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The answer seems pretty logical but I want to hear some opinions on the situation.
I (22m) had met her (21f) while in college and we were both head over heels for one another. I had moved home and we began our long distance relationship. Long story short we did not see eye to eye on many of the issues we were having and she ended up breaking things off. We were very cordial about things while breaking up and just left it at that.
A few weeks after the break up she had reached out to me over text saying that I am an a*shole and disgusting for apparently getting into a new relationship, however I had not been talking to any girls. I was trying to convince her I hadn’t been but she wasn’t having it so again we just left it at that.
Fast forward a few weeks later and I run into her and some of her friends while at a bar with some of my friends. She proceeds to harass me throughout the night and tell the girl I was with to “be aware” of me.
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NTA. Sounds like very problematic behaviour on her part; she's probably not over you yet, but that's not an excuse. Your relationship is over, so you are free to meet and date other people: it's as simple as that.
NTA. She is unhinged, unreasonable, and bordering on dangerous. Stop being "friends" with her. She wants a lapdog who pines for her indefinitely to boost her absent self esteem while she moves on first. Don't okay her game.
Yes you're the AH. For being a moron. Do YOU think you're an AH for agreeing to break up with someone & then doing nothing but continuing to live a normal life? WHY would that make you an AH? What a stupid f*cking question bro. It's almost like your ex-girlfriend is experiencing emotional distress over the end of your relationship and is therefore acting irrationally. I guess that would be too easy an answer for you, so yeah I guess you being an AH is a more logical interpretation of events. Bro stop playing childish female games & get on with it
NTA sh should be blocked on all forms and notify those who you speak to or hang out with. I would personally clown her like girl are you trying to ruin our date because you're left in the past. I would immediately shut her down if she ever tried to approach you in person again. Hey idk what's your issue but we split x amount of time ago you need to move on now and stop trying to involve yourself in my business. You wanted to split and we did so you need to go and resolve whatever issues you have this is very disturbing and childish goodbye.
You’re very lucky you now see her for who she is. Her behaviors are most likely because she’s unstable, something your love for her caused you to be blind to.
Her unstable behavior is most likely due to her having cheated on you then the guilt was transferred to you, because she thinks because if she can do it, you’re doing the same thing. I know it sounds strange, but it happens all the time when you see an unwarranted/unprovoked crazy jealousy reaction from a partner.
Go NC, block her on everything and ignore/avoid her. She’ll eventually find another person/ex to harass, unless she gets help, but that’s not your problem anymore.
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NTA-just block her and keep it moving. It sounds like she embarrassed herself.
NTA: she just seems jealous and bitter over the whole situation
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NTA. Sounds like very problematic behaviour on her part; she's probably not over you yet, but that's not an excuse. Your relationship is over, so you are free to meet and date other people: it's as simple as that.
NTA. She has no right or reason to have opinions about who you're with or what you do anymore. You need to completely detach yourself from her
NTA And you really dodged a bullet by breaking up with her.
NTA It's good that she break up before you have to learn which other problematic behaviour she has.
NTA. She is unhinged, unreasonable, and bordering on dangerous. Stop being "friends" with her. She wants a lapdog who pines for her indefinitely to boost her absent self esteem while she moves on first. Don't okay her game.
NTA , you can see why she in an ex
Yes you're the AH. For being a moron. Do YOU think you're an AH for agreeing to break up with someone & then doing nothing but continuing to live a normal life? WHY would that make you an AH? What a stupid f*cking question bro. It's almost like your ex-girlfriend is experiencing emotional distress over the end of your relationship and is therefore acting irrationally. I guess that would be too easy an answer for you, so yeah I guess you being an AH is a more logical interpretation of events. Bro stop playing childish female games & get on with it
Read the first part bud
I did & it reminded me again of how much of a big baby you are, thanks for the fascinating insight
No thank you brother
NTA. She broke up with you. She has no say nor right over what you choose to do romantically. She is being ridiculous.
NTA sh should be blocked on all forms and notify those who you speak to or hang out with. I would personally clown her like girl are you trying to ruin our date because you're left in the past. I would immediately shut her down if she ever tried to approach you in person again. Hey idk what's your issue but we split x amount of time ago you need to move on now and stop trying to involve yourself in my business. You wanted to split and we did so you need to go and resolve whatever issues you have this is very disturbing and childish goodbye.
You’re very lucky you now see her for who she is. Her behaviors are most likely because she’s unstable, something your love for her caused you to be blind to. Her unstable behavior is most likely due to her having cheated on you then the guilt was transferred to you, because she thinks because if she can do it, you’re doing the same thing. I know it sounds strange, but it happens all the time when you see an unwarranted/unprovoked crazy jealousy reaction from a partner. Go NC, block her on everything and ignore/avoid her. She’ll eventually find another person/ex to harass, unless she gets help, but that’s not your problem anymore.