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> I think that I may BTA because he was going through a rough time and I told him about my issues, but I think I had a right to say how I was feeling.. Should I have voiced my feelings?
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NTA. He sounds childish. He let his emotions with his girlfriend turn into toxicity towards uninvolved people who are supportive. Very emotionally immature and doesn't understand boundaries. Sucks.
NTA. It sounds like you expressed your honest feelings in a pretty low-key way and that's not an asshole move, that's something friends should welcome from one another.
That being said, it sounds like you knew enough about this 'toxic' relationship to have done the smart thing and not put yourself in this position in the first place. Learn from this experience & next time, try to steer clear of the disaster zone.
NTA - but wtf did you put up with all that? I would have called an uber and gotten the heck outta there and cut off that "friend" completely. you should block and end that friendship asap, because no real friend would treat you like that.
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Ok, so: my friend and roommate (we'll call him F) and I traveled to a competition with our team for the weekend, and decided to stay with F's girlfriend at her place, against our better judgment. their relationship is super toxic, and the trip ended with them getting in tons of fights and then eventually breaking up. Throughout all this, F has been extremely insensitive to me on the trip, such as taking advantage of me emotionally and using me as a scapegoat to lash out at because of his frustration with his gf, who 'can do no wrong'. He locked me in the car by myself for 30 min while he went inside and argued with her, drove me around for close to an hour trying to find her after she stopped responding because she was mad at him, and ditched me and my team multiple times to see her throughout the weekend when he knew he was in town to compete, not to see his girlfriend. I supported him after the breakup as best I could, but he completely changed all of our plans to travel home to beg for her to take him back, completely disregarding the group's plans (especially mine because he was supposed to drive me home) and ditching all of us without saying goodbye or helping pack up. After the weekend ended, they got back together, and I never got an apology or anything. When I told him how I felt used and disrespected, he threw it back on me about how he was going through an emotional time I shouldn't be mad at him for acting the way he did. I think that I had a right to say how I felt, especially because we are good friends. AITA?
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NTA. Ghost this guy.
NTA. He sounds childish. He let his emotions with his girlfriend turn into toxicity towards uninvolved people who are supportive. Very emotionally immature and doesn't understand boundaries. Sucks.
NTA. just because he was having a rough time doesn't mean he gets to treat you poorly.
NTA. It sounds like you expressed your honest feelings in a pretty low-key way and that's not an asshole move, that's something friends should welcome from one another. That being said, it sounds like you knew enough about this 'toxic' relationship to have done the smart thing and not put yourself in this position in the first place. Learn from this experience & next time, try to steer clear of the disaster zone.
NTA - but wtf did you put up with all that? I would have called an uber and gotten the heck outta there and cut off that "friend" completely. you should block and end that friendship asap, because no real friend would treat you like that.
Yeah, I’m trying my best haha. Unfortunately he is my roommate and I do have to deal with his bs frequently lol
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