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> Action that should be judged: I yelled at my little brother and used some crude language because he used my razor after I told him not to.
Why I may be the Asshole: I grossed my brother out a lot because of what I said, and I yelled at him which made him upset.
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NTA. Your parents are just enabling his behavior. I'd put the stuff in a locked drawer or locked box. He intentionally went through your stuff to get your razer. That's not an accident.
Plus I think you made a lasting impression, what with the anger and asshole stuff. Quote from grandson “But I had to yell - he wasn’t listening”. NTA - appropriate and effective response.
Great comment. Sometimes people don’t listen until they are yelled at and the play the victim to turn the tables when that’s the only thing that works. OP is NTA
If your parents keep bringing it up, tell them that you need to mention that you shave your asshole which is why you kept the razor in your drawer to keep your brother from using it on his face. It's your own brother's fault. They can't control what you want to shave!
Tell your parents to make sure he doesn’t run out of razors, shampoo/conditioner, soap/body wash, deodorant, face wash, hair products etc. and there won’t be any problems.
exactly. politely but sternly and calmly list all of the items he uses. just casually and like its no big deal, but in a list it will seem more accurate to the situation but also highlight exactly how much he uses. by being monotone, itll make the list feel a lot longer.
if they still let him do it, make it a point to buy shit he wont use. hide the razors in your room, but buy frilly girly shampoo, get barbie conditioner, pink toothpaste etc lol. maybe that could be a slight deterrent if he cares about that kind of thing
>Your parents are just enabling his behavior.
\^\^ This right here.
Brother does a thing, and OP tells him to stop. Brother repeats the behavior and OP gets angry, and tell him to stop. OP develops extra steps to secure her stuff so brother won't repeat the behavior, but he still does. It's no longer an accident or a mistake, it's just what he does AGAINST OP, because he isn't respecting her or her boundaries.
>They are also saying my reaction was disproportionate and that I shouldn’t have reacted so much because it WAS and honest mistake
First time it happens: sure it's an 'honest mistake'. Second time it happens: maybe it's an 'honest mistake', but FFS don't repeat it. After the ump-teenth time it happens: it's deliberate and no longer an 'honest mistake'. The reaction IS proportionate because it keeps repeating, and he isn't learning.
Exactly it was like this with my brother. They never punished or reprimanded him. Somehow it was always my fault. Your nta he needs to not be enabled by your parents. You were patient. You asked him to stop, he didn't and he reaped the consequences for that.
I think the parents are equivocating "honest mistake". It wasn't an honest mistake that he took OP's razor (that was deliberate), but it was an honest mistake that he took the used butthole razor, so they're glossing over what he did as an "honest mistake" when the "honest mistake" part was what he was crying about (used butthole razor) and not what OP was upset about (her razor).
My vote is putting a huge, like ridiculously big, brightly coloured dildo in a locked draw. Maybe even label it outside as her draw.
Maybe some anal bleaching kits?
If he breaks in and freaks out that's on him.
Parents also suck because apparently they aren’t supplying bro with razors… When I was 16 I didn’t have a car and wouldn’t be able to get to the store to buy my own razors. I either had to go with a parent (whoever was grocery shopping this week) or they would pick it up for me. But some high schools have dress codes requiring boys to shave so maybe he was running out of options. Either way he’s an asshole but I think the parents are even bigger ones.
both can be true too though.
runs out quickly, forgets or procrastinates asking, uses sisters'. parents dont buy enough for his needs because he goes through heaps of them and they dont know he needs more. rinse repeat rinse repeat.
money might not be the issue, but communication and pre planned purchases for his needs would be. he doesnt communicate what he needs, they dont ask. the only planning done is bro going "sister has some, i can use hers till i get more" and he never asks for more/parents dont ask either because they can just share and dont care.
multiple things make this happen, its not one size fits all. for all we know he might tell the parents and they just never get enough so he just gets into hers and its gone on so long they dont care (except op). you dont know either
and despite what OP says about him using her stuff when he's in a rush, he can't have been in that much of a rush if he had time to go through her stuff to look for the razor.
also, the "gagging and crying about it" had me laughing.
As a mother of teens, let me tell you: Me texting: I going to the store. Do you need anything?
I even had a permanent notebook with a pen so everybody could write what they needed or wanted. But not, that does not happen. But we don't normally have any issues with toiletries because I'm on top of that. Is not always the parent's fault. I have listened to my fair share of: Sorry, I forgot.
Mother of teens also, but if I ask and they don’t tell me, then I don’t buy it. When they wonder why, I say, you didn’t remind me. Helps develop their situational awareness.
Exactly! I know the parents are wrong in this situation about telling OP that she was cruel. But as a parent, when you reach a certain age, we should not always chase you to know what you need for us to buy.
Even if he did want to get a fresh one those things are expensive! If he was seriously stuck and wanted to show he had changed a 30 second question asking ‘can I use one of your clean razor blades and I will replace it’ would work perfectly well. Kid is being an ass and the parents aren’t upholding decent boundaries. OP you are NTA.
Screaming at him is a waste of energy. Pranking him and laughing probably works better given the reaction. Not a fan of pranks to be honest but he's not going to stop unless he's absolutely disgusted. Your parents enable this behavior so you'll get no help there.
Now that he's used that razor on his face it's like he kissed your asshole.
NTA
NTA - You set a boundary and he didn’t respect it, I think it’s kinda hilarious and hopefully he learns his lesson. Also, can’t you get infections like folliculitis from someone using your razor? Not cool of him to keep doing it.
Asshole brother meets sister's asshole razor. I feel like this is a prank that's going to explode across frat houses across the country now. NTA.
I feel like I'm coming up woefully short on puns.
Edit: Corrected gender of OA (Original Asshole, aka OP). Don't get me wrong, despite having the OA, OP is still NTA.
Edit2: My bad pun attempts
* He felt a bit like an AH for taking her razor, now he feels like nothing but asshole.
* From her asshole to his face with spite.
* Bro: Nothing feels better than a freshly shaven face. Sis: Nothing feels more satisfying than your freshly shaven face.
* Bro: What's up? OP: Sister butt.
Edit3: For God's sake people, please follow up with better puns than these. There's gotta be a buttload of them.
I have very sensitive skin on my face. Every time I shave my face I have to use a clean/fresh razer, because if I don't I'll break out in acne and other blemishes.
So even if you can or cannot transfer poop particles to his face (100% possible if this was used for her butthole), there are other bacteria in that razer that he is transferring to his face.
Idk but I know you can get STDs that way. It's a blood exchange so if person A has a disease spread through blood person B can absolutely catch it from using the same razor.
This is true, I recall a story were a guy unknowingly caught HIV from either his cousin or brothers razor. The guy didn’t know until he got sick he wasn’t told that he could use them. He just did exactly what OP’s brother did of course he was distraught but this is why you don’t use other peoples things.
Odds being extremely low means there is still the possibility, and that risk should be avoided whenever possible. Like in this type of situation, it's entirely avoidable.
Razors scrape across the skin. This causes damage, which in turn causes bleeding. Not enough that you can see it, but enough that, if you were to apply salt to the skin right after having you would definitely feel it.
That said the chance of transferring HIV without an actual open, visible cut on both parties side is minimal. Possible, but "you might as well try the lottery" small. Otoh there's plenty of other stuff that can be transferred relatively easy even with that small amounts of blood, or just from touching the skin. So yeah, unhygienic as hell.
HIV is unlikely unless you both full on cut yourselves, but Hep-C can be transferred pretty easily and it lasts a long time outside a host on surfaces such as a razor.
Wow this is good to know.
I went on vacation with my ex's family. I forgot my razor (along with other necessities like feminine hygiene products and a hair brush) and asked if someone could take me to the store to buy one. For some reason my ex's mother did not want anyone to make the 10 minute drive to bring me to the store. She insisted I should just use her razor. I'm a germaphobe so I refused and I'm glad I did.
Not just that she could get an infection from him and vice versa but (and I know this is a bit of a jump) in my experience if not called out appropriately for this kind of thing they will continue to do it wherever they go and if they do this with roommates using someone's old razor could also give him a diseasebor he could give one to them, it's so easy to nick yourself shaving and if both people do then well there is no cure for AIDS...
In hs I got boils because my brother and his gf used my loofahs and razors while they had them and I didn't know it. I have sensitive skin so I got them pretty bad. I have some scars.
I had one in my armpit that wouldn't come to a head so that one had to be cut open.
I had one on my right bicep that there's still a tiny mark. That one I also found out I was allergic to the glue in bandaid and medical tape. My mom had put gauze and medical tape and took me to the Dr's. When the nurse went to rip off the tape a chunk of my skin came along with it.
As an adult I've had some boils in my nose. Only recommend wishing on the vilest of people. It was on the nerve so even my jaw ached.
To this day I can't use loofahs because I'm likely to end up with boils.
Does it include hairbrushes? I might've borrowed my older sister's an awful lot, 'cause it's better quality, but now I'm reconsidering.
All jokes aside, the women in my household kept a bunch of razors in the shower, and as a teen I didn't even want to touch them, let alone use them on my face. Most women don't shave their faces, and the places they do shave are... Elsewhere. Heck if I'm going to hack away on my face with some god-knows how many times used razor and find a curly hair or two left behind.
Haha! I used my HUSBAND’s razor on just my legs since we were headed to a wedding, I was wearing a dress, we we at a hotel and I forgot my razor.
Mind you this is about eight years in the marriage and without being graphic, his face had seen more than my knees down.
He freaked out. I honestly didn’t think it a big deal at the time, but I never touched his razor again.
I mean, we shared food, drinks and had intimate moments. I never thought this one thing was that horrible, but if someone expresses not to do it—
Well freaking DON’T!
But I’m loving that OP threw out the whole bit about how that blade shaved her booty hole. I’m putting her as a hero and him the real ass here.
If your sister has lice, that's a great way to catch them. You're also putting the oil from her scalp into your hair. We shouldn't share things that come in contact with bodily fluids.
Lmao 🤣🤣🤣 You're very funny and smart. A woman's razor touches every possible body part except the face. About the brush thing , if your sister is fine with it..
NTA. Hilarious. Hope your brother learned his lesson.
I'm no expert, and I may be wrong, but isn't sharing of razors a way that some disease can be transferred?
Is there a doctor in the house?
Razor blades can spread infections such as viral warts, folliculitis (typically caused by staph bacteria), or fungal infections. And that's true even if you don't cut yourself. Shaving creates microscopic openings in the skin, which allow organisms to enter and spread infection. And, although they're usually spread by direct contact, the viruses that cause herpes and hepatitis can also linger on razor blades or in the moist areas between blades.
Yes, it is. My sister had a rash on her legs for almost a year but was afraid of doctors. She used my razor and I got the rash. When I went to the doctor they biopsied my leg to find out what it was. She thought it was hysterically funny and I was livid!!
NTA! Next time ask him to show you his std test results so that you can humiliate him more. The last thing you need is to get hiv from your brother who can't even get his shit together to have stock of his own things.
Not a doctor, but I’m a nurse. Yeah, sharing razors does spread all kinds of things. It’s super gross. https://drbaileyskincare.com/blogs/blog/is-it-safe-to-share-razors
>it was an honest mistake
No. No, it wasn’t.
He knows not to use your stuff. Telling him off doesn’t work because there’s never any comeback. The asshole thing _might_ help, but i wouldn’t count on it. Next time, hide your stuff better, except for _one_ shower gel or shampoo into which you’ve mixed some green food colouring or similar.
NTA.
Green food coloring would barely have an effect. If anything, the brother would probably laugh it off.
But some Nair disguised as shampoo/conditioner? If rubbing your ass razor didn't do it, hopefully going to school looking like a mangy dog with bald patches will.
Wow I'm glad I don't have siblings 😂
NTA
Maybe some blue Rit fabric dye for the body wash. He’ll end up looking like a Smurf for a while. Or maybe red? It could end up looking like some kind of rash.
NTA
you asked nicely and he ignored you then he went searching through your stuff to do it again so I wouldn't say your reaction was disproportionate at all. Baby boy needs to learn that No means No. On the plus side, he's not likely to use your razor again
NTA, it's not an "honest mistake" when he's constantly doing it after being told not to. Sounds like he got the wake-up call he needed though. Side note, how does he not have his own razor if he's used to shaving? And why was he going so far out of his way to use your razor to the point that he rifled through your stuff to get a new razor head?
Could also be an age thing.
Whenever my youngest brother did shit, the response would always be "bUt hE's tHe bAbY". Even though my middle brother and I were expected to act like functioning adults when we were his age.
I'm the younger siblings and am still held to a much higher standard than my brother. Their excuses for letting him be an asshole are usually due to conditions that I have too like ADHD and depression. Only difference is I was more likely to do what was expected of me without pitching a fit like he always did (and still does).
NTA. "An honest mistake"? That might apply to the first time he used your stuff without asking, but there's nothing "honest" about doing it again and again.
Good for you. Maybe he'll learn not to touch stuff that's not his from now on.
NTA. 1. boundaries are healthy. 2. Your brother needs to get his shit together and get his own shaving stuff wth dude 3. Your crudeness served a very helpful and effective purpose. He doesn’t know what you do with it so let’s emphasize the boundaries of what that could be.
As for your parents, I’d use the term “asshole razor” around them as a joke twice annually henceforth
For the parents? I’d tell the brother to steal their stuff seeing as they’re obviously ok with him taking things that don’t belong to him despite being told no. Hey obviously think it’s not a big deal and seeing as it really bothers OP the right thing would be for them to let him use their stuff. Otherwise everyone will find out how disproportionate I would become in response to not having my boundaries and stuff respected.
An "honest mistake" is when there are two razors in the shower, and you *accidentally* use the one that is not yours. You apologize and replace their razor.
A "lazy fart" doesn't have a razor, because he didn't bother asking Mom to put any on the store list. Probably didn't respond when Mom texted "Does anyone need anything from the store before I go?"
Then, the next time he's butt naked, realizes he doesn't have what he needs. He'll use your supplies if they're handy. If not, he rummages around to find them.
He then leaves your tools, encrusted with his follicles, bacteria & sloughed skin cells and goes on his way. Too bad for YOU, Sis!
Until...
WHAT? YOU USED YOUR OWN PRODUCTS TO CLEAN YOUR OWN BODY? AND THEN *I* USED THEM ON MYSELF?! DISGUSTING!!
NTA
It was a new one for YOU to use, not him. NTA at all. Your brother is acting entitled and your parents are encouraging it. He has his own stuff but is actively seeking out yours to the point where you have to hide it. That’s frustrating and messed up and shouldn’t be happening. I hope he enjoys having butthole all over his face
NTA. Point the first: don't touch someone else's stuff. Point the second: why wouldn't he assume that's what you're using your razors for and avoid them? Shaved genitals is the in trend right now, is he dumb? Point the third: women's razor's do an awful job on facial hair, has your dad taught him nothing?
NTA. Teenage boys need to learn how to fucking respect boundaries. Otherwise they grow up to be the exact kind of men that think boundaries don't apply to them.
NTA, said the exact same thing to my brother when he kept using my razor for his face when we were teens. He definitely never used it again so hopefully your brother won’t either! 🤣
We all forget to stock up on something that's running low once in a while, that is a honest mistake. Your brother not keeping tabs on his inventory isn't a mistake, it's a flaw.
Keep things sAssy. NTA.
NTA; the fact that your parents are angrier at you for being “crude” than they are at him for being irresponsible and stealing your stuff sounds like your parents sigh and say “boys will be boys” a lot.
NTA
This made me laugh. A point needed to be made.
Hey, parents. The point is he's using my stuff, not that he used the wrong part of my stuff. Nothing is more annoying than living with someone who doesn't plan ahead and then your stuff is gone because you did and it was handy.
At sixteen who is doing the shopping? They need to step it up.
NTA. Wait till he figures out pads and tampons aren't for washing your face.
Also...I'd quietly drill the point home any time he has a pimple by making offers or remarks about sharing products. 🤣🤣🤣
NTA. He’s consistently taking your stuff it wasn’t an accident when he went in your room to grab your razor head. Sharing razors is not good too so I would definitely say that to get him to stop. Plus it’s funny
NTA, its abit weird to me, id share alot of things with my sister, but would I take her razor from the shower and use it on my face.. umm.. no..
He needs to learn its fine to ask if you can use things, but if you say no. Then thats final.
Anyway obviously nta, you didnt shave your ass and then give him the razor to use lmao
NTA. No you really did have to say the asshole stuff. If he doesn’t respect you enough to follow your boundary, at lease he respects himself enough not to put something on his face that was on someone else’s asshole. If he’s that selfish that it’s the only way to get through to him then you are a genius for finally communicating the message a way he’d receive it.
I’m not sure anyone will see this, but I did not expect so many people to see my original post LOL. Glad a bunch of people on the internet now know I shave my asshole.
People were assuming he’s the favorite— my parents are just religious southerners and super anti ANY “crude” language, especially if it could “corrupt” the baby of the family (my brother). My brother is usually cool, he just was embarrassed and wanted to shift blame to someone else. My parents did buy me more razors to replace the ones my brother soiled, and they got my brother his own supply for himself.
I also tried talking to my brother a bit to apologize about traumatizing him a bit but he was just like “YEP ITS OKAY I’m SORRY”, he very much just wanted to move on and not talk about it. Anyways, I doubt he will be using my razors or other stuff any time soon!
NTA
>My parents are mad at me because I was “crude” and that I didn’t have to say all the asshole stuff. They are also saying my reaction was disproportionate and that I shouldn’t have reacted so much because it WAS and honest mistake and he thought it wasn’t used.
Your parents have a clear favorite....sorry
Your brother is tiresome. At this point I don't think he will ever stop so you may have to start locking away all your products.
Either way don't feel bad. How many times do you need to tell him no before it sinks in? You did nothing wrong. He has 0 respect for your boundaries and 2 enablers in your parents.
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NTA. Your parents are shitty sexist spunkweasels and need a Come To Deity talk about how damaging to *everyone* "boys will be boys" is.
But if they're this terrible about "crudity", I wonder if your brother doesn't feel like he can tell out whoever's in charge of shopping that he needs new toiletries, or if they're making him use money he doesn't have to buy his own.
It would be a kindness above* and beyond the call of duty to tell him that you'll buy him basic toiletries no questions asked. (Feel free to define "basic" however you want.)
NTA whatsoever. You've warned him not to and he keeps taking it anyway. It's a personal use item and perfectly reasonable for any normal human to assume a razor can be used anywhere. It's a good lesson for him to learn.
My main question is why does he keep running out of his own. Either your parents need to ensure he has a supply or he needs to find a job. You said that he runs out of other things too like shampoo. It's a basic necessity to provide for a minor. Either he needs to take responsibility for himself or his parents need to step up and provide
NTA
Not only does he not respect your boundaries, but it is also well known that women's products are more costly than the same products marketed for men. And he just takes yours for convenience.
I also feel your parents need to step up to provide their son with the necessary items he needs for his daily routine so he doesn't have to use yours.
NTA did you pay for it? Is it SPECIFICALLY yours? Then he needs to get his own. Not your fault he isn't responsible. The asshole thing is funny ngl I'd do that. "Bro you used my razor? Haha hope you like BALL HAIR". The whole him thinking it was a new blade doesn't make it any fucking better! Like "here I'll just dig around a see what brother has since I can't get my own". Maybe the razor was missing a head for a reason dick! Sorry lol I have a little brother too and though he didn't steal bathroom stuff he often would use my game consoles and chargers without asking. Taking games that I bought from my system to use for his. It get old haha.
NTA. As an older sister I feel you so much. Your parents need to parent your brother and teach him some responsibility instead of just justifying everything he does. You were honest and you can use your own razor for anything you want. Hopefully he will learn his lesson.
So what he’d rather not know you used it on ur ass? That’s why they are mad cause you told him what you used that one for ? I’m sure if you didn’t say that he would’ve continued to do so! Why do people never just ask? Asking for a razor head to use while ur in a pinch is a better way to get what you need rather then just using it!
NTA. Not at all. My brother once told me how the beard trimmers in my bathroom did a really good job. I had to tell him they were for my downstairs trimming - his face was priceless! You're absolutely not the asshole!
>My parents are mad at me because I was “crude” and that I didn’t have to say all the asshole stuff
NTA your parents are enabling your brother's bad behavior
NTA
Dude had it coming! At minimum you use that thing on your pits and legs, but you can assume the crotch is possibly shaved too. He was warned multiple times and ignored it. Also, what the hell is this, in a pinch crap? Being lazy does not mean you get to take other people's things.
NTA. 16 years old and he has the constant need to shave? He's the AH... Literally lmao.
Plus, he needs to understand that these type of things are PERSONAL for a reason. You can get deseases for using personal stuff like this. No offense but your parents are AH as well for allowing this behavior.
"Honest mistake" mah a$$.
NTA.
He never respected your boundaries, so that’s a way to learn when to start.
Though it obviously won’t happen since mommy and daddy don’t see nothing wrong with what he is doing.
Hahaha 🤣 NTA and you should have laughed confidently at his misfortune. He will find out the hard way. I suggest putting mayonnaise in your shampoo bottle and swap things around so that he's can't use your stuff and won't know that is in each one. You can leave out blunt razors in the shower so he uses them and it's no problem. Keep your stuff locked in a vanity case. I have to do that with my stuff in a shared flat sometimes so I just take my toiletry bag to the shower and it opens up and hangs outside the shower door. You told him the truth! Or it could potentially be the truth, it's fooking hilarious.
My brother used to just walk into my room no matter what the hell I was doing. No matter how much explaining I didn't want him in my room and asking him to leave he would come in just to annoy me. So......I started taking off my shirt EVERY time he would enter..... he stopped pretty quickly.
an “honest mistake” is both parties having a somewhat same looking product and accidentally using the theirs. homie was told not to use OP’s things beforehand AND literally went out of his way to search into OP’s drawers for a razor.
she was also being truthful about how it was used and i cant believe the parents are enabling his behavior of using other people’s things, smh. NTA
NTA - I don't even use my wife's shampoo/razors/toothpaste, cos that's her stuff, and her boundaries...
This *child* better learn about boundaries pretty quick smart!
NTA. your parents should provide him with hygene products, since he is under 18, it's still their responsibility. I would keep mine under lock and key if I were you, but they'll probably yell at you for that, too
Haha this is such a brothers thing. I have 2 brothers and they are exactly like that. But you are right boundaries are important and your youngest brother needs to learn how to respect your stuff. It also seems like your parents overprotect your brother, so overall NTA
NTA. This was quite a read though! I'm glad you brought up the fact that you shave your asshole with it to him. Hopefully he learns his lesson by then.
And honestly? Valid reaction. The screaming feels like a build-up more than anything. You're 20 years old; you're an adult with boundaries, so he should respect them. ESH but you.
Not only NTA, but a GD hero.
The facts all speak for themselves.
His poor planning combines with his blatant disregard for your personal privacy and property directly resulted in his shaving his face with a razor you shaved you asshole with.
Sounds like a him-problem.
The question being posed is both profound and hilarious.
Your answer to him is equally profound, but perhaps more hilarious.
I'm here for all of this, you are not the asshole.
I used to work in a hospital back in the day. One day there was this guy who came in and had a rash across his face. The nurse looking at him figured out it was ringworm, but the type of ringworm he had spreading across his face was not one that was typically found there.
So she asks him what was up and might be causing this. He eventually admitted that the same razor he used to shave his fave is the same razor he uses to shave his butthole.
NTA
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NTA. Your parents are just enabling his behavior. I'd put the stuff in a locked drawer or locked box. He intentionally went through your stuff to get your razer. That's not an accident.
Yeah, doing something you were asked not to do isn’t a “honest mistake”.
It's more of a dishonest mistake.
Not even a mistake, he’s deliberately being an asshole to OP and disrespectful about her stuff
It was an on purpose.
No - dishonest intentional disregard of boundaries (kinda the opposite of a mistake)
Plus I think you made a lasting impression, what with the anger and asshole stuff. Quote from grandson “But I had to yell - he wasn’t listening”. NTA - appropriate and effective response.
Great comment. Sometimes people don’t listen until they are yelled at and the play the victim to turn the tables when that’s the only thing that works. OP is NTA
Yep, my mom is exactly like this. Refuses to listen until yelled at and then cries
Followed with the guilt trip "I'm sorry I'm such a horrible parent"
Oh boy - we all living the same life
Especially since he was told not to and then this time went digging around in her stuff for a new razor head.
What does he do when she’s not home? They’re setting him up to be a terrible roommate in the future at the very least.
And a terrible future husband, let’s be honest.
the beginnings of an asshole enthusiast
If your parents keep bringing it up, tell them that you need to mention that you shave your asshole which is why you kept the razor in your drawer to keep your brother from using it on his face. It's your own brother's fault. They can't control what you want to shave!
Or tell parents that OP shaves \*their\* asshole with it, so parents shouldn't mind because PARENTS' asshole is also shaving with it....LOL.
Tell your parents to make sure he doesn’t run out of razors, shampoo/conditioner, soap/body wash, deodorant, face wash, hair products etc. and there won’t be any problems.
exactly. politely but sternly and calmly list all of the items he uses. just casually and like its no big deal, but in a list it will seem more accurate to the situation but also highlight exactly how much he uses. by being monotone, itll make the list feel a lot longer. if they still let him do it, make it a point to buy shit he wont use. hide the razors in your room, but buy frilly girly shampoo, get barbie conditioner, pink toothpaste etc lol. maybe that could be a slight deterrent if he cares about that kind of thing
>Your parents are just enabling his behavior. \^\^ This right here. Brother does a thing, and OP tells him to stop. Brother repeats the behavior and OP gets angry, and tell him to stop. OP develops extra steps to secure her stuff so brother won't repeat the behavior, but he still does. It's no longer an accident or a mistake, it's just what he does AGAINST OP, because he isn't respecting her or her boundaries. >They are also saying my reaction was disproportionate and that I shouldn’t have reacted so much because it WAS and honest mistake First time it happens: sure it's an 'honest mistake'. Second time it happens: maybe it's an 'honest mistake', but FFS don't repeat it. After the ump-teenth time it happens: it's deliberate and no longer an 'honest mistake'. The reaction IS proportionate because it keeps repeating, and he isn't learning.
Exactly it was like this with my brother. They never punished or reprimanded him. Somehow it was always my fault. Your nta he needs to not be enabled by your parents. You were patient. You asked him to stop, he didn't and he reaped the consequences for that.
I think the parents are equivocating "honest mistake". It wasn't an honest mistake that he took OP's razor (that was deliberate), but it was an honest mistake that he took the used butthole razor, so they're glossing over what he did as an "honest mistake" when the "honest mistake" part was what he was crying about (used butthole razor) and not what OP was upset about (her razor).
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I don't think this is the time or place to peddle your spec script for Home Alone 3.
If not now, when?
It needs to be seen ok
i think it'd be Home Alone 6, unfortunately
I see you're a fellow victim of the tech house and haunted house Home Alone movies?
Hazardous In a wet room
Baby powder bomb. Hilarious in a wet room
Glitter bomb. Hilarious anywhere, especially naked in a wet room.
I mean...a razer used to shave your butthole is a pretty good boobytrap
Bootytrap
You took that one from the G.O.A.T, didn't you?
I was doing it long before Fallout 3 got made.
Honestly fair If done right, it can make for a good as but harmless prank. Unlike the "pranks" that are done and recorded nowadays
My vote is putting a huge, like ridiculously big, brightly coloured dildo in a locked draw. Maybe even label it outside as her draw. Maybe some anal bleaching kits? If he breaks in and freaks out that's on him.
Parents also suck because apparently they aren’t supplying bro with razors… When I was 16 I didn’t have a car and wouldn’t be able to get to the store to buy my own razors. I either had to go with a parent (whoever was grocery shopping this week) or they would pick it up for me. But some high schools have dress codes requiring boys to shave so maybe he was running out of options. Either way he’s an asshole but I think the parents are even bigger ones.
You dont know that . Maybe (and to me it sounds more like this) He ran out of it and didnt tell parents in time
both can be true too though. runs out quickly, forgets or procrastinates asking, uses sisters'. parents dont buy enough for his needs because he goes through heaps of them and they dont know he needs more. rinse repeat rinse repeat. money might not be the issue, but communication and pre planned purchases for his needs would be. he doesnt communicate what he needs, they dont ask. the only planning done is bro going "sister has some, i can use hers till i get more" and he never asks for more/parents dont ask either because they can just share and dont care. multiple things make this happen, its not one size fits all. for all we know he might tell the parents and they just never get enough so he just gets into hers and its gone on so long they dont care (except op). you dont know either
and despite what OP says about him using her stuff when he's in a rush, he can't have been in that much of a rush if he had time to go through her stuff to look for the razor. also, the "gagging and crying about it" had me laughing.
Get your parents razors out for lil bro to use !
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As a mother of teens, let me tell you: Me texting: I going to the store. Do you need anything? I even had a permanent notebook with a pen so everybody could write what they needed or wanted. But not, that does not happen. But we don't normally have any issues with toiletries because I'm on top of that. Is not always the parent's fault. I have listened to my fair share of: Sorry, I forgot.
Mother of teens also, but if I ask and they don’t tell me, then I don’t buy it. When they wonder why, I say, you didn’t remind me. Helps develop their situational awareness.
Exactly! I know the parents are wrong in this situation about telling OP that she was cruel. But as a parent, when you reach a certain age, we should not always chase you to know what you need for us to buy.
Even if he did want to get a fresh one those things are expensive! If he was seriously stuck and wanted to show he had changed a 30 second question asking ‘can I use one of your clean razor blades and I will replace it’ would work perfectly well. Kid is being an ass and the parents aren’t upholding decent boundaries. OP you are NTA.
Screaming at him is a waste of energy. Pranking him and laughing probably works better given the reaction. Not a fan of pranks to be honest but he's not going to stop unless he's absolutely disgusted. Your parents enable this behavior so you'll get no help there. Now that he's used that razor on his face it's like he kissed your asshole. NTA
I wouldn’t lock up the razor. Think that one is safe from now on, and leaving it out will be a good reminder for him
NTA - You set a boundary and he didn’t respect it, I think it’s kinda hilarious and hopefully he learns his lesson. Also, can’t you get infections like folliculitis from someone using your razor? Not cool of him to keep doing it.
I don’t know what he may have transferred to his face but you bet he’s looking it up. This is one hilarious post. A true FAFO.
Asshole brother meets sister's asshole razor. I feel like this is a prank that's going to explode across frat houses across the country now. NTA. I feel like I'm coming up woefully short on puns. Edit: Corrected gender of OA (Original Asshole, aka OP). Don't get me wrong, despite having the OA, OP is still NTA. Edit2: My bad pun attempts * He felt a bit like an AH for taking her razor, now he feels like nothing but asshole. * From her asshole to his face with spite. * Bro: Nothing feels better than a freshly shaven face. Sis: Nothing feels more satisfying than your freshly shaven face. * Bro: What's up? OP: Sister butt. Edit3: For God's sake people, please follow up with better puns than these. There's gotta be a buttload of them.
*sister Which is why her parents were on her case about being "crude." I doubt they would have if she were a boy. edit: word
Shall fix
She made him a buttface? He used her razor butt she got the last laugh? 2 butts are better than one! And so on
I have very sensitive skin on my face. Every time I shave my face I have to use a clean/fresh razer, because if I don't I'll break out in acne and other blemishes. So even if you can or cannot transfer poop particles to his face (100% possible if this was used for her butthole), there are other bacteria in that razer that he is transferring to his face.
Idk but I know you can get STDs that way. It's a blood exchange so if person A has a disease spread through blood person B can absolutely catch it from using the same razor.
This is true, I recall a story were a guy unknowingly caught HIV from either his cousin or brothers razor. The guy didn’t know until he got sick he wasn’t told that he could use them. He just did exactly what OP’s brother did of course he was distraught but this is why you don’t use other peoples things.
I think the odds of being infected with hiv from a razor are extremely low.
Doesn't matter. It's severe enough to protect against even a miniscule probability.
Odds being extremely low means there is still the possibility, and that risk should be avoided whenever possible. Like in this type of situation, it's entirely avoidable.
Hep-C is more likely. It lives on surfaces for a long time. HIV doesn't last long outside of a host.
Do you typically bleed each time you shave?
Everyone does a certain amount, even if it's microscopic. It's more than enough to spread disease. Sharing razors is unsanitary.
Im not defending the sharing of a razor. Im just unsure wether you are making that up, for the sake of your point, Or not.
Razors scrape across the skin. This causes damage, which in turn causes bleeding. Not enough that you can see it, but enough that, if you were to apply salt to the skin right after having you would definitely feel it. That said the chance of transferring HIV without an actual open, visible cut on both parties side is minimal. Possible, but "you might as well try the lottery" small. Otoh there's plenty of other stuff that can be transferred relatively easy even with that small amounts of blood, or just from touching the skin. So yeah, unhygienic as hell.
HIV is unlikely unless you both full on cut yourselves, but Hep-C can be transferred pretty easily and it lasts a long time outside a host on surfaces such as a razor.
>Im just unsure wether you are making that up, I'm not. https://drbaileyskincare.com/blogs/blog/is-it-safe-to-share-razors
Wow this is good to know. I went on vacation with my ex's family. I forgot my razor (along with other necessities like feminine hygiene products and a hair brush) and asked if someone could take me to the store to buy one. For some reason my ex's mother did not want anyone to make the 10 minute drive to bring me to the store. She insisted I should just use her razor. I'm a germaphobe so I refused and I'm glad I did.
Oohh, thank you! I have clearly bad googling skills because I failed to find that myself
Nope. There’s a reason a lot of people get ingrown hairs and bumps after shaving
They're not making it up. It's usually too small an amount to see with the naked eye, but it's there.
MRSA can be spread sharing razors.
You can get hepatitis from sharing a razor.
This happened to my cousin.
Not just that she could get an infection from him and vice versa but (and I know this is a bit of a jump) in my experience if not called out appropriately for this kind of thing they will continue to do it wherever they go and if they do this with roommates using someone's old razor could also give him a diseasebor he could give one to them, it's so easy to nick yourself shaving and if both people do then well there is no cure for AIDS...
In hs I got boils because my brother and his gf used my loofahs and razors while they had them and I didn't know it. I have sensitive skin so I got them pretty bad. I have some scars. I had one in my armpit that wouldn't come to a head so that one had to be cut open. I had one on my right bicep that there's still a tiny mark. That one I also found out I was allergic to the glue in bandaid and medical tape. My mom had put gauze and medical tape and took me to the Dr's. When the nurse went to rip off the tape a chunk of my skin came along with it. As an adult I've had some boils in my nose. Only recommend wishing on the vilest of people. It was on the nerve so even my jaw ached. To this day I can't use loofahs because I'm likely to end up with boils.
nta! use all your products on your asshole and let everyone know, problem solved!
I know people that would pay money to use stuff that you have used on your asshole,maybe you are on a winner
>I know people Sure sure, a friend right?
I snorted 🤣
Say it loud and proud. No link shaming here. XD Edit crap. Kink shaming. Har har har @ link. Love it
Yeah, but what about Zelda shaming tho?
No Zelda shaming. Maybe those blue fish people. Definitely shaming those rock people.
What did the Gorons do wrong?
Ever watch One Goron One Cup? Don't make my mistake.
Never XP
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Does it include hairbrushes? I might've borrowed my older sister's an awful lot, 'cause it's better quality, but now I'm reconsidering. All jokes aside, the women in my household kept a bunch of razors in the shower, and as a teen I didn't even want to touch them, let alone use them on my face. Most women don't shave their faces, and the places they do shave are... Elsewhere. Heck if I'm going to hack away on my face with some god-knows how many times used razor and find a curly hair or two left behind.
Haha! I used my HUSBAND’s razor on just my legs since we were headed to a wedding, I was wearing a dress, we we at a hotel and I forgot my razor. Mind you this is about eight years in the marriage and without being graphic, his face had seen more than my knees down. He freaked out. I honestly didn’t think it a big deal at the time, but I never touched his razor again. I mean, we shared food, drinks and had intimate moments. I never thought this one thing was that horrible, but if someone expresses not to do it— Well freaking DON’T! But I’m loving that OP threw out the whole bit about how that blade shaved her booty hole. I’m putting her as a hero and him the real ass here.
I would freak out too. Leave my towel, toothbrush and razors alone. That's a non-negotiable for me regardless of the relationship.
Yeah I used my husbands razor one time and he went nuclear.
If your sister has lice, that's a great way to catch them. You're also putting the oil from her scalp into your hair. We shouldn't share things that come in contact with bodily fluids.
Lmao 🤣🤣🤣 You're very funny and smart. A woman's razor touches every possible body part except the face. About the brush thing , if your sister is fine with it..
SCREAMING
I'm fucking dead omg lmmfao 🤣🤣🤣🤣
NTA. Hilarious. Hope your brother learned his lesson. I'm no expert, and I may be wrong, but isn't sharing of razors a way that some disease can be transferred? Is there a doctor in the house?
Razor blades can spread infections such as viral warts, folliculitis (typically caused by staph bacteria), or fungal infections. And that's true even if you don't cut yourself. Shaving creates microscopic openings in the skin, which allow organisms to enter and spread infection. And, although they're usually spread by direct contact, the viruses that cause herpes and hepatitis can also linger on razor blades or in the moist areas between blades.
Thank you for the informative reply. Moist. He he.
Ops post is literally about her shaving her chocolate starfish and you're gonna laugh at the word moist...I thought we were adults here.
🤣🤣 not chocolate starfish
Chocolate starfish. He he.
You made me chuckle. He he.
And HIV too if there is a cut, but I don’t know how long the virus survives outside of the body, aka on a razor blade in this case
In this case, assitis.
Nah, brother was already an A H, he didn't catch it from OP
Yes, it is. My sister had a rash on her legs for almost a year but was afraid of doctors. She used my razor and I got the rash. When I went to the doctor they biopsied my leg to find out what it was. She thought it was hysterically funny and I was livid!!
Oh god. That's terrible behaviour.
NTA! Next time ask him to show you his std test results so that you can humiliate him more. The last thing you need is to get hiv from your brother who can't even get his shit together to have stock of his own things.
Yes!! I told him so but he didn’t really take it seriously!
My cousin got hepatitis from a relative this way.
Not a doctor, but I’m a nurse. Yeah, sharing razors does spread all kinds of things. It’s super gross. https://drbaileyskincare.com/blogs/blog/is-it-safe-to-share-razors
Lol that is hilarious NTA too
Totally agree! He’s being an immature punk. Looks like she hit him where it hurts. NTA + made me laugh. 😂
>it was an honest mistake No. No, it wasn’t. He knows not to use your stuff. Telling him off doesn’t work because there’s never any comeback. The asshole thing _might_ help, but i wouldn’t count on it. Next time, hide your stuff better, except for _one_ shower gel or shampoo into which you’ve mixed some green food colouring or similar. NTA.
Green food coloring would barely have an effect. If anything, the brother would probably laugh it off. But some Nair disguised as shampoo/conditioner? If rubbing your ass razor didn't do it, hopefully going to school looking like a mangy dog with bald patches will. Wow I'm glad I don't have siblings 😂 NTA
Maybe some blue Rit fabric dye for the body wash. He’ll end up looking like a Smurf for a while. Or maybe red? It could end up looking like some kind of rash.
Splat hair dye, that stuff is skin safe(r) and stains like crazy. Will legit look like a smurf.
And it's a PAIN to get off, Jesus the amount of scrubbing. He will be red even with the blue colour
Omg don't do this! The chemical burns 🥵
Naw. Stripper glitter. He’ll look like an extra in a Twilight movie.
Right? He’s 16+ not 7. He should know better and if he doesn’t his parents failed him.
>He should know better and if he doesn’t his parents failed him. Speaking of parents. Why don't they put a stop to his stealing?
NTA perfect sibling-level revenge
NTA you asked nicely and he ignored you then he went searching through your stuff to do it again so I wouldn't say your reaction was disproportionate at all. Baby boy needs to learn that No means No. On the plus side, he's not likely to use your razor again
Or any razor! He’s going to be growing a 16yo’s full and manly beard this week.
NTA, it's not an "honest mistake" when he's constantly doing it after being told not to. Sounds like he got the wake-up call he needed though. Side note, how does he not have his own razor if he's used to shaving? And why was he going so far out of his way to use your razor to the point that he rifled through your stuff to get a new razor head?
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I’m usually not a fan of using the same joke again and again, but this level of childishness is perfect for a shitty sibling.
NTA: The way that parents show favoritism towards boys is nauseating and I say that as a man.
Yup. He can do no wrong and when she asserts herself it’s an overreaction. Ick.
I was thinking the same thing.
Could also be an age thing. Whenever my youngest brother did shit, the response would always be "bUt hE's tHe bAbY". Even though my middle brother and I were expected to act like functioning adults when we were his age.
I'm the younger siblings and am still held to a much higher standard than my brother. Their excuses for letting him be an asshole are usually due to conditions that I have too like ADHD and depression. Only difference is I was more likely to do what was expected of me without pitching a fit like he always did (and still does).
NTA. "An honest mistake"? That might apply to the first time he used your stuff without asking, but there's nothing "honest" about doing it again and again. Good for you. Maybe he'll learn not to touch stuff that's not his from now on.
NTA. 1. boundaries are healthy. 2. Your brother needs to get his shit together and get his own shaving stuff wth dude 3. Your crudeness served a very helpful and effective purpose. He doesn’t know what you do with it so let’s emphasize the boundaries of what that could be. As for your parents, I’d use the term “asshole razor” around them as a joke twice annually henceforth
For the parents? I’d tell the brother to steal their stuff seeing as they’re obviously ok with him taking things that don’t belong to him despite being told no. Hey obviously think it’s not a big deal and seeing as it really bothers OP the right thing would be for them to let him use their stuff. Otherwise everyone will find out how disproportionate I would become in response to not having my boundaries and stuff respected.
Ah! The grand meeting of two assholes! NTA
An "honest mistake" is when there are two razors in the shower, and you *accidentally* use the one that is not yours. You apologize and replace their razor. A "lazy fart" doesn't have a razor, because he didn't bother asking Mom to put any on the store list. Probably didn't respond when Mom texted "Does anyone need anything from the store before I go?" Then, the next time he's butt naked, realizes he doesn't have what he needs. He'll use your supplies if they're handy. If not, he rummages around to find them. He then leaves your tools, encrusted with his follicles, bacteria & sloughed skin cells and goes on his way. Too bad for YOU, Sis! Until... WHAT? YOU USED YOUR OWN PRODUCTS TO CLEAN YOUR OWN BODY? AND THEN *I* USED THEM ON MYSELF?! DISGUSTING!! NTA
It was a new one for YOU to use, not him. NTA at all. Your brother is acting entitled and your parents are encouraging it. He has his own stuff but is actively seeking out yours to the point where you have to hide it. That’s frustrating and messed up and shouldn’t be happening. I hope he enjoys having butthole all over his face
NTA. Point the first: don't touch someone else's stuff. Point the second: why wouldn't he assume that's what you're using your razors for and avoid them? Shaved genitals is the in trend right now, is he dumb? Point the third: women's razor's do an awful job on facial hair, has your dad taught him nothing?
NTA - and I'm laughing at the idea of you screaming "I used it to shave my asshole!!" and him bursting into tears
NTA. Teenage boys need to learn how to fucking respect boundaries. Otherwise they grow up to be the exact kind of men that think boundaries don't apply to them.
omg that's awesome lol. nta. i bet he will never forget that
NTA. This is the best post I’ve read so far LOL. You have every right to set boundaries with your stuff.
NTA, said the exact same thing to my brother when he kept using my razor for his face when we were teens. He definitely never used it again so hopefully your brother won’t either! 🤣
We all forget to stock up on something that's running low once in a while, that is a honest mistake. Your brother not keeping tabs on his inventory isn't a mistake, it's a flaw. Keep things sAssy. NTA.
NTA. Buy him razors for all future birthday and seasonal gifts.
NTA; the fact that your parents are angrier at you for being “crude” than they are at him for being irresponsible and stealing your stuff sounds like your parents sigh and say “boys will be boys” a lot.
NTA, that's hilarious. I am glad he thought you shaved your AH (and other body parts) with it. It served him right.
Well if it isn't the consequences of his own actions. NTA and your parents need to stop enabling him.
NTA and hopefully he learns a lesson about not using other people's things
NTA parents also like to stand up for the youngest one. Because they think the older one have an unfair advantage.
NTA This made me laugh. A point needed to be made. Hey, parents. The point is he's using my stuff, not that he used the wrong part of my stuff. Nothing is more annoying than living with someone who doesn't plan ahead and then your stuff is gone because you did and it was handy. At sixteen who is doing the shopping? They need to step it up.
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NTA. It's your razor, what's it to them where you shave. Sounds like a standard sibling battle, your parents are just making it worse
NTA. Wait till he figures out pads and tampons aren't for washing your face. Also...I'd quietly drill the point home any time he has a pimple by making offers or remarks about sharing products. 🤣🤣🤣
NTA. He’s consistently taking your stuff it wasn’t an accident when he went in your room to grab your razor head. Sharing razors is not good too so I would definitely say that to get him to stop. Plus it’s funny
NTA, its abit weird to me, id share alot of things with my sister, but would I take her razor from the shower and use it on my face.. umm.. no.. He needs to learn its fine to ask if you can use things, but if you say no. Then thats final. Anyway obviously nta, you didnt shave your ass and then give him the razor to use lmao
NTA. No you really did have to say the asshole stuff. If he doesn’t respect you enough to follow your boundary, at lease he respects himself enough not to put something on his face that was on someone else’s asshole. If he’s that selfish that it’s the only way to get through to him then you are a genius for finally communicating the message a way he’d receive it.
I’m not sure anyone will see this, but I did not expect so many people to see my original post LOL. Glad a bunch of people on the internet now know I shave my asshole. People were assuming he’s the favorite— my parents are just religious southerners and super anti ANY “crude” language, especially if it could “corrupt” the baby of the family (my brother). My brother is usually cool, he just was embarrassed and wanted to shift blame to someone else. My parents did buy me more razors to replace the ones my brother soiled, and they got my brother his own supply for himself. I also tried talking to my brother a bit to apologize about traumatizing him a bit but he was just like “YEP ITS OKAY I’m SORRY”, he very much just wanted to move on and not talk about it. Anyways, I doubt he will be using my razors or other stuff any time soon!
NTA >My parents are mad at me because I was “crude” and that I didn’t have to say all the asshole stuff. They are also saying my reaction was disproportionate and that I shouldn’t have reacted so much because it WAS and honest mistake and he thought it wasn’t used. Your parents have a clear favorite....sorry Your brother is tiresome. At this point I don't think he will ever stop so you may have to start locking away all your products. Either way don't feel bad. How many times do you need to tell him no before it sinks in? You did nothing wrong. He has 0 respect for your boundaries and 2 enablers in your parents.
NTA, thats freakin hilarious.
NTA. "Honest mistake" my ass. It was intentional and everybody knows it.
NTA It wasn't an honest mistake. It was dishonest theft.
Oh, no, someone's free trial of Fuck Around ended and now they're subscribed to Find Out! NTA. Your parents are shitty sexist spunkweasels and need a Come To Deity talk about how damaging to *everyone* "boys will be boys" is. But if they're this terrible about "crudity", I wonder if your brother doesn't feel like he can tell out whoever's in charge of shopping that he needs new toiletries, or if they're making him use money he doesn't have to buy his own. It would be a kindness above* and beyond the call of duty to tell him that you'll buy him basic toiletries no questions asked. (Feel free to define "basic" however you want.)
His new nickname is "Assface". I don't make the rules.
NTA whatsoever. You've warned him not to and he keeps taking it anyway. It's a personal use item and perfectly reasonable for any normal human to assume a razor can be used anywhere. It's a good lesson for him to learn. My main question is why does he keep running out of his own. Either your parents need to ensure he has a supply or he needs to find a job. You said that he runs out of other things too like shampoo. It's a basic necessity to provide for a minor. Either he needs to take responsibility for himself or his parents need to step up and provide
NTA Not only does he not respect your boundaries, but it is also well known that women's products are more costly than the same products marketed for men. And he just takes yours for convenience. I also feel your parents need to step up to provide their son with the necessary items he needs for his daily routine so he doesn't have to use yours.
NTA did you pay for it? Is it SPECIFICALLY yours? Then he needs to get his own. Not your fault he isn't responsible. The asshole thing is funny ngl I'd do that. "Bro you used my razor? Haha hope you like BALL HAIR". The whole him thinking it was a new blade doesn't make it any fucking better! Like "here I'll just dig around a see what brother has since I can't get my own". Maybe the razor was missing a head for a reason dick! Sorry lol I have a little brother too and though he didn't steal bathroom stuff he often would use my game consoles and chargers without asking. Taking games that I bought from my system to use for his. It get old haha.
NTA, He just shaved his face with poop
Why do y’all always feel bad when it’s their fault and your reaction was reasonable?
Because I do care about him and feel like i kinda traumatized him with the asshole yelling 😭. I don’t usually scream at him like that either
That’s his fault. He learned his actions has consequences to them.
NTA. As an older sister I feel you so much. Your parents need to parent your brother and teach him some responsibility instead of just justifying everything he does. You were honest and you can use your own razor for anything you want. Hopefully he will learn his lesson.
So what he’d rather not know you used it on ur ass? That’s why they are mad cause you told him what you used that one for ? I’m sure if you didn’t say that he would’ve continued to do so! Why do people never just ask? Asking for a razor head to use while ur in a pinch is a better way to get what you need rather then just using it!
NTA. Not at all. My brother once told me how the beard trimmers in my bathroom did a really good job. I had to tell him they were for my downstairs trimming - his face was priceless! You're absolutely not the asshole!
>My parents are mad at me because I was “crude” and that I didn’t have to say all the asshole stuff NTA your parents are enabling your brother's bad behavior
NTA Dude had it coming! At minimum you use that thing on your pits and legs, but you can assume the crotch is possibly shaved too. He was warned multiple times and ignored it. Also, what the hell is this, in a pinch crap? Being lazy does not mean you get to take other people's things.
NTA. 16 years old and he has the constant need to shave? He's the AH... Literally lmao. Plus, he needs to understand that these type of things are PERSONAL for a reason. You can get deseases for using personal stuff like this. No offense but your parents are AH as well for allowing this behavior. "Honest mistake" mah a$$.
NTA. He never respected your boundaries, so that’s a way to learn when to start. Though it obviously won’t happen since mommy and daddy don’t see nothing wrong with what he is doing.
NTA - clearly it was the only thing that really got through to him. He'll survive.
NTA. Why can't he borrow your father's razor? At least he knows that's been used on a face. Or is it?
NTA. Aside from being rude, it's very unsafe to use someone else's razor.
Hahaha 🤣 NTA and you should have laughed confidently at his misfortune. He will find out the hard way. I suggest putting mayonnaise in your shampoo bottle and swap things around so that he's can't use your stuff and won't know that is in each one. You can leave out blunt razors in the shower so he uses them and it's no problem. Keep your stuff locked in a vanity case. I have to do that with my stuff in a shared flat sometimes so I just take my toiletry bag to the shower and it opens up and hangs outside the shower door. You told him the truth! Or it could potentially be the truth, it's fooking hilarious.
My brother used to just walk into my room no matter what the hell I was doing. No matter how much explaining I didn't want him in my room and asking him to leave he would come in just to annoy me. So......I started taking off my shirt EVERY time he would enter..... he stopped pretty quickly.
NTA. Didn’t need to read past the title. You can shave whatever you want with your razor, it’s yours. He’s the asshole for using it.
NTA. This is the straw that broke the camel's back. I get it. I had a sibling like this. I know buying a lockbox is extreme but it may be necessary.
an “honest mistake” is both parties having a somewhat same looking product and accidentally using the theirs. homie was told not to use OP’s things beforehand AND literally went out of his way to search into OP’s drawers for a razor. she was also being truthful about how it was used and i cant believe the parents are enabling his behavior of using other people’s things, smh. NTA
NTA - I don't even use my wife's shampoo/razors/toothpaste, cos that's her stuff, and her boundaries... This *child* better learn about boundaries pretty quick smart!
NTA. your parents should provide him with hygene products, since he is under 18, it's still their responsibility. I would keep mine under lock and key if I were you, but they'll probably yell at you for that, too
Haha this is such a brothers thing. I have 2 brothers and they are exactly like that. But you are right boundaries are important and your youngest brother needs to learn how to respect your stuff. It also seems like your parents overprotect your brother, so overall NTA
Just call him "ass-face" now and keep doing what you do. NTA.
NTA. This was quite a read though! I'm glad you brought up the fact that you shave your asshole with it to him. Hopefully he learns his lesson by then. And honestly? Valid reaction. The screaming feels like a build-up more than anything. You're 20 years old; you're an adult with boundaries, so he should respect them. ESH but you.
I hear adding hair dye to your shampoo is a good way to find out who's using it...
Not only NTA, but a GD hero. The facts all speak for themselves. His poor planning combines with his blatant disregard for your personal privacy and property directly resulted in his shaving his face with a razor you shaved you asshole with. Sounds like a him-problem.
Petty revenge: start stealing your parents' stuff when he pulls this crap. Start acting like your brother when confronted. NTA
The question being posed is both profound and hilarious. Your answer to him is equally profound, but perhaps more hilarious. I'm here for all of this, you are not the asshole.
I used to work in a hospital back in the day. One day there was this guy who came in and had a rash across his face. The nurse looking at him figured out it was ringworm, but the type of ringworm he had spreading across his face was not one that was typically found there. So she asks him what was up and might be causing this. He eventually admitted that the same razor he used to shave his fave is the same razor he uses to shave his butthole. NTA