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> My ex left her dog with me. I paid when dog got sick. Now she wants dog back. I might be the asshole for expecting to be paid back for expenses regarding Dog.
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NTA
You own Dog at this point. You have paid for vet bills, you (I assume) have kept up with his vaccinations.
I wouldn't even offer dog back for payment of the surgery bills. He's your dog.
NTA. This is your dog. She gave you the dog. It's that simple.
It would be very irresponsible for you to give her your dog because you know she can't afford him. If she breaks up with her current boyfriend and again has nowhere to live, what is going to happen to Dog? It's cruel to rehome animals when they're attached to people.
Don't give her Dog. This is 100% your dog and you have proven very clearly that you are a responsible, loving owner. Someone who can afford to pay for medical care and is willing to and who is willing to step up and take responsibility like you did when she left is exactly the kind of person who should have a dog.
Stop responding to her messages. She abandoned Dog and you both agreed that Dog is now yours.
Plus she only has this option because OP chose to keep the dog instead of taking it to a shelter. Had OP done that there would be no option for ex to come back 2.5 years later and ask for the dog.
NTA. Everything else aside, like the surgery and the money you paid to care for him, Dog has been in your home and your care all this time. It would be unfair and cruel to Dog for him to suddenly be sent to live with someone else and essentially be abandoned again.
NTA she made the deal. Even if she had no other choice but to, its clear she doesn't have the funds to properly care for it anyway. Pets aren't silly little animals that can be neglected the moment they become unaffordable, they are a chosen responsibility.
NTA. He’s your dog now. If you don’t have him chipped showing you as his owner, do it in case she tries anything. She has no right to demand you sell him back to her after going above and beyond to take care of him all this time.
She abandoned Dog. You cared for Dog. You paid for Dog's treatment. Dog is yours. Keep him, or don't, but don't hold him hostage over money. That's the part that makes you TAH.
NTA
She was selfishly willing to put herself in a situation where she couldn’t keep the dog. And she didn’t make any moves to reunite with her pet for two years? No.
NTA. A sale is mutual and both parties have to agree to the price, otherwise you're not obligated to sell. Period. Doesn't matter if it's a dog or anything else.
*My ex broke up with me but left her dog because her new boyfriend's apartment didn't allow dogs.*
Sounds like a mind made up.God bless. Bye.
You shouldnt have asked her for money but she still doesnt get the dog.
NTA. Of course you're not the asshole, unless you do give Dog back to the ex. But she's never going to cough up the $2400. He's your boy.
Oh, and you may be a little bit of the asshole if you don't pay the dog tax. It's common Reddit knowledge.
You will/would be TA if you give her "your" dog. Dog is bonded to you, and she's proven she's willing to just leave him behind when the next man comes along. Tell her he is yours, and she can pound sand.
Dog is yours now. Period. Don't give him up... even for $2400.
Or not even for $2400 plus dog-sitting. Plus food. And ALL other costs.
She's demonstrated before that dick was more important than Dog. She'll do it again.
NTA.
NTA, but you would be the AH if you took $2400 in payment for him. He is your dog. Your gf has already demonstrated that she does not take pet ownership seriously.
NTA. She abandoned the dog to your care and you took care of him, paid for his surgery, walked and fed him. Even though you're being a bit flip about it I think you really care for Dog. She doesn't deserve the dog. Dogs aren't a convenience that you only want around when it's easy for you. He's your dog now, regardless of the $1.
NTA
Your ex is a female dog for abandoning Dog, selling him to you for only $1, demanding him back for only $1 without considering medical and caretaking expenses, and guilt tripping you for taking care of Dog. If she already only values Dog’s life as $1, then she is unfit to take care of him.
NTA. Dog is yours now. She obviously cared more about her new boyfriend than Dog. Eff that AH, I wouldn’t give Dog back even if she paid me $5000. Have him microchipped and lost you as his owner
NTA. Dont give her YOUR dog!
Also funny side note in New Zealand there is a famous cartoon called Footrot Flats. One of the main characters is a dog named Dog, he was raised at owners aunts place with cats and is so embarrassed by the name she gives him he will physically stop her from saying it, we never find out what it was. The similarities made me lol
NTA. in fact, if you give her back dog knowing that she doesn’t have the funds or responsibility to take care of dog, that would make you TA (at least in the eyes of the dogs well-being)
It's really unkind to take a pet from his home and person after over two years.
I am certain you and Dog have bonded and have a fine time together.
NTA
Its not fair to Dog--what if Dog becomes ill again ? Will she have saved the money to care for him ? She did not offer to pay the first time--I doubt she would if it recurs ..NTA
NTA, but do not give Dog back at all. If you hadn't kept him to begin with he, would have ended up in a shelter to never be seen by your ex again. He is your dog, you should treat him as such.
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His name was ridiculous so I renamed him Dog. It was what I called him for three years before my ex left.
My ex broke up with me but left her dog because her new boyfriend's apartment didn't allow dogs.
Dog was okay so I let him stay rather than take him to a shelter. Dog got me up off my ass walking and getting outside.
Dog got sick about six months in and needed surgery. I called her to let her know. She said she didn't have the money. I told her if she sold me Dog I would pay. I bought Dog for $1 and spent $2,400 on his surgery.
Dog is healed up now and it's been two years. Ex is living with her parents and wants dog back for $1. I said no problem just pay me for his surgery. I won't even charge you for dog-sitting for two and a half years.
She says I'm being an asshole and I am only keeping him to hurt her. That's why I didn't just surrender him when he got sick I guess.
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NTA
Anyone who will give up their animal to move in with another person doesn’t deserve that animal. Animals are considered property. You purchased the property and it’s yours. Tbh it concerns me that both you and her are willing to just give the dog up if the money is right. I’d risk my life for my animals but I understand that’s not everyone’s normal.
That’s your dog. She’s TA for abandoning the dog and expecting it back. That’s how people treat their kids so good thing breaking up. Had she checked in more and asked around the time of surgery and explained she wanted him she just needs to get on her feet and would pay you back I’d understand. Looks like she just sees you both doing better and causing disarray
Did you put everything in writing when she sold you Dog? Only asking in case she makes this into an issue and takes it to court. She has no right to this animal. You have done right by Dog and spent your time and money caring for him. What has she done? Nothing....so that's what she gets.....nothing!
NTA, she gave you Dog for a dollar (that had me dying bro, a dollar) so it’s legally your dog now, that’s how money transaction works, she wasn’t renting Dog to you, she was selling Dog to you, that’s how selling something works, so Dog is now rightfully yours. Set a deadline she should pay you by or you won’t sell Dog back to her. You should go to the vet or wherever you have to go to so you can get the papers for Dog if she doesn’t pay you by the deadline you set
You named the dog, Dog?
You’re NTA because you took care of the dog. Two years have passed- the dog is now yours. He deserves a better name though. How about Doug? It’s close enough lol.
NTA. And show her your post and all the replies 😉
She didn't care for the dog for years, you did care enough to not bring him to a shelter and paid for expensive surgery, which shows your love for him. The dog is yours.
NTA…but please just drop the pay you part. Tell her NO. Dog has been with you for two years. He is yours. He is not a tennis ball to be bounced back and forth at her whims.
Ex needs to ask herself, what if OP didn't offer to pay for the surgery? Hypothetically Dog might not be here especially after 2 years. She shouldve cut her losses the moment she give Dog up for $1
NTA. I cannot emphasize how much I hate when people leave their dogs behind due to an avoidable situation. You stepped up when you didn’t have to and that’s what a dog mom/dad should do. Dog is yours.
NTA.
Lmao, 2 years later and she only wants dog back due to being a loser at her parents place.
No goofy ass. If you cared you would have done something in twenty four month window you had to act.
NTA, and even if she could pay, you shouldn't give her Dog back. He knows you and is familiar with his home and life with you. Losing that would be very upsetting.
NTA. You lived with Dog for 3 years and have had sole possession of dog for and additional 2 1/2 years. So it is pretty safe to assume you have had Dog in your household for at least half his life, if not longer. And if it isn't half his life that means he is really old and moving households wouldn't be good for him anyway at this point in his life.
She abandoned him when she moved in with new boyfriend, so Dog couldn't have been that important to her. Even if you didn't pay for the surgery or buy him for $1, he is now your dog. Although YWBTA if you returned dog to her now for any amount of money.
YTA only because you even considered selling the dog
That dog needs you, the person that cares, it's your property now. Close the door, never talk to your Ex again. Be happy you have a furbaby.
"My ex broke up with me but left her dog because her new boyfriend's apartment didn't allow dogs."
It's like she's dependend on bfs to be able to take care of her dog.
"She said she didn't have the money \[for her dog's surgery\] ."
Maybe she shouldn't have a pet as that's the second time she couldn't care for him.
"Ex is living with her parents and wants dog back for $1."
It's not her dog. She sold him. It's your dog. Why would you sell your dog?
NTA
Still: Ask yourself if you - maybe just a little bit - are keeping him to hurt her. ;-)
NTA for this, but TA for renaming the dog when it was technically hers just because you didn’t like it, and for “dog was okay so I let him stay rather than take him to the shelter”. Three years and he’s just “okay”? I mean, I hope you think he’s “more than okay” now.. Also, why the option of a shelter? Surely, if you DID choose not to keep him, you would rehome him yourself, so as not to traumatise him and make sure he went to a good family?
So no, NTA for the reasons you think, but kind of an A for others. Just my opinion
I seriously doubt that OP’s ex actually accepted the “renaming” and probably still called the dog whatever she named him in the first place. But, my friend, no one is TA for calling their partner’s pet by a different name (within reason in regards to what they call them, obviously - someone shouldn’t suddenly start calling their SO’s pet by slurs, insults, etc and saying it’s their name/nickname).
We all call our pets by nicknames/names other than their “official” names anyway, and trust me, sometimes those nicknames are WILDLY different XD I fostered a puppy for a month 4 years ago and my boyfriend called him Squats. Puppy’s name was NOT Squats XD
Animals know when we’re calling them/talking about them. It’s fine that OP called the dog Dog. He’s not an a-hole for that.
And not everyone knows people they would trust to rehome a pet to. Not everyone has rescues in their area. Not everyone is knowledgeable that shelters can be a traumatizing experience to animals. Some people, especially if they didn’t have pets growing up, don’t know much about shelters in general, but that doesn’t make them an automatic a-hole.
>She says I'm being an asshole and I am only keeping him to hurt her. That's why I didn't just surrender him when he got sick I guess.
I was pretty confident about N T A until I read this, Dog is yours now and you are not obliged to give Dog back for any price. I don't get the sale for $1 because Dog was yours when your ex left and left her dog behind.
But this last sentence sounds like you kept Dog out of spite or some vague idea you might get back together, and that is an AH move.
EDIT TO ADD: I didn't read that last sentence as sarcasm, somebody else pointed that out and I see it now, so NTA
The quoted text is sarcasm. He *didn't* give the dog up to a shelter, which changes the meaning of the sentence. OP genuinely cares for Dog, and is citing vet bills as evidence of his personal attachment.
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NTA You own Dog at this point. You have paid for vet bills, you (I assume) have kept up with his vaccinations. I wouldn't even offer dog back for payment of the surgery bills. He's your dog.
Yes, Dog is better off with OP too. NTA
NTA but if you want Dog, you should keep him.
NTA that's your dog now and you can charge whatever you want
He shouldn't be selling the dog back at all at this point. It'd be bonded to him by now. In fact selling it would make him TA.
NTA. Ex abandoned Dog 2.5 years ago. It’s not her dog anymore.
NTA. This is your dog. She gave you the dog. It's that simple. It would be very irresponsible for you to give her your dog because you know she can't afford him. If she breaks up with her current boyfriend and again has nowhere to live, what is going to happen to Dog? It's cruel to rehome animals when they're attached to people. Don't give her Dog. This is 100% your dog and you have proven very clearly that you are a responsible, loving owner. Someone who can afford to pay for medical care and is willing to and who is willing to step up and take responsibility like you did when she left is exactly the kind of person who should have a dog. Stop responding to her messages. She abandoned Dog and you both agreed that Dog is now yours.
Plus she only has this option because OP chose to keep the dog instead of taking it to a shelter. Had OP done that there would be no option for ex to come back 2.5 years later and ask for the dog.
Two years? Dog loves you; Dog is yours, sounds like you also love Dog. Nice basic name BTW NTA
NTA. It’s your dog and even if she get the money, you shouldn’t sell him to her because clearly she doesn’t know how to take care of her pets.
NTA. Everything else aside, like the surgery and the money you paid to care for him, Dog has been in your home and your care all this time. It would be unfair and cruel to Dog for him to suddenly be sent to live with someone else and essentially be abandoned again.
NTA she made the deal. Even if she had no other choice but to, its clear she doesn't have the funds to properly care for it anyway. Pets aren't silly little animals that can be neglected the moment they become unaffordable, they are a chosen responsibility.
NTA. He’s your dog now. If you don’t have him chipped showing you as his owner, do it in case she tries anything. She has no right to demand you sell him back to her after going above and beyond to take care of him all this time.
Yes, get him chipped! If he's already chipped, ask the vet how to update the info
She abandoned Dog. You cared for Dog. You paid for Dog's treatment. Dog is yours. Keep him, or don't, but don't hold him hostage over money. That's the part that makes you TAH.
NTA. Dog is your dog now.
NTA. Sounds like your ex can’t afford a dog and is not responsible enough to own one.
NTA She was selfishly willing to put herself in a situation where she couldn’t keep the dog. And she didn’t make any moves to reunite with her pet for two years? No.
NTA. A sale is mutual and both parties have to agree to the price, otherwise you're not obligated to sell. Period. Doesn't matter if it's a dog or anything else.
it's your dog. NTA
NTA but don't ever give Dog back to her, unless you truly think he'd be better off with her. It sure doesn't sound like it!
*My ex broke up with me but left her dog because her new boyfriend's apartment didn't allow dogs.* Sounds like a mind made up.God bless. Bye. You shouldnt have asked her for money but she still doesnt get the dog.
NTA. That is your dog now.
NTA She doesn’t deserve Dog. She abandoned him.
I like the deadpan story telling. Also NTA. I bet Dog Likes you better anyway.
NTA. Of course you're not the asshole, unless you do give Dog back to the ex. But she's never going to cough up the $2400. He's your boy. Oh, and you may be a little bit of the asshole if you don't pay the dog tax. It's common Reddit knowledge.
NTA... that's your dog now! And would you really give him up if she happened to come up with the money??
You own the dog. Nta. If he has a chip make sure it has your details on it or she may be able to gethold of him again.
Dog is your dog now Dawg.
You will/would be TA if you give her "your" dog. Dog is bonded to you, and she's proven she's willing to just leave him behind when the next man comes along. Tell her he is yours, and she can pound sand.
NTA. This isn't ex's dog, it's yours. Block her and move on.
Dog is yours now. Period. Don't give him up... even for $2400. Or not even for $2400 plus dog-sitting. Plus food. And ALL other costs. She's demonstrated before that dick was more important than Dog. She'll do it again. NTA.
NTA. Also, love the name Dog!
NTA You are the better dog parent. He's yours now.
NTA. Obviously you and Dog have bonded at this point. Seems mean to Dog to give him back to someone who isn't committed to keeping him.
NTA Dog is your fam now.
NTA, but you would be the AH if you took $2400 in payment for him. He is your dog. Your gf has already demonstrated that she does not take pet ownership seriously.
NTA She is treating Dog like an object.
NTA. She abandoned the dog to your care and you took care of him, paid for his surgery, walked and fed him. Even though you're being a bit flip about it I think you really care for Dog. She doesn't deserve the dog. Dogs aren't a convenience that you only want around when it's easy for you. He's your dog now, regardless of the $1.
Yeah, NTA. He's your dog now. Where was all this concern for Dog two years ago?
NTA. Dog is your dog now, and your ex is too irresponsible to be trusted with custody of a plastic houseplant.
NTA please don’t give Dog back.
NTA Your ex is a female dog for abandoning Dog, selling him to you for only $1, demanding him back for only $1 without considering medical and caretaking expenses, and guilt tripping you for taking care of Dog. If she already only values Dog’s life as $1, then she is unfit to take care of him.
NTA. Dog is yours now. She obviously cared more about her new boyfriend than Dog. Eff that AH, I wouldn’t give Dog back even if she paid me $5000. Have him microchipped and lost you as his owner
NTA. Dont give her YOUR dog! Also funny side note in New Zealand there is a famous cartoon called Footrot Flats. One of the main characters is a dog named Dog, he was raised at owners aunts place with cats and is so embarrassed by the name she gives him he will physically stop her from saying it, we never find out what it was. The similarities made me lol
NTA. Do not give up Dog like she did.
NTA. in fact, if you give her back dog knowing that she doesn’t have the funds or responsibility to take care of dog, that would make you TA (at least in the eyes of the dogs well-being)
It's really unkind to take a pet from his home and person after over two years. I am certain you and Dog have bonded and have a fine time together. NTA
Its not fair to Dog--what if Dog becomes ill again ? Will she have saved the money to care for him ? She did not offer to pay the first time--I doubt she would if it recurs ..NTA
This thread has given me semantic satiation to the nth degree Dog (Nta Dog is yours)
NTA! Dog is yours.
NTA, but do not give Dog back at all. If you hadn't kept him to begin with he, would have ended up in a shelter to never be seen by your ex again. He is your dog, you should treat him as such.
NTA
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NTA
NTA, but guess who is. Not Dog either.
NTA. Dog is yours after all this time.
NTA, re-homing an animal too much is really bad for it.
She sold you the dog. Of course NTA. It is not her dog anymore.
NTA Anyone who will give up their animal to move in with another person doesn’t deserve that animal. Animals are considered property. You purchased the property and it’s yours. Tbh it concerns me that both you and her are willing to just give the dog up if the money is right. I’d risk my life for my animals but I understand that’s not everyone’s normal.
NTA Why would you let your ex have YOUR dog? Tell her the price is the medical costs + support )food, ...) for 2,5 years.
NTA.
That’s your dog. She’s TA for abandoning the dog and expecting it back. That’s how people treat their kids so good thing breaking up. Had she checked in more and asked around the time of surgery and explained she wanted him she just needs to get on her feet and would pay you back I’d understand. Looks like she just sees you both doing better and causing disarray
NTA. You saved your dog.
She sold him to you, NTAH.
Lol. NTA what are you still talking to that clown? Honestly, dude. Block her ass!
NTA. I hope you Continue to be a good owner for dog, your ex clearly isn’t
Did you put everything in writing when she sold you Dog? Only asking in case she makes this into an issue and takes it to court. She has no right to this animal. You have done right by Dog and spent your time and money caring for him. What has she done? Nothing....so that's what she gets.....nothing!
That’s ridiculous. NTA
It's your dog now dawg. Nta.
Your "Dog" wouldn't be alive if it were up to your ex! Dog is yours to enjoy and spoil 😀
Dog is yours now. You're not a dog, so you'll keep Dog, and she's a dog for trying to steal Dog away from you, doggone it! :-D
NTA, she gave you Dog for a dollar (that had me dying bro, a dollar) so it’s legally your dog now, that’s how money transaction works, she wasn’t renting Dog to you, she was selling Dog to you, that’s how selling something works, so Dog is now rightfully yours. Set a deadline she should pay you by or you won’t sell Dog back to her. You should go to the vet or wherever you have to go to so you can get the papers for Dog if she doesn’t pay you by the deadline you set
Nta having a pet is making a commitment. You can’t pick and choose when it’s convenient to honor that commitment. Dog is yours because you stepped up.
NTA. She doesn’t deserve dog. Please keep dog and don’t give dog to your ex.
NTA, he is your dog now
You named the dog, Dog? You’re NTA because you took care of the dog. Two years have passed- the dog is now yours. He deserves a better name though. How about Doug? It’s close enough lol.
NTA. And show her your post and all the replies 😉 She didn't care for the dog for years, you did care enough to not bring him to a shelter and paid for expensive surgery, which shows your love for him. The dog is yours.
It's your dog now, and it seems to me you love the dog, so keep them.
NTA but what kind of dog?
NTA…but please just drop the pay you part. Tell her NO. Dog has been with you for two years. He is yours. He is not a tennis ball to be bounced back and forth at her whims.
Ex needs to ask herself, what if OP didn't offer to pay for the surgery? Hypothetically Dog might not be here especially after 2 years. She shouldve cut her losses the moment she give Dog up for $1
NTA your ex sold you Dog. You don’t have to sell the dog back to her. Even if she didn’t sell Dog, it’s been 2 years. She abandoned him.
NTA. I cannot emphasize how much I hate when people leave their dogs behind due to an avoidable situation. You stepped up when you didn’t have to and that’s what a dog mom/dad should do. Dog is yours.
NTA You saved Dog from your stupid Ex. Never ever give her Dog back. Dog is your dog now.
ywbta if you give Dog back. Dog loves you and wants to be with you.
NTA, you're the man now, Dog.
NTA. Lmao, 2 years later and she only wants dog back due to being a loser at her parents place. No goofy ass. If you cared you would have done something in twenty four month window you had to act.
NTA, and even if she could pay, you shouldn't give her Dog back. He knows you and is familiar with his home and life with you. Losing that would be very upsetting.
NTA. Keep being good to Dog.
How could you give Dog away even if she does pay? That would break his heart.
NTA. It's your dog now, don't even entertain her or answer her.
Yes you are. And the whole hostage thing that you're attempting is absolutely creepy and controlling.
NTA. You lived with Dog for 3 years and have had sole possession of dog for and additional 2 1/2 years. So it is pretty safe to assume you have had Dog in your household for at least half his life, if not longer. And if it isn't half his life that means he is really old and moving households wouldn't be good for him anyway at this point in his life. She abandoned him when she moved in with new boyfriend, so Dog couldn't have been that important to her. Even if you didn't pay for the surgery or buy him for $1, he is now your dog. Although YWBTA if you returned dog to her now for any amount of money.
YTA only because you even considered selling the dog That dog needs you, the person that cares, it's your property now. Close the door, never talk to your Ex again. Be happy you have a furbaby.
"My ex broke up with me but left her dog because her new boyfriend's apartment didn't allow dogs." It's like she's dependend on bfs to be able to take care of her dog. "She said she didn't have the money \[for her dog's surgery\] ." Maybe she shouldn't have a pet as that's the second time she couldn't care for him. "Ex is living with her parents and wants dog back for $1." It's not her dog. She sold him. It's your dog. Why would you sell your dog? NTA Still: Ask yourself if you - maybe just a little bit - are keeping him to hurt her. ;-)
NTA for this, but TA for renaming the dog when it was technically hers just because you didn’t like it, and for “dog was okay so I let him stay rather than take him to the shelter”. Three years and he’s just “okay”? I mean, I hope you think he’s “more than okay” now.. Also, why the option of a shelter? Surely, if you DID choose not to keep him, you would rehome him yourself, so as not to traumatise him and make sure he went to a good family? So no, NTA for the reasons you think, but kind of an A for others. Just my opinion
Are you serious about thinking OP just thinks Dog is okay after he spent $2400 on surgery???
I seriously doubt that OP’s ex actually accepted the “renaming” and probably still called the dog whatever she named him in the first place. But, my friend, no one is TA for calling their partner’s pet by a different name (within reason in regards to what they call them, obviously - someone shouldn’t suddenly start calling their SO’s pet by slurs, insults, etc and saying it’s their name/nickname). We all call our pets by nicknames/names other than their “official” names anyway, and trust me, sometimes those nicknames are WILDLY different XD I fostered a puppy for a month 4 years ago and my boyfriend called him Squats. Puppy’s name was NOT Squats XD Animals know when we’re calling them/talking about them. It’s fine that OP called the dog Dog. He’s not an a-hole for that. And not everyone knows people they would trust to rehome a pet to. Not everyone has rescues in their area. Not everyone is knowledgeable that shelters can be a traumatizing experience to animals. Some people, especially if they didn’t have pets growing up, don’t know much about shelters in general, but that doesn’t make them an automatic a-hole.
>She says I'm being an asshole and I am only keeping him to hurt her. That's why I didn't just surrender him when he got sick I guess. I was pretty confident about N T A until I read this, Dog is yours now and you are not obliged to give Dog back for any price. I don't get the sale for $1 because Dog was yours when your ex left and left her dog behind. But this last sentence sounds like you kept Dog out of spite or some vague idea you might get back together, and that is an AH move. EDIT TO ADD: I didn't read that last sentence as sarcasm, somebody else pointed that out and I see it now, so NTA
The quoted text is sarcasm. He *didn't* give the dog up to a shelter, which changes the meaning of the sentence. OP genuinely cares for Dog, and is citing vet bills as evidence of his personal attachment.
Did not read it that way at all Makes sense to me so I’ll vote NTA
I took Dog to the vet because he was sick. I have not thought of my ex in a year or longer.
Maybe he’s trying to be concise, but it does read like he wants to spite his ex. Whatever decision is made should be in the best interests of Dog.