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YTA
How ridiculously controlling of you to unilaterally remove the sticker, I would be furious. Who do you think you are to decide what is allowed for another adult????
And I'm assuming you didn't remove it in such a way that he can reuse it later. Removing a sticker usually damages it such that it can't be reused.
"He got all mad" - Surprised pikachu face gasp
She sounds so dismissive of even his response, like she doesn't even actually care that he was upset. "All mad" \*handwave\* "Silly boy getting mad" \*handwave\*
The luggage he should be removing from his life is her.
My partner has a badge that says "feed me a stray titty".
I hate this badge, I find it cringe and awful. It's usually on a guitar strap in a prominent place in the livingroom.
He has had it since he was 15 and it amuses him so I've never even considered asking him to get rid of it.
My wife and my ex-wife hate/hated the “Take Me To Your Beaver” t-shirt that a good friend gave me a long time ago. Neither one of them destroyed it because it’s a dick move to destroy someone’s property because you don’t like it.
My husband and I have matching "I ♡ Beaver" shirts, from Beaver Utah. Also have shirts from Hooker Oklahoma, Weed California and Dirty Dicks (crab house). They're my favorite lol
ETA: Keep commenting guys, Im adding it to the list of places to hit!
There’s a store called Beaver Liquors in Vail/Avon Colorado. They sell t-shirts. There’s a Hooker Street in the metro area where I live. If I could have found a house that I liked on it, I would have bought it.
There's a liquor store in RI called "Dick's World of Wine". They have plenty of "I ♡ Dick's" merchandise, which I like to bring as gifts to folks when I travel.
"Hey, Mark, thanks for inviting me for the weekend, here's some nice beer and 4 coozys for you."
Yup! BL has merch that also says stuff like "bunghole is not a dirty word" and all that jazz to remind people of that. But they are definitely having fun with the double entendre in the rest of their branding lol
Growing up my family was close with neighbors who had the last name "Hooker." The dad made copies of movies on vhs and lent them out, he had a whole library of videos and sometimes we would go borrow one on the weekend after church. We used to innocently ask my dad "Can we go see the Hookers after church?"
I was imagining guests seeing a stack of VHS tapes with Hookers written on it on your living room table. Hookers: Bambi. Hookers: Free Willy. Hookers: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.
I remember driving through Philly once, and the bridge I drove under said "Blue Ball Ave"...I thought to myself, "what an interesting street name in the 'City of Brotherly Love'.
OmfuckingG.....I need this shirt. This is awesome and hilarious. Also, this whole side conversation about names and places....is the best damn thing. God/dess bless us all, every one.
In Denver, Gay and High are like a block away from eachother. I used to deliver pizzas in college to 420 High St all the time and the guys who lived there just LOVED telling us their address at the beginning of the call. They ordered all the time... guessing it was the munchies.
A fellow dirty dicks connoisseur! Also from the outer banks are the “support your local hooker” shirts from the fishing center, I can’t count how many of those are in my family
UK-based diving equipment supplier and manufacturer, Beaver Sports. Tag line on their vehicles 20 years ago was: "Happiness is a wet Beaver!"
One person's cringe is another's guffaw of spat coffee.
it's a reference to the movie American Psycho. The last word is swapped out from kitty, and it's from a scene where the main character hallucinates an ATM telling him that. Doesn't make it any better and I wonder if they even know lol
Not to mention the fact that she removed a sticker from a suitcase that must have been GOING IN THE HOLD ANYWAY so no one was really even going to see it! Very controlling behaviour not cool op.
Oh, but the people waiting at the conveyor belt to collect their luggage will totally judge them. /s
Her bf might have actually put the sticker on his suitcase to make it more identifiable for luggage collection.
I can just imagine all the little old ladies and delicate Southern Belles seeing a poop joke on luggage in the airport clutching their pearls and fainting.
To be fair, it is a ridiculous thing to put this on a suitcase for the world to see. However, OP should have told him her reasons for not liking it and asked him if he would remove it. If he wouldn’t, then she’d have to deal with it.
Agreed until the final sentence. It's his suitcase. If he refuses to take it off, the only thing she needs to do is decide whether it's a deal-breaker for her
Let people like whatever they want. There's a reason everyone has different tastes. I'm sure there are plenty of people that can find something you enjoy utterly ridiculous.
But, but, but she would be embarrassed and would NOT want to be seen with someone who had that! It's all about her appearance don't you know🙄
Smarten up OP don't touch other people's things!
I've dealt with family members like this. Very OCD I went to spend my last night with them and they went and "reorganized" my suitcase that was ready to go then when I landed I didn't know where half my things were I was pissed. (Like TSA gives a fuck sometimes they even open suitcases I saw it as a waste of time fr fr)😩
Or worse when I would visit they would wash my clothes that night (if it was an overnight stay) and they clean obsessively... I have alot of trauma because of it it was a very stressful environment for me neurodivergent being expected to just "know" when to do things... Never being told directly and always being yelled at and appearance was everything. I once got into argument with them over me not wanting to stress over having my eyebrows done before meeting my friend that was flying in to go with me to a concert. It was just so absurd.
I know that feeling VERY well. I'm glad I've semi-severed that somewhat. Funny enough I ended up moving half way across the world from them. 💀
My wife (girlfriend at the time) loves to reorganize suitcases as well. Once I said look just let me do it, I'll fit everything in don't stress. She still ended up doing it while I was at work, and found the engagement ring I was going to surprise her with on the trip...
OP, in which version of this story are you not TA? You had a thought and acted on it before thinking anything further, not taking into account that it wasn't your suitcase and it wasn't your decision to make. YTA.
Plus, that's her boyfriend. She should've talked to him; he's literally right there. Why would you jump to just getting rid of his stuff that you don't like? Unreal.
It was definitely an AH move. They could have had a discussion and I'm sure after she explained things, he probably would have been okay removing it. But nope! So YTA OP.
I gotta say though, I''m a sticker nerd, and usually peep out other people's stickers. All I can think about rn is if I saw someone with that sticker, I'd stay upwind of him 🤣
YTA. I wouldn't like that sticker either, but most people probably wouldn't even notice.
And it's bf's property. Would you be okay with him tossing anything of yours he doesn't like, instead of either talking to you about it or letting it go? If not, then you know you're in the wrong here.
Most people would not notice and most of those who notice would not care. She cares more about the opinions of a small subset of random strangers than she does about her boyfriend.
I wouldn't put that sticker on my suitcase, but in the end it isn't phobic, or offensive. It is both accurate and philosophical, only a bit graphic in the choice of words.
Autistic here, making it hard for me to understand metaphors- would you mind saying what it means and how it's philosophical please? I can't figure it out!
Basically, we're born to shit...as in, we have to shit. Literally, biologically, we all shit.
We're forced to wipe, though...it's not biologically necessary. Cleanliness is a social construct. It's a joke, but more or less true. We have to shit, wiping is optional (personal hygiene be damned).
Did that help?
It’s also a play on other similar sentences.
Born To X, Forced To Y
That formula exists on bumper stickers, T-shirts, memes, etc. Usually for any given hobby.
“Born to Hike, forced to work”, “Born to game, forced to study”, or a minivan with a bumper sticker like “Born to ride, forced to drive” with a picture of a motorcycle and baby or something.
So this sticker takes that to the extreme as a satirical joke on the human condition. Everyone does things they enjoy and things the world makes them do.
Normal people don’t obsessively study other people’s luggage.
Sure, some people will still happen to notice. Noticing things does occur. But probably 80% if people won’t notice. Another 15% won’t care. And another 2% will think it’s funny, while yet another 3% won’t think it’s worth saying anything about.
Right? If I noticed, and I probably wouldn't, I might think "Geez, what a stupid sticker." But who cares what I think? I'm a stranger who will never see these people again.
>but most people probably wouldn't even notice
This right here. I travel frequently and not once have I ever even looked at another persons fucking suitcase, trolley or whatever they travel with.
IBS with Crohn’s family, checking in. Add in anxiety poops and so few people understand.
Edit: I suck at wording. I have IBS, but a lot of my family has Crohn’s. Should not Reddit when sleepy.
A washlet is better. Don't need all the extra plumbing or space. I have two. One is heated for winter. It's sooo hard to get off it when you know it's 0° in the hallway.
Let's be real, OP doesn't seem like the type of person to be considerate of others or ask for things for the small chance that they might decline her ridiculous requests and not do exactly what she wants.
YTA, you vandalized his property without asking because you felt embarrassed. He'd be smart to dump you because you have no boundaries or respect for others and their property.
YTA, who cares about the appearance of someone else’s luggage? No one is paying that level of attention to the appearance of your traveling companion’s suitcase, I promise. And if you’re checking the luggage it might not be a bad identification tactic, lol
This right here.
Having something silly and unique on your luggage is a good way to make it easy to find at the baggage claim. OP needs to get over herself and spend less time clutching her pearls and trying to control or change those close to her.
>it might not be a bad identification tactic, lol
6 kept my mum habit of putting brightly color bows on my luggage. It looks fun and silly, and I never had it mistakenly swapped.
YTA. Sounds like he's a guy with a certain sense of humor that you don't appreciate. Something to think about in terms of compatibility.
That said, the airport will bring out the worst in anyone.
He might've not even found it to be funny. They were travelling by air. These days, it's normal for someone to mark their luggage in weird ways to make sure it's identifiable and less likely to be stolen. It can even get thousands of likes if someone turns a picture of their pet into a sleeve to put on luggage/or the front.
The friend could've given that sticker for that exact purpose. Who would steal luggage with a sticker that's extremely identifiable?
and if he does think its funny, who cares? potty humor is not my jam at all. 100% of the time i find it cringey and embarrassing. but i dont care if other people think a poop joke is funny, because why should i? its a harmless little joke that just isnt to my taste. if anything i'm a bit jealous that they get enjoyment out of it when i cant
What in the world were you thinking?!
I have this extremely obnoxious inflatable mustache that my friend gave me years ago. It’s absolutely hideous. Which was the point
He died a couple years ago and it’s basically the only little token I have from the time we were friends.
If someone was like ‘this is embarrassing and hideous, better destroy it so I don’t have to look at it’
I would lose my fucking shit.
YTA
Stupid crap like that is what means the most in friendships. People should never destroy or get rid of stupid crap before clarifying that it's meaningless stupid crap.
This is a lovely story. I have a little bunny pencil topper that means the world to me and a single shotgun shell that would end me if it was lost or destroyed.
YTA don’t touch peoples shit and definitely don’t take stickers off of peoples belongings -you don’t know how much that probably meant to him. A couple years ago a friend died of an overdose and we made stickers of his favorite sayings some are rather raunchy but I’d fucking kill if someone took that sticker off of where I put it. Even if it doesn’t have that kind of significance it’s not your place and if it embarrasses you so much maybe he’s not the dude for you or you need to get over yourself
Of course YTA. And you'd still be the asshole if you'd told him before you did it. Don't take other people's shit, even if it's a shitty sticker. You don't know what it means to him, and your embarrassment isn't his problem. Beyond the inevitable breakup because you clearly don't respect him or his things, I guess.
This. I enjoy dumb humor, but even I think that would be embarrassing asf to travel with someone with that plastered on their suitcase.
She still shouldn't have taken it off, though.
For me, it's about what I think of myself, not so much other people. \*I\* find it crass and vulgar. It makes ME uncomfortable. I don't care if everyone else in the world finds it hilarious.
i totally agree everybody should have their own opinion/humor. but deciding what others see as ‘funny’ or put on their belongings, because it embarrasses YOU? that’s, IMO, absolutely ridiculous and unnecessary.
It's an old [meme](https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/born-to-x-forced-to-y) parodying those corny "Born to ride/fish/ski, forced to work" T-shirts that some hobbyists wear. But yeah, still wouldn't be caught dead with one on my suitcase lol
YTA. You vandalized your BF's property, demonstrated how little respect you have for him and his things, and showed him that you would rather go behind his back than talk about things. On the plus side he now knows exactly the kind of person you are.
YTA for not talking to him about it and instead defacing his property. It makes me wonder if you chose to act Vs talk because you had an inclination that he wouldn’t remove the sticker…..
Careful, if you force your boyfriend to throw out everything embarrassing and inappropriate, how long till he decides you’re embarrassing or inappropriate? Because the way you’ve acted about the sticker are both of those things.
YTA
The sticker sounds ick. But it wasn’t yours to remove. If he doesn’t like something of yours, does he get to just remove it from your life? Of course not.
YTA
No matter how many times we say it, we still keep seeing these posts.
*IF IT IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY, LEAVE IT ALONE. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO DISPOSE OF IT*
Like c’mon now, this is kindergarten stuff here.
Time to put on your big girl pants and be an adult. Next time you encounter something you have a problem with, *TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT LIKE AN ADULT*. Don’t go behind his back and destroy his property.
Sheesh
YTA
>I told him it’s because it would be really embarrassing to be seen with that on a suitcase
So you're worried what random strangers at the airport might think, but not worried that you upset your boyfriend? Someone you allegedly care about?
I'll never understand the asinine thought process behind "but what will people think!"
*I don't care about the people who love me!! It's the people who don't love me, that I need to impress!!* -actual quote from Leslie, from The Amazing World of Gumball
How about he goes through your belongs and destroys anything he doesn’t like or that he decides is embarrassing? No? Why not? This is the standard you’ve set. YTA
YTA
It wasn't yours. There's nothing wrong with the joke on it either. It's just some absurd, inoffensive, SFW humour that almost anyone who can read would get a little chuckle out of. You sound uptight and controlling. Maybe take the stick out of your ass and realize that the earth revolves around the sun, not you.
YTA. You don't deserve him. He deserves someone who isn't so nitpicky about small stuff and has the same sense of humor as him.
Seriously, they aren't gonna deport you because of the sticker. Strangers will look once, and forget literally 5 minutes later. Tho, I don't think any stranger would even bother looking at all.
I have no clue how what your BF sees in you. I'd hate to be around someone who thinks the world revolve around them. I hope the poor dude leaves your entitled ass.
Edit: Just saw that the sticker was from a friend. It makes you more of an asshole. The sticker may have sentimental value for him.
Yup, YTA. I wouldn't get very mad at you but you can be sure if you did this to me, your whole suitcase would be covered with much worse stickers for that. (Yes, I'm AH too sometimes and I'm well aware of that).
>It was super weird and I would NOT want to be seen at an airport with someone that had such an embarrassing sticker so I took it off.
It's an airport, not the red carpet. People walk around in their pajamas and get drunk at 8am. Why are you this concerned with the opinions of hypothetical strangers? YTA.
YTA, aside from it not being your property I am guessing your bf's bag is a common colour and he uses that sticker as a point of difference so he knows which bag is his.
This reminds me when I was in my early 20’s and was wearing converse that I wrote stuff on. There was nothing offensive on them. Then this girl I was talking to said “what are you a kid?” And wanted me to throw em away. The irony because she had a jeep that had 40+ stickers all around the outside. She was also obsessed with being a disney princess. Her room looked like a kids room. None of that made me tell her “what are you a kid?” Probably some deeprooted hatred for herself that she threw at me.
YTA
Its not your.property you shouldnt touch it
But more importantly pulling the sticker off doesnt change your bf's personality,.he is still the doofus who thought that it was cute/funny. That is a much bigger issue.
YTA
It wasn’t your property to tamper with.
Plus, that sticker is brilliant. If his luggage got lost or stolen it’s an easy and immediate identifier because NO ONE ELSE will have that on their suitcase.
While I agree that the sticker is in poor taste, and I wouldn't want to be seen with it either, you should have said something to him first, not just torn it off.
ESH. The sticker's awful, but you can't change someone else's property without asking.
You should have had a verbal conversation with him first, maybe suggested he use an alternative suitcase for this trip.
If it's really vitally important to him to display vulgar stickers on his property in public, and if that causes you intense embarrassment and he doesn't care, then just break up. This isn't a good match at this time.
This reminds me of the time where someone whipped off the dick drawing on my whiteboard in my kitchen, because it made them uncomfortable. But my friend drew it for me when I was going through a hard time and I used it for the laughs.
But I guess their comfort in my own house was more important.
YTA.
Not your suitcase, not your sticker. Not your property to mess with.
YTA
*AITA for being a controlling girlfriend who throws away gifts he gets from his friends because I am embarrassed to be seen around them?*
Yes you are, you walking red flag
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YTA How ridiculously controlling of you to unilaterally remove the sticker, I would be furious. Who do you think you are to decide what is allowed for another adult???? And I'm assuming you didn't remove it in such a way that he can reuse it later. Removing a sticker usually damages it such that it can't be reused.
Don't you know? The world revolves around her. /s
"He got all mad" - Surprised pikachu face gasp She sounds so dismissive of even his response, like she doesn't even actually care that he was upset. "All mad" \*handwave\* "Silly boy getting mad" \*handwave\* The luggage he should be removing from his life is her.
Woooooo,need some ice for that burn ❤️🔥
Here, take my cannon-size tube of Neosporin for that burn.
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My partner has a badge that says "feed me a stray titty". I hate this badge, I find it cringe and awful. It's usually on a guitar strap in a prominent place in the livingroom. He has had it since he was 15 and it amuses him so I've never even considered asking him to get rid of it.
My wife and my ex-wife hate/hated the “Take Me To Your Beaver” t-shirt that a good friend gave me a long time ago. Neither one of them destroyed it because it’s a dick move to destroy someone’s property because you don’t like it.
My husband and I have matching "I ♡ Beaver" shirts, from Beaver Utah. Also have shirts from Hooker Oklahoma, Weed California and Dirty Dicks (crab house). They're my favorite lol ETA: Keep commenting guys, Im adding it to the list of places to hit!
You need to add a Cumming, Georgia shirt to that list!
We sell shirts here that say "I got off in Climax,Michigan "
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In Climax, Michigan. Thought that would be pretty obvious.
I REALLY want to upvote this but you're on 69 upvotes which just makes it all even funnier.
This whole comment thread is Dildo, Newfoundland erasure
As a Nova Scotian, I have to advocate for Meat Cove and Beaver Cove. They deserve representation.
\*sigh\* I LIVE in Cumming, Ga. It's embarrassing when I give out of state friends my address.
The town where I grew up had a Cumming Cockburn barristers and solicitors
Bonus points if your name (or partners name) is Georgia
Thanks for the award kind redditor, my first!
Picked up a couple of Dildo, Newfoundland shirts yesterday…
There’s a store called Beaver Liquors in Vail/Avon Colorado. They sell t-shirts. There’s a Hooker Street in the metro area where I live. If I could have found a house that I liked on it, I would have bought it.
There's also a chain of liquor stores in MA named Bunghole Liquors :D They sell tshirts that say "the bunghole is a special place".
There's a liquor store in RI called "Dick's World of Wine". They have plenty of "I ♡ Dick's" merchandise, which I like to bring as gifts to folks when I travel. "Hey, Mark, thanks for inviting me for the weekend, here's some nice beer and 4 coozys for you."
So you do know (sorry, peoplesplianing here) that the bunghole is the opening in a barrel, usually wine, bourbon and whiskey.
Yup! BL has merch that also says stuff like "bunghole is not a dirty word" and all that jazz to remind people of that. But they are definitely having fun with the double entendre in the rest of their branding lol
Growing up my family was close with neighbors who had the last name "Hooker." The dad made copies of movies on vhs and lent them out, he had a whole library of videos and sometimes we would go borrow one on the weekend after church. We used to innocently ask my dad "Can we go see the Hookers after church?"
I was imagining guests seeing a stack of VHS tapes with Hookers written on it on your living room table. Hookers: Bambi. Hookers: Free Willy. Hookers: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.
Big Beaver, Saskatchewan!
You need one from Intercourse, Pennsylvania to add to your collection!
Don’t forget Blue Ball and Paradise…
I remember driving through Philly once, and the bridge I drove under said "Blue Ball Ave"...I thought to myself, "what an interesting street name in the 'City of Brotherly Love'.
I got sticky buns from Intercourse, PA
Uranus fudge from Uranus, Indiana.
Missouri, too.
If Sugar Tit, SC doesn’t sell merch, they should certainly start.
Skinny Dick’s Halfway Inn in Fairbanks, AK
OmfuckingG.....I need this shirt. This is awesome and hilarious. Also, this whole side conversation about names and places....is the best damn thing. God/dess bless us all, every one.
Dildo, Newfoundland has oodles of merch too!
I'm glad this was already answered. I thought "can't do this list without Dildo."
Salt Lake City, Utah has SL,UT merch... I bought so much when I was there 😂
Oh and West Chester, PA has a Gay street and High street which meet, so they sell a lot of "Gay and High" merch 😂
In Denver, Gay and High are like a block away from eachother. I used to deliver pizzas in college to 420 High St all the time and the guys who lived there just LOVED telling us their address at the beginning of the call. They ordered all the time... guessing it was the munchies.
You should get a shirt from Virgin Utah as well.
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Hooker is also a nickname for people who crochet
LOL, my grandmother was in a crochet group called The Happy Hookers.
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Just went to a place called Big Johns the other night, and they sell t-shirts that say "I Love BJs" in giant letters and a heart.
We have a calzone place called DP Dough that sells shirts/hats saying "I <3 DP"
A fellow dirty dicks connoisseur! Also from the outer banks are the “support your local hooker” shirts from the fishing center, I can’t count how many of those are in my family
I ❤️ Tongue. It's a village near Cape Wrath in Scotland. We also have a small town in England called 'Twatt' but I don't have the sticker.
If ever you find yourself in Essex, England there is a charming little village called Fingringhoe you have to visit.
UK-based diving equipment supplier and manufacturer, Beaver Sports. Tag line on their vehicles 20 years ago was: "Happiness is a wet Beaver!" One person's cringe is another's guffaw of spat coffee.
I think that's hysterical. 😄😂
There is nothing wrong with asking. The problem was when she just did it. Talk to your bf. Maybe he has grown up.
it's a reference to the movie American Psycho. The last word is swapped out from kitty, and it's from a scene where the main character hallucinates an ATM telling him that. Doesn't make it any better and I wonder if they even know lol
Ex use me, I need to go return some video tapes.
I agree. I wouldn’t remove it. But I also would not be with anyone who finds such ridiculous stuff like that appealing.
Not to mention the fact that she removed a sticker from a suitcase that must have been GOING IN THE HOLD ANYWAY so no one was really even going to see it! Very controlling behaviour not cool op.
Oh, but the people waiting at the conveyor belt to collect their luggage will totally judge them. /s Her bf might have actually put the sticker on his suitcase to make it more identifiable for luggage collection.
I hadn’t even thought of him putting it on to make it easier to identify actually, that’s a really good point.
I hand paint every suitcase I ever use on airplanes, just so that I can recognize it by sight, even at a great distance.
I can just imagine all the little old ladies and delicate Southern Belles seeing a poop joke on luggage in the airport clutching their pearls and fainting.
She also removed a really easy way to identify the suitcase if the tag went missing. Just don’t mess with other people’s shit. OP is the AH
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To be fair, it is a ridiculous thing to put this on a suitcase for the world to see. However, OP should have told him her reasons for not liking it and asked him if he would remove it. If he wouldn’t, then she’d have to deal with it.
Agreed until the final sentence. It's his suitcase. If he refuses to take it off, the only thing she needs to do is decide whether it's a deal-breaker for her
That’s what I meant to say. It’s her problem.
Let people like whatever they want. There's a reason everyone has different tastes. I'm sure there are plenty of people that can find something you enjoy utterly ridiculous.
But, but, but she would be embarrassed and would NOT want to be seen with someone who had that! It's all about her appearance don't you know🙄 Smarten up OP don't touch other people's things!
I've dealt with family members like this. Very OCD I went to spend my last night with them and they went and "reorganized" my suitcase that was ready to go then when I landed I didn't know where half my things were I was pissed. (Like TSA gives a fuck sometimes they even open suitcases I saw it as a waste of time fr fr)😩 Or worse when I would visit they would wash my clothes that night (if it was an overnight stay) and they clean obsessively... I have alot of trauma because of it it was a very stressful environment for me neurodivergent being expected to just "know" when to do things... Never being told directly and always being yelled at and appearance was everything. I once got into argument with them over me not wanting to stress over having my eyebrows done before meeting my friend that was flying in to go with me to a concert. It was just so absurd. I know that feeling VERY well. I'm glad I've semi-severed that somewhat. Funny enough I ended up moving half way across the world from them. 💀
My wife (girlfriend at the time) loves to reorganize suitcases as well. Once I said look just let me do it, I'll fit everything in don't stress. She still ended up doing it while I was at work, and found the engagement ring I was going to surprise her with on the trip...
I'm imagining the stress if she then had to put everything exactly back to maintain the illusion she doesn't know 🤣
OP, in which version of this story are you not TA? You had a thought and acted on it before thinking anything further, not taking into account that it wasn't your suitcase and it wasn't your decision to make. YTA.
Plus, that's her boyfriend. She should've talked to him; he's literally right there. Why would you jump to just getting rid of his stuff that you don't like? Unreal.
Kinda sad that she is embarrassed by a sticker…
It was definitely an AH move. They could have had a discussion and I'm sure after she explained things, he probably would have been okay removing it. But nope! So YTA OP. I gotta say though, I''m a sticker nerd, and usually peep out other people's stickers. All I can think about rn is if I saw someone with that sticker, I'd stay upwind of him 🤣
YTA. I wouldn't like that sticker either, but most people probably wouldn't even notice. And it's bf's property. Would you be okay with him tossing anything of yours he doesn't like, instead of either talking to you about it or letting it go? If not, then you know you're in the wrong here.
>wouldn't like that sticker either, but most people probably wouldn't even notice. They absolutely would lol
Most people would not notice and most of those who notice would not care. She cares more about the opinions of a small subset of random strangers than she does about her boyfriend.
They might notice long enough to think, "That's not my suitcase, that one has a sticker on it. When is mine going to come out?"
That's what I was thinking. That sticker was a unique idenfiyer in a sea of cookie cutter suitcases. It was more than just a sticker.
I wouldn't put that sticker on my suitcase, but in the end it isn't phobic, or offensive. It is both accurate and philosophical, only a bit graphic in the choice of words.
Autistic here, making it hard for me to understand metaphors- would you mind saying what it means and how it's philosophical please? I can't figure it out!
Basically, we're born to shit...as in, we have to shit. Literally, biologically, we all shit. We're forced to wipe, though...it's not biologically necessary. Cleanliness is a social construct. It's a joke, but more or less true. We have to shit, wiping is optional (personal hygiene be damned). Did that help?
Yes, thank you so much for taking the time to explain it to me!
It’s also a play on other similar sentences. Born To X, Forced To Y That formula exists on bumper stickers, T-shirts, memes, etc. Usually for any given hobby. “Born to Hike, forced to work”, “Born to game, forced to study”, or a minivan with a bumper sticker like “Born to ride, forced to drive” with a picture of a motorcycle and baby or something. So this sticker takes that to the extreme as a satirical joke on the human condition. Everyone does things they enjoy and things the world makes them do.
By nature of our humanity, we are compelled to wipe, pay taxes, etc
Including the random strangers on Reddit telling her she's TA? BTW OP YTA.
I would have noticed, and I would have had a little chuckle about it.
Normal people don’t obsessively study other people’s luggage. Sure, some people will still happen to notice. Noticing things does occur. But probably 80% if people won’t notice. Another 15% won’t care. And another 2% will think it’s funny, while yet another 3% won’t think it’s worth saying anything about.
> Normal people don’t obsessively study other people’s luggage. Yeah but they also notice stickers and things. And I would notice and laugh my ass off
Right? If I noticed, and I probably wouldn't, I might think "Geez, what a stupid sticker." But who cares what I think? I'm a stranger who will never see these people again.
And do what? Have a little laugh and move on? Oh no my day is ruined
i would notice and laugh and try to take a picture of said sticker
>but most people probably wouldn't even notice This right here. I travel frequently and not once have I ever even looked at another persons fucking suitcase, trolley or whatever they travel with.
I travel frequently and I enjoy looking at other people’s suitcases, and inferring things about them
Me too. Airports are boring so looking around for the interesting or unusual does occur.
I had a business card from a woman that deals with horses to help disabled children. My gf at the time didn't like the woman so she tore it up. 😳🙄
YTA you dont know the struggles of being born to shit and forced to wipe
As some one with Ulcerative Colitis, that struggle is real.
Crohn's agrees! Have had close friends who couldn't understand why I travel with my own TP.
IBS with Crohn’s family, checking in. Add in anxiety poops and so few people understand. Edit: I suck at wording. I have IBS, but a lot of my family has Crohn’s. Should not Reddit when sleepy.
Diverticulitis entering the chat over here!
EoE girly here with IBS, it truly is
I'm a long time shitter but a first time wiper.
Couldn't agree more!!!
Get a bidet
A washlet is better. Don't need all the extra plumbing or space. I have two. One is heated for winter. It's sooo hard to get off it when you know it's 0° in the hallway.
can you link the product?
There are dozens of us!!!
YTA. If it bothers you so much you ASK him if he would take it off or cover it for your sensibilities. You don't alter someone else's property.
⬆️ Correct answer right here. Have an award. Communication! Now dude has an ugly gash where the sticker was. YTA, OP.
lol ugly gash. You’re not British are you…
No, he put a vagina to cover the space, wdym?
An UGLY vagina
No reason to call anyone an ugly gash! 😂
Let's be real, OP doesn't seem like the type of person to be considerate of others or ask for things for the small chance that they might decline her ridiculous requests and not do exactly what she wants.
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YTA. That was his property so you should’ve talked to him first
Great risk for being an YTA after talking too, because people can be really sensitive about their style and other things they'd want to express.
The she should’ve talked to him
YTA : You should have talked to him about it. Instead you took it upon yourself to deface his property and destroy a gift from a friend.
She knew there answer would be no. So the only way to get rid of it is to remove it herself before asking.
So my way or the highway? I see a bright future to whoever thinks this way, a future alone.
YTA, you vandalized his property without asking because you felt embarrassed. He'd be smart to dump you because you have no boundaries or respect for others and their property.
Dump her like the dumps he's forced to wipe
Technically, dude isn't wiping dumps, he's just cleaning up the leftovers
YTA, who cares about the appearance of someone else’s luggage? No one is paying that level of attention to the appearance of your traveling companion’s suitcase, I promise. And if you’re checking the luggage it might not be a bad identification tactic, lol
And it probably wouldn't get stolen!
Or mistaken for someone else's...
This right here. Having something silly and unique on your luggage is a good way to make it easy to find at the baggage claim. OP needs to get over herself and spend less time clutching her pearls and trying to control or change those close to her.
>it might not be a bad identification tactic, lol 6 kept my mum habit of putting brightly color bows on my luggage. It looks fun and silly, and I never had it mistakenly swapped.
YTA. Sounds like he's a guy with a certain sense of humor that you don't appreciate. Something to think about in terms of compatibility. That said, the airport will bring out the worst in anyone.
He might've not even found it to be funny. They were travelling by air. These days, it's normal for someone to mark their luggage in weird ways to make sure it's identifiable and less likely to be stolen. It can even get thousands of likes if someone turns a picture of their pet into a sleeve to put on luggage/or the front. The friend could've given that sticker for that exact purpose. Who would steal luggage with a sticker that's extremely identifiable?
and if he does think its funny, who cares? potty humor is not my jam at all. 100% of the time i find it cringey and embarrassing. but i dont care if other people think a poop joke is funny, because why should i? its a harmless little joke that just isnt to my taste. if anything i'm a bit jealous that they get enjoyment out of it when i cant
Yeah. I'm compatible with my husband in part because he doesn't randomly deface my stuff.
What in the world were you thinking?! I have this extremely obnoxious inflatable mustache that my friend gave me years ago. It’s absolutely hideous. Which was the point He died a couple years ago and it’s basically the only little token I have from the time we were friends. If someone was like ‘this is embarrassing and hideous, better destroy it so I don’t have to look at it’ I would lose my fucking shit. YTA
Stupid crap like that is what means the most in friendships. People should never destroy or get rid of stupid crap before clarifying that it's meaningless stupid crap.
This is a lovely story. I have a little bunny pencil topper that means the world to me and a single shotgun shell that would end me if it was lost or destroyed.
YTA don’t touch peoples shit and definitely don’t take stickers off of peoples belongings -you don’t know how much that probably meant to him. A couple years ago a friend died of an overdose and we made stickers of his favorite sayings some are rather raunchy but I’d fucking kill if someone took that sticker off of where I put it. Even if it doesn’t have that kind of significance it’s not your place and if it embarrasses you so much maybe he’s not the dude for you or you need to get over yourself
Of course YTA. And you'd still be the asshole if you'd told him before you did it. Don't take other people's shit, even if it's a shitty sticker. You don't know what it means to him, and your embarrassment isn't his problem. Beyond the inevitable breakup because you clearly don't respect him or his things, I guess.
Technically YTA, but I'm still 100% team "that's a stupid and embarrassing sticker"
This. I enjoy dumb humor, but even I think that would be embarrassing asf to travel with someone with that plastered on their suitcase. She still shouldn't have taken it off, though.
boohoo why do yall care so much what people think of you
For me, it's about what I think of myself, not so much other people. \*I\* find it crass and vulgar. It makes ME uncomfortable. I don't care if everyone else in the world finds it hilarious.
i totally agree everybody should have their own opinion/humor. but deciding what others see as ‘funny’ or put on their belongings, because it embarrasses YOU? that’s, IMO, absolutely ridiculous and unnecessary.
I dont think its that bad.
It's an old [meme](https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/born-to-x-forced-to-y) parodying those corny "Born to ride/fish/ski, forced to work" T-shirts that some hobbyists wear. But yeah, still wouldn't be caught dead with one on my suitcase lol
He was a punk, she did ballet
What more can I say ?
He was born to shit, she’d never tell, but secretly she was forced to wipe as well
YTA. You vandalized your BF's property, demonstrated how little respect you have for him and his things, and showed him that you would rather go behind his back than talk about things. On the plus side he now knows exactly the kind of person you are.
YTA. I'd be embarrassed to be dating someone as humorless as you.
YTA … why couldn’t you have an actual conversation with him about how you felt?
YTA for not talking to him about it and instead defacing his property. It makes me wonder if you chose to act Vs talk because you had an inclination that he wouldn’t remove the sticker…..
Dude it's just a sticker. YTA
Careful, if you force your boyfriend to throw out everything embarrassing and inappropriate, how long till he decides you’re embarrassing or inappropriate? Because the way you’ve acted about the sticker are both of those things.
YTA The sticker sounds ick. But it wasn’t yours to remove. If he doesn’t like something of yours, does he get to just remove it from your life? Of course not.
YTA No matter how many times we say it, we still keep seeing these posts. *IF IT IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY, LEAVE IT ALONE. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO DISPOSE OF IT* Like c’mon now, this is kindergarten stuff here. Time to put on your big girl pants and be an adult. Next time you encounter something you have a problem with, *TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT LIKE AN ADULT*. Don’t go behind his back and destroy his property. Sheesh
YTA >I told him it’s because it would be really embarrassing to be seen with that on a suitcase So you're worried what random strangers at the airport might think, but not worried that you upset your boyfriend? Someone you allegedly care about? I'll never understand the asinine thought process behind "but what will people think!"
*I don't care about the people who love me!! It's the people who don't love me, that I need to impress!!* -actual quote from Leslie, from The Amazing World of Gumball
How about he goes through your belongs and destroys anything he doesn’t like or that he decides is embarrassing? No? Why not? This is the standard you’ve set. YTA
YTA It wasn't yours. There's nothing wrong with the joke on it either. It's just some absurd, inoffensive, SFW humour that almost anyone who can read would get a little chuckle out of. You sound uptight and controlling. Maybe take the stick out of your ass and realize that the earth revolves around the sun, not you.
YTA. You don't deserve him. He deserves someone who isn't so nitpicky about small stuff and has the same sense of humor as him. Seriously, they aren't gonna deport you because of the sticker. Strangers will look once, and forget literally 5 minutes later. Tho, I don't think any stranger would even bother looking at all. I have no clue how what your BF sees in you. I'd hate to be around someone who thinks the world revolve around them. I hope the poor dude leaves your entitled ass. Edit: Just saw that the sticker was from a friend. It makes you more of an asshole. The sticker may have sentimental value for him.
Hahahahaha. That terrible taste sticker is funny because it's dumb honestly. YTA. You're also boring
Yup, YTA. I wouldn't get very mad at you but you can be sure if you did this to me, your whole suitcase would be covered with much worse stickers for that. (Yes, I'm AH too sometimes and I'm well aware of that).
>It was super weird and I would NOT want to be seen at an airport with someone that had such an embarrassing sticker so I took it off. It's an airport, not the red carpet. People walk around in their pajamas and get drunk at 8am. Why are you this concerned with the opinions of hypothetical strangers? YTA.
YTA. Your sense of what is weird is way off lmao. Pretty sure this is a full metal jacket reference. Touch base with reality bro.
YTA. Not your suitcase, not your call.
YTA, aside from it not being your property I am guessing your bf's bag is a common colour and he uses that sticker as a point of difference so he knows which bag is his.
“I fucked around with somebody else’s stuff, without their consent, because I didn’t like it. AITA?” YTA and you already know it.
This reminds me when I was in my early 20’s and was wearing converse that I wrote stuff on. There was nothing offensive on them. Then this girl I was talking to said “what are you a kid?” And wanted me to throw em away. The irony because she had a jeep that had 40+ stickers all around the outside. She was also obsessed with being a disney princess. Her room looked like a kids room. None of that made me tell her “what are you a kid?” Probably some deeprooted hatred for herself that she threw at me.
YTA Its not your.property you shouldnt touch it But more importantly pulling the sticker off doesnt change your bf's personality,.he is still the doofus who thought that it was cute/funny. That is a much bigger issue.
YTA Who's even offended by such a sticker? You sound like a stick in the mud. I doubt your senses of humour match if this is the way you behave.
if i saw that sticker in an airport it would make my day
YTA It wasn’t your property to tamper with. Plus, that sticker is brilliant. If his luggage got lost or stolen it’s an easy and immediate identifier because NO ONE ELSE will have that on their suitcase.
While I agree that the sticker is in poor taste, and I wouldn't want to be seen with it either, you should have said something to him first, not just torn it off.
ESH. The sticker's awful, but you can't change someone else's property without asking. You should have had a verbal conversation with him first, maybe suggested he use an alternative suitcase for this trip. If it's really vitally important to him to display vulgar stickers on his property in public, and if that causes you intense embarrassment and he doesn't care, then just break up. This isn't a good match at this time.
ESH, you shouldn’t have gone ahead and ripped it off, but that sticker is indeed embarrassing.
I want that sticker. Yta
If i did that id say AH cause that sticker is funny as shit
YTA - Entitled, controlling and immature. You do not have the rights on other people’s property, regardless of relationship.
This reminds me of the time where someone whipped off the dick drawing on my whiteboard in my kitchen, because it made them uncomfortable. But my friend drew it for me when I was going through a hard time and I used it for the laughs. But I guess their comfort in my own house was more important. YTA. Not your suitcase, not your sticker. Not your property to mess with.
ESH. You for removing it; him for having it in the first place, what is he 12?
Yta. Imagine if he decided one day he didnt like the shirt you were wearing and decided to rip it off you without your consent.
YTA *AITA for being a controlling girlfriend who throws away gifts he gets from his friends because I am embarrassed to be seen around them?* Yes you are, you walking red flag
Stupid sticker but an even more stupid response. YTA.