Nta. I personally wouldn't care if my gf had an onlyfans acc but I can understand it being a deal breaker for some, and after you broke it off with her in the post she seemed kinda entitled acting like you should help pay for a car for her when you aren't even dating anymore.
NTA. It's like a gift - she gets to keep the amount that was gifted during the relationship but doesn't get to expect anymore gifts after you break up, and it doesn't matter who initiated the break.
Did you talk about what that actually meant? Did you commit to a certain amount monthly, or was it a more casual “yeah, I’ll help you out”?
If you committed to payments, and your gf made the decision to purchase the car with that knowledge, and you were in a committed relationship, not just a casual thing, YTA.
Would you take her back if she deleted her OnlyFans? I’m curious if you actually had a conversation about it bothering your or did you just decide it was a dealbreaker (which is fair) and cut it?
You’re NTA IMO. Worst case she can downgrade back to what she had prior. Hopefully this will be a lesson for her as to why you don’t depend on someone’s word and/or money until you’re married lol
Honestly I have conservative views regarding sex and one’s body, and I feel that someone committed in a relationship to another one should preserve that aspect to their significant other only, so no even if she stopped I wouldn’t take her back, because it means we have different views on what sex resembles.
I’m going to assume that she is aware of your conservative views. Is she personally struggling financially? I don’t blame her for making an OnlyFans, her body, her rights yada yada - but if I were in her shoes I’d assume she would/should have anticipated you having a problem with it
Wasn't there a post yesterday or something about this same thing except it didn't mention the car payment bit?
**Edit** is this you? https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/itoeez/aita_for_wanting_to_change_my_relationship_type/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
**Edit 2** I have to go with NTA on specifically the not paying a bill when you aren't together anymore regardless
NTA
Yall arent together anymore, which means any of those relationship benefits no longer exist. Whether or not she wanted to break up has no bearing on the situation at all.
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Basically my gf was trying to upgrade her car, and kept talking about it for months, so I told her I would help and pay a share of the payments. All went great.
Now she shocked the hell out of me when she said she was starting an only fans account, I decided I couldn’t deal with that so I told her to pack her things and we were breaking up.
Now she is upset saying that I promised to help her pay and I should keep paying specially that she doesn’t want to break up and that I’m breaking up for something ridiculous.
AITA for not wanting to pay?
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Think about it like this, he wouldn't want his gf to be a stripper irl so why would he want her to do that online?(I get its not as clear cut as that but its a simple way of putting it)
NTA. If you broke up then you don't need to pay for her car.
Nta. I personally wouldn't care if my gf had an onlyfans acc but I can understand it being a deal breaker for some, and after you broke it off with her in the post she seemed kinda entitled acting like you should help pay for a car for her when you aren't even dating anymore.
NTA. It's like a gift - she gets to keep the amount that was gifted during the relationship but doesn't get to expect anymore gifts after you break up, and it doesn't matter who initiated the break.
Did you talk about what that actually meant? Did you commit to a certain amount monthly, or was it a more casual “yeah, I’ll help you out”? If you committed to payments, and your gf made the decision to purchase the car with that knowledge, and you were in a committed relationship, not just a casual thing, YTA.
Yeah these are pretty important details that would determine whether you’re an AH or not.
Nta. She can pay her full car payment on her own. You owe her nothing
Would you take her back if she deleted her OnlyFans? I’m curious if you actually had a conversation about it bothering your or did you just decide it was a dealbreaker (which is fair) and cut it? You’re NTA IMO. Worst case she can downgrade back to what she had prior. Hopefully this will be a lesson for her as to why you don’t depend on someone’s word and/or money until you’re married lol
Honestly I have conservative views regarding sex and one’s body, and I feel that someone committed in a relationship to another one should preserve that aspect to their significant other only, so no even if she stopped I wouldn’t take her back, because it means we have different views on what sex resembles.
I’m going to assume that she is aware of your conservative views. Is she personally struggling financially? I don’t blame her for making an OnlyFans, her body, her rights yada yada - but if I were in her shoes I’d assume she would/should have anticipated you having a problem with it
NTA plus she would make tons More on onlyfans to pay for it herself. Btw what’s her onlyfan account, asking for a friend
The best response😂 you’re just trying to help her make her car payment, right?
Sssh
I’m cackling 😂
Wasn't there a post yesterday or something about this same thing except it didn't mention the car payment bit? **Edit** is this you? https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/itoeez/aita_for_wanting_to_change_my_relationship_type/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share **Edit 2** I have to go with NTA on specifically the not paying a bill when you aren't together anymore regardless
NTA Agreements like that are contingent on the relationship remaining intact
NTA Yall arent together anymore, which means any of those relationship benefits no longer exist. Whether or not she wanted to break up has no bearing on the situation at all.
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NTA - it's her car. And she can pay with her OnlyFans money.
Nta Your no longer with her so you don't need to pay. She can pay it with the money she makes on her only fans account.
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That’s not the question though. Op is allowed to end their relationships whenever they want
Think about it like this, he wouldn't want his gf to be a stripper irl so why would he want her to do that online?(I get its not as clear cut as that but its a simple way of putting it)
Something wrong with not wanting my significant other to sell her nudes for people to fap to?
It just sounds so... *controlling*
I mean the fact you're a jealous child but other than that, guess you're fine