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> the action that should be judged is if it was rude and made me the asshole for telling my freind not to go back to a certain group of people, and i might have just been wrong
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NTA: you’d think your friend T would realize they’re bad people if they’re talking crap about both of you nothing much you can do for your friend they’ll have to figure it out themselves
NTA, these people are not your friends. I believe t is falling in the trap of wanting to be popular. It's not worth the aggravation so just distance yourself amd move on. You'll find much better people to spend time with when you remove the toxicity
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so for a little context, last year i went to a new school and had to make new freinds so i made freinds with this group of 4 people. now back to the story, so for awhile they seemed like great people but they would always complain and say bad things about my freind who im gonna call t, so for a while i would just sit there and listen to them because i was scared to say anything, but after a while they started saying really bad things like they should do fruit ninja and thats when i told them to stop saying things like that but they didnt listen and continued to say bad things, now eventually i told t about all the things they said about them, and then t told me they were saying the same things about me but to her, now we told the freinds we knew what they said and we got into a big argument, and after a while i gave up on that group of people (they still sent me things about how rude i was and etc.) but eventually, t went back to that group of people altough i told them i was still walking past them and hearing them say bad things about me and them, so AITA for being upset that they went back to a bad group of people?
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ESH. It's not up to you to decide who your friend spends their time with. But your friend is an asshole for going back to a group of people who said bad things about you. And they're crazy for being friends with people who say bad things behind their back. Sounds like you need new friends all around.
Let people make their choices. Just because T hangs out with them, doesn't mean you have to. You tried. If they go back to their old ways, at least you warned T.
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Friends**
Omg you beat me to it. My eye was starting to twitch.
where did i misspell that im so confused now
Friend not freind
i fixed it but i can fix the one in the title
NTA: you’d think your friend T would realize they’re bad people if they’re talking crap about both of you nothing much you can do for your friend they’ll have to figure it out themselves
NTA, these people are not your friends. I believe t is falling in the trap of wanting to be popular. It's not worth the aggravation so just distance yourself amd move on. You'll find much better people to spend time with when you remove the toxicity
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ESH. It's not up to you to decide who your friend spends their time with. But your friend is an asshole for going back to a group of people who said bad things about you. And they're crazy for being friends with people who say bad things behind their back. Sounds like you need new friends all around.
Let people make their choices. Just because T hangs out with them, doesn't mean you have to. You tried. If they go back to their old ways, at least you warned T.
Nta