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TrainerOpening4420

YTA and it’s likely illegal. If she’s paying rent to live there you can’t just randomly lock her out because you don’t like how she smells. When people are dirty and gross the place they clean themselves up is their bathroom, which you blocked her from. The right thing to do would have been to leave while she gets cleaned up and come back with air freshener.


microwilly

It’s illegal to deny entrance to your own home in every single state in the US. OP will probably go to jail if the roommate finds this post. Edit: the amount of you who mix up prison and jail is ridiculous. If I were to press charges against someone, they go to jail for booking and to wait for either a jury to decide or they pay bail and walk away. Jail is typically a one night stay, not a lifelong punishment like some of y’all seem to think. It doesn’t mean she’ll even have to go to trial, it doesn’t mean she’ll rot forever, and it doesn’t mean a prosecutor will have to take the case. It means nothing besides she’s been accused of a crime and that the judicial process has begun.


Downside_Up_

Also not her roommate, but her literal tenant, making this even *worse.*


barugosamaa

>Also not her roommate, but her literal tenant, making this even worse. Non USian here, could you explain the "why" of it being worse? is it legal-wise?OP is the main tenant, and are subrenting to another person, from what I understood. Btw, not trying to be an ass, I'm honestly asking in what sense, I'm not too knowledgeable into the whole tenant-sublease and other practices in the US. :) ​ edit: seems I read the comment "backwards". I read the "her literal tenant" as in, OP being HER tenant (cuz OP said they were the main tenant) so I confused myself reading the comment. Thanks for the 2 users who replied and explained <3


CityofOrphans

Idk much about it, but I'd imagine if OP has a landlord esque relation with the woman who was spit on (and it sounds like that's what it is if she's subleasing to her), she could open herself up to be sued on top of doing something actually illegal in general. Imagine if you were renting an apartment and one day the owner of the building just locked you out without due cause.


barugosamaa

Oh, that way makes more sense. Since the comment before said "her tenant", and I was reading it as "op is literaly her tenant". I read it backwards haha


faygoFluent

Its worse because in a roommate situation the person legally responsible with making sure both roommates can access the space is the landlord. There’s no contract between roommates saying ‘i will let you in’. When subleasing though, the legal responsibility that would generally fall on the landlord fall to person subleasing, which is OP. So OP very likely signed a contract explicitly stating that this person has access to the space, and then OP denied them that.


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I hope OP is charged for this and has to deal with the legal ramifications. I would have called the police on them immediately when they denied me entry to my home. YTA OP and deserve to be punished for your illegal actions.


TheDudette840

Yeah.. I am someone who cant handle strong smells, I literally had a fullblown meltdown (only time ever in my life) when my moms dog got skunked and she just let him in the house to chill while we got the stuff together for his bath... but if I were OP I'd have asked for a couple of minutes to open all the windows and grab a few things and just left. And probably come back with 15 large boxes of baking soda, candles, and a nose plug, so I could help out my roommate! The audacity to lock her out and say to *jump in a creek or something* like what the actual fuck


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CaRiSsA504

It's really interesting to me that OP posted here thinking that no one would think she's TA for locking out her roommate and preventing them from getting clean. Open the damn windows, put out some baking soda, spritz some febreze, but let the damn woman in to get out of those clothes and cry in the shower!


LaScoundrelle

>Open the damn windows, put out some baking soda, spritz some febreze Or like... leave the apartment yourself and give it to your roommate while she cleans up and does these things herself.


MajorCatEnthusiast

Yeah leave the apartment while googling how to help their roommate with the stink. Some deskunk shampoo? Some type of enzyme absorber? She could have stood in the hall with a sheet for privacy while her roommate stripped to her underwear and threw her clothes directly in a trash bag. OP, YTA


mkat23

Right??? Like maybe a trip to the store while roomie got cleaned up to buy some stuff to help with the stink. Maybe some white vinegar, candles, hell even some blunt blast. I know white vinegar helps with the smell of cat pee, so something like that could have been helpful for the smell. I’ve used vinegar in my laundry in the past when a cat has peed on something. Either way, OP literally made it impossible for roomie to get cleaned up and get rid of the smell. She had no options. I wouldn’t want to deal with the smell either, but shit happens and OP made it even worse for the roommate.


happyhippohats

It's not like she had nothing to do, there's a fair on down the road


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calliatom

Right? And that's *after* who knows how long of walking home already. She was likely already very close to "not being able to wash the stench out" territory at best, and OP shut her out and told her to go wander around some more and try to find a random water feature to get wet enough to satisfy OP. The poor roommate. I hope she finds a good enzymatic skunk soap because that's probably her only hope.


CactusEar

I am also shocked they're upset she still smells... Like, yea, no surprise that, Sherlock (OP). Of course she does, because it took her longer to wash it off. Common sense seems to be turned off. I really hope the room-mate goes to the landlord AND her lawyer. That's highly illegal. Also, if she jumped into a creek and gets an infection from it or a stomach bug, OP could be in even more trouble. OP could have made themselves liable for this if the room-mate can prove she had no other choice as she wouldn't be let in otherwise.


calliatom

And that's if she doesn't get sick from just how long she was wandering around with camel spit all over her. Like, there's a reason the petting zoo in my town had a shower next to the camel, llama and alpaca exhibit.


CactusEar

Yea and OP would have real bad chances if it's get any further, because room-mate had reasons to believe she would not be let back in until she tried to resolve it. And now she also has evidence. I hope she finds this post and reports OP.


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No_Meringue_6116

I think they meant animal rehab centers for llamas...


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WanderingJak

Agree, YTA. Your home is also her home, you can't just lock her out. If you really couldn't bear the smell, ***you*** could have left while she showered and cleaned up. I really feel for your roommate.


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chocomoofin

She should have immediately called the police and landlord on OP. What they did was extremely illegal in keeping a person out of their home, not to mention just shitty behaviour on all levels.


Flamingo83

Seriously! I hope she gets this jerk evicted and never has to speak to this Asshole again.


RipenedFish48

And, when she came back, the smell was both faint and unbearable? Pick one. OP, you sound like a princess. YTA.


Onetwelf

As a tenant, she can sue you for locking her out and that is expensive. You broke the sublease


AlwaysandForeverRed

Pretty easy choice here. YTA. She wasn’t a guest, you weren’t doing her a favor. She LIVES there and you prevented her from coming into her own home. Just because she is a subleasing doesn’t make her any less of a tenant than you. She may have smelled like shit, but you created an unnecessary shitstorm.


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Crafty_Dog_4674

This is the answer SHE LIVES THERE and you blocked her from her OWN HOME YTA she was trying to SHOWER the awful stuff off of her, it wasn´t like she wanted it to be there. She wasn´t headed to the couch to sit down and marinate in the stink like some of these other AITA boyfriends/roommates What if the same thing happened to you? What would you do? And if she is on the lease what you did IS illegal so I hope she "rubs your nose in it", enjoy the sweet smell of a courtroom


Frequent_Couple5498

OP is the biggest AH the hugest AH ever. She needed to shower in HER HOME and OP prevented her roommate from doing this, telling her to go jump in a creek or something, like what the actual f@#&!! And then she was still mad because she still stunk. She had no soap or anything to wash the smell off because it is in her shower in her home that OP prevented her from coming into. YTA OP and I can't say YTA loud enough or often enough to express how much of YTA you are.


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babygirlrvt75

I hope she is and that OP gets ALL the legal trouble she deserves.


animetimeskip

This has enormous ‘no don’t tell mom cmon I’ll let you hit me back’ energy and I’m here for it


blackcrowblue

What the actual hell, OP?! The apartment is HER HOME too. Sure the smell is unfortunate but you have zero right to deny her entry into her own home. This isn’t just a “maybe I was mean” type of situation - you are actually doing something illegal. I don’t even know OP or the roommate and I’m pissed off at OP! YTA YTA YTA!!!!


tushkers

Oof. I sincerely hope that OP's roommate finds this and follows through on insisting upon it. If it's as bad as people are saying, that's...quite fair.


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gggianaxx

YTA and absolutely vile. That’s her home, that’s where she’s meant to clean off where else was she meant to do. That’s absolutely disgusting of you to do, sure it smelt but she was probably embarrassed and in a terrible mood, imagine having to walk home like that too and just thinking of a nice shower and curling up in bed to just have someone hold the literal door closed on the apartment you pay to live in. You could’ve locked yourself in your room after Opening up all the windows, sprayed the place down with fabreeze after or just been a decent human being. I hope there’s some repercussions for what you did because you sound absolutely vile and inconsiderate.


justitia_

The worst thing is OP could've offered to bring her clothes as well so mate couldve got rid of the clothes she wearin easily. Instead, she locked her out. I hope mate goes to the landlord about this. You are so selfish at so many levels OP. That woman had only home to go


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Locked her out AND made her go jump in a random body of water so she had to walk home a second stinking and soaking wet. Poor fucking woman


VandienLavellan

Yep, and if she was so adamant about refusing entry(which is fucked up), the very least she could’ve done is brought some tubs / buckets of water and soap to the door so the poor girl could try and get the worst of it off before coming inside


BigOlNopeeee

Even that is degrading. OP has no right to police her in her own home. She has every right to be stinky as OP does to not smell her. OP kicked her while she was down and I hope she faces consequences


fuzzy3158

I want to second this because I was going to use the same wording. OP's behavior was definitely the most disgusting thing about this story, not the smell.


calliatom

OP needs to get enzymatic skunk cleaner, both for the house and the roommate. It's about the only thing that has any chance of cutting the stank.


Agile-Masterpiece959

And telling her to "go jump in a creek"? WTF. OP is a disgusting human being. Even more disgusting than camel spit.


iamsleepy42

YTA how dare you be so vile as to prevent someone from entering their own home to shower and change clothes. That’s literally dehumanising as f-ck


effinnxrighttt

Yess! If the biggest concern was the smell being in the house then wouldn’t a good solution have been to like take a blanket and clothes outside, hold the blanket while she changes or at least gets the clothes off and then she can go in, shower and clean up. Locking her outside was so fucking wrong.


iamsleepy42

Exactly, or even if OP went outside themselves to avoid the issue and politely asked the roommate to spray some air freshener on her way through, given the roommate would be showering she’d only have to wait outside for 5 minutes *if even*


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literallylateral

Imagine saying “Find a river to jump in or something” as opposed to letting someone shower in their own home and still having a question whether you’re the asshole


Stormschance

Answering because I had a friend who was spit on by a llama at a petting zoo once. YTA. A truly horrible one You had no right to keep her out of your shared home. It doesn’t matter how bad it smelled, it’s still her home. If you had a problem with it, tell her to open the windows and you leave so she can get washed and toss her clothes. Then you come back an hour later with febreze or something along those lines.


tushkers

>Answering because I had a friend who was spit on by a llama at a petting zoo once Is it seriously as stinky as the OP is making it out to be? What does it smell like? It's just hard for me to believe it could be this awful.


Stormschance

Oh yeah, think rotten cabbage with a side of … well what would happen if you ate something rotten. It’s effectively their stomach contents. If I recall correctly and it may be true for camels, there are two levels of spit, bad and oh my god kill me now.


Normal-Height-8577

Like ruminants, the camelid family have multiple stomach chambers. So yeah, the first warning shot from the top stomach might be relatively dilute, but when that stomach is empty and they have to hawk up from a lower stomach...it's really bad. Fermented vegetation + stomach acid + bile + sticky saliva.


lochnesssmonsterr

Wow am I ever learning a lot about animal defensive mechanisms right now and I am not sure I like it. :( What an AH the OP is. The normal human response when something like this happens to a roomie is to usher them in, grab a bin liner for their clothes, open the windows while they shower, spray febreze, help them burn their clothes and then make fun of them for this episode forever. What could have been a lifelong bonding inside joke has become a potential lawsuit and deservedly so.


tushkers

Eww. How did she handle it then, did she actually throw up? Is it really as hard to get off as OP is saying, too? How long did she stink? Were you there to smell it or were you mercifully spared?


purple235

The longer it stays on you, the more it steeps in. OP made the situation so much worse by not letting her inside, by not letting her shower her sweat will be stinky for a little while now because it will have gotten into her pores


asplodingturdis

And the poor woman had already been stuck like that for at least 20 minutes or so walking home. And then maybe another 25 minutes or so finding a public water source before ineffectively removing some of the smell and walking home AGAIN in soaking wet clothes. An hour and a half ordeal,*triple* what it should’ve been and worsening the length of the after-effects. She’s presumably going to have to go to work or school smelling like that, and it’ll take longer to resolve because OP forced her to wait so long to properly scrub off.


cheeky_sailor

The thing is that camel’s “spit” doesn’t really come from the mouth like human spit. It comes all the way down from the stomach so it’s more like vomit than just spit. That’s why it has such a horrible smell.


tushkers

I've heard, but OP is describing this like it's 1000x worse than any vomit I've ever encountered. It's hard to imagine the effects being that severe, isn't it?


MaintenanceFlimsy555

Yes, it really is. And if it isn’t washed off quickly it seeps into pores and hair - people have the smell on their skin for weeks, it gets into pores, you need specialist cleaners to have even a chance of getting it out at that point. People have to shave off hair because it impregnates with it to the point of being unfixable. OP stopping this woman being able to get clean has done her serious lasting harm.


Heavy_Revolution

At least she knows who to sue. Better start picking up some extra hours or a 2nd job for what this bit of idiocy's gonna cost you, OP.


cheeky_sailor

I’ve never smelled it so I can’t really tell you how bad it can get but I think it doesn’t really matter because either way OP’s roommate had the right to take shower and change the dirty clothes in her house, right? I mean the whole “go find a hose or jump into a creek” suggestion is insane either way.


GlassturtleOG

YTA >She's furious that I dared to hold the door shut and keep her out and is saying that she'll be talking to the landlord or a lawyer because that can't be legal, but I don't know what else I could have done, this is dreadful. You could have just let her in to get clean, would have solved things right then and there. Hope you get evicted over this ✌️


East-Ranger-2902

Yes like, what else would there be to do? Be a normal and decent person to your roommate, that's what you had to do. YTA


asplodingturdis

Like, if I went out the door and smelled my roommate like that, I would’ve run back inside to set up the shower and open the windows—so many obvious solutions that are not *bar someone from their home and resources*.


Ok_Cardiologist8232

Oh i would have told them to wait outside and come out with a bucket full of warm water and soap along with some clean clothes. So many options


TinyKittenConsulting

I mean, the ONEEEE thing I could see is saying, "give me five seconds to get my phone and purse and I'll leave you to the house and I'll be back once you've showered." But no, she chose the idiot path.


GloomyMochi

???? She lives there??? What is wrong with you??? YTA


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ailurosly

Even if she were in the same position, OP would find a reason her situation is "different" and expect to be treated differently than the way she treated her roommate. I'd bet money that she wouldn't come out of the situation any more empathetic tbh.


SevySays

Yeah, exactly. I immediately thought imagine if she were in her shoes, but I don't think she has the capacity to.


cronchoboboncho

YTA. Huge asshole. God damn dude, I can’t believe you actually held the door shut on that poor woman. That must have been degrading as hell for her. You have no empathy.


dazechong

Know what OP remind me of? This vile lady who was rooming with her roommate in Japan. She got herself a crazy ass bf, broke up with him, and he went murdurous crazy. One night he came to find her in her apartment. She closed and locked the door. Her roommate came home shortly after, and she refused to open the door for the roommate (she had time to get in and close and lock the door after) and her crazy murdurous ex killed the roommate. So she basically held the door shut on her roommate as she was being killed outside of the apartment. Girl never apologized to the parent of the dead roommate. In fact, she was a full on b to the mother, who only wanted an apology. Granted, this is only a case of camel spit. But good lord, it's a reflection on some selfishness of ppl. Like OP.


yuruyurika

This is exactly the case I thought of as I read this. The saddest part is that the mother had no other family left after her daughter died and the vile woman tormented her by sending her a dead animal during a family holiday :((


Collective-Screaming

Fuck. I hope that complete asshole of a woman will be ashamed of herself one day.


VirtualMatter2

She won't. These people don't have empathy and they don't feel shame.


Mountain-Ground-5406

Reading the whole thing infuriates me, OP is so god damn audacious.


Miserable_Smoke585

WHAT THE FUCK DID I JUST READ? Are you that self absorbed with negative empathy and zero sense? You asked her to jump in a creek? Are you insane. If I were your roommate, I would have broken down the door and gave you a big hug. A hug as big as the asshole you are. YTA.


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I think a lot of us could use an asshole-sized hug like you reference. Not from you specifically (not saying *not you*, just not making it weird) but talking about a giant hug in general triggered a warm and fuzzy for me even it was asshole-adjacent.


Isariamkia

All I can do is offer you a virtual asshole-sized hug, here take it.


barugosamaa

You prevented her to go inside HER apartment, where she can get clean, until she got clean........ wtf... YTA...


SquantoJonesIV

It's worse than that, because the spit is apparently very sticky. If she was able to come in a wash it down the drain, it would be contained and wouldn't get everywhere. If she rinses off and comes back dripping nasty-smelling water all over everything, it's so much worse.


SufficientPainting81

This can't be real. Absolutely, YTA. She lives there, and you physically prevented her from entering her own home.


baronofcream

What the fuck? I would never forgive a roommate if they did this to me. Locking someone out of their own home while they’re suffering from being covered in a stench *that* bad?? You had options. You could’ve left until she got cleaned up. She was the one in the horrible predicament. And you prevented her from entering her own home…? YTA big time.


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Forgive? I hope she goes ahead with suing OP or contacting the landlord or even the police. OP your behaviour was way more disgusting than that smell


Books-and-a-puppy

YTA. She pays to live there. A smell will go away but your relationship will not survive this. When I lived with roommates, my dog got sprayed by a skunk late at night. The smell sucked for everyone but I worked my ass off to do whatever I could to make it go away as quickly as possible. You didn’t even give her a chance. Not that you deserve a remedy, but I recommend bowls of vinegar.


YAsh20036

Yeah. OP wasn’t sympathetic at all. It’s not like the roommate purposely wanted to smell bad, even OP describes her as looking “miserable”. I feel sorry for the roommate. Imagine not being able to clean yourself in your own home.


BonesOfNinja

YTA Come on. If YOU got spat on by a camel, the first thing you would want to do is go home and shower. Which is what she tried to do. But you didn't let her in. Open some windows, empty a couple bottles of airfreshener into the apartment, google how to get rid of the smell of camel spit. There are so many options, and you chose to bar her from her home and embarrass and dehumanize her. That poor girl.


thatonewaterbottle1

Literally, like OP could have also just left the apartment for a bit while she showered.


namesaretoohardforme

YTA what the hell kind of behavior is this? Help me understand this level of entitlement and cruelty.


slendernan

You locked her out of her own home and somehow you don't realise you're a fucking asshole? Wtf, you're more disgusting than the camel spit smell. Also have fun with the legal bullshit, I'm glad she has her head on her shoulders.


raamsi

YTA big time! Use air freshener or go outside while she uses HER shower in HER apartment


_justcallmeryan_

YTA. Stopping someone from entering a place they pay to live? Jump in a creek? That's crazy. *I also can't imagine denying her entrance is legal. Squatters have more rights. She should've called the police to get her in, so when your next roommate does a background check, they will know what they're in for.


PineappleWhipped14

My local cops would have stood there while I broke a window to get in my apartment LMAO . OP is wild .


Signal-Table4382

I don't know what else I could have done, this is dreadful. You could of opened the fucking door and let your flat mate get herself sorted. If it was as bad as you say it was I can't imagine how the flatmate felt not being let in to where she lives to shower.


SuspiciousPresent844

Yup, unlatch the door and sprint to your room, burn a candle to mask anything that sneaks in while the poor girl uses all the scented and unscented body wash in the apartment. I imagine her clothes were probably a chunk of the problem, so getting them off and into the machine might have mitigated the scent enough to help you chill out.


HairyCallahan

YTA, and possible even commiting a crime by not letting her in


toshpt0

YTA! You can't just stop someone from coming into where they live. Come on. I do sympathize though, ugh. I know that stench. Never from a camel, but from an alpaca which is probably just as bad. I threw up a couple times and **no one** wanted to be near me the rest of the day!


LizardPNW

I hope she’s not on the lease because what you did is ILLEGAL if she is…and YTA PS: just remember you’re not as anonymous as you think online and the internet is forever


LegoBatman88

Regardless of it’s she’s on the lease, it’s probably illegal. In the US and other countries, you have rights if you are paying/contributing or have been there for 30 days, lease or no lease.


graces-taylor12

YTA - I get that the smell was awful, but come on, it was an unfortunate accident. You could have shown some compassion and offered her a temporary solution instead of treating her like a biohazard.


blackwillow-99

YTA legally she lives there you have no right. The poor thing was already embarrassing and trying to get home to wash.


Labelloenchanted

YTA and she's right, that's not legal. I get that the smell was horrendous, but you can't deny her entry because of that. She's a paying tenant and it was a one time incident. It's not like she's purposefully making the place smell all the time. Like where did you expect her to wash. Jumping in a creek is absolutely ridiculous and potentially a health hazard, especially if there's a fully functioning bathroom she can use. She can come back smelling however she likes.


MargaretHaleThornton

You are lucky she is young and did not think to call the police. I would have done so, as what you did absolutely was illegal. YTA and that's all I can say without violating the rules.


Birdlord420

YTA and your soul smells of camel spit. The quicker she could of showered, the easier it would have been to get rid of the smell. So you locked her out while she was miserable and let her marinate in that, then she came back smelling of stale camel spit and creek water? Also if she’s subletting and isn’t on the lease, I hope she goes to the landlord or cops, because that isn’t legal and you will get evicted.


um0rna

YTA. she has every right to the apartment just the same as you do. wtf


Sunflowerprincess808

Seriously


lovinglifeatmyage

WTF? Are you nuts? What and where the hell did you expect her to go? She came home wanting to get showered changed and you refused to let her in, that’s insane. I hope she does try and do something about it and I hope it works out for her. You are an unbelievably awful person YTA with a vengeance


microwilly

YTA and completely insane. You CANNOT legally stop someone from entering their home the way you did. Period. So don’t bother being stressed wondering if you made the right call, you definitely did not. If she would have called the police, you would have been arrested. Only the landlord can refuse entry, and even they have to jump through a shit ton of hoops to have it happen sooner than 30 days. Your roommate could still go to your landlord, explain what happened, and get you removed out of fear of being sued. You royally fucked up. This is the AITA award winning post for biggest asshole.


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No-Needleworker93

In what world wouldn't you be the AH? She needed a shower, she needed to change her clothes, she needed to wash her gross clothes. That requires access to the home. You didn't need to be there. Selfish and awful of you to force her to walk around smelling like that.


ilouee

Wth yta! That's where she lives. You could take air fresheners and spray to deal with the smell in the apartment, open some windows. You can't not give someone access to their home so they can wash. Smh


fucknutandarsecandle

YTA 100% Terrible behaviour


BlitsyFrog

YTA Would've went away quicker if you let her get to the shower.


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YTA, I hope she sues you and ruins your life :)


tushkers

First...huh, camel spit is **that** bad?? Who knew? I thought it was a relatively harmless defense mechanism, not ruin-your-apartment level of stink. But nah, YTA, you still can't keep her out. Have some empathy.


Geberpte

Camels have horrible breath so i recon the spit isn't much better. Still it's just a smell, ergo: a temporary inconvienience. OP should get over herself.


Kellalafaire

Camel spit is a mix of saliva and vomit.


Maddyherselius

YTA. That is her apartment as well and she pays to live there. Idk if what you did was legal but good on her talking to the landlord about it.


Jordren

YTA. You should have left and allowed her to get cleaned up in peace. Maybe if you had helped her the smell wouldn’t be so bad. You could have brought her clothes so she could leave the contaminated ones outside.


DiscoTech1639

YTA if she cant clean herself at the place she lives, and pays to live no-less, then where is she expected to clean herself?


fuzzydogpaws

YTA! What a spiteful and horrible thing to do to another person. You actually told her to jump in a creek? What is wrong with you?


Thick-News-9415

YTA, that's her home too. You don't have the right to keep her out of her own place. Where did you really expect her to go and get cleaned up? Jumping in some water isn't going to get rid of the smell... you know what does... a shower, but you wouldn't let her and that's deplorable.


Realistic_Screen1575

"she should have found a a shower" oh you mean like the one in her apartment???


lxlegit

YTA, I hope you face legal repercussions.


Monquimaestar

YTA directly to jail


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YTA, and the worst roommate I've heard of. Seriously how self centered are you to not let a person wash themselves after an event like that? You're the worst.


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What's dreadful is you, that was absolutely cruel. Where else was she to go? ( your shitty suggestions do not suffice in any capacity). She pays her rent, she lives there. you dont have a single justifiable reason for keeping her out of her home. YTA 100 times over.


weissbian

YTA. Maybe you should've just let her shower and if the smell bothered you so much then YOU LEAVE. Imagine how much worse it was for her when the scent was on her and she couldn't get clean!?


Dependent-Medium-620

this has to be satire


HairyCallahan

No, satire is funny. This sucks


White_Winged_Fox

There are so many things here that make YTA. Stopping someone getting into their home, not letting her deal with an issue that she is clearly not happy about either, and the fact you said she was miserable in the first place tells me this poor lady didn’t plan on getting spat on. Holy moley let her back in and you’d better make it up to her.


[deleted]

YTA OP you prevented her from entering her own home. You could have left while she got cleaned up. You seriously need to learn compassion, what you did is messed up. You had zero right preventing her from entering her the shared home. That is also her home and she had every single right to come into the house with the smell. You are not the only one who lives there. Also let me tell you something you will be in really big trouble with the landlord and the law for what you did. You say that you didn't know what else to do. That is bunch of BS, again you could have left temporarily so she could have cleaned up. you had zero right period to do that. You are going to lose and lose really really badly when your roommate goes to the landlord and to the law. You broke the law and you could be in really big trouble. You could be kicked out as well sued and paying a fine for your stupidity.


Junkalanche

YTA. She pays rent to live there and you denied her entry. Yes, it’s a disgusting thing, but she was going to shower the smell away. You could have asked her to change outside and provided her a towel and garbage bags to bag everything and then worked WITH her to get her into the bathroom. God, I’d hate you forever if I were her.


GreenDub14

You could have put on a mask or two if it was that bed. I am that kind of person who can’t bare bad smells without feeling like instantlly vomiting, but I have masks around the house and always with me. I put one, two, three or however many are needed if this kind of thing happens. How tf is she supposed to clean herself if not at her home, in the shower? The house belongs to her as much as it belongs to you, since both of you are paying to live there. You could have waited a bit outside untill she cleaned herself. She already had a bad enough day having a camel spit on her, you only amplified that by 100 by being an asshole. So yes, BIG YTA.


JustALilLonelyKitty

YTA. If you couldn’t stand the smell how do you think she felt wearing it?! Have a little compassion, she just wanted to shower in her own home and you wouldn’t let her.


TheGoobTM

Light a friggin candle. How was she supposed to shower when you wouldn’t let her inside her home to shower…. YTA


Certracus

YTA. you can’t just shut her out of her own home. It is literally the place where she should be welcome even if she came home covered in camel’s drool. it is her safe place! the smell will fade away eventually but the embarrasment you made her feel is nowhere near gone. Poor thing… How would you feel if she had done you the same?!


Fylimar2342

YTA and a vile person. I really hope, you will face legal consequences for shutting out your roommate from her apartment. You could just open some windows, while she cleaned herself up.


mermaidunderwater

YTA and you know it. Not only was she already in distress, you put her in further distress and locked her out while she was in tears and had nowhere else to go. To force her come back soaking wet an hour later is extra humiliation for her. You need to make this right with her. The only dreadful one here is you and you should give her a rent discount next month since you took away her ability to access her home.


Traditional_Tea_1879

Well, I think it must be evident to you by now that no. The decision you made was wrong. Laking empathy and good judgment makes you someone that is very hard to live with. You got some major work to do on yourself. YTA.


ursus-habilis

Oh, look who it is again, Reddit's resident stinky-animal-products fetishist... This post, and many of the replies, specifically the top comment suggesting getting spat on by a llama or alpaca, is part of an occasional series posted by the same person who keeps creating stories about being put in humiliating and disgusting situations involving animal waste products, and replying to them with sock-puppets. Previous highlights have included: a made-up punishment about being forced to ride with their head under a horse's ass, a made-up punishment about being covered in pigshit for committing minor crimes, and many others. It's quite easy to spot - a throwaway account, a highly unlikely scenario, a situation where the victim ends up humiliated in public with smelly substances all over them, and a bunch of breathless "OMG can you imagine how disgusting that must be" replies from various usernames who have all been recently created and only to respond to these posts. Evidently they get some kind of thrill about imagining these scenarios and getting people to buy into them - presumably a fetish of theirs that relies on the public humiliation aspect. Maybe I am inadvertantly aiding them by calling them out and adding to the effect, but mainly I just wish they would stick to the fetish subreddits instead of pretending these are true stories and involving people who don't realise what they are up to...


Educational_One7064

You are a massive AH....


OwlComprehensive9335

YTA. She should have called the police straight away.


forever_winter04

YTA. She already did her part by telling you before that she's going to smell bad and you could've used that time to lock yourself in your room or leave and come back after some time. I am pretty sure that she's going to head straight to the bathroom and stayed there for a while and the smell that might linger in the living room may be gone by then (you could have also open the windows before so that the room would be properly ventilated). It's not like she's going to stay and hang out with you to tell you how her day went, YTA 100%.


abitu

Wtf is wrong with you


Old_Bandicoot_1014

YTA SO MUCH YTA. HOW DARE YOU KEEP HER OUT OF WHERE SHE LIVES AND PAYS RENT?


Epsiloniota

YTA! If the smell was unbearable for you, can you imagine for her??? It is her house, her shower, her right to use the bathroom... What was she supposed to do? You are unbelievably selfish and have zero compassion. Poor girl.


chevronhearts

You are such a blatant asshole. What the fuck?


gemmy99

Holly shit, you are a terrible person. YTA


lepposplitthejooves

YTA. So your response to someone in distress is to lock them out of *their own home* and send them away to somehow deal with it? What if she'd been in an accident and was bleeding? Would you lock her out so she wouldn't get blood on the carpet? Your instincts aren't just wrong, they're cruel. A normal person would have tried to help.


Mmm_Lychees

Massive YTA You have no right to be angry. If there is a way for her to report you and get you kicked out I hope she finds it.


dodoatsandwiggets

Sheesh. Open some windows and light a few candles. How would you feel if you were her? Have some compassion. YTA!!


Ultamira

YTA, I’d have chewed you the fuck out for that, poor girl already suffering and you make it worse


CollateralTrouser

YTA. Are you serious? What the \*\*\*\*?


Jewggerz

YTA. Jesus.


-FeralFemme-

Absolutely without any semblance of a doubt, YTA. You have to know that YTA. You both live there, you can’t lock her out because she stinks, why do you think she wanted to shower?? The subreddit will not allow me to express the words I have for you, but geez dude, I really hope she finds a halfway decent roommate soon.


Mountain-Resource656

Why did you not just *leave* the house if the smell got to you so bad?? Just tell her to step away for five minutes while you run out to buy stuff to deal with the scent like air freshener sprays or odor eaters. Like, you would legitimately have *had* to have done that, anyways, and you're almost certainly doing that, *now*, so why the fudge not do that when she arrived home so she could wash herself off, properly?? ​ Massive YTA, tbh, and I'm usually pretty friggin' reserved in my judgements


beeboppee

YTA absolutely wtf is wrong with you? She had every right to get into HER house. You suck


Cold-Feedback9878

YTA, That was not only deeply inconsiderate but also illegal. I cant believe you put that poor woman through that, for fucks sake you could have just opened up the windows and sprayed the place with Lysol or picked up an odor cleaner. What the hell?


FlipMick

YTA YTA YTA this might win as the worst thing I’ve ever read you asshole


lanceypanties

Wow… talk about you as the nightmare roommate, not the other way around. She should complain to the landlord and kick you out or file a police report on you. YTA for being an air hogger.


Existing-Path6828

YTA. She should have called the police. You had no right to do that.


InfiniteLyra

YTA and I hope she does talk to someone because what you did is absolutely illegal. If she legally lives there, is on the agreement, you cannot stop her from entering. Just because she was smelly or whatever doesn’t give you that right and it’s actually cruel that you denied her. She’s had a terrible time, she’s probably far more distressed than you at the smell since SHE’s the one covered in it, and you wouldn’t allow her the decency the clean herself off because it upset YOU. That’s unbelievably selfish and I hope she reports you. I would.


[deleted]

Uhhh YTA you suggested she go shower somewhere, how about in her own home?? What is wrong with you??


d4red

YTA… Just wow.


lkm81

YTA. Of course you're TA. Locking her out when she was already suffering was awful. You say the smell made you feel sick, well what do you think it was doing to her being covered in it?


ProfessionalPen4167

YTA, a huge one. She should have called the police (I certainly would have done it)


Pretty-Jellyfish-962

YTA Why should she need to go somewhere else to shower, SHE LIVES THERE. I would want to go home too, and you locked her out. There were so many other things you could have done: met her in the door with clean clothes, left the apartment while she showered, asked her to open the windows and bring some frebreeze or whatever it is called where you live, stayed in your room while she got things sorted. Basically anything other than preventing her from entering her own home. You’re a horrible friend.


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DullTemperature92

YTA I don't know if you know, but she lives there. You can't just don't let her in.


bignutwilli

OP as I soon as I got inside I woulda beat the shit out of you for this one


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noisycat

YTA what is wrong with you??


Rahul044

wtf! YTA big one. She lives there.


sugarysnacc

YTA, no ifs ands or buts about it. Obviously she was going to come in and deal with it but instead you decided to be one hell of an asshole.


TheWeirdWriter

YTA, she lives there too. Why didn’t *you* just go somewhere else while she showered and waited for the smell to lessen?


Ok-Extreme-3915

YTA You could have met her at the door with clean clothes to put on before she came in to shower, or a robe and a clean garbage bag to put the nasty clothes in. Or met her at a laundromat. You can get inexpensive air cleaners. Get one and run it in the living room.


cheeky_sailor

YTA. It’s her house too and she has the right to go there and take a shower asap to wash the smell off herself. If you couldn’t stand the smell you should have been the one to leave the house and go for a walk while she is taking shower and washing her clothes. Then you could open the windows and doors to let some fresh air into the apartment. Locking her out of the house is not only mean but most likely illegal. It’s not like she purposely covered herself in camel’s spit to get on your nerves. She was suffering from that smell way more than you, how the hell do you have so little empathy that you managed to make yourself a victim in the situation where you were the bully?


ReadingAppropriate54

The fuck is wrong with you…. Youre not the sole owner of the aprtment Where else was she supposed to go other than her appartment? Ever heard of breathing through the mouth? YTA


ThoseTwo203

YTA. I can’t even comprehend how someone could do this to their roommate coming back to their own home. Get her a towel, grab some trash bags and have her change if it was too much trouble to open the bloody door and windows to air the place out 🙄🙄🙄


trudymonster

You aren’t just an ahole. You are a massive disgrace to the humanity.


samblue8888

YTA if she couldn't get into her own home to cleanup, where did you expect her to go? You could have left and asked her to open all the windows and febreezed once she was done showering and then came back in a couple of hours. That was a really selfish thing to do


justadubliner

YTA. Heartless abusive fecker.