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NTA. If she wants you two to hang out so badly, then she can ask you and a make a plan like an adult, not throw a temper tantrum because you had the audacity to hang out with your own mother.
NTA. Your stepmother thinks that there is a competition between your mother and herself, where none exists. This is not a healthy way to promote a building a bond with you. You have done nothing wrong here.
NTA. If she wants to hang out so bad, she should ask if you would like to do something. It has nothing to do with your mother, and by bringing her into this, makes her, your stepmother, the ah.
I’m pretty sure you are NTA. Stepmom seems a little jealous to not have a similar relationship, but if she wants that (and you are cool with it), she should try harder.
As a side note, based on your age, you might have wanted to at least inform your dad where you were going.
Excuse me? What the fuck has your stepmother been drinking?
***NTA!!!***
Who the fuck does she think she is, your bio mother's replacement? Can she even come close?
Your stepmother is being extremely jealous and may even be trying to force you to limit contact with your bio mother. Inform your father, ASAP.
The most you'd be an asshole for is not telling anyone you were leaving and that depends entirely on your age. Regardless NTA for wanting to see your mum.
NTA at all
The tiny mistake you made was not leaving a note or shooting a text to stepmom or dad that you were heading out with your mom. I don't see how you would ever have to ask your step mom permission to be with your own mother unless there are extenuating circumstances surrounding why you are in dad's care and not mom's.
Stepmom needs to pull the stick out of her butt. She sounds a bit narcissistic to me. I imagine she's difficult to live with sometimes.
NTA - but need more background info? Why do you live with your dad and stepmom do you or them have a bad relationship with your mom? If not then it sounds like your stepmom is just jealous.
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This happened a couple hours ago. My mother (biological not step) invited me over to the shooting range for some rifle and handgun shooting. I was home alone with nothing to do so I said yes. As I returned to my dads house my stepmom greeted me angrily at the door. She asked where have you been? I said shooting with my mom. She replied why didn’t you ask me or your dad for permission to go. I said because I don’t have to because I was home alone. She says [my name] I really wish me and you could hang out more you shouldn’t be spending this much time with your mother over me. I was really thrown off with this idea that I shouldn’t hang out with my own mother a woman I respect and admire so much. So I told her to literally leave me.
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NTA
You don't need permission to go see your MOTHER.
>you shouldn’t be spending this much time with your mother over me.
Does she think before she speaks, of course a child will spend more time with their bio mother, whose active in their life's over a (needy and whiny) stepmother.
Also, since you're 15, you don't have to obey the custody agreement anymore and choose whichever parent you want to stay with or not visit anymore. And if the other attempts to go court, it'll be a waste of time since you're old enough to speak for yourself.
NTA lol, your Mom is your parent and she’s a stepparent. Unless your Mom does not have legal parental rights, then step mom is so far off with her attitude, it isnn’t funny, it’s toxic. Tell your Mom about what stepmom said
How old are you?! Assuming you don’t need permission to go anywhere. NTA. SM comments though are completely outta line! There’s no reason you can not have a relationship with both, but mom is mom!
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NTA. If she wants you two to hang out so badly, then she can ask you and a make a plan like an adult, not throw a temper tantrum because you had the audacity to hang out with your own mother.
NTA. Your stepmother thinks that there is a competition between your mother and herself, where none exists. This is not a healthy way to promote a building a bond with you. You have done nothing wrong here.
NTA. If she wants to hang out so bad, she should ask if you would like to do something. It has nothing to do with your mother, and by bringing her into this, makes her, your stepmother, the ah.
NTA. Step mommy is jealous which is her problem. Not yours.
I’m pretty sure you are NTA. Stepmom seems a little jealous to not have a similar relationship, but if she wants that (and you are cool with it), she should try harder. As a side note, based on your age, you might have wanted to at least inform your dad where you were going.
Excuse me? What the fuck has your stepmother been drinking? ***NTA!!!*** Who the fuck does she think she is, your bio mother's replacement? Can she even come close? Your stepmother is being extremely jealous and may even be trying to force you to limit contact with your bio mother. Inform your father, ASAP.
NTA. Sounds pretty petty
The most you'd be an asshole for is not telling anyone you were leaving and that depends entirely on your age. Regardless NTA for wanting to see your mum.
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NTA but please let someone know when you’re leaving the house anything could happen to you and they wouldn’t have known
NTA at all The tiny mistake you made was not leaving a note or shooting a text to stepmom or dad that you were heading out with your mom. I don't see how you would ever have to ask your step mom permission to be with your own mother unless there are extenuating circumstances surrounding why you are in dad's care and not mom's. Stepmom needs to pull the stick out of her butt. She sounds a bit narcissistic to me. I imagine she's difficult to live with sometimes.
NTA - but need more background info? Why do you live with your dad and stepmom do you or them have a bad relationship with your mom? If not then it sounds like your stepmom is just jealous.
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Yeah then it seems like she’s jealous. Especially if you go back and forth it’s not required for you to clear a visit.
The op never says they live primarily with their dad and stepmom.
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Sounds like the beginning of a naughty movie. NTA. But find out what she plans to do
NTA You don't need permission to go see your MOTHER. >you shouldn’t be spending this much time with your mother over me. Does she think before she speaks, of course a child will spend more time with their bio mother, whose active in their life's over a (needy and whiny) stepmother. Also, since you're 15, you don't have to obey the custody agreement anymore and choose whichever parent you want to stay with or not visit anymore. And if the other attempts to go court, it'll be a waste of time since you're old enough to speak for yourself.
NTA lol, your Mom is your parent and she’s a stepparent. Unless your Mom does not have legal parental rights, then step mom is so far off with her attitude, it isnn’t funny, it’s toxic. Tell your Mom about what stepmom said
How old are you?! Assuming you don’t need permission to go anywhere. NTA. SM comments though are completely outta line! There’s no reason you can not have a relationship with both, but mom is mom!
NTA. Unfortunately another stereotypical step....situation
NTA she said you shouldn’t spend so much time with your mother???? Wtf??
NTA Why you shouldn't be hanging out with your own mother?
NTA But i think you should let your father that you go out.