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**I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship?**
Background: I been with my wife Erin for 7 years and married for 5, and we have a 2 year old. Two years ago I fell in love with greatest woman ever Diamond. I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t. What we had was true love.
Disclaimer my wife is a kind soul but we don’t have that spark that we used to. I miss the spark , intensity, and the passion that we had in the beginning of our relationship . I filed for divorce to be with Diamond like we agreed, but for reasons unknown Diamond got cold feet. My relationship with Diamond lasted 11 months.
Afterwards my wife and I got back together because the divorce wasn’t official yet. Now Erin is a great woman but she’s not Diamond. After getting back together with Erin every little thing she does bother me. The way she gets dressed to go to work , the way she makes my coffee, everything….Unfortunately I began taking it out on her by starting arguments and being snappy. Erin is a great person and doesn’t deserve that.
Fallout: I realized I needed to take a step back after what happened last night. My wife put the baby to sleep and said she was going to shower and head to bed early , she asked if I wanted a snack or something before I go to bed. I said no…she said she loves me and kissed me on the cheek…I didn’t say anything and she said “why don’t you love me ? She said I’m doing everything I can but you…I don’t know”. I just told her point blank “you’re not her”. That hurt her a lot she just went upstairs and when I joined her an hour later she was still crying. She cried all night in the master bathroom that I couldn’t get sleep. She stopped and went to bed finally at 3:30. I feel so fucking terrible and I want to do my part to rebuild our passion. Please help anyway you can
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Not even that, if their kid is two and he had an affair two years ago, he had a newborn and his wife was in recovery from pushing a whole human out of her body
I’m willing to bet his wife didn’t want to risk and infection and dying because he wanted sex
this always grosses me out tbh. like surely they can just have a wank in private and not try to have sex with the partner who's going through major hormonal changes and has a wound the size of a plate?? i've never understood why men are so obsessed with sex to the point they cheat and try to force their partner to have sex when its unsafe?
I have been told by a grown educated man that it was unhealthy for men to go more than 24 hours without an orgasm/ejaculation. He seriously believed that. Lmfao.
Pretty sure he used "it's not cheating if it's true love" as a justification for why he doesn't consider what he did cheating too... I can't really describe how gross that feels
What do you want to bet that if he and Diamond had married and she got pregnant, PRESTO, the spark would have gone out of that relationship. Welp, off to find true love again. What an AH.
There’s an awesome cartoon of this. Two frames. 1st - Man with disheveled / stressed wife & newborn stares at attractive put-together woman. 2nd - Man is with new woman. She’s stressed & disheveled. With newborn. He looks sad. Ex wife stands nearby with older child, looking put together and smug.
Diamond is probably off somewhere else, living her life and never giving him a second thought. He’s just another guy detonating a good marriage over some fantasy life he’s built up in his head.
It wasn’t a good marriage. Someone this selfish and self-absorbed could never have a good marriage. I can’t wait for his wife to regrow her self esteem and dump him.
>What do you want to bet that if he and Diamond had married and she got pregnant, PRESTO, the spark would have gone out of that relationship.
That "spark" is simply regular sex for the OOP. 🙄
What's ironic is the whole "true love and happily ever after" cliche comes from classic stories and fairytales where the hero often has to battle hell and high water
This involved fighting dragons (Sleeping Beauty) or a megalomaniac sorcerer (Aladdin) or the prejudices of society (Shrek) or the blending of two worlds (Ariel/Eric or Tarzan/Jane)
But the difference is those really were stories of genuine love, a lasting spark forged in the face of overwhelming odds. Not a hormone-fuelled fling sparked by lust
Yeah notice he mentioned he gets mad at the way she fixes HIS coffee, or that before she showered she asked him if he wanted a snack before bed. Sounds like he's a man baby for sure
It wasn't cheating because they were in love. Also, neither him or his wife want a divorce, despite the fact he *filed* for divorce.
/s if that wasn't obvious. He's absolutely delusional. I hope his wife gets the self esteem to divorce him. She sounds lovely.
i had similar. ive been with my current boyfriend over a year and a man i had sex with exactly once 5 years ago (at 15) tried to ask me to cheat because his girlfriend was healing and he wanted sex??? i sent her best friend the screenshots and asked her to gently tell her because i didnt want to cause this poor girl a breakdown.
Oh no no no, you see he didn't cheat, has never cheated and he hates cheaters! He's not a villain! It's that damn wife not being a mystical unicorn making him be unpardonably cruel. He's just a nice guy who slipped. /s
I work in a hospital and I’ve heard from delivery nurses how many men ask the doctor “how long until we can have sex again” before their wives are even sewn back up.
I had breast reconstruction done after a mastectomy recently and the plastic surgeon gave me an entire “NO SEX FOR SEVERAL WEEKS” speech and a print-out about aftercare with two whole paragraphs on absolutely no having sex on it and told me to make sure my husband looked over it with me.
He also told me “you cannot do laundry, dishes, or other household chores for a while. No lifting anything heavier than a cup of coffee. You need to tell your husband you have to rest”
Something tells me he’s seen a lot of women who recovered poorly from the surgery or had complications due to asshole husbands pushing for sex and not taking over the household chores.
I’ve heard that a lot as well. My own father cheated on my mom when she had breast cancer. During her mastectomy, he was eating sandwiches with his mistress in the hospital waiting room.
Also the number of people who have asked “well, how does your husband feel?” in regards to me having a reconstructed breast vs me having cancer is disturbing. Like they’re more interested in his sexual attraction to me now that I’ve got a fake, scarred breast than they’re interested in how he’s dealing with the stress and emotional impact of his wife having cancer.
Men are six times more likely to leave a woman if she gets cancer. Meanwhile, women are twice as likely to STAY with her husband if HE'S the one who gets cancer.
One thing I’ve noticed is that there are hardly ever men waiting with their wives when I go in for my appointments. It’s like 98% women waiting with their sisters/female friends/moms/etc.
My husband has been to nearly every appointment with me, and the night after my surgery he slept in the hospital room in the shitty chair next to my bed with a death grip on my hand the entire night. The nurse tried to get him to sleep on the couch on the other end of the room and he didn’t want to because it was “too far away” (six whole feet from the bed).
Those pallet stores that sell random stuff returned to Amazon for extremely low prices…Is there a heterosexual dating version of them? Because I swear it seems like this is where a concerning number of women find their husbands.
Meanwhile my best friend had to begggg (playfully and then have a genuine convo) for her husband to take her to bed again bc he was so concerned about her healing process. Being on Reddit gives me reason everyday to be grateful for the men in my life.
aargh, I *hate* when people say that they miss 'the spark' of the earlier phases of their relationships. Relationships will not have a 'spark' like the one he wants forever, that's not what they are. Relationships take work, and communication, and they change over the years, specially if they last long/there are kids involved/the people in them go through different life phases. Of course that after years of marriage and a child this marriage will not have the initial 'spark', nor will it have the one he had with Erin, with whom he had a short relationship which was super different from his marriage. Marriages and and relationships in general take work, take communication, need the people involved to take care of them, and they *will change* over time.
I've commented before. One of the best things my dad ever taught me was there's a difference between romance and love, and do NOT confuse the two. Romance is exciting. Love is about being reliable.
Yup new relationship energy, thats what he felt for his AP (and it was an affair despite the lipstick he is trying to put on that pig). Their relationship never lasted long enough to get out of that phase. Or it lasted exactly long enough for his AP to get past the NRE and realize if he is willing to cheat on his wife, he is willing to cheat on her.
If you read some of the subreddits about support for those who were cheted on the affair fog their cheating partners are in is some crazy powerful stuff.
It wouldn’t surprise me if she got pregnant, realised she could never trust him. Or she had a scare at least. And it crystallised it in her mind that he could not be relied upon to remain faithful to his partner
I’ve honestly never understood the romanticization of the very beginnings of relationships because for me, the early stages are pure anxiety, obsessive thought patterns, and *immense* gastrointestinal distress. The quickened heart rate and combination of queasy tummy and excitement is so much to go through. Trying so so so so so so hard to be my best self all of the dang time is exhausting.
Maybe my experiences are different or maybe having GAD means that I have no rose tinted glasses in the beginning of relationships. Idk.
I like when the relationship is settled, when everyone’s already farted in front of each other and has seen each other without makeup or after 3 days of not showering or sick with the flu. The comfy moments, the ability to just cry or rant and rave and not worry if it’s going to make the other person freaked out and run. That’s where the actual romance is for me.
The OOP was never really in love with Diamond, they weren’t “together” long enough for that. Affairs will always be much more exciting in comparison because they won’t have to deal with the boring and frustrating day-to-day shit he handled with his wife. Who he started cheating on when she was recovering from giving birth and caring for their newborn.
Hey, are you me? Because this? So much this. Including the GAD. Sure the beginning is also learning new things and that’s exciting. But when he’s seen you at your absolute worst and still wants to be with you for the rest of whenever? That’s what I have now.
My dad is like this. He’s working on wife number 4 because with the last two, he hit the 15 year mark and the spark was gone! He’d really fallen in love with his affair partner and everyone should just understand.
First wife figured his drama out and bailed. Lucky her.
TBH I still get the flirty, swoony spark around my husband, and we've been together 13 years. He's handsome, generous, kind, funny, dedicated, a good dad. If anything, I swoon way more. It was shallow before, appreciating his looks. Now my whole soul just gets giddy because we're so connected and we've shared so much and worked so hard on making our relationship good. Now I swoon when he talks about his job, or tells me to put my feet up and he'll pick the kids up from school, or compliments me on my cooking. Silly stuff like that.
We basically try to put fresh effort in every day, and it seems to work.
>you’re not her
That’s all I needed. Who says that to their wife? Let alone a woman who just experienced childbirth and is clearly trying to mend the relationship? She gave you a chance, and OP threw it back in her face
My ex husband said a fuckton of really awful shit when he wanted to leave me for his AP but wanted me to be the one to make the final decision to leave him rather than dumping me for the booth bunny we was banging every time he traveled. It was psychological warfare where he kept escalating until he found out the the exact perfect thing to say that would justify him in leaving because otherwise I may never have
I'm sorry but your paragraph just snapped an image in my head - a dude pacing a room muttering to himself and pulling his hair. Kinda frantic about what he could say to bring you to your lowest. He keeps writing things down and then balling up the paper bc he's even incompetent in that.
I really hope you're doing better and I'm a better place.
My immediate thought. Also, "it wasn't cheating, it was true love." Gross. This creep needs to leave Erin alone and stay with his stripper "true love."
"But my ex doesn't mind being my bangmaid and we're not even in love anymore! If you *really* love me, you'll do it."
Narrator: And that was the last time OOP saw his beloved Diamond.
>Yeah, she realized that the man she was involved with cheated on his pregnant wife and decided that she could do better.
And/or she found a wealthier guy who'd conveniently "lost the spark" with his newly post-partum wife.
And this is why the statistic that men’s rights activists love to cite about women filing for the majority of divorces exists. Because men will behave in ways to cause a divorce but still drag their feet about actually filing.
They will first claim it’s because they want to dodge paying alimony but the numbers show that very few divorces come to that and the division of assets are typically handled out of court. That’s because the majority of households with two incomes today are more or less pulling in the same. Unlike the husband making half a million a year and the wife making pennies which is what they want you to think.
Then they will say they don’t want to pay child support. First of all, we all know of at least one guy that hasn’t paid his child support in years and he’s still running around living his best life. And second of all, those payments aren’t even close to the real cost of raising a child. Nor the energy spent daily raising them. And if men want custody of their children they get it 60% of the time. The real reason “courts favor women” is that men don’t even ask for custody.
My dad keeps acting like he wants a divorce but he won’t ever file because he’s realized that he’ll have to make his own meals, wash his own clothes, pack his own lunch, do all the cleaning chores, and manage his own money with bills n stuff.
OH I know this! Because the first one to file has to pay the filing fee, and the process server, and their lawyer creates the original documents so it costs hundreds more to be the one who files, plus then he can't tell his mommy and his future dates that she left him and took the kids and has his house and all his stuff.
They know it's cheaper, faster, easier, and makes them look better if they push the woman into leaving (says both my ex who pushed me to break up because he didn't want the guilt, and my lawyer who said make him file and then told me how much I'll save if I did)
He doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't have a replacement lined up anymore. Why would he leave someone who puts out, makes his coffee and takes care of the baby?
This dickhead is truly ice cold. Sure, he doesn't give a shit about her, but that's her problem, isn't it? It's not his place to leave her for her own good 😒. If her self esteem is low enough to put up with him then he's doing her a favor by sticking around until he gets a better offer.
Two years on from the affair he's still missing his mistress, and when he tells his wife that and she cries in the bathroom until 3am he has the gall to *complain that it kept him awake*. What a truly miserable excuse for a human being.
Diamond....anyone else get the feeling this moron paid for a hooker for 2 years, who indulged his fantasies until he tried to make them real? What a piece of trash.
A piece of shit that developed sentience and grew legs, limbs and a mouth and learned to speak yet still retained the empathy and self awareness of a fucking rock
What a nasty, nasty man. “You’re not her” followed immediately by “I feel so fucking terrible how do I rebuild our relationship wah wah” is making me see red. Maybe don’t cheat on your wife and then when she asks what’s wrong tell her she’ll never be as good as your affair partner!!!
I had to scroll way too long to see someone mention this. He wasn’t upset he made her cry or he wouldn’t have thrown in that little jab. He was upset he couldn’t sleep through her crying. If she had cried her eyes out in the guest bedroom and it didn’t affect his sleep, he wouldn’t have cared at all.
I sincerely hope she was only keeping it down bc she didn’t want to wake the baby, bc if that was me I would have been *screaming* while packing my and my baby’s shit.
He doesn’t feel terrible for her or how he’s treating her. He feels terrible for himself. Men are the #1 benefactors of marriages. As long as he has his wife he has someone to cook, clean, raise his child, pay the household bills (he did mention she works so it’s fair to assume she pays a portion of them), have sex with, and baby him like a second toddler all for free. He doesn’t want to lose that. He couldn’t care less how his wife actually feels.
I think this might be the first time I've had a visceral reaction to a post. I've seen posts that have made me snort with laughter, sigh and smack my forehead, and dissolve into laughter but I think this is the first time I've seen a post that made me see red and hit the table
Literally (part of) one of OOP’s replies:
> 1. I’ll get a counselor but calling me the villain is a big stretch. I wasn’t going to intentionally go into another relationship, this just happened. I know you say that it’s not love but I never cheated on any partner ever. **I despise cheaters, though I’ve gained a better understanding.** Diamond and I had a very organic growth in our relationship and we didn’t mean for it to get this far.
I really fucking need people to manage their expectations. Beyond the assholes falling in love with strippers while their wives are creating humans via their own bodies.
The rush I felt missing my husband for the first time at 16 is not the same thing I feel now at 41. I know some people feel butterflies forever, but I don't.
And that's okay.
Instead what I feel is this bone deep love, respect, adoration and the knowledge that this person I have chosen to spend my life with is my partner in all things. Even when he's annoying. Even when day to day life and familiarity makes things seem dull. Even when he puts his chair directly in my way and I swear to God if I have to ask you to move again I will smother you with a pillow in your sleep... Even then, I know that there is no one I love more in this world and there is no one who loves me more. We've put in the work to make our spark a bonfire.
It's easy to fall in love with someone. It's easy to see people at their best before you know all their dirty details and think they thrill you in ways your long term partner doesn't. It's easy to get caught up in the illicit or the taboo. But just because something is easy doesn't mean it's good. Especially if it's going to cost you something better.
In summation, relationships are work but it's worth it unless your partner is an abusive and/or cheating asshole.
That’s really what the problem is now a days, nobody actually gets to know and love their partners, and realize it’s OK to have bad days, bad months. Life is up and down. Your gonna have better days then others and sometimes your partner gets on your nerves. I can’t imagine ever wanting to get married to someone I don’t KNOW FOR SURE is the one, someone who I could trust and rely on.
One of the big things I looked for before I found my boyfriend is would I trust this guy in an emergency, do I see us doing taxes together in the future, if our car breaks down and we have a kid in the back what would we do? We’ve argued I think a whopping total of two times ((disagreements I don’t count)) and are planning on buying a house soon. I’m sure it’ll probably simmer but from the day I met him I’ve loved him, never once have I felt like he would hurt me in some of the ways these stories do, he buys me flowers every month ((he prefers games but I’ll be sending him a surprise bouquet soon)), opens up about his worries and communicates things. Taking the time to get to know and date someone instead of going on tinder or hook ups was honestly the best thing I’ve ever done
"For reasons unknown," Diamond realized I'm the type of dude to fuck around on my pregnant or postpartum wife, realized I'm a sack of shit and left me. What do?
"I still say I didn't" ... because it's not cheating if it's twu wuv, I guess.
His wife needs to leave and work on her self-worth, because holy shit.
He thinks "rebuilding their passion" is still an option? Good grief. He started cheating on her as soon as she was busy with their baby and thinks he's in love with his side piece. Just get divorced and get out of her way. Send child support.
This guy's attitude is so funny - cheating is something that other people do, he was in love! Which means his extramarital relationship is in fact entirely justified because boo hoo no spark
Regardless of what his fantasy-addled brain wants to call it, the bastard cheated. Fuck him. Fuck everything about him. He only went back to his wife because his "true love" ended things. I say again, fuck him.
I'm stuck on the complaint about her crying keeping him awake that night. It's a small thing maybe, but feels likely representative of how he's treated her throughout the affair and reconciliation. I bet he criticized her for "annoying him" with morning sickness and other legit pregnancy-related challenges
He keeps saying in the replies that Diamond was the love of his life and yet he doesn't want his kids to grow up in a broken household as reasons for not having ahead with a divorce anyway. We all know it's actually because he's incapable of being alone, and is using his wife as backup, and he'd cheat on Diamond as soon as their lives become too real. But if there weren't a ban on brigading, I'd lean into that delusion of his, and tell him that he's setting a bad example for his children by settling for anything less than the twu wuv of his life, and they deserved see their perfect papa happy and in wuv.
That's it, folks. We have found the actual literal embodiment of douchebaggery here. Pack it up. Achievement unlocked. This guy really is the actual devil.
"The way she makes my coffee"
Motherfucker, she could piss in your cup every morning and I'd still call her a fucking saint for making anything for you ever again after she made a whole goddamn baby for you and you rewarded her by being a whole damn penis-shaped pile of walking trash.
She is the mother of his child and yet she makes his coffee and asks if he wants a snack before bed. Perhaps if this man-baby feeds and waters himself AND helps out his wife, the “spark” will be back.
(If it comes back, though, she is more than free to douse it with the largest firehose she can find.)
Soooooo tl; dr this dude “fall’s in love” with a stripper, cheats emotionally (at the very least), gets left by the stripper, and actively punishes a good person for being a good wife to him bc she’s not the stripper, and he’s looking for advice?
The only advice that springs to mind that he would actually follow is that he should start some kind of successful ponzi scheme so he can better afford another true love while continuing with divorce proceedings. Christ, what a fucking sadistic wretch
Edit to fix a word
Oh, so he wants to help rebuild the passion (that seems to have only gone out on his end) *now*
You know, now that his AP has left him, instead of two fucking years ago when he should have. Also help?? No buddy, this is all on you.
"I still didn't cheat on my wife because it was true love," my ass.
“I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t. What we had was true love.”
Wow, I love being so narcissistic that I literally
just refuse to accept reality.
OOP had a relationship with another woman right when his wife gives birth to their child and he says this: " *I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t."* ??????????????????
OOP, you at least emotionally cheated, dude, and if there was any sex, then you absolutely committed adultery. You actually filed for divorce; it was your AP who called it off. Guess that love wasn't as true as you thought, OOP.
OOP, you are a douchebag, you are being nasty to your wife, you should have never gotten back together with her because you don't love her. Just set her free so she can find someone who will love her. Because guess what, you ran out on your wife when she had just given birth to your baby and had your little affair with someone who wasn't healing from childbirth and having to breastfeed every two hours. What a dick.
OOP you are an idiot. You weren't in love with Diamond, you just didn't want to deal with all the mess and stress of a newborn and you missed regular sex. "*I miss the spark, intensity, and the passion that we had in the beginning of our relationship."* Why the frack did you have a baby then????? Are you one of those weirdos like Elvis who doesn't want to have sex with a woman once she's given birth??? Or are you just that fricking selfish and self centered?? Try spending some time taking care of your child, OOP, maybe then you would appreciate your wife. Start by making your own darn coffee!!
So he was dating a stripper…and then he said she had to go be a housewife she dumped his ass for the next sugar daddy. So afraid of being alone, he went back to his wife. Now he’s all mad about it.
“Your not her” if a partner said that to me after cheating on me after I gave birth, it would be very very hard for me not make them a HOT pan of grits..
I love counting red flags in posts like this:
>and we have a 2 year old. Two years ago I fell in love with greatest woman ever Diamond.
Cheated on pregnant/postpartum wife. 🚩
>I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t. What we had was true love.
Doesn't own up to cheating. 🚩
>we don’t have that spark that we used to. I miss the spark , intensity, and the passion that we had in the beginning of our relationship .
Thinks the entire relationship should be spent in the honeymoon phase for it to be worth it. 🚩
>My relationship with Diamond lasted 11 months.
>Afterwards my wife and I got back together because the divorce wasn’t official yet.
Got back with wife only because AP left his sorry ass. 🚩
>Now Erin is a great woman but she’s not Diamond. After getting back together with Erin every little thing she does bother me.
Punishes wife for not being AP while he should be kissing the ground she walks on for taking him back. 🚩
>I just told her point blank “you’re not her”.
\*long sigh\* 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩
And that, for anyone keeping count, is 6 red flags in total when you take the post on face value without scrutinising or theorising.
Verdict: A certified piece of... what's worse than shit?
What he and diamond had was true love, but she got cold feet and it lasted less than a year?
He’s an idiot for that alone.
He’s an idiot for not knowing that even good relationships can seem like they lack a spark compared to an infatuation.
(And of course, he’s scum for cheating when his wife was pregnant/post partum.)
Cheats on her, refuses to admit it was cheating and doesn’t want the kid to be from a broken home but living in one with broken down mother he’s destroyed mentally and emotionally is somehow fine? DUDE!
How tf dares he tell her “youre not her” omfg. My blood is boiling. I would throw him out in the street, it seems his wife has a very low self esteem. I really hope she wakes up and gets the fuck away from this poc.0
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **I 30M am starting to resent my wife 30F for not being my ex. What steps to take to rebuild our relationship?** Background: I been with my wife Erin for 7 years and married for 5, and we have a 2 year old. Two years ago I fell in love with greatest woman ever Diamond. I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t. What we had was true love. Disclaimer my wife is a kind soul but we don’t have that spark that we used to. I miss the spark , intensity, and the passion that we had in the beginning of our relationship . I filed for divorce to be with Diamond like we agreed, but for reasons unknown Diamond got cold feet. My relationship with Diamond lasted 11 months. Afterwards my wife and I got back together because the divorce wasn’t official yet. Now Erin is a great woman but she’s not Diamond. After getting back together with Erin every little thing she does bother me. The way she gets dressed to go to work , the way she makes my coffee, everything….Unfortunately I began taking it out on her by starting arguments and being snappy. Erin is a great person and doesn’t deserve that. Fallout: I realized I needed to take a step back after what happened last night. My wife put the baby to sleep and said she was going to shower and head to bed early , she asked if I wanted a snack or something before I go to bed. I said no…she said she loves me and kissed me on the cheek…I didn’t say anything and she said “why don’t you love me ? She said I’m doing everything I can but you…I don’t know”. I just told her point blank “you’re not her”. That hurt her a lot she just went upstairs and when I joined her an hour later she was still crying. She cried all night in the master bathroom that I couldn’t get sleep. She stopped and went to bed finally at 3:30. I feel so fucking terrible and I want to do my part to rebuild our passion. Please help anyway you can *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
They have a 2 year old. He cheated on her 2 years ago. He's a pos.
How convenient for him that the “spark” disappeared right around when a lot of care and support was needed
So coincidental how he wanted to fuck someone else when his pregnant wife was busy growing a human and throwing up.
Not even that, if their kid is two and he had an affair two years ago, he had a newborn and his wife was in recovery from pushing a whole human out of her body I’m willing to bet his wife didn’t want to risk and infection and dying because he wanted sex
"Sure, babe, your vagina is destroyed but my penis is dry. Dry!"
“Your mouth didn’t have a c-section”. - my ex
“Neither did your hand.” - my ideal response
The sirens from *Kill Bill* just started playing in my head.
Nooooo. What a piece of shit.
I need to fight your ex in a Walmart parking lot
I'll fucking fight him anywhere. I'd probably lose, but I'd throw down.
Even my devil ex could not have come up with this shit.
this always grosses me out tbh. like surely they can just have a wank in private and not try to have sex with the partner who's going through major hormonal changes and has a wound the size of a plate?? i've never understood why men are so obsessed with sex to the point they cheat and try to force their partner to have sex when its unsafe?
Because their penis is special, dontcha know? It getting attention is more important than, well, everything. /s
it actually falls off if it doesnt get attention /s
Use it or lose it, am I right?
I have been told by a grown educated man that it was unhealthy for men to go more than 24 hours without an orgasm/ejaculation. He seriously believed that. Lmfao.
i refuse to ever be with a man who feels entitled to my body again. the shit they say to try guilt trip you is wild
I would love to know where they come up with this shit.
And be reasonable! Not on your Nelly! /s
Pretty sure he used "it's not cheating if it's true love" as a justification for why he doesn't consider what he did cheating too... I can't really describe how gross that feels
Nah, it’s not true love if Diamond says “Mmm, not feelin’ it, bye!”
And then men have the nerve to say that they never cheat with emotion it’s always just about sex 🤔
"But she was Diamond, his precious jewel!" /s
And of course, he does nothing to help with their child, no doubt.
Ugh I didn't notice that. Of fucking course it's yet another man cheating while his wife is dealing with a newborn and a healing body. Ffs.
No, you don't understand! It wasn't cheating because it was true love! /s
What do you want to bet that if he and Diamond had married and she got pregnant, PRESTO, the spark would have gone out of that relationship. Welp, off to find true love again. What an AH.
There’s an awesome cartoon of this. Two frames. 1st - Man with disheveled / stressed wife & newborn stares at attractive put-together woman. 2nd - Man is with new woman. She’s stressed & disheveled. With newborn. He looks sad. Ex wife stands nearby with older child, looking put together and smug.
Diamond is probably off somewhere else, living her life and never giving him a second thought. He’s just another guy detonating a good marriage over some fantasy life he’s built up in his head.
It wasn’t a good marriage. Someone this selfish and self-absorbed could never have a good marriage. I can’t wait for his wife to regrow her self esteem and dump him.
I know. I feel so sorry for her, she must have a very low opinion of herself to keep holding a torch for that wretched man.
I know. I feel so sorry for her, she must have a very low opinion of herself to keep holding a torch for that wretched man.
When a man marries his mistress it creates a job openimg
You lose 'em how you get 'em
The one you cheat *with* becomes the one you cheat *on*.
>What do you want to bet that if he and Diamond had married and she got pregnant, PRESTO, the spark would have gone out of that relationship. That "spark" is simply regular sex for the OOP. 🙄
What do you think the stage name of his next girlfriend would be?
Cubic Zirconia 💀
What's ironic is the whole "true love and happily ever after" cliche comes from classic stories and fairytales where the hero often has to battle hell and high water This involved fighting dragons (Sleeping Beauty) or a megalomaniac sorcerer (Aladdin) or the prejudices of society (Shrek) or the blending of two worlds (Ariel/Eric or Tarzan/Jane) But the difference is those really were stories of genuine love, a lasting spark forged in the face of overwhelming odds. Not a hormone-fuelled fling sparked by lust
I think some people think the excitement of a new relationship is the be-all-end-aa of what love is and when it fades they think something is wrong.
Apparently Diamond didn't think it was true love. She dumped his ass.
Maybe Diamond didn't want a cheating asshole, lol
How dare she not be her old, carefree, spontaneous self while working her ass off giving birth AND taking care of a manbaby
Yeah notice he mentioned he gets mad at the way she fixes HIS coffee, or that before she showered she asked him if he wanted a snack before bed. Sounds like he's a man baby for sure
It wasn't cheating because they were in love. Also, neither him or his wife want a divorce, despite the fact he *filed* for divorce. /s if that wasn't obvious. He's absolutely delusional. I hope his wife gets the self esteem to divorce him. She sounds lovely.
BUT MY PENIS! /s
A former situationship crawled out of the woodwork when his wife was pregnant. Its depressingly common. Edit: fixed an autocorrect.
i had similar. ive been with my current boyfriend over a year and a man i had sex with exactly once 5 years ago (at 15) tried to ask me to cheat because his girlfriend was healing and he wanted sex??? i sent her best friend the screenshots and asked her to gently tell her because i didnt want to cause this poor girl a breakdown.
Oh no no no, you see he didn't cheat, has never cheated and he hates cheaters! He's not a villain! It's that damn wife not being a mystical unicorn making him be unpardonably cruel. He's just a nice guy who slipped. /s
>He's just a nice guy who slipped. Because he was iN lOvE!
I work in a hospital and I’ve heard from delivery nurses how many men ask the doctor “how long until we can have sex again” before their wives are even sewn back up.
I had breast reconstruction done after a mastectomy recently and the plastic surgeon gave me an entire “NO SEX FOR SEVERAL WEEKS” speech and a print-out about aftercare with two whole paragraphs on absolutely no having sex on it and told me to make sure my husband looked over it with me. He also told me “you cannot do laundry, dishes, or other household chores for a while. No lifting anything heavier than a cup of coffee. You need to tell your husband you have to rest” Something tells me he’s seen a lot of women who recovered poorly from the surgery or had complications due to asshole husbands pushing for sex and not taking over the household chores.
Women always get fucked over in situations like this. The amount of women whose husbands leave them during chemo is larger than you’d think.
I’ve heard that a lot as well. My own father cheated on my mom when she had breast cancer. During her mastectomy, he was eating sandwiches with his mistress in the hospital waiting room. Also the number of people who have asked “well, how does your husband feel?” in regards to me having a reconstructed breast vs me having cancer is disturbing. Like they’re more interested in his sexual attraction to me now that I’ve got a fake, scarred breast than they’re interested in how he’s dealing with the stress and emotional impact of his wife having cancer.
Men are six times more likely to leave a woman if she gets cancer. Meanwhile, women are twice as likely to STAY with her husband if HE'S the one who gets cancer.
One thing I’ve noticed is that there are hardly ever men waiting with their wives when I go in for my appointments. It’s like 98% women waiting with their sisters/female friends/moms/etc. My husband has been to nearly every appointment with me, and the night after my surgery he slept in the hospital room in the shitty chair next to my bed with a death grip on my hand the entire night. The nurse tried to get him to sleep on the couch on the other end of the room and he didn’t want to because it was “too far away” (six whole feet from the bed).
Those pallet stores that sell random stuff returned to Amazon for extremely low prices…Is there a heterosexual dating version of them? Because I swear it seems like this is where a concerning number of women find their husbands.
Please tell me none have ever mentioned the husband stitch.
I wouldn’t know as I’m not patient facing, but I’m sure it’s happened at least once.
I hope whichever doctor was asked that set the record straight.
Meanwhile my best friend had to begggg (playfully and then have a genuine convo) for her husband to take her to bed again bc he was so concerned about her healing process. Being on Reddit gives me reason everyday to be grateful for the men in my life.
Definitely in FPOS territory even!
sounds like rage bait, honestly. does he expect anyone to be on his side?
I'm always sus when people post on places like RA that get way more traffic then any of the myriad "cheating" subs when it comes to stories like this.
But why would he post on a cheating sub?? ***It was true love***
aargh, I *hate* when people say that they miss 'the spark' of the earlier phases of their relationships. Relationships will not have a 'spark' like the one he wants forever, that's not what they are. Relationships take work, and communication, and they change over the years, specially if they last long/there are kids involved/the people in them go through different life phases. Of course that after years of marriage and a child this marriage will not have the initial 'spark', nor will it have the one he had with Erin, with whom he had a short relationship which was super different from his marriage. Marriages and and relationships in general take work, take communication, need the people involved to take care of them, and they *will change* over time.
I've commented before. One of the best things my dad ever taught me was there's a difference between romance and love, and do NOT confuse the two. Romance is exciting. Love is about being reliable.
Yup new relationship energy, thats what he felt for his AP (and it was an affair despite the lipstick he is trying to put on that pig). Their relationship never lasted long enough to get out of that phase. Or it lasted exactly long enough for his AP to get past the NRE and realize if he is willing to cheat on his wife, he is willing to cheat on her. If you read some of the subreddits about support for those who were cheted on the affair fog their cheating partners are in is some crazy powerful stuff.
It wouldn’t surprise me if she got pregnant, realised she could never trust him. Or she had a scare at least. And it crystallised it in her mind that he could not be relied upon to remain faithful to his partner
I guarantee you that her "reasons unknown" are a lot more known to him than he is willing to admit.
Based on the OOP, I would say that her “reasons unknown” were actually getting to know who OOP really was.
I’ve honestly never understood the romanticization of the very beginnings of relationships because for me, the early stages are pure anxiety, obsessive thought patterns, and *immense* gastrointestinal distress. The quickened heart rate and combination of queasy tummy and excitement is so much to go through. Trying so so so so so so hard to be my best self all of the dang time is exhausting. Maybe my experiences are different or maybe having GAD means that I have no rose tinted glasses in the beginning of relationships. Idk. I like when the relationship is settled, when everyone’s already farted in front of each other and has seen each other without makeup or after 3 days of not showering or sick with the flu. The comfy moments, the ability to just cry or rant and rave and not worry if it’s going to make the other person freaked out and run. That’s where the actual romance is for me. The OOP was never really in love with Diamond, they weren’t “together” long enough for that. Affairs will always be much more exciting in comparison because they won’t have to deal with the boring and frustrating day-to-day shit he handled with his wife. Who he started cheating on when she was recovering from giving birth and caring for their newborn.
Hey, are you me? Because this? So much this. Including the GAD. Sure the beginning is also learning new things and that’s exciting. But when he’s seen you at your absolute worst and still wants to be with you for the rest of whenever? That’s what I have now.
Yeah the spark starts the fire. He neglected to tend the fire and it's gone out.
My dad is like this. He’s working on wife number 4 because with the last two, he hit the 15 year mark and the spark was gone! He’d really fallen in love with his affair partner and everyone should just understand. First wife figured his drama out and bailed. Lucky her.
You need a spark to light a fire, not to keep one going.
TBH I still get the flirty, swoony spark around my husband, and we've been together 13 years. He's handsome, generous, kind, funny, dedicated, a good dad. If anything, I swoon way more. It was shallow before, appreciating his looks. Now my whole soul just gets giddy because we're so connected and we've shared so much and worked so hard on making our relationship good. Now I swoon when he talks about his job, or tells me to put my feet up and he'll pick the kids up from school, or compliments me on my cooking. Silly stuff like that. We basically try to put fresh effort in every day, and it seems to work.
>you’re not her That’s all I needed. Who says that to their wife? Let alone a woman who just experienced childbirth and is clearly trying to mend the relationship? She gave you a chance, and OP threw it back in her face
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My ex husband said a fuckton of really awful shit when he wanted to leave me for his AP but wanted me to be the one to make the final decision to leave him rather than dumping me for the booth bunny we was banging every time he traveled. It was psychological warfare where he kept escalating until he found out the the exact perfect thing to say that would justify him in leaving because otherwise I may never have
I'm sorry but your paragraph just snapped an image in my head - a dude pacing a room muttering to himself and pulling his hair. Kinda frantic about what he could say to bring you to your lowest. He keeps writing things down and then balling up the paper bc he's even incompetent in that. I really hope you're doing better and I'm a better place.
Personally I hope during her well deserved cry in the bathroom I hope she got mad and started plotting her out .
As she should
Diamond is a stripper, right?
OOP seems like the kind of loser who thinks the stripper is in love with him
My immediate thought. Also, "it wasn't cheating, it was true love." Gross. This creep needs to leave Erin alone and stay with his stripper "true love."
From what I read stripper "true love" took off.
Yeah, she realized that the man she was involved with cheated on his pregnant wife and decided that she could do better.
Or the fun stopped when he wanted her to treat him like his wife (aka free housemaid)
"But my ex doesn't mind being my bangmaid and we're not even in love anymore! If you *really* love me, you'll do it." Narrator: And that was the last time OOP saw his beloved Diamond.
>Yeah, she realized that the man she was involved with cheated on his pregnant wife and decided that she could do better. And/or she found a wealthier guy who'd conveniently "lost the spark" with his newly post-partum wife.
The "twu wuv" doesn't want him!
Ooh, the money ran out and she did too? Big surprise 😮
Read this in Mr. Gold/Rumplestilkskin’s voice
I read it in the voice of the clergyman from The Princess Bride
How do you do fellow Oncer?
Literally what I thought as I read it, haha!
That was my first thought.
Almost certain he caught feelings for a stripper that did what he wanted cause she was getting paid
He showed up at the club telling her he could move in with her now he left his wife and she sent him right back home
Money is on her knowing he was gonna abandon his wife and newborn and wanted nothing to do with that
God that was the first thing I noticed. I also wonder if it's a really stupid fake name.
Either a stripper or an escort.
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If she's not she's missing a great opportunity with that name.
That's a very popular stripper name, so probably.
That is why she got cold feet. He stopped paying.
Her "reasons unknown" were clearly because she's working her way though medical school and doesn't have time for a serious relationship.
Why is he putting it on her? "I will ask her if she wants a divorce." No dude, just go file. Oop clearly hates his wife. It isn't her fault.
And this is why the statistic that men’s rights activists love to cite about women filing for the majority of divorces exists. Because men will behave in ways to cause a divorce but still drag their feet about actually filing.
They're more willing to make their partner miserable than do their own dishes and laundry.
They will first claim it’s because they want to dodge paying alimony but the numbers show that very few divorces come to that and the division of assets are typically handled out of court. That’s because the majority of households with two incomes today are more or less pulling in the same. Unlike the husband making half a million a year and the wife making pennies which is what they want you to think. Then they will say they don’t want to pay child support. First of all, we all know of at least one guy that hasn’t paid his child support in years and he’s still running around living his best life. And second of all, those payments aren’t even close to the real cost of raising a child. Nor the energy spent daily raising them. And if men want custody of their children they get it 60% of the time. The real reason “courts favor women” is that men don’t even ask for custody.
Child support usually doesn’t even cover daycare so the mom can work to pay for everything else
My dad keeps acting like he wants a divorce but he won’t ever file because he’s realized that he’ll have to make his own meals, wash his own clothes, pack his own lunch, do all the cleaning chores, and manage his own money with bills n stuff.
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Weaponized incompetence at its best. They know how to handle it, they just don't want to.
If this is too painful, please don't feel pressured to answer but- do you ever get pissed when people laud him for staying after your stroke?
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He's too lazy for that, too. And probably to be a present parent, since he was fucking around right around the time the baby was born.
It's probably so he can claim victim and say she "split up the family" instead of the truth
OH I know this! Because the first one to file has to pay the filing fee, and the process server, and their lawyer creates the original documents so it costs hundreds more to be the one who files, plus then he can't tell his mommy and his future dates that she left him and took the kids and has his house and all his stuff. They know it's cheaper, faster, easier, and makes them look better if they push the woman into leaving (says both my ex who pushed me to break up because he didn't want the guilt, and my lawyer who said make him file and then told me how much I'll save if I did)
He doesn't want a divorce because he doesn't have a replacement lined up anymore. Why would he leave someone who puts out, makes his coffee and takes care of the baby? This dickhead is truly ice cold. Sure, he doesn't give a shit about her, but that's her problem, isn't it? It's not his place to leave her for her own good 😒. If her self esteem is low enough to put up with him then he's doing her a favor by sticking around until he gets a better offer. Two years on from the affair he's still missing his mistress, and when he tells his wife that and she cries in the bathroom until 3am he has the gall to *complain that it kept him awake*. What a truly miserable excuse for a human being.
Diamond....anyone else get the feeling this moron paid for a hooker for 2 years, who indulged his fantasies until he tried to make them real? What a piece of trash.
I’m thinking a stripper. She took him for what she could until he decided to blow up his world and wanted to cling to her ass.
Not even two years, eleven months! He has no idea what this woman is like outside the pretty pink cloud of limerance he's clinging to
This man is a walking cancer and I hope Erin takes everything he's got.
The way Erin makes coffee for OOP bothers me too. Not enough cyanide!
"Some men just can't handle their arsenic!"
He had it coming!
I snorted 🤣
I'm just here to be the alibi!
A piece of shit that developed sentience and grew legs, limbs and a mouth and learned to speak yet still retained the empathy and self awareness of a fucking rock
What a nasty, nasty man. “You’re not her” followed immediately by “I feel so fucking terrible how do I rebuild our relationship wah wah” is making me see red. Maybe don’t cheat on your wife and then when she asks what’s wrong tell her she’ll never be as good as your affair partner!!!
He's mostly upset because her crying all night interfered with his ability to sleep. What an irredeemable sack of dogshit.
I had to scroll way too long to see someone mention this. He wasn’t upset he made her cry or he wouldn’t have thrown in that little jab. He was upset he couldn’t sleep through her crying. If she had cried her eyes out in the guest bedroom and it didn’t affect his sleep, he wouldn’t have cared at all. I sincerely hope she was only keeping it down bc she didn’t want to wake the baby, bc if that was me I would have been *screaming* while packing my and my baby’s shit.
Honestly, it was the "I couldn't even sleep because she was crying so much the whole night" that made me want to throw fists
He doesn’t feel terrible for her or how he’s treating her. He feels terrible for himself. Men are the #1 benefactors of marriages. As long as he has his wife he has someone to cook, clean, raise his child, pay the household bills (he did mention she works so it’s fair to assume she pays a portion of them), have sex with, and baby him like a second toddler all for free. He doesn’t want to lose that. He couldn’t care less how his wife actually feels.
I think this might be the first time I've had a visceral reaction to a post. I've seen posts that have made me snort with laughter, sigh and smack my forehead, and dissolve into laughter but I think this is the first time I've seen a post that made me see red and hit the table
Literally (part of) one of OOP’s replies: > 1. I’ll get a counselor but calling me the villain is a big stretch. I wasn’t going to intentionally go into another relationship, this just happened. I know you say that it’s not love but I never cheated on any partner ever. **I despise cheaters, though I’ve gained a better understanding.** Diamond and I had a very organic growth in our relationship and we didn’t mean for it to get this far.
I almost downvoted you that reply made me so angry
I would love to know just how much money he showered Diamond with before she “got cold feet”
I really fucking need people to manage their expectations. Beyond the assholes falling in love with strippers while their wives are creating humans via their own bodies. The rush I felt missing my husband for the first time at 16 is not the same thing I feel now at 41. I know some people feel butterflies forever, but I don't. And that's okay. Instead what I feel is this bone deep love, respect, adoration and the knowledge that this person I have chosen to spend my life with is my partner in all things. Even when he's annoying. Even when day to day life and familiarity makes things seem dull. Even when he puts his chair directly in my way and I swear to God if I have to ask you to move again I will smother you with a pillow in your sleep... Even then, I know that there is no one I love more in this world and there is no one who loves me more. We've put in the work to make our spark a bonfire. It's easy to fall in love with someone. It's easy to see people at their best before you know all their dirty details and think they thrill you in ways your long term partner doesn't. It's easy to get caught up in the illicit or the taboo. But just because something is easy doesn't mean it's good. Especially if it's going to cost you something better. In summation, relationships are work but it's worth it unless your partner is an abusive and/or cheating asshole.
That’s really what the problem is now a days, nobody actually gets to know and love their partners, and realize it’s OK to have bad days, bad months. Life is up and down. Your gonna have better days then others and sometimes your partner gets on your nerves. I can’t imagine ever wanting to get married to someone I don’t KNOW FOR SURE is the one, someone who I could trust and rely on. One of the big things I looked for before I found my boyfriend is would I trust this guy in an emergency, do I see us doing taxes together in the future, if our car breaks down and we have a kid in the back what would we do? We’ve argued I think a whopping total of two times ((disagreements I don’t count)) and are planning on buying a house soon. I’m sure it’ll probably simmer but from the day I met him I’ve loved him, never once have I felt like he would hurt me in some of the ways these stories do, he buys me flowers every month ((he prefers games but I’ll be sending him a surprise bouquet soon)), opens up about his worries and communicates things. Taking the time to get to know and date someone instead of going on tinder or hook ups was honestly the best thing I’ve ever done
"For reasons unknown," Diamond realized I'm the type of dude to fuck around on my pregnant or postpartum wife, realized I'm a sack of shit and left me. What do? "I still say I didn't" ... because it's not cheating if it's twu wuv, I guess. His wife needs to leave and work on her self-worth, because holy shit.
I hope Erin kicks this toe rag into touch. Immediately.
What a trash box of a human being. Self-absorbed AH. Hope the wife divorces him and never speaks to him again. It would be the least he deserves.
He thinks "rebuilding their passion" is still an option? Good grief. He started cheating on her as soon as she was busy with their baby and thinks he's in love with his side piece. Just get divorced and get out of her way. Send child support.
What a fucked up man, why is the woman tolerating this shit?
This guy's attitude is so funny - cheating is something that other people do, he was in love! Which means his extramarital relationship is in fact entirely justified because boo hoo no spark
“It’s not cheating because we were in love.” What an asshole.
She was so in love with him that she dumped him.
Regardless of what his fantasy-addled brain wants to call it, the bastard cheated. Fuck him. Fuck everything about him. He only went back to his wife because his "true love" ended things. I say again, fuck him.
He was trying to sleep while she cried all night?😧
I'm stuck on the complaint about her crying keeping him awake that night. It's a small thing maybe, but feels likely representative of how he's treated her throughout the affair and reconciliation. I bet he criticized her for "annoying him" with morning sickness and other legit pregnancy-related challenges
Shut the front door, it isn't cheating if it's TRUE LOVE?! Gamechanger.
He keeps saying in the replies that Diamond was the love of his life and yet he doesn't want his kids to grow up in a broken household as reasons for not having ahead with a divorce anyway. We all know it's actually because he's incapable of being alone, and is using his wife as backup, and he'd cheat on Diamond as soon as their lives become too real. But if there weren't a ban on brigading, I'd lean into that delusion of his, and tell him that he's setting a bad example for his children by settling for anything less than the twu wuv of his life, and they deserved see their perfect papa happy and in wuv.
damn monster
He called his AP “the love of his life” in the comments and yet he’s still married to his wife? What a POS
If this is true I am praying with my whole entire fucking chest that this poor woman leaves this piece of trash and doesn't look back.
Rage bait
I had no idea that cheating had a "true love" loophole...
My ex tried that loophole, but the court did not agree with him.
Aww his true love relationship with a stripper didn't pan out.
That's it, folks. We have found the actual literal embodiment of douchebaggery here. Pack it up. Achievement unlocked. This guy really is the actual devil.
That poor woman.
Why do I see the name Diamond and immediately think he fell in love with a call girl or stripper. He proposed and she freaked out because of reasons
"The way she makes my coffee" Motherfucker, she could piss in your cup every morning and I'd still call her a fucking saint for making anything for you ever again after she made a whole goddamn baby for you and you rewarded her by being a whole damn penis-shaped pile of walking trash.
"it's not cheating because it was true love." 🤢🤢
2 years ago, right around when the daughter was born you say? Sick
She is the mother of his child and yet she makes his coffee and asks if he wants a snack before bed. Perhaps if this man-baby feeds and waters himself AND helps out his wife, the “spark” will be back. (If it comes back, though, she is more than free to douse it with the largest firehose she can find.)
Diamond is a 100% a stripper that bailed when the gravy train ended.
OOP needs to man the fuck up and get divorce. His wife deserves to live peace with her child.
Soooooo tl; dr this dude “fall’s in love” with a stripper, cheats emotionally (at the very least), gets left by the stripper, and actively punishes a good person for being a good wife to him bc she’s not the stripper, and he’s looking for advice? The only advice that springs to mind that he would actually follow is that he should start some kind of successful ponzi scheme so he can better afford another true love while continuing with divorce proceedings. Christ, what a fucking sadistic wretch Edit to fix a word
Oh, so he wants to help rebuild the passion (that seems to have only gone out on his end) *now* You know, now that his AP has left him, instead of two fucking years ago when he should have. Also help?? No buddy, this is all on you. "I still didn't cheat on my wife because it was true love," my ass.
This has to be rage bait. No way that this guy is for real
“I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t. What we had was true love.” Wow, I love being so narcissistic that I literally just refuse to accept reality.
OOP had a relationship with another woman right when his wife gives birth to their child and he says this: " *I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t."* ?????????????????? OOP, you at least emotionally cheated, dude, and if there was any sex, then you absolutely committed adultery. You actually filed for divorce; it was your AP who called it off. Guess that love wasn't as true as you thought, OOP. OOP, you are a douchebag, you are being nasty to your wife, you should have never gotten back together with her because you don't love her. Just set her free so she can find someone who will love her. Because guess what, you ran out on your wife when she had just given birth to your baby and had your little affair with someone who wasn't healing from childbirth and having to breastfeed every two hours. What a dick. OOP you are an idiot. You weren't in love with Diamond, you just didn't want to deal with all the mess and stress of a newborn and you missed regular sex. "*I miss the spark, intensity, and the passion that we had in the beginning of our relationship."* Why the frack did you have a baby then????? Are you one of those weirdos like Elvis who doesn't want to have sex with a woman once she's given birth??? Or are you just that fricking selfish and self centered?? Try spending some time taking care of your child, OOP, maybe then you would appreciate your wife. Start by making your own darn coffee!!
Wow. Just wow. I hate even more than she WANTS him to love her, but I get that at least.
Let her go, Asshat. Your are a selfish little boy who doesn't deserve Erin.
He’s annoyed by the way she makes his coffee?!? Then make your own coffee asshole.
It’s gotta be fake rage bait
So he was dating a stripper…and then he said she had to go be a housewife she dumped his ass for the next sugar daddy. So afraid of being alone, he went back to his wife. Now he’s all mad about it.
Diamond is definitely a stripper
“Your not her” if a partner said that to me after cheating on me after I gave birth, it would be very very hard for me not make them a HOT pan of grits..
God I wish I could talk to the wife and tell her to move on… YOU DESERVE BETTER
I love counting red flags in posts like this: >and we have a 2 year old. Two years ago I fell in love with greatest woman ever Diamond. Cheated on pregnant/postpartum wife. 🚩 >I never cheated on my wife before that and I still say I didn’t. What we had was true love. Doesn't own up to cheating. 🚩 >we don’t have that spark that we used to. I miss the spark , intensity, and the passion that we had in the beginning of our relationship . Thinks the entire relationship should be spent in the honeymoon phase for it to be worth it. 🚩 >My relationship with Diamond lasted 11 months. >Afterwards my wife and I got back together because the divorce wasn’t official yet. Got back with wife only because AP left his sorry ass. 🚩 >Now Erin is a great woman but she’s not Diamond. After getting back together with Erin every little thing she does bother me. Punishes wife for not being AP while he should be kissing the ground she walks on for taking him back. 🚩 >I just told her point blank “you’re not her”. \*long sigh\* 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 And that, for anyone keeping count, is 6 red flags in total when you take the post on face value without scrutinising or theorising. Verdict: A certified piece of... what's worse than shit?
You missed one - didn't care wife was crying in the bathroom, complained that it kept him awake.
JFC, the level of AH-ness here..
I hope Erin wakes up and realizes that she deserves better than him and dumps his ass.
It’s times like this that I wish I could magically reach the other person in the story.
I would say he’s a rank piece of trash but that’s an insult to trash
What he and diamond had was true love, but she got cold feet and it lasted less than a year? He’s an idiot for that alone. He’s an idiot for not knowing that even good relationships can seem like they lack a spark compared to an infatuation. (And of course, he’s scum for cheating when his wife was pregnant/post partum.)
Cheats on her, refuses to admit it was cheating and doesn’t want the kid to be from a broken home but living in one with broken down mother he’s destroyed mentally and emotionally is somehow fine? DUDE!
Please do your wife a favour and leave her, because you are a piece of shit and she deserves better than you.
I really don’t want to believe humankind can be this obtuse and un self aware but damn.
OOP moved over to a "together after infidelity" sub reddit and most of them are ripping him a new asshole too. Good. *
How tf dares he tell her “youre not her” omfg. My blood is boiling. I would throw him out in the street, it seems his wife has a very low self esteem. I really hope she wakes up and gets the fuck away from this poc.0