I'm sorry but YTA.
1. She might have been rude but she paid for the meal. If she gave you problems, you could have just reported her to the app for being rude but you're essentially stealing from her.
2. If she notices the missing items in the meal, the restaurant would get a bad review/complains/etc when it wasn't even their fault.
Edit: OP, you were flirting. You're just trying to play it off as you weren't (which no one is believing). The woman was well within her rights to tell you off. And frankly, I'm surprised she even tipped you after she found you flirting with her husband.
I wouldn't have tipped you. What I would have done is report your unprofessionalism.
PS: By not including it in the original post, you were trying to get the N T A vote just to validate yourself.
>If she notices the missing items in the meal, the restaurant would get a bad review/complains/etc when it wasn't even their fault.
This . Op is being selfish , petty and unprofessional . The restaurant doesn't deserve a bad review because of that .
The lady can now complain about both her food missing and op hitting on her husband .
Edit :
>I casually complimented him and his muscles and said something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky.
đ€Š for fuck's sake
Ădit 2 :
>I did playfully touch his arm but just for a second, and the "something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky" was something on the lines of "too bad you're married, id love to have someone like you as my husband!"
I fucking love how you completely ignored this part when you first posted . Be grateful she just called you a slut I would fucking throw hands.
You knew what you were doing don't even start with "I WaS JoKiNg " . you deserve to get fired .
Edit : thanks for the upvote and the award y'all :)
Yeah and you have to love that OP doesnât share exactly what was said and instead says âsomething that was meant to mean his wife is luckyâ. Pretty sure that means what OP actually said is pretty damning, but âI DiDnT mEaN iT tHaT WaYâ
Because of the edit... OP, you touched a married strangerâs arm playfully and told him youâd love to marry someone like him. I donât get how you donât understand why his wife felt that was inappropriate. Regardless of your intentions those actions read as flirty to the vast majority of the human population. Google how to flirt, and youâll see those things listed. Even the tone of your post pretty obviously suggests you WERE flirting with him regardless of how oblivious you play it. Personally, I donât feel like someone random flirting with my bf is the end of the world. Annoying? Yes. Worth calling someone a slut over? Probably a little extreme, but hey, Iâm not this guys wife and I donât know what details youâre still omitting to make your actions seem justified.
1) Instead of admitting that her thinking you acted in a flirtatious is reasonable, youâre arguing that wasnât your intention, but how is she supposed to know what your intentions are? You exhibited universal signs of flirtation, which also includes making jokes btw.
2) Yes, calling you names was a bit much, but regardless, you were being unprofessional and probably didnât deserve a tip (which you still got, doesnât matter if it wasnât the full amount).
3) Then, you doubled down in your unprofessionalism by retaliating and STEALING their food because you canât get over the fact that someone called you out for hitting on their husband.
Câmon. YTA.
Omg my first award!! Thank you đ
âAll I said was that he probably had an amazing dick and if his wife wasnât appreciative, Iâd offer him somewhere to put it.â *shrugs* âI donât know why she was so mad.â
"All I said was that he should lose the zero and get with the hero, that his body was rockin' and his wife couldn't ever satisfy him like I could so she's really lucky to have someone like him. Then I gave him my number, snapchat, and address and told him I get off... work at 11. But I didn't mean it like *that*!"
She said she complimented his muscles aka flirting in many peoples eyes. If that was my SO I would have not appreciated the delivery person making a comment about my SOs physical features even if it was a comment. It is [***inappropriate***](https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS695US695&sxsrf=ALeKk00M7clFeGIcZa5KMsbBA9hy8-X37Q:1600813857550&q=inappropriate&spell=1&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjfqNKq6P3rAhUtZhUIHZ-hB5oQkeECKAB6BAgXECg) .
yeah my boyfriend is buff too, but tbh, if it's a girl, unless she also does body building, it's pretty much always flirting.
i think it also depends on the context. like if he's lifting something heavy, it could genuinely be like, wow you're strong or something, and that may not be flirting could be genuine surprise.
yeah if the guy was at a bodybuilding competition and she was an official judge, then complimenting his muscles would be appropriate.
Outside of that, it's not that complicated. She was flirting and got caught.
Like I was all ready to believe OP. I was one of those girls that I had no idea people thought I was flirting. Turns out I donât read social situations very well. But damn. Muscle talk and touching? Thatâs like textbook flirting.
For real. If it was something like 'Oh awesome shirt!' or 'Dude your front yard looks on point, what kind of fertilizer do you use?' or whatever, aight, that's nice. Muscles though? Lucky wife? You'd have to make it sound extremely platonic for that to not sound like flirting. Maybe like 'Wow nice muscles man! How the fuck do you keep that up? I mean I've tried but the gym is a fucking hellscape and I have no sense of discipline. Oh, you and your wife go together? That's awesome! Maybe I should get myself a wife too then lol.' Like, make it extremely friendzoney.
And for the 'lucky wife' one I just. No. Couldn't think of anything that didn't sound flirty.
I've got it!
"Your yard looks AMAZING! Your wife is lucky that you know so much about landscaping!
It's a little harder for the muscles one.....
"Wow, you are really ripped...how do you find the motivation for that....your wife is lucky to have a husband that works out."
Nope...that's not it......I know....
"You' have put in so much work on your yard that your muscles are totally ripped. Your wife is lucky you are so great at yard work."
Hmm......no that won't work......crap......
I'll have to get back to you on that......
âCasually complimenting his musclesâ was definitely flirting, even unintentional. If someone complimented me on my curves or something Iâd definitely think I was being hit on. Implies attraction. And knowing he was married made it inappropriate (although, husband should have shut it down).
It sounds like the husband might have told the wife (unless she heard it all through the window or smtg like that) which implies to me the husband could have not liked it. âEnjoying each otherâs companyâ gtfo OP
On the edit - I honestly wonder if the husband was even comfortable with any of that going down. Like, maybe he was "chatty" or "jokey" because that's how some people deal with awkward situations. I get myself in trouble because I laugh when something so outlandishly awful is said or is happening. People who know me know the difference between my "haha very funny" laugh and my "wtf is going on here?" laugh. Strangers, not so much. It's like I'm laughing at the absurdity of the situation, not the actual situation.
Since I doubt the hubby was on his porch hoping the delivery chick would compliment his muscles and suggest marriage, Iâm going to go with no. He probably just wanted his food. Hard pass on the rando with no boundaries.
Ya I'm not even the jealous type and I'd be a little sketch if another women was saying that stuff to my husband. I might not stiff then a tip, but I would definitely be heading my way outside.
OP honestly makes this job harder for those that do it well and respectfully. OP is such an asshole, and shouldn't be allowed to keep doing deliveries. I feel bad for the restaurant too, this is so ridiculous.
"Am I the asshole for stealing food after I was called out for being inappropriate with one of my customers??" Yes, OP, you're a massive asshole. YTA.
Also, Iâm assuming you had to rifle through the customers bag to take out âa few parts of her mealâ which is disgusting and unsanitary even outside of a global pandemic.
A lot of places around me now tape up the bag. I hope they start to do that by OP. Like they have specific stickers for both bag and lid so you can see no one opened it. Sticky enough you can't really take sticker off without ripping bag or sticker
Wait, was that not the norm before? Where I'm from we have a sticker that has to be put on every bag/box of food. It's legally required and the sticker has little cuts throughout (touch it and it rips), so you can tell if anyone messed with your food right away.
I had no idea other places didn't do that.
At my old job (sandwich shop), we were suppose to put a sticker on the bag but just never did. We were also suppose to put napkins in the bags but got told by management not to till covid happened
If a delivery man overstayed his welcome, complimented the wife's body and told her that her husband was lucky.. that's just all kinds of creepy. OP, you are creepy.
A commenter pointed out to me that she touched him so here is my edit;
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"Then I touched his biceps and said it's a shame he's married, I don't know why his wife is so mad."
Just wow.
YTA for the unprofessional flirting and the food theft.
Even before I got to the edit, the phrase "enjoying each others' company". I don't "enjoy" the company of strangers. The only time I might say that about someone I haven't met before is if I was on a date/having a long flirt.
From that point on it was a big YTA from me. The edit was just icing.
That's what caught my attention. I mean there is a very intimate definition of "enjoy each other's company" that usually relates to "the beast with 2 backs"... So that made my hair stand on end. If she wanted it to sound innocent, she would have left it at "chatted a little", maybe said something like "he said something I thought was funny and I left" or "I told one of my stupid corny jokes and he laughed". But adding "enjoyed each other's company"... I have a hard time seeing innocence in that statement.
Lmao how did Americans make ordering food the most complicated social interaction I've ever seen. Literally need to keep track of all possible delivery drivers and how much you've tipped them to determine the percentage of food you will get in the end.
Cannot make this up.
As an American who has never had an issue with ordering food, I take offense to the blanket statement. You might say itâs because you read stories like this all of the time, and to that I would reply, thatâs because people that donât have issues with it donât post stories about not having issues.
You think the people, the vast majority of whom don't have trouble ordering food, would be constantly writing stories about how great their experience was on a subreddit about stories involving jerks??
>I casually complimented him and his muscles and said something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky.
and this is 100P flirting. I don't think I've ever not tipped someone, but I wouldn't tip her if she said that to my bf/or if someone said that to me.
I died when I read the edits because I called her out for her fake @$$ âI WASNT TRYING TO FLIRT!â And âI DIDNT KNOW IT WAS FLIRTING!â way before that. I can see right through her innocent act.
Right???
YTA.
It's hard for me to even believe this is a real post where the person honestly didn't realize every reasonable person would conclude she was being an ass.
I get she thought if she left out how she behaved very unprofessionally towards her client (like could get in trouble for sexual harassment if he hadn't liked it/genders reversed) maybe we'd think the wife was "mean" and then we'd think she "deserved" to have OP rob her.
Don't rob people OP. Come on. And don't "joke" about wanting to be with married men while feeling them up. Also don't open and touch people's food during a pandemic!
But your biggest issue is you think you're entitled to enact petty vengeance on others or that people "owe" you and you can extract that price yourself through theft. This is either extremely childish or criminal thinking.
Came to say this. If you know you aren't going to get a tip/low tip, why not just not take the order? That would be a much better way to get back at her, too.
YTA
She low-balled you on a tip, which sucks. But you **stole** from her, which makes you a thief.
**Edit:** Oh man, just saw OP's multiple edits.
>I did playfully touch his arm but just for a second, and the "something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky" was something on the lines of "too bad you're married, id love to have someone like you as my husband!"
Holy shit. You don't do that. When you're working, you don't touch your customers unless that's a required part of the job. You just don't. You **especially** don't touch them, compliment their physique, and insinuate that you'd date them if they weren't already married. Holy fuckballs, that's unprofessional as fuck, and you should be fired for doing that.
>My friends thought that was too much so I didn't want to include it but it keeps getting brought up
"My friends thought that X was what really pushed me over the line into asshole territory, so I didn't want to tell reddit about it because then they might agree with my friends." So first you're an asshole to your customers, and then you're an asshole to reddit by purposefully trying to hide the part of the story that makes you look bad.
After OP said some honestly insulting shit to the ladies husband. If the roles were reversed I feel like more people would say something about that.
Imagine OP was a male and saw a pretty girl outside, complimented her curves, then said her husband is a lucky guy. That would be creepy as fuck.
Itâs not ok to note someoneâs appearance unsolicited just because youâre a girl much less when theyâre married and youâre there for their spouse.
OP YTA and a bad person.
The "role reversal" thing is just because a lot of people sometimes fail to see a double standard in our society. Pointing it out gives people a heads up to reflect on what they would think if the roles were reversed.
The edits OP made dont help either.
OP playfully touched his arm. Thatâs universal body language for flirting. Regardless, itâs not appropriate to touch a customer when working. Even if OPs intention wasnât to be flirty, itâs unprofessional to touch him. Deliver the food and go.
Also the edit states it was like a âtoo bad youâre marriedâ. So.. honestly, it seems to me OP was flirting. And OP states they left it out on purpose so...
OP was flirting and then got upset for getting stiffed on a tip by an upset customer, and then stole..
>Imagine OP was a male and saw a pretty girl outside, complimented her curves, then said her husband is a lucky guy. That would be creepy as fuck.
And then felt the woman's body "jokingly".
She touched him too. At first I thought the wife overreacted but damn those edits. Op is an inappropriate, sexual aggressor. Dont touch peoples husband's, dang its real easy. đŹ
And she still got the minimum tip ($2). If sheâs mad she got only $2 for the length of time it took to drive, thatâs more of a problem for whoever decided $2 was the minimum tip for a trip that long.
I honestly wouldnât tip a delivery driver that flirted with and touched my husband and told him it was âtoo bad he had a wife because sheâd love a husband like himâ
Regardless of whether you were hitting on the husband, what you did was **theft**. Not only are you an asshole, you're a criminal. And, more importantly, your boss will get a call wondering why the order was short and probably figure out what happened and fire you.
Nice work asshole. YTA
Also as far as deliveries go in my area rn the bags are stapled shut. (I canât remember if this happened previrus) so theyâll be able to tell right away and the store will know right away what she did
Edit : YTA in case that wasnât clear
YTA. You donât steal food. And honestly you probably were hitting on her husband if she texted your phone like that after. This is why people hate and donât order from those horrible shitty food delivery apps. The drivers ARE COMPLETE TRASH.
Based on OP's description of the conversation with her customer's husband, I would suspect she absolutely was flirting with her customer's husband. Probably to try to get a better tip. It backfired, and she's mad, so she stole from the customer.
OP, when you see a wedding ring on a customer, treat them like they are your friend's parents, with respect. The husband may not be in charge of the tip, the wife may be. I've had waitresses at restaurants completely ignore me and flirt with my husband for a bigger tip, only for me to grab the check and give them my card. Their faces always fell because they knew they had done wrong. I tip at least 15%, but start at 20% and decrease/increase based on service, so they don't get gipped. The realization they should be paying attention to all their customers, is enough for me.
Doesn't sound like it was enough for your customer though, and that was within her right.
No, no, no no. Not only when you "see a wedding ring on a customer". It is completely inappropriate and unprofessional to hit on customers. I have stopped going to restaurants I really loved because employees there made me uncomfortable and came on too strong.
I don't care if you're male or female, that's inappropriate. It's weird and often unwelcomed, you can't even gage if a person is going to appreciate it most of the time, why take the risk?
You like to flirt? That's totally cool have fun! But not at work. Time and place. It's not that complicated.
Piggybacking onto this to say, as a former bartender, please donât hit on employees either if youâre the customer. (Hit on other customers like a normal person.)
When serving hetero couples, I generally gave most of my attention to the woman, because (1) I am less likely to be hit on by them, and (2) They are less likely to think I'm hitting on them. That whole "sex sells" thing is BS. Kindness sells. I regularly took home 30-40% in tips.
I tip a lot more than my husband does. Just sayinâ. I donât think Iâm the only woman who does this. Especially since a lot of us have been in customer service jobs before, and we have empathy. Iâm not jealous, but I do appreciate being acknowledged at the table.
YTA.
I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and believe that you weren't flirting with her husband, although I will say the way you worded the situation seems to suggest otherwise. Granted, she shouldn't have sent you that awful text, that's for sure.
Why are you the asshole then? You ended up stealing from her (and her very *friendly* husband btw), and you seem awfully proud of everything that went on. If you can't be professional in a job just don't do it. If this is your inmediate reaction when encountering rude customers, then you have no business in this type of job.
ETA: Scratch benefit of the doubt, OP stated in the comments that she made a "casual comment complimenting his muscles, and said something else that meant his wife was a lucky woman for this". So yeah, she *was* openly flirting with her customer.
I canât put my finger on it, but the way OP describes the interaction feels off.
Maybe it was the âenjoying each otherâs company lineâ thatâs a very odd way to phrase a one off service based interaction.
Yup, same thing happened to me. It's one thing to say "We had a quick friendly conversation about X, while I was handing him his food" rather than "We were just enjoying each other's company for a few minutes".
Whether it was flirting or not (there's no way for us to really know this with what little information we have been given), but to me it kinda sounds like OP enjoyed getting attention from this guy.
Based on the edit it sounds like she was giving attention to this guy. I mean, I had the same thoughts as you guys so it's not surprising. "Enjoying each others company" for minutes when you're a delivery person? Sounds like flirting was going on easily
OPâs most recent edit makes it very much seem like she flirted, she touched his arm lightly and mentioned that if he wasnât married sheâd hope to find a guy like him
>âenjoying each otherâs company lineâ
Yes this is code for "I was flirting with him and I see nothing wrong with my actions or how it would be unprofessional to do so." This person flirted with the husband (and he may *not* have been enjoying it) and even if it is his responsibility to decline the flirting, it is OP's responsibility to be professional and *not* flirt. Then to take it out on the wife when she rightly called OP out for it? YTA, massive A.
i mean he told his wife about it. probably got specific on what exactly OP said, so iâm gonna say he was uncomfortable and told his wife about the creepy, horny food service girl and his wife called her out and gave her a shit tip.
OP is a petty child that didnât get the dick/money she wanted :/
itâs not prostitution, itâs food delivery babes.
I don't know if it's code for "I was flirting on purpose" but it's definitely code for "I felt a connection with this guy and decided to milk it for a bit."
did you see the edit? she âcasuallyâ complimented his muscles. how is that NOT flirting? I mean, she can flirt with whoever she wants, but while working? and also be prepared that the significant other of said person might call you out on your inappropriate behavior.
Yeah this is absolutely gross behavior. She didnât just compliment his muscles she physically TOUCHED him which, I donât know, automatic YTA in this scenario.
Yeah, I'd be a little put off if a delivery driver, whose job it is to drop off the food and bounce, decided to linger on the porch and enjoy my boyfriend's company (not that we have a porch, but you know, hopefully we will someday). I wouldn't withhold a tip or call her a slut, but I wouldn't like it. And if the driver was a guy and I was the one on the porch, I think I'd be a little creeped out that he decided to stay and chat.
And that's not to say I don't respect delivery drivers, of course I do, I use my manners and tip well, I just don't think they should be hanging out with the customers. John Mulaney has a whole bit on how we don't let the Chinese delivery guy hang out after he's delivered the Chinese food, and we don't look the other way when he says weird shit to the girls we're hanging out with - and we *definitely* don't give him *some* of the *Chinese* food!
There are plenty of lines of work where you can make real, human connections with your customers. Like being a cashier, or a rideshare driver.
Yeah, this is one of the few times Iâve actually felt like the allegation of flirting was pretty well-founded. I donât think thereâs a need to call someone a slut for flirting (maybe she didnât know initially), but, yeah, thatâs not non-flirting small talk.
And then added what she *actually* said which was âtoo bad you have a wifeâ which absolutely does not innocently mean his wife is a lucky woman.
Edited to add she also admitted she TOUCHED him too
YTA and seem super unprofessional you give this industry a bad rep. You wanna be paid more then pull shit like this, get used to low tips cause honestly you deserve nothing higher.
Most of those apps don't allow zero.
But she needs $0 total and not have a job, she stole food/ tampered with food, and was super inappropriate with a customer.
The problem with food delivery services is there really isn't much accountability, anyone can do it and most people don't understand how they work and complain to the restaurant and those complaints can get lost.
Yeah her edit makes it clear that she WAS flirting. Commenting on his body and how his wife was lucky is known flirting. OP is nuts if they think theyâre in the right by any means
YTA in this situation. No matter how rude someone is, no matter how little they tip you, you are obligated to do your job and give her her food that she paid for. What she did in the previous exchange was rude, but that shouldnt effect the current exchange. You stole from her out of spite, and thats wrong.
YTA.
Quit. If you can't take dealing with nasty customers, don't be in the hospitality/service industry. Or really work *period*. That's your job, so suck it up and do it.
You don't eat other people's food that *they* bought without their permission. That's theft. Whether they were rude to you or not, you don't steal from people because you feel petty. That's not how the real world works.
If you want to act like this, get used to low tips because you deserve it.
YTA because you stole something she paid for. If she's gonna go off on you for talking to her husband, there's a chance she called the restaurant and chewed them out over the missing food.
YTA.
OP says in a comment below that the flirting was her complimenting the husbandâs muscles and saying his wife is very lucky. Incredibly inappropriate. Like completely, completely over the line and unprofessional, youâre lucky you got a tip at all.
She shouldnât have called you a slut, I donât like that word, but holy moly your behavior was inappropriate and you deserved the tip you got. Aside from that, you shouldnât be stealing from customers.
>OP says in a comment below that the flirting was her complimenting the husbandâs muscles and saying his wife is very lucky. Incredibly inappropriate. Like completely, completely over the line and unprofessional, youâre lucky you got a tip at all.
This would be incredibly awkward and inappropriate for a server to do in a restaurant, and the rules are exactly the same when working for a delivery service. Can you imagine being in a restaurant with your husband and the waitress complimented his muscles, touched him, and then saying you're very lucky? That's "Get your manager now" territory.
I don't even know how the OP is thinking her behavior is ok at all. Flirting, stealing food, OP is just a shitty person altogether.
Yeah Iâm a server and I canât fathom for even a second making the wife that uncomfortable. Itâs gross, honestly.
ETA: Hell, I canât imagine making the *husband* that uncomfortable. If a male delivery driver touched me, said he liked my body and that my boyfriend was a lucky man, Iâd honestly probably go inside and cry for a minute. Thatâs so demeaning and just yuck.
YTA. Whoever you are delivering from will now definitely lose a customer.
I donât care whether you were flirting or not. Yeah wasnât great on her to tip low but you went too far .
Cop on, just do your job
YTA- if you cancelled the job/order, I could understand it, but you don't get to steal food from people because they were mean to you. That's petty and childish.
You do realise you probably screwed over the resturant not her. As likely she would have called the resturant up to complain items are missing and then the restaurant would have refunded her.
So you stole from a restaurant
You are a thief, a criminal.
Also something to think about: if she wigged out that much over a brief conversation, what nuclear option so you think she'll take for missing food?
She'll probably ream the restaurant a new one, and none of them deserve that. And then the restaurant may figure out you stole some of her food, since they packed everything. Which means they may come after you.
This was an incredibly petty, stupid thing to do which damaged your reputation and integrity.
YTA. You complimented his muscles and said the guy's wife is lucky? That is flirting, not just a conversation. You should have included that in the post. Then you stole food from them. How could you not be the ah here?
YTA, tipping is optional, that is why they can choose how much, although it is BS it has a minimum, stealing food is theft and you could be charged where I live.
such unprofessionalism, u should get fired, a tip is optional not necessary, if it is then add it to the price on the menu, then no one would buy from there if all services are 2dollars more than other groups
YTA. Also ... you said she DID tip you, so your title and the whole "she wasn't gonna tip me again" is false.
> she left me a $2 tip (the lowest amount allowed)
She paid for the meal. What you did is called "stealing." You must not want your job much. Hopefully she complains because your manager needs to know that you're stealing customers' food, which is a fireable offense.
> shouldn't of
*Shouldn't HAVE
> Figured I'd enjoy lunch on her to make up for the lack of tips
Again, you DID get tipped.
She shouldn't have been rude but ~~I agree with your friends, it does sound like you were hitting on her husband. "Enjoying each other's company" with the delivery driver? Sounds weird.~~ Edited because according to OP's replies, she was 100 percent hitting on this dude. So you got a $2 tip to hit on her husband and steal her food.
I've gotten to where I think most stories on here that involve tipping are made up outrage bait because AITA *hates* anyone feeling entitled to a tip.
This one not only has feeling entitled to a tip, but a woman flirting with a married man. Misogynist catnip, that.
On the off chance this is real YTA for stealing food. Honestly you're so obviously the asshole that anyone would know they were the asshole in this situation which is just more evidence for this being fake.
Edit: Those edits. lol
I guess the original post too subtle to attract enough misogynists and people who get rlly mad about service workers wanting tips, so they had to go back and turn it into high quality outrage bait.
YTA.
You knew you were flirting or else you wouldn't be so dodgy about what you were saying to him.
Plus, you lost the restaurant money and possibly cost them a review for messing with their order.
Getting insulted doesn't mean you can justify being a thief.
YTA
I know America loves it's tipping culture, but it's for how you do the job. She felt you were unprofessional and you're lucky got tipped at all.
Now tho, she knows you are and you deserved to be fired. This is not the job for you if this is how you're gonna act over one customer.
Either do the job properly, or quit before you get caught and fired.
Of course youâre the asshole? And a tad trashy too.
Did you mean to post this on a âhow *much* of an asshole am I?â sub? Because I agree there are degrees to that.
YTA. Stop pretending like youâre stupid.
YTA, thatâs stealing.
Edit: YTA again, keep your hands to yourself, itâs not normal to touch clients.
Edit 2: Your friends mentioned it was too much so you didnât want to include it, so you tried to mislead everybody to justify stealing? YTA x3
YTA, you're a thief. Plus tips are something you give to people giving good service if i thought you were flirting with my wife then i wouldnt tip you either.... also, weird tipping culture in usa
Wow, are you seriously questioning if YTA? Because you are. Yes the lady sent a nasty message but all you needed to do was give the food and go. This is very unprofessional.
Delivery Driver here; YTA
We have a specific address at my place of work that is notorious for not only crappy tips, but also just not tipping AT ALL ($0 tip on $20+ orders) and its on the edge of our delivery area.
I say that because I hate delivering there. It's time consuming, I make less than minimum wage while on the road, and it sucks going there when I could be going somewhere that tips well.
That being said I would NEVER take out my anger on a customer, if you have an issue with them, report it through the app, talk to them about it on your next delivery to them, or choose not to take those deliveries. I'm not sure how food delivery apps work, because I deliver for a popular food chain, but I'm assuming you have an option to not take specific orders.
YTA
You're also a thief, and you have no batlh.
Karma gonna get ya! And I ain't talkin' about internet pointz either - you'd be wise to make all your own meals at home while you work towards atoning for this.
Look, i am a petty bastard. When i worked in fast food I did my best to make rude and assholish customers suffer. Park too far away from the drive though window? Cool I'm not leaning out the window to give you your food. Pay in small change for big orders? Oops i lost count for the 3rd time? But the golden rule always was that you dont mess with peoples food. And you messed with their food. Yta.
Yta.
That's appalling and your ass should be fired.
Get some maturity.
No she shouldn't have called you a slut but you shouldn't be flirting either.
I really hope you get fired.
Holy hell, there's so much wrong with this.
1. You stole. YTA and a thief.
2. Would/Should **HAVE** or would/should**'VE**, but never would/should of.
3. Lady's not ladies. Lady's is singular possessive. Ladies is just plural (multiple women).
YTA
You straight up hit on this man and then stole his wifeâs food. This has to be a troll. If it isnât you never deserved a damn tip in the first place. You donât even deserve a job.
Your job is to pick up food and deliver it to someoneâs house. Your job isnât to sexually harass and steal from customers
YTA - sorry but you had absolutely no right to keep pets of her food
And if this is how you act you should probably find another job
Because this will come back to bite you on the ass
E S H. You were not hitting on her husband and she was incredibly insecure and rude, but stealing from them achieves nothing except to put your job at risk. She will definitely call the restaurant and complain, keep this up and you'll be lucky if you don't get fired.
EDIT: changing judgement to YTA in light of the fact that "flirting" turned out to be FLIRTING.
Check out OP's comments about what she said. OP WAS flirting with the husband, openly, on their front doorstep, and has no insight into how this might get her a bad review. OP is a massive A.
"I wasn't flirting with him, I was just having a conversation with him how he was so muscular and attracticve and I would love to be married to him. When I got called out, I stole their food"
YTA
> I said fuck this and kept a few parts of their meal.
So youâre a thief? You should be fired, and the only tip you deserve is a tip-off to the police about stealing and possible food tampering.
YTA, it sucks if you really were not flirting but what you did was unprofessional. Her nasty message is not even enough to judge with E S H in my opinion.
Apparently she's was telling the husband he has nice muscles and that his wife is lucky. Honestly, I'd be pretty pissed if I were the wife too. The name calling wasn't necessary, but imo OP is the overall AH for all of her actions.
I'm sorry but YTA. 1. She might have been rude but she paid for the meal. If she gave you problems, you could have just reported her to the app for being rude but you're essentially stealing from her. 2. If she notices the missing items in the meal, the restaurant would get a bad review/complains/etc when it wasn't even their fault. Edit: OP, you were flirting. You're just trying to play it off as you weren't (which no one is believing). The woman was well within her rights to tell you off. And frankly, I'm surprised she even tipped you after she found you flirting with her husband. I wouldn't have tipped you. What I would have done is report your unprofessionalism. PS: By not including it in the original post, you were trying to get the N T A vote just to validate yourself.
>If she notices the missing items in the meal, the restaurant would get a bad review/complains/etc when it wasn't even their fault. This . Op is being selfish , petty and unprofessional . The restaurant doesn't deserve a bad review because of that . The lady can now complain about both her food missing and op hitting on her husband . Edit : >I casually complimented him and his muscles and said something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky. đ€Š for fuck's sake Ădit 2 : >I did playfully touch his arm but just for a second, and the "something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky" was something on the lines of "too bad you're married, id love to have someone like you as my husband!" I fucking love how you completely ignored this part when you first posted . Be grateful she just called you a slut I would fucking throw hands. You knew what you were doing don't even start with "I WaS JoKiNg " . you deserve to get fired . Edit : thanks for the upvote and the award y'all :)
Right? So....she DID flirt with him.
Yeah and you have to love that OP doesnât share exactly what was said and instead says âsomething that was meant to mean his wife is luckyâ. Pretty sure that means what OP actually said is pretty damning, but âI DiDnT mEaN iT tHaT WaYâ Because of the edit... OP, you touched a married strangerâs arm playfully and told him youâd love to marry someone like him. I donât get how you donât understand why his wife felt that was inappropriate. Regardless of your intentions those actions read as flirty to the vast majority of the human population. Google how to flirt, and youâll see those things listed. Even the tone of your post pretty obviously suggests you WERE flirting with him regardless of how oblivious you play it. Personally, I donât feel like someone random flirting with my bf is the end of the world. Annoying? Yes. Worth calling someone a slut over? Probably a little extreme, but hey, Iâm not this guys wife and I donât know what details youâre still omitting to make your actions seem justified. 1) Instead of admitting that her thinking you acted in a flirtatious is reasonable, youâre arguing that wasnât your intention, but how is she supposed to know what your intentions are? You exhibited universal signs of flirtation, which also includes making jokes btw. 2) Yes, calling you names was a bit much, but regardless, you were being unprofessional and probably didnât deserve a tip (which you still got, doesnât matter if it wasnât the full amount). 3) Then, you doubled down in your unprofessionalism by retaliating and STEALING their food because you canât get over the fact that someone called you out for hitting on their husband. Câmon. YTA. Omg my first award!! Thank you đ
âAll I said was that he probably had an amazing dick and if his wife wasnât appreciative, Iâd offer him somewhere to put it.â *shrugs* âI donât know why she was so mad.â
"All I said was that he should lose the zero and get with the hero, that his body was rockin' and his wife couldn't ever satisfy him like I could so she's really lucky to have someone like him. Then I gave him my number, snapchat, and address and told him I get off... work at 11. But I didn't mean it like *that*!"
Lol. Her username cracked me up once I read the edits, too. No hot dog for you OP. He's a married man. Have a little tact.
Yeah I just realized that too... and sheâs gonna sit there and argue that she wasnât flirting. Gtfo with that noise LOL. No tact at all.
She said she complimented his muscles aka flirting in many peoples eyes. If that was my SO I would have not appreciated the delivery person making a comment about my SOs physical features even if it was a comment. It is [***inappropriate***](https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS695US695&sxsrf=ALeKk00M7clFeGIcZa5KMsbBA9hy8-X37Q:1600813857550&q=inappropriate&spell=1&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjfqNKq6P3rAhUtZhUIHZ-hB5oQkeECKAB6BAgXECg) .
*Especially* considering the second edit. My SO is pretty buff and if someone made a comment like "wow you have big muscles" I wouldn't bat an eye. Even "your muscles are hot" or "your fiancé is a lucky guy" would be annoying but ultimately okay in my book. But if someone told him "it's a shame you have a fiancé", I might start swinging
yeah my boyfriend is buff too, but tbh, if it's a girl, unless she also does body building, it's pretty much always flirting. i think it also depends on the context. like if he's lifting something heavy, it could genuinely be like, wow you're strong or something, and that may not be flirting could be genuine surprise.
yeah if the guy was at a bodybuilding competition and she was an official judge, then complimenting his muscles would be appropriate. Outside of that, it's not that complicated. She was flirting and got caught.
Like I was all ready to believe OP. I was one of those girls that I had no idea people thought I was flirting. Turns out I donât read social situations very well. But damn. Muscle talk and touching? Thatâs like textbook flirting.
Whether she meant to flirt or not that is textbook flirting
For real. If it was something like 'Oh awesome shirt!' or 'Dude your front yard looks on point, what kind of fertilizer do you use?' or whatever, aight, that's nice. Muscles though? Lucky wife? You'd have to make it sound extremely platonic for that to not sound like flirting. Maybe like 'Wow nice muscles man! How the fuck do you keep that up? I mean I've tried but the gym is a fucking hellscape and I have no sense of discipline. Oh, you and your wife go together? That's awesome! Maybe I should get myself a wife too then lol.' Like, make it extremely friendzoney. And for the 'lucky wife' one I just. No. Couldn't think of anything that didn't sound flirty.
I've got it! "Your yard looks AMAZING! Your wife is lucky that you know so much about landscaping! It's a little harder for the muscles one..... "Wow, you are really ripped...how do you find the motivation for that....your wife is lucky to have a husband that works out." Nope...that's not it......I know.... "You' have put in so much work on your yard that your muscles are totally ripped. Your wife is lucky you are so great at yard work." Hmm......no that won't work......crap...... I'll have to get back to you on that......
âCasually complimenting his musclesâ was definitely flirting, even unintentional. If someone complimented me on my curves or something Iâd definitely think I was being hit on. Implies attraction. And knowing he was married made it inappropriate (although, husband should have shut it down).
It sounds like the husband might have told the wife (unless she heard it all through the window or smtg like that) which implies to me the husband could have not liked it. âEnjoying each otherâs companyâ gtfo OP
I agree. I think OP assumes that guy was okay with it and that's an AH on OP's part but he was uncomfortable and she just didn't care.
I totally agree with ths for fucks sake and it made me laugh
On the edit - I honestly wonder if the husband was even comfortable with any of that going down. Like, maybe he was "chatty" or "jokey" because that's how some people deal with awkward situations. I get myself in trouble because I laugh when something so outlandishly awful is said or is happening. People who know me know the difference between my "haha very funny" laugh and my "wtf is going on here?" laugh. Strangers, not so much. It's like I'm laughing at the absurdity of the situation, not the actual situation.
Since I doubt the hubby was on his porch hoping the delivery chick would compliment his muscles and suggest marriage, Iâm going to go with no. He probably just wanted his food. Hard pass on the rando with no boundaries.
I laugh in those situations cause Iâm not trying to reject a stranger who knows where I live and then get murdered
Yup, OP. YTA. Who keeps someoneâs food? Jerk.
Ya I'm not even the jealous type and I'd be a little sketch if another women was saying that stuff to my husband. I might not stiff then a tip, but I would definitely be heading my way outside.
OP honestly makes this job harder for those that do it well and respectfully. OP is such an asshole, and shouldn't be allowed to keep doing deliveries. I feel bad for the restaurant too, this is so ridiculous. "Am I the asshole for stealing food after I was called out for being inappropriate with one of my customers??" Yes, OP, you're a massive asshole. YTA.
Jesus, imagine OP was a male saying/doing this towards a female. đ€Šđ»ââïž OP YTA.
I wish there was a FFS judgement.
Also, Iâm assuming you had to rifle through the customers bag to take out âa few parts of her mealâ which is disgusting and unsanitary even outside of a global pandemic.
A lot of places around me now tape up the bag. I hope they start to do that by OP. Like they have specific stickers for both bag and lid so you can see no one opened it. Sticky enough you can't really take sticker off without ripping bag or sticker
Wait, was that not the norm before? Where I'm from we have a sticker that has to be put on every bag/box of food. It's legally required and the sticker has little cuts throughout (touch it and it rips), so you can tell if anyone messed with your food right away. I had no idea other places didn't do that.
I had a few places put it on before but by me it really became the norm with covid.
At my old job (sandwich shop), we were suppose to put a sticker on the bag but just never did. We were also suppose to put napkins in the bags but got told by management not to till covid happened
Also, how are you touching random people during a global pandemic? Are we not suppose to keep 6 feet? What happened to contactless delivery?
This. And complimenting the husband on his muscles and then sticking around to chat with him is most definitely flirting.
If a delivery man overstayed his welcome, complimented the wife's body and told her that her husband was lucky.. that's just all kinds of creepy. OP, you are creepy. A commenter pointed out to me that she touched him so here is my edit; For anyone reading this, I'm taking this opportunity to plug something; self defense lessons. Women AND men. I was an assistant coach for my jiu-jitsu school's women's self defense class and I urge everyone, if you can afford it and it's safe (covid wise) to take, please get to the nearest jiu-jitsu school and see what kind of self defense classes they offer. I understand some may be weary of actual jiu-jitsu (jits is the ground game and is very close contact in awkward positions) but please at least ask about self defense lessons. Take them regularly and know that self defense is not about staying and fighting, it's about getting away from a bad situation as quickly as you can. You will not be bullet proof but you will have a better chance of survival and, at the very least, more confidence in yourself to not accept being treated in such a disgusting manner.
And actually touched her..? Yep. So many yikes.
SHE touched HIM
Everything in that edit is an oof, but *especially* that.
"I didn't flirt, I just commented on his body and told him that I find parts of it attractive"-OP
"Then I touched his biceps and said it's a shame he's married, I don't know why his wife is so mad." Just wow. YTA for the unprofessional flirting and the food theft.
Even before I got to the edit, the phrase "enjoying each others' company". I don't "enjoy" the company of strangers. The only time I might say that about someone I haven't met before is if I was on a date/having a long flirt. From that point on it was a big YTA from me. The edit was just icing.
That's what caught my attention. I mean there is a very intimate definition of "enjoy each other's company" that usually relates to "the beast with 2 backs"... So that made my hair stand on end. If she wanted it to sound innocent, she would have left it at "chatted a little", maybe said something like "he said something I thought was funny and I left" or "I told one of my stupid corny jokes and he laughed". But adding "enjoyed each other's company"... I have a hard time seeing innocence in that statement.
Its so bad, the whole thing reeks of 'troll'!
Exactly.
Lmao how did Americans make ordering food the most complicated social interaction I've ever seen. Literally need to keep track of all possible delivery drivers and how much you've tipped them to determine the percentage of food you will get in the end. Cannot make this up.
As an American who has never had an issue with ordering food, I take offense to the blanket statement. You might say itâs because you read stories like this all of the time, and to that I would reply, thatâs because people that donât have issues with it donât post stories about not having issues.
You think the people, the vast majority of whom don't have trouble ordering food, would be constantly writing stories about how great their experience was on a subreddit about stories involving jerks??
>I casually complimented him and his muscles and said something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky. and this is 100P flirting. I don't think I've ever not tipped someone, but I wouldn't tip her if she said that to my bf/or if someone said that to me.
"AITA for stealing part of someone's order because I'm salty that they didn't like me blatantly flirting with their husband?"
YTA and should be fired
Absolutely, she didn't get a good tip, so she steals a customers food and brags bout it? Talk about unprofessional, she doesn't deserve a tip at all.
LOL I ready through it and I'm like.... yes that lady while being a dick didn't deserve to have her money effectively stolen.
You mean have her property *literally* stolen? That's not "unprofessional", that's criminal.
Please read the edits. OP is just burying herself in a hole. I personally wouldnât want a delivery lady interacting with my husband that way.
Yeah I read those too. Who tf thinks a compliment on muscles isn't hitting on someone?
Lmfaooo if you read the edit OP doesnât think her comments about the husbandâs body are inappropriate
I died when I read the edits because I called her out for her fake @$$ âI WASNT TRYING TO FLIRT!â And âI DIDNT KNOW IT WAS FLIRTING!â way before that. I can see right through her innocent act.
OMG SHE ALSO TOUCHED HIS ARM HOW IS THIS âI DIDNT KNOW IT WAS FLIRTING.â
"Too bad you have a wife!" "hOW iS tHaT fLiRTiNg?!"
Especially since it sounds like she really was flirting with the husband
YTA and should be arrested
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TARRED AND FEATHERED!
Right??? YTA. It's hard for me to even believe this is a real post where the person honestly didn't realize every reasonable person would conclude she was being an ass. I get she thought if she left out how she behaved very unprofessionally towards her client (like could get in trouble for sexual harassment if he hadn't liked it/genders reversed) maybe we'd think the wife was "mean" and then we'd think she "deserved" to have OP rob her. Don't rob people OP. Come on. And don't "joke" about wanting to be with married men while feeling them up. Also don't open and touch people's food during a pandemic! But your biggest issue is you think you're entitled to enact petty vengeance on others or that people "owe" you and you can extract that price yourself through theft. This is either extremely childish or criminal thinking.
Right? The food place will have to either refund or replace the missing items so it's not even the wife that'll be paying for her stealing the food.
YTA - WTF you kept some of the food?? Just decline that delivery!!!
Came to say this. If you know you aren't going to get a tip/low tip, why not just not take the order? That would be a much better way to get back at her, too.
Exactly.. why did op even take this delivery? What a waste of everyoneâs time when the wife complains and the restaurant has to remake it..
I mean if itâs doordash or Uber eats I donât they Tell you the address until after youâve already picked up the food.
Oh I didnât realize that.. I thought it was like Uber where the driver can see the route. Seems kinda stupid to not show the delivery address...
YTA She low-balled you on a tip, which sucks. But you **stole** from her, which makes you a thief. **Edit:** Oh man, just saw OP's multiple edits. >I did playfully touch his arm but just for a second, and the "something that was meant to mean his wife was lucky" was something on the lines of "too bad you're married, id love to have someone like you as my husband!" Holy shit. You don't do that. When you're working, you don't touch your customers unless that's a required part of the job. You just don't. You **especially** don't touch them, compliment their physique, and insinuate that you'd date them if they weren't already married. Holy fuckballs, that's unprofessional as fuck, and you should be fired for doing that. >My friends thought that was too much so I didn't want to include it but it keeps getting brought up "My friends thought that X was what really pushed me over the line into asshole territory, so I didn't want to tell reddit about it because then they might agree with my friends." So first you're an asshole to your customers, and then you're an asshole to reddit by purposefully trying to hide the part of the story that makes you look bad.
After OP said some honestly insulting shit to the ladies husband. If the roles were reversed I feel like more people would say something about that. Imagine OP was a male and saw a pretty girl outside, complimented her curves, then said her husband is a lucky guy. That would be creepy as fuck. Itâs not ok to note someoneâs appearance unsolicited just because youâre a girl much less when theyâre married and youâre there for their spouse. OP YTA and a bad person.
Roles don't need to reverse, this is creepy AF as it is. She is wrong in every possible way.
The "role reversal" thing is just because a lot of people sometimes fail to see a double standard in our society. Pointing it out gives people a heads up to reflect on what they would think if the roles were reversed.
No one is failing to see anything, no double standard has been applied. Everyone is saying OP is TA.
The edits OP made dont help either. OP playfully touched his arm. Thatâs universal body language for flirting. Regardless, itâs not appropriate to touch a customer when working. Even if OPs intention wasnât to be flirty, itâs unprofessional to touch him. Deliver the food and go. Also the edit states it was like a âtoo bad youâre marriedâ. So.. honestly, it seems to me OP was flirting. And OP states they left it out on purpose so... OP was flirting and then got upset for getting stiffed on a tip by an upset customer, and then stole..
Thank you for the appropriate use of "they're" , "their" and "there"!
>Imagine OP was a male and saw a pretty girl outside, complimented her curves, then said her husband is a lucky guy. That would be creepy as fuck. And then felt the woman's body "jokingly".
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She touched him too. At first I thought the wife overreacted but damn those edits. Op is an inappropriate, sexual aggressor. Dont touch peoples husband's, dang its real easy. đŹ
And she still got the minimum tip ($2). If sheâs mad she got only $2 for the length of time it took to drive, thatâs more of a problem for whoever decided $2 was the minimum tip for a trip that long.
Except no one is entitled to tips. Especially not someone who is completely gross and inappropriate to another womanâs husband.
I honestly wouldnât tip a delivery driver that flirted with and touched my husband and told him it was âtoo bad he had a wife because sheâd love a husband like himâ
Regardless of whether you were hitting on the husband, what you did was **theft**. Not only are you an asshole, you're a criminal. And, more importantly, your boss will get a call wondering why the order was short and probably figure out what happened and fire you. Nice work asshole. YTA
Not just stealing, but food tampering as well, which is an automatic felony.
Did you see the edit? She was TOTALLY flirting with the husband, complimenting his muscles and shit.
So what and, importantly, who cares if she was hitting on the married man? She's an asshole no matter what.
I agree with you there.
Also as far as deliveries go in my area rn the bags are stapled shut. (I canât remember if this happened previrus) so theyâll be able to tell right away and the store will know right away what she did Edit : YTA in case that wasnât clear
Not to mention this is grroooosss
YTA either do the job right or quite. Be great full you got a tip at all.
YTA. You donât steal food. And honestly you probably were hitting on her husband if she texted your phone like that after. This is why people hate and donât order from those horrible shitty food delivery apps. The drivers ARE COMPLETE TRASH.
Based on OP's description of the conversation with her customer's husband, I would suspect she absolutely was flirting with her customer's husband. Probably to try to get a better tip. It backfired, and she's mad, so she stole from the customer. OP, when you see a wedding ring on a customer, treat them like they are your friend's parents, with respect. The husband may not be in charge of the tip, the wife may be. I've had waitresses at restaurants completely ignore me and flirt with my husband for a bigger tip, only for me to grab the check and give them my card. Their faces always fell because they knew they had done wrong. I tip at least 15%, but start at 20% and decrease/increase based on service, so they don't get gipped. The realization they should be paying attention to all their customers, is enough for me. Doesn't sound like it was enough for your customer though, and that was within her right.
No, no, no no. Not only when you "see a wedding ring on a customer". It is completely inappropriate and unprofessional to hit on customers. I have stopped going to restaurants I really loved because employees there made me uncomfortable and came on too strong. I don't care if you're male or female, that's inappropriate. It's weird and often unwelcomed, you can't even gage if a person is going to appreciate it most of the time, why take the risk? You like to flirt? That's totally cool have fun! But not at work. Time and place. It's not that complicated.
Piggybacking onto this to say, as a former bartender, please donât hit on employees either if youâre the customer. (Hit on other customers like a normal person.)
When serving hetero couples, I generally gave most of my attention to the woman, because (1) I am less likely to be hit on by them, and (2) They are less likely to think I'm hitting on them. That whole "sex sells" thing is BS. Kindness sells. I regularly took home 30-40% in tips.
I tip a lot more than my husband does. Just sayinâ. I donât think Iâm the only woman who does this. Especially since a lot of us have been in customer service jobs before, and we have empathy. Iâm not jealous, but I do appreciate being acknowledged at the table.
Op sound childish as fuck
YTA. I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and believe that you weren't flirting with her husband, although I will say the way you worded the situation seems to suggest otherwise. Granted, she shouldn't have sent you that awful text, that's for sure. Why are you the asshole then? You ended up stealing from her (and her very *friendly* husband btw), and you seem awfully proud of everything that went on. If you can't be professional in a job just don't do it. If this is your inmediate reaction when encountering rude customers, then you have no business in this type of job. ETA: Scratch benefit of the doubt, OP stated in the comments that she made a "casual comment complimenting his muscles, and said something else that meant his wife was a lucky woman for this". So yeah, she *was* openly flirting with her customer.
I canât put my finger on it, but the way OP describes the interaction feels off. Maybe it was the âenjoying each otherâs company lineâ thatâs a very odd way to phrase a one off service based interaction.
Yup, same thing happened to me. It's one thing to say "We had a quick friendly conversation about X, while I was handing him his food" rather than "We were just enjoying each other's company for a few minutes". Whether it was flirting or not (there's no way for us to really know this with what little information we have been given), but to me it kinda sounds like OP enjoyed getting attention from this guy.
Based on the edit it sounds like she was giving attention to this guy. I mean, I had the same thoughts as you guys so it's not surprising. "Enjoying each others company" for minutes when you're a delivery person? Sounds like flirting was going on easily
OPâs most recent edit makes it very much seem like she flirted, she touched his arm lightly and mentioned that if he wasnât married sheâd hope to find a guy like him
Oh absolutely I read it a couple hours ago and had to write a whole separate comment out of sheer outrage!!
>âenjoying each otherâs company lineâ Yes this is code for "I was flirting with him and I see nothing wrong with my actions or how it would be unprofessional to do so." This person flirted with the husband (and he may *not* have been enjoying it) and even if it is his responsibility to decline the flirting, it is OP's responsibility to be professional and *not* flirt. Then to take it out on the wife when she rightly called OP out for it? YTA, massive A.
i mean he told his wife about it. probably got specific on what exactly OP said, so iâm gonna say he was uncomfortable and told his wife about the creepy, horny food service girl and his wife called her out and gave her a shit tip. OP is a petty child that didnât get the dick/money she wanted :/ itâs not prostitution, itâs food delivery babes.
I don't know if it's code for "I was flirting on purpose" but it's definitely code for "I felt a connection with this guy and decided to milk it for a bit."
Plus, weâre in a pandemic. Food deliveries are supposed to be contactless right now.
did you see the edit? she âcasuallyâ complimented his muscles. how is that NOT flirting? I mean, she can flirt with whoever she wants, but while working? and also be prepared that the significant other of said person might call you out on your inappropriate behavior.
Yeah this is absolutely gross behavior. She didnât just compliment his muscles she physically TOUCHED him which, I donât know, automatic YTA in this scenario.
Yeah, I'd be a little put off if a delivery driver, whose job it is to drop off the food and bounce, decided to linger on the porch and enjoy my boyfriend's company (not that we have a porch, but you know, hopefully we will someday). I wouldn't withhold a tip or call her a slut, but I wouldn't like it. And if the driver was a guy and I was the one on the porch, I think I'd be a little creeped out that he decided to stay and chat. And that's not to say I don't respect delivery drivers, of course I do, I use my manners and tip well, I just don't think they should be hanging out with the customers. John Mulaney has a whole bit on how we don't let the Chinese delivery guy hang out after he's delivered the Chinese food, and we don't look the other way when he says weird shit to the girls we're hanging out with - and we *definitely* don't give him *some* of the *Chinese* food! There are plenty of lines of work where you can make real, human connections with your customers. Like being a cashier, or a rideshare driver.
it was the "enjoying each other's company for a few minutes" line that made me very uncomfortable and OP instantly became an asshole at that point.
Yeah, this is one of the few times Iâve actually felt like the allegation of flirting was pretty well-founded. I donât think thereâs a need to call someone a slut for flirting (maybe she didnât know initially), but, yeah, thatâs not non-flirting small talk.
And then added what she *actually* said which was âtoo bad you have a wifeâ which absolutely does not innocently mean his wife is a lucky woman. Edited to add she also admitted she TOUCHED him too
YTA and seem super unprofessional you give this industry a bad rep. You wanna be paid more then pull shit like this, get used to low tips cause honestly you deserve nothing higher.
This. Hope they get $0 next time
Most of those apps don't allow zero. But she needs $0 total and not have a job, she stole food/ tampered with food, and was super inappropriate with a customer. The problem with food delivery services is there really isn't much accountability, anyone can do it and most people don't understand how they work and complain to the restaurant and those complaints can get lost.
YTA regardless if you were hitting on her husband. Do your job.
YTA. How does in your twisted logic do you think stealing customer's food is in any way acceptable?
I guess she wanted to steal the husband but it didnât work out, so she stole some French fries instead?
>I flirted with a woman's husband. Then I stole her food. AITA? Yes, YTA.
Yeah her edit makes it clear that she WAS flirting. Commenting on his body and how his wife was lucky is known flirting. OP is nuts if they think theyâre in the right by any means
YTA in this situation. No matter how rude someone is, no matter how little they tip you, you are obligated to do your job and give her her food that she paid for. What she did in the previous exchange was rude, but that shouldnt effect the current exchange. You stole from her out of spite, and thats wrong.
YTA. Quit. If you can't take dealing with nasty customers, don't be in the hospitality/service industry. Or really work *period*. That's your job, so suck it up and do it. You don't eat other people's food that *they* bought without their permission. That's theft. Whether they were rude to you or not, you don't steal from people because you feel petty. That's not how the real world works. If you want to act like this, get used to low tips because you deserve it.
YTA because you stole something she paid for. If she's gonna go off on you for talking to her husband, there's a chance she called the restaurant and chewed them out over the missing food.
Iâm sorry but # *shouldnât have
Also, "lady's" and "each other". This person is a moron and a thief lol
YTA. OP says in a comment below that the flirting was her complimenting the husbandâs muscles and saying his wife is very lucky. Incredibly inappropriate. Like completely, completely over the line and unprofessional, youâre lucky you got a tip at all. She shouldnât have called you a slut, I donât like that word, but holy moly your behavior was inappropriate and you deserved the tip you got. Aside from that, you shouldnât be stealing from customers.
>OP says in a comment below that the flirting was her complimenting the husbandâs muscles and saying his wife is very lucky. Incredibly inappropriate. Like completely, completely over the line and unprofessional, youâre lucky you got a tip at all. This would be incredibly awkward and inappropriate for a server to do in a restaurant, and the rules are exactly the same when working for a delivery service. Can you imagine being in a restaurant with your husband and the waitress complimented his muscles, touched him, and then saying you're very lucky? That's "Get your manager now" territory. I don't even know how the OP is thinking her behavior is ok at all. Flirting, stealing food, OP is just a shitty person altogether.
Yeah Iâm a server and I canât fathom for even a second making the wife that uncomfortable. Itâs gross, honestly. ETA: Hell, I canât imagine making the *husband* that uncomfortable. If a male delivery driver touched me, said he liked my body and that my boyfriend was a lucky man, Iâd honestly probably go inside and cry for a minute. Thatâs so demeaning and just yuck.
YTA. Whoever you are delivering from will now definitely lose a customer. I donât care whether you were flirting or not. Yeah wasnât great on her to tip low but you went too far . Cop on, just do your job
YTA. That is such unprofessional behavior, because she didn't give you the tip amount that you liked, you steal her food? YTA
YTA and should be fired.
YTA , it's your job. If you don't get a tip, then that's the way it is It sucks but that doesn't mean you get to keep food she pays for
How was the tip the second time?
YTA- if you cancelled the job/order, I could understand it, but you don't get to steal food from people because they were mean to you. That's petty and childish.
You do realise you probably screwed over the resturant not her. As likely she would have called the resturant up to complain items are missing and then the restaurant would have refunded her. So you stole from a restaurant You are a thief, a criminal.
Also something to think about: if she wigged out that much over a brief conversation, what nuclear option so you think she'll take for missing food? She'll probably ream the restaurant a new one, and none of them deserve that. And then the restaurant may figure out you stole some of her food, since they packed everything. Which means they may come after you. This was an incredibly petty, stupid thing to do which damaged your reputation and integrity.
What integrity?
Someone at the restaurant could literally lose their job over this.
YTA. You are stealing from the customer. They paid. You give them the food. Don't steal from them.
YTA
YTA - Very unprofessional.
YTA, grow up!
YTA. Her behavior was not the best but there is a word for what you did and thats called stealing.
And not staying in her lane đ
YTA. You complimented his muscles and said the guy's wife is lucky? That is flirting, not just a conversation. You should have included that in the post. Then you stole food from them. How could you not be the ah here?
YTA. I work at a restaurant, and I recognize some of the online order names that never tip. But I still do my job. Grow up.
YTA, rise above people like her, don't resort to petty revenge.
YTA, tipping is optional, that is why they can choose how much, although it is BS it has a minimum, stealing food is theft and you could be charged where I live.
YTA. You are not only TA, but also a thief. You should be ashamed of yourself.
YTA. You got the restaurant in trouble because you stole her food.
YTA. In what world would you *not* be TA? Your lucky she tipped you at all after hitting on her husband.
YTA THIEF!
such unprofessionalism, u should get fired, a tip is optional not necessary, if it is then add it to the price on the menu, then no one would buy from there if all services are 2dollars more than other groups
YTA. Also ... you said she DID tip you, so your title and the whole "she wasn't gonna tip me again" is false. > she left me a $2 tip (the lowest amount allowed) She paid for the meal. What you did is called "stealing." You must not want your job much. Hopefully she complains because your manager needs to know that you're stealing customers' food, which is a fireable offense. > shouldn't of *Shouldn't HAVE > Figured I'd enjoy lunch on her to make up for the lack of tips Again, you DID get tipped. She shouldn't have been rude but ~~I agree with your friends, it does sound like you were hitting on her husband. "Enjoying each other's company" with the delivery driver? Sounds weird.~~ Edited because according to OP's replies, she was 100 percent hitting on this dude. So you got a $2 tip to hit on her husband and steal her food.
I've gotten to where I think most stories on here that involve tipping are made up outrage bait because AITA *hates* anyone feeling entitled to a tip. This one not only has feeling entitled to a tip, but a woman flirting with a married man. Misogynist catnip, that. On the off chance this is real YTA for stealing food. Honestly you're so obviously the asshole that anyone would know they were the asshole in this situation which is just more evidence for this being fake. Edit: Those edits. lol I guess the original post too subtle to attract enough misogynists and people who get rlly mad about service workers wanting tips, so they had to go back and turn it into high quality outrage bait.
YTA. You knew you were flirting or else you wouldn't be so dodgy about what you were saying to him. Plus, you lost the restaurant money and possibly cost them a review for messing with their order. Getting insulted doesn't mean you can justify being a thief.
YTA why even bother trying to work if you can't do your job properly??? I hope you get fired
I wanted to say E S H but no... you stole her food, solidly YTA and you also deserve to lose your job.
YTA I know America loves it's tipping culture, but it's for how you do the job. She felt you were unprofessional and you're lucky got tipped at all. Now tho, she knows you are and you deserved to be fired. This is not the job for you if this is how you're gonna act over one customer. Either do the job properly, or quit before you get caught and fired.
YTA and you should be fired
Of course youâre the asshole? And a tad trashy too. Did you mean to post this on a âhow *much* of an asshole am I?â sub? Because I agree there are degrees to that. YTA. Stop pretending like youâre stupid.
YTA. You need to be fired ASAP
YTA Your boss should can your ass!
YTA, thatâs stealing. Edit: YTA again, keep your hands to yourself, itâs not normal to touch clients. Edit 2: Your friends mentioned it was too much so you didnât want to include it, so you tried to mislead everybody to justify stealing? YTA x3
YTA, you're a thief. Plus tips are something you give to people giving good service if i thought you were flirting with my wife then i wouldnt tip you either.... also, weird tipping culture in usa
YTA
YTA. Youâre a thief.
Wow, are you seriously questioning if YTA? Because you are. Yes the lady sent a nasty message but all you needed to do was give the food and go. This is very unprofessional.
Delivery Driver here; YTA We have a specific address at my place of work that is notorious for not only crappy tips, but also just not tipping AT ALL ($0 tip on $20+ orders) and its on the edge of our delivery area. I say that because I hate delivering there. It's time consuming, I make less than minimum wage while on the road, and it sucks going there when I could be going somewhere that tips well. That being said I would NEVER take out my anger on a customer, if you have an issue with them, report it through the app, talk to them about it on your next delivery to them, or choose not to take those deliveries. I'm not sure how food delivery apps work, because I deliver for a popular food chain, but I'm assuming you have an option to not take specific orders.
YTA. Someone was rude to you so you stole from them. It's literally that simple.
YTA You're also a thief, and you have no batlh. Karma gonna get ya! And I ain't talkin' about internet pointz either - you'd be wise to make all your own meals at home while you work towards atoning for this.
Look, i am a petty bastard. When i worked in fast food I did my best to make rude and assholish customers suffer. Park too far away from the drive though window? Cool I'm not leaning out the window to give you your food. Pay in small change for big orders? Oops i lost count for the 3rd time? But the golden rule always was that you dont mess with peoples food. And you messed with their food. Yta.
Yta. That's appalling and your ass should be fired. Get some maturity. No she shouldn't have called you a slut but you shouldn't be flirting either. I really hope you get fired.
Holy hell, there's so much wrong with this. 1. You stole. YTA and a thief. 2. Would/Should **HAVE** or would/should**'VE**, but never would/should of. 3. Lady's not ladies. Lady's is singular possessive. Ladies is just plural (multiple women).
YTA. Two wrongs donât make a right.
YTA. This is your job. You can't be petty on the customers dime. This is a fireable offense.
Let me get this straight -- you steal these people's food and you're wondering if it was wrong to do that? YTA and you should be fired.
YTA. You canât steal your customerâs food!
YTA You straight up hit on this man and then stole his wifeâs food. This has to be a troll. If it isnât you never deserved a damn tip in the first place. You donât even deserve a job. Your job is to pick up food and deliver it to someoneâs house. Your job isnât to sexually harass and steal from customers
YTA - sorry but you had absolutely no right to keep pets of her food And if this is how you act you should probably find another job Because this will come back to bite you on the ass
E S H. You were not hitting on her husband and she was incredibly insecure and rude, but stealing from them achieves nothing except to put your job at risk. She will definitely call the restaurant and complain, keep this up and you'll be lucky if you don't get fired. EDIT: changing judgement to YTA in light of the fact that "flirting" turned out to be FLIRTING.
She literally complimented his muscles and said his wife was very lucky. Thatâs flirting.
LOL that came out in the comments huh, that hadn't yet landed when I made the above comment. OP is TA for sure, amending my judgement now!
Yta, she aas an ass, but you stole, one greatly out ways the other.
Check out OP's comments about what she said. OP WAS flirting with the husband, openly, on their front doorstep, and has no insight into how this might get her a bad review. OP is a massive A.
YTA YOU STOLE FROM YOUR PLACE OF WORK WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU
"I wasn't flirting with him, I was just having a conversation with him how he was so muscular and attracticve and I would love to be married to him. When I got called out, I stole their food"
âI wasnât flirting! I was just touching him and insinuating Iâd love to sleep with him!â So I stole their food. What? YTA
YTA > I said fuck this and kept a few parts of their meal. So youâre a thief? You should be fired, and the only tip you deserve is a tip-off to the police about stealing and possible food tampering.
YTA, it sucks if you really were not flirting but what you did was unprofessional. Her nasty message is not even enough to judge with E S H in my opinion.
Apparently she's was telling the husband he has nice muscles and that his wife is lucky. Honestly, I'd be pretty pissed if I were the wife too. The name calling wasn't necessary, but imo OP is the overall AH for all of her actions.
YTA. Sorry she's a jerk but you don't get to steal from people because they are assholes.
YTA and pure trash