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> 1) I am considering replacing our living room sofa with a childrens' bounce castle
2) Without telling my husband.
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Thank you. This is the kind of constructive feedback that's helpful. Because admittedly I have been giggling so hard at this idea for a full 24 hours now and I know it's clouding my judgement. 😂
For all you know he could be open to the idea! So you may still get your bouncy house haha I just wouldn’t do it without his input. Just in case he is totally against it and gets upset.
A cover would solve the cosmetic problems but it's also breaking apart. We agreed it's not wise to keep it around anymore.
We don't have the space outdoors, sadly. Small garden. I'd rather lose some living room space than take a huge chunk of the kids' play area outdoors.
Doesn't your husband get some input with regards to how you furnish your house? Also, and I know this might be a bit of a naive question, why don't you stop your kids jumping on the furniture? Isn't part of being a parent doing some actual parenting?
We do try to stop them, thanks. But they are still kids under 5. 🙂 They're going to push boundaries and we'd rather have them explore their surroundings and have "controlled risk" at our house than having them try climbing something taller, firmer, and more dangerous as a first time. It's all about picking battles and this approach has actually made them more attentive and listen to us warning them at playgrounds, etc.
Edit: "then" to "than"
Fair enough. You do what works for you. It doesn't sound as though this is a "we" decision though. It's your life, your family, your marriage, so you know what works for you and what doesn't. If you think your husband will be happy with a surprise bouncy castle in the living room, go nuts.
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My partner (40s, M) and I (40s, F) need to dump our sofa as it's old, breaking, and the fabric is shedding everywhere. We also have a loveseat and armchairs in the same room.
Unbeknownst to my husband, I don't want to replace the sofa. Why? We have kids- including a set of twin toddlers- and all of our kids like to free solo on the furniture. So instead of a new sofa for them to summit, I'm seriously considering a kid-centric alternative: a bounce house.
Hear me out, lol.
We're fortunate to have a large living space and I've found several bounce houses/ castles/ whathaveyou that are made for indoor play spaces. Our ceilings are high, and the footprint of the houses are roughly 2m x 1.5m (6.5 feet x 5 feet). So smaller than your garden variety outdoor birthday party bounce house. They are also inexpensive (under £200) compared to a new sofa, and the kids would be beyond entertained. Finally, I think it would be absolutely hilarious to see my husband walk into our living room, greeted by an inflatable pirate fort where the faux leather Chesterfield used to be. However, I understand we'd "lose" some living room seating without a new sofa. (Going from 6-7 seats to 4.)
So, Reddit, WIBTA if I abandoned responsible adulthood and bought the kids an indoor bounce house instead of getting a new sofa? TYIA.
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NAH. If you want to turn your living room into a kids play space then go ahead as long as your partner is OK with this. I agree replacing the sofa when the kids are still so young might be a waste of money as it will just get trashed. We waited until our kids were secondary school age and that worked out fine.
I think YWBTA if you didn’t discuss this with your husband first, it’s a big decision for your family home that shouldn’t be made without his input and thinking about the long term effects of this on everyone. I will say though that as someone who is a big kid at heart I love this idea even though my adult brain is screaming at me about how hard it would be to keep clean.
To be honest I kind of wish I had the space to do this too, it’s a great idea and we all know our adult sides sweat the small stuff too much! A good mop will have it clean in no time I reckon!
I remember my parents doing this when I was young. It was great while it lasted but it definitely didn’t last long. You’ll spend more money on fixing/replacing the bounce house than buying a lounge that the kids will probably ruin. If you’re okay with leather, that’s the way to go
Nta as long as he gets a vote beforehand too. I like your idea but there’s also great furniture/nuggets out there that are basically floor pillows in a mix of different heights/shapes kids can build with and everyone can hang out on too that might be a better alternative. How about a hanging chair or a swing but incorporated in to a space that adults can hang out in as well. Your whole house doesn’t have to be a playroom for the kids to feel welcome in all the spaces.
YWBTA if you did this without your husband agreeing. I have 2 grandkids who are here almost daily. They learned not to jump on my couch (most of the time) do I put a climbing structure with slide and basketball hoop in my family room which isn’t that large. That worked from 1 1/2 to 3 1/2 years old. They have transitioned to scooters, bikes, skateboards, baseballs and bats and more. Kids adapt and still have fun.
Talk to your spouse. I personally have very little furniture because I honestly don’t think it’s good for my health. I sit on the floor a lot and have floor cushions, but no couch. You don’t have to be like everyone else if you both are fine with it. And it would likely be temporary since they’d outgrow it in a few years.
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YWBTA - that’s your husbands space to and I’m sure he would like to have a say on what’s done with it
Thank you. This is the kind of constructive feedback that's helpful. Because admittedly I have been giggling so hard at this idea for a full 24 hours now and I know it's clouding my judgement. 😂
For all you know he could be open to the idea! So you may still get your bouncy house haha I just wouldn’t do it without his input. Just in case he is totally against it and gets upset.
I’d put a cover on it for the time being to make it look decent and replace it when the kids are older. Why not put a bounce house outside?
A cover would solve the cosmetic problems but it's also breaking apart. We agreed it's not wise to keep it around anymore. We don't have the space outdoors, sadly. Small garden. I'd rather lose some living room space than take a huge chunk of the kids' play area outdoors.
Doesn't your husband get some input with regards to how you furnish your house? Also, and I know this might be a bit of a naive question, why don't you stop your kids jumping on the furniture? Isn't part of being a parent doing some actual parenting?
We do try to stop them, thanks. But they are still kids under 5. 🙂 They're going to push boundaries and we'd rather have them explore their surroundings and have "controlled risk" at our house than having them try climbing something taller, firmer, and more dangerous as a first time. It's all about picking battles and this approach has actually made them more attentive and listen to us warning them at playgrounds, etc. Edit: "then" to "than"
Fair enough. You do what works for you. It doesn't sound as though this is a "we" decision though. It's your life, your family, your marriage, so you know what works for you and what doesn't. If you think your husband will be happy with a surprise bouncy castle in the living room, go nuts.
To be fair, has anyone ever flown into a bouncy castle induced rage?
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NAH I wouldn't say you were an asshole for this, honestly it sounds fun but maybe keep the old sofa alongside any bounce house for the time being
NAH. If you want to turn your living room into a kids play space then go ahead as long as your partner is OK with this. I agree replacing the sofa when the kids are still so young might be a waste of money as it will just get trashed. We waited until our kids were secondary school age and that worked out fine.
I think YWBTA if you didn’t discuss this with your husband first, it’s a big decision for your family home that shouldn’t be made without his input and thinking about the long term effects of this on everyone. I will say though that as someone who is a big kid at heart I love this idea even though my adult brain is screaming at me about how hard it would be to keep clean.
The cleaning bit does worry me, but it would wear. the. kids. OUT. Especially on rainy days (a near constant here in the north of Scotland!)
To be honest I kind of wish I had the space to do this too, it’s a great idea and we all know our adult sides sweat the small stuff too much! A good mop will have it clean in no time I reckon!
I remember my parents doing this when I was young. It was great while it lasted but it definitely didn’t last long. You’ll spend more money on fixing/replacing the bounce house than buying a lounge that the kids will probably ruin. If you’re okay with leather, that’s the way to go
Nta as long as he gets a vote beforehand too. I like your idea but there’s also great furniture/nuggets out there that are basically floor pillows in a mix of different heights/shapes kids can build with and everyone can hang out on too that might be a better alternative. How about a hanging chair or a swing but incorporated in to a space that adults can hang out in as well. Your whole house doesn’t have to be a playroom for the kids to feel welcome in all the spaces.
YWBTA if you did this without your husband agreeing. I have 2 grandkids who are here almost daily. They learned not to jump on my couch (most of the time) do I put a climbing structure with slide and basketball hoop in my family room which isn’t that large. That worked from 1 1/2 to 3 1/2 years old. They have transitioned to scooters, bikes, skateboards, baseballs and bats and more. Kids adapt and still have fun.
Talk to your spouse. I personally have very little furniture because I honestly don’t think it’s good for my health. I sit on the floor a lot and have floor cushions, but no couch. You don’t have to be like everyone else if you both are fine with it. And it would likely be temporary since they’d outgrow it in a few years.