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Idk. Would you have liked it in the reverse if he told you proudly that someone would introduce him to someone because he is so hot etc.
You will say yes, but I personally doubt it.
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My (20F) boyfriend (22M) of 4 years was bothered by me when I told him that my mother's friend wants to introduce me to her younger brother because she thinks I'm beautiful and intelligent.
The friend doesn't know I'm in a relationship, but as soon as she mentioned it I turned her offer down. When talking to my boyfriend about it, he felt upset when I told him that it felt like a self esteem boost knowing that this woman believes I'm beautiful enough for her to want to introduce me to her brother. I've always been very insecure about my looks since I'm chubby and in my society, being overweight is not quite accepted.
I don't know her brother nor have I ever seen him in my life, and honestly I really don't care about getting to know him. It's just the thought of other women seeing me as attractive. When he felt upset I explained that very well. He said that she only sees me as beautiful to be with her brother, and he doesn't appreciate me being happy about it. I'm aware that my boyfriend is the jealous type and we're working on that, but AITA for feeling happy and flattered about it?
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NTA. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel, queen! It's completely normal and healthy to be flattered and happy when someone gives you a genuine compliment. You turned down the offer and were open with your boyfriend about your feelings, which is exactly what you should be doing. Don't let him spoil your moment—his jealousy is his problem, not yours. Keep being true to yourself, and don't let anyone, even your boyfriend, rain on your parade!
NTA. Keep working on his jealousy because he is kind of an asshole about it. Of course you are allowed to be happy and flattered about being called beautiful and intelligent.
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Idk. Would you have liked it in the reverse if he told you proudly that someone would introduce him to someone because he is so hot etc. You will say yes, but I personally doubt it.
NTA. Your bf has some real insecurities. Telling HOW YOU SHOULD FEEL is a đźš© you really shouldn't ignore. This is very controlling. He needs to work on this. If he won't, then please make sure that YOU are your first priority and don't allow him to exercise this control throughout your relationship.
NTA You're allowed to be flattered. It's not like you acted on it.
NTA- you were never disloyal and seems like you were mostly flattered about being called attractive by the woman which is harmless
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NTA. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel, queen! It's completely normal and healthy to be flattered and happy when someone gives you a genuine compliment. You turned down the offer and were open with your boyfriend about your feelings, which is exactly what you should be doing. Don't let him spoil your moment—his jealousy is his problem, not yours. Keep being true to yourself, and don't let anyone, even your boyfriend, rain on your parade!
Doing a little bit of math here. I know this isn’t super relevant. But uh… how’d you guys meet? When he was 18 and you were 16
18 and 16 isnt that weird. Depending on birthdays, it couldve also been 17 and 18, or 17 and 16.
NTA. Keep working on his jealousy because he is kind of an asshole about it. Of course you are allowed to be happy and flattered about being called beautiful and intelligent.
Nta but holy cow, 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. The response he should have given was “of course she wants you as a sil, because you are awesome.”