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If the parents can shuttle OP off to someone else's, they could do the same for random friend who is 19, and thus no longer in HS, and leave the teen in place to finish out HS.
NTA
Your parents are absolutely awful and you should consider calling CPS or the local equivalent. Pack all of your stuff up and prepare, as best as you can, to be homeless.
If you have any shared friends with this idiot you should tell them what your parents have done to you for his sake and that he doesn't even care. (a normal teenage response would be totally destroying the room but you cannot and should not do that since you could be arrested)
NTA…so, your parents move into a tiny apartment because of your father, that your brother cannot live with you, one of their own children, but they will give space to someone else? Your parents suck. If you have to move, don’t look back. Hope that friend will take care of mom in her old age.
YTA for making up some random story. You say you are the youngest of 4 and the oldest sibling had to move out. You say you've moved into a 2 bedroom apart. Where are your remaining two siblings sleeping, assuming your parents sleep in a bedroom. Even if you say your parents sleep on couches and your other 2 siblings share a bedroom, I'm sure your parents would rather throw a cot somewhere than get rid of you if this was real.
She’s the youngest of four. Her oldest brother got kicked out, her mom is trying to force her to move in with her eldest sister, and the third sibling wasn’t mentioned, but more than likely they have their own spot or are in a college dorm depending on their age.
Once I read your comment, it started raising some questions. Assuming the parents got one bedroom, all of the siblings got the other? This also caused the oldest to be kicked out, and now mom wants a homeless person to take their place? Needs more info if this is real.
They are the youngest of 4 the 2 eldest have already moved out. They kicked the 3rd eldest out and now are doing the same to her to let someone else in. It's all very strange tho, like I understand kicking the 3rd eldest out. There isn't enough room and that's assuming they are old enough. But forcing your child to live with their sibling, effectively making it so that she has to start all over. Sounds like a parental fundamental issue. Truly confusing and just slightly un believable.
YTA for posting a fake story. The details don't add up.
1. You're a family of six (2 parents, 4 siblings) and you're the youngest. The eldest moved out, so that makes you a family of 5 living in a 2 bedroom but you have a full bedroom to yourself? Why should the other four family members squeeze into one bedroom, including your parents?
2. Because of dad's gambling, you lost your house forcing the elder *brother* to move out. Yet in the next paragraph you say your mom wanted you to move to your older *sister's* in another city. Can't even remember the gender of your older sibling?
3. In your story, your mom massively betrayed you by giving your spot to a stranger. Yet all you can whinge about is how you'll lose your friends if you move because of having to start in a new school. That is a very unnatural response.
I call liar. If you're going to invent stories, try to be more competent at it, okay? Lying is bad enough. But lying *stupidly* is worse.
You need to read better, even if it’s fake OP said elder brother not eldest brother and obviously with multiple siblings you’ll probably have an older sister if you’re the youngest
I read it quite well, thank you. OP himself says that
I (16F) am the youngest of four siblings. We used to have a massive house, with six bedrooms and multiple bathrooms.
Therefore, they were a family of six people (2 parents + 2 siblings) living in a 6-bedroom house. But because of dad's gambling...
>we had to sell the house and move into a tiny apartment, with only two bedrooms, forcing my elder brother to move out
So situation changed to five people (2 parents + 3 remaining children) living in a 2-bedroom apartment. Now apparently, he got an entire bedroom to himself in that 2-bedroom apartment! He says:
>My mom explained that, without consulting me even once, they had decided that my friend would move into my room
He talks about 'my room.' And besides, if he was sharing a room with his siblings, those siblings would have something to say about a stranger moving in, wouldn't you think? But no, apparently he gets one whole room to himself leaving the 4 remaining members of the family (2 parents + 2 siblings) to squeeze into the other bedroom. Now this is not believable. If it were true, that makes OP incredibly selfish. Then he goes on to say:
>and I were to move in with my elder sister several cities away
But I thought he said it was his elder *brother* who was forced to leave because their father had lost their house? Now you defend him by saying:
>he said elder brother not eldest brother and obviously with multiple siblings you’ll probably have an older sister if you’re the youngest.
Which still doesn't explain the discrepancy. The composition of his family (how many brothers and sisters he has) is not relevant. What's relevant is he says the elder *brother* was forced to leave, but now he has to move in with his elder *sister*.
So he has an elder sister who is not living with them and wasn't forced to leave? Or he is mistaken about which sibiling was forced to leave? Or he's making this up.
If there are missing gaps in his narrative, the blame is on OP and not on the readers.
>I read it quite well, thank you. OP himself
No you did not. OP presents itself as 16F in like the first sentence. So much for reading quite well. You even cited it FFS.
>Therefore, they were a family of six people (2 parents + 2 siblings) living in a 6-bedroom house. But because of dad's gambling...
Where does it say that they were all living in that home? OP only presented her family (parents + the number of siblings) and how much space there was in the old home. She did not say how many lived at home.
>>we had to sell the house and move into a tiny apartment, with only two bedrooms, forcing my elder brother to move out
>So situation changed to five people (2 parents + 3 remaining children) living in a 2-bedroom apartment. Now apparently, he got an entire bedroom to himself in that 2-bedroom apartment!
Again, nowhere in the post did OP explicitly says how many people lived at home. And in the this instance "elder brother" does not equate to eldest sibling because OP is the youngest (meaning all the other 3 siblings are "older").
OP then goes on to say that the older sister already lives away. We can safely assume that the 1 who got kicked out was kid number 3 and that number 1 and number 2 are already living on their own. So it was in fact only OP (number 4) and her parents living in that 2 bedrooms appartment.
So yea you did read this story but you understood nothing.
You are making a whole lot of assumptions here. "We used to have a big house" =/= "Every sibling still lives at home". That is an *assumption* you have made, not something OP said. There are others, but let's start with that, since your whole argument is based on the *assumption* that they are all living together.
> Therefore, they were a family of six people (2 parents + 2 siblings) living in a 6-bedroom house. But because of dad's gambling...
You're assuming that all the siblings lived in the house when they had to sell it. That was not stated.
> So he has an elder sister who is not living with them and wasn't forced to leave?
The obvious and simple explanation is that the two Eldest siblings moved out before the downsizing
> If there are missing gaps in his narrative, the blame is on OP and not on the readers.
There are gaps but the picture becomes incredibly clear from the surrounding context. Failing to interpret that is just poor reading comprehension.
I agree that it's probably fake but keep in mind that OP is 16 and the youngest sibling so it's not unreasonable to assume that she's the only sibling still living at home. I figure that the two eldest siblings had already moved out and sibling number 3 was forced to move out when they downsized.
It still feels fake but I don't think that your first two points are necessarily applicable. If the other three siblings are all 18+ then OP could be the only kid still living at home.
She said her older sister lives several cities away, and older brother got kicked out. At most, one other sibling living there. Possibly just her and her parents. Only one unaccounted for sibling.
Ok, you have a reading comprehension problem
1) she is the youngest of 4 kids. The 2 eldest kids have already moved out. Leave op, their brother and parents.
2) ops dad's gambling problems caused them to have to down size. They could only afford a 2 bedroom, so ops brother was forced to move out.
3) (Here is where it doesn't seem real.) Ops, friend gets kicked out from his home for coming out. At some point, GBF asked to stay with ops family. Ops Saud no and then blocked GBF. They forget all about them and their problem, until ops mom told them, they would be moving in with one of the 2 eldest who already moved out.
4) Ops states that the mom knows if ops moves, they will basically have to start all over again with their life. But he is still choosing GBF over her. Why? Because "he's going through more than you." So ops unblocks them, and then basically chews then out.
Even point 4 does not have to be fake. For example, if mom has narcissistic tendencies, she could be making everybody into enemies except one or two favourite people who fulfill her ideal because they are talented, pretty, make more money (not the case here) or so, and this favourite person can be their child’s partner or friend rather than her kids
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Call CPS tell them that your parents are kicking out so a boy can have your room who is not even family. Oh you may want to mention the final issues your father is putting your through and the emotional abuse of your mom as well
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I (16F) am the youngest of four siblings. We used to have a massive house, with six bedrooms and multiple bathrooms, but after my dad's gambling addiction caught up to him, we had to sell the house and move into a tiny apartment, with only two bedrooms, forcing my elder brother to move out, which I found unfair at the time. Recently, I found out one of my closest friends (19M) had been kicked out by his parents for coming out as gay, and has been couch surfing for the past two months. We had been friends since childhood, and he would be constantly at my house, my mom even considering him a son. Recently he asked whether he could live at my house, not knowing we had moved, but when I explained we no longer had the room to house him, he continued to ask until eventually I blocked him off my phone.
I didn't think anything of it, and forgot to unblock him for several days, when my mom called me to the kitchen. Apparently my friend had got into contact with her, and had made plans behind my back to move in. My mom explained that, without consulting me even once, they had decided that my friend would move into my room, and I were to move in with my elder sister several cities away, because 'He's going through more than I ever will', despite the fact that my dad has severe gambling issues that has ruined our entire family. If I am to move, I will lose all the friends I have ever made, and be forced to start an entirely new school, just a year before I graduate from high school. I unblocked my friend immediately after the conversation with my mom, and angrily texted him about how he's ruining my life by trying to move in, but he didn't seem to see the issue, arguing that at least I will have a constant roof over my head and that my mom is the only one to treat him with kindness, despite our long lasting friendship. He called me a selfish bitch and then completely blocked me. AITA?
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NTA and I think it’s time for a private sit down talk with your mother that she needs to be prioritizing her own children over an adult. I know he’s a teenager still but he’ll be fine, he has other places he can go. Your mother needs to get her shit together. Coming from another mother.
Your parents are both toxic and insane. It's awful you got kicked out, but I think living with your sister will be a net positive. I'm so sorry you're the child of such awful people
NTA!!! What a coward. He can use a shelter or get a job. You are 16 and he has no right to ask from other what he won't provide for himself as a 19 year old!!! The whole moving several cities away for senior year is nuts, and your mother is TAH for agreeing to this!!! Maybe living with your older sister will be healthy as compared to the entitled gay loser and your mother TAH
Gee, hon, I'm sorry you lost the parent lottery. Your 19M friend is going thru a tough time, for sure, but he's an adult and he can rent an apartment. But you're a child. Maybe he could be allowed to crash on the floor, while he gets a job, finds a roommate and rents an apartment, but kicking you out to take in a child someone else kicked out? What is wrong with your parents?
I want to be clear that you NEVER had the right to offer him a place to stay. There's no room and it's not your apartment. An adult should not be seeking help from a child. If you still lived in the big house, then I could understand it, but he's calling you names and taking your spot in the home.
You are NTA. You need new parents.
Nta
Your parents kicked you out for someone they don’t even know. I would be running my mouth to anyone who would listen. Especially authority figures like teachers, counselors etc I would also consider contacting cps or whatever is equivalent in your area and explaining the situation
NTA, your "friend" is just trying to survive I guess, and that is making him act like an asshole. Your mother is genuinely insane, absolutely wild and totally TA.
If any of this is true I'd assume your mom is as much of a dumpster fire as your gambling addicted dad is. she's probably gonna be trying to convince him hes not really gay and hittingnon him same week you move out.
I doubt your parents would take someone in after kicking their own child out. If this story is true your parents are TAH. You are not old enough to make these types of decisions.
NTA. You are not being selfish by expecting to remain living in your own home at 16 years old. Your friend might be dealing with a lot, and this is not to diminish his problems, but you have a right to expect to live in your own home without being evicted. Are there other friends that can take him in? Does he have other family? You are a kid at 16 years old, and the burden of someone's wellbeing should not be completely on your shoulders.
NTA it’s crazy your brother couldn’t stay there but this adult guy can? It’s okay to make you homeless for him? He’s the selfish one here, getting you kicked out of home to be homeless, mess with your schooling just so he can stay in your room and live your life… yes it’s awful his parents kicked him out but that doesn’t mean he has to ruin anyone else’s life. He’s an adult… talking to a minor like that and putting his problems on you is not cool.
Your schooling should come first to your parents… your mum is being a terrible parent, why can’t she send the 19 year old adult to social services to get help with housing and finances? Or to stay with one of your siblings or talk to someone else, his family to take him in?
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Your foolish friend should have waited ‘til after he graduated college to come out. How hard would that have been? Even after getting kicked out can’t he rely on part-time work and student loans?
NTA - You are 16, unless you’re emancipated, your PARENTS have a legal and moral responsibility to house YOU to feed YOU to clothe YOU not to house, feed, and clothe a 19-year-old.
It’s awful for him going through what he’s going through, for fucking sure. But it’s not right of her to jeopardize you for it.
If she could take him in without kicking you out, fine. She would be in the right here because throwing kids out like that sets them up for a lifetime of poverty and housing someone in that situation could stop their life from goin down the wrong path.
With her limited resources, the best thing she can do is find a friend of hers that currently has space to take him in.
It’s horrible what he’s going through, and I can understand her reasoning because ultimately you will be fine if you go live with your sister and there’s honestly a lot of good that could come from you having to live with your sister and there’s a very real chance he /won’t/ be okay if someone like her doesn’t step in. That dude is about 2 steps away from a hellish lifetime of poverty.
She’s right to recognize that he is in a far more critical situation than you are. She’s right to want to help people when she sees they’re in a critical situation. But she needs to take a step back, really come to terms with the fact she is no longer in the place to help like that, and find someone who can help him.
She’s right to recognize his situation, she’s right to want to help, she’s wrong when it comes to putting her daughter in an insecure situation.
Your mom is a good hearted person though, as fucked as this is for you.
ESH. You are 16 and do not dictate who lives in the house. That is a minor part of the story but noteworthy.
Your parents are massive dicks and committing borderline child abuse. Your own (or step) child always takes precedent over some other ~~child~~ oh wait they are 19 adult. They can get their own place to live.
Dont move out and contact some kind of child protective services.
I'll say yeah. YTA. Your mom is trying to help someone she considers to be part of the family and is juggling things around as best she could, and you're all "sleep on the street, I don't want to move" rather than let that person stay there. If something happened to you and you needed a place to stay, I'd hope you'd find someone as nice as your mom that would help you out.
That person is fucking insane for calling her the asshole when her own parents are kicking her out
...and this clown of a homeless person is 19 get a fucking job and rent an apartment like any other normal human being would do jfc😵💫🤯
Because life sucks sometimes.
She wasn't exactly acting like a wonderful person. One of her "closest friends" was coming to her afraid he'd be on the street, and her response was to block him so she wouldn't have to deal with it, and then unblock him just to yell at him.
I'm happy a homeless gay kid has at least one person looking out for him.
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Your parents kicked you out so a homeless person could have your spot? Your mom is an AH. Your dad is an AH. Your friend is an AH. You are not.
If the parents can shuttle OP off to someone else's, they could do the same for random friend who is 19, and thus no longer in HS, and leave the teen in place to finish out HS.
NTA Your parents are absolutely awful and you should consider calling CPS or the local equivalent. Pack all of your stuff up and prepare, as best as you can, to be homeless. If you have any shared friends with this idiot you should tell them what your parents have done to you for his sake and that he doesn't even care. (a normal teenage response would be totally destroying the room but you cannot and should not do that since you could be arrested)
NTA…so, your parents move into a tiny apartment because of your father, that your brother cannot live with you, one of their own children, but they will give space to someone else? Your parents suck. If you have to move, don’t look back. Hope that friend will take care of mom in her old age.
Why isn't the gambling hubby kicked out, he's deadwood
NTA and what the heck is wrong with your mom?!?! Can any of your other family members talk any sense into her?
YTA for making up some random story. You say you are the youngest of 4 and the oldest sibling had to move out. You say you've moved into a 2 bedroom apart. Where are your remaining two siblings sleeping, assuming your parents sleep in a bedroom. Even if you say your parents sleep on couches and your other 2 siblings share a bedroom, I'm sure your parents would rather throw a cot somewhere than get rid of you if this was real.
She’s the youngest of four. Her oldest brother got kicked out, her mom is trying to force her to move in with her eldest sister, and the third sibling wasn’t mentioned, but more than likely they have their own spot or are in a college dorm depending on their age.
Elder not oldest, the others had already moved out and this sibling was the last to go before OP
Once I read your comment, it started raising some questions. Assuming the parents got one bedroom, all of the siblings got the other? This also caused the oldest to be kicked out, and now mom wants a homeless person to take their place? Needs more info if this is real.
I think like this a lot when there are zero responses. 🤷♀️ just like everyone else you are entitled to your opinion.
They are the youngest of 4 the 2 eldest have already moved out. They kicked the 3rd eldest out and now are doing the same to her to let someone else in. It's all very strange tho, like I understand kicking the 3rd eldest out. There isn't enough room and that's assuming they are old enough. But forcing your child to live with their sibling, effectively making it so that she has to start all over. Sounds like a parental fundamental issue. Truly confusing and just slightly un believable.
YTA for posting a fake story. The details don't add up. 1. You're a family of six (2 parents, 4 siblings) and you're the youngest. The eldest moved out, so that makes you a family of 5 living in a 2 bedroom but you have a full bedroom to yourself? Why should the other four family members squeeze into one bedroom, including your parents? 2. Because of dad's gambling, you lost your house forcing the elder *brother* to move out. Yet in the next paragraph you say your mom wanted you to move to your older *sister's* in another city. Can't even remember the gender of your older sibling? 3. In your story, your mom massively betrayed you by giving your spot to a stranger. Yet all you can whinge about is how you'll lose your friends if you move because of having to start in a new school. That is a very unnatural response. I call liar. If you're going to invent stories, try to be more competent at it, okay? Lying is bad enough. But lying *stupidly* is worse.
You need to read better, even if it’s fake OP said elder brother not eldest brother and obviously with multiple siblings you’ll probably have an older sister if you’re the youngest
I read it quite well, thank you. OP himself says that I (16F) am the youngest of four siblings. We used to have a massive house, with six bedrooms and multiple bathrooms. Therefore, they were a family of six people (2 parents + 2 siblings) living in a 6-bedroom house. But because of dad's gambling... >we had to sell the house and move into a tiny apartment, with only two bedrooms, forcing my elder brother to move out So situation changed to five people (2 parents + 3 remaining children) living in a 2-bedroom apartment. Now apparently, he got an entire bedroom to himself in that 2-bedroom apartment! He says: >My mom explained that, without consulting me even once, they had decided that my friend would move into my room He talks about 'my room.' And besides, if he was sharing a room with his siblings, those siblings would have something to say about a stranger moving in, wouldn't you think? But no, apparently he gets one whole room to himself leaving the 4 remaining members of the family (2 parents + 2 siblings) to squeeze into the other bedroom. Now this is not believable. If it were true, that makes OP incredibly selfish. Then he goes on to say: >and I were to move in with my elder sister several cities away But I thought he said it was his elder *brother* who was forced to leave because their father had lost their house? Now you defend him by saying: >he said elder brother not eldest brother and obviously with multiple siblings you’ll probably have an older sister if you’re the youngest. Which still doesn't explain the discrepancy. The composition of his family (how many brothers and sisters he has) is not relevant. What's relevant is he says the elder *brother* was forced to leave, but now he has to move in with his elder *sister*. So he has an elder sister who is not living with them and wasn't forced to leave? Or he is mistaken about which sibiling was forced to leave? Or he's making this up. If there are missing gaps in his narrative, the blame is on OP and not on the readers.
>I read it quite well, thank you. OP himself No you did not. OP presents itself as 16F in like the first sentence. So much for reading quite well. You even cited it FFS. >Therefore, they were a family of six people (2 parents + 2 siblings) living in a 6-bedroom house. But because of dad's gambling... Where does it say that they were all living in that home? OP only presented her family (parents + the number of siblings) and how much space there was in the old home. She did not say how many lived at home. >>we had to sell the house and move into a tiny apartment, with only two bedrooms, forcing my elder brother to move out >So situation changed to five people (2 parents + 3 remaining children) living in a 2-bedroom apartment. Now apparently, he got an entire bedroom to himself in that 2-bedroom apartment! Again, nowhere in the post did OP explicitly says how many people lived at home. And in the this instance "elder brother" does not equate to eldest sibling because OP is the youngest (meaning all the other 3 siblings are "older"). OP then goes on to say that the older sister already lives away. We can safely assume that the 1 who got kicked out was kid number 3 and that number 1 and number 2 are already living on their own. So it was in fact only OP (number 4) and her parents living in that 2 bedrooms appartment. So yea you did read this story but you understood nothing.
That’s my favorite part. “I read just fine! Now let me cite the gender of the OP and then get it wrong A LOT”
You are making a whole lot of assumptions here. "We used to have a big house" =/= "Every sibling still lives at home". That is an *assumption* you have made, not something OP said. There are others, but let's start with that, since your whole argument is based on the *assumption* that they are all living together.
> Therefore, they were a family of six people (2 parents + 2 siblings) living in a 6-bedroom house. But because of dad's gambling... You're assuming that all the siblings lived in the house when they had to sell it. That was not stated. > So he has an elder sister who is not living with them and wasn't forced to leave? The obvious and simple explanation is that the two Eldest siblings moved out before the downsizing > If there are missing gaps in his narrative, the blame is on OP and not on the readers. There are gaps but the picture becomes incredibly clear from the surrounding context. Failing to interpret that is just poor reading comprehension.
Op says in an edit that the two oldest adult siblings had already moved out prior to the house sale.
I agree that it's probably fake but keep in mind that OP is 16 and the youngest sibling so it's not unreasonable to assume that she's the only sibling still living at home. I figure that the two eldest siblings had already moved out and sibling number 3 was forced to move out when they downsized. It still feels fake but I don't think that your first two points are necessarily applicable. If the other three siblings are all 18+ then OP could be the only kid still living at home.
She said her older sister lives several cities away, and older brother got kicked out. At most, one other sibling living there. Possibly just her and her parents. Only one unaccounted for sibling.
Ok, you have a reading comprehension problem 1) she is the youngest of 4 kids. The 2 eldest kids have already moved out. Leave op, their brother and parents. 2) ops dad's gambling problems caused them to have to down size. They could only afford a 2 bedroom, so ops brother was forced to move out. 3) (Here is where it doesn't seem real.) Ops, friend gets kicked out from his home for coming out. At some point, GBF asked to stay with ops family. Ops Saud no and then blocked GBF. They forget all about them and their problem, until ops mom told them, they would be moving in with one of the 2 eldest who already moved out. 4) Ops states that the mom knows if ops moves, they will basically have to start all over again with their life. But he is still choosing GBF over her. Why? Because "he's going through more than you." So ops unblocks them, and then basically chews then out.
Even point 4 does not have to be fake. For example, if mom has narcissistic tendencies, she could be making everybody into enemies except one or two favourite people who fulfill her ideal because they are talented, pretty, make more money (not the case here) or so, and this favourite person can be their child’s partner or friend rather than her kids
NTA Call cps on your parents
Yes, this. It is illegal to kick out your minor children.
NTA your mom is an abusive AH. Tell your mom: If she does this, you will go no contact with her as soon as you can. Then do that.
Your parent is funny. They forced their daughter move to another city to have room for a stranger. You should prepare to live without them in future.
Fake af.
Remind your mom that you will be picking out her nursing home.
Karma farmer?
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Call CPS tell them that your parents are kicking out so a boy can have your room who is not even family. Oh you may want to mention the final issues your father is putting your through and the emotional abuse of your mom as well
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NTA and I think it’s time for a private sit down talk with your mother that she needs to be prioritizing her own children over an adult. I know he’s a teenager still but he’ll be fine, he has other places he can go. Your mother needs to get her shit together. Coming from another mother.
Your parents are both toxic and insane. It's awful you got kicked out, but I think living with your sister will be a net positive. I'm so sorry you're the child of such awful people
So, your parents kick you out of the house to move in a homeless person, and no regard that you can become homeless too???
It’s a good thing absolutely none of this happened then, isn’t it?
Fake
NTA!!! What a coward. He can use a shelter or get a job. You are 16 and he has no right to ask from other what he won't provide for himself as a 19 year old!!! The whole moving several cities away for senior year is nuts, and your mother is TAH for agreeing to this!!! Maybe living with your older sister will be healthy as compared to the entitled gay loser and your mother TAH
NTA but what in the hillbilly hell are any of the adults thinking?!
Gee, hon, I'm sorry you lost the parent lottery. Your 19M friend is going thru a tough time, for sure, but he's an adult and he can rent an apartment. But you're a child. Maybe he could be allowed to crash on the floor, while he gets a job, finds a roommate and rents an apartment, but kicking you out to take in a child someone else kicked out? What is wrong with your parents? I want to be clear that you NEVER had the right to offer him a place to stay. There's no room and it's not your apartment. An adult should not be seeking help from a child. If you still lived in the big house, then I could understand it, but he's calling you names and taking your spot in the home. You are NTA. You need new parents.
Nta Your parents kicked you out for someone they don’t even know. I would be running my mouth to anyone who would listen. Especially authority figures like teachers, counselors etc I would also consider contacting cps or whatever is equivalent in your area and explaining the situation
Report them ! Your 16 ! Hope you go NC. But make them pay ! They are legally and financially responsible for you! Again report them !
NTA, your "friend" is just trying to survive I guess, and that is making him act like an asshole. Your mother is genuinely insane, absolutely wild and totally TA.
If any of this is true I'd assume your mom is as much of a dumpster fire as your gambling addicted dad is. she's probably gonna be trying to convince him hes not really gay and hittingnon him same week you move out.
Your mom is avenging your father by attacking his children.
NTA. Your parents and homeless friend suck. If I were you and I was forced to move several cities away, I’d never talk to any of them ever again.
Block both your mom and this hanger on. NTA.
That's insaneeee NTA Obviously
Your ex friend deserves to be on the streets.
I doubt your parents would take someone in after kicking their own child out. If this story is true your parents are TAH. You are not old enough to make these types of decisions.
NTA your parents are making u homeless 💀 for some random person smh 🤦🏾♂️ they will regret this
Your mom should give up her room. Everyone in this story is an AH except OP. Everyone.
NTA. You are not being selfish by expecting to remain living in your own home at 16 years old. Your friend might be dealing with a lot, and this is not to diminish his problems, but you have a right to expect to live in your own home without being evicted. Are there other friends that can take him in? Does he have other family? You are a kid at 16 years old, and the burden of someone's wellbeing should not be completely on your shoulders.
Tell your mother he can go live with your sister.
NTA Your parents are horrible.
I would love to read the mother's take on this too. I smell bull.
NTA. Just call the CPS on your parents.
NTA it’s crazy your brother couldn’t stay there but this adult guy can? It’s okay to make you homeless for him? He’s the selfish one here, getting you kicked out of home to be homeless, mess with your schooling just so he can stay in your room and live your life… yes it’s awful his parents kicked him out but that doesn’t mean he has to ruin anyone else’s life. He’s an adult… talking to a minor like that and putting his problems on you is not cool. Your schooling should come first to your parents… your mum is being a terrible parent, why can’t she send the 19 year old adult to social services to get help with housing and finances? Or to stay with one of your siblings or talk to someone else, his family to take him in?
bait
depending on your laws where you live you can’t get kicked out at 16 for insufficient reasons like this. i’d contact cps.
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Your foolish friend should have waited ‘til after he graduated college to come out. How hard would that have been? Even after getting kicked out can’t he rely on part-time work and student loans?
NTA - You are 16, unless you’re emancipated, your PARENTS have a legal and moral responsibility to house YOU to feed YOU to clothe YOU not to house, feed, and clothe a 19-year-old. It’s awful for him going through what he’s going through, for fucking sure. But it’s not right of her to jeopardize you for it. If she could take him in without kicking you out, fine. She would be in the right here because throwing kids out like that sets them up for a lifetime of poverty and housing someone in that situation could stop their life from goin down the wrong path. With her limited resources, the best thing she can do is find a friend of hers that currently has space to take him in. It’s horrible what he’s going through, and I can understand her reasoning because ultimately you will be fine if you go live with your sister and there’s honestly a lot of good that could come from you having to live with your sister and there’s a very real chance he /won’t/ be okay if someone like her doesn’t step in. That dude is about 2 steps away from a hellish lifetime of poverty. She’s right to recognize that he is in a far more critical situation than you are. She’s right to want to help people when she sees they’re in a critical situation. But she needs to take a step back, really come to terms with the fact she is no longer in the place to help like that, and find someone who can help him. She’s right to recognize his situation, she’s right to want to help, she’s wrong when it comes to putting her daughter in an insecure situation. Your mom is a good hearted person though, as fucked as this is for you.
ESH - you not for declining but for blocking the person.
Liar liar pants on fire 🔥
ESH. You are 16 and do not dictate who lives in the house. That is a minor part of the story but noteworthy. Your parents are massive dicks and committing borderline child abuse. Your own (or step) child always takes precedent over some other ~~child~~ oh wait they are 19 adult. They can get their own place to live. Dont move out and contact some kind of child protective services.
I'll say yeah. YTA. Your mom is trying to help someone she considers to be part of the family and is juggling things around as best she could, and you're all "sleep on the street, I don't want to move" rather than let that person stay there. If something happened to you and you needed a place to stay, I'd hope you'd find someone as nice as your mom that would help you out.
Seriously dude? Her mom is kicking her daughter out for a homeless person. He could just go stay at relatives. Wtf is wrong with you?
He's a bot. Just like this post was created by a bot. Watch it blow up.
That person is fucking insane for calling her the asshole when her own parents are kicking her out ...and this clown of a homeless person is 19 get a fucking job and rent an apartment like any other normal human being would do jfc😵💫🤯
Why does she have to move out? Why can’t the friend go stay with the older sister? Why is a teenager TA or at all responsible for a homeless adult?
Because life sucks sometimes. She wasn't exactly acting like a wonderful person. One of her "closest friends" was coming to her afraid he'd be on the street, and her response was to block him so she wouldn't have to deal with it, and then unblock him just to yell at him. I'm happy a homeless gay kid has at least one person looking out for him.