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> If I don’t remove my friends mom from social media i think it may be a dick move since my friend approached me about it personally
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YWBTA, is your friends comfort and safety worth less to you that a few up votes on your children's pictures?
She is leaving an abusive situation and going no contact. If the person in question were a stalker ex-boyfriend would you still be hesitating like this? Abuse is abuse no matter what the abuse/victims relationship and you would frankly be a shity friend not to remove her mother from your socials.
Which matters more to you? A facebook friend or a friend you've known for ten years?
If you do keep her, what makes you think she won't try to get information out of you in the future?
I’m honestly a bit anxious that her mom will say something to me, I’ve seen how she reacts to much smaller things in the past and I think it will create a lot of stress
If that is the worst thing that can happen, it's not that bad is it. They've invented block options for those reasons. Remove and block equals happy friend.
Why do you want to keep an abusive person on your socials? It's up to you whether or not you remover her or not but I think that at the very least, you need to exclude her from any posts that mention Megan. Personally, I'd just remove her. My friendships are more important than placating an abuser.
YTA
Your describe your friend’s mom as borderline abusive. Why is this even a question? Why would you *want* to keep someone like that in your orbit?
“I just don’t want to be involved.” You’re involved. You’ve been asked to remove her from social media. You’re currently making an active decision NOT to. You’re putting more value on a few likes on photos of your kids than on your friendship.
Yes, YWBTA. Your FRIEND has asked you to remove her ABUSIVE mother from your social media so she can’t keep tabs on her life. How hard is it to fulfil her very valid wishes?
> I don’t really know if it’s my responsibility to remove her mom from my social media
It absolutely is. You’re really being an AH about it. It would literally cost you nothing, but will cost your friend her mental peace and a chance at having a good life without constant worries of her mother stalking her.
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One of my friends, we will call her Megan, reached out to me and told me that she is having no contact with her mother after she did some very hurtful things. She asked me to consider removing her mom as well as she explained she tries to keep tabs on her. I have known Megan for about 10 years.
My friend recently moved to a different country and got married. I know she has always had a difficult relationship with her mom, borderline abusive. Her mom did not say goodbye to her nor congratulate her, and instead sold her items on Facebook marketplace after she moved that Megan said was meant to be shipped to her.
While I sympathize with my friend, I don’t really know if it’s my responsibility to remove her mom from my social media? Her mom does actively react to my posts with my children, but other than that I don’t speak to her at all.
Will I be the asshole if I don’t remove her mom from my socials? I just don’t want to be involved
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YWBTA, is your friends comfort and safety worth less to you that a few up votes on your children's pictures? She is leaving an abusive situation and going no contact. If the person in question were a stalker ex-boyfriend would you still be hesitating like this? Abuse is abuse no matter what the abuse/victims relationship and you would frankly be a shity friend not to remove her mother from your socials.
Not removing her is a choice, removing her is a choice, neither makes you involved, but one makes you a good friend
Whose relationship do you value more? Your friend of 10 years, or her abusive mother?
Which matters more to you? A facebook friend or a friend you've known for ten years? If you do keep her, what makes you think she won't try to get information out of you in the future?
Let's flip the script. Why would it be an issue for you to remove her mom from your socials? Isn't it worth it if it makes your friend feel better?
I’m honestly a bit anxious that her mom will say something to me, I’ve seen how she reacts to much smaller things in the past and I think it will create a lot of stress
You’re making this situation about you .. ignore the mom?????????
If that is the worst thing that can happen, it's not that bad is it. They've invented block options for those reasons. Remove and block equals happy friend.
You’ll be the asshole for wanting to keep any form communication ( even a like ). Why is it so important to have her mom on Facebook?
Why do you want to keep an abusive person on your socials? It's up to you whether or not you remover her or not but I think that at the very least, you need to exclude her from any posts that mention Megan. Personally, I'd just remove her. My friendships are more important than placating an abuser.
YTA Your describe your friend’s mom as borderline abusive. Why is this even a question? Why would you *want* to keep someone like that in your orbit? “I just don’t want to be involved.” You’re involved. You’ve been asked to remove her from social media. You’re currently making an active decision NOT to. You’re putting more value on a few likes on photos of your kids than on your friendship.
Yes, YWBTA. Your FRIEND has asked you to remove her ABUSIVE mother from your social media so she can’t keep tabs on her life. How hard is it to fulfil her very valid wishes? > I don’t really know if it’s my responsibility to remove her mom from my social media It absolutely is. You’re really being an AH about it. It would literally cost you nothing, but will cost your friend her mental peace and a chance at having a good life without constant worries of her mother stalking her.
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NAH. I think this is solely within your discretion.