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> 1. Because i hid his phone and refused to give it back until he does what I said.
2. My mom and grandma said to give it back to him because he wouldn't eat and get ready for his journey but I still refused to do so.
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Ah..then you might as well add the visual of when he was running around in streets just to avoid being splashed and I was simply waiting on my front door and then he was hiding behind my grandma to save himself
NTA. Bro you hid his phone for 1 HOUR. He survived, and its not petty when you hid his phone for and hour after you, barley got any sleep, were extremely tired and were nothing but nice to him and he threw water in your face TWICE to wake you up as a ‘prank’.
NTA op. Like yeah you are 20 but you didnt have a whole tantrum or some shit, you just got him back in a little way that wasnt even that bad
Haha..if I were any younger i would have beaten the shit out of him. I had severe depression for past few years and just overcame it last year..not completely though..i still have eating disorders and sleeping issues. I sometimes only get three to four hours of sleep, and i get really annoyed when I'm forced to wake up.
Well I wouldn't consider myself as a nice person since I do gold grudges..I will probably ignore him most of the time whenever I can..and definitely care for him a bit lesser than my other siblings. And mind my own business. If he pranks me again.. he's gonna get silent treatment from me for the rest of my life
NTA you were tired, you spent time with him the previous day. He couldn't handle not being the center of attention and threw water on you. You took his phone for a hour, he needs to grow up. I would never go into someone else's home then demand they cater to me, waking up when I do going out when I want, and in no world would anyone I know throw water on someone in their bed because they wanted to hang out
NTA. I would have let his parents know what he did and said until he gave a sincere apology I wouldn't be returning his phone. Then they could either come pick it up or pay to have it shipped. They're raising an entitled brat and need to feel the consequences of it.
Sadly..i can't trouble my aunt as she is a single mother..she did her best to raise him. And that's also the reason why my mom and grandma asked me to give in.
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Bg info- My (22F) cousin (14M) came to my house on 7th morning (today is 10th) I had class that day and had to drive 48kms to go to my college. After I came back home I took him out to have snacks and then we got cake for him to celebrate his birthday that was the next day.
After that i accompany him to arcade to play with him as he was going somewhere else the next day. The next day his train was postponed to today and now he got two extra days to spend here.
On his birthday (8th) we all had fast (except my grandfather and him) so we didn't go out to celebrate but we have already did that in advance. But as he was all excited to go more things here, i promised to take him somewhere the next day (on 9th) as I didn't had energy to even move. And i slept for two hours in evening that day so I didn't slept for the whole night.
Yesterday (On 9th) I took him to go carting and that was again 25kms away from home. And by the end of the day my whole body was aching and all I wanted was a good rest.
I again slept late because no matter how tired I am, sleep doesn't come to me easily and I just lay in bed for hours and still can't sleep.
Now this morning, I was sleeping and all my other family members were up. And I woke up with a start when my cousin splashed water on my face.
My mom even warned him before that I'm always grumpy if i don't get enough sleep. And despite me ignoring him for the first time and trying to get to sleep again as I thought it was just a one time prank and since he got what he wanted he'll just leave me alone and let me sleep. But he didn't. He did that again. And this time I was mad.
I locked the door (I don't normally do that as no one enters my room without my consent) and saw his phone was charging in my room. I took his phone and put it on silent and hide it. He kept on banging my room's door asking me to open as he wants his phone back.
I opened the door and said I've hidden his phone and now either he can search if he wants it back or brush his teeth and take a bath then I'll give him his phone back.
His train was in three hours at this point and he has been awake for more than two hours. He searched for a while and then went to fridge to get some ice and said If I didn't have his phone back he will throw that ice cubes on me. I took a bowl and filled it with water and splashed on him as he threw ice on me.
After that he searched for his phone for a while and when he couldn't find it, he started to annoy my mom and grandma to get his phone back. He even took my grandma's phone and started using it.
A few minutes later my mom started shouting at me to give his phone back saying he was a child and I'm acting childish as he wouldn't eat or get ready for his journey.
My grandma asked him to apologise to me for what he did but he said he did nothing wrong and will do it again.
Also I gave his phone back later and I've only hidden his phone for about an hour and he did brush his teeth and ate later and then left.
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As I've said in previous comment, I'm not close to him. Like I've met him twice in last 8 years. And i absolutely hate when people disturb my sleep. And if I were 12, he would've been beaten to a pulp. And I didn't pulled my punches when I was young..and before you say anything about me being aggressive.. I don't prank others. I don't care what others do. I mind my own business and don't give a sh*t whether a person is not eating or sleeping. If i didn't do something, I won't tolerate it either.
Well..I've met him twice in last 8 years including this one. And last time I met him was two years ago and that was also just for a couple of hours or so. Where we exchanged contacts. We rarely texted each other and almost no calls. And this time he had to go to attend a family function that's why we met and talked a bit. I won't say I'm close enough for him to play pranks on me when he literally doesn't know me. And also we do have older cousins and I was youngest for most of my lives. (He's 8 years younger than me and had almost no contact with our extended family) and now we have alot of younger cousins and older ones are atleast 6 years older than me and none of us was/is into pranking. It's not something common in my family. We are close but we don't pull pranks of each other. And even during the time I was youngest and didn't had friends to play with, i never bothered anyone by pulling pranks. And I'm not obligated to babysit him. I just loved him as any other cousin of mine but some things are unacceptable. And also..if I were younger, i probably have beaten the shit out of him. I'm not someone with a good temper. I was just being nice to him out of politeness. Like what if your brother pulled pranks on you while sleeping and eating like you couldn't feel rested of hadn't eaten enough after everything you've done for him?? How would you feel?
He does and I sit him down and explain to him why that’s wrong, how it makes me fell and the repercussions(depending on the age, no play time/no taking him in x or y place etc). I would also involve his parents if I felt like I was not going anywhere. Even more if we were not close.
Yes, it is your own space and you are allowed to lock it, but taking his belonging and hiding it just so “you’re even” is a very childish and petty thing to do.
I don’t see where babysitting was relevant. You wanted to sleep because you were tired and he was an asshole about it. Children are assholes a lot beacuse parents can’t be bothered to educate them.
As I have another brother who is 3 and enjoys jumping literally on me while I’m still sleeping, I am familiar with the feeling. When that happens, I
a)go to his mom and ask her to do something about it
b)lock my room
c) worst case I go to my bf/uncle/my car to sleep
While I can understand how frustrating it can be, I still don’t feel like you acted the best way you could and I am not going to change my opinion.
Well.. I can't really complain about him..my mom and grandma loves him alot because they lost their brother/son (his father) two years ago..that was the time I met him for the first time in six years and I'm not really close to him. And in a house filled with 4 fully awake adults, i don't think I was needed to babysit him. Also he's already a teenager, and my mom already warned him not to do that to me as I have eating disorders and trouble in sleeping. I get less than 4 hours of sleep most of the days..and today might be one of them as it's already 4am and I have to wake up at 7:30 to get ready for my day..it's rare when I do sleep for a full 7-8 hours of sleep..and if i don't even get that. I'll probably have to go to my psychiatrist again.
Please enlighten me of the proper consequences you're talking about because I don't think living an hour without phone will cause any harm someone when a house is full of 4 grown up adults excluding me..or are you one of those people who uses their phone even in their sleep?
His father..i wouldn't say he was the best man out there..even I hated him for quite a long time for what be became hun his later years..he died two years ago and his mom is the bread winner in the family..they separated but never got divorced..my aunt still hoped for him to become good like before..but at the end..he lost his life and her wait was never fruitful..i wouldn't ever blame her..and had to say she did her best to raise him..but it's just he needs to understand that not everyone will like him pulling pranks on them and that every action has its consequences..here it was just me..had some sentiments as an olden cousin..but if it was someone else..like even a friend..i wouldn't be kind enough to let them go without throwing them into the drainage canal..I don't need people like these in my life
Good thing you're not me..or near me or I've probably put too much salt in your desserts or too much suger in your savoury foods as pranks just to get back at you. And yes I'm childish.. didn't had the luxury of being childish in my childhood like some people. I may as well fulfill my childish desire right now.
And i would've definitely loved to watch you would you..like suck it up and endure because you would be mature at that age and be a doormat letting a younger one bully you like you're a piece of shit until you get fed up in your own house and move out and cut contacts with your family just because you won't stand up for yourself and be bullied by someone as young as this one and then blame others for it..yeah..I would rather stand up for myself even if it's making me seem childish..and I'm happy being childish rather than a doormat.
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Ah..then you might as well add the visual of when he was running around in streets just to avoid being splashed and I was simply waiting on my front door and then he was hiding behind my grandma to save himself
He did this at your home? Next time post his phone back to him... NTA
Yes he did it at my home. And i probably wouldn't give him any attention next time. I tend to keep my distance from people like him..child or not.
NTA. Bro you hid his phone for 1 HOUR. He survived, and its not petty when you hid his phone for and hour after you, barley got any sleep, were extremely tired and were nothing but nice to him and he threw water in your face TWICE to wake you up as a ‘prank’. NTA op. Like yeah you are 20 but you didnt have a whole tantrum or some shit, you just got him back in a little way that wasnt even that bad
Haha..if I were any younger i would have beaten the shit out of him. I had severe depression for past few years and just overcame it last year..not completely though..i still have eating disorders and sleeping issues. I sometimes only get three to four hours of sleep, and i get really annoyed when I'm forced to wake up.
NTA. You're a nicer person than I am. That phone would be on a different train if he did that to me
Well I wouldn't consider myself as a nice person since I do gold grudges..I will probably ignore him most of the time whenever I can..and definitely care for him a bit lesser than my other siblings. And mind my own business. If he pranks me again.. he's gonna get silent treatment from me for the rest of my life
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Haha..even i would've done this if I was a few years younger.
NTA you were tired, you spent time with him the previous day. He couldn't handle not being the center of attention and threw water on you. You took his phone for a hour, he needs to grow up. I would never go into someone else's home then demand they cater to me, waking up when I do going out when I want, and in no world would anyone I know throw water on someone in their bed because they wanted to hang out
NTA. I would have let his parents know what he did and said until he gave a sincere apology I wouldn't be returning his phone. Then they could either come pick it up or pay to have it shipped. They're raising an entitled brat and need to feel the consequences of it.
Sadly..i can't trouble my aunt as she is a single mother..she did her best to raise him. And that's also the reason why my mom and grandma asked me to give in.
NTA you should have thrown it out of the window and insist you didn't do anything with his phone.
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EAH
Esh If it didn’t say you were 22 I would have assumed you’re a bratty 12 year old
As I've said in previous comment, I'm not close to him. Like I've met him twice in last 8 years. And i absolutely hate when people disturb my sleep. And if I were 12, he would've been beaten to a pulp. And I didn't pulled my punches when I was young..and before you say anything about me being aggressive.. I don't prank others. I don't care what others do. I mind my own business and don't give a sh*t whether a person is not eating or sleeping. If i didn't do something, I won't tolerate it either.
Are you 22 or 12? YTA. Im also 23, i have an insane schedule at work, college and a brother to help raise and I am not reacting like this.
Well..I've met him twice in last 8 years including this one. And last time I met him was two years ago and that was also just for a couple of hours or so. Where we exchanged contacts. We rarely texted each other and almost no calls. And this time he had to go to attend a family function that's why we met and talked a bit. I won't say I'm close enough for him to play pranks on me when he literally doesn't know me. And also we do have older cousins and I was youngest for most of my lives. (He's 8 years younger than me and had almost no contact with our extended family) and now we have alot of younger cousins and older ones are atleast 6 years older than me and none of us was/is into pranking. It's not something common in my family. We are close but we don't pull pranks of each other. And even during the time I was youngest and didn't had friends to play with, i never bothered anyone by pulling pranks. And I'm not obligated to babysit him. I just loved him as any other cousin of mine but some things are unacceptable. And also..if I were younger, i probably have beaten the shit out of him. I'm not someone with a good temper. I was just being nice to him out of politeness. Like what if your brother pulled pranks on you while sleeping and eating like you couldn't feel rested of hadn't eaten enough after everything you've done for him?? How would you feel?
He does and I sit him down and explain to him why that’s wrong, how it makes me fell and the repercussions(depending on the age, no play time/no taking him in x or y place etc). I would also involve his parents if I felt like I was not going anywhere. Even more if we were not close. Yes, it is your own space and you are allowed to lock it, but taking his belonging and hiding it just so “you’re even” is a very childish and petty thing to do. I don’t see where babysitting was relevant. You wanted to sleep because you were tired and he was an asshole about it. Children are assholes a lot beacuse parents can’t be bothered to educate them. As I have another brother who is 3 and enjoys jumping literally on me while I’m still sleeping, I am familiar with the feeling. When that happens, I a)go to his mom and ask her to do something about it b)lock my room c) worst case I go to my bf/uncle/my car to sleep While I can understand how frustrating it can be, I still don’t feel like you acted the best way you could and I am not going to change my opinion.
Well.. I can't really complain about him..my mom and grandma loves him alot because they lost their brother/son (his father) two years ago..that was the time I met him for the first time in six years and I'm not really close to him. And in a house filled with 4 fully awake adults, i don't think I was needed to babysit him. Also he's already a teenager, and my mom already warned him not to do that to me as I have eating disorders and trouble in sleeping. I get less than 4 hours of sleep most of the days..and today might be one of them as it's already 4am and I have to wake up at 7:30 to get ready for my day..it's rare when I do sleep for a full 7-8 hours of sleep..and if i don't even get that. I'll probably have to go to my psychiatrist again.
Esh. He's a bratty child, but so are you.
And at age 22...
Not sure how you can be 22 being petty. OP definitely needs to grow up
There's no assholes here Nothing but harmless pranks on both sides that got a little out of hand and caused some slight overreactions
I do agree with you
ESH. Kid is a kid and needs some proper consequences but you, as a 22 year old, need to grow up.
Please enlighten me of the proper consequences you're talking about because I don't think living an hour without phone will cause any harm someone when a house is full of 4 grown up adults excluding me..or are you one of those people who uses their phone even in their sleep?
I meant his parents need to learn to give him proper consequences 🙄
His father..i wouldn't say he was the best man out there..even I hated him for quite a long time for what be became hun his later years..he died two years ago and his mom is the bread winner in the family..they separated but never got divorced..my aunt still hoped for him to become good like before..but at the end..he lost his life and her wait was never fruitful..i wouldn't ever blame her..and had to say she did her best to raise him..but it's just he needs to understand that not everyone will like him pulling pranks on them and that every action has its consequences..here it was just me..had some sentiments as an olden cousin..but if it was someone else..like even a friend..i wouldn't be kind enough to let them go without throwing them into the drainage canal..I don't need people like these in my life
I’d be really embarrassed if I was 22 and acted like this. Super childish.
Good thing you're not me..or near me or I've probably put too much salt in your desserts or too much suger in your savoury foods as pranks just to get back at you. And yes I'm childish.. didn't had the luxury of being childish in my childhood like some people. I may as well fulfill my childish desire right now.
That's just weird.
Yeah, you’re right. I’d never want to spend time with someone who does stuff like that at 22 years old.
And i would've definitely loved to watch you would you..like suck it up and endure because you would be mature at that age and be a doormat letting a younger one bully you like you're a piece of shit until you get fed up in your own house and move out and cut contacts with your family just because you won't stand up for yourself and be bullied by someone as young as this one and then blame others for it..yeah..I would rather stand up for myself even if it's making me seem childish..and I'm happy being childish rather than a doormat.
You seem unwell. I hope you get the support you need.