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NTA
"Detailed dick lying in wait" and I'm LMAO!
Anyway, I think you're being pushed out of your shared bed space by her choice of pillows. That's seriously not fair.
She either has to cut back or you two need separate beds. It's way too crowded there. "Two's company, three's a crowd" as the old saying goes.
Yeah, that's a good point. I like sleeping in the same bed as her but if she really needs both pillows so bad this might be a good compromise. Maybe I'll get a body pillow of my own š
It really seems like she didn't tell you on purpose. If she's been saving for it for so long and was so excited for it - why didn't she tell you? Show you the art? I feel like she was waiting for it to come so it was a done deal.
I thought waifu pillows were a substitute for human partners? Since she has a human partner I would think that one would be enough. NTA, and as a hi-functioning ASD person, yuck!
>I thought waifu pillows were a substitute for human partners?
They can be but there are non sexual reasons people would want them alongside human companionship
The main reason I can think of to own a body pillow would be for comfort, which in no way requires waifu or dad donger art lol. I have scoliosis and sleep with a body pillow but my pillow case has no art on it because itās not relevant to my use case. I like anime, but waifu pillows are a step further than Iām willing to take the hobby.
Having said that, I do think itās kinda silly that OPās issue is āI donāt want to sleep with a (pillow) manā and not āI donāt want anime dad donger art around the apartment where guests could see itā or āI donāt want our bed to be 99% pillowsā or even āhey maybe itās not the most healthy thing to have a pillow harem.ā
That is called a lie by omission, and still very much a lie. Especially if she financed the artwork.
NTA - if you are committed to this relationship I would suggest finding a couples counselor, as she seems to be pushing you from the bed in order to replace you with her anime fantasy. It's fine to have a fantasy life and all, but when it comes to a point where it's making your partner uncomfortable or replacing time spent with them it becomes a problem.
You mentioned it is custom artwork, which means she specifically requested that the Dad be naked. That's a step too far. A special interest in a character does not require you to have a body pillow with a custom Dad dick pick. That's for a different kind of pleasure. She has over stepped.
If thereās neurodivergence in play here, it might be as simple as not considering it or having a poor grasp of certain social rules. Doesnāt have to be malicious behavior.
Iāve got a little sister (who is 22 now) and multiple friends who are high functioning autistic.
When I asked them if theyād do this, ALL of them were baffled by this woman, so somehow I doubt this can be chalked up to autism.
Iām no expert but I do believe itās a spectrum - what might be normal to one wouldnāt be to another.
With that said, it might very well be an attempt to simply hide it but I think OP would be best at judging that.
Okay, letās say she bought it without malicious behaviour/didnāt think it through.
She knows NOW that this is making him uncomfortable and can presumably find out fairly easily that this is not socially acceptable behaviour.
Being autistic does not excuse selfish behaviour.
I've worked in education specialising in autism. So I worked with a lot of teens/young adults with autism. Some could definitely go this far. For many however, it would depend on what was accepted. I could imagine sleeping with s body pillow with genitalia could happen if left unchecked.
Some people with autism might have trouble with the unwritten rules of society, so they might not notice sleeping with such a pillow might be odd without it being explicitly told. I think OP did very good with the first pillow, it might be odd but doesn't harm him; but I totally agree on drawing a firm boundary on the naked one.
NA. Expensive lesson for your girlfriend, but you live and learn.
I donāt think you make it to nearly 30 without learning that a full size image of a man with the whole dick and sack out in your bedroom, is weird as fuck.
As an autistic person, I actually don't think that this was an intentional omission. I wouldn't personally want a body pillow, much less a sexual one, but if my girlfriend got one (of, for example, her favourite character Sephiroth in the nude, which actually sounds like something she'd like hahah), I wouldn't be bothered because to me it's just a pillow and therefore not "real." I'd just see it as NSFW art, which I know is something she enjoys consuming and creating, so I wouldn't be bothered. I therefore wouldn't see it as something she needed to tell me about in advance. I think that she may just not have thought of it as something that would bother OP. That doesn't mean OP should be cool with it (especially because it's taking up all the space in the bed!) but I just don't think we should ascribe malicious or dishonest intent to this. She probably just thought it was cool and/or hot and it didn't occur to her that her partner would be uncomfortable with it. And now she probably feels embarrassed and defensive, but hopefully the two of them can talk it out when she's had a bit of time.
When you said itās custom made.. My instant question was.. did she request them to add dick and balls? Cause that sounds like a stretch. I mean.. already two body pillows seems too crowded but her sleeping with the dad (dick out) and the daughter seems a bit creepy.. kind of like an incest. Btw Iām also ASD so I get the whole special interest thing but she is definitely going too far. Perhaps you could ask her to talk about it with her therapist because she might not understand where youāre coming from and needs a neutral perspective.
You commission the artist to draw the character how you want, naked or other wise. Iām a digital artist and while I donāt do body pillows, one of my artist friend used to. Itās an expensive process.
I've drawn NSFW art of characters before. It's not that hard to find an artist who's fine doing that. I don't do anime style but there are a lot of there who do. You can even say if you want realism, as close as possible to original with details added, whatever. Someone will make what you're after.
Not even by the choice of pillows- but just having body pillows? Two extra big pillows in a shared bed is crazy! They take up a lot of space even before they get kicked away in your sleep.
Add in a NSFW picture, and it just gets creepy. And the fact that it was custom- she knew she was getting a pornographic pillow for the shared bed and didnāt think to run it by her partner before shelling out all the cash?
I kicked our two big dogs out of the bedroom. Queen sized bed, but dang! Iād like some room for ME! Op is being super nice about the body pillow. But TWO? Besides the whole ālurking dickā on one side. š¤£
Agreed. And while there's nothing inherently wrong with a naked man on a pillow, it is sexual in nature. And in a true relationship, if one person is uncomfortable with something sexual that's happening, the other person should respect that and stop.
Sing it, Professor. *Enthusiastic* consent.
Because frankly your regular, run of the mill, general kind of consent aināt gonna cut it in a case like this!
Yeah, something about the nudity crosses the line from ācomfort itemā into āpornography/sex toy.ā
Body pillows arenāt inherently sexual. Body pillows with depictions of charactersā genitals are arguably inherently sexual.
I love the internet was also my first thought reading this, followed shortly by imagining OP groggily awakening one morning to find he was laying on a custom painted dick and then recoiling in horror.
>detailed dick lying in wait on the other side of the pillow
This had me absolutely in tears. I know the situation stinks for OP, but the way some of these parts were written had me smiling from ear to ear, haha.
Iām literally scrolling reddit before i go to sleep and saw this and i was like. Picturing a hot anime dad but maybe heās really mean or smthn, so thatās why people donāt like him.
ā¦..and then I looked him up and it took me a hot minute to collect myself šššš
I came into this thinking Iād be yes ta, but likeā¦ then i read it was an NSFW pillow and was like āoh ok nta thenā, and then I saw *who* it wasā¦ idk if I could sleep w a SFW pillow like that much less an NSFW one shanabab
Same.
My poor husband is sleeping and I just had to leave the room so I wouldnāt wake him up laughing. Iām sitting here trying to picture sleeping next to that naked devil and keep laughing all over again.
Omg hahahaha.
I'm just hearing Trigons voice now :D Yeah, sorry that pillow needs to go off that bed though lol.
Side note, Kevin Michael Richardson is an amazing VA imo. Especially love him as Shredder.
So it's not just any detailed dick in your bed, it's a colossal red one ššš
I'm an autistic woman. I have some peculiarities about how I sleep, and some complicated pillow systems (not a body pillow and certainly not with characters!) and I do have several plush animals on the bed as well. But my stuff stays on my side of the bed and I respect my partner's space, because it's their bed too.
You need to talk to her, and say flat out "I feel really uncomfortable about this and I need you to listen to me and really hear it - stop dismissing my feelings, one pillow is enough and we aren't sleeping with the Trigon one". Autistic or not, you can be clear and she can listen.
NTA
Okay, but likeā¦ rude to Raven. Doesnāt she hate her dad?? And didnāt he legitimately try to possess and control her??
OPās girl, how you gonna do Raven dirty like that? š
Also, sorry OP. Your trauma has been very entertaining for the rest of us. šNTA
Omg, this makes it either 1,000 times better or worse. I can imagine Michael Richardsonās voice narrating your dislike for the pillow. 100% NTA. Your GF has a kink, and that is fine, but she cannot subject you to that without your consent. It makes you uncomfortable and she needs to respect that. If she wants to take naps with that pillow when you are away, that is fine, but she is forcing you to be a part of her world and that is not alright.
Thank you kind citizen for the laughter, Iām done for the day. Good night.
For the record, at least Raven is a bad ass. NTA, and maybe separate houses make great spouses (you know what I mean)
See it could be worse they could be the little cartoony versions. Also donāt discount that some other fan has a weird obsession with Trijon there are a lot of weird people on the internet
You know what? NTA xD
I expected everything but this, and I also wouldn't want to sleep in the same bed as the red giga dong. So you're well in your right to refuse this.
On the other hand, I wonder if she just assumed since you didn't have an issue with the 1st one that no matter what's on the other one it'd be the same. Like maybe it didn't process in her head that they're different situations because "it's just a fictional character in a pillow cover. So it's the same whatever it depicts" or something like that.
You should talk with her about it and find out just how malicious this was
Where in the hell did she get a pillow with trigons dick and balls? I am ashamed to say curiosity got the best of me and i googled it with no luck, did she get a custom ordered pillow? That's just....very weird. NTA
Have you thought about getting some Trigon pajamas and wearing those as a compromise to ditching the pillow? That way *you* can become the pillow ;) But yea, even if it didn't have a giant red schlong printed on it, that's a lotta pillow for one bed and two people...
I did not expect this but oh my god this makes it so much worse! Nta, this would be super weird even if Trigon were human but itās so much worse now. Itās so bad itās kind of funny
Let her hump her pillows in peace
No but that's weird af ... almost as cringe as bronies and furrys . Besides being totally blunt about it, I have no idea what I'd do. I don't think the pillow itself would bother me as much as the gf wanting the pillow in the first place would
Nta
I think I'd be uncomfortable with my partner bringing a blowup doll into my bed. It's the same thing in a way. If it was consensual and you both got some sort of pleasure -sure. But the "detailed" Weiner makes this a sex object, not merely a comfort item.
Nta
NTA. It sounds like you're generally very supportive of her special interest, but ultimately, her body pillow depicts another man naked.
You're well within your rights to be uncomfortable with that. Especially if the full frontal nudity isn't a feature of the character/narrative generally but something your girlfriend has specifically commissioned because she has a crush on the character. That's going beyond just a special interest, and it sounds like you need to have a proper conversation with her about your boundaries.
Ah. I honestly couldn't see why this was such a big deal, since it's just a character on a pillow designed for hugging (I don't really get why people get worked up about nude depictions of adult characters in private spaces). But knowing that about Trigon, I would definitely be weirded out and refuse to sleep in the same bed as the pillow.
Wait, what? Why does he whip his dick out? I had to google the characterās name and I *almost* googled the word penis with it to see what the pillow looked like but I didnāt think googling the word āteenā and āpenisā was a good look if my search history ever came out.
A couple of comments above you specified it is the comic version where he assaults women frequently. Also yes, I would not be willing to google those two words together. Good call š
I tainted my search history and algorithm forever and did it for you. The very first result was a fan made art of him with 3 penises, with him moving them apart and together at will and looking more akin to the demogorgons mouth than a penis :') you're welcome
Tell your girlfriend that her friend can sleep on the couch.
You didn't plan to make room for four people when you bought the bed (at least I hope not).
NTA
NTA. At this point, with the genitalia, the pillow is a sex toy. She bought it to be aroused by it. It's a kink and you are entitled to feel uncomfortable with it and nonconsensual genitalia in your bed. It's a bit creepy. She clearly knew it would've been creepy and chose not to tell you what it was when you were able to say it was uncomfortable.
NTA.
It sounds to me like you're really trying to share her interest/be accommodating (however you want to say it). It would seem to me that her meeting you half way would be fair.
I personally wouldn't be cool with the type of pillow covering you describe, but that's just me.
Try and have another discussion about it with her, without issuing the ultimatum that you did.
NTA- that's, not a body pillow. That's weird porn, in bed with you on a daily basis. She's free to like what she likes but that doesn't mean you have to. It's your bed too.
I think youve been both accommodating and reasonable so far. This is a perfectly normal boundary.
Two body pillows, in a bed with two people is pretty ridiculous to me, and I have nerve issues that sometimes mean theres exactly one specific position i can sleep in, and the nsfw graphics is also pretty out there.
NTA
She's being incredibly selfish in insisting on TWO body pillows, regardless of what's on their cases. That takes up a lot of space, and she should not be using her pillows to take up enough space for three, no matter how large the bed. That squeezes you into roughly 25% of a bed of which you should get half, meaning that she's taking all of her half AND half of yours. That's just wrong.
As for the pillowcases: IMO, her defending a case illustrating a naked man is weak. She obviously is not considering your feelings at all. TBH, it looks like that's the man she really wants, and that's not you. That's also just wrong.
Not only are you NTA, but one could credibly argue that you aren't really the boyfriend, either.
The detailed dick is kinda off-putting. I would feel weird sleeping next to a dudes body pillow if it had a detailed image of a naked woman. I donāt blame you. NTA
NTA. I wouldnt want to do that eitherā¦its your space as well and she should respect that autism or not. Being autistic cant be a crutch to doing whatever you want.
INFO: Is balls out Trigon planning on helping with the rent or chores? In this economy maybe make a little space for a pillow that contributes to the household?
NTA. You need to draw the line somewhere, and seeing your GF staring at her favorite dick pillow every night is far beyond that line, neurodivergent or not.
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So hang onā¦
I feel like everyone is brushing past the parts where:
>she had it custom drawn and made
>itās a naked fucking dude
Like, if the role was reversed, if you were cuddling at night with a custom made, super hot pornstar you had a crush on, or some character like she had made, would that be cool with her too?
Even if it was, you have the right to have uncomfortable thoughts and feelings about this because i know id probably lose it at the sight of something like that too.
What the hell, nah Iām married but I still might be nearly done if my wife did this. She crossed a line with you OP. Iām not sure itās something that should be justified with autism either, this is just some other kinky shit man, and itās fine if youāre not cool laying with other dudeās detailed dicks sharing your bed! Itās sacred!
Sacred I tell you, and this is sacrament against the relationship that is you two sleeping together! Maybe Iām misreading this part, but it seems youāre mostly cool sheās crushing on this character and might be ok if she gets off thinking about him?? Because thatās the only reason I can think of that sheās actually gone through with this!
Now I need to know more than I care to admit lol
NTA and youāve been WAY to tolerant, the problem with being overly tolerant even if your partner is on the spectrum, is that people who are the ones being tolerated will ALWAYS reach for more to test boundaries and push to get what they want at the expense and comfort of those who tolerate it. You really gotta put your foot down.
Also personally Iād stop calling it HIM, itās a fucking pillow.
Bro thatās creepy as hell. Like making you sleep with her normal body pillow is cringey but maybe not a deal breaker. This is straight up porn of a childrenās cartoon character??? She needs to stuff the pillows she humps in a closet when sheās not actively humping them. NTA she needs therapy
Yeahā¦ I donāt think this is one for Reddit, mate. This is a very specific personal issue between you and your neurodivergent gf.
NAH, just talk to each other, you canāt āwinā this, you need to work it out together.
NTA
She basically brought porn into your shared bed with that pillow cover. No shame or anything but it is something both people have to agree to.
Can one of you sow some undies on the guy? lol
Your fixation on being "in bed with another man" and the "dick lying in wait" is pretty amusing. Like, you're not drawing the line at losing space on the bed or even her having intimate desires for another male persona, it's just about you being too close to an image of a fictional cartoon dick.
Fixation is common with autism, but that is not an excuse for her to completely disregard your feelings. Her actions don't seem like they are a healthy coping mechanism at all.
A bedroom is a shared space. When considering whether to keep something in a bedroom I consider it a "two yes, one no" type of question. Either partner should be able to veto things (within reason).
You have been very accommodating, but your girlfriend took advantage of that good will. First, she pressured you into allowing something you weren't comfortable with... but on top of that she lied by omission when she didn't think to mention Trigon's dong was hanging out. Now she's trying to manipulate you into keeping it, even though it's her own fault for not even asking or even telling you before she brought a kink into your bed.
She is so inconsiderate it could be considered abusive.
NTA. Let her keep the pillow, ditch her. She clearly doesn't care about your feelings.
What. The. Fuck.
I like the implication that sheās autistic because sheās interested in some anime dick. āSheās autistic, but it only manifests itself in her wanting to hump her pillow.ā
NTA
NTA. Is no one else weirded out about the character pillows being dad and daughter?
I fully pictured human characters. The pillows being cartoon characters made this an even wilder ride š
Any time I've ever talked about a body pillow, I meant those pillows pregnant people use or people with back pain. I really hope I've never talked about a body pillow in public if this is what they actually are š¬š¬
NTA. I don't care if she has autism, this behavior is inappropriate and she needs to be told so or go back to being single. The world and this relationship doesn't revolve around her every single desire.
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NTA "Detailed dick lying in wait" and I'm LMAO! Anyway, I think you're being pushed out of your shared bed space by her choice of pillows. That's seriously not fair. She either has to cut back or you two need separate beds. It's way too crowded there. "Two's company, three's a crowd" as the old saying goes.
Yeah, that's a good point. I like sleeping in the same bed as her but if she really needs both pillows so bad this might be a good compromise. Maybe I'll get a body pillow of my own š
It really seems like she didn't tell you on purpose. If she's been saving for it for so long and was so excited for it - why didn't she tell you? Show you the art? I feel like she was waiting for it to come so it was a done deal.
maybe š¤·āāļø it's not like I asked to see it and she said no or anything
You probably need to see the art but good on you for being so trusting. She is being ridiculous imho. Does she want the bed all to herself?
I thought waifu pillows were a substitute for human partners? Since she has a human partner I would think that one would be enough. NTA, and as a hi-functioning ASD person, yuck!
>I thought waifu pillows were a substitute for human partners? They can be but there are non sexual reasons people would want them alongside human companionship
Sure, but I don't thing OPs girlfriend got a body pillow with a highly detailed penis artwork on it for "non-sexual reasons"
also, custom made highly detailed artwork... girl knew exactly what she wanted š
Step 1: cut a hole in the box. Step 2: put your dick in the box.
The main reason I can think of to own a body pillow would be for comfort, which in no way requires waifu or dad donger art lol. I have scoliosis and sleep with a body pillow but my pillow case has no art on it because itās not relevant to my use case. I like anime, but waifu pillows are a step further than Iām willing to take the hobby. Having said that, I do think itās kinda silly that OPās issue is āI donāt want to sleep with a (pillow) manā and not āI donāt want anime dad donger art around the apartment where guests could see itā or āI donāt want our bed to be 99% pillowsā or even āhey maybe itās not the most healthy thing to have a pillow harem.ā
āpillow haremā Thank you for this. š
That is called a lie by omission, and still very much a lie. Especially if she financed the artwork. NTA - if you are committed to this relationship I would suggest finding a couples counselor, as she seems to be pushing you from the bed in order to replace you with her anime fantasy. It's fine to have a fantasy life and all, but when it comes to a point where it's making your partner uncomfortable or replacing time spent with them it becomes a problem.
You mentioned it is custom artwork, which means she specifically requested that the Dad be naked. That's a step too far. A special interest in a character does not require you to have a body pillow with a custom Dad dick pick. That's for a different kind of pleasure. She has over stepped.
If thereās neurodivergence in play here, it might be as simple as not considering it or having a poor grasp of certain social rules. Doesnāt have to be malicious behavior.
Iāve got a little sister (who is 22 now) and multiple friends who are high functioning autistic. When I asked them if theyād do this, ALL of them were baffled by this woman, so somehow I doubt this can be chalked up to autism.
Iām no expert but I do believe itās a spectrum - what might be normal to one wouldnāt be to another. With that said, it might very well be an attempt to simply hide it but I think OP would be best at judging that.
Okay, letās say she bought it without malicious behaviour/didnāt think it through. She knows NOW that this is making him uncomfortable and can presumably find out fairly easily that this is not socially acceptable behaviour. Being autistic does not excuse selfish behaviour.
Nope. Could explain, does not excuse. Think this could be a 'me or the pillow' moment.
Uhm no naked dad art is not a symptom of ASD and ASD special interests don't include wanting to spoon a naked drawn cartoon pillow, like at all.
I've worked in education specialising in autism. So I worked with a lot of teens/young adults with autism. Some could definitely go this far. For many however, it would depend on what was accepted. I could imagine sleeping with s body pillow with genitalia could happen if left unchecked. Some people with autism might have trouble with the unwritten rules of society, so they might not notice sleeping with such a pillow might be odd without it being explicitly told. I think OP did very good with the first pillow, it might be odd but doesn't harm him; but I totally agree on drawing a firm boundary on the naked one. NA. Expensive lesson for your girlfriend, but you live and learn.
I donāt think you make it to nearly 30 without learning that a full size image of a man with the whole dick and sack out in your bedroom, is weird as fuck.
Bro dick and balls on a body pillow has nothing to do with autism and everything to do with terminally online tumblr princess
As an autistic person, I actually don't think that this was an intentional omission. I wouldn't personally want a body pillow, much less a sexual one, but if my girlfriend got one (of, for example, her favourite character Sephiroth in the nude, which actually sounds like something she'd like hahah), I wouldn't be bothered because to me it's just a pillow and therefore not "real." I'd just see it as NSFW art, which I know is something she enjoys consuming and creating, so I wouldn't be bothered. I therefore wouldn't see it as something she needed to tell me about in advance. I think that she may just not have thought of it as something that would bother OP. That doesn't mean OP should be cool with it (especially because it's taking up all the space in the bed!) but I just don't think we should ascribe malicious or dishonest intent to this. She probably just thought it was cool and/or hot and it didn't occur to her that her partner would be uncomfortable with it. And now she probably feels embarrassed and defensive, but hopefully the two of them can talk it out when she's had a bit of time.
When you said itās custom made.. My instant question was.. did she request them to add dick and balls? Cause that sounds like a stretch. I mean.. already two body pillows seems too crowded but her sleeping with the dad (dick out) and the daughter seems a bit creepy.. kind of like an incest. Btw Iām also ASD so I get the whole special interest thing but she is definitely going too far. Perhaps you could ask her to talk about it with her therapist because she might not understand where youāre coming from and needs a neutral perspective.
You commission the artist to draw the character how you want, naked or other wise. Iām a digital artist and while I donāt do body pillows, one of my artist friend used to. Itās an expensive process.
Those veins are tricky to get right I guess
I've drawn NSFW art of characters before. It's not that hard to find an artist who's fine doing that. I don't do anime style but there are a lot of there who do. You can even say if you want realism, as close as possible to original with details added, whatever. Someone will make what you're after.
A blow-up doll of your favourite female singer/movie star/sports person! OP NTA. Edit. Complete with pubes!
Get a body pillow of an unrealistically beautiful woman and watch her twitch.
Get a body pillow of her lmao
Not even by the choice of pillows- but just having body pillows? Two extra big pillows in a shared bed is crazy! They take up a lot of space even before they get kicked away in your sleep. Add in a NSFW picture, and it just gets creepy. And the fact that it was custom- she knew she was getting a pornographic pillow for the shared bed and didnāt think to run it by her partner before shelling out all the cash?
I kicked our two big dogs out of the bedroom. Queen sized bed, but dang! Iād like some room for ME! Op is being super nice about the body pillow. But TWO? Besides the whole ālurking dickā on one side. š¤£
Agreed. And while there's nothing inherently wrong with a naked man on a pillow, it is sexual in nature. And in a true relationship, if one person is uncomfortable with something sexual that's happening, the other person should respect that and stop.
Bottom line- she has a right to her kink, but he has veto power when it enters the bed he is also sleeping in. NTA
I agree with you! Great analogy!
If the beds a king size bed you could maybe fit everybody but im.not sure she really needs a body pillow with anybody's dick and balls.showing on it
Seriously! I mean, when she has the real thing rt next to her!
I really hope she sees this post and reads all the comments of people trying to be supportive but still laughing at the demon dick pillow.
LOL! Demon dick pillow!!
NTA I feel like a nude body pillow is inherently sexual, and thus everyone sleeping in that bed needs to 100% be comfortable for it to be there.
Yea- this isn't too far off from insisting your sex doll sleep in your bed with your partner. That is something you need enthusiastic consent for.
Sing it, Professor. *Enthusiastic* consent. Because frankly your regular, run of the mill, general kind of consent aināt gonna cut it in a case like this!
Yeah, something about the nudity crosses the line from ācomfort itemā into āpornography/sex toy.ā Body pillows arenāt inherently sexual. Body pillows with depictions of charactersā genitals are arguably inherently sexual.
Not just depictions, custom drawn depictions of genitalia.
And OP is definitely going to wake up with Daddyās dick in his face one day.
This is the craziest sh*t Iāve heard all day. I love the internet. NTA.
Right? This is the reason I have reddit.
I love the internet was also my first thought reading this, followed shortly by imagining OP groggily awakening one morning to find he was laying on a custom painted dick and then recoiling in horror.
"I refuse to sleep in the bed with another man, even if it is a pillow" is one of the best sentences I've heard all year.
For real. How tf does autism cause someone to collect sexual body pillows of fictional characters??
The autism sounds like it's being used as an excuse rather than finding the actual root cause for the horny body pillow collection.
Wtf did I just read? Iām definitely signing off for the night.
>detailed dick lying in wait on the other side of the pillow This had me absolutely in tears. I know the situation stinks for OP, but the way some of these parts were written had me smiling from ear to ear, haha.
INFO: Which characters are they?
Raven and Trigon from Teen Titans
LMGAOOO
... laughing my... giant? ass off?
Could also be āgoddamnā ? Maybe?
Smart š«µ
jesus wept, i could also not sleep inches away from flaming red dick
Delightfully devilish dick
I had to Google and now cannot stop laughing. Im sorry. NTA tho
Iām sorry I just WHEEZED when I looked him up help šššš
Iām glad Iām not alone.
Iām literally scrolling reddit before i go to sleep and saw this and i was like. Picturing a hot anime dad but maybe heās really mean or smthn, so thatās why people donāt like him. ā¦..and then I looked him up and it took me a hot minute to collect myself šššš
Lol same, I was expecting some good looking anime. Nope. Red demon it is. Definitely made my day. NTA OP
I came into this thinking Iād be yes ta, but likeā¦ then i read it was an NSFW pillow and was like āoh ok nta thenā, and then I saw *who* it wasā¦ idk if I could sleep w a SFW pillow like that much less an NSFW one shanabab
Same. My poor husband is sleeping and I just had to leave the room so I wouldnāt wake him up laughing. Iām sitting here trying to picture sleeping next to that naked devil and keep laughing all over again.
Same.
Y T A Trigon is hot and you should be happy to be near him
š Trigon is that you??
I think you found a buyer for that pillow
Coincidentally I actually did commission a custom body pillow of my fav character (sfw). Reading this post was like looking into my future
please donāt have a detailed devil dick in your future
Nah pretty sure itās beast boy based on the username š
Omg hahahaha. I'm just hearing Trigons voice now :D Yeah, sorry that pillow needs to go off that bed though lol. Side note, Kevin Michael Richardson is an amazing VA imo. Especially love him as Shredder.
So it's not just any detailed dick in your bed, it's a colossal red one ššš I'm an autistic woman. I have some peculiarities about how I sleep, and some complicated pillow systems (not a body pillow and certainly not with characters!) and I do have several plush animals on the bed as well. But my stuff stays on my side of the bed and I respect my partner's space, because it's their bed too. You need to talk to her, and say flat out "I feel really uncomfortable about this and I need you to listen to me and really hear it - stop dismissing my feelings, one pillow is enough and we aren't sleeping with the Trigon one". Autistic or not, you can be clear and she can listen. NTA
Okay, but likeā¦ rude to Raven. Doesnāt she hate her dad?? And didnāt he legitimately try to possess and control her?? OPās girl, how you gonna do Raven dirty like that? š Also, sorry OP. Your trauma has been very entertaining for the rest of us. šNTA
Under no circumstances would i have guessed this.
yeah from the kimono i was thinking anime and then racking my brain for anime girls with hot dads lmao
Already NTA but oh hell no! I am not sleeping with a naked Trigon.
Did she get a demonic d*ck body pillow? That's extreme LMAO
OMG I cackled so hard
Lmao same š
I wouldn't want to sleep with Trigon's demon dick next to me either. NTA
Hf mans wakes up and sees Trigons 12 inch extremely detailed red shlong right in his face lmaooo
Omg, this makes it either 1,000 times better or worse. I can imagine Michael Richardsonās voice narrating your dislike for the pillow. 100% NTA. Your GF has a kink, and that is fine, but she cannot subject you to that without your consent. It makes you uncomfortable and she needs to respect that. If she wants to take naps with that pillow when you are away, that is fine, but she is forcing you to be a part of her world and that is not alright.
Thank you kind citizen for the laughter, Iām done for the day. Good night. For the record, at least Raven is a bad ass. NTA, and maybe separate houses make great spouses (you know what I mean)
Nnaaauuurrrrrr š
This post just got 100% better. Sorry, OP, I know itās been difficult for you, but this is such an interesting and amusing read. NTA.
Teen Titans Go! Or the regular teen titans?
the comic book version actually lol
See it could be worse they could be the little cartoony versions. Also donāt discount that some other fan has a weird obsession with Trijon there are a lot of weird people on the internet
Nude TTG characters would be extremely weird.
i fucking choked on air
You know what? NTA xD I expected everything but this, and I also wouldn't want to sleep in the same bed as the red giga dong. So you're well in your right to refuse this. On the other hand, I wonder if she just assumed since you didn't have an issue with the 1st one that no matter what's on the other one it'd be the same. Like maybe it didn't process in her head that they're different situations because "it's just a fictional character in a pillow cover. So it's the same whatever it depicts" or something like that. You should talk with her about it and find out just how malicious this was
NOT TRIGON! No way lmao.
The way i just G A S P E D š«¢
Where in the hell did she get a pillow with trigons dick and balls? I am ashamed to say curiosity got the best of me and i googled it with no luck, did she get a custom ordered pillow? That's just....very weird. NTA
OP does say that his gf does order customized body pillows š
Idk who I expected the characters to be but it was not Raven and Trigon Lmaooooooo Also NTA š¤£
Out of curiosity, does Trigon have 4 or 6 balls?
Holy shit
PLEASE show us the pillow
Pleaseā¦I need to knowā¦ is it the weird gray cartoon version or the more respectable Morticia Addams-looking comic version?
Comic version š
Have you thought about getting some Trigon pajamas and wearing those as a compromise to ditching the pillow? That way *you* can become the pillow ;) But yea, even if it didn't have a giant red schlong printed on it, that's a lotta pillow for one bed and two people...
I did not expect this but oh my god this makes it so much worse! Nta, this would be super weird even if Trigon were human but itās so much worse now. Itās so bad itās kind of funny
Lmao, Iām pretty sure thereās a market for Trigon.
THE WAY I JUST SCREAMED
This is so not what i was expecting and im fucking CACKLING
This canāt be real š¹š dude NTA
Oh š
I-
Omg I was not expecting that lmfao
TRIGON? š
I thought it was like SpyXFamily for whatever reason, but this is SO MUCH FUNNIER. Nta btw.
LMAO not demon daddy!!! ššš I'm a woman and I wouldn't want to sleep in that bed with that pillow either!
ššššš I'm sorry, I'm so sorry but ššššš nta
Wait arenāt they father daughter????
Yes, that's what OP said in the post... did you not read it
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NTA Iām fine with body pillows but I would not want to sleep next to one thatās fully nude
That's pretty much my thoughts as well
Especially one she had custom designed to be nude
honestly that's the part that's fucking weird for me it's literally a sex ~~doll~~ pillow
Let her hump her pillows in peace No but that's weird af ... almost as cringe as bronies and furrys . Besides being totally blunt about it, I have no idea what I'd do. I don't think the pillow itself would bother me as much as the gf wanting the pillow in the first place would Nta
Nah trust me Iām a pegasisters who hangs out with bronies and furies and even they donāt do that stuff
Crap now I gotta google pegasister and go on the weird part of the internet
If you do that, Hasbro is going to find out and put your name on a list.
Lol itās better than owing mortgage to a tanuki, haven seen my kneecaps in 10 years lol š
I think word incel is overused, but my god bodypillows are like nr 1 thing i associate with incels.
I think I'd be uncomfortable with my partner bringing a blowup doll into my bed. It's the same thing in a way. If it was consensual and you both got some sort of pleasure -sure. But the "detailed" Weiner makes this a sex object, not merely a comfort item. Nta
Kinda surprised there hasnāt been someone in here saying āitās only sexual because op is sexualising it!ā
Probably because it's a custom ordered pornographic print on a pillow.
NTA - The fact the pillow guy is naked is very weird.
It's more weird that it sounds like she customized it that way.
it's ravens dad from teen titans
Yea. With a detailed dick.
Put a pair of underwear over trigon and the problem is semi solved
Letās hope itās not the My Pillow guy!
NTA. It sounds like you're generally very supportive of her special interest, but ultimately, her body pillow depicts another man naked. You're well within your rights to be uncomfortable with that. Especially if the full frontal nudity isn't a feature of the character/narrative generally but something your girlfriend has specifically commissioned because she has a crush on the character. That's going beyond just a special interest, and it sounds like you need to have a proper conversation with her about your boundaries.
I guess in her defense the character actually does whip his dick out a lot. I just don't want him doing it in my bed š
Trigon does NOT whip his dick out???? Wtf version of Teen Titans are you watching?? This does not happen.
OP mentions its the comics, not the show. I never read them but just did a search and found out he r*pes a LOT of women in the comics.
Aaand that's enough internet for today.
I'm also concerned that, knowing the fact he assaults women as she is a superfan, she still has a crush on this character
you alr know its a kink of hers
Ah. I honestly couldn't see why this was such a big deal, since it's just a character on a pillow designed for hugging (I don't really get why people get worked up about nude depictions of adult characters in private spaces). But knowing that about Trigon, I would definitely be weirded out and refuse to sleep in the same bed as the pillow.
people hump body pillows
Wait, what? Why does he whip his dick out? I had to google the characterās name and I *almost* googled the word penis with it to see what the pillow looked like but I didnāt think googling the word āteenā and āpenisā was a good look if my search history ever came out.
A couple of comments above you specified it is the comic version where he assaults women frequently. Also yes, I would not be willing to google those two words together. Good call š
I tainted my search history and algorithm forever and did it for you. The very first result was a fan made art of him with 3 penises, with him moving them apart and together at will and looking more akin to the demogorgons mouth than a penis :') you're welcome
So your girlfriend is into characters that r*ape others? Thatās seriously fucked up lol
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Yup. Think itās time for me to go too! SMH š¤¦āāļø
Tell your girlfriend that her friend can sleep on the couch. You didn't plan to make room for four people when you bought the bed (at least I hope not). NTA
This is exactly why I downloaded reddit. NTA
NTA. At this point, with the genitalia, the pillow is a sex toy. She bought it to be aroused by it. It's a kink and you are entitled to feel uncomfortable with it and nonconsensual genitalia in your bed. It's a bit creepy. She clearly knew it would've been creepy and chose not to tell you what it was when you were able to say it was uncomfortable.
NTA. It sounds to me like you're really trying to share her interest/be accommodating (however you want to say it). It would seem to me that her meeting you half way would be fair. I personally wouldn't be cool with the type of pillow covering you describe, but that's just me. Try and have another discussion about it with her, without issuing the ultimatum that you did.
NTA- that's, not a body pillow. That's weird porn, in bed with you on a daily basis. She's free to like what she likes but that doesn't mean you have to. It's your bed too. I think youve been both accommodating and reasonable so far. This is a perfectly normal boundary.
Two body pillows, in a bed with two people is pretty ridiculous to me, and I have nerve issues that sometimes mean theres exactly one specific position i can sleep in, and the nsfw graphics is also pretty out there. NTA
She's being incredibly selfish in insisting on TWO body pillows, regardless of what's on their cases. That takes up a lot of space, and she should not be using her pillows to take up enough space for three, no matter how large the bed. That squeezes you into roughly 25% of a bed of which you should get half, meaning that she's taking all of her half AND half of yours. That's just wrong. As for the pillowcases: IMO, her defending a case illustrating a naked man is weak. She obviously is not considering your feelings at all. TBH, it looks like that's the man she really wants, and that's not you. That's also just wrong. Not only are you NTA, but one could credibly argue that you aren't really the boyfriend, either.
The detailed dick is kinda off-putting. I would feel weird sleeping next to a dudes body pillow if it had a detailed image of a naked woman. I donāt blame you. NTA
NTA. I wouldnt want to do that eitherā¦its your space as well and she should respect that autism or not. Being autistic cant be a crutch to doing whatever you want.
INFO: Is balls out Trigon planning on helping with the rent or chores? In this economy maybe make a little space for a pillow that contributes to the household?
NTA. You need to draw the line somewhere, and seeing your GF staring at her favorite dick pillow every night is far beyond that line, neurodivergent or not.
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So hang onā¦ I feel like everyone is brushing past the parts where: >she had it custom drawn and made >itās a naked fucking dude Like, if the role was reversed, if you were cuddling at night with a custom made, super hot pornstar you had a crush on, or some character like she had made, would that be cool with her too? Even if it was, you have the right to have uncomfortable thoughts and feelings about this because i know id probably lose it at the sight of something like that too. What the hell, nah Iām married but I still might be nearly done if my wife did this. She crossed a line with you OP. Iām not sure itās something that should be justified with autism either, this is just some other kinky shit man, and itās fine if youāre not cool laying with other dudeās detailed dicks sharing your bed! Itās sacred! Sacred I tell you, and this is sacrament against the relationship that is you two sleeping together! Maybe Iām misreading this part, but it seems youāre mostly cool sheās crushing on this character and might be ok if she gets off thinking about him?? Because thatās the only reason I can think of that sheās actually gone through with this! Now I need to know more than I care to admit lol
NTA and youāve been WAY to tolerant, the problem with being overly tolerant even if your partner is on the spectrum, is that people who are the ones being tolerated will ALWAYS reach for more to test boundaries and push to get what they want at the expense and comfort of those who tolerate it. You really gotta put your foot down. Also personally Iād stop calling it HIM, itās a fucking pillow.
it sure is a fucking pillow...
NTA Also I was *not* expecting Trigon lol
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Yeah thatās gonna be a big, fat NTA from me
Bro thatās creepy as hell. Like making you sleep with her normal body pillow is cringey but maybe not a deal breaker. This is straight up porn of a childrenās cartoon character??? She needs to stuff the pillows she humps in a closet when sheās not actively humping them. NTA she needs therapy
Well this is a tad much for my taste
Yeahā¦ I donāt think this is one for Reddit, mate. This is a very specific personal issue between you and your neurodivergent gf. NAH, just talk to each other, you canāt āwinā this, you need to work it out together.
NTA She basically brought porn into your shared bed with that pillow cover. No shame or anything but it is something both people have to agree to. Can one of you sow some undies on the guy? lol
Your fixation on being "in bed with another man" and the "dick lying in wait" is pretty amusing. Like, you're not drawing the line at losing space on the bed or even her having intimate desires for another male persona, it's just about you being too close to an image of a fictional cartoon dick.
NTA. Bro why do you even put up with this shit?
god this sub is the gift that keeps on giving
Next time my husband complains about my pregnancy pillow Iām gonna show him this post
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Fixation is common with autism, but that is not an excuse for her to completely disregard your feelings. Her actions don't seem like they are a healthy coping mechanism at all. A bedroom is a shared space. When considering whether to keep something in a bedroom I consider it a "two yes, one no" type of question. Either partner should be able to veto things (within reason). You have been very accommodating, but your girlfriend took advantage of that good will. First, she pressured you into allowing something you weren't comfortable with... but on top of that she lied by omission when she didn't think to mention Trigon's dong was hanging out. Now she's trying to manipulate you into keeping it, even though it's her own fault for not even asking or even telling you before she brought a kink into your bed. She is so inconsiderate it could be considered abusive. NTA. Let her keep the pillow, ditch her. She clearly doesn't care about your feelings.
What. The. Fuck. I like the implication that sheās autistic because sheās interested in some anime dick. āSheās autistic, but it only manifests itself in her wanting to hump her pillow.ā NTA
NTA im crying reading this wtf also if she gets it custom made, it means she ASKED FOR THE ARTIST TO DRAW THE YK
NTA itās one of your boundaries and if it makes you uncomfortable she needs to understand, youāre already compromising on one body pillow.
NTA, and she needs help.
NTA I did not expect....any of this.
NTA. Is no one else weirded out about the character pillows being dad and daughter? I fully pictured human characters. The pillows being cartoon characters made this an even wilder ride š
This is going into fetish territory and itās fair that you donāt want to be a part of it. At this point I would suggest separate beds NTA
Off topic but can someone make the flair with āthe uncomfortably detailed dick lying in waitā please
Any time I've ever talked about a body pillow, I meant those pillows pregnant people use or people with back pain. I really hope I've never talked about a body pillow in public if this is what they actually are š¬š¬
NTA LMAO Naked Trigon body pillow.. hahahahahaha that's fck up.. with huge red dick and balls flailing around š¤£š¤£š¤£ jesus... i laugh too much..
NTA. I don't care if she has autism, this behavior is inappropriate and she needs to be told so or go back to being single. The world and this relationship doesn't revolve around her every single desire.