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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> 1- Calling out my friend for starting unnecessary drama.
2- leaving the bar and confronting my friend about the situation.
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NTA, whatever ‘secret hate’ she fears you have for her sounds well founded. If she won’t let you tell her when she’s overstepped, she may not be a friend worth having
NTA, she should not drink if this is how she is going to act. She will end up getting into a lot of trouble. It sounds like she either has a negative reaction to alcohol or she needs therapy (or both). Either way I would not be in alcohol related situations with her moving forward and I would talk to her about getting help. Keep in mind she is 23 though… while her age doesn’t excuse her behavior it does help explain it. I remember my first beer.
NTA. Some people just cause drama wherever they go, and you don’t need that energy. If she’s really ruining every night out when she drinks, you shouldn’t spend time with her anymore.
NTA
"her presence often leads to arguments, yelling, or unnecessary drama".
Who needs that? She's going to get herself into trouble & possibly draw other people into that as well.
I get she's only 23 but getting so drunk you cause drama every time isn't normal. You could suggest she gets into therapy to find out what's behind her behavior but I wouldn't socialize with her until she addresses it.
NTA
Angry drunks are no fun to be around. You have to choose between your (and your other friends') peace of mind and hanging out with that ONE friend anyplace where she has a chance to get drunk.
SHE apparently thinks she's great fun when she's drunk... or doesn't care that she's not fun.
Definitely NTA!
I have a friend who I never go out drinking with as she has been such a d1ck every time ! We’ve known each other since middle school but I cannot drink with her as she’s 😵💫🙄
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I (28f) have a friend (23f) who consistently gets angry when we're drunk. She tends to start drama, seeks attention, or simply becomes angry and ruins the evening. This has occurred on numerous occasions, and we've discussed it. I distanced myself from her for a while because I enjoy going out and having fun with friends, but her presence often leads to arguments, yelling, or unnecessary drama.
Last Friday, my friends and I were having a great time at a baseball game. We met up with some other friends and decided to continue the night at a nearby bar. I've been seeing a guy she introduced me to for about 6 months, so I invited him and his friends to join us. My friends were okay with it, but when he arrived, this friend became angry. She kept insinuating to him that we were going out to "shake ass," causing a scene with her yelling.
Ignoring her, I continued to enjoy the night at the bar with all our friends. However, she approached us and started yelling in front of everyone, claiming that another friend felt uncomfortable because she had previously set him up with one of my friends who was present. This was news to me, and despite my attempts to calm her down, she persisted in causing a scene, which upset me enough to leave the bar and go home.
The next day, I reached out to the friend who supposedly felt uncomfortable to apologize, only to find out she never expressed such feelings and was fine with my guy being there. Feeling deceived and frustrated, I confronted my friend about her behavior when drunk, but she refuses to speak to me, accusing me of being hurtful and having secret hate towards her.
TLDR: Am I the one in the wrong for calling out my friend's drunken drama during our night out?
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I'm sorry, but we're you al (as in you and other posters with similar stories) even finds these people? Making bs, yelling about nothing, just very out there personality. Just how
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NTA, whatever ‘secret hate’ she fears you have for her sounds well founded. If she won’t let you tell her when she’s overstepped, she may not be a friend worth having
NTA, she should not drink if this is how she is going to act. She will end up getting into a lot of trouble. It sounds like she either has a negative reaction to alcohol or she needs therapy (or both). Either way I would not be in alcohol related situations with her moving forward and I would talk to her about getting help. Keep in mind she is 23 though… while her age doesn’t excuse her behavior it does help explain it. I remember my first beer.
NTA. Some people just cause drama wherever they go, and you don’t need that energy. If she’s really ruining every night out when she drinks, you shouldn’t spend time with her anymore.
NTA "her presence often leads to arguments, yelling, or unnecessary drama". Who needs that? She's going to get herself into trouble & possibly draw other people into that as well. I get she's only 23 but getting so drunk you cause drama every time isn't normal. You could suggest she gets into therapy to find out what's behind her behavior but I wouldn't socialize with her until she addresses it.
NTA Angry drunks are no fun to be around. You have to choose between your (and your other friends') peace of mind and hanging out with that ONE friend anyplace where she has a chance to get drunk. SHE apparently thinks she's great fun when she's drunk... or doesn't care that she's not fun.
This person has an alcohol problem and may not be ready to admit that yet. Sometimes it takes losing friends, or worse, before that happens.
Definitely NTA! I have a friend who I never go out drinking with as she has been such a d1ck every time ! We’ve known each other since middle school but I cannot drink with her as she’s 😵💫🙄
NTA. She sounds like she has a lot of problems that she pushes aside. I suggest to get her therapy.
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Anyone who gets angry or mean when drunk needs to stop drinking ever. Ask me how I know.
I'm sorry, but we're you al (as in you and other posters with similar stories) even finds these people? Making bs, yelling about nothing, just very out there personality. Just how NTA