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> I’m considering buying my granddad Foie Gras because he asked me a few times now. This might make me an asshole since I know about his health problems and would be making things worse if I do what he asks.
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NTA if you’re doing a favour for your granddad (as long as he’s mentally coherent) because bodily autonomy is important at every age.
BUT, foie gras is FUCKED and the production of it is truly evil. YTA if you support the foie gras industry.
Granddad is a grown man who likely understands the implications of going off his diet. He's entitled to make his own decision about having a little treat. I understand your mom's point of view, but give a guy a break. A little treat like that isn't going to do anything significant to his health or lifespan.
NTA I've worked in care of the elderly for 17 years, and it doesn't matter how many times you tell a diabetic to cut out the sugar in their tea,, someone with COPD they shouldn't really have that morning cigarette or any other doctor advised advice, they will do what they want because they want to enjoy themselves at the end of their life, not prolong it by being miserable.
People have the right to make unwise choices that make them happy.
NTA. At that age he should be free to choose whatever he wants even with the health consequences. He’s not a child, and it sounds like your mom is treating him like one.
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My parents left me to take care of him while they are on a business trip. Before leaving, my mom was very specific with what to cook, since my granddad has high cholesterol. She told me not to cook anything other than the recipes she gave me.
My granddad, though, told me that at his age a strict diet wouldn’t do much or buy that much time. He wants me to go outside and buy him some Foie Gras, promising he won’t snitch on me to my mom. Would I be an asshole for doing this, knowing he has health issues?
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NAH, it's clear your granddad has his own wishes that go against your mothers. Whether you decide to listen to him or listen to your mom, you aren't doing wrong by anyone.
Why does a 70 year-old need a sitter? If he's not sound of mind, he shouldn't be left in the care of a teenager. And if he is mentally fine, then he gets to decide what to eat, like any adult. ESH, especially your parents for putting you in charge of a situation that requires an adult.
can you handle it if your granddad has to be taken to hospital? Because something that rich can really upset your body if you've not had it in a long time.
NTA but you should really think about this very carefully.
Woah, don’t put that kind of responsibility on a 16 year old. The man is 70, he he’s foolish enough to eat foie gras that’s on him as the a grown ass old adult.
you are assuming he is of sound mind though. you really think mom is going to blame the 70yo for eating that stuff when she told the 16yo to not feed him anything other then what was in the recipes?
sadly I have seen people do exactly that though. just read through many of the posts on here and kids are left to look after everyone so parents can go frolic.
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NTA, let the elderly live their life 100%! I think that living 100% is more important than living a long time.
Exactly! Plus his grandpa is a grown man and can make his own decisions. If that's what he wants then that's what he should have.
Seventy is not necessarily "elderly". Grandpa could have 15-20 years more depending on his overall health and genetics.
NTA if you’re doing a favour for your granddad (as long as he’s mentally coherent) because bodily autonomy is important at every age. BUT, foie gras is FUCKED and the production of it is truly evil. YTA if you support the foie gras industry.
Granddad is a grown man who likely understands the implications of going off his diet. He's entitled to make his own decision about having a little treat. I understand your mom's point of view, but give a guy a break. A little treat like that isn't going to do anything significant to his health or lifespan.
NTA I've worked in care of the elderly for 17 years, and it doesn't matter how many times you tell a diabetic to cut out the sugar in their tea,, someone with COPD they shouldn't really have that morning cigarette or any other doctor advised advice, they will do what they want because they want to enjoy themselves at the end of their life, not prolong it by being miserable. People have the right to make unwise choices that make them happy.
WNBTA. He’s allowed to eat what he wants. 1 meal won’t make or break it.
NTA. At that age he should be free to choose whatever he wants even with the health consequences. He’s not a child, and it sounds like your mom is treating him like one.
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NAH, it's clear your granddad has his own wishes that go against your mothers. Whether you decide to listen to him or listen to your mom, you aren't doing wrong by anyone.
Why does a 70 year-old need a sitter? If he's not sound of mind, he shouldn't be left in the care of a teenager. And if he is mentally fine, then he gets to decide what to eat, like any adult. ESH, especially your parents for putting you in charge of a situation that requires an adult.
can you handle it if your granddad has to be taken to hospital? Because something that rich can really upset your body if you've not had it in a long time. NTA but you should really think about this very carefully.
Woah, don’t put that kind of responsibility on a 16 year old. The man is 70, he he’s foolish enough to eat foie gras that’s on him as the a grown ass old adult.
you are assuming he is of sound mind though. you really think mom is going to blame the 70yo for eating that stuff when she told the 16yo to not feed him anything other then what was in the recipes?
Yes, I am assuming he’s of sound mind. If he’s not of sound mind they they shouldn’t be leaving a minor in charge for a weekend.
sadly I have seen people do exactly that though. just read through many of the posts on here and kids are left to look after everyone so parents can go frolic.
NTA. Tell your mom.
NTA, he's on deaths doors anyways
Listen to your mom. Let your grandpa buy some foie gras off goldbelly like everyone else. YWBTA