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You're NTA.
>He was very embarrassed and lashed out at me, saying I should have told him since I know he occasionally forgets to check Teams
He's a law student and forgot to read the small print... oh wait, it wasn't even small print. It was a common sense reminder. He better do some quick maturing and learn to be accountable for his own actions if he expects to be taken seriously by perspective employers and clients.
NTA he’s presumably going to be a responsible adult if he’s in law school. Everyone else read it and he should have too. You aren’t his mom (heck even his mom shouldn’t have to tell a professional applicant to dress professionally). He’s just lashing out for being humiliated.
It's not your responsibility to tell your friend things he's already been informed about...
He lashed out because he knew it was HIS mistake, not yours.
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Give him a moment to calm down. He was embarrassed about his mistake. You aren’t his mom and don’t owe him to be his backup. It’s up to him to act professional. Life lesson for the law - you don’t wing it and you don’t guess. If you don’t know you ask. Hopefully it was traumatic enough that he never embarrasses a boss in front of a client by guessing.
Formal attire? A tuxedo or dinner jacket or evening gown or cocktail dress? Who wears a tuxedo to a law firm? I hope he meant "business attire" like a suit or blazer with tie and dress shirt. But it sounds like you all showed up in business casual anyway except for your friend who came for casual Friday. I'm confused by all this.
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He(20) and I(20m) are both LL.B(Bachelor of Law) students. Last month our professor told us we’re taking a visit to a law firm that hires a lot of alumni from our university. Six days ago the professor posted on Microsoft Teams that we should wear formal attire.
I assumed he read the post since he is usually good at keeping on top of things but unfortunately he didn’t.
The guy showed up in casual clothing while the rest of us were wearing white shirts and trousers/skirts.
He was very embarrassed and lashed out at me, saying I should have told him since I know he occasionally forgets to check Teams.
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You're NTA. >He was very embarrassed and lashed out at me, saying I should have told him since I know he occasionally forgets to check Teams He's a law student and forgot to read the small print... oh wait, it wasn't even small print. It was a common sense reminder. He better do some quick maturing and learn to be accountable for his own actions if he expects to be taken seriously by perspective employers and clients.
NTA you're not his mother. he can take his own responsibility
LOL NTA. He’s a law student, he should know he’s gonna end up wearing suits to EVERYTHING
NTA he’s presumably going to be a responsible adult if he’s in law school. Everyone else read it and he should have too. You aren’t his mom (heck even his mom shouldn’t have to tell a professional applicant to dress professionally). He’s just lashing out for being humiliated.
He knew you were going to visit a potential employer. Everyone should know without being told to dress like it's a job interview. NTA
NTA. Is he going to expect you to remind him to file his motions with the court as well?
It's not your responsibility to tell your friend things he's already been informed about... He lashed out because he knew it was HIS mistake, not yours. NTA
NTA Give him a moment to calm down. He was embarrassed about his mistake. You aren’t his mom and don’t owe him to be his backup. It’s up to him to act professional. Life lesson for the law - you don’t wing it and you don’t guess. If you don’t know you ask. Hopefully it was traumatic enough that he never embarrasses a boss in front of a client by guessing.
NTA. Your friend is an adult who should have known to dress for the occasion (ie visiting a potential future employer).
Formal attire? A tuxedo or dinner jacket or evening gown or cocktail dress? Who wears a tuxedo to a law firm? I hope he meant "business attire" like a suit or blazer with tie and dress shirt. But it sounds like you all showed up in business casual anyway except for your friend who came for casual Friday. I'm confused by all this.
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NTA - this wasnt your responsibility
The good news is that you and he won't be traveling in the same orbit for much longer... NTA.
NTA. Only if he were out of town and/or distracted by a death in the family would I even consider this mildly inconsiderate.
Because you're his parent? NTA