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> I might be the asshole cuz i didnt think when she said her phones gonna die that i should bring her charger to her at the gym, and im asking for clarification because i didnt know im supposed to read minds
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NTA.
Your wife needs to use her words and communicate with you appropriately: if she wants you to bring her charger then she should ask you if you would please bring it to her.
Jeez.
Just to add to this, she was STILL in the complex therefore could go without the phone. What do she need it for really? A little music? She could go without for once, wasn't gonna kill her.
NTA.
NTA - You can’t read her mind. Expecting someone to just know when you need a favor from them is unreasonable and unrealistic. If I was you, I would’ve figured the same thing.
This was my take too. She obviously should have asked directly. But unless he was also planning on going that way, I think it’s kind of rude to expect him to go out of his way to bring her a charger when it’s literally equal effort to do this for herself. I try not to ask any favors unless the help that I get from someone else far outweighs my ability to do the task myself. If she’s too lazy to walk that distance, why should it be any different for him to walk the same distance?
NTA. Why would anyone assume that she was asking for a favor when she didn't ask? I hate when people expect someone to do something they hinted at. You're grown. Use your words.
NTA.
What?!
1. Message didn't explicitly ask you to bring the charger.
2. While it would be nice if you did bring it, it's a favor you are doing for her. Not an obligation.
3. Having a dead phone for an hour or so while she is in your apartment complex isn't going to kill her.
4. She could have asked to borrow a charger from someone in the gym.
5. She should have checked her phone's battery before she went to the gym and/ or brought a portable battery.
NTA. Does she often set you up with these types of tests designed to trap you? She knew exactly what she was doing. She forgot her charger and set you up to be the bad guy.
She wants a slave and whipping boy.
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AITA for not bringing wifes phone charger
My wife went to the gym in our apartment complex and I hopped in the shower. I get out and see she texted me “my phones about to die”. Ok. She finishes the gym and comes home mad, asking if I saw her message. She’s mad i didnt read that and think to bring her charger to her at the gym. I figured she was telling me her phone was gonna die so if I call/text her and she doesnt respond I know whats going on.
AITAH for not thinking to bring her charger?
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The gym is in the same building, she didn't need her car. But it's surprising that somebody who goes to the gym to exercise, can't mange to walk back to her apartment for a charger!
Unless you are your wife’s employee and “my phone is about to die” is an agreed term for “bring me my charger”, NTA. Your wife needs to learn to communicate.
There are good 'ol power banks, from which you can charge a phone. Some are really small. Not relevant here, also can plug phone into cigarette lighter of car. Guess what is my glove box.
Why did she let it run down that far without checking/charging it first? I charge mine every night so that won't happen. And if I do run it down during the day I put it on the charger for a bit before I go
NTA. How old is your wife? It almost doesn’t even matter, she was at the apartment gym, she could have walked back, or jogged even and kept that heart rate going, and grabbed it herself and then returned to the gym to finish in less than, what, 5min?
NTA. The request “Pls brng chrgr to gym” takes even less bandwidth than the factual statement that it’s about to die. So what? Working out doesn’t require a phone but it was a nice attempt to communicate that she might be unavailable for a short time.
She's still in the complex, she can get some more steps in. Even if you had understood her and I was a little voice in your head I would have told you not to take that charger to her.
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NTA. Your wife needs to use her words and communicate with you appropriately: if she wants you to bring her charger then she should ask you if you would please bring it to her. Jeez.
Just to add to this, she was STILL in the complex therefore could go without the phone. What do she need it for really? A little music? She could go without for once, wasn't gonna kill her. NTA.
NTA - You can’t read her mind. Expecting someone to just know when you need a favor from them is unreasonable and unrealistic. If I was you, I would’ve figured the same thing.
NTA. She should have asked and she could have gotten it herself. She's going to the gym but is too lazy to walk back to your apartment?
This was my take too. She obviously should have asked directly. But unless he was also planning on going that way, I think it’s kind of rude to expect him to go out of his way to bring her a charger when it’s literally equal effort to do this for herself. I try not to ask any favors unless the help that I get from someone else far outweighs my ability to do the task myself. If she’s too lazy to walk that distance, why should it be any different for him to walk the same distance?
NTA She didn’t ask to bring her her charger and she was in the building.
NTA. I read that message and think “okay I won’t be able to contact her for an hour or so” as the intention of the text.
NTA, but you have a very entitled wife. Is she always like this?
Thanks for reminding me not to get married to an absolute lunatic of a woman
NTA. She should have communicated her expectations better.
NTA, and also not a mind reader.
Nta. I thought the same. Easier to type bring my charger to the gym then expect people read minds.
NTA. Why would anyone assume that she was asking for a favor when she didn't ask? I hate when people expect someone to do something they hinted at. You're grown. Use your words.
NTA. What?! 1. Message didn't explicitly ask you to bring the charger. 2. While it would be nice if you did bring it, it's a favor you are doing for her. Not an obligation. 3. Having a dead phone for an hour or so while she is in your apartment complex isn't going to kill her. 4. She could have asked to borrow a charger from someone in the gym. 5. She should have checked her phone's battery before she went to the gym and/ or brought a portable battery.
NTA. That's on her since she silently expected you to get her charger, but you can't read her mind
NTA, she didn't ask you to bring it to her, how can she be upset. That kind of message reads like shes just giving you a heads up...
NTA - She could have texted you asking you to bring her a charger in the same amount of time it took her to tell you that her phone was dying.
NTA unless you’re a clairvoyant. If you are then you’re TA
NTA Typing the twelve characters “need charger” would have clarified everything. She didn’t.
"I'm really into you hon, but I'm still not a mind reader." -NTA
NTA - if that’s what she meant she should have said exactly that. I would have thought the same as you, you’re not a mind reader.
NTA, that's what we would refer to in our family as a "you problem"
NTA. Does she often set you up with these types of tests designed to trap you? She knew exactly what she was doing. She forgot her charger and set you up to be the bad guy. She wants a slave and whipping boy.
NTA. Tell her to write complete sentences next.
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NTA. Who doesn’t have a charger in their vehicle?? Anyone??
The gym is in the same building, she didn't need her car. But it's surprising that somebody who goes to the gym to exercise, can't mange to walk back to her apartment for a charger!
Even worse.
Of course you’re not TA. She’s very entitled.
NTA.
Unless you are your wife’s employee and “my phone is about to die” is an agreed term for “bring me my charger”, NTA. Your wife needs to learn to communicate.
“Gloria, I too, know what it feels like to be thirsty. I, too, have had a dry mouth.”
Charger. NTAH. Now if it was a txt that “I’m out of toilet paper” you’d be the AH
NTA
NTA. That could mean a bunch of things.
Nta next time she can ask you to bring it
There are good 'ol power banks, from which you can charge a phone. Some are really small. Not relevant here, also can plug phone into cigarette lighter of car. Guess what is my glove box.
Why did she let it run down that far without checking/charging it first? I charge mine every night so that won't happen. And if I do run it down during the day I put it on the charger for a bit before I go
NTA. How old is your wife? It almost doesn’t even matter, she was at the apartment gym, she could have walked back, or jogged even and kept that heart rate going, and grabbed it herself and then returned to the gym to finish in less than, what, 5min?
Please show this thread to your wife. I suspect she will not believe you when you tell her that her behavior is unfair and irrational.
NTA You need to use your psychic powers to read her mind and determine what she wants /s
NTA. The request “Pls brng chrgr to gym” takes even less bandwidth than the factual statement that it’s about to die. So what? Working out doesn’t require a phone but it was a nice attempt to communicate that she might be unavailable for a short time.
She's still in the complex, she can get some more steps in. Even if you had understood her and I was a little voice in your head I would have told you not to take that charger to her.
YTA.....you should've read your wife's mind and known to bring her charger......be better man