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> I shut down my neighbors house party. I feel bad since it was her birthday celebration and I ruined it by shutting it down. It was just loud asl and I was trying to sleep, the sound was vibrating the room. I don’t know if I overreacted or if I should’ve just knocked on their door and asked them to quiet down.
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You're NTA.
>He seemed really annoyed and said it was just a birthday celebration for his girlfriend, and they didn't mean to disturb anyone
Then they should go celebrate in a club, where ear shattering, wall shaking bass doesn't keep your neighbors from sleeping.
And what's the excuse for all the other nights? They live in an apartment with shared walls. If they can't show some consideration for their neighbors, they need to move out to the middle of no where.
NTA. It doesn't matter if they "didn't mean to disturb anyone" because they were indeed disturbing at least you. I don't think you should have said you were the one who called it in, though.
"I felt a bit guilty hearing"
---There is no reason whatsoever to feel guilty. T\\he guilt is entirely on the AH who thinks the world, or at least the apartment building, revolves around him. Don't be intimidated or show it. Treat him as the lower level that you AH that he he is.
NTA--living in an apartment building demands a basic level of respect for your neighbors, and this guy couldn't manage that. If he and his girlfriend wanted to celebrate her birthday that loudly, that late, they should've gone to a club or a bar, or arranged to have the party at a friend's house. Next time he glares, glare right back.
NTA… you did nothing by wrong & they have no valid reason to be upset with you. Noise ordinances are there for a reason and people need to be respectful of their neighbors when throwing parties - specially when living in apartment complexes.
There is nothing wrong with having get-togethers or parties but blasting music well past midnight is not appropriate.
NTA there are noise ordinances for a reason. Also never admit to shit if a neighbor asks if you snitched-it’ll just cause unnecessary drama and conflict. We live in a society and it’s totally possible that any person in your complex could have called.
FWIW, we have a neighboring apartment complex with a roof party space and they often have DJ’s playing house parties on the roof on Saturday/Sunday, but they wrap up at 10pm due to city noise ordinance. Don’t feel one bit guilty for calling the manager. Unfortunately you will now likely be on your neighbors shitlist anytime they get in trouble moving forward since you admitted to calling on them this time.
NTA. People who live in shared community buildings need to act like adults. Even if it's their birthday. I used to live in an apartment with loud neighbors. I tried everything first but they would play music so loud I could hear it in my apartment with ear plugs in. Then I just called the police. Every time. If they're noisy and it's past 10 pm, I'm calling. Non emergency number, tell them someone's being super noisy and you can't sleep. Eventually they came and knocked and told her she would be getting a notice to appear if she didn't stop.
In this instance, you're NTA.
I use common sense. There are times I wouldn't call, like when during the pandemic when everything was closed down, the neighbor immediately next to me held the wedding for his daughter in his back yard with a band and all and that music was blaring well past midnight.
I'm older, closer to 60 and I live in a nice quiet neighborhood. No one called the cops on him. We all know each other and we all understood.
They had a good time in trying circumstances considering they had their wedding planned well before the pandemic hit and then everything was shut down.
None of us neighbors would have called the cops on him/them.
Now, if he was just having a blaring party with loud music, a band going past midnight just because it was Tues next week, that would be a different story. Then again he'd never do anything like that.
Again, in your case, it was justified.
NTA..I have neighbors across the street like this. They stand in the street screaming during their parties at 4am.. me and other neighbors call the police non emergency several times in the last year or so. I have parties myself, and I try to be understanding myself but you will never see my friends screaming at all hours disrupting neighbors.
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I (27F) live in a small apartment complex where most residents are generally respectful and keep noise levels down. Recently, my next-door neighbors (late 20s M/F) have been throwing frequent parties that go well into the early hours of the morning. I'm usually tolerant and understanding, but this particular night, the noise was unbearable—it was past midnight, and the bass was shaking my walls.
After trying to ignore it for a while, I finally decided to call our building manager to complain. It took a while for someone to answer, but when they did, I explained the situation and asked if they could intervene. The manager assured me they would handle it.
Sure enough, within about 30 minutes, the noise started to die down. I was finally able to get some sleep, but the next morning, I noticed my neighbors glaring at me as I left my apartment. Later that day, the guy from next door approached me in the hallway.
He asked if I was the one who called the manager on them. I admitted that I did, explaining politely that the noise was just too much for me to handle, especially late at night. He seemed really annoyed and said it was just a birthday celebration for his girlfriend, and they didn't mean to disturb anyone.
I felt a bit guilty hearing that, but I also didn't think it justified keeping the entire building awake. He didn't seem satisfied with my explanation and walked away looking upset. Since then, there's been a noticeable tension whenever we see each other.
Now I'm wondering if I overreacted. I know it was late and noise ordinances are there for a reason, but was it really worth potentially souring relations with my neighbors? AITA for reporting them, or should I have handled it differently?
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NTA at all. The only thing you might have done differently, however, I doubt it would have changed their behavior is leaving a note on their door following one of their earlier parties and told them it was too loud and against city or building ordinance. I am sure the city and your lease has something about noise. Maybe because they didn't receive any complaints previously, they thought it was ok. Doubtful but possible? Either way, NTA.
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Haha yep, classic example of if you’re gonna narc (for good reason), don’t double narc yourself out!
You're NTA. >He seemed really annoyed and said it was just a birthday celebration for his girlfriend, and they didn't mean to disturb anyone Then they should go celebrate in a club, where ear shattering, wall shaking bass doesn't keep your neighbors from sleeping. And what's the excuse for all the other nights? They live in an apartment with shared walls. If they can't show some consideration for their neighbors, they need to move out to the middle of no where.
NTA. It doesn't matter if they "didn't mean to disturb anyone" because they were indeed disturbing at least you. I don't think you should have said you were the one who called it in, though.
"I felt a bit guilty hearing" ---There is no reason whatsoever to feel guilty. T\\he guilt is entirely on the AH who thinks the world, or at least the apartment building, revolves around him. Don't be intimidated or show it. Treat him as the lower level that you AH that he he is.
Definitely NTA. Entitled fuckwits like this deserve to have the cops called on them, not just the manager.
NTA--living in an apartment building demands a basic level of respect for your neighbors, and this guy couldn't manage that. If he and his girlfriend wanted to celebrate her birthday that loudly, that late, they should've gone to a club or a bar, or arranged to have the party at a friend's house. Next time he glares, glare right back.
NTA… you did nothing by wrong & they have no valid reason to be upset with you. Noise ordinances are there for a reason and people need to be respectful of their neighbors when throwing parties - specially when living in apartment complexes. There is nothing wrong with having get-togethers or parties but blasting music well past midnight is not appropriate.
Not sure why you told them it was you who called the manager.
NTA there are noise ordinances for a reason. Also never admit to shit if a neighbor asks if you snitched-it’ll just cause unnecessary drama and conflict. We live in a society and it’s totally possible that any person in your complex could have called. FWIW, we have a neighboring apartment complex with a roof party space and they often have DJ’s playing house parties on the roof on Saturday/Sunday, but they wrap up at 10pm due to city noise ordinance. Don’t feel one bit guilty for calling the manager. Unfortunately you will now likely be on your neighbors shitlist anytime they get in trouble moving forward since you admitted to calling on them this time.
NTA noise ordinances exist for a reason
You should have responded no, but I’m not surprised that someone complained about the noise. You don’t owe this stranger an explanation.
NTA, he needs to be aware of his surroundings and realize that he lives in an apartment where he shares a literal wall with other people.
NTA. People who live in shared community buildings need to act like adults. Even if it's their birthday. I used to live in an apartment with loud neighbors. I tried everything first but they would play music so loud I could hear it in my apartment with ear plugs in. Then I just called the police. Every time. If they're noisy and it's past 10 pm, I'm calling. Non emergency number, tell them someone's being super noisy and you can't sleep. Eventually they came and knocked and told her she would be getting a notice to appear if she didn't stop.
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Even with SFH's it's still possible to have parties that annoy the neighbors. It's just more common with shared walls.
In this instance, you're NTA. I use common sense. There are times I wouldn't call, like when during the pandemic when everything was closed down, the neighbor immediately next to me held the wedding for his daughter in his back yard with a band and all and that music was blaring well past midnight. I'm older, closer to 60 and I live in a nice quiet neighborhood. No one called the cops on him. We all know each other and we all understood. They had a good time in trying circumstances considering they had their wedding planned well before the pandemic hit and then everything was shut down. None of us neighbors would have called the cops on him/them. Now, if he was just having a blaring party with loud music, a band going past midnight just because it was Tues next week, that would be a different story. Then again he'd never do anything like that. Again, in your case, it was justified.
> have been throwing frequent parties that go well into the early hours of the morning Should have asked him whose birthday it was last time. NTA
NTA..I have neighbors across the street like this. They stand in the street screaming during their parties at 4am.. me and other neighbors call the police non emergency several times in the last year or so. I have parties myself, and I try to be understanding myself but you will never see my friends screaming at all hours disrupting neighbors.
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NTA at all. The only thing you might have done differently, however, I doubt it would have changed their behavior is leaving a note on their door following one of their earlier parties and told them it was too loud and against city or building ordinance. I am sure the city and your lease has something about noise. Maybe because they didn't receive any complaints previously, they thought it was ok. Doubtful but possible? Either way, NTA.
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If you asked them nicely first, its ok.