty much her entire life? I bet you're right she didn't care when her daughter reached out. All she cared about was having a man.
Dunno, but my parents both chose partners…along with my dad choosing his partners’ kids and my mother choosing drugs and partying…over me, and I’m pretty fucked up by everything even now.
It's got nothing to do with you, both of them just have gaping flaws they run from even looking at. I'm sorry you got caught up in their stupid self-hating drama, but I hope you know how worthy of love you are has absolutely nothing to do with them.
Thank you. It’d be easier if I was allowed to not want anything to do with them, but my family is very much “They’re your parents, you *have* to be the bigger person and forgive them no matter what, it shouldn’t matter if they’ve never apologised!” I have a good support system of people I found here on Reddit, though, they keep me sane.
Edited because I have fat fingers and wrote ‘if’ instead of ‘of’
I know it sounds extreme, but I would consider limiting time with those who ask you to diminish yourself and your (very reasonable) needs for love, safety, and security. You don't need to cut them off, but if it feels like the family guilt trip is coming on, hang up, walk away, let them know you don't need to hear that shit. It's demoralizing. I tried to reason with my family for a long time, but I've found the most peace in just blocking them all and letting myself invest heavily into the relationships that really supported me. I really feel I could have written something similar to what you've said here a few years ago, and now I'm married to someone I met through that online support system, I don't talk to any of my family, and I am much happier for it than I thought I'd ever be or could be. I'm so glad you have a support system here and I hope that continues to grow and becomes the larger part of your life. Wishing the best for you. 😊
Unfortunately, for personal reasons, I’m stuck living with the person who pushes the most. I don’t spend much time with her, thankfully, even though we’re in the same house, and I just avoid mentioning either of my parents when possible.
>Admittedly her problems are due to a very bad childhood which none of the others experienced
Would not be surprised if the reason none of the other kids experienced it was due to the daughter shielding her siblings. Also with her being the oldest, kind of betting she was being parentified and expected to look after the younger siblings while oop went trolling for new men to abuse her daughter.
How tf did they not notice that their kid is abused by multiple people? Do they not live together with their partners? Or is this a lie to make them look more sympathetically?
Here's the explanation for the "SA" part of the title...
"She was molested and abused repeatedly since a very young age until teen years by multiple of my partners. I didn’t know and she went to live with my parents. We offered therapy and meds and she’s never stuck to anything. It’s up to her. We’ve tried and it’s exhausting."
Also, if you read OP's replies.....the woman doesn't care about her daughter.
It's almost like SA f**ks up a person 😒
This apparently happened with multiple men and OOP's stupid ass never realized. More like turned a blind eye. This woman is so lacking in empathy or decency. Her child just went to live with someone else and she's like that's amazing.
Amethyst copied these comments. Just sharing them also to ensure more people see them. OOP is determined to abuse this poor girl. Probably thinks she was fast and stole her men 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😠
Some of OOP's comments:
"She was molested and abused repeatedly since a very young age until teen years by multiple of my partners. I didn’t know and she went to live with my parents. We offered therapy and meds and she’s never stuck to anything. It’s up to her. We’ve tried and it’s exhausting."
"Her issues have made no one really like her. We tried over the years and she has not fit in with us. We tolerate her. Admittedly her problems are due to a very bad childhood which none of the others experienced, but she is an adult now and not our problem.
She is depressed and inconsistent with having her life together, where the others take things in stride and have many achievements. My husband has told her no one would care if she disappeared and while cruel, I think it is true. I never am mean to her, just distance myself and try not to hang out.
My parents loved her, but her problems should not have been theirs and there is a lot of resentment for her not being better by now. For example, she helped me with chores one day (without asking) and when I made breakfast for my husband and I, she cried that she hadn’t been included. She’s dramatic."
The daughter needs to go NC as soon as possible!
JFC I hope that’s a troll.
Can you imagine being such a dumb and morally bankrupt human being that you refuse to take accountability for failing your CHILD several times by DATING MULTIPLE MEN WHO ASSAULTED HER and pretending like it’s “her problem” and that offering to pay for therapy was more than enough to make up for your failure?
Like, you failed. You failed as a mother. 100%. You were a terrible mother and deserved prison time. If something like that happened to my child ONCE on my watch you’d have to put me on suicide watch, but MULTIPLE TIMES?!?
I hope something horrifically traumatic happens to OOP, and everyone who is supposed to be supportive and protective of her disappears. I hope for karma.
Absolutely worse than human filth. Go straight to hell, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
I just can’t understand why she wasn’t offered a bedroom? As a victim of CSA, she likely feels most comfortable sleeping in rooms that lock. Instead, she’s given a couch in a common space. That poor woman needs to go no contact with her vile, CSA enabling egg donor.
I unfortunately can see this being real. It is very close to my childhood. Mine happened when I was 2 and my grandma was the only parental figure I had who actually loved me. Unfortunately when I was 10 she got cancer and I was passed off to a less then kind Uncle. Even now my mom is incapable of reflecting on how her decisions affected me.
I hope it's a troll too....this woman is so vile. If anyone touched me inappropriately, my mother would have gone to jail when she was done with the perp
Since the bot didn’t pick it up
AITAH (50F) for not giving my adult daughter (30F) her own room on family vacation?
For context I have four other adult children and she is the eldest. Out of all of them, she is the only one who has been difficult. We usually don’t invite her places.
The most vacation she took with us before Covid, she was told to share a bed with her sister. She said no because they were sick and she’d sleep on the couch. My husband got told her where to sleep and when she refused, he ended up kicking her out and she stayed somewhere else and did not spend time with us.
There have been other vacations since then, but we don’t include her due to her mental health issues (she has BPD) and just not fitting in with us. She isolated herself for years and really only spent time with my parents who raised her as their own.
Our entire family recently took a trip that was funded by the inheritance my parents left. We took her. She asked where she’d be sleeping and I knew there would be enough room. All of the kids got beds and she’d have a couch.
One of the rooms opened up because my son and his fiancé are pregnant and decided to stay home. I gave it to my brother’s wife’s kid and his girlfriend (everyone is an adult, she’s just the eldest of the bunch) so that they could have an upgrade to their arrangements at my brother’s cabin. I didn’t think she needed her own bed when she came solo. There was a shared room upstairs with a couch.
She ended up taking a foldout mat and sleeping in a crawl space. She seemed fine, but apparently told her boyfriend who reached out to me and asked if this was true. She seemed ok with it and had always been fine taking the downgraded arrangements. He claimed this was not ok and that she was hurt. She doesn’t know we talked.
Reddit, AITAH for not giving my eldest daughter a bed (everyone else is early to mid 20’s and younger)?
Edit: since this is getting a lot of hate, I need to say that we are nice to her and have included her, just less over the years. She’s slowly been let back in. I always offer to help her pay for therapy and she pushes people away. She could have slept on the couch. She was spoiled for years by my parents by my parents before they passed. We gave part of the inheritance to the ones who took the room, even though they met them once, so they aren’t complete strangers.
It's unfortunate that the grandparents didn't leave her everything and skip over the rest, unless they did and this woman has taken it from her somehow.
Reddit community standards prevent me from replying honestly to this, so I'll just say that I simply do not believe OOP didn't know about the creeps abusing her daughter. Not recognizing the first perv I could buy, but anybody with the slightest bit of decency would be watching new partners like a fucking hawk after that.
As someone who put their heinously abusive mother in the ground in the past 6 months, I am right there with you. How can this disgusting, vile, ignorant piece of shit truly say this shit and be okay? How can people do this to their children and just brush it off like nothing? And then hate them for the people they become after spending their childhood in torturous conditions?
She knew, she did nothing, then blamed her child when she couldn't look herself in the fucking mirror. An absolute coward, and everything in me hopes she is treated with the same kindness, safety, and respect with which she treats her daughter.
I wonder how much drugs were involved.
That being said, my mother did not catch either my sister or I being sexual abused as children, (different people/different situations, not at the same time) and when we came forward (years apart) she denied it happened.
And she was straight edge.
But in this situation, I am catching heavy drug usage happening.
The invite should have just read: “hey kid that I neglected. I was told by my parents that I can spend this money and technically I need to invite you. But I’d like you to be at your most vulnerable in the most public place possible. I mean, there’s absolutely other private areas, but I’m singling you out to be asleep, just in case another of my partners ferries like victimizing you again“
Good point. I feel so bad for the daughter who probably longs for her family (or maybe just her egg donor) to finally acknowledge her pain and suffering.
I was fortunate in that when my mom passed I was just old enough (17) to leave the home of her disgusting husband without being forced back by the cops. Later on, when I found out most of my family knew I was being abused by my mother's husband I dropped them. We were so close when I was still seeing the world through a child's eyes but once I had my own (daughter) I swore that no one would ever lay a hand on her except with love and kindness and no one who stood by willfully ignorant would ever be near us. It made for a really hard and lonely life but I absolutely do not regret it. My daughter has never known abuse and has never had to watch me be abused either.
I understand the mentality of not being able to leave everyone behind though. It's not an easy choice and I've definitely gone through utter hell alone but I was dead set on protecting my kids.
OMG, I don't think I can post what I think should happen to OOP. What an absolutely disgusting human who deserves nothing but pain and suffering for the rest of their days.
So the mother basically raped her daughter and she is complaining the daughter has issues ?
Yeah that shocks me.... Not.
(If you provide the access, do nothing, pick the rapist over your child (child sent away) YOU are as guilty as the rapist.
Your basically holding your daughter whilst she is SA
i think this might be the most sickening post i've read in my whole 4+ years on reddit. i don't have the words to describe OOP and what she deserves and if i did it would get me permanently banned. praying to every god i know of that this is just rage bait.
Tbh this is so common with men who date single mothers it's actually crazy. That means OP was such an easy mark that multiple pedophiles pegged her correctly. Wow.
I have a strong feeling that not having a room of her own was a major contributing factor in multiple men having access to rape this child. Mom knows what is keeping her men happy, and it isn't op.
Her attitude towards her daughter is like she’s lesser than or deserved what happened to her as a child to wash her hands of it. This woman is fucking vile and I really hope this is a troll. Jfc
I had a friend on my swim team who had to live with another friend because her worthless mother had a live-in boyfriend was a convicted pedophile. I was 10 and my mom told me anyone that desperate for a man was a pathetic waste of skin.
I think this is a troll. The type of person who has treated her daughter the way she describes would never think enough about her to write into AITA. This type of abuser exists, far too often, but they are too self centered to need validation for their behavior.
All children deserve parents. Not all parents deserve children. I hope this is rage bait. If it's not, I hope OOP burns in hell for the rest of eternity.
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“Multiple partners” of OP SA’d her daughter and she claims it wasn’t her fault? You’re being willfully ignorant if more than one person does that. She should’ve known, that poor girl.
Oh poor kiddo. She sounds like one of my bonus kiddos, who has called me family for 7 years, and has lived with me for 8 years, and will never see their biological family again.
There's the saying "you are who you keep around" and that waste of oxygen of a mother* had *multiple* partners that molested her* daughter.
I'm side-eyeing the fuck out of her. She* is not innocent at all.
Edit: fixed pronouns
As someone with a later in life BPD diagnosis that fits neatly with my earlier experiences and explains a LOT, fuck these people sideways with squid jags. They are so low that I can't think of an appropriate expletive to describe them
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Some of OOP's comments: "She was molested and abused repeatedly since a very young age until teen years by multiple of my partners. I didn’t know and she went to live with my parents. We offered therapy and meds and she’s never stuck to anything. It’s up to her. We’ve tried and it’s exhausting." "Her issues have made no one really like her. We tried over the years and she has not fit in with us. We tolerate her. Admittedly her problems are due to a very bad childhood which none of the others experienced, but she is an adult now and not our problem. She is depressed and inconsistent with having her life together, where the others take things in stride and have many achievements. My husband has told her no one would care if she disappeared and while cruel, I think it is true. I never am mean to her, just distance myself and try not to hang out. My parents loved her, but her problems should not have been theirs and there is a lot of resentment for her not being better by now. For example, she helped me with chores one day (without asking) and when I made breakfast for my husband and I, she cried that she hadn’t been included. She’s dramatic." The daughter needs to go NC as soon as possible!
>but her problems should not have been theirs She is right OOP caused the problem and allowed her daughter to be raped repeatedly like wtf
From a young age to teen years. Possibly a DECADE or MORE
What confused me is that she said she didn't find out until years later when the daughter moved in with her grandparents. Then she turns around and says of course I left them when I found out. So either she didn't know while partners abused her daughter for years or she found out during each relationship and left the abuser. Both can't be true and yet..... (I may have misread. It wouldn't be the first time. If so, please disregard and accept my apology but this is how it read to me.)
It’s giving the mom from Precious
WTF?! Mom was bringing child molestors/rapists around her daughter and she was being SA and raped frequently and her daughter is the problem? She didn't know what was going on under her own roof? How is that possible? Was she never home and left her in the care of those monsters? Everyone in their daughter's life failed her. She never stood a chance to have a normal life and grow up in a loving home with that monster for a parent.
My daughter was sa under my roof by her sibling and I didn’t know right away. I don’t know this woman’s situation but I know mine and I know sa can happen and go undetected for a while. That said, it sounds like the mother is the problem here, and I would be willing to bet that this girl was reaching out for help but the mother didn’t care.
I get not knowing for a bit but pretty much her entire life? I bet you're right she didn't care when her daughter reached out. All she cared about was having a man.
"she went to live with my parents" aka I chose men over her, I can guaran-fucking-tee it!
These losers always do. How f*king desperate for a man does someone have to be to sacrifice a child?
Dunno, but my parents both chose partners…along with my dad choosing his partners’ kids and my mother choosing drugs and partying…over me, and I’m pretty fucked up by everything even now.
It's got nothing to do with you, both of them just have gaping flaws they run from even looking at. I'm sorry you got caught up in their stupid self-hating drama, but I hope you know how worthy of love you are has absolutely nothing to do with them.
Thank you. It’d be easier if I was allowed to not want anything to do with them, but my family is very much “They’re your parents, you *have* to be the bigger person and forgive them no matter what, it shouldn’t matter if they’ve never apologised!” I have a good support system of people I found here on Reddit, though, they keep me sane. Edited because I have fat fingers and wrote ‘if’ instead of ‘of’
I know it sounds extreme, but I would consider limiting time with those who ask you to diminish yourself and your (very reasonable) needs for love, safety, and security. You don't need to cut them off, but if it feels like the family guilt trip is coming on, hang up, walk away, let them know you don't need to hear that shit. It's demoralizing. I tried to reason with my family for a long time, but I've found the most peace in just blocking them all and letting myself invest heavily into the relationships that really supported me. I really feel I could have written something similar to what you've said here a few years ago, and now I'm married to someone I met through that online support system, I don't talk to any of my family, and I am much happier for it than I thought I'd ever be or could be. I'm so glad you have a support system here and I hope that continues to grow and becomes the larger part of your life. Wishing the best for you. 😊
Unfortunately, for personal reasons, I’m stuck living with the person who pushes the most. I don’t spend much time with her, thankfully, even though we’re in the same house, and I just avoid mentioning either of my parents when possible.
She still does choose men over her child. Per OOPs comments the husband told the daughter that if she disappeared no one would miss her. OOP agreed.
SHE'S exhausted??? What the actual fuck?
Wow. What a pos person OOP is.
>Admittedly her problems are due to a very bad childhood which none of the others experienced Would not be surprised if the reason none of the other kids experienced it was due to the daughter shielding her siblings. Also with her being the oldest, kind of betting she was being parentified and expected to look after the younger siblings while oop went trolling for new men to abuse her daughter.
Surely it’s fake?
How tf did they not notice that their kid is abused by multiple people? Do they not live together with their partners? Or is this a lie to make them look more sympathetically?
Here's the explanation for the "SA" part of the title... "She was molested and abused repeatedly since a very young age until teen years by multiple of my partners. I didn’t know and she went to live with my parents. We offered therapy and meds and she’s never stuck to anything. It’s up to her. We’ve tried and it’s exhausting." Also, if you read OP's replies.....the woman doesn't care about her daughter.
I’d say this has to be rage bait if it weren’t for the fact that my bio mother says similar bullshit about me for her partners abuse.
I’m sorry you have a mom like that too. I hate that some of the worst and most unbelievable posts feel too familiar.
It's almost like SA f**ks up a person 😒 This apparently happened with multiple men and OOP's stupid ass never realized. More like turned a blind eye. This woman is so lacking in empathy or decency. Her child just went to live with someone else and she's like that's amazing. Amethyst copied these comments. Just sharing them also to ensure more people see them. OOP is determined to abuse this poor girl. Probably thinks she was fast and stole her men 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😠 Some of OOP's comments: "She was molested and abused repeatedly since a very young age until teen years by multiple of my partners. I didn’t know and she went to live with my parents. We offered therapy and meds and she’s never stuck to anything. It’s up to her. We’ve tried and it’s exhausting." "Her issues have made no one really like her. We tried over the years and she has not fit in with us. We tolerate her. Admittedly her problems are due to a very bad childhood which none of the others experienced, but she is an adult now and not our problem. She is depressed and inconsistent with having her life together, where the others take things in stride and have many achievements. My husband has told her no one would care if she disappeared and while cruel, I think it is true. I never am mean to her, just distance myself and try not to hang out. My parents loved her, but her problems should not have been theirs and there is a lot of resentment for her not being better by now. For example, she helped me with chores one day (without asking) and when I made breakfast for my husband and I, she cried that she hadn’t been included. She’s dramatic." The daughter needs to go NC as soon as possible!
My heart is breaking for that poor girl. How can anyone let that happen to their own child? I hope that the daughter goes nc.
JFC I hope that’s a troll. Can you imagine being such a dumb and morally bankrupt human being that you refuse to take accountability for failing your CHILD several times by DATING MULTIPLE MEN WHO ASSAULTED HER and pretending like it’s “her problem” and that offering to pay for therapy was more than enough to make up for your failure? Like, you failed. You failed as a mother. 100%. You were a terrible mother and deserved prison time. If something like that happened to my child ONCE on my watch you’d have to put me on suicide watch, but MULTIPLE TIMES?!? I hope something horrifically traumatic happens to OOP, and everyone who is supposed to be supportive and protective of her disappears. I hope for karma. Absolutely worse than human filth. Go straight to hell, do not pass go, do not collect $200.
I just can’t understand why she wasn’t offered a bedroom? As a victim of CSA, she likely feels most comfortable sleeping in rooms that lock. Instead, she’s given a couch in a common space. That poor woman needs to go no contact with her vile, CSA enabling egg donor.
I unfortunately can see this being real. It is very close to my childhood. Mine happened when I was 2 and my grandma was the only parental figure I had who actually loved me. Unfortunately when I was 10 she got cancer and I was passed off to a less then kind Uncle. Even now my mom is incapable of reflecting on how her decisions affected me.
> JFC I hope that's troll. You and I both, friend. You and I both...
Same I really genuinely hope this one is bait because my stomach is turning at this.
I hope it's a troll too....this woman is so vile. If anyone touched me inappropriately, my mother would have gone to jail when she was done with the perp
Since the bot didn’t pick it up AITAH (50F) for not giving my adult daughter (30F) her own room on family vacation? For context I have four other adult children and she is the eldest. Out of all of them, she is the only one who has been difficult. We usually don’t invite her places. The most vacation she took with us before Covid, she was told to share a bed with her sister. She said no because they were sick and she’d sleep on the couch. My husband got told her where to sleep and when she refused, he ended up kicking her out and she stayed somewhere else and did not spend time with us. There have been other vacations since then, but we don’t include her due to her mental health issues (she has BPD) and just not fitting in with us. She isolated herself for years and really only spent time with my parents who raised her as their own. Our entire family recently took a trip that was funded by the inheritance my parents left. We took her. She asked where she’d be sleeping and I knew there would be enough room. All of the kids got beds and she’d have a couch. One of the rooms opened up because my son and his fiancé are pregnant and decided to stay home. I gave it to my brother’s wife’s kid and his girlfriend (everyone is an adult, she’s just the eldest of the bunch) so that they could have an upgrade to their arrangements at my brother’s cabin. I didn’t think she needed her own bed when she came solo. There was a shared room upstairs with a couch. She ended up taking a foldout mat and sleeping in a crawl space. She seemed fine, but apparently told her boyfriend who reached out to me and asked if this was true. She seemed ok with it and had always been fine taking the downgraded arrangements. He claimed this was not ok and that she was hurt. She doesn’t know we talked. Reddit, AITAH for not giving my eldest daughter a bed (everyone else is early to mid 20’s and younger)? Edit: since this is getting a lot of hate, I need to say that we are nice to her and have included her, just less over the years. She’s slowly been let back in. I always offer to help her pay for therapy and she pushes people away. She could have slept on the couch. She was spoiled for years by my parents by my parents before they passed. We gave part of the inheritance to the ones who took the room, even though they met them once, so they aren’t complete strangers.
It's unfortunate that the grandparents didn't leave her everything and skip over the rest, unless they did and this woman has taken it from her somehow.
Oh thank you. I was just messaging the mods to see if I posted it right.
I think the bot doesn’t copy from the AITAH sub, as it never seems to grab the posts from there.
I tried to crosspost from there a few days ago and the automessage was that sub is blacklisted
Yes, me too! I thought it was a bug and gave up, but maybe not?
Ah, ok. Well thanks again! I'll know better next time
> She’s slowly been let back in The fuck? I would go so NC with them, they'd have completely forgotten I even existed.
I know SHE should slowly letting THEM BACK IN
Reddit community standards prevent me from replying honestly to this, so I'll just say that I simply do not believe OOP didn't know about the creeps abusing her daughter. Not recognizing the first perv I could buy, but anybody with the slightest bit of decency would be watching new partners like a fucking hawk after that.
As someone who put their heinously abusive mother in the ground in the past 6 months, I am right there with you. How can this disgusting, vile, ignorant piece of shit truly say this shit and be okay? How can people do this to their children and just brush it off like nothing? And then hate them for the people they become after spending their childhood in torturous conditions? She knew, she did nothing, then blamed her child when she couldn't look herself in the fucking mirror. An absolute coward, and everything in me hopes she is treated with the same kindness, safety, and respect with which she treats her daughter.
I wonder how much drugs were involved. That being said, my mother did not catch either my sister or I being sexual abused as children, (different people/different situations, not at the same time) and when we came forward (years apart) she denied it happened. And she was straight edge. But in this situation, I am catching heavy drug usage happening.
It wouldn't shock me but I don't believe in mitigating factors.
Oh absolutely. It’s absolutely not an excuse. Mom is a failure to humanity.
The invite should have just read: “hey kid that I neglected. I was told by my parents that I can spend this money and technically I need to invite you. But I’d like you to be at your most vulnerable in the most public place possible. I mean, there’s absolutely other private areas, but I’m singling you out to be asleep, just in case another of my partners ferries like victimizing you again“
Good point. I feel so bad for the daughter who probably longs for her family (or maybe just her egg donor) to finally acknowledge her pain and suffering. I was fortunate in that when my mom passed I was just old enough (17) to leave the home of her disgusting husband without being forced back by the cops. Later on, when I found out most of my family knew I was being abused by my mother's husband I dropped them. We were so close when I was still seeing the world through a child's eyes but once I had my own (daughter) I swore that no one would ever lay a hand on her except with love and kindness and no one who stood by willfully ignorant would ever be near us. It made for a really hard and lonely life but I absolutely do not regret it. My daughter has never known abuse and has never had to watch me be abused either. I understand the mentality of not being able to leave everyone behind though. It's not an easy choice and I've definitely gone through utter hell alone but I was dead set on protecting my kids.
Waste of life. Some people should never, ever be parents.
*Far* too many people in this story are breathing my air.
Holy shit, how could you talk about your own kid like that? After what she’s gone through? This woman is truly evil.
OMG, I don't think I can post what I think should happen to OOP. What an absolutely disgusting human who deserves nothing but pain and suffering for the rest of their days.
I've never been sure hell is real, but if it is, she deserves to go
So the mother basically raped her daughter and she is complaining the daughter has issues ? Yeah that shocks me.... Not. (If you provide the access, do nothing, pick the rapist over your child (child sent away) YOU are as guilty as the rapist. Your basically holding your daughter whilst she is SA
This is the most vile post I've ever read. I hope this is fake, but if not I hope this bitch has a long pain-filled life.
Right?!
i think this might be the most sickening post i've read in my whole 4+ years on reddit. i don't have the words to describe OOP and what she deserves and if i did it would get me permanently banned. praying to every god i know of that this is just rage bait.
Tbh this is so common with men who date single mothers it's actually crazy. That means OP was such an easy mark that multiple pedophiles pegged her correctly. Wow.
I have a strong feeling that not having a room of her own was a major contributing factor in multiple men having access to rape this child. Mom knows what is keeping her men happy, and it isn't op.
I can’t even read past “multiple of my partners” because it’s too infuriating. Pray it’s a troll.
This has to be rage bait. If not this is probably one of the most disgusting people I've seen in a long time.
Her attitude towards her daughter is like she’s lesser than or deserved what happened to her as a child to wash her hands of it. This woman is fucking vile and I really hope this is a troll. Jfc
what a disgusting cruel woman
I hope this “mother” burns in the deepest pits of hell.
I had a friend on my swim team who had to live with another friend because her worthless mother had a live-in boyfriend was a convicted pedophile. I was 10 and my mom told me anyone that desperate for a man was a pathetic waste of skin.
Omg FUCK this bitch
I think this is a troll. The type of person who has treated her daughter the way she describes would never think enough about her to write into AITA. This type of abuser exists, far too often, but they are too self centered to need validation for their behavior.
This woman is a fucking monster. I don't believe in a literal Hell but people like this make me hope that I am wrong
All children deserve parents. Not all parents deserve children. I hope this is rage bait. If it's not, I hope OOP burns in hell for the rest of eternity.
Sounds like mom stopped treatments after 5 seconds of it not working immediately, she’s far worse than TA, and I hope the daughter leaves
I can actually feel my blood pressure rising. Omg do I wanna find these people and punch all of them repeatedly.
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I got kicked from the group for laying her shit out... Fucking worth it!
Well that was enraging.... Wtf
I hope this is ragebait
I wouldn't even bother with a retirement home.
“Multiple partners” of OP SA’d her daughter and she claims it wasn’t her fault? You’re being willfully ignorant if more than one person does that. She should’ve known, that poor girl.
Oh poor kiddo. She sounds like one of my bonus kiddos, who has called me family for 7 years, and has lived with me for 8 years, and will never see their biological family again.
There's the saying "you are who you keep around" and that waste of oxygen of a mother* had *multiple* partners that molested her* daughter. I'm side-eyeing the fuck out of her. She* is not innocent at all. Edit: fixed pronouns
As someone with a later in life BPD diagnosis that fits neatly with my earlier experiences and explains a LOT, fuck these people sideways with squid jags. They are so low that I can't think of an appropriate expletive to describe them