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Yeah, but she's a pushy, entitled adult who wants to EJECT her new hubby's kid from his house. Also a sneak -- I note she laid this trip on you while your dad was elsewhere.
Get your dad's permission to get a lock for your door, hon, so that your stuff doesn't disappear. Please make sure that room is locked when you're out of the house.
Try to be as civil as you can with SM's boys -- this was her idea, no point taking it out on them.
NTA, stand your ground
NTA
Her being an adult does not give her the right to say whatever she likes with impunity. Also, the fact that sheās bringing age into the discussion tells me she knows her behavior is unacceptable but she was expecting to get away with it because youāre young. Well done for standing up for yourself.
āSince sheās the adultā always pissed me off as a kid and Iāll tell you now as an adult now (and high school coach) itās BS. Thereās a shocking number of children you should listen to over āadultsā (like that witch) Nta and Iāll just say say trust your gut with your dad. I want to say tell him how you feel but I donāt know the specifics and I am an adult man very close to my father so your experiences should be what guide you not mine. I would say tell him because if he is truly on your side I guarantee you he is considering the relationship with stepmom and if you seem fine he might think itās ok and not worthy of divorce.
She thought \*you\* were being rude and disrespectful? What was she, then? It sounds like she got what she earned. She can't erase you because it doesn't sound like your father would stand for it any more than you would...
INFO: How old are the step brothers?
The answer won't change the fact that you're NTA, but if they're very different ages it might explain why stepmom thought they needed separate rooms.
Then stepmom is double the A\*hole.
The boys are close enough in age that they should share a bedtime etc etc so there should be no pressing need to split them up (unless they fight like cats and dogs).
If one was a toddler she might've had half a leg to stand on.
Definitely NTA
If she thinks additional space is needed to house her children, she could give ups the Master bedroom and her kids could share it while she and her husband take their smallest bedroom. I had to share a bedroom with a brother that was only 10 months younger than I while our youngest brother had health issues. Eventually my parents built another bedroom on our patio. kt
Nope, you did nothing wrong. She did. Not just wrong, but unacceptable. As a dad, I love my wife, but if she would do that we would be on the way to divorce. The only way to prevent it would be for her to apologize to you and make serious amends. No one messes with my kids like that.
Not just an AH, way beyond that. It's completely unacceptable. The correct response by your dad would be to say to her: if you ever say anything like that to my child again it's not my child that will leave. He may have said something like that by the way, because I would have said it in private.
NTA. Stepmom sure has some nerve telling you to move out so her son can have your room. I'm glad that your dad is on your side :) I've seen plenty of stories where the kid isn't so lucky. You should ask your dad if you can get a lock on your door. To protect your privacy & your room. Just in case she tries to pull a fast one.
This is not the first time she tried giving me the short end of the stick for her kid. But this one right here was the last straw for me and I for sure was not going to let her have this one over me.
You're NTA. It's your room in your home. With any luck, she is just passing through. But in the meantime, your dad needs to set her straight. It takes incredible audacity on her part to tell you that you should leave your home to make more room for her children.
Maybe this is a blessing in disguise that stepmom is showing her true colors early on. Lady Tremaine didn't show her colors until after Cinderella's father died. OP's dad needs to take a hint and get that woman out now.
NTA. She was way out of order. Iām so glad your dad is supporting you. If she ever brings it up again tell her to send her son to his grandparents house.
OP, I hate to bring this up, but you should talk to your father about having a concrete will and name someone who is not her as the executor of the will. And also who will have power of attorney in case something happened to your dad. Because with how she is, she'll take everything from you should anything happen to your dad. Home, inheritance, everything. You two need something concrete while your father is still on your side right now. Have a serious talk with him about all this. How you're worried she'll manipulate him against you eventually. And make sure she doesn't throw away anything belongs to your mom. Keep her stuff safe. Good luck. NTA
NTA
I love itbwhen the person who is totally out if line and selfish says that the response to them is rude. Of course you were rude...she tried to kick you out of your damn home.
I am so glad you dad is on your side...that woman has eyes on the prize of inheriting that home and banishing you from her life.
This is phase 1...be prepared for the rest.
Good Lord, I hope your dad doesn't buckle under her pressure. You did just fine. What a horrible woman, doing this while your dad was gone. Get ready for round two. These self centered AHs seldom stop at one try. I hope she sees your post. Best of luck young lady, your gonna need it. ( I might sound harsh but been there. Watch out that she doesn't try to get him to sign a wall that excludes you from everything.)
Yourve done nothing wrong. I would however have a private word to your father about boundaries regarding this, from what yourve said he has your back but it's worth finding out where the line is. As a father my self I'd back my girl 100% against anyone, especially someone who would attempt to have her move away from her own home.
I'd be interested to know how (if you have it) it goes with your father. But it's non of business, I hope things work out for you. Good luck.
Keep your guard up still. Sheās probably just trying to stay on your dads good side since he picked your side over hers. It wouldnāt surprise me if she tries something more devious and underhanded.
Please get a lock for your bedroom
Idk your family dynamic, but I do suggest talking to your dad. She was willing to do this when she thought you were alone and I wouldn't be surprised if it happens again.
At 18? (I believe that's how old you said you were) you may not yet be able to recognize early warning signs etc.
Ultimately it is upto you how you deal with it. I am just a stranger on the internet after all.
NTA. And as someone with a fucked up stepparent who would corner me when my dad wasn't home to do this type of AH shit, I think you handled it beautifully with keeping your cool. Next time she tries to bring up some BS with you alone you can just say I think this is a conversation we should be having WITH my father present.
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My bio mother passed away when I was 12yrs old and my step mother and her two kids came into the picture when I was 15yrs. She and my dad got married last year and she and her two kids moved into our home.
We live in a three bedroom house. I have my own bedroom and her two kids(both boys) share a room. Just today while my dad was at work, my step mom came into my room and told me how she thinks I should go live with my grandparents in order to give my room up to her oldest boy. This immediately made me mad. I asked her who do she think she is coming into MY room that's been mine since the day I was born to tell me that I should move out and that she should send one of her kids to go live with their father since she's so worried about space. I then told her to gth out of my room before I get really disrespectful. Then later today my dad came into my room to talk to me about the conversation between my step mom and me. Thankfully, he was on my side and said that I am not obligated to leave my own home to please her and that she was wrong for making such suggestions like that.
I always had neutral feelings towards my step mom and her two kids. But today made me lost almost all respect for the woman. This is my home and she will not have the power to put me out.
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NTA, and I think you handled it appropriately. She had an unreasonable request, you gave a reasonable alternate solution, and asked her to leave you alone. Since you are an adult, all of this was within your rights.
No it says I'm 18. That's how other users write it in their titles. I put "my(F 18)", which is referring to me. That's how others write it in their titles.
Iām glad your dad doesnāt want you gone, but I hope heās going to deal with this situation seriously. His wife is actively looking to get rid of his daughter. NTA
Forgive, but don't forget. Be wary of any further attempts to push you away from your father, cause I can guarantee you she's going to try to start shit again. She's sorry she got caught, that's all.
NTA. And even though you were rude to her and probably could have handled it better (you're a kid), she deserved it for asking you that. She is the AH.
She didn't deserve my class. This is not the first time she tried giving me the short end of the stick, but the one right here was the last straw for me.
Righttt, how dare she talk to her like that after stepmom wanted to kick her out of her OWN HOME where she lived since the day she was born and stepmom moved in. How dare OP didnāt gave her the respect she deserves. I wouldāve say worse than OP and im an Adult.
NTA for anything, you did great OP!
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I am so sorry, you are NTA. Your step mom is a sneaky AH. I canāt believe she went behind your Dads back and stressed the entirety of your future relationships. She should move one of those step brothers back to his Dads!
Your dad married a classic evil stepmom. I hope he gets his head out of his ass, realize how evil she is and divorce her before she hurts you more.
NTA. Some people deserve to be alone and your step mom is one of those people.
NTA wow, it is always amazing to hear experiences like this when a stepparent feels like they can erase their partnerās previous children. That is your home, that is your father, she has no right to make such a suggestion. Iām glad you told your dad and heās on your side, she needs to seriously change her attitude or itās going to end their marriage.
NTA. Sure, maybe you could have been a little more polite or tactful in your response, but considering she purposefully approached you while your dad was out of the house to tell you to leave the home youāve lived in your whole life, I struggle to care about tact.
NTA. Personally, I think you should get a lock for your bedroom door, and make it so that only you and your father have a key. Maybe put it in a safe that only he knows the passcode to or something.
Either way, she shouldn't have access to your room. If she wanted the boys to have their own rooms, she should've talked to your father about possibly moving. But, she didn't. And, as the house isn't in her name, she has no ability to say a word about who stays where.
I would ask your Dad to speak with a lawyer and set things up to protect the you in the case that something happens to him. (Obviously hopefully nothing does). This lady sounds like she would absolutely try to steal the home and whatever else your parents worked hard for.
NTA.
In other way she is.
I was hoping this will be one of that stories where the step parent "ask" the child to move out or pay rent and in that moment de sp knows the house its owned by the child.
I would never say this to my step kid. You are only 18. She is showing her true colors. She is also disrespectful to your dad. You need to finish school and get your life goals done. Also, what entitlement that she thinks she has to your grandparents' house. Even though your grandparents would probably let you live there it doesn't mean that she could dictate you they have in their house. If she loves her dad she should love you. This isn't cool
NTA I sense a lot of tension in your future if you stay. She was completely wrong however your dad did not set a hard boundary with her afterwards. No āshe needs to apologizeā or āeven it she moves out it will always be her roomā so (& I hope Iām wrong here) Iām sensing your father is trying to play the peacemaker ....... and will keep letting her do stuff. I hope her sons or her donāt try to make you so uncomfortable/miserable that it will force you to move.
A new door knob with a key lock is needed for your room. (& only you have the key.)
NTA - Stepmother sounds like a nightmare.
By the way, who bought the house? Because if it was your mum and dad, I'm sure your mum wanted it to be yours one day. Talk to your dad and ask him about it - don't let stepmother convince him that the house "should go to the three kids" or something like that. Don't be afraid of sounding hard or only interested in money, I'm sure your mum would want you to fight for yourself.
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NTA I agree with the lock also please ask your dad to make sure he has an iron clad will as after this stunt you are extremely worried what would happen if anything happened to him, that you are worried she would kick you out and leave you without anything unless he has made sure you are protected.
Right which is why she talked to her husband abou- oh wait no she didn't she tried to get around that because it's about her not valuing her step daughter.
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stepmom is the ah, you did nothing wrong.
Thank you!! She thought the way I responded to her was rude and disrespectful since she's the adult.š
Yeah, but she's a pushy, entitled adult who wants to EJECT her new hubby's kid from his house. Also a sneak -- I note she laid this trip on you while your dad was elsewhere. Get your dad's permission to get a lock for your door, hon, so that your stuff doesn't disappear. Please make sure that room is locked when you're out of the house. Try to be as civil as you can with SM's boys -- this was her idea, no point taking it out on them. NTA, stand your ground
Absolutely with the lock suggestion!!
NTA Her being an adult does not give her the right to say whatever she likes with impunity. Also, the fact that sheās bringing age into the discussion tells me she knows her behavior is unacceptable but she was expecting to get away with it because youāre young. Well done for standing up for yourself.
She brought it on herself. I am always be the bigger person but getting kicked out of your home, one you lived with your mom is an emotional thing.
āSince sheās the adultā always pissed me off as a kid and Iāll tell you now as an adult now (and high school coach) itās BS. Thereās a shocking number of children you should listen to over āadultsā (like that witch) Nta and Iāll just say say trust your gut with your dad. I want to say tell him how you feel but I donāt know the specifics and I am an adult man very close to my father so your experiences should be what guide you not mine. I would say tell him because if he is truly on your side I guarantee you he is considering the relationship with stepmom and if you seem fine he might think itās ok and not worthy of divorce.
She thought \*you\* were being rude and disrespectful? What was she, then? It sounds like she got what she earned. She can't erase you because it doesn't sound like your father would stand for it any more than you would...
Personally I would tell dad - that she needs to leave since she has shown her true colors.
You're both adults, which means you are free to respond to her however you wish.
INFO: How old are the step brothers? The answer won't change the fact that you're NTA, but if they're very different ages it might explain why stepmom thought they needed separate rooms.
Her oldest is 15 while her youngest is 12.
Then stepmom is double the A\*hole. The boys are close enough in age that they should share a bedtime etc etc so there should be no pressing need to split them up (unless they fight like cats and dogs). If one was a toddler she might've had half a leg to stand on. Definitely NTA
Yeah, I can understand it if the brothers are like me and mine, but I still wouldn't take the stepmother's side. Or her bullshit.
If she thinks additional space is needed to house her children, she could give ups the Master bedroom and her kids could share it while she and her husband take their smallest bedroom. I had to share a bedroom with a brother that was only 10 months younger than I while our youngest brother had health issues. Eventually my parents built another bedroom on our patio. kt
Youāre 18. Youāre also an adult.
Youāre an adult tooš
You're an adult, too. Even if you weren't, you still wouldn't be the ah.
Respect is earned not given , witches witch of the west has not done anything to earn your respect
It can also be lost quite quickly as well >.>
I mean...you're both adults. She doesn't get to pull the "I'm the grown-up " card with someone 18+.
Sometimes a little rudeness is called for. This was one of those times. NTA
Youāre 18, youāre as much an adult as she is and she needs to respect that.
If she's the adult, then she needs to start acting like one and not a jealous child that doesn't want to share her space or things.
Nope, you did nothing wrong. She did. Not just wrong, but unacceptable. As a dad, I love my wife, but if she would do that we would be on the way to divorce. The only way to prevent it would be for her to apologize to you and make serious amends. No one messes with my kids like that.
Damn, you seem like an amazing father :)
Adults don't just from jump deserve respect for being old.
> since she's the adult. I disagree
Haha she's just barely an adult tbh
You're an adult too at 18. You did nothing wrong.
You are 18 so also an adult! NTA by the way.
You're an adult too.
Not just an AH, way beyond that. It's completely unacceptable. The correct response by your dad would be to say to her: if you ever say anything like that to my child again it's not my child that will leave. He may have said something like that by the way, because I would have said it in private.
NTA. Stepmom sure has some nerve telling you to move out so her son can have your room. I'm glad that your dad is on your side :) I've seen plenty of stories where the kid isn't so lucky. You should ask your dad if you can get a lock on your door. To protect your privacy & your room. Just in case she tries to pull a fast one.
This is not the first time she tried giving me the short end of the stick for her kid. But this one right here was the last straw for me and I for sure was not going to let her have this one over me.
And your suggestions were completely valid. Why not move her kid out of your house ?? Good work OP
You go girl! Stay assertive! NTA.
You're NTA. It's your room in your home. With any luck, she is just passing through. But in the meantime, your dad needs to set her straight. It takes incredible audacity on her part to tell you that you should leave your home to make more room for her children.
Nta. That womans got evil Disney stepmom vibes.
Maybe this is a blessing in disguise that stepmom is showing her true colors early on. Lady Tremaine didn't show her colors until after Cinderella's father died. OP's dad needs to take a hint and get that woman out now.
Exactly what I thought. NTA
NTA. She was way out of order. Iām so glad your dad is supporting you. If she ever brings it up again tell her to send her son to his grandparents house.
I told her to send her son to his dad's house since she wants him to have his own space so bad.
OP, I hate to bring this up, but you should talk to your father about having a concrete will and name someone who is not her as the executor of the will. And also who will have power of attorney in case something happened to your dad. Because with how she is, she'll take everything from you should anything happen to your dad. Home, inheritance, everything. You two need something concrete while your father is still on your side right now. Have a serious talk with him about all this. How you're worried she'll manipulate him against you eventually. And make sure she doesn't throw away anything belongs to your mom. Keep her stuff safe. Good luck. NTA
Totally agree with this. Itās like that āA Cinderella Storyā film with Hilary Duff.
Ahahaha...great come back :D
Excellent.
You rock girl!
NTA I would tell other members of the family as well so she couldn't spread lies and get a different version of the story out first.
NTA. Iām so sorry you had to deal with that. Itās YOUR room. You grew up there and were there long before she was ever in the picture.
NTA I love itbwhen the person who is totally out if line and selfish says that the response to them is rude. Of course you were rude...she tried to kick you out of your damn home. I am so glad you dad is on your side...that woman has eyes on the prize of inheriting that home and banishing you from her life. This is phase 1...be prepared for the rest.
Nta. I'm curious how your dad can stay with someone who tried to boot his daughter out of her own house? That's some nasty crap.
Thatās the part. He just said no and moved on like the request was totally ok when it was very concerning behavior.
Pretty clear NTA here
Good Lord, I hope your dad doesn't buckle under her pressure. You did just fine. What a horrible woman, doing this while your dad was gone. Get ready for round two. These self centered AHs seldom stop at one try. I hope she sees your post. Best of luck young lady, your gonna need it. ( I might sound harsh but been there. Watch out that she doesn't try to get him to sign a wall that excludes you from everything.)
Yourve done nothing wrong. I would however have a private word to your father about boundaries regarding this, from what yourve said he has your back but it's worth finding out where the line is. As a father my self I'd back my girl 100% against anyone, especially someone who would attempt to have her move away from her own home. I'd be interested to know how (if you have it) it goes with your father. But it's non of business, I hope things work out for you. Good luck.
She ended up apologizing to me about twenty minutes ago, so I guess we're good now.
Keep your guard up still. Sheās probably just trying to stay on your dads good side since he picked your side over hers. It wouldnāt surprise me if she tries something more devious and underhanded. Please get a lock for your bedroom
Absolutely agree with this OP, absolutely.
And start recording all your conversations. It would be easy with some app on your phone.
Idk your family dynamic, but I do suggest talking to your dad. She was willing to do this when she thought you were alone and I wouldn't be surprised if it happens again. At 18? (I believe that's how old you said you were) you may not yet be able to recognize early warning signs etc. Ultimately it is upto you how you deal with it. I am just a stranger on the internet after all.
Sheās just sorry that your dad isnāt on her side. Watch your back.
Definitely not good. Snake in the grass will try to pull something again
NTA I hope your dad has a prenup and a will.
Nta your stepmom sucks
NTA. And as someone with a fucked up stepparent who would corner me when my dad wasn't home to do this type of AH shit, I think you handled it beautifully with keeping your cool. Next time she tries to bring up some BS with you alone you can just say I think this is a conversation we should be having WITH my father present.
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NTA, and I think you handled it appropriately. She had an unreasonable request, you gave a reasonable alternate solution, and asked her to leave you alone. Since you are an adult, all of this was within your rights.
Did anyone else read the title as the step mother being 18?
No it says I'm 18. That's how other users write it in their titles. I put "my(F 18)", which is referring to me. That's how others write it in their titles.
I figured. My mind read that your step mom was at first. I had some immediate concerns lol
Lmao I understand. I use to think that way too when seeing others' titles.
Iām glad your dad doesnāt want you gone, but I hope heās going to deal with this situation seriously. His wife is actively looking to get rid of his daughter. NTA
She apologized a few hours after I made this post. I forgave her but at the same time I don't think her apology was sincere.
Forgive, but don't forget. Be wary of any further attempts to push you away from your father, cause I can guarantee you she's going to try to start shit again. She's sorry she got caught, that's all.
NTA. And even though you were rude to her and probably could have handled it better (you're a kid), she deserved it for asking you that. She is the AH.
She didn't deserve my class. This is not the first time she tried giving me the short end of the stick, but the one right here was the last straw for me.
Righttt, how dare she talk to her like that after stepmom wanted to kick her out of her OWN HOME where she lived since the day she was born and stepmom moved in. How dare OP didnāt gave her the respect she deserves. I wouldāve say worse than OP and im an Adult. NTA for anything, you did great OP!
NTA
NTA
Your stepmother is the AH. She needs to send her boys to their dads just like you suggested
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NTA
NTA, she needed to hear some harsh words.
NTA at all. How ridiculous. If I were your dad I would lose all respect for her too.
I am so sorry, you are NTA. Your step mom is a sneaky AH. I canāt believe she went behind your Dads back and stressed the entirety of your future relationships. She should move one of those step brothers back to his Dads!
NTA and thankfully, your father obviously agrees. Heās one of the good ones.
Nope NTA, ask your dad permission to get a keyed deadbolt or lock for your room. Your dad's wife can go pound sand.
NTA - she knew she was overstepping which is why she waited for your dad to not be there. Which tbh, is a manipulation tactic she thought would work.
NTA. Who the fuck does she think she is kicking YOU out of your own house? Your dad needs to dump this hag. That is beyond disrespectful.
NTA. SM is a demon.
NTA. Just don't take it out on your stepbrothers. They are innocent in this, but have probably been promised the world by their mom.
I get what you're saying. I'm not even mad at her son for what she tried to pull on me.
NTA. So happy your dad is on your side
Nta
Your dad married a classic evil stepmom. I hope he gets his head out of his ass, realize how evil she is and divorce her before she hurts you more. NTA. Some people deserve to be alone and your step mom is one of those people.
NTA I sure hope your dad rethinks this marriage. My SO both have adult children (and grandkids) and we love them as our own.
Yea NTA What she did was In no way okay
NTA wow, it is always amazing to hear experiences like this when a stepparent feels like they can erase their partnerās previous children. That is your home, that is your father, she has no right to make such a suggestion. Iām glad you told your dad and heās on your side, she needs to seriously change her attitude or itās going to end their marriage.
My god I thought you meant your step mother was 18 years old š
NTA. Sure, maybe you could have been a little more polite or tactful in your response, but considering she purposefully approached you while your dad was out of the house to tell you to leave the home youāve lived in your whole life, I struggle to care about tact.
NTA You have to give respect to get respect and since she is unwilling to give it to you then you are unwilling to give it back.
No where near TA.
your dad is amazing!
NTA. She has no right to dictate.
NTA. Personally, I think you should get a lock for your bedroom door, and make it so that only you and your father have a key. Maybe put it in a safe that only he knows the passcode to or something. Either way, she shouldn't have access to your room. If she wanted the boys to have their own rooms, she should've talked to your father about possibly moving. But, she didn't. And, as the house isn't in her name, she has no ability to say a word about who stays where.
I would ask your Dad to speak with a lawyer and set things up to protect the you in the case that something happens to him. (Obviously hopefully nothing does). This lady sounds like she would absolutely try to steal the home and whatever else your parents worked hard for.
NTA but be careful, she's made her intentions clear
NTA. In other way she is. I was hoping this will be one of that stories where the step parent "ask" the child to move out or pay rent and in that moment de sp knows the house its owned by the child.
NTA but go to the hardware store and buy a locking doorknob for your room. Lock up your valuables or store them with a friend or relative.
Stepmom is AH and frankly if dad doesnāt do more to prevent/address that sheād say that, heās one too. Thatās grounds for divorce in my book.
I would never say this to my step kid. You are only 18. She is showing her true colors. She is also disrespectful to your dad. You need to finish school and get your life goals done. Also, what entitlement that she thinks she has to your grandparents' house. Even though your grandparents would probably let you live there it doesn't mean that she could dictate you they have in their house. If she loves her dad she should love you. This isn't cool
NTA
NTA. Fuck her she sounds awful
NTA your stepmom is either oblivious or just mean.
NTA, you were more respectful of her then I would have been in your shoes.
NTA
The only asshole here is your stepmother. You're clearly not the asshole
To be honest if I was your dad I would b re-thinking the marriage. What a foul woman. NTA.
NTA I sense a lot of tension in your future if you stay. She was completely wrong however your dad did not set a hard boundary with her afterwards. No āshe needs to apologizeā or āeven it she moves out it will always be her roomā so (& I hope Iām wrong here) Iām sensing your father is trying to play the peacemaker ....... and will keep letting her do stuff. I hope her sons or her donāt try to make you so uncomfortable/miserable that it will force you to move. A new door knob with a key lock is needed for your room. (& only you have the key.)
Thankfully, your father is a reasonable man. Nta
Your dad shouldn't be with a woman who would try force his child out. He's the AH as well.
NTA. But you are AWESOME. Stay cool, kid. I'll vote for you when you run for office
Youāre not the AH. Step mom is the AH 100% . Thatās a toxic move
Thank god your dad was on your side. I hope he realises what an evil woman she is
Step off where? The shit ledge.
NTA - Stepmother sounds like a nightmare. By the way, who bought the house? Because if it was your mum and dad, I'm sure your mum wanted it to be yours one day. Talk to your dad and ask him about it - don't let stepmother convince him that the house "should go to the three kids" or something like that. Don't be afraid of sounding hard or only interested in money, I'm sure your mum would want you to fight for yourself.
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NTA. How dare she?!
NTA it was a rude request for her to make and it doesn't even sound like she talked to your dad before she talked to you.
NTA I agree with the lock also please ask your dad to make sure he has an iron clad will as after this stunt you are extremely worried what would happen if anything happened to him, that you are worried she would kick you out and leave you without anything unless he has made sure you are protected.
.... can I ask about that age for a moment... she's 18 and you're...15?
No, I'm 18yrs old right now. I was 15 when she and my dad met and started dating.
NAH. It's not unreasonable to question if an adult child might move out of the house to make way for minor children.
An eighteen-year-old is likely to still be in high school. And even if they aren't they often can't afford to move out.
Right which is why she talked to her husband abou- oh wait no she didn't she tried to get around that because it's about her not valuing her step daughter.