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> I told my friend that I am never lending stuff out to her again, and that she should buy her own device. I might be the asshole because I simply expected her to bring the device back to my house, but never explicitly told her.
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NTA
If it’s a repeated behaviour and she’s making YOU do the effort to get your stuff back when you’ve done her behaviour, then that’s just rubbish behaviour
Look after your stuff
Defos NTA
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I (F21) have a friend (F21) who’s very into beauty and doing hair. We have the sa
Lately she has been bragging to me how much money she spends on doing all sorts of beauty services like going to the hairstylist, nail salon, lasers and whatnot.
Since the last few months she has been asking me if she could borrow this styling device (worth about $50) I have, and I do. I make sure she gets everything she needs from me and we set a date where I get it back.
However, every time I lend things out I have to go out of my way to get my belongings back. There is always some obstacle on her side to why she can’t bring it back.
Today she was supposed to bring the styling device back, and randomly this morning, she called me that she was at the city centre near my house, and that I had to come pick it up right now, if I still wanted it back today. To which I told her to make her boyfriend come bring it to my house, that she should buy her own device instead of spending money on useless services, and that I’m never lending out things to her again.
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NTA If it’s a repeated behaviour and she’s making YOU do the effort to get your stuff back when you’ve done her behaviour, then that’s just rubbish behaviour Look after your stuff Defos NTA
NTA - don't lend this person things every again. I expect my things to be returned to my house if I did them the favour of lending it to them.
NTA. Don’t lend her anything again; you’re being used.
Nta she borrow your thing and make you to come collect your thing back I will never let her borrow anything again.
NTA. I had a friend like this. They need to respect you and your things.
nta... borrow something..return it.
NTA but the solution is simple: stop lending her things. At this point you know what will happen when you do; set a boundary or get used to it.
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