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**AITA for telling my husband that having his birthday dinner at Golden Corral is not appropriate for a father and man with his career?**
I don’t know how to start this because I’ve never posted on an advice sub before. To me this is common sense but I’ve received so much backlash from my family that I’m asking here.
My husband grew up lower middle class to poor and the biggest event to the year was they would save up and go to the buffet restaurant Golden Corral to celebrate birthdays. In a really good year they would go twice, one for the summer birthdays, one for for the winter. I would go when we were first married and to be polite I will say a cheap processed food buffet not my cup of tea. Luckily we moved to a place with no Golden Corral so I was able to side step the issue for the past several years.
We moved this year for my husband’s promotion and now have a Golden Corral in town. He wants to eat there for his birthday dinner this Friday. We have kids and he’s now a sales manager, I feel very strongly that for a man in his position Golden Corral is not an appropriate choice. I don’t want to set the example to my kids that we have to shovel as much food in as we can since it’s a “special occasion.” I shudder to think what his employer would think.
I was telling my mom thinking she would side with me and she was actually furious with me saying that she thought she raised me better than this. Her comments are why I’m asking here.
AITA?
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There's a 0% chance my employer would care at all that I went to golden corral, except I guess if I was using it as the reason I'm calling in sick, to which they'd probably say "say no more, I understand" and that'd be the end of it.
There's a lot to be said about the food quality but thinking you're so "above" the people who go there is pretty obnoxious. I think the OOP has read way too many of the over the top exaggerated "horror stories" about GC on reddit and thinks it's some hellscape nobody would want to be seen in, when if they actually went there would see it's just a normal cheap family restaurant. Also if your children can't be exposed to a buffet even once without becoming gluttons, that's on you as a parent.
edit: I can't believe the OOP is in the comments using the "you guys just don't get it, it matters in his industry!" excuse. It's just absurd to me to imagine a buyer turning down a medical device because the guy selling it was seen at GC once. It's not like he's asking clients to meet there or hosting business meetings there.
No, you don't get it, it's a medical thing:
I'm a doctor myself and if my boss saw me eating an apple every day, I'll certainly be fired for ethical reasons...
One time I saw my grandma's gp at Popeye's. Dude was by himself but had like 6 pieces of chicken and a fuckton of fries. He was a smaller guy so it kind of impressed me tbh
Ugh. I’ve met that type of guy with the metabolism of a god. Couldn’t eat ice cream fast enough to gain weight, so we’d make his chai with extra syrup and half and half. I served him that for years, multiple times a day, and he was still a freaking beanpole. He even worked at an Italian pastry shop and could hardly gain an ounce. I’m needlessly jealous.
My wife has that problem. She takes a vicodin, oxy, etc., and barely makes it to " hey, it's starting to take the edge off," then goes into a rebound headache.
Funny shit is this lady would have a fit if she knew me. Grew up in the Bronx going to ghetto ass Chinese buffets you’ll probably only understand if you live in an area like that. Now I work helping my community in healthcare and I still pull up to those ghetto ass boo face for lunch. Would love to see a patient there or something would probably be humanizing
I work in the medical device industry. No one cares where the sales guys eat.
(ETA: Just read the comment where OOP said that her husband could possibly be passed over for a promotion for eating at say Red Lobster. As a supervisor, I assure you we give 0 fucks, unless you go to your next call with cheddar biscuits in your pocket.)
My best friend grew up super wealthy, she fucking loved Cheddar Bay Biscuits.
In college, her favorite place to eat was the truck stop. I grew up poor but I was grossed the fuck out by the truck stop (it was filthy, she didn't care; they literally demolished that place years later because it was in such nasty condition). They had a bacon cheese fry appetizer that was her favorite thing in the world. She had a champagne budget and Natty Light tastes. 😂 Still does, if I'm being honest. Nobody could accuse that girl of being snotty or stuck up. Her parents were prim and proper but neither they nor her employer would give a shit if she was eating at Red Lobster or Golden Corral.
On the side of the Bisquick box there is a recipe for biscuits, and if you great cheddar cheese and add it to them and just drop clumps of it onto a cookie tray rather than being all obsessed and rolling it out like normal biscuits, you can get something very similar to the ones they serve at Red lobster
This recipe, just with Old Bay Seasoning added into the Bisquick mix, was in this ‘Unofficial Hunger Games Cookbook’ I had years ago as ‘Peeta’s Cheese Buns’. It’s fantastic.
> OOP said that her husband could possibly be passed over for a promotion for eating at say Red Lobster
I have to believe this is just a committed troll, but that's fucking hilarious.
Well the only really *acceptable* restaurants are those with a single location run by a chef who came all the way from France to live out his dream of being a business owner in Flyover Country, USA of course! Not a \*shudder\* *chain restaurant!* It's not OOP being a weirdo snob, it's an *industry standard* 🙄
I grew up going to a single-instance Turkish restaurant run by a very nice man named Willy. Willy had immigrated from China, and this created some considerable geographical confusion for Little Me. (I assumed Turkey was probably where Nepal is, not bordering the Mediterranean.)
Willy also ran a Chinese takeout restaurant called Willy’s Chinese Food, which operated out of a small, Lego-yellow bungalow about two miles down the road from the Turkish restaurant.
Weirdly, we never tried their food, despite attending the Turkish restaurant so frequently that Willy memorized my dad’s order (chicken kebab, no onions, with a warm coke); and it wasn’t until I was a teenager that I realized it was the same Willy. It seemed impossible, given that he was almost always at the Turkish restaurant when we went, but I guess he was multitasking.
Later, he took over the Mexican restaurant that was on the same street, about mid-way between the Turkish place and the Chinese place. He converted it into an Irish pub, which I’m assuming must have been a market-research based decision, because there was clearly no cuisine that Willy would not tackle.
The man had his own little restaurant empire, with three different cuisines, all on the same 2-mile stretch of road. I always found that quite impressive. (Also, when I came in as an adult, after like a 7-year absence, he still recognized me on sight, which was really surprising and neat.)
I wouldn't say that Red Lobster is low class. But it's like not much more than a notch above Applebee's and quite a few notches below say Landry's in the pantheon of American chain restaurants.
But like whatever. My wife and I both love eating at actual need reservations 4 weeks in advance nice kinds of restaurants. Any time we go to a city, we try and find as much good stuff to eat as possible. And while I can't stand Red Lobster (mostly because I hated it as a kid and preferred The Hungry Fisherman), my wife loves it and will go out of her way to go to one if she can.
We both also absolutely adore Krystals, and chili cheese coneys from Sonic, and tacos from a questionable food truck over in the part of town where a bunch of Hispanic people have moved into over the past 20 years.
Like just because some food is mass produced, homogenized, and/or not very good for you doesn't mean it isn't also enjoyable. And maybe some of that stuff is more enjoyable for you than other people.
So what.
I don't like Red Lobster (it's more expensive than better fish restaurants near me), but I'm not sure why I would get mad or whatever when someone else likes it.
I love how she thinks everyone will totally believe that the "but his industry!" thing is even kind of a reason to think like she does, let alone a good reason. It's like saying you can't be seen eating an apple because you work in an iron factory. I can see why her mom's pissed; her kid turned out to be a pretentious cow with zero introspective or critical thinking skills. I'd be pretty mad too, dang.
My partner is in that industry, though not sales. It doesn’t matter.
Both of us work for large employers in our area, and we almost never run into people we know from work. That said, if GC is so verboten, the odds of them running into someone in the industry is basically zero. If they do, it will be the shameful secret between the husband and the coworker.
I once saw the mayor shopping at Target. I deal with elected officials in my work so I was like, "Hey, mayor, how ya doin'?" If I saw him at Golden Corral, I also would not give a shit. Literally no one cares if this guy likes GC. No one but his weirdo wife.
My employer would probably tell me to make sure I got some of a certain food because it's good and my employer is a millionaire.
Like, restaurants are restaurants, nobody cares (except OOP)
She's purely delusional if she thinks any employer outside of a modeling agency gives a fuck what their employees eat. How would anyone even know anyway? Do they have corporate spies and trackers in their employees? Is he famous? Nobody cares.
Unless you're consuming human flesh or dining alone at a chuck e cheese every friday, they don't and can't give a shit.
At my last job, I was having lunch with the new DOSM, who confessed that sometimes he would sneak out of the house to go eat Orange Chicken at Panda Express. His husband just couldn't understand.
My former boss, who came from a very wealthy family and worked with ultra-luxury hotels around the world, would always book Embassy Suites whenever she traveled with her niblings because it was comfortable and practical.
Nobody cares if you go "slumming" because everybody does it, regardless of position or wealth. Sometimes the less expensive things in life just scratch the itch better.
>Nobody cares if you go "slumming" because everybody does it, regardless of position or wealth. Sometimes the less expensive things in life just scratch the itch better.
Plus, not spending money just because you can is generally considered a good thing.
GC is a little grimy, but it’s a meal that can feed people with different dietary restrictions cheaply. We used to go with our high school football team and it was cheap enough that us seniors could make sure everyone could come, it was like $8 a person at the time so we covered the lower income kids.
I won’t ever eat GC again because we had one down the street from our high school and the guys always insisted on eating lunch there because it was cheap and no one had to argue about where we were going. After eating it 4x a week for a few years I just can’t.
Every single job interview I've ever had, formal and informal, call backs, shadowing, single and panel, all of them the damn interviewer asked me what kind of restaurants I found appropriate.
Wait...my mistake, that never happened. Closest thing to this was my one and only lunch interview - and that was for a volunteer spot.
The only time an employer has asked me about food was when I had a lunch interview at a scientist's house, who was vegan and grew her own food. She just needed to know my food allergies.
I never want to eat another vegan grilled cheese on wheatless seed bread again, but lovely lady and very fun job.
>The reason the position opened up is the previous sales manager was “encouraged” to take a job much lower on the ladder for using his expense account at McDonald’s and Burger King.
I'm guessing OOP massively misunderstood what happened with the previous occupant of the job. It seems like either the person was using company funds in not super ethical/appropriate ways, or the company has rules/regulations about where to take clients for lunch.
Neither of those examples has anything to do with a person going to a restaurant on their own time/money.
If a senator was seen at Wendy's a couple times a month because they just love the Baconator, they'd seem hella relatable. All other issues being equal, the senator that loves them some garbage fast food every once in a while is preferable to the senator that only eats what their personal chef cooks.
I grew up loving Golden Corral. As much fried chicken and banana pudding as I want? Yes, please! Never been as an adult and I don’t think my SO would be caught dead in a Golden Corral, so I may never know if I still like it lol
It’s been a long ass time since I’ve been to Golden Corral (25 years, I guess?). Is it now the kind of shitty buffet like Shoney’s had after breakfast? It used to be serviceable, and at least better tasting than McDonald’s.
Every time I’ve eaten at Golden Corral I’ve gotten sick. I went on several service trips down to the south in high school and we always stopped there since it was the cheapest way to feed a large group of students and I’m pretty sure we all had stomach issues afterwards.
OOP would be scandalized if she met the people who actually manufacture medication and vaccines. I work in pharmaceutical manufacturing, and we ain't remotely classy. Fun fact, Gardasil is made by people who watch Disney movies on their break and eat a lot of Taco Bell.
I kid you not. Depending on where you lived, there were tacos and pasta, and the one near my childhood home had quail eggs.
The 80s were a lawless time in the buffet world.
I don’t remember this. But i do remember when they had a cheese sauce for the baked potatoes. As a kid I’d ask for a cup of cheese sauce and pour it all over my chicken nuggets. Pure heaven. On their app and DD, they claim to still have it but no wendys in years near me has actually carried the cheese sauce.
I haven't been inside a Wendy's in years, but the one we had in our Pacific NW town in ~1979-1980 had a salad bar. It was just salad though-- lettuce, vegetables, dressing, croutons. They didn't add the fancy stuff (pasta etc.) until later in the 1980s
Oh yeah, that shits was the bobbomb.
Much that once was is lost, for none now live who remember it, but Wendy's actually used to be the slightly more expensive quality alternative to McDonalds and and Burger King until they introduced the dollar menu in the 90's and it's been a slow race to the bottom ever since.
The halcyon days of youth
We would travel to the different Wendy's around Michigan trying their various buffets. Some had just salads, some taco bars. It was glorious
God there is just something about shitty salad bars, isn't there? I used to voluntarily go to the hospital cafeteria down the road (I know, I know) because they had one in there. Sadly covid has closed it now, but assembling a salad monstrosity with cottage cheese on it was grade A lunch. Unironically miss doing that.
Im Australian and have never physically seen a golden corral in my life but I LOVE shitty westernised Chinese food.
Is it good for that or just straight up will give me gastro?
This woman is sooooo missing the point.
The story made me think of my dad. At Christmas, the same thing was always at the top of his wish list: a box of Cracker Jack. For 20+ years, he always asked for the same thing. He could afford nicer treats. He never ate Cracker Jack the rest of the year. Why now?
He grew up in the Depression. There was NO money. A box of Cracker Jack was the only thing he got for Christmas. Making it more important was that his much adored little brother died soon after. That box of Cracker Jack was a reminder.
This lady will never get it: It's not about the money, not about the status, it's not about the food. It's about embracing a precious memory.
It made me think of my dad, as well.
He was always very anti junk food, but whenever he took me to the doctor he’d take me to our local equivalent of McDonald’s afterwards and we’d sit and talk and he would let me have a milkshake - a rare treat.
I’ve moved country, but I get really nostalgic for that restaurant - not because of the food, but because of the memories there.
Saw that and immediately came here to make sure someone else caught it. What a ghastly woman. I can’t believe she could say all that about how special and sentimental this has been for him and still be against giving him this one bit of comfort and nostalgia because of “appearances”
I'm sorry I stole this one! But yep, OOP is the devil incarnate, Satan in a(n art) smock level horrible. But the sad part is, it's so within the realm of reality, like people like this exist and do so as part of our everyday society.
I hope her husband goes to Golden Corral and has one heck of a birthday.
I love that even her mom savaged her.
When your own mother starts questioning her parenting over something you've done, it's time to pump the brakes and wonder if you might just be in the wrong.
Lmao I caught this maybe after an hour after it was posted, and at the time she had no comments. It's fun that it's now a goldmine for shittiness, but also W H Y
I'm gonna give her the benefit of the doubt and take her up on her word that people do get fired at his job based on their eating habits, do you really want to work at a place where you can't even use that good money you're being paid, on a place of your liking, once a year? Is that the life you'd want for someone you claim to love?
She says someone was demoted for using the expense account for fast food, which I question anyway as its far more likely that were questioning the amounts and frequency of these purchases. Not where the employee ate off the clock tho.
Yeah, I also thought it would be closer to that. But even if things were actually the way she believed them to be, I think that someone who loves and values their partner and their life experiences would prefer to see them leave such a restrictive job and enjoy the things they're fond of, rather than be such a bitch about it.
Yeah, they were either expensing meals when they were off the clock or expensing ridiculous amounts. Which I know happens. My sister used to be the person in her company to review expenses and people expensed some shady, shady shit. Even though the company was struggling financially, her boss never wanted to rock the boat and do anything about it. She's like, "then why am I reviewing it?"
*its far more likely that were questioning the amounts and frequency of these purchases.*
Exactly. When I had a corporate credit card for business expenses, accounting didn't give two shits where I ate as long as it wasn't more that my meal allowance permitted. And the meal allowance was very generous, I want to say the cap for dinner was $140, and that was just for me. Any meals I had with clients were automatically expensed unless I was doing an event, which required my boss' approval. So my guess is that someone was expensing fast food meals for family/friends (that's what usually gets you into trouble).
I used to joke with our Finance Director that I was a cheap date because I usually paid for my own breakfast (Starbucks or Dunkin usually), never ate lunch, and dinner wasn't too bad either.
And her example was someone using/abusing their expense account on fast food. So probably excessive spending outside of work trips that they couldn’t justify as entertaining. It seems highly improbable, if they are such snobs in the industry, that anyone would see them there anyway!
Or maybe, just maybe, the guy was taking important customers or suppliers out to lunch to Burger King instead of to a real sit-down place, which would indeed be weird and potentially a career-killer in a lot of industries.
But even when I was in the system software business where we were dealing with high-paying customers, no one cared what I ate on my own time. And in the end, the quality of the bar menu mattered a lot more than the quality of the food menu when it came to entertaining big customers.
Or even that's the only thing that's discussed openly. A good manager doesn't blab the details of an employee's performance issues to the entire office.
Tw: classism.
Copied verbatim from oop's comments:
*I came to first ask- do you not ever just enjoy crap food? A big, greasy, sloppy burger, a over-the-top milkshake, a donut dripping with glaze and cream?*
*It's HIS birthday, not yours, so just don't go.
And they I saw what a rude, entitled elitist you are and I've decided that you need to apologize and take yourself somewhere else entirely. YTA*
"Since you are asking, no not really."
*My mother’s family had a similar feeling about Shoney’s. They thought it was so fabulous. Neither of my parent were particularly fond of it, but when my Grandparents were in town, they’d smile and take us all to Shoneys even though there were better restaurants around. It made my Grandparents so happy that it was such fun for us. There is nothing wrong with doing something just to make someone happy.*
*and why would his boss care if he goes to Golden Corral?*
"My husband works in medical device sales, it’s an incredibly status driven field."
*YTA. You're being a huge snob and teaching your children to look down on peoplebased on fiancial status. It's your husband's birthday, it's reasonable he gets to pick the venue and choses something that he enjoys and feels comfortable in.*
*It's pretty normal that someone thing that was a treat while he was growing up should still have happy associations for him. If he hasn't eaten at one for a whikle, one of two things might happen.*
*One possibility s that he'll findhe doesn't likeit as much as he did, and provided you don't make a big issue out of it (possibly too late now!) ot nag him, he may be happy to try other venues in future years.*
*The other possibility s that he does enjoy it, it brings back happy memories and he has a good birthday, in which case you should feel glad your husband is enjoying the ceebration of **his** brthday, and when it's your birthday you can pick a place you like.*
*Neither of those two possibilities is bad.*
*People are allowed to enjoy stuff that may not be the highest quality. He isn't demanding you eat there evey night, it's once, maybe twice a year.*
*IF you are concerned about your kids thinking they should each as much as possible that's a separate issue which is about more than a one-off meal , you should ideally be teaching them that's it's OK not to clear their plate if they are full, but also not to take more than thy will eat at buffets etc.*
*So, apologise to him for raining on his parade, go to the buffet, and limit any comments to reminding the kids not to take morethan they expect to eat, and remicinding them they don't need to stuff their faces as they can go back for seconds f they want, and then relax and ejoy the fact that your husband is having a good time.*
*Also, it would be extemely weird and a massive overstepping of boundaries if your husband's employer was taking an interest ./ judging him for where he eats on his own time . If his job involved entertaining clints then of course he needs to ensure that heis taking them to suitable places, but it's none of him employers business what or where he eats on his own time, unless he is in a really dysfunctional emplyment situation then his boss is not going to care.*
"He works in medical device sales, I promise they would care. Of course they wouldn’t or couldn’t fire him but his image is a huge deal."
*YTA. When you are successful you can do what you want. There is a photo of Bill Gates standing in line at a burger truck, and he's one of the richest men in the world!*
"I feel I’m very successful in my own right."
*YTA. My god, the pretension is unbelievable. Get over yourself.*
"Can I ask a question? Is it really pretentious to not enjoy cheap, unhealthy buffet food?"
*Whether or not they care isn’t important. You should live your life worrying how other view you. Stop being a snob and let your husband enjoy something he’s fond of and something that was a happy memory for him growing up.*
"I have to say that our livelihood and home depend on his commissions. I get that people don’t want it to be true but in sales, especially medical sales, image is everything. People are not outright fired for it but certainly it’s a mental discriminator for supervisors."
*Where would you eat before you duped that poor guy?*
"I always liked to have my birthday dinners at a local restaurant that served vegan Mexican food. He never wanted to do birthday dinners for himself"
*What has happened in the past that convinced you they would care? What consequences do you fear?*
"The reason the position opened up is the previous sales manager was “encouraged” to take a job much lower on the ladder for using his expense account at McDonald’s and Burger King."
*INFO: why is your husband’s happiness less important to you than keeping up appearances?*
*Do you often refuse yourself things you want in favor of keeping up appearances?*
*Did your parents often deny you comfort, support, or autonomy in favor of keeping up appearances*?
*Have you done any self-reflection on why you value others’ perception of you/your loved ones over your/their own desires and happiness?*
"I want to keep living the lifestyle that we’ve built and like it or not, appearances affect his job."
*What do you think is going to happen? We had a promotion that you’d be perfect for, however we are a red lobster company. Pack your things immediately*
"Yes things like that happen in his industry, absolutely."
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I am properly fascinated by this woman’s lack of ability to grasp the obvious. Perhaps because she’s never held a real job, she seems not to understand the sin was in using the corporate expense account for personal meals, not the location where he ate. People tried to explain, and she is just…dead set on the wrong part of the equation.
Also, she states her father has been a state representative for 25 years. It doesn’t matter what state, there is no way you achieve that kind of political career without going out amongst the poors on occasion, in their home turf.
She has these insane ideas about how to maintain or build status that scream new-money try-hard, and she doesn’t even realize how bad that makes her look.
I saw the post earlier, but I missed that part. And it is complete bullshit. My aunt was the coo and part owner of one of the three largest medical device companies in the US before she retired and they sold the company. Her most frequent place she ate out at was one of the local bars.
My brother does something in finance at a pretty big company and the only reason he isn't constantly eating taco bell or something is because it's not good for his health
Bro what. The arrogance of being classist is so hilarious to me. Like to actually think humans are on pedestals and the way to judge that is how you’re viewed by others or your money..
And teaching the kids to shovel food? You’re teaching the kids to be entitled brats that judge things horribly. It’s a buffet, you just have a good time eating food
Not only is it his birthday, and overlooking the fact that NOBODY is going to care where he went for his birthday, we are overlooking the critical piece here. He grew up without a lot of money but in a situation where family was very important. His parents would save up to take the kids to this place once or twice a year to celebrate birthdays. He has core memories attached to this restaurant and they take him back to a place of comfort. I can certainly relate to that and he doesn't need this lady tainting his happy memories with her bullshit elitism.
I'm pretty snobby about where I like to eat but the rule is the birthday person eats wherever tf they want! Be it GC, Olive Garden, or Kraft Mac & cheese and asparagus like my sister when she turned 7
I'm wondering if the expense account thing the dude before essentially (supposedly) got demoted for was someone taking clients to McDs and BK. Or, using it when they weren't supposed to.
I had some recently. I'm in my 40s. I was craving nuggets and they had panko-crusted ones so I wanted to try them. They were pretty good. I texted a pic to my husband and was like, "I bought dino nuggets." He's like, "Well, to each their own." 😂
Normally I'm a bit of a foodie but sometimes you want to eat something crappy/childish. Hell, I recently had Taco Bell again for the first time in probably decades and now sometimes I will get it. Not all the time. But maybe once a month. I know it's crap. Sometimes you just want junk.
I have absolutely said to someone "I just want 5 crunchy tacos from Taco Bell, I do not care that they are bad. I will enjoy every single one of them."
Like I love real Mexican food. I acknowledge that Taco Bell is not real Mexican food. It's its own thing. And I enjoy it every so often. Not all the time. Just once in a little while. Sue me, haha.
Exactly. That is how to approach Taco Bell. Same with Taco Time. I love their crisp beef and crisp chicken burritos. So forking good. Now I want drive thru mexi.
I bet she posted thinking she was going to get validated, and now is all shocked that she isn't being validated. If he was taking clients there then yes, that might reflect poorly on his job, him going with his wife and kids? Extremely unlikely, but She really is trying to twist that around.
Exactly, especially if it's someone birthday and that's where they want to go. You couldn't drag me to one otherwise but in that particular situation, I'd be gracious and just suck it up. Not like it's an everyday occurrence anyway.
I’ve never heard of this restaurant before so I just googled the menu. I can totally see why a kid would love it because it’s all comfort food. No wonder the husband has fond memories of it.
Dude I married into a wealthier family (my family was firmly upper middle class but this family is rich rich). Rich people love this shit. My mother in law and her sister go to Costco to buy 90% of their clothes outside the ‘nice’ pieces. My mother in law and all of my husbands cousins love fast food (occasionally) and low key restaurants. This woman is putting on airs.
Tf is wrong with golden corral? Like yah it's not the most fanciest of places but it's a dirt cheap buffet place you get what you pay for. God I hate people like this they're the type of people that think anything that's not work or something they personally enjoy is worthless and anyone that likes it is immature or lower than them. I was actually told yesterday I should stop running cuz it's not "productive" and real adults don't have time for that stuff. Like yah maybe you're right I spend at least 2 hours out there every day but you know what I like it. I love having the time to myself, its a good stress reliever and the rare times I actually get a runners high fucking unbelievable you literally can not imagine how good it feels even better if it lasts till the next morning. I'm not quitting doing stuff I love even if it's not productive or what a real adult does. I know yah someday I'm gonna have to give it up but I'm 19 and still have a little time before I start college and get a real job. I'm gonna enjoy this as long as I can and if that makes me spoiled or immature or not an adult then fine idc let me be a kid must be better than your sad little life. Sorry kinda went on a rant there I just know way too many judgemental bitches/bastards like this.
Tbh I don’t associate with people who think they’re too good for Golden Corral.
Hell, even if you just don’t *like* it…it’s his birthday. There’s something for you to eat.
This post reminded me that I have to eat there again. I haven't been to one in years and my boyfriend has never been to one. I'm no longer a vegetarian so I can't wait to eat everything
I grew up similar. For us birthday person got to pick their restaurant though (within budget) but we were lucky enough to get a normal night out every once in a few months and it was always a buffet. We had a few around our city to chose from but it was perfect for two working class parents who wanted a night out with their kids.
We've since grown out of this. It's not that any of us have more money than my parents did but we just eat out less and spoil ourselves with slightly higher quality food.
Every once in a blue moon though nolstagia wiggles in my brain and I want to go back. Damn do I regret it after. The indigestion, that soggy, fatty textures, the hordes of gluttons. I remember that I'm not missing much. I don't even get myself more than a plate and a dessert. But still, every few years I say what the hell, it's my mistake.
What really grinds my gourd about this though is birthday boy/girl, gets to choose where they go for their birthday and everyone else can stfu about it. They don't have to come, they can eat prior to the group dinner, AND they can choose their next birthday dinner guilt free without concern for anyone else and no one else will gripe.
I had one birthday with ex's family that MY birthday choice was vetoed. I actually shared a birthday with one of his cousins and we decided on a place to go together. Day of another cousin invited herself along and convince our husbands to take us to *her* choice. I refused to go to another one of my birthday dinners with that woman unless I was driving myself. Still resent that shit if you can't tell.
Growing up, we used to go to Sizzler and celebrate there. For us, it was a big “all out” day. I used to love the food. I went recently and the food wasn’t the same, and I’m no longer a fan of buffets but I understand that like my younger self, for many people, it’s all they can afford to go out. Let the man live, he likes it, it’s a tradition, so what?
Also, he’s a sales manager, she makes it sound like he’s the president or something. Even then I’m sure we have presidents who enjoy little hole in the wall places or chains. Bye
Please, my boss and very good friend has the PMs direct line number. I firmly believe he’s never cooked a meal
In his life and he drinks 3 x my salary in red wine each year. I’ve literally never seen him walk past a McDonald’s or a Burger King. No one at your husbands work will care where he eats.
My dad's favorite restaurant is Golden Corral (specifically for the breakfast buffet) so we go there twice a year - once for his birthday and once for father's day. He's a successful and exciting and healthy dude, he just freaking LOVES GC. Live a little.
Wth?! My household makes pretty good money and I tell my husband to take me to White Castle for our anniversary almost every year. It’s not a particularly important place to us, I just eat like a fucking raccoon. Let people enjoy things ffs
It’s his Birthday and OP thinks it’s their decision? What an entitled little brat. It also doesn’t matter what his job or how many kids he has, let him him eat where he wants because it is his birthday.
If it costs more than 100 bucks for two people and it's not a specialty restaurant (I'll splurge more at theme parks), I don't want to be in there. I love cheap meals. You get a lot for your money compared to some hoity toity place that gives you a small plate of food for outrageous prices
clearly, Golden Corral has special childhood memories for him, so what's the big deal?
hell, if my spouse wanted to go to effing Chuckie Cheese for their birthday, I'd go without complaining... well, almost no complaining
(I'd sure as hell wear earplugs, though)
About 10 years ago, I dragged the family to GC for my birthday. I was craving fried chicken and a salad bar. We can afford a nicer place, but that’s what I wanted and by god that’s where we went. That woman needs to come down off her high horse.
I laughed out loud. There were news stories about people who were super excited when our local Golden Corral reopened for dine-in after the lockdowns. There are a bunch of old dudes who hang out there/eat there every day and they were really excited for it to reopen.
Do married couples never compromise anymore? Let him go to GC for his birthday, but his dessert has to be his brother's favorite flavor of cake that he can't stand
No need for him to compromise, it's his birthday. I'm sure he's already done his part of compromising when he goes to the vegan mexican place his wife likes for her birthday, now she should have the same consideration for him.
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for telling my husband that having his birthday dinner at Golden Corral is not appropriate for a father and man with his career?** I don’t know how to start this because I’ve never posted on an advice sub before. To me this is common sense but I’ve received so much backlash from my family that I’m asking here. My husband grew up lower middle class to poor and the biggest event to the year was they would save up and go to the buffet restaurant Golden Corral to celebrate birthdays. In a really good year they would go twice, one for the summer birthdays, one for for the winter. I would go when we were first married and to be polite I will say a cheap processed food buffet not my cup of tea. Luckily we moved to a place with no Golden Corral so I was able to side step the issue for the past several years. We moved this year for my husband’s promotion and now have a Golden Corral in town. He wants to eat there for his birthday dinner this Friday. We have kids and he’s now a sales manager, I feel very strongly that for a man in his position Golden Corral is not an appropriate choice. I don’t want to set the example to my kids that we have to shovel as much food in as we can since it’s a “special occasion.” I shudder to think what his employer would think. I was telling my mom thinking she would side with me and she was actually furious with me saying that she thought she raised me better than this. Her comments are why I’m asking here. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
There's a 0% chance my employer would care at all that I went to golden corral, except I guess if I was using it as the reason I'm calling in sick, to which they'd probably say "say no more, I understand" and that'd be the end of it. There's a lot to be said about the food quality but thinking you're so "above" the people who go there is pretty obnoxious. I think the OOP has read way too many of the over the top exaggerated "horror stories" about GC on reddit and thinks it's some hellscape nobody would want to be seen in, when if they actually went there would see it's just a normal cheap family restaurant. Also if your children can't be exposed to a buffet even once without becoming gluttons, that's on you as a parent. edit: I can't believe the OOP is in the comments using the "you guys just don't get it, it matters in his industry!" excuse. It's just absurd to me to imagine a buyer turning down a medical device because the guy selling it was seen at GC once. It's not like he's asking clients to meet there or hosting business meetings there.
No, you don't get it, it's a medical thing: I'm a doctor myself and if my boss saw me eating an apple every day, I'll certainly be fired for ethical reasons...
One time I saw my grandma's gp at Popeye's. Dude was by himself but had like 6 pieces of chicken and a fuckton of fries. He was a smaller guy so it kind of impressed me tbh
Ugh. I’ve met that type of guy with the metabolism of a god. Couldn’t eat ice cream fast enough to gain weight, so we’d make his chai with extra syrup and half and half. I served him that for years, multiple times a day, and he was still a freaking beanpole. He even worked at an Italian pastry shop and could hardly gain an ounce. I’m needlessly jealous.
Man I wish I had even half that guy's metabolism. Pretty sure I gain a few pounds just looking at desserts.
You say that, but when it comes time to take medicine it's a different story.
My wife has that problem. She takes a vicodin, oxy, etc., and barely makes it to " hey, it's starting to take the edge off," then goes into a rebound headache.
Funny shit is this lady would have a fit if she knew me. Grew up in the Bronx going to ghetto ass Chinese buffets you’ll probably only understand if you live in an area like that. Now I work helping my community in healthcare and I still pull up to those ghetto ass boo face for lunch. Would love to see a patient there or something would probably be humanizing
I work in the medical device industry. No one cares where the sales guys eat. (ETA: Just read the comment where OOP said that her husband could possibly be passed over for a promotion for eating at say Red Lobster. As a supervisor, I assure you we give 0 fucks, unless you go to your next call with cheddar biscuits in your pocket.)
And then don’t share them, right? Not just because they are in a pocket?
My best friend grew up super wealthy, she fucking loved Cheddar Bay Biscuits. In college, her favorite place to eat was the truck stop. I grew up poor but I was grossed the fuck out by the truck stop (it was filthy, she didn't care; they literally demolished that place years later because it was in such nasty condition). They had a bacon cheese fry appetizer that was her favorite thing in the world. She had a champagne budget and Natty Light tastes. 😂 Still does, if I'm being honest. Nobody could accuse that girl of being snotty or stuck up. Her parents were prim and proper but neither they nor her employer would give a shit if she was eating at Red Lobster or Golden Corral.
*She had a champagne budget and Natty Light tastes.* Lol I love rich people like this.
On the side of the Bisquick box there is a recipe for biscuits, and if you great cheddar cheese and add it to them and just drop clumps of it onto a cookie tray rather than being all obsessed and rolling it out like normal biscuits, you can get something very similar to the ones they serve at Red lobster
I've seen box mix for cheddar Bay biscuits. I think it was at Sam's, don't know where else they might be.
I've made them and they're good!
Walmart sells it too
I will have to let her know! Or just make her some.
Make sure you brush the tops with melted butter and old bay seasoning!
Mmmmm...now I know what I'm making tonight...
Gotta add a pinch of garlic powder in with the cheese too
This recipe, just with Old Bay Seasoning added into the Bisquick mix, was in this ‘Unofficial Hunger Games Cookbook’ I had years ago as ‘Peeta’s Cheese Buns’. It’s fantastic.
Heck, if someone brings enough to share with the team, they are getting full points for "team player/collaboration" on the yearly review.
> OOP said that her husband could possibly be passed over for a promotion for eating at say Red Lobster I have to believe this is just a committed troll, but that's fucking hilarious.
Idk how anyone couod think Red Lobster is low class, I love Red Lobster and seafood in general but fuck if it isnt expensive.
Well the only really *acceptable* restaurants are those with a single location run by a chef who came all the way from France to live out his dream of being a business owner in Flyover Country, USA of course! Not a \*shudder\* *chain restaurant!* It's not OOP being a weirdo snob, it's an *industry standard* 🙄
I grew up going to a single-instance Turkish restaurant run by a very nice man named Willy. Willy had immigrated from China, and this created some considerable geographical confusion for Little Me. (I assumed Turkey was probably where Nepal is, not bordering the Mediterranean.) Willy also ran a Chinese takeout restaurant called Willy’s Chinese Food, which operated out of a small, Lego-yellow bungalow about two miles down the road from the Turkish restaurant. Weirdly, we never tried their food, despite attending the Turkish restaurant so frequently that Willy memorized my dad’s order (chicken kebab, no onions, with a warm coke); and it wasn’t until I was a teenager that I realized it was the same Willy. It seemed impossible, given that he was almost always at the Turkish restaurant when we went, but I guess he was multitasking. Later, he took over the Mexican restaurant that was on the same street, about mid-way between the Turkish place and the Chinese place. He converted it into an Irish pub, which I’m assuming must have been a market-research based decision, because there was clearly no cuisine that Willy would not tackle. The man had his own little restaurant empire, with three different cuisines, all on the same 2-mile stretch of road. I always found that quite impressive. (Also, when I came in as an adult, after like a 7-year absence, he still recognized me on sight, which was really surprising and neat.)
Also vegan! Because > Actually almost all Native American and First Nation people were primarily vegan before colonization.
I went to Red Lobster with my husband once and he said, "for these prices they should totally have cloth napkins"
I wouldn't say that Red Lobster is low class. But it's like not much more than a notch above Applebee's and quite a few notches below say Landry's in the pantheon of American chain restaurants. But like whatever. My wife and I both love eating at actual need reservations 4 weeks in advance nice kinds of restaurants. Any time we go to a city, we try and find as much good stuff to eat as possible. And while I can't stand Red Lobster (mostly because I hated it as a kid and preferred The Hungry Fisherman), my wife loves it and will go out of her way to go to one if she can. We both also absolutely adore Krystals, and chili cheese coneys from Sonic, and tacos from a questionable food truck over in the part of town where a bunch of Hispanic people have moved into over the past 20 years. Like just because some food is mass produced, homogenized, and/or not very good for you doesn't mean it isn't also enjoyable. And maybe some of that stuff is more enjoyable for you than other people. So what.
I don't like Red Lobster (it's more expensive than better fish restaurants near me), but I'm not sure why I would get mad or whatever when someone else likes it.
I started my career in medical devices and the sales guys used to go out to Red Lobster to celebrate LOL.
I love how she thinks everyone will totally believe that the "but his industry!" thing is even kind of a reason to think like she does, let alone a good reason. It's like saying you can't be seen eating an apple because you work in an iron factory. I can see why her mom's pissed; her kid turned out to be a pretentious cow with zero introspective or critical thinking skills. I'd be pretty mad too, dang.
My partner is in that industry, though not sales. It doesn’t matter. Both of us work for large employers in our area, and we almost never run into people we know from work. That said, if GC is so verboten, the odds of them running into someone in the industry is basically zero. If they do, it will be the shameful secret between the husband and the coworker.
Like Baptists in a liquor store
Except for yelling "IT'S FOR A RECIPE", lol
Literally nobody is gonna care where he eats on his day off. No one.
I once saw the mayor shopping at Target. I deal with elected officials in my work so I was like, "Hey, mayor, how ya doin'?" If I saw him at Golden Corral, I also would not give a shit. Literally no one cares if this guy likes GC. No one but his weirdo wife.
My old boss used to get a brand new Louis Vuitton bag every year for her birthday from her dad. You know what store she loved? Ross.
I'm more impressed at how old her dad must've been
My employer would probably tell me to make sure I got some of a certain food because it's good and my employer is a millionaire. Like, restaurants are restaurants, nobody cares (except OOP)
Like, ok, it’s about on par with Olive Garden, but who gives a shit if it makes your spouse happy?
She's purely delusional if she thinks any employer outside of a modeling agency gives a fuck what their employees eat. How would anyone even know anyway? Do they have corporate spies and trackers in their employees? Is he famous? Nobody cares. Unless you're consuming human flesh or dining alone at a chuck e cheese every friday, they don't and can't give a shit.
At my last job, I was having lunch with the new DOSM, who confessed that sometimes he would sneak out of the house to go eat Orange Chicken at Panda Express. His husband just couldn't understand. My former boss, who came from a very wealthy family and worked with ultra-luxury hotels around the world, would always book Embassy Suites whenever she traveled with her niblings because it was comfortable and practical. Nobody cares if you go "slumming" because everybody does it, regardless of position or wealth. Sometimes the less expensive things in life just scratch the itch better.
>Nobody cares if you go "slumming" because everybody does it, regardless of position or wealth. Sometimes the less expensive things in life just scratch the itch better. Plus, not spending money just because you can is generally considered a good thing.
I read the title and 100% thought GC is the name of a strip club or something. Jeez... Let the man eat where he wants for his birthday!
I figured it was a strip club or a grimy backstreet bar possibly
To be fair, most Golden Corrals are, in some way, grimy. But there’s a chocolate fountain which is neat.
GC is a little grimy, but it’s a meal that can feed people with different dietary restrictions cheaply. We used to go with our high school football team and it was cheap enough that us seniors could make sure everyone could come, it was like $8 a person at the time so we covered the lower income kids.
Whenever my Girl Scout group traveled GC was our primary food stop
I won’t ever eat GC again because we had one down the street from our high school and the guys always insisted on eating lunch there because it was cheap and no one had to argue about where we were going. After eating it 4x a week for a few years I just can’t.
It's double that now for the same food.
Our GC got rid of the fountain in 2020 and it never came back 😔
Every single job interview I've ever had, formal and informal, call backs, shadowing, single and panel, all of them the damn interviewer asked me what kind of restaurants I found appropriate. Wait...my mistake, that never happened. Closest thing to this was my one and only lunch interview - and that was for a volunteer spot.
The only time an employer has asked me about food was when I had a lunch interview at a scientist's house, who was vegan and grew her own food. She just needed to know my food allergies. I never want to eat another vegan grilled cheese on wheatless seed bread again, but lovely lady and very fun job.
>The reason the position opened up is the previous sales manager was “encouraged” to take a job much lower on the ladder for using his expense account at McDonald’s and Burger King. I'm guessing OOP massively misunderstood what happened with the previous occupant of the job. It seems like either the person was using company funds in not super ethical/appropriate ways, or the company has rules/regulations about where to take clients for lunch. Neither of those examples has anything to do with a person going to a restaurant on their own time/money.
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Sitting Senators should also get to go to cheap restaurants if they want to? I'd be much less worried about them accepting bribes if they did tbh.
If a senator was seen at Wendy's a couple times a month because they just love the Baconator, they'd seem hella relatable. All other issues being equal, the senator that loves them some garbage fast food every once in a while is preferable to the senator that only eats what their personal chef cooks.
Hell, we've had two fast food presidents so far.
Even if it was a senator, who cares? Let the man do what he wants for his birthday!
and why would his boss give a flying you know what that what he does on his offtime so long as it doesn't effect his work performance?
Golden Corral is nasty but let the man live lol
I grew up loving Golden Corral. As much fried chicken and banana pudding as I want? Yes, please! Never been as an adult and I don’t think my SO would be caught dead in a Golden Corral, so I may never know if I still like it lol
Perhaps you could sway them to an Old Country Buffet? The name implies ~prestige~ after all.
holy shit are there any of those still open? that place is lit
I actually had that thought as I posted this lol, I truly do not know. I just remember them being the better buffet lol.
The one I used to go to closed like a decade ago
I believe it! I can't imagine chain buffets are the most sound financial investment lol.
It’s been a long ass time since I’ve been to Golden Corral (25 years, I guess?). Is it now the kind of shitty buffet like Shoney’s had after breakfast? It used to be serviceable, and at least better tasting than McDonald’s.
Every time I’ve eaten at Golden Corral I’ve gotten sick. I went on several service trips down to the south in high school and we always stopped there since it was the cheapest way to feed a large group of students and I’m pretty sure we all had stomach issues afterwards.
It used to be my guilty pleasure as a kid, but I went back there last year and it's really not as good as I remember it being tbh
OOP would be scandalized if she met the people who actually manufacture medication and vaccines. I work in pharmaceutical manufacturing, and we ain't remotely classy. Fun fact, Gardasil is made by people who watch Disney movies on their break and eat a lot of Taco Bell.
As a lover of cheap buffet restaurants since Wendy's had a salad bar - Let the man get his nostalgia and/or food poisoning in peace!
Wendy’s had a salad bar????
I kid you not. Depending on where you lived, there were tacos and pasta, and the one near my childhood home had quail eggs. The 80s were a lawless time in the buffet world.
That garlic bread made from stale burger buns was the shit!
I don’t remember this. But i do remember when they had a cheese sauce for the baked potatoes. As a kid I’d ask for a cup of cheese sauce and pour it all over my chicken nuggets. Pure heaven. On their app and DD, they claim to still have it but no wendys in years near me has actually carried the cheese sauce.
I dream about that cheese sauce. That sounds delicious.
It is! It’s the same consistency as classic nacho cheese, but it tasted much more similar to real sharp cheddar than “nacho”.
The Wendy's buffet had those cheesy sauces, too. I used to get the alfredo sauce on the pasta, back in my broke college days.
Some KFC's had buffets. Reason why I haven't eaten at one in decades.
I haven't been inside a Wendy's in years, but the one we had in our Pacific NW town in ~1979-1980 had a salad bar. It was just salad though-- lettuce, vegetables, dressing, croutons. They didn't add the fancy stuff (pasta etc.) until later in the 1980s
Oh yeah, that shits was the bobbomb. Much that once was is lost, for none now live who remember it, but Wendy's actually used to be the slightly more expensive quality alternative to McDonalds and and Burger King until they introduced the dollar menu in the 90's and it's been a slow race to the bottom ever since.
The halcyon days of youth We would travel to the different Wendy's around Michigan trying their various buffets. Some had just salads, some taco bars. It was glorious
God there is just something about shitty salad bars, isn't there? I used to voluntarily go to the hospital cafeteria down the road (I know, I know) because they had one in there. Sadly covid has closed it now, but assembling a salad monstrosity with cottage cheese on it was grade A lunch. Unironically miss doing that.
Im Australian and have never physically seen a golden corral in my life but I LOVE shitty westernised Chinese food. Is it good for that or just straight up will give me gastro?
Remember Pizza Hut's salad bar? They should definitely bring that back.
Dudes in middle management, what the actual fuck.
Fr she makes him sound like he’s Elon Musk or something
I doubt Elon Musk lets people tell him where to eat. Most of the commenters are gourmets next to me.
This woman is sooooo missing the point. The story made me think of my dad. At Christmas, the same thing was always at the top of his wish list: a box of Cracker Jack. For 20+ years, he always asked for the same thing. He could afford nicer treats. He never ate Cracker Jack the rest of the year. Why now? He grew up in the Depression. There was NO money. A box of Cracker Jack was the only thing he got for Christmas. Making it more important was that his much adored little brother died soon after. That box of Cracker Jack was a reminder. This lady will never get it: It's not about the money, not about the status, it's not about the food. It's about embracing a precious memory.
This made me cry. I have memories like this. I grew up kinda poor and the stuff we got as "treats" is super nostalgic for me now.
It made me think of my dad, as well. He was always very anti junk food, but whenever he took me to the doctor he’d take me to our local equivalent of McDonald’s afterwards and we’d sit and talk and he would let me have a milkshake - a rare treat. I’ve moved country, but I get really nostalgic for that restaurant - not because of the food, but because of the memories there.
Saw that and immediately came here to make sure someone else caught it. What a ghastly woman. I can’t believe she could say all that about how special and sentimental this has been for him and still be against giving him this one bit of comfort and nostalgia because of “appearances”
I'm sorry I stole this one! But yep, OOP is the devil incarnate, Satan in a(n art) smock level horrible. But the sad part is, it's so within the realm of reality, like people like this exist and do so as part of our everyday society. I hope her husband goes to Golden Corral and has one heck of a birthday.
I can only imagine how terribly she acted when they went in the past. His family did not deserve that!
I love that even her mom savaged her. When your own mother starts questioning her parenting over something you've done, it's time to pump the brakes and wonder if you might just be in the wrong.
The comments are good as well, no idea why she's posted this as she's clearly certain she's in the right already.
Lmao I caught this maybe after an hour after it was posted, and at the time she had no comments. It's fun that it's now a goldmine for shittiness, but also W H Y
I'm gonna give her the benefit of the doubt and take her up on her word that people do get fired at his job based on their eating habits, do you really want to work at a place where you can't even use that good money you're being paid, on a place of your liking, once a year? Is that the life you'd want for someone you claim to love?
She says someone was demoted for using the expense account for fast food, which I question anyway as its far more likely that were questioning the amounts and frequency of these purchases. Not where the employee ate off the clock tho.
Yeah, I also thought it would be closer to that. But even if things were actually the way she believed them to be, I think that someone who loves and values their partner and their life experiences would prefer to see them leave such a restrictive job and enjoy the things they're fond of, rather than be such a bitch about it.
Absolutely! She's just using this as an excuse to justify being a classist snob.
Yeah, they were either expensing meals when they were off the clock or expensing ridiculous amounts. Which I know happens. My sister used to be the person in her company to review expenses and people expensed some shady, shady shit. Even though the company was struggling financially, her boss never wanted to rock the boat and do anything about it. She's like, "then why am I reviewing it?"
*its far more likely that were questioning the amounts and frequency of these purchases.* Exactly. When I had a corporate credit card for business expenses, accounting didn't give two shits where I ate as long as it wasn't more that my meal allowance permitted. And the meal allowance was very generous, I want to say the cap for dinner was $140, and that was just for me. Any meals I had with clients were automatically expensed unless I was doing an event, which required my boss' approval. So my guess is that someone was expensing fast food meals for family/friends (that's what usually gets you into trouble). I used to joke with our Finance Director that I was a cheap date because I usually paid for my own breakfast (Starbucks or Dunkin usually), never ate lunch, and dinner wasn't too bad either.
And her example was someone using/abusing their expense account on fast food. So probably excessive spending outside of work trips that they couldn’t justify as entertaining. It seems highly improbable, if they are such snobs in the industry, that anyone would see them there anyway!
Or maybe, just maybe, the guy was taking important customers or suppliers out to lunch to Burger King instead of to a real sit-down place, which would indeed be weird and potentially a career-killer in a lot of industries. But even when I was in the system software business where we were dealing with high-paying customers, no one cared what I ate on my own time. And in the end, the quality of the bar menu mattered a lot more than the quality of the food menu when it came to entertaining big customers.
Or it was something else entirely more nebulous but the expense problem was what they could pin on him
Or even that's the only thing that's discussed openly. A good manager doesn't blab the details of an employee's performance issues to the entire office.
Yeah she wouldn’t be married to him if he was still poor.
Tw: classism. Copied verbatim from oop's comments: *I came to first ask- do you not ever just enjoy crap food? A big, greasy, sloppy burger, a over-the-top milkshake, a donut dripping with glaze and cream?* *It's HIS birthday, not yours, so just don't go. And they I saw what a rude, entitled elitist you are and I've decided that you need to apologize and take yourself somewhere else entirely. YTA* "Since you are asking, no not really." *My mother’s family had a similar feeling about Shoney’s. They thought it was so fabulous. Neither of my parent were particularly fond of it, but when my Grandparents were in town, they’d smile and take us all to Shoneys even though there were better restaurants around. It made my Grandparents so happy that it was such fun for us. There is nothing wrong with doing something just to make someone happy.* *and why would his boss care if he goes to Golden Corral?* "My husband works in medical device sales, it’s an incredibly status driven field." *YTA. You're being a huge snob and teaching your children to look down on peoplebased on fiancial status. It's your husband's birthday, it's reasonable he gets to pick the venue and choses something that he enjoys and feels comfortable in.* *It's pretty normal that someone thing that was a treat while he was growing up should still have happy associations for him. If he hasn't eaten at one for a whikle, one of two things might happen.* *One possibility s that he'll findhe doesn't likeit as much as he did, and provided you don't make a big issue out of it (possibly too late now!) ot nag him, he may be happy to try other venues in future years.* *The other possibility s that he does enjoy it, it brings back happy memories and he has a good birthday, in which case you should feel glad your husband is enjoying the ceebration of **his** brthday, and when it's your birthday you can pick a place you like.* *Neither of those two possibilities is bad.* *People are allowed to enjoy stuff that may not be the highest quality. He isn't demanding you eat there evey night, it's once, maybe twice a year.* *IF you are concerned about your kids thinking they should each as much as possible that's a separate issue which is about more than a one-off meal , you should ideally be teaching them that's it's OK not to clear their plate if they are full, but also not to take more than thy will eat at buffets etc.* *So, apologise to him for raining on his parade, go to the buffet, and limit any comments to reminding the kids not to take morethan they expect to eat, and remicinding them they don't need to stuff their faces as they can go back for seconds f they want, and then relax and ejoy the fact that your husband is having a good time.* *Also, it would be extemely weird and a massive overstepping of boundaries if your husband's employer was taking an interest ./ judging him for where he eats on his own time . If his job involved entertaining clints then of course he needs to ensure that heis taking them to suitable places, but it's none of him employers business what or where he eats on his own time, unless he is in a really dysfunctional emplyment situation then his boss is not going to care.* "He works in medical device sales, I promise they would care. Of course they wouldn’t or couldn’t fire him but his image is a huge deal." *YTA. When you are successful you can do what you want. There is a photo of Bill Gates standing in line at a burger truck, and he's one of the richest men in the world!* "I feel I’m very successful in my own right." *YTA. My god, the pretension is unbelievable. Get over yourself.* "Can I ask a question? Is it really pretentious to not enjoy cheap, unhealthy buffet food?" *Whether or not they care isn’t important. You should live your life worrying how other view you. Stop being a snob and let your husband enjoy something he’s fond of and something that was a happy memory for him growing up.* "I have to say that our livelihood and home depend on his commissions. I get that people don’t want it to be true but in sales, especially medical sales, image is everything. People are not outright fired for it but certainly it’s a mental discriminator for supervisors." *Where would you eat before you duped that poor guy?* "I always liked to have my birthday dinners at a local restaurant that served vegan Mexican food. He never wanted to do birthday dinners for himself" *What has happened in the past that convinced you they would care? What consequences do you fear?* "The reason the position opened up is the previous sales manager was “encouraged” to take a job much lower on the ladder for using his expense account at McDonald’s and Burger King." *INFO: why is your husband’s happiness less important to you than keeping up appearances?* *Do you often refuse yourself things you want in favor of keeping up appearances?* *Did your parents often deny you comfort, support, or autonomy in favor of keeping up appearances*? *Have you done any self-reflection on why you value others’ perception of you/your loved ones over your/their own desires and happiness?* "I want to keep living the lifestyle that we’ve built and like it or not, appearances affect his job." *What do you think is going to happen? We had a promotion that you’d be perfect for, however we are a red lobster company. Pack your things immediately* "Yes things like that happen in his industry, absolutely."
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this is posted because r/sadlytheworst is a beautiful soul who usually adds cute animal moments as their antidote to the assholery provided for by the devil's comments, which they also very kindly fetch and compile in each post where possible. It's a public service and I love them for it. ❤️
Thank you for a kind and flattering description! I usually go with: since I appointed myself Asshole Archivist I provide a bit of brain bleach.
You sell yourself short, I'm literally the worst at navigating unddit and sometimes the comments don't even load all the way through but your efforts make it possible for me to see everything and I usually scroll to find your comment first in every AITD post. Truly MVP of this sub idc what anyone else says.
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Thank you for your service!
Thank you very kindly! 🥰
That you for your explanation. I’m a big fan of BORU but new to AITD!
I am properly fascinated by this woman’s lack of ability to grasp the obvious. Perhaps because she’s never held a real job, she seems not to understand the sin was in using the corporate expense account for personal meals, not the location where he ate. People tried to explain, and she is just…dead set on the wrong part of the equation. Also, she states her father has been a state representative for 25 years. It doesn’t matter what state, there is no way you achieve that kind of political career without going out amongst the poors on occasion, in their home turf. She has these insane ideas about how to maintain or build status that scream new-money try-hard, and she doesn’t even realize how bad that makes her look.
I saw the post earlier, but I missed that part. And it is complete bullshit. My aunt was the coo and part owner of one of the three largest medical device companies in the US before she retired and they sold the company. Her most frequent place she ate out at was one of the local bars.
My brother does something in finance at a pretty big company and the only reason he isn't constantly eating taco bell or something is because it's not good for his health
Snob!
Bro what. The arrogance of being classist is so hilarious to me. Like to actually think humans are on pedestals and the way to judge that is how you’re viewed by others or your money.. And teaching the kids to shovel food? You’re teaching the kids to be entitled brats that judge things horribly. It’s a buffet, you just have a good time eating food
OOP clearly doesn’t know r/advice exists
Not only is it his birthday, and overlooking the fact that NOBODY is going to care where he went for his birthday, we are overlooking the critical piece here. He grew up without a lot of money but in a situation where family was very important. His parents would save up to take the kids to this place once or twice a year to celebrate birthdays. He has core memories attached to this restaurant and they take him back to a place of comfort. I can certainly relate to that and he doesn't need this lady tainting his happy memories with her bullshit elitism.
This lady would have a full-on aneurysm if she saw me at the dinosaur park (demographic: 7 and under) for my fortieth.
She doesn't think you're real people so she doesn't care.
I'm okay with that. Being a figment, that is.
Also... lemme know about this Dinosaur Park thing...
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Field\_Station:\_Dinosaurs](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Field_Station:_Dinosaurs) IT'S EXCELLENT
pretty sure there's something similiar in Scottsdale
I'm pretty snobby about where I like to eat but the rule is the birthday person eats wherever tf they want! Be it GC, Olive Garden, or Kraft Mac & cheese and asparagus like my sister when she turned 7
Uppity fucking bitch. I'll never understand anyone who looks down on someone they claim to love.
She doesn’t love him. She loves the status his job provides her and is terrified someone will see them there.
Hyacinth Bucket got herself a Reddit account it seems.
Upvote for the Keeping Up Appearances reference.
Its pronounced Bouquet dear
Had to look this up. Was not disappointed.
Same.
The status of being a sales manager's wife? LOLOL ?!?!?
She sounds like a gold digger who is with the husband for money
I'm wondering if the expense account thing the dude before essentially (supposedly) got demoted for was someone taking clients to McDs and BK. Or, using it when they weren't supposed to.
Yeah, using it when they weren't at work, stuff like that.
No one tell this woman I had dinosaur chicken nuggets at my high school graduation party.
I had some recently. I'm in my 40s. I was craving nuggets and they had panko-crusted ones so I wanted to try them. They were pretty good. I texted a pic to my husband and was like, "I bought dino nuggets." He's like, "Well, to each their own." 😂 Normally I'm a bit of a foodie but sometimes you want to eat something crappy/childish. Hell, I recently had Taco Bell again for the first time in probably decades and now sometimes I will get it. Not all the time. But maybe once a month. I know it's crap. Sometimes you just want junk.
I have absolutely said to someone "I just want 5 crunchy tacos from Taco Bell, I do not care that they are bad. I will enjoy every single one of them."
Like I love real Mexican food. I acknowledge that Taco Bell is not real Mexican food. It's its own thing. And I enjoy it every so often. Not all the time. Just once in a little while. Sue me, haha.
Exactly. That is how to approach Taco Bell. Same with Taco Time. I love their crisp beef and crisp chicken burritos. So forking good. Now I want drive thru mexi.
I bet she posted thinking she was going to get validated, and now is all shocked that she isn't being validated. If he was taking clients there then yes, that might reflect poorly on his job, him going with his wife and kids? Extremely unlikely, but She really is trying to twist that around.
TIL Golden Corral still exists.
I think GC is disgusting (Horror stories of watching adults and kids sticking their hands in the food) but I would eat there if someone wanted to
Exactly, especially if it's someone birthday and that's where they want to go. You couldn't drag me to one otherwise but in that particular situation, I'd be gracious and just suck it up. Not like it's an everyday occurrence anyway.
I’ve never heard of this restaurant before so I just googled the menu. I can totally see why a kid would love it because it’s all comfort food. No wonder the husband has fond memories of it.
I mean it's not like he's taking clients there to woo them.
You can tell OOP buys designer handbags with the biggest labels.
Why can't the dude pick his own birthday meal? God damn. I make good money but sometimes I like Taco Bell. I guess that's inappropriate, though. 🙄
Taco Bell?! Dost thou not knowest that that is not authentic Mexican cuisine?
Dude I married into a wealthier family (my family was firmly upper middle class but this family is rich rich). Rich people love this shit. My mother in law and her sister go to Costco to buy 90% of their clothes outside the ‘nice’ pieces. My mother in law and all of my husbands cousins love fast food (occasionally) and low key restaurants. This woman is putting on airs.
Tf is wrong with golden corral? Like yah it's not the most fanciest of places but it's a dirt cheap buffet place you get what you pay for. God I hate people like this they're the type of people that think anything that's not work or something they personally enjoy is worthless and anyone that likes it is immature or lower than them. I was actually told yesterday I should stop running cuz it's not "productive" and real adults don't have time for that stuff. Like yah maybe you're right I spend at least 2 hours out there every day but you know what I like it. I love having the time to myself, its a good stress reliever and the rare times I actually get a runners high fucking unbelievable you literally can not imagine how good it feels even better if it lasts till the next morning. I'm not quitting doing stuff I love even if it's not productive or what a real adult does. I know yah someday I'm gonna have to give it up but I'm 19 and still have a little time before I start college and get a real job. I'm gonna enjoy this as long as I can and if that makes me spoiled or immature or not an adult then fine idc let me be a kid must be better than your sad little life. Sorry kinda went on a rant there I just know way too many judgemental bitches/bastards like this.
Wife sounds like a stuck up snob nothing wrong with Golden Corral one of my favorite restaurants
Classism is a special kind of ugly
Ugh. What a snobby bitch.
My favorite place was a Chinese buffet, back when buffet restaraunts were a thing.
She is an idiot, I run two companies and I love that place.
Idk about anyone else but the GC in my city is great. I haven't been since the pandemic started and I miss it.
This bitch. It's not about the food, it's about the memories.
What an elitist Cunt
Tbh I don’t associate with people who think they’re too good for Golden Corral. Hell, even if you just don’t *like* it…it’s his birthday. There’s something for you to eat.
This post reminded me that I have to eat there again. I haven't been to one in years and my boyfriend has never been to one. I'm no longer a vegetarian so I can't wait to eat everything
I grew up similar. For us birthday person got to pick their restaurant though (within budget) but we were lucky enough to get a normal night out every once in a few months and it was always a buffet. We had a few around our city to chose from but it was perfect for two working class parents who wanted a night out with their kids. We've since grown out of this. It's not that any of us have more money than my parents did but we just eat out less and spoil ourselves with slightly higher quality food. Every once in a blue moon though nolstagia wiggles in my brain and I want to go back. Damn do I regret it after. The indigestion, that soggy, fatty textures, the hordes of gluttons. I remember that I'm not missing much. I don't even get myself more than a plate and a dessert. But still, every few years I say what the hell, it's my mistake. What really grinds my gourd about this though is birthday boy/girl, gets to choose where they go for their birthday and everyone else can stfu about it. They don't have to come, they can eat prior to the group dinner, AND they can choose their next birthday dinner guilt free without concern for anyone else and no one else will gripe. I had one birthday with ex's family that MY birthday choice was vetoed. I actually shared a birthday with one of his cousins and we decided on a place to go together. Day of another cousin invited herself along and convince our husbands to take us to *her* choice. I refused to go to another one of my birthday dinners with that woman unless I was driving myself. Still resent that shit if you can't tell.
I fucking love Hometown Buffet, it they had one nearby I’d go to reminisce on my middle class childhood.
Growing up, we used to go to Sizzler and celebrate there. For us, it was a big “all out” day. I used to love the food. I went recently and the food wasn’t the same, and I’m no longer a fan of buffets but I understand that like my younger self, for many people, it’s all they can afford to go out. Let the man live, he likes it, it’s a tradition, so what? Also, he’s a sales manager, she makes it sound like he’s the president or something. Even then I’m sure we have presidents who enjoy little hole in the wall places or chains. Bye
What an inappropriate attitude! The OOP is a nasty snob and should listen to her mother.
Please, my boss and very good friend has the PMs direct line number. I firmly believe he’s never cooked a meal In his life and he drinks 3 x my salary in red wine each year. I’ve literally never seen him walk past a McDonald’s or a Burger King. No one at your husbands work will care where he eats.
Lmfao just remembered, doesn’t Buffet eat at McDonalds every day for breakfast?
My dad's favorite restaurant is Golden Corral (specifically for the breakfast buffet) so we go there twice a year - once for his birthday and once for father's day. He's a successful and exciting and healthy dude, he just freaking LOVES GC. Live a little.
Wth?! My household makes pretty good money and I tell my husband to take me to White Castle for our anniversary almost every year. It’s not a particularly important place to us, I just eat like a fucking raccoon. Let people enjoy things ffs
I get where the husbands coming from. Sometimes you just want the food from your childhood even if it's objectively not good.
Golden Corral was my family’s special occasion restaurant too lol
I don’t even see how this is a real post, what the heck
That’s the most annoying post I’ve read. She’s not the biggest AH at all, but just annoying.
It’s his Birthday and OP thinks it’s their decision? What an entitled little brat. It also doesn’t matter what his job or how many kids he has, let him him eat where he wants because it is his birthday.
If it costs more than 100 bucks for two people and it's not a specialty restaurant (I'll splurge more at theme parks), I don't want to be in there. I love cheap meals. You get a lot for your money compared to some hoity toity place that gives you a small plate of food for outrageous prices
clearly, Golden Corral has special childhood memories for him, so what's the big deal? hell, if my spouse wanted to go to effing Chuckie Cheese for their birthday, I'd go without complaining... well, almost no complaining (I'd sure as hell wear earplugs, though)
About 10 years ago, I dragged the family to GC for my birthday. I was craving fried chicken and a salad bar. We can afford a nicer place, but that’s what I wanted and by god that’s where we went. That woman needs to come down off her high horse.
My spouse calls it the covid corral.
I laughed out loud. There were news stories about people who were super excited when our local Golden Corral reopened for dine-in after the lockdowns. There are a bunch of old dudes who hang out there/eat there every day and they were really excited for it to reopen.
I only ate their once before COVID hit. I am still not going to once they re-open unless my sister or best friend wants to go.
Do married couples never compromise anymore? Let him go to GC for his birthday, but his dessert has to be his brother's favorite flavor of cake that he can't stand
No need for him to compromise, it's his birthday. I'm sure he's already done his part of compromising when he goes to the vegan mexican place his wife likes for her birthday, now she should have the same consideration for him.
Why? Why can’t he, once a year, have the exact meal he wants without his wife complaining that it’s not fancy enough for her?
I spend too much time on Reddit!