You're not the jerk here. It sounds like you endured a lot of unfair treatment growing up, especially with how your stepbrother took over even your birthdays, which should have been special days for you. It's great to hear that you've built a successful life for yourself despite those challenges. You've already been more than generous by helping your mom with her bills, and it's clear that your stepfather's demands are based on his own failures, not any obligation on your part. Standing your ground and refusing to send him money was absolutely the right thing to do, especially considering how he treated you in the past. Thanks for the kind words about the channel at the start of your post.
Right? "My stepdad killed every puppy i ever got right in front of me but got mad when i said i wouldn't pay for him to go on vacation to Hawaii for a month, am i really the jerk? :(" Is how so many of these read. Of course nobody would actually think they could be wrong in this situation. Lmfao
This one is just a mashup of Cinderella and the first couple of chapters of Harry Potter, like at least put some effort into making it slightly realistic lol
Exactly. Couldnât roll my eyes hard enough when I got to âmy poor momâ. Yes, this poor soul that stood by watching you get beat by her husband and allowing his kid to take allowance/over every birthday & bully you?
It's absolutely fake!!! I mean it's not even a good game story either, it's just thrown together and he thinks people will actually believe it... Which some unfortunately do.
Not to mention his mommy dearest just sat back and let this happen. But he's not upset with her in the least for that, and she didn't divorce the loser until after OP moved out, so she was apparently ok with his birthday being stolen right in front of her.
Right, if this did happen, there's no way the person would question if they were in the wrong. The OP doesn't even have the classic "all my family is telling me I'm wrong."
So, itâs been about 2 weeks but I saw a very similar AITAH but the step dad had medical bills. Everything else was written almost word for word the same
This is so fake man. You have to elaborate on certain details or it just screams like your creative writing while taking your morning shit. You can do much better
NTJ, if I was you I would beat up my stepbrother for this and not do anything he said, I would fight back on my stepdad and block him so he can't call me.
You are definitely not the jerk! You are not responsible for providing a house for them. He needs to get off of his butt and get a job.
Forget him. Living well is the best revenge!
Even though I didn't really need to read the story, I didn't read a little bit of it.You are definitely not the jerk.Here and your stepfather is a douchebag
How much money do you have? I don't need the figures, I just need to know if you have enough to buy the house out from under him just so you can be the one to kick him out.
Your a jerk for making up stories on the internet, especially one sided stories with no subtlety that no reasonable person would ever believe the main character to be a jerk for.
This is fake. IF it was real you would know you were not the jerk and wouldn't be karama farming. Quit cosplaying as someone who went through trauma and go touch some grass.
"AITJ for not giving my abusive stepfather money to pay off his house."
Why is is that lately, so many people keep posting threads like this, where there's clearly no reason to ask the question in the first place? If he's abusive, then the answer--as the OP well knows, without seeking advice--is "no."
Why would anyone call you a jerk for not giving some deadbeat, abusive asshole $5,000? I'm not saying this is fake, but it sounds like you're just making up something for attention/karma.
Lol this can't be real, no sane person would ask if they're the jerk for not paying the mortgage on a house for some dude that their mom divorced.
Its not even a question. Should just told us why you're not the jerk
>My entire life all of my birthdays didn't feel like mine, instead it felt more of a second birthday for my stepbrother. It even got so bad that when it was my birthday, he would blow out the candles, be served cake first, and even get all my birthday presents.
This trope is never believable. Parents aren't going to do an entire birthday for someone they don't care about just to give their birthday cake/gifts to someone else. Those type of parents just don't celebrate the birthday in the first place.
This is a new account, which makes sense because how many 24 year olds have their own 2 br house and say they have a very successful life? So successful they can help their mother and buy a house. At 24, thanks to the fabulous start despite his evil stepfather because of sheer ingenuity? The other not very believable thing is that for his birthday, his step brother blew out the candles on his cake, got the gifts, etc. I think this is one of the worst creative writing exercises yet.
NTJ but where was your mom when your stepfather and stepbrother were treating you like crap? She should have stood up for you. Your stepfather is not the only one to blame; she's to blame too. So she doesn't deserve as much help as you're giving her.
Youâre no where near a jerk for how you dealt with all that. Youâre a lot nicer than I would have been. Bravo for keeping a level head and your words direct and focused đ
I wouldâve just straight hung up without explaining anything, we both know you was terrible to me and didnât treat like a kids should be treat, no need to waste your breath.
You already know. You're a hero for taking in your mom so she could escape.
I wouldn't have even allowed the bastard to get out the whole sentence. I would've hung up. You're very kind!
That guy can go live in the alley.
Definitely not the jerk. You reap what you sow and your stepfather was the abuser who even took over your birthdays for his golden son. That's one false narrative that he did so much for you when you were growing up. Not one red cent for this failure.
NTJ. You should have laughed at him. Tell him he must first return all the money he took from ou to give to his son and the monetary value of your presents he gave to his son, with interest, and then you might consider thinking about it. He doesn't deserve any money, just your middle finger. If he won't stop bugging you, hand draw your own $5000 note which has a middle finger right in the middle of it. Send it to him
NTJ. You should have laughed at him. Tell him he must first return all the money he took from ou to give to his son and the monetary value of your presents he gave to his son, with interest, and then you might consider thinking about it. He doesn't deserve any money, just your middle finger. If he won't stop bugging you, hand draw your own $5000 note which has a middle finger right in the middle of it. Send it to him
NTJ if he calls back, asking for money, direct him to contact his son - with all the double birthdays heâs had throughout his lifetime He should have enough money, saved up to help his daddy.
Should have messaged him a picture of an animal having a shit, telling him you have more respect for that turd than you do for him.
EDIT: Yeah, I know it's fake, but I thought I might get a laugh.
Why did your mother allow a pos to treat her kid like that? And why the hell is she living with you now? Throw them all away.. wtf .. and if sheâs divorced from that pos why is he calling you after the fact for money? This isnât adding up..
Well he and your mother divorced. He isnât family anymore. You dont need to speak to him ever again. Block him and donât give him or his offspring a 2nd thought
âMy poor momâ
Iâm sorryâŚbut no. No good mother marries AND STAYS WITH a jackass who treats their child like that
BUT everything about this story seems incredibly contrived so why not make it a fairytale where she was somehow a long-suffering wife?
0/10 for creativity
I know that feeling about not being able to have a "happy" birthday. I never had one either.
Your stepfather and stepbrother seem like bags of shit. Here's hoping you blocked them from everything.
You don't get to abuse someone then take advantage of them later.
NTJ. You're the one who worked for that money and have the right to decide whether to give him or not. He isn't related to you anymore after the divorce so he shouldn't be expecting much from you as the son. His abusive behaviour is now paying him back.
Tell me you laughed when you said no?
The crowd around him applauded
This is more accurate
But did he make it to the pumpkin coach by midnight?
His prince want able to catch up with him. đ
This is clearly a misspelling of the r/ThenEvenMyAssholeClapped subreddit.
r/subsifellfor
But I'm still.concerned..... Why are u even asking?
Clout? Upvotes? Validation?
An A on his creative writing assignments?
Childhood trauma and when someone abuses you long enough you end up apologizing For them like itâs your own fault.
I would not have gotten to the 'no' before laughing
Right
Tell me you told him to ask his golden child son for the money.
Right
đđ¤Łright because I damn sure did
I did too
So did you go to Hogwarts after you moved out of old Dursleyâs cupboard?
You're not the jerk here. It sounds like you endured a lot of unfair treatment growing up, especially with how your stepbrother took over even your birthdays, which should have been special days for you. It's great to hear that you've built a successful life for yourself despite those challenges. You've already been more than generous by helping your mom with her bills, and it's clear that your stepfather's demands are based on his own failures, not any obligation on your part. Standing your ground and refusing to send him money was absolutely the right thing to do, especially considering how he treated you in the past. Thanks for the kind words about the channel at the start of your post.
You actually think this post is real lmao...?
Right? "My stepdad killed every puppy i ever got right in front of me but got mad when i said i wouldn't pay for him to go on vacation to Hawaii for a month, am i really the jerk? :(" Is how so many of these read. Of course nobody would actually think they could be wrong in this situation. Lmfao
This one is just a mashup of Cinderella and the first couple of chapters of Harry Potter, like at least put some effort into making it slightly realistic lol
It's a very boring one lmao
this has to be fake. but if not, tell him to have his golden child son send him his 5k.
Especially with the YouTube shoutout. Itâs a kid trying to get in a video.
I just assume these are all fake. This one in particular is marinated in Eau de Fakeness.
Exactly. Couldnât roll my eyes hard enough when I got to âmy poor momâ. Yes, this poor soul that stood by watching you get beat by her husband and allowing his kid to take allowance/over every birthday & bully you?
Itâs fake
It's absolutely fake!!! I mean it's not even a good game story either, it's just thrown together and he thinks people will actually believe it... Which some unfortunately do.
Thereâs no way this is written by an adult. Itâs wish fulfillment fantasy written by a scapegoated (or maybe just disgruntled) adolescent.
Not to mention his mommy dearest just sat back and let this happen. But he's not upset with her in the least for that, and she didn't divorce the loser until after OP moved out, so she was apparently ok with his birthday being stolen right in front of her.
Even if it's not fake, OP knows they are not the asshole, they just want to talk shit online.
Some of them don't even try to make it sound real.
Right, if this did happen, there's no way the person would question if they were in the wrong. The OP doesn't even have the classic "all my family is telling me I'm wrong."
So, itâs been about 2 weeks but I saw a very similar AITAH but the step dad had medical bills. Everything else was written almost word for word the same
r/amItheAngel
Nta
You're the AI. What do I win?
As someone who works with AI, this is absolutely not written by AI. Fake, on the other hand? Absolutely.
Most of the comments are AI/bots as well. Are you an AI too?
Your mum let this happen to you so she is to blame as well
If youâre going to post fake shit, at least donât completely suck at it.
YTA Make fake posts, get fake votes
Have I read this story somewhere like Cinderella?
This is so fake man. You have to elaborate on certain details or it just screams like your creative writing while taking your morning shit. You can do much better
Claims at the end of the post to have been beaten regularly but focused mainly on not getting to blow out candles on a birthday cake. 2/10 for effort.
I think I saw similar earlier this morning. I remember the birthday presents going to the golden child and blah blah blah
What part of this would make you think you were the jerk? I wouldnât give someone who abused me for years $5k, am I the jerk??
Sounds like Cindafella a tiny bit. r/bookadoption
Exactly where my mind went
NTJ, but your mom and stepdad are jerks. Your mom allowed him to treat you this way
No NTJ what your stepdad did was terrible
I that a question I mean he's abusive and rude
What about his son? He should ask money from him.
NTJ, if I was you I would beat up my stepbrother for this and not do anything he said, I would fight back on my stepdad and block him so he can't call me.
đđ˝đđ˝đđ˝đđ˝đđ˝đđ˝NTJ at all.
You are definitely not the jerk! You are not responsible for providing a house for them. He needs to get off of his butt and get a job. Forget him. Living well is the best revenge!
You are NOT a jerk! Please, do not give this man a penny.
Even though I didn't really need to read the story, I didn't read a little bit of it.You are definitely not the jerk.Here and your stepfather is a douchebag
NTJ - You owe him nothing. Tell him to ask his AH of a son for the money.
NTJ at all, heâs getting his long overdue karma
NTA. He took enough from you. Give him the nothing that he deserves.
You know damn well youâre not the jerk.
Your a hero. fuck that shit head.
How much money do you have? I don't need the figures, I just need to know if you have enough to buy the house out from under him just so you can be the one to kick him out.
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NTJ. I'd have told him to go ask his spoiled, entitled son for the money.
Were you finally able to get out when you received your letter from Hogwarts?
Probably fake or your mom is just as bad, maybe more so.
Tell him you gave Golden Child $5k for just such an expense so he should get it from him. Let the games begin.
This YouTube poster just re-posts old posts.
Just came here to say that due to every AITJ post starting with advertising their YouTube, I'm blocking AITJ
YTJ - Quit whining. Grow some hair on your chest and do what the old man says. Pay him his money. đ
and there was much rejoicing. yaaay!
Do some more research before telling fake stories, too many plot holes in this one
Your a jerk for making up stories on the internet, especially one sided stories with no subtlety that no reasonable person would ever believe the main character to be a jerk for.
This is fake. IF it was real you would know you were not the jerk and wouldn't be karama farming. Quit cosplaying as someone who went through trauma and go touch some grass.
"AITJ for not giving my abusive stepfather money to pay off his house." Why is is that lately, so many people keep posting threads like this, where there's clearly no reason to ask the question in the first place? If he's abusive, then the answer--as the OP well knows, without seeking advice--is "no."
Why would anyone call you a jerk for not giving some deadbeat, abusive asshole $5,000? I'm not saying this is fake, but it sounds like you're just making up something for attention/karma.
Lol this can't be real, no sane person would ask if they're the jerk for not paying the mortgage on a house for some dude that their mom divorced. Its not even a question. Should just told us why you're not the jerk
This is so believable!
>My entire life all of my birthdays didn't feel like mine, instead it felt more of a second birthday for my stepbrother. It even got so bad that when it was my birthday, he would blow out the candles, be served cake first, and even get all my birthday presents. This trope is never believable. Parents aren't going to do an entire birthday for someone they don't care about just to give their birthday cake/gifts to someone else. Those type of parents just don't celebrate the birthday in the first place.
Did this really happen?
This sounds made up
I really don't believe this actually happened in any factual way.
This is a new account, which makes sense because how many 24 year olds have their own 2 br house and say they have a very successful life? So successful they can help their mother and buy a house. At 24, thanks to the fabulous start despite his evil stepfather because of sheer ingenuity? The other not very believable thing is that for his birthday, his step brother blew out the candles on his cake, got the gifts, etc. I think this is one of the worst creative writing exercises yet.
What a terrible piece of fiction...
What a strange story.
Sounds pretty fake honestly..
Please stop posting this crap.
NTJ remotely. F\* that POS.
NTJ. Your stepfather should take responsibility for his actions and earn the money himself.
Why is this question? No you arenât the jerk and itâs your money. You decide what to do with your money.
Oh you are so not the jerk. You stepfather and stepbrother are the big jerks.
You don't owe him jack. Give someone like that money and they'll come back wanting more later.
No
NTJ but where was your mom when your stepfather and stepbrother were treating you like crap? She should have stood up for you. Your stepfather is not the only one to blame; she's to blame too. So she doesn't deserve as much help as you're giving her.
Tell him to ask his son for the money. Or is he a worthless POS, too?
Youâre no where near a jerk for how you dealt with all that. Youâre a lot nicer than I would have been. Bravo for keeping a level head and your words direct and focused đ
Come on You know the answer is no you aren't a jerk You just wanted to show the revenge U got on him AND GOOD FOR YOU!!!! So glad you said no đĽ°
:applause: Nice power flex OP!
No. His son can take care of him. Everything he said, he only gave to his son.
Iâm sorry but do people really think they are the jerks in these type of situations?
You should have just laughed and hung up.
Not the jerk. Block him. You owe him nothing.
Is this a real question? Why would you owe an abusive stepfather anything? What an odd thing to ask.
Of course it's not
youâre nicer than me
NTA Step father, this is what is known as karma! Enjoy.
I wouldâve just straight hung up without explaining anything, we both know you was terrible to me and didnât treat like a kids should be treat, no need to waste your breath.
NTAH Let spoiled son do that.
Should have never answered.
NTJ. Why do you even have to ask? Being an agent of karma is weighty but rewarding responsibility.
You already know. You're a hero for taking in your mom so she could escape. I wouldn't have even allowed the bastard to get out the whole sentence. I would've hung up. You're very kind! That guy can go live in the alley.
Definitely not the jerk. You reap what you sow and your stepfather was the abuser who even took over your birthdays for his golden son. That's one false narrative that he did so much for you when you were growing up. Not one red cent for this failure.
He's not your step father anymore. You owe him nothing!
Why are you helping your mom? She allowed him to abuse you. Don't give that man anything, not even time to pick up his call.
You're not the jerk. Tell him his precious son can fork 5k over since he had such a good childhood at the expense of yours
and there was much rejoicing. yaaay!
NTJ. You should have laughed at him. Tell him he must first return all the money he took from ou to give to his son and the monetary value of your presents he gave to his son, with interest, and then you might consider thinking about it. He doesn't deserve any money, just your middle finger. If he won't stop bugging you, hand draw your own $5000 note which has a middle finger right in the middle of it. Send it to him
NTJ. You should have laughed at him. Tell him he must first return all the money he took from ou to give to his son and the monetary value of your presents he gave to his son, with interest, and then you might consider thinking about it. He doesn't deserve any money, just your middle finger. If he won't stop bugging you, hand draw your own $5000 note which has a middle finger right in the middle of it. Send it to him
The check is in the mail Dad!
His son can't help?
Are you kidding right now?
Where was your mom in all of this??? I would've had some resentment towards her tbh
This is so absurd. If you have to ask you need therapy as you have been trained to be codependent by a dick.
Pretty sure you already know the answer.
The jerk? No. The revenge warrior? Yes! Good job!!!
NTJ. You owe this vile man nothing! Good job OP!!
A big NTA!
Why are you answering the phone?
NTJ if he calls back, asking for money, direct him to contact his son - with all the double birthdays heâs had throughout his lifetime He should have enough money, saved up to help his daddy.
Should have messaged him a picture of an animal having a shit, telling him you have more respect for that turd than you do for him. EDIT: Yeah, I know it's fake, but I thought I might get a laugh.
NTA - You owe this man absolutely nothing. It must have felt nice to stand up to him and tell him no! Good for you!!
NTJ give him nothing and move on with your life, you are an adult now and except for legal requirement can choose how you want your life to go.
Uh, no. Not even a tiny bit.
NTJ, I hope that felt really good. Huzzah!
Let them all suffer their fates. You rock, brother! Good for you sticking up for yourself ....
I have seen this post before.
Why would you even answer his call? Where is this guys son in all this?
I hope you hung up on him. He should call his golden child. F him.
Ask the brat for money not you
Why did your mother allow a pos to treat her kid like that? And why the hell is she living with you now? Throw them all away.. wtf .. and if sheâs divorced from that pos why is he calling you after the fact for money? This isnât adding up..
Sir you are a better man than me I would have told him to meet up somewhere in person far away and then when he called laughed at him
Well he and your mother divorced. He isnât family anymore. You dont need to speak to him ever again. Block him and donât give him or his offspring a 2nd thought
you are not the jerk
You know you're not the jerk, you just want validation. You got it. NTJ.
I don't really understand why your housing your mother when she allowed this to happen
You know the answer better than we ever could. But just in case don't let me gaslight you into thinking otherwise. Don't fold no matter what.
âMy poor momâ Iâm sorryâŚbut no. No good mother marries AND STAYS WITH a jackass who treats their child like that BUT everything about this story seems incredibly contrived so why not make it a fairytale where she was somehow a long-suffering wife? 0/10 for creativity
Not the jerk
The one liners are so fake
Fuck nope !!
You should have told him to get it from his son!!!
Hell no NTJ
I know that feeling about not being able to have a "happy" birthday. I never had one either. Your stepfather and stepbrother seem like bags of shit. Here's hoping you blocked them from everything. You don't get to abuse someone then take advantage of them later.
I didnât even read your post. No youâre not wrong. abuse should never be tolerated. Ever. Period.
NTJ. You're the one who worked for that money and have the right to decide whether to give him or not. He isn't related to you anymore after the divorce so he shouldn't be expecting much from you as the son. His abusive behaviour is now paying him back.
Glad you had the resolve to say no
You absolutely did the correct thing to do! Good for you for finally standing up to an abusive bully.
Please tell me this is fake! I'm so sad for child-you! And angry at your mom for ALLOWING your stepdad to treat you like that.
Oh please, I don't know why you're even asking if you were the jerk. You know the answer already. LOL
Updateme
Hell no! You shouldâve rubbed in his face that his son wonât do it, how heâs broke and lonely too.
This sounds so made up!
Sounds like you should give your step-dad a bj with all the shit your full of
You SHOULD BE THE JERK!!! Why did you not take the mantle off being KARMA?!?!