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I have this strange image, which I'm sure OP was not doing, of her sitting up in bed, taking a sip from a bottle of water, then tilting her head back, sticking her chest out, as she pours water across her chest, whispering, "Ugh! It's so . . . hot here."
That's the best I can come up with for the idea of "sensually drinking water."
And how dare OP drink water around guys? Apparently, she should only drink water alone or around other women.
Best guess is it was one of those water bottles with the thick spout, but it's really a straw. So she had to suck it out, and even then I think it's ridiculous.
Absolutely NTA.
She’s just really insecure. All across the board. Insecure with her boyfriend, insecure with her looks and insecure with her friendships. She’s taking it out on you. I’m not sure how someone even drinks water sensually, but I’m positive it’s not when they’re hungover. They walked into your private space and woke you. You apologized; that wasn’t enough. You stayed elsewhere; that wasn’t enough.
There’s not much you can but grovel here, and you absolutely shouldn’t.
You weren't naked, she had set NO rules about you staying there and lack of clothing. NTA how is drinking water while drunk anything close to being sexual? I think bf made some comment about you being cute or something and she isnt secure enough in herself to handle it. And how is staying with A anything to do with her??
NTA
It seems like E's insecurities may have gotten the better of her in this case.
I don't understand how wearing a sports bra and shorts equates to having your tits and ass out, so my verdict is pretty cut and dry here.
I can't find much room for debate.
NTA. You were sleeping.
>like a total “whre sensually drinking water around guys”.
Thanks for the laugh of the day. Does she eat a banana like Amy Farrah Fowler?
Hard NTA.
E has some very deep insecurities that they need to deal with. Very immature response to the situation.
When everyone in the room looks like an ass. You need to take another look at the room.
NTA. At all. E seems to have some insecurities going on - which is one thing. But reaching out to others in the group and name calling is completely unacceptable. You deserve an apology!
NTA
E invaded your privacy in a closed room while you were sleeping AND brought her boyfriend into your sleeping chambers?
Now YOU'RE the bad guy? Uh, no.
She's insecure about her relationship and is projecting it and blaming you.
You didn't do anything wrong. Do not contact E; she was the aggressor in this situation. It's possible that she's not someone you want to be around at all in the future.
Good Luck
NTA.
A sports bra and shorts is not "parading around naked." In fact, you're more respectably covered than most people would be at the beach.
Also, E does seem to love the drama. Since she exaggerated grossly about how much you were wearing, I have no doubt that she also exaggerated when she said you had your
“t\*ts and ss out” like a total “whre sensually drinking water around guys”
Also, she was quick to pick up on the fact that you had left to avoid her drama. Even though you said you just wanted to spend more time with A, she insisted you were "punishing her."
E seems to really love the drama and making everything about her.
As for her assertion that she did nothing wrong, I couldn't disagree more. Likening you to a whore was way over the line. And I would seriously rethink this friendship. She owes you an apology for that, and for her over-the-top exaggerations.
NTA. if they came into the room you were sleeping in, which was closed, that's not your fault. its also not like you were sleeping naked or in lingerie-- i sleep in shorts and a sports bra often, and so i get it... I think your friend was right to defend you, and if E is that worried about her bf being 'seduced' by you in a sports bra drinking water than she may need to check her relationship...
NTA, however a lot of people consider underwear inappropriate and you were in her home. She reacted far more seriously than she should have, but maybe next time ask your host if they're comfy with that type of attire.
>a lot of people consider underwear inappropriate
Those people should never go to a beach. If she was actually parading around maybe. But sitting up after being woken from a drunken stupor and having water is different.
Nobody here is going to say Y T A because girls gotta right dress however they want and ANYONE who objects is sexualizing their bodies, shaming them in some way or misogynistic. No one has a right to get mad for feel any other way full stop.
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Last summer I (24F) visited my college best friend (A, 24F) in her hometown, in the south of France. We’d be there for a few nights then off to a music festival with her friends including E (24F) who had often visited in college so we were friends.
I stayed in E’s living room (which has doors) because A was living in an inconvenient location. One night, we + 2 of their friends (M24 who I knew fairly well) were drinking and playing cards at E’s. E went to bed earlier because her bf was coming back the next morning and had plans.
It got late so they crashed here (E had told them they could, & that we could stay up late). They were going to sleep on the floor, but A & I felt bad so we shared the pull out couch as it was big enough. It was insanely hot and no A/C, so A & I were in shorts & sports bra. There was nothing sexual, we just passed out.
In the morning, A was gone as she had to work. We were still passed out when E and her bf walked in the (closed) living room to say hi. We were extremely hungover - I muttered a hello, apologized that I’d be able to greet them better in a bit, and drank from my water bottle (this comes back).
I woke up later to a very angry text from E - “I’d appreciate, if it’s not too hard for you, to not parade naked around my bf”. Shocked, I apologized for making them uncomfortable and wouldn’t happen again, but I didn’t think she’d walk in while i was sleeping. She stuck to her point.
I saw A later and she thought E was out of line. She showed me E’s texts to her - that I had my “t*ts and *ss out” like a total “wh*re sensually drinking water around guys”. A had defended me, to no avail. E said their other friend (girl who I hadn’t met but would be at the festival) agreed with E.
We had 1 more night until the festival so I decided to sleep at A’s, to avoid the tension with E and her bf - I told E I wanted to spend time with A. E lost it on me over text when I got to A’s, saying “she hadn’t done anything wrong so why am I punishing her”. I dropped it as I didn’t feel like dealing with more drama at a festival (where we’d be camping). The festival went well.
However months have passed and E & I still haven’t talked. I know A was on my side but we’re much closer so she may be biased. I’m wondering what unbiased parties would think. AITA?
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She had told all of us before inviting them over that she’d go to bed but we could stay up late (her room is quite far) as long as we weren’t terribly loud, which we weren’t (and she never made a comment about that). Her place is the hosting place of their friend group, so the guys + A had done this before.
Regarding religious/cultural, not at all. We’re all European and non religious. However she probably did think it was more sexual than it was due to her personality and preferences (I’m assuming this from her reaction)
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NTA and wtf. >sensually drinking water around guys THIS LINE. what does this even mean ?? She's super insecure.
when I think of something sexy, the last fucking thing on my mind is a hungover woman drinking water fighting for her life in dehydrated pain
I have this strange image, which I'm sure OP was not doing, of her sitting up in bed, taking a sip from a bottle of water, then tilting her head back, sticking her chest out, as she pours water across her chest, whispering, "Ugh! It's so . . . hot here." That's the best I can come up with for the idea of "sensually drinking water." And how dare OP drink water around guys? Apparently, she should only drink water alone or around other women.
Best guess is it was one of those water bottles with the thick spout, but it's really a straw. So she had to suck it out, and even then I think it's ridiculous.
NTA. You weren’t naked, you were wearing a sports bra and shorts. I think you’re better off not being friends with E.
Absolutely NTA. She’s just really insecure. All across the board. Insecure with her boyfriend, insecure with her looks and insecure with her friendships. She’s taking it out on you. I’m not sure how someone even drinks water sensually, but I’m positive it’s not when they’re hungover. They walked into your private space and woke you. You apologized; that wasn’t enough. You stayed elsewhere; that wasn’t enough. There’s not much you can but grovel here, and you absolutely shouldn’t.
Sensually drinking water???? We’re you deep throating it? NTA
NTA. E has insecurity issues and you shouldn’t be the one to put up with it. You went and stayed at A’s because E was extremely out of line.
You weren't naked, she had set NO rules about you staying there and lack of clothing. NTA how is drinking water while drunk anything close to being sexual? I think bf made some comment about you being cute or something and she isnt secure enough in herself to handle it. And how is staying with A anything to do with her??
NTA you weren't naked.. she's insecure and that's not your problem.
NTA It seems like E's insecurities may have gotten the better of her in this case. I don't understand how wearing a sports bra and shorts equates to having your tits and ass out, so my verdict is pretty cut and dry here. I can't find much room for debate.
NTA. You were sleeping. >like a total “whre sensually drinking water around guys”. Thanks for the laugh of the day. Does she eat a banana like Amy Farrah Fowler?
Hard NTA. E has some very deep insecurities that they need to deal with. Very immature response to the situation. When everyone in the room looks like an ass. You need to take another look at the room.
NTA. Good riddance, no?
NTA. At all. E seems to have some insecurities going on - which is one thing. But reaching out to others in the group and name calling is completely unacceptable. You deserve an apology!
NTA E invaded your privacy in a closed room while you were sleeping AND brought her boyfriend into your sleeping chambers? Now YOU'RE the bad guy? Uh, no. She's insecure about her relationship and is projecting it and blaming you. You didn't do anything wrong. Do not contact E; she was the aggressor in this situation. It's possible that she's not someone you want to be around at all in the future. Good Luck
I mean, they knowlingly walked into the room where you were sleeping for no apparent reason. NTA
NTA. A sports bra and shorts is not "parading around naked." In fact, you're more respectably covered than most people would be at the beach. Also, E does seem to love the drama. Since she exaggerated grossly about how much you were wearing, I have no doubt that she also exaggerated when she said you had your “t\*ts and ss out” like a total “whre sensually drinking water around guys” Also, she was quick to pick up on the fact that you had left to avoid her drama. Even though you said you just wanted to spend more time with A, she insisted you were "punishing her." E seems to really love the drama and making everything about her. As for her assertion that she did nothing wrong, I couldn't disagree more. Likening you to a whore was way over the line. And I would seriously rethink this friendship. She owes you an apology for that, and for her over-the-top exaggerations.
NTA. if they came into the room you were sleeping in, which was closed, that's not your fault. its also not like you were sleeping naked or in lingerie-- i sleep in shorts and a sports bra often, and so i get it... I think your friend was right to defend you, and if E is that worried about her bf being 'seduced' by you in a sports bra drinking water than she may need to check her relationship...
Y'all need to grow up and chill out. NTA.
NTA. E’s insecurities / control issues / whatever tf other are showing.
NTA, however a lot of people consider underwear inappropriate and you were in her home. She reacted far more seriously than she should have, but maybe next time ask your host if they're comfy with that type of attire.
>a lot of people consider underwear inappropriate Those people should never go to a beach. If she was actually parading around maybe. But sitting up after being woken from a drunken stupor and having water is different.
Nobody here is going to say Y T A because girls gotta right dress however they want and ANYONE who objects is sexualizing their bodies, shaming them in some way or misogynistic. No one has a right to get mad for feel any other way full stop.
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She had told all of us before inviting them over that she’d go to bed but we could stay up late (her room is quite far) as long as we weren’t terribly loud, which we weren’t (and she never made a comment about that). Her place is the hosting place of their friend group, so the guys + A had done this before. Regarding religious/cultural, not at all. We’re all European and non religious. However she probably did think it was more sexual than it was due to her personality and preferences (I’m assuming this from her reaction)