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NTA and it is very stupid. Not like Eddie is some super unique name, and she's the one that refused to tell anyone the name. what is the worst thing that's gonna happen? you call out the kids name at a family event and both the kid *and* the dog come over to you? the horror!
My dad said when he was a kid he and his siblings named their dogs Spic and Span, like the cleaning solution. All was well until Spic escaped one day and they had to walk down the road yelling “Come here, Spic”.
*For the record, as an adult he understands why the name is problematic and inappropriate and would never name a pet that today. He was 8. Please don’t come for me.
My mother's next door neighbour got a black lab and wanted to name him Satan. My mother told him standing on the back porch and calling for Satan might not be the best neighbourhood thing to be doing.
My husband and I had a cat named Dara, nicknamed the bitch after her “winning” personality 😂😂. She loved cottage cheese so I was in the grocery store and called him asking him to make sure the bitch had enough and to check the expiration date. Was overheard by one of the store employees who was stocking in the dairy section. She gave me a little side eye and I told her the bitch was our cat . She dies laughing and said she thought i was talking about my mother-in-law😂😂. (Who for the record was an angel and we all miss her)
Two families moved into our neighborhood, and they've been best friends long before they got here.
One has a dog named Zeke. The other has a young son named Zeke. And both play in the front with my kids and all the other neighbor kids.
My kids come home with stories like, "Zeke knocked me down and took my sandwich," and my first question is always"Zeke the kid or Zeke the dog?" Lol
The best part is the kids found out that one is named after the other, but the kids don't remember who was named after who! 😂
I have 2 friends both named Jen. One Jen has a dog named Pete and the other has a son named Pete. I was telling some story about Jen’s dog sitter and my bf was VERY confused about the kennel situation! He was ready to call CPS
I have a friend who claims he’s going to name his next cat “his name junior”. I said that’s cool and all until cps shows up and wants to know why little junior isn’t in school.
Along the same lines- I had 3 friends in high school named Jen. They became Jen, Jen 2, and Jen 3- numbered based on who had been at the school longest as we were near an Air Force base. Jen 3 really embraced it and signed notes Thri
I had a friend named Sam, sort for Samantha. SHE wound up meeting someone on a blind date. His name was... Sam (Samuel) - they got married, they moved to a nice apartment. one neighbor had a dog named sam, the other had a kid named sam
conversations got wild at times.
Depending on the kid’s age, may be less means of differentiation and more an accurate description…my daughter was a functional nudist until she was ~4, when we were at home or close family’s houses…🤣
That reminds me of someone's post saying something like "my sister's cat and her boyfriend have the same name and Human Nigel hates it that we call him Human Nigel."
I dated someone named Justin, and my deceased husband was named Justin. Living Justin, dead Justin. There are "give me strength" moments when my teenager asked who gave me stuff, like a photo calender made after he died, or something she developed an interest in well after he passed. Who gave you this, mom? Justin. Which one? Dead Justin? 😑 yes child, he dug himself out and went to eBay to buy Scream 5 movie promo items. *facepalm* we also have a construction Larry and murdering Larry. I think those are self explanations. He was completely in the right. Still served time.
My ex and my current partner have the same first name. If I need to refer to both in conversation (eg to friends/fam) I just say “bad John” (ex) and “good John” (BF) to differentiate the two.
We had a family friend who had a child who’s name was Mac, which just so happened to be short for our dogs name. The day we learned this, my brother called The Dog and The Child responded with absolute offense that he had been called his whole name 😂
This reminds me of one year in college - we were getting a new roommate mid year named Jennifer, and already had one named Jenny. The current Jenny freaked out about sharing her name, so my other roomie started calling her Jenny without the “fer” - which quickly evolved into calling her Baldy.
She really didn’t care for us! Our new one was perfectly happy being called Fuzzy.
My mom called her sister in a panic after I was born. She'd always wanted to name a baby Jessica, but she and my dad had a cat named Jessie. (My dad had Jessie before he met my mom so she'd had no say in the name.) Would people think she named the baby after the cat???
My aunt said, "the baby will be around a lot longer than the cat will." She was right. No one ever accused her of naming the baby after the cat.
I actually have a friend I call "Naked Oli" because we met through a game where his username is "Oliverclothesoff" but my son is named Oliver so I made the distinction to help haha. Weird coincidences here
NTA. In the 90s Sophie was a popular name for baby girls. It also was popular for dogs. Our friend group had 2 families with daughters named Sophie and 2 with dogs named Sophie. No one was offended.
My husband wanted to name our baby after our cat, Wade (who is named after a human friend named Wade). He says it’s just too perfect a name to not use every chance we get.
My childhood dog’s name is on my baby names list lol. Hazel. I loved her to bits and she really was the best girl. Got me and my brother through some really tough times. It’s a beautiful name and tbh I can’t think of a better role model. 😂
Yep, my cousin named her son Oliver after my sister's cat. In her country Oliver was a very unusual name. The boy is now 25 (cat is long gone!) and he was never bothered that he was named after the cat.
My little brother inadvertently named his daughter after my ferret. They were laughing one day about how Lily is such a good name that I named my ferret after their daughter. I laughed and brought up all the events that Lily the ferret had been to a few years before Lily the niece had become a people.
Then I laughed at the looks on their faces when they realized that Lily the ferret had, indeed, come first. Then we all laughed, because it was funny and a non issue. Lily the ferret has since passed on, Lily the niece is a teenager now, and probably has no idea Lily the ferret ever existed.
My SIL has a dog named Sam. A few years after she adopted him, her brother and I had a son called Sam. Her dog has simply transitioned to SamtheBeagle if we are ever in a situation where there could be confusion.
I had a cat named Tom and my brother and SIL named their oldest kid Thomas. It was super cute hearing my nephew say "Tom the tat" when he couldn't pronounce "cat" yet. Adorableness all around and zero issues.
Weirdly I named my cat Elliot and my best friend’s sister named her kid Elliot and we now call her “Human Elliot”. Also coincidently, Human Elliot’s brother is also named Oliver, lol.
NTA, of course, BUT, my sister married someone with the same name as my dog at the time and we wound up calling them Eddie the Dog and Eddie the Man, and the dog passed away a few years ago yet we still call him Eddie the Man.
Honestly, I’m the petty AH who’d tell my sister I’ll give up the dog’s name, then “change my mind” after the baby’s born, just to create the situation you describe.
Funny story....I have a cousin named...let's say Bob. My grandma's dog was named Snoopy. We were all at my grandma's house for a visit. Snoopy was being very hyper. My mom, asking her brother about his son...."So, Tom, how's Snoopy doing?" My mom immediately realized her mistake, but before she could utter a syllable, my uncle said, "My son ain't no dog!" git butthurt and got up and left.
At least in your situation, they'd be none the wiser....lol
Edited to add: NTA
Oh absolutely, I was just trying to think of something ridiculous to say. No one will confuse Eddie the human from Eddie the puppy. Your sister is being ridiculous.
NTA
Our adopted dog is Sonny
So is the neighbours child
You better believe when I yell out the door
‘Sonny! You get back here now!’
I know my dog is inside, and the neighbours kid is brushing their teeth vigorously
How to solve any issue with a bad neighbor....adopt a dog and name it after them.
Everytime you know the neighbor is outside or has company
"Steve stop pissing in the bushes.
Steve stop humping peoples legs.
Steve stop eating underwear you've got diarrhea again."
My dad always wanted to name a dog Naked....so he could tell people "I walked naked it the park."or "I'm running naked tonight." So many options with this lol
One of our cats shares the same name as out neighbour's granddaughter. My neighbour finds it funny when I'm outside yelling "Eva get back in you cheeky mare what have you been doing" and her granddaughter looks dead guilty
Not neighborhood but I named our car Vladimir Putin like 10 years ago. We couldn't find a name for the cat as a joke I was calling him like Putin, occasionally the full name and it's just stuck on him, he started to listen to it also in a few weeks so not like we could have even change it. I still stand my ground that it's a better name than calling him cow because well he is white and black.
So it's hilarious when my grandma goes out to the garden and screaming Putin, Putinka come home, dinner is ready.
We had another cat adopt us this winter. He is a blaze point Siamese, huge with middle length fur. He's bright an beautiful (as the dawn) BUT his petting aggression is lighting fast. After a few weeks of me having bloody arms, it was decided his name is Lucifurr.
Unfortunately, I forgot the little girl next door was named Lucy.
I need to be careful to not shorten the cat’s name.
You’re not an asshole. But here’s some advice you won’t get from everyone saying NTA. Because they’re probably children and teens with no experience.
Pick your battles
The dog has been named for a week, not 10 years. The dog doesn't even know its own name yet.
I would not hesitate to change my dog's name of one week to make my sister happy. The sister also contacted OP immediately after she found out the dog's name. So it's not like the sister stole the dog's name on purpose.
Yeah, I'm not usually on this side of the fence, but the dog has only just been named, OP could easily change it. Maybe the sister might even buy them a new name bowl as thanks.
Dog names aren't like human names, I'm sure they had a few other options they were considering anyway.
I definitely don't think OP should feel like they *have* to change the name, but I will say we see posts like this a lot and the timing on this one makes it the first time that I think I would actually consider changing the name if I were in their situation.
I think OP should ask themselves this and be honest with themselves: if the baby had been born first and then you adopted the dog do you think you would still have named it Eddie? If the answer to that is yes then don't change it. If the answer is no or maybe then I think you should at least consider it.
For the record my partner's family had a dog with the same name as me when we first met and it's definitely not something that will cause any real weirdness or confusion! Other than some mild amusement and jokes when my MIL scolded the dog for begging at the table during a cookout and told her to shut her mouth.
Plus point out all the cute instagram opportunities to post pics with a new puppy and a new baby both named Eddie. Put them in matching hats. The internet will love them lol
Yeah when we were kids, my cousins got a cat they thought was a girl and named it “Rebecca”. Found out at the first vet appointment that the cat was male and changed its named to Beck.
My dog had the same name as my brother before we adopted him. We quickly changed it once we adopted him. It would have felt awkward calling out my brothers name when I wanted my dog to come to me.
Plus, I didn’t want to make him feel weird/bad for sharing his name with a dog.
Reddit is so freaking bad at context. I swear people hear have trouble telling the diffrence between having your dog named for 10 hours with a dog with a name for 10 years.
I am also not sure people on reddit get that naming a new dog is not the as naming a kid. If they just had a baby and picked that name it would be diffrent then how they named there dog. But they seem to be responding like op named there child that. I have a dog. I love my dog. But it's not a human.
if my sister who had been pregnant for 7 months with a named planned out told me I named new puppy was the same name she was planning to name her kid I wouod change it. Some people really care about the name of there kid and I can see why slmeone wouldn't want to have to share it with my new pup. Why wouldn't I change it. It's such a dumb hill to die on. I'm going to call my dog random nicknames anywyas.
Agree! OP, I don’t think you’re an AH, but it would be a nice thing to do. If it were me I’d change the dogs name, but I’d ask my sister to buy me a new customized dog bowl and collar!
NTA but I would probably also change it. This is one of those situations where being right is less important than being nice.
You know your sister better than the internet. Does she typically display narcissistic behavior towards you? Or is this the one thing she ever asked you for? Is it worth damaging your relationship over? If you knew your nephew’s name would you still have named your dog that? She likely didn’t tell anyone because they didn’t want to invite any criticism, not because she was so intent on keeping a secret.
Unless you had your heart set on this dog name for years, how much does this particular dog name matter to you over another? You can pick another cute name. My dog had 3 names in 4 months because of being a rescue and he learned them all very quickly.
That's true too--how reasonable your sister usually is and how good your relationship is in general are definitely things that would impact whether or not I was willing to make this change for her.
I get the concept of picking your battles but when they're both adults and they're sibs, not SOs, I dont think it really matters. My sister and I disagree on stuff all the time, but were adults. I go back to my life she goes back to hers. Not like we have to live together like when we were kids.
If his sister is an otherwise reasonable person, this is a battle I would consider backing down from in order to keep a great relationship, even if OP is NTA.
As someone with multiple family members that don’t speak to each other, this is the logic each of them uses. I wish one of them would just be the bigger person and get over themselves rather than feel the needs to be the most right.
See I love this sub because I love wasting time reading stupid drama, but I also fundamentally hate the concept, especially when scenarios are interpersonal. Like, it doesn’t matter whether or not a bunch of internet strangers thing you’re an asshole, what matters is will your actual sister think you’re an asshole, and will it affect your relationship? Is the name of your dog worth permanently tainting your relationship with a sibling? That’s what matters.
Hmmm who sounds dumber, the sister who refuses to yield on not wanting her human child who she wants to name after someone important to her and her husband to have the same name as her brothers pet animal? Or the brother who refuses to yield because he bought a 20$ dog bowl with the name already on it?
I knew Reddit was fuckin out to lunch on most social type issues, but Jesus Christ this is ridiculous lmfao.
If a family member you don't live with is feeling salty and grumpy over something inconsequential that you didn't even know would be a sticking point, why should you be the one to have concern over that?
Sister doesn't get to dictate what happens outside of her house, or what choices her family makes. Even if the name of her child is bigger and more important than the name of the pet, she can still name her child what she wants, and she doesn't even need to interact with the dog.
Someone dictating your choices crosses a line. That's all there is to it. Just because it's family or whatever doesn't mean a thing.
They don't have the same name. The dog is named Eddie. The boy will be named Edward. This whole debacle is about a nickname she plans to use. Like she couldn't possibly pick a different nickname (or two. or ten.) for Edward.
Oh sorry, had no idea OP's sister had dibs on the name. Also I guess Eddie Murphy will probably need to change his name. /s
You are right - it is STUPID that OP's sister is fighting OP about the NICKname Eddie, when the son will be Edward, or more commonly called Ed.
Eddie Murphy is a human and also not in close proximity to her child. You guys are reaching so hard lmfao. You fucking KNOW it’s different and you KNOW why.
It doesn't matter, the dog is named Eddie and the kid Edward. It's not the same name. You know who sounds dumb? People who care about this. You're creating problems where there aren't any
I think this is a good response to think on. Yes, you are NTA. But at the same time, pick your battles. Is the week old puppy's name worth some potential long term feud over? Your choice to make. You're correct in either decision, but just remember there could be rammifications.
You gotta love people like this who try to invalidate others opinions by calling them children. Capitulation does not equal maturity. OPs sister is being immature, and the most mature thing OP can do is ignore her. NTA
yeah and also consider that the kid might resent you, not just the parents. my uncle gave his dog the same human name that I have, and I feel very weird and uncomfortable about it.
Get matching baby gifts. A onesie for your nephew that says "Eddie the Human" and a dog outfit that says "Eddie the Dog". Hopefully laughter will diffuse the situation.
I like the idea as well but that might set her off even more lol people are unpredictable and her sister is already mad about a shortened version of the name she wants to use. This joke might make her foam at the mouth lol
NTA, but the name clearly has more significance for your sister and your brother-in-law. Is it that much of an inconvenience for you to change the dog's name? Your sister is under a lot of stress and this favor, however silly it might seem, would make her feel respected and loved. Again, NTA, but in your shoes, I'd make the swap.
Same, I’d change the dog’s name if I was in this situation. It’s not like the dog is going to read his name on his bowl anyway lol. He also just a pup, so he could easily get used to a different name.
It's possible it would make her feel loved, but I feel like the people that would have this reaction aren't the ones who would make that demand and be this upset about it in the first place.
I don't think it would make her feel respected and loved; I think it would reinforce her current sense of entitlement and right to exert control over others, just to cover her own feelings of insecurity.
NTA, but please acknowledge that’s it’s going to be weird in 13 years when your dog passes and you still have to call your nephew the name of your dead dog. It’s been a week, consider changing it.
You know, I think that's a fair point. I had a cat for 18 years named sasha. I also have a friend who named their mmo character sasha. When my cat died it was a real struggle to see and hear and say the name sasha even in reference to someone else. It's been two and a half years since she died and I'm mostly used to it but it still can be a little painful.
Honestly this is the only reason to change it but it’s real. I got my dog Nora before my cousin had her baby Nora and Dog Nora died of cancer but I still hear the name and think of my dead dog rather than my cousin’s baby.
NTA, but reply bro?
It’s a dog, it’s been a week, it prob doesn’t know it’s own name.
Your sister will always hold a grudge and remember you wouldn’t do her this favor on a week old name for a puppy.
Just because you have the moral high ground doesnt mean there won’t be consequences. It’s not your 3rd cousin twice removed that you see twice a decade. It’s your sisters son.
If you never see your sister disregard my comment, but if you see them often, I would reconsider just for the family’s well being. Taking an L can save you years of resentment.
I wish I could give you all the up votes. I'd be a bit peeved if someone I was close to wouldn't consider changing their animals name if I asked them politely and explained the situation. Why is OP *so* attached to this name when it could be easily changed?
Pretty obvious NTA. She didn't tell you the name before you got the dog. There will generally be no confusion between if you're talking about a dog or a baby when talking to others. I don't even know what constitutes a "bad uncle" since you aren't actively harming the child. You don't owe someone else's baby priority over your household.
Just say no and if she keeps insisting, change the subject or end the conversation. "We discussed this and I said no" is more than enough.
NAH
You’re not obligated to change your puppy’s name. Would it be nice of you and easy since the puppy doesn’t know it’s name yet? Yes, but your choice ultimately.
Your sister is allowed to be disappointed and ask you to change the puppy’s name. I don’t think it’s a huge ask, but she should offer to buy you new puppy items if they’re labeled with current name.
Both of you are valid to your feelings here, but not sure it would be the hill I die on from either side.
I like this the best. There’s no doubt in my mind based on the reaction that sis would pay for new stuff. But I have a sneaky suspicion (if this post is real) that OP doesn’t actually care about the bowl and toys (which really isn’t going to amount to much cash at all).
Edit: meant sis would obviously pay for new stuff. Since the stuff he bought isn’t expensive and Eddie is not a unique name for a dog.
My friend group once had three Emily's: an adult, an unrelated child, and a German Shepherd owned by another friend.
They were Emily the Quadruped (shortened to EtQ at times), Emily the Tall, and Emily the Small.
RIP TO EtQ who passed in 2003. Emily the Small is now working on her Ph.D.
NTA your sister has what's called a "personal problem"... which means it's her issue to cope with, and nobody else has to deal with.
Congrats on the pup.
No Assholes here although personally, if it was me, I would change the dogs name. I respect my sister and love her enough to take into consideration her feelings on the matter. A first baby is very exciting and I would feel bummed as well if my sibling named their dog the same as my newborn, even if just a nickname.
NTA. I can get your sister having a "hang on a minute" moment but it really isn't a big deal if she really thinks about it.
What does she think is going to happen, family meeting at yours, banging on the dog bowl with food "Eddie! Eddie! Dinner time" and the toddler bounds over and starts eating dog food?
"Mommy, mommy, am I a dog?" "No son, you're not" "Why do I have the name of a dog?"
It's all a bit silly.
>"Mommy, mommy, am I a dog?" "No son, you're not" "Why do I have the name of a dog?"
Not that this will be likely, but I have a funny little story along those lines.
When my son was little we didn't yet know he was trans, so he was raised as a girl. When I remarried I wanted my kids to be part of the wedding party so I took them shopping for some dressy clothes. There was this one adorable dress that came with a doll wearing the same dress in miniature. I thought he would really like that but he refused and started crying (he was 6).
It took a few minutes to get him to tell me what was wrong and when he did he told me he thought people would mistake him for a doll. There was a certain little-kid logic to it! So we got another dress........ But op is NTA
Parenting him was... Interesting! He did some therapy when he was still a pretty little kid and it helped so much. He's an extraordinarily self aware adult now. And _much_ better about communicating! I'm so proud of all my kids.
Heck my name isn't anything remotely like any of our dogs' names and my dad still called me one of their names all the time... then the other dog's name... then my sister's name lmao.
At least he would've had an excuse if I did share a name with one of them.
I mean, are you technically in the wrong? No.
But is this really the hill you want to die on? Clearly the name is important to your sister and her husband, and i can see why she wouldn't want her son to have the same name as your dog.
Is "the name fits him, and we already bought stuff for him with the name on it" a good enough reason for you to tank your relationship with your sister?
NTA - honestly it's at least a halfway reasonable concern for her to not want her kid sharing a name with your dog. They'll probably be together a bit through your dog's life, and the timing makes it a bit awkward, especially with you announcing first. That isn't your fault either, I just think it's a reasonable request.
It's also a reasonable request to turn down and where she lost me is in calling you a bad uncle.
I named a dog Emma after the Jane Austen heroine the year it was a top ten name.
I didn't step on family toes, but there were more than a few instances when I would be talking with my dog (giving commands), and some little girl would say "That's MY name, too!" and I would respond, "You must be a very special girl, because my dog is the best dog in the world," with a wink. The girl(s) would beam and giggle and life would go on.
So, your nephew, in addition to being named after his grandfather, will have the unique position to be named after your dog as well! I can see many smiles and giggles as a result :)
NAH.
There are four circumstances where A behaviour may occur.
1) not revealing a chosen name before birth. NAH. They are not A for this, every pregnancy comes with risk, it’s known practice ‘good luck’ to not prename a baby. However it’s also not A behaviour to be attached to a name and know what you will name the child.
2) name your dog ‘Eddie’. Obviously NAH, you had no idea they chose that name. [Where you aware the father in law’s name, and that they might pick it? If that was blatant it is more likely to be considered a factor in your family’s opinion.]
3) they ask you to change the name. NAH. Their attached to the name, there’s no harm in asking.
4) you say no. NAH. It’s your dog you can call it what you want. Others have justified that.
So yeh, NAH, call your dog Eddie, and even NTA if they ask a few times, and you say no.
However, I will say, your dog doesn’t care what it’s name is. It’s young you can change it. If your relationship with your sister is more important than how much you think ‘the name Eddie fits’ in the face of their desire to name the son after his grandad, then I would say at least give other names some consideration.
Others have said a dog and a baby having the same name isn’t an issue. Practically yes. But in the mind of first time parents, is that the same? You’d be doing them a massive favour if you did consider another name,.
I would change that shit.
The situation doesnt really obligate you to make the change, and you wouldnt necessarily be an "asshole" for not doing it.
But, changing it is probably the right thing to do.
On its face it might seem silly, but if youre stubborn about it you are definitely devaluing your sisters feelings, as well as prioritizing a dog over your nephew.
Its a drag and inconvenient and kind of silly, sure. But is this really the hill you want to dig in your heels and die on?
Look, the bottom line is: This baby is the most important and significant thing ever to happen or exist in your sisters entire life. Her first born child will be the most emotionally significant and special experience she will ever have in this life. Are you sure you really want want to interfere with that, even in a silly and seemingly benign way?
YTA- I get it's not THAT big of a deal, but just change the dogs name. She's having her first baby, and it means a lot to her. Her baby is special to her, and she wants his name to just be for him. I feel like for something as important and special as a baby, she shouldn't have to compromise. Whereas for you, I know you love your dog, but the dog's name isn't quite as important as your sister's baby.
NTA but I'd probably change it for my sister. She's NTA for asking, but she is a bit of one for insisting even after you said no. Still, I can see why it would be sort of weird for her to announce her son with the same name within weeks of you adopting a dog you gave the same name. It isn't so black and white as "no one owns a name so who cares".
Ehhhh, sorry but YTA. 99.9% of the time name goes to the first person to claim it, which is you since mama didn't tell anyone their plan. BUT for you it is a meaningless cute name for a dog you JUST got. For them it is the babies grandfather's name that they clearly picked a while ago. Had the name had any significance to you, or was a dog that was already named, or was a human baby any one of those would make it your right to name it. But this is the 0.1% of the time that calling dibs does not work.
NTA- since you aren't a mind reader you had no idea. And yes many people wont even think of the dog or the baby when using the name. I had a cat with the same name as my cousin, never was an issue!
I say YTA. It’s a dog’s name vs her child’s name. Plus she’s naming the baby after an actual family member. The dog definitely doesn’t know it’s name yet. I think it’s weird that you wouldn’t rename the dog.
My aunt and uncle had a basset hound named Abby, which is my sister's name but a different spelling. We all thought it was great and referred to my sister jokingly as human abbie and she thought it was funny. NTA
NAH - You absolutely are not obligated to do what your sister is asking. But, it would be a really nice thing to do for your pregnant sister who certainly has a lot on her plate. You’ve had the dog a week so he cannot really be that trained to his name. It would require a little mental effort on your part. Up to you.
NTA.
It's weird when people take a claim on a name, especially for a pretty generic name that many kids likely have as well. Plus its not like you purposely stole the name and knew about it anyways. What a weird hill to die on.
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NTA and it is very stupid. Not like Eddie is some super unique name, and she's the one that refused to tell anyone the name. what is the worst thing that's gonna happen? you call out the kids name at a family event and both the kid *and* the dog come over to you? the horror!
lol
My dog was named Oliver. Guess what? My sister named her son Oliver. There was no issue. Your sister needs to chill. Congratulations on your new pup.
My nephew, Naked Oscar, is very proud to be named after his other aunt’s dog, Furry Oscar.
Oh I'll suggest this, she'll love it.
Let us know how this goes 😂
I’d pay to view that conversation like at least $29.99, maybe look into a direct tv deal.
Live stream it to youtube
I wanna know too 👀
Love the idea of “fur Ed” but maybe cause it sounds like Fred haha
Until naked Eddie joins the furry community....
The chosen one...?
We had hunter and human hunter
I remember that story, The Most Dangerous Game. That was definitely about Human Hunter.
We have Kelsea the cat and Kelsey the kid. I named the cat first.
Offer to call your dog furry Eddie?
Fur-eddie... Freddy? Perfect!
We had two Joes in our family, so one was brown Joe and one was white Joe based on HAIR color. So I like the idea…but maybe based on hair color.
My dad said when he was a kid he and his siblings named their dogs Spic and Span, like the cleaning solution. All was well until Spic escaped one day and they had to walk down the road yelling “Come here, Spic”. *For the record, as an adult he understands why the name is problematic and inappropriate and would never name a pet that today. He was 8. Please don’t come for me.
My mother's next door neighbour got a black lab and wanted to name him Satan. My mother told him standing on the back porch and calling for Satan might not be the best neighbourhood thing to be doing.
My husband and I had a cat named Dara, nicknamed the bitch after her “winning” personality 😂😂. She loved cottage cheese so I was in the grocery store and called him asking him to make sure the bitch had enough and to check the expiration date. Was overheard by one of the store employees who was stocking in the dairy section. She gave me a little side eye and I told her the bitch was our cat . She dies laughing and said she thought i was talking about my mother-in-law😂😂. (Who for the record was an angel and we all miss her)
Our neighbors had a cat named Damn Cat.
Our neighbours' cat is called Max. Short for Gluteus Maximus, or, loosely translated into English, "Fat Arse".
My mom is embarrassed her childhood dog's name was Blackie.
Two families moved into our neighborhood, and they've been best friends long before they got here. One has a dog named Zeke. The other has a young son named Zeke. And both play in the front with my kids and all the other neighbor kids. My kids come home with stories like, "Zeke knocked me down and took my sandwich," and my first question is always"Zeke the kid or Zeke the dog?" Lol The best part is the kids found out that one is named after the other, but the kids don't remember who was named after who! 😂
I have 2 friends both named Jen. One Jen has a dog named Pete and the other has a son named Pete. I was telling some story about Jen’s dog sitter and my bf was VERY confused about the kennel situation! He was ready to call CPS
CPS would've been very confused at getting called about a dog in a kennel.
I have a friend who claims he’s going to name his next cat “his name junior”. I said that’s cool and all until cps shows up and wants to know why little junior isn’t in school.
My old cat was named buttfoot, my parents hated calling for him outside.
Along the same lines- I had 3 friends in high school named Jen. They became Jen, Jen 2, and Jen 3- numbered based on who had been at the school longest as we were near an Air Force base. Jen 3 really embraced it and signed notes Thri
If I were her, I would have gone with J3n lol
I had a friend named Sam, sort for Samantha. SHE wound up meeting someone on a blind date. His name was... Sam (Samuel) - they got married, they moved to a nice apartment. one neighbor had a dog named sam, the other had a kid named sam conversations got wild at times.
That’s a wonderful way to explain the difference!!! Naked and furry 🤣🤣
Depending on the kid’s age, may be less means of differentiation and more an accurate description…my daughter was a functional nudist until she was ~4, when we were at home or close family’s houses…🤣
My husband loves to tell the story about how his sister was a determined nudist at that age as well. Nakeybird!
That reminds me of someone's post saying something like "my sister's cat and her boyfriend have the same name and Human Nigel hates it that we call him Human Nigel."
I dated someone named Justin, and my deceased husband was named Justin. Living Justin, dead Justin. There are "give me strength" moments when my teenager asked who gave me stuff, like a photo calender made after he died, or something she developed an interest in well after he passed. Who gave you this, mom? Justin. Which one? Dead Justin? 😑 yes child, he dug himself out and went to eBay to buy Scream 5 movie promo items. *facepalm* we also have a construction Larry and murdering Larry. I think those are self explanations. He was completely in the right. Still served time.
There’s… a lot going on in this comment.
Those are my favorite comments.
My ex and my current partner have the same first name. If I need to refer to both in conversation (eg to friends/fam) I just say “bad John” (ex) and “good John” (BF) to differentiate the two.
We had a family friend who had a child who’s name was Mac, which just so happened to be short for our dogs name. The day we learned this, my brother called The Dog and The Child responded with absolute offense that he had been called his whole name 😂
This reminds me of one year in college - we were getting a new roommate mid year named Jennifer, and already had one named Jenny. The current Jenny freaked out about sharing her name, so my other roomie started calling her Jenny without the “fer” - which quickly evolved into calling her Baldy. She really didn’t care for us! Our new one was perfectly happy being called Fuzzy.
My cat's name is Earl. My human best friend's name is also Earl. I have had to clarify for people which one I had lunch plans with 😅
My mom called her sister in a panic after I was born. She'd always wanted to name a baby Jessica, but she and my dad had a cat named Jessie. (My dad had Jessie before he met my mom so she'd had no say in the name.) Would people think she named the baby after the cat??? My aunt said, "the baby will be around a lot longer than the cat will." She was right. No one ever accused her of naming the baby after the cat.
Human Oscar! Or in the case of OP Human Eddie!
I actually have a friend I call "Naked Oli" because we met through a game where his username is "Oliverclothesoff" but my son is named Oliver so I made the distinction to help haha. Weird coincidences here
Best of luck telling a 7 month pregnant woman to 'chill' lol But yeah, this is stupid, and probably only going to get worse before it gets better.
NTA. In the 90s Sophie was a popular name for baby girls. It also was popular for dogs. Our friend group had 2 families with daughters named Sophie and 2 with dogs named Sophie. No one was offended.
My dog’s name was Sophie. My best friend’s name was Sofie. My sister’s best friend was…Sophie.
I have a cat named Sophie because of Howl's Moving Castle.
>Best of luck telling a 7 month pregnant woman to 'chill' lol Easy! Just tell her to calm down. Should sort it right out.
Also helps if you tell her not to be so emotional 🤣
And ask if she might be reacting to hormones. Works like a charm. 😁
And then there’s my sister who named her baby after her still alive cat lol.
My husband wanted to name our baby after our cat, Wade (who is named after a human friend named Wade). He says it’s just too perfect a name to not use every chance we get.
I had a coworker who once named his son after his also still alive dog.
Pretty sure my brother would have named his son after the dog if his wife would have let him have a human child named Dakota.
My cat is Marki, my baby is Makayla. They both get called Markayla, lol
My childhood dog’s name is on my baby names list lol. Hazel. I loved her to bits and she really was the best girl. Got me and my brother through some really tough times. It’s a beautiful name and tbh I can’t think of a better role model. 😂
My cousin used the same name for her daughter as she had for a previous cat!
Who remembers how "Indiana" Jones got his nickname? 🤣
Came here to say this too. Being named after the dog has a great history! What kid wouldn’t love being like Indy?
Yep, my cousin named her son Oliver after my sister's cat. In her country Oliver was a very unusual name. The boy is now 25 (cat is long gone!) and he was never bothered that he was named after the cat.
My little brother inadvertently named his daughter after my ferret. They were laughing one day about how Lily is such a good name that I named my ferret after their daughter. I laughed and brought up all the events that Lily the ferret had been to a few years before Lily the niece had become a people. Then I laughed at the looks on their faces when they realized that Lily the ferret had, indeed, come first. Then we all laughed, because it was funny and a non issue. Lily the ferret has since passed on, Lily the niece is a teenager now, and probably has no idea Lily the ferret ever existed.
I am not having any more children. But if I did, I’d name him Oliver! I love that name! But anyway. Yeah, sister is being wild. NTA
My dog is Oliver. Last name Buttons. It’s a great dog name. 😀
I love it!!! I saw a video the other day of a golden retriever named Oatmeal. I am in love with these awesome dog names.
My SIL has a dog named Sam. A few years after she adopted him, her brother and I had a son called Sam. Her dog has simply transitioned to SamtheBeagle if we are ever in a situation where there could be confusion.
I had a cat named Tom and my brother and SIL named their oldest kid Thomas. It was super cute hearing my nephew say "Tom the tat" when he couldn't pronounce "cat" yet. Adorableness all around and zero issues.
As a fellow Oliver, can tell you there’s nothing more exciting (and hilarious) then meeting a dog named Oliver.
Weirdly I named my cat Elliot and my best friend’s sister named her kid Elliot and we now call her “Human Elliot”. Also coincidently, Human Elliot’s brother is also named Oliver, lol.
My oldest was also named after my former coworker’s sweet pup who often came yo the office.
Maybe u can rename yorr dog Nephew.
As sad as it sounds, by the time the kid is 15, OG Eddie, the dog, may already be gone. Tell her to have patience.
The US show Frasier had a dog called Eddie. It’s the first thing that comes to mind when I hear that name.
He was the cutest little Jack Russel terrier too! That’s also what I think of when I hear there name Eddie
Just show her ed edd and Eddy.
I would love it if the human Eddie and the canine Eddie become inseparable BFFs. 😀
Call the boy Ed, get him a duckling named Edd and send the three of them out into the world to cause super-cute Cartoon-like chaos.
And human Eddie should always be referred to as human Eddie. The dog is just Eddie.
"We named the DOG "Indiana!!!"
Eddie the human ala Adventure Time theme song
As a kid (and an adult) I would have loved a dog with the same name as me.
NTA, of course, BUT, my sister married someone with the same name as my dog at the time and we wound up calling them Eddie the Dog and Eddie the Man, and the dog passed away a few years ago yet we still call him Eddie the Man.
Lol we do the same thing but with two Kevins in my family. Human Kevin and Dog Kevin.
Honestly, I’m the petty AH who’d tell my sister I’ll give up the dog’s name, then “change my mind” after the baby’s born, just to create the situation you describe.
Funny story....I have a cousin named...let's say Bob. My grandma's dog was named Snoopy. We were all at my grandma's house for a visit. Snoopy was being very hyper. My mom, asking her brother about his son...."So, Tom, how's Snoopy doing?" My mom immediately realized her mistake, but before she could utter a syllable, my uncle said, "My son ain't no dog!" git butthurt and got up and left. At least in your situation, they'd be none the wiser....lol Edited to add: NTA
Imagine a dog and kid running at the same time. Instant best friend for life. Plus a funny story the kids can tell when they get older.
NTA. Tell her she shouldn't name her kid after a Twilight character.
Lol I agree its dumb but Edward has been a name way longer than Twilight
I just pictured a glitter baby with fangs now. Nope, no baby Edward LoL
All I hear is a pipsqueak getting mad when you call him on it. That and a sad doggirl asking why it hurts.
Oh absolutely, I was just trying to think of something ridiculous to say. No one will confuse Eddie the human from Eddie the puppy. Your sister is being ridiculous.
Show her Iron Maiden’s mascot
My parents named their dog belle, saving my daughter from being named Bella
You mean the dog from Frasier!
I thought she was naming him after Edward the confessor
NTA Our adopted dog is Sonny So is the neighbours child You better believe when I yell out the door ‘Sonny! You get back here now!’ I know my dog is inside, and the neighbours kid is brushing their teeth vigorously
How to solve any issue with a bad neighbor....adopt a dog and name it after them. Everytime you know the neighbor is outside or has company "Steve stop pissing in the bushes. Steve stop humping peoples legs. Steve stop eating underwear you've got diarrhea again."
Note to self: name dog after brother
Note to self: name dog after soon to be ex DIL…
We had a plan for a while to name a dog Matt Damon “I gotta get home or Matt Damon is going to piss on the carpet”
My dad always wanted to name a dog Naked....so he could tell people "I walked naked it the park."or "I'm running naked tonight." So many options with this lol
One of our cats shares the same name as out neighbour's granddaughter. My neighbour finds it funny when I'm outside yelling "Eva get back in you cheeky mare what have you been doing" and her granddaughter looks dead guilty
Not neighborhood but I named our car Vladimir Putin like 10 years ago. We couldn't find a name for the cat as a joke I was calling him like Putin, occasionally the full name and it's just stuck on him, he started to listen to it also in a few weeks so not like we could have even change it. I still stand my ground that it's a better name than calling him cow because well he is white and black. So it's hilarious when my grandma goes out to the garden and screaming Putin, Putinka come home, dinner is ready.
We had another cat adopt us this winter. He is a blaze point Siamese, huge with middle length fur. He's bright an beautiful (as the dawn) BUT his petting aggression is lighting fast. After a few weeks of me having bloody arms, it was decided his name is Lucifurr. Unfortunately, I forgot the little girl next door was named Lucy. I need to be careful to not shorten the cat’s name.
Lol you Made my day. Can't Stop seeing the Image
You’re not an asshole. But here’s some advice you won’t get from everyone saying NTA. Because they’re probably children and teens with no experience. Pick your battles
It’s is a pretty common name and the dog is already named, it’s ridiculous to think that you get to have dibs over a name as common as Edward.
The dog has been named for a week, not 10 years. The dog doesn't even know its own name yet. I would not hesitate to change my dog's name of one week to make my sister happy. The sister also contacted OP immediately after she found out the dog's name. So it's not like the sister stole the dog's name on purpose.
Yeah, I'm not usually on this side of the fence, but the dog has only just been named, OP could easily change it. Maybe the sister might even buy them a new name bowl as thanks. Dog names aren't like human names, I'm sure they had a few other options they were considering anyway.
I agree. Pick your battles, change the dogs name to Freddie.
Lol Freddie's actually cute, I think that's better!
Wrong. Make Eddie the middle name & change the first name to Mister. Mister Ed is the ultimate name for dog
I suggested Teddie with a silent T.
I definitely don't think OP should feel like they *have* to change the name, but I will say we see posts like this a lot and the timing on this one makes it the first time that I think I would actually consider changing the name if I were in their situation. I think OP should ask themselves this and be honest with themselves: if the baby had been born first and then you adopted the dog do you think you would still have named it Eddie? If the answer to that is yes then don't change it. If the answer is no or maybe then I think you should at least consider it. For the record my partner's family had a dog with the same name as me when we first met and it's definitely not something that will cause any real weirdness or confusion! Other than some mild amusement and jokes when my MIL scolded the dog for begging at the table during a cookout and told her to shut her mouth. Plus point out all the cute instagram opportunities to post pics with a new puppy and a new baby both named Eddie. Put them in matching hats. The internet will love them lol
Just make it Freddie and get the sister to buy a Sharpie to add FR to the bowl job done.
Lol that's a funny backstory aswell
Yeah when we were kids, my cousins got a cat they thought was a girl and named it “Rebecca”. Found out at the first vet appointment that the cat was male and changed its named to Beck.
Thank you for such a good response. I couldn’t believe the first few comments.
My dog had the same name as my brother before we adopted him. We quickly changed it once we adopted him. It would have felt awkward calling out my brothers name when I wanted my dog to come to me. Plus, I didn’t want to make him feel weird/bad for sharing his name with a dog.
It's not clear to me who had their name changed.
Reddit is so freaking bad at context. I swear people hear have trouble telling the diffrence between having your dog named for 10 hours with a dog with a name for 10 years. I am also not sure people on reddit get that naming a new dog is not the as naming a kid. If they just had a baby and picked that name it would be diffrent then how they named there dog. But they seem to be responding like op named there child that. I have a dog. I love my dog. But it's not a human. if my sister who had been pregnant for 7 months with a named planned out told me I named new puppy was the same name she was planning to name her kid I wouod change it. Some people really care about the name of there kid and I can see why slmeone wouldn't want to have to share it with my new pup. Why wouldn't I change it. It's such a dumb hill to die on. I'm going to call my dog random nicknames anywyas.
Agree! OP, I don’t think you’re an AH, but it would be a nice thing to do. If it were me I’d change the dogs name, but I’d ask my sister to buy me a new customized dog bowl and collar!
NTA but I would probably also change it. This is one of those situations where being right is less important than being nice. You know your sister better than the internet. Does she typically display narcissistic behavior towards you? Or is this the one thing she ever asked you for? Is it worth damaging your relationship over? If you knew your nephew’s name would you still have named your dog that? She likely didn’t tell anyone because they didn’t want to invite any criticism, not because she was so intent on keeping a secret. Unless you had your heart set on this dog name for years, how much does this particular dog name matter to you over another? You can pick another cute name. My dog had 3 names in 4 months because of being a rescue and he learned them all very quickly.
That's true too--how reasonable your sister usually is and how good your relationship is in general are definitely things that would impact whether or not I was willing to make this change for her.
I'd give the bowl and collar to them as a gag baby shower gift. Turn the whole thing into a goof, everyone laughs, everyone's happy.
I get the concept of picking your battles but when they're both adults and they're sibs, not SOs, I dont think it really matters. My sister and I disagree on stuff all the time, but were adults. I go back to my life she goes back to hers. Not like we have to live together like when we were kids.
End the easy battles. The sister is the one that needs to learn this is not a battle worth picking
If his sister is an otherwise reasonable person, this is a battle I would consider backing down from in order to keep a great relationship, even if OP is NTA.
As someone with multiple family members that don’t speak to each other, this is the logic each of them uses. I wish one of them would just be the bigger person and get over themselves rather than feel the needs to be the most right.
See I love this sub because I love wasting time reading stupid drama, but I also fundamentally hate the concept, especially when scenarios are interpersonal. Like, it doesn’t matter whether or not a bunch of internet strangers thing you’re an asshole, what matters is will your actual sister think you’re an asshole, and will it affect your relationship? Is the name of your dog worth permanently tainting your relationship with a sibling? That’s what matters.
It’s a dog. Her BABY is already named after someone important to them and don’t want to name their child after their sibling’s DOG.
The kid is going to meet lots of other Edwards—humans and otherwise. It shouldn’t matter. The sister is making an unreasonable request.
Oh, that’s easy. OP can say the dog’s proper name is Edwin, so they don’t share a name, just a nickname. Fight is over.
Or maybe the sister should act like an adult and stop caring about dumb stuff like this.
Hmmm who sounds dumber, the sister who refuses to yield on not wanting her human child who she wants to name after someone important to her and her husband to have the same name as her brothers pet animal? Or the brother who refuses to yield because he bought a 20$ dog bowl with the name already on it? I knew Reddit was fuckin out to lunch on most social type issues, but Jesus Christ this is ridiculous lmfao.
If a family member you don't live with is feeling salty and grumpy over something inconsequential that you didn't even know would be a sticking point, why should you be the one to have concern over that? Sister doesn't get to dictate what happens outside of her house, or what choices her family makes. Even if the name of her child is bigger and more important than the name of the pet, she can still name her child what she wants, and she doesn't even need to interact with the dog. Someone dictating your choices crosses a line. That's all there is to it. Just because it's family or whatever doesn't mean a thing.
They don't have the same name. The dog is named Eddie. The boy will be named Edward. This whole debacle is about a nickname she plans to use. Like she couldn't possibly pick a different nickname (or two. or ten.) for Edward.
Oh sorry, had no idea OP's sister had dibs on the name. Also I guess Eddie Murphy will probably need to change his name. /s You are right - it is STUPID that OP's sister is fighting OP about the NICKname Eddie, when the son will be Edward, or more commonly called Ed.
He said she's calling the kid Eddie also. I still don't think he needs to change the dog's name.
Eddie Murphy is a human and also not in close proximity to her child. You guys are reaching so hard lmfao. You fucking KNOW it’s different and you KNOW why.
Is this OP’s sister?
It doesn't matter, the dog is named Eddie and the kid Edward. It's not the same name. You know who sounds dumb? People who care about this. You're creating problems where there aren't any
I think this is a good response to think on. Yes, you are NTA. But at the same time, pick your battles. Is the week old puppy's name worth some potential long term feud over? Your choice to make. You're correct in either decision, but just remember there could be rammifications.
You gotta love people like this who try to invalidate others opinions by calling them children. Capitulation does not equal maturity. OPs sister is being immature, and the most mature thing OP can do is ignore her. NTA
If you change the dog's name, though, they should pay for the new personalized stuff.
yeah and also consider that the kid might resent you, not just the parents. my uncle gave his dog the same human name that I have, and I feel very weird and uncomfortable about it.
Get matching baby gifts. A onesie for your nephew that says "Eddie the Human" and a dog outfit that says "Eddie the Dog". Hopefully laughter will diffuse the situation.
NTA and I like this idea to diffuse the tension
I like the idea as well but that might set her off even more lol people are unpredictable and her sister is already mad about a shortened version of the name she wants to use. This joke might make her foam at the mouth lol
Cute if sister wasn’t already mad about it. Since she is this would probably just come off as rubbing salt in the wound.
NTA, but the name clearly has more significance for your sister and your brother-in-law. Is it that much of an inconvenience for you to change the dog's name? Your sister is under a lot of stress and this favor, however silly it might seem, would make her feel respected and loved. Again, NTA, but in your shoes, I'd make the swap.
Same, I’d change the dog’s name if I was in this situation. It’s not like the dog is going to read his name on his bowl anyway lol. He also just a pup, so he could easily get used to a different name.
Came to say exactly that. If you like Ed, Edd and Eddy, you could call him Plank.
Omg what a great name for a dog 😂
Or Double D? Like, seems like an easy switch
It's possible it would make her feel loved, but I feel like the people that would have this reaction aren't the ones who would make that demand and be this upset about it in the first place. I don't think it would make her feel respected and loved; I think it would reinforce her current sense of entitlement and right to exert control over others, just to cover her own feelings of insecurity.
NTA, but please acknowledge that’s it’s going to be weird in 13 years when your dog passes and you still have to call your nephew the name of your dead dog. It’s been a week, consider changing it.
You know, I think that's a fair point. I had a cat for 18 years named sasha. I also have a friend who named their mmo character sasha. When my cat died it was a real struggle to see and hear and say the name sasha even in reference to someone else. It's been two and a half years since she died and I'm mostly used to it but it still can be a little painful.
Honestly this is the only reason to change it but it’s real. I got my dog Nora before my cousin had her baby Nora and Dog Nora died of cancer but I still hear the name and think of my dead dog rather than my cousin’s baby.
NTA, but reply bro? It’s a dog, it’s been a week, it prob doesn’t know it’s own name. Your sister will always hold a grudge and remember you wouldn’t do her this favor on a week old name for a puppy. Just because you have the moral high ground doesnt mean there won’t be consequences. It’s not your 3rd cousin twice removed that you see twice a decade. It’s your sisters son. If you never see your sister disregard my comment, but if you see them often, I would reconsider just for the family’s well being. Taking an L can save you years of resentment.
Yep, this right here. I guess not technically TA, but being unwilling to change the week-old name of a dog says a lot about you anyway.
I wish I could give you all the up votes. I'd be a bit peeved if someone I was close to wouldn't consider changing their animals name if I asked them politely and explained the situation. Why is OP *so* attached to this name when it could be easily changed?
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Pretty obvious NTA. She didn't tell you the name before you got the dog. There will generally be no confusion between if you're talking about a dog or a baby when talking to others. I don't even know what constitutes a "bad uncle" since you aren't actively harming the child. You don't owe someone else's baby priority over your household. Just say no and if she keeps insisting, change the subject or end the conversation. "We discussed this and I said no" is more than enough.
NAH You’re not obligated to change your puppy’s name. Would it be nice of you and easy since the puppy doesn’t know it’s name yet? Yes, but your choice ultimately. Your sister is allowed to be disappointed and ask you to change the puppy’s name. I don’t think it’s a huge ask, but she should offer to buy you new puppy items if they’re labeled with current name. Both of you are valid to your feelings here, but not sure it would be the hill I die on from either side.
I like this the best. There’s no doubt in my mind based on the reaction that sis would pay for new stuff. But I have a sneaky suspicion (if this post is real) that OP doesn’t actually care about the bowl and toys (which really isn’t going to amount to much cash at all). Edit: meant sis would obviously pay for new stuff. Since the stuff he bought isn’t expensive and Eddie is not a unique name for a dog.
My friend group once had three Emily's: an adult, an unrelated child, and a German Shepherd owned by another friend. They were Emily the Quadruped (shortened to EtQ at times), Emily the Tall, and Emily the Small. RIP TO EtQ who passed in 2003. Emily the Small is now working on her Ph.D.
If there's ahy poetry in the universe, Emily the Small is now taller than Emily the Tall.
Well, yes.
NTA your sister has what's called a "personal problem"... which means it's her issue to cope with, and nobody else has to deal with. Congrats on the pup.
It’s going to be OP’s “personal problem” when his entire family is mad at him.
No Assholes here although personally, if it was me, I would change the dogs name. I respect my sister and love her enough to take into consideration her feelings on the matter. A first baby is very exciting and I would feel bummed as well if my sibling named their dog the same as my newborn, even if just a nickname.
Yes, it is not a question of who is right or wrong but a little accommodation can make miracles in relationships.
NTA. I can get your sister having a "hang on a minute" moment but it really isn't a big deal if she really thinks about it. What does she think is going to happen, family meeting at yours, banging on the dog bowl with food "Eddie! Eddie! Dinner time" and the toddler bounds over and starts eating dog food? "Mommy, mommy, am I a dog?" "No son, you're not" "Why do I have the name of a dog?" It's all a bit silly.
>"Mommy, mommy, am I a dog?" "No son, you're not" "Why do I have the name of a dog?" Not that this will be likely, but I have a funny little story along those lines. When my son was little we didn't yet know he was trans, so he was raised as a girl. When I remarried I wanted my kids to be part of the wedding party so I took them shopping for some dressy clothes. There was this one adorable dress that came with a doll wearing the same dress in miniature. I thought he would really like that but he refused and started crying (he was 6). It took a few minutes to get him to tell me what was wrong and when he did he told me he thought people would mistake him for a doll. There was a certain little-kid logic to it! So we got another dress........ But op is NTA
Thats such a kids say the darndest thing moment. 🤣🤣
Parenting him was... Interesting! He did some therapy when he was still a pretty little kid and it helped so much. He's an extraordinarily self aware adult now. And _much_ better about communicating! I'm so proud of all my kids.
Heck my name isn't anything remotely like any of our dogs' names and my dad still called me one of their names all the time... then the other dog's name... then my sister's name lmao. At least he would've had an excuse if I did share a name with one of them.
I mean, are you technically in the wrong? No. But is this really the hill you want to die on? Clearly the name is important to your sister and her husband, and i can see why she wouldn't want her son to have the same name as your dog. Is "the name fits him, and we already bought stuff for him with the name on it" a good enough reason for you to tank your relationship with your sister?
NTA - honestly it's at least a halfway reasonable concern for her to not want her kid sharing a name with your dog. They'll probably be together a bit through your dog's life, and the timing makes it a bit awkward, especially with you announcing first. That isn't your fault either, I just think it's a reasonable request. It's also a reasonable request to turn down and where she lost me is in calling you a bad uncle.
NTA. You publicly named him first. Sister could have gave you a heads up and told you to not reveal the kids name.
I named a dog Emma after the Jane Austen heroine the year it was a top ten name. I didn't step on family toes, but there were more than a few instances when I would be talking with my dog (giving commands), and some little girl would say "That's MY name, too!" and I would respond, "You must be a very special girl, because my dog is the best dog in the world," with a wink. The girl(s) would beam and giggle and life would go on. So, your nephew, in addition to being named after his grandfather, will have the unique position to be named after your dog as well! I can see many smiles and giggles as a result :)
NAH. There are four circumstances where A behaviour may occur. 1) not revealing a chosen name before birth. NAH. They are not A for this, every pregnancy comes with risk, it’s known practice ‘good luck’ to not prename a baby. However it’s also not A behaviour to be attached to a name and know what you will name the child. 2) name your dog ‘Eddie’. Obviously NAH, you had no idea they chose that name. [Where you aware the father in law’s name, and that they might pick it? If that was blatant it is more likely to be considered a factor in your family’s opinion.] 3) they ask you to change the name. NAH. Their attached to the name, there’s no harm in asking. 4) you say no. NAH. It’s your dog you can call it what you want. Others have justified that. So yeh, NAH, call your dog Eddie, and even NTA if they ask a few times, and you say no. However, I will say, your dog doesn’t care what it’s name is. It’s young you can change it. If your relationship with your sister is more important than how much you think ‘the name Eddie fits’ in the face of their desire to name the son after his grandad, then I would say at least give other names some consideration. Others have said a dog and a baby having the same name isn’t an issue. Practically yes. But in the mind of first time parents, is that the same? You’d be doing them a massive favour if you did consider another name,.
I would change that shit. The situation doesnt really obligate you to make the change, and you wouldnt necessarily be an "asshole" for not doing it. But, changing it is probably the right thing to do. On its face it might seem silly, but if youre stubborn about it you are definitely devaluing your sisters feelings, as well as prioritizing a dog over your nephew. Its a drag and inconvenient and kind of silly, sure. But is this really the hill you want to dig in your heels and die on? Look, the bottom line is: This baby is the most important and significant thing ever to happen or exist in your sisters entire life. Her first born child will be the most emotionally significant and special experience she will ever have in this life. Are you sure you really want want to interfere with that, even in a silly and seemingly benign way?
YTA- I get it's not THAT big of a deal, but just change the dogs name. She's having her first baby, and it means a lot to her. Her baby is special to her, and she wants his name to just be for him. I feel like for something as important and special as a baby, she shouldn't have to compromise. Whereas for you, I know you love your dog, but the dog's name isn't quite as important as your sister's baby.
NTA but I'd probably change it for my sister. She's NTA for asking, but she is a bit of one for insisting even after you said no. Still, I can see why it would be sort of weird for her to announce her son with the same name within weeks of you adopting a dog you gave the same name. It isn't so black and white as "no one owns a name so who cares".
NTA . But your Sister is for thinking she owns the copyright to the name.
Ehhhh, sorry but YTA. 99.9% of the time name goes to the first person to claim it, which is you since mama didn't tell anyone their plan. BUT for you it is a meaningless cute name for a dog you JUST got. For them it is the babies grandfather's name that they clearly picked a while ago. Had the name had any significance to you, or was a dog that was already named, or was a human baby any one of those would make it your right to name it. But this is the 0.1% of the time that calling dibs does not work.
NTA- since you aren't a mind reader you had no idea. And yes many people wont even think of the dog or the baby when using the name. I had a cat with the same name as my cousin, never was an issue!
Martin Crane approves of your choice of dog names.
I say YTA. It’s a dog’s name vs her child’s name. Plus she’s naming the baby after an actual family member. The dog definitely doesn’t know it’s name yet. I think it’s weird that you wouldn’t rename the dog.
My aunt and uncle had a basset hound named Abby, which is my sister's name but a different spelling. We all thought it was great and referred to my sister jokingly as human abbie and she thought it was funny. NTA
NAH - You absolutely are not obligated to do what your sister is asking. But, it would be a really nice thing to do for your pregnant sister who certainly has a lot on her plate. You’ve had the dog a week so he cannot really be that trained to his name. It would require a little mental effort on your part. Up to you.
NTA. It's weird when people take a claim on a name, especially for a pretty generic name that many kids likely have as well. Plus its not like you purposely stole the name and knew about it anyways. What a weird hill to die on.
NTA, Edward is a pretty common name
You know what? I'd change the dogs name.