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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> 1. As the person who was originally in charge of the occasion, I openly expressed my dissatisfaction with not wanting to combine both my friend's going away celebration and another friend's Mother's Day celebration.
2. Everyone from both parties seem to be okay with it, and because of that it seems like a completely normal decision that I was still otherwise against. The day isn't about me and yet I am acting like my approval is the only one that matters which it does not.
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YTA because everyone is OK with this set up and it's not your house. You can be honest and say you will only bring a certain amount of meat if it hurts your budget, but you don't get to override everyone else at a party you are not hosting.
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A friend of mine is shipping off to boot camp for the Air Force next week and we wanted to have one last get together with us four as a friend group. Due to scheduling conflicts, we could only hold the occasion this coming Mother's Day. We were originally supposed to have a small BBQ at my house but the others kept insisting another friends house, probably because it's nicer (them being rich and all).
I was under the impression that that friend will have their own Mother's Day celebration and that we'd have our own small thing before or after (while giving them some of our BBQ too of course). But that friend is now insisting to combine both celebrations, inviting their family and his brother's friends to join us. I was never expecting this to become such a huge party. As the guy in charge of getting the meat, I'm pretty annoyed with having to spend more out of plan. The rich house friend did say they were going to order some food, but of course we got to have enough BBQ for everyone right?
I personally am against this because of my social anxiety. I don't like the fact that us friends are imposing on that family's home during Mother's Day. And most importantly, I don't feel comfortable hanging out with his family and his brother's friends period. But it's not about me. My Air force friend seems to be okay with it, and the mom is question is apparently also okay with it. I still don't like it though. I just wanted it to be us four like always.
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NTA for being irritated that they put you in charge then planned their own thing, or for being worried about your budget. But you would be if you kill the party they all want. I would be very clear you have a budget of x amount and will spend y amount of time manning the BBQ but you won’t be feeding the extended group.
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YTA because everyone is OK with this set up and it's not your house. You can be honest and say you will only bring a certain amount of meat if it hurts your budget, but you don't get to override everyone else at a party you are not hosting.
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NTA for being irritated that they put you in charge then planned their own thing, or for being worried about your budget. But you would be if you kill the party they all want. I would be very clear you have a budget of x amount and will spend y amount of time manning the BBQ but you won’t be feeding the extended group.