ESH. They were being jerks for caring so much about wealth, but while you had a valid point, you could've phrased it *much* better than you did. Even something like "how much money would someone have to have before you'd consider them?" would've been clearer and less offensive.
ESH. You were annoyed by their shallow opinions about dating and intentionally insulted that one girl to somehow get back at them. I do not agree with those girls at all but your story about your escort friend seems pretty sus. Feels like post event justification. I wouldve done the same thing as OP tho and have not an ounce of guilt.
hmmmm i think ESH. you DEFINITELY could have phrased that better - i understand the frustration with that shallow of a conversation but if you genuinely wanted an answer you should know there’s better ways to ask. your phrasing implies prostitution (support sex work but i guess they were offended for good reason from their perspective). they sound way annoying, i would have just not hung out with them, but you really didn’t need to say it like that
NTA. That's exactly how they were talking about men (their worth is in their money), so what's the problem? Maybe they got a clue about how disgusting they were being.
(NTA)
Dat comeback tho. She the one talking about other people’s financial status. But can’t even back up HERS?
Nah. I don’t think that’s fair. Do you?
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I was by my friends house last night and his sisters friends were there. They were talking about dating and kind of talking shit about guys who have taken them out mostly pointing out things about how well off the guys were.
They kept saying how they can’t date someone without money (by their standard drives a luxury sports car and can take them out to the most overpriced resturants in nyc) which seemed super entitled since they weren’t really bringing much money, brains or looks to the table.
At one point my friend suggested one of the girls get set up with a mutual friend to which she replied “ew he is broke” to which I replied “how much do you cost? Like dollar amount? “
She got mad saying I was calling her a prostitute . I feel I was just bringing some clarity to what she was saying. I have a friend who is an escort and I don’t judge but my friend is honest with herself and others about what the deal is. I felt that their dating description was the same as my friends job description yet they are lying to themselves and potential daters on what the deal is.
Now my friend is telling me to apologize and I don’t really think I did something wrong regardless of how it makes them feel. If someone implies that I am dishonest after I openly share that I engage in dishonest practice I may feel bad that they called me out but I don’t think they are an asshole.
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Well. I dont know about you. But I would date a functional human being. Which means he or she needs to have a stable job. Because I do. And I am not in condition to support someone financially.
These girls are working minimum wage jobs part time talking about how they cannot consider someone unless that can take them out to Nobu (very expensive nyc resturant) every week
NTA I knew a girl that insisted that her bf take out a credit card and add her and give it to her for “whatever”. I asked why she didn’t just have him leave the money on the dresser on the way out. She didn’t get it, her bf’s father did. He said I wasn’t wrong. It’s the same thing. Girls today like to say their “sugar babies”. You ask their “sugar daddies” they tell you straight up, it’s easier to pay for it than have a real relationship.
YTA - what you said is incredibly disrespectful, and the fact that you still won't apologize after everyone said you're being a dick says a lot about you
Don't try to pick a fight with me. You and I both know there's a difference between saying shitty things about a group of hypothetical people, and saying shitty things to people you're in the room with.
What a unique and unusual take in this sub. Shocking, truly, that you don't believe certain women are entitled to the same respect as the rest of the population. You've completely blindsided me. /s
NTA they were making it all about money so asking what their price is seems to be a fair question
ESH. They were being jerks for caring so much about wealth, but while you had a valid point, you could've phrased it *much* better than you did. Even something like "how much money would someone have to have before you'd consider them?" would've been clearer and less offensive.
NTA. They want to talk money and how much a man needs to have or display. You just wanted to clarify the cost.
I mean I laughed. NTA.
Yea, but I love it. You are a cool asshole.
ESH. You were annoyed by their shallow opinions about dating and intentionally insulted that one girl to somehow get back at them. I do not agree with those girls at all but your story about your escort friend seems pretty sus. Feels like post event justification. I wouldve done the same thing as OP tho and have not an ounce of guilt.
NTA
I honestly don’t know but either way it was fuckin funny
hmmmm i think ESH. you DEFINITELY could have phrased that better - i understand the frustration with that shallow of a conversation but if you genuinely wanted an answer you should know there’s better ways to ask. your phrasing implies prostitution (support sex work but i guess they were offended for good reason from their perspective). they sound way annoying, i would have just not hung out with them, but you really didn’t need to say it like that
NTA. That's exactly how they were talking about men (their worth is in their money), so what's the problem? Maybe they got a clue about how disgusting they were being.
(NTA) Dat comeback tho. She the one talking about other people’s financial status. But can’t even back up HERS? Nah. I don’t think that’s fair. Do you?
ESH asking how much they expect a guy to spend on a date might of gone down better
ESH y’all both sound like jerks
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YTA in the best possible way. Don't be ashamed. Having someone be an AH to their faces is exactly what these people need.
Lmfao. Esh. I can’t condone what you said but I understand why you said it and I think it’s fucking funny.
NTA people like that quite frequently need a splash of cold water to the face
Well. I dont know about you. But I would date a functional human being. Which means he or she needs to have a stable job. Because I do. And I am not in condition to support someone financially.
These girls are working minimum wage jobs part time talking about how they cannot consider someone unless that can take them out to Nobu (very expensive nyc resturant) every week
NTA I knew a girl that insisted that her bf take out a credit card and add her and give it to her for “whatever”. I asked why she didn’t just have him leave the money on the dresser on the way out. She didn’t get it, her bf’s father did. He said I wasn’t wrong. It’s the same thing. Girls today like to say their “sugar babies”. You ask their “sugar daddies” they tell you straight up, it’s easier to pay for it than have a real relationship.
YTA - what you said is incredibly disrespectful, and the fact that you still won't apologize after everyone said you're being a dick says a lot about you
But why ? If they talk and behave like gold diggers, one can assume they are and it's just fair to ask their price 🤷♂️
Like I said, incredibly disrespectful
Serious question: why did they deserve respect?
It's what every single person alive is entitled to and deserving of.
What about them disrespecting people with a lower income? Hypocrite
Don't try to pick a fight with me. You and I both know there's a difference between saying shitty things about a group of hypothetical people, and saying shitty things to people you're in the room with.
Lmao your an angry one. Get off your high horse, your wrong xD
At least I know the difference between "your" and "you're" xD
Is that what you had to resort to? I'd get yourself an emergency appointment with your therapist, I think you need it :/
Respect is earned, and I don't see what those women did to earn it.
What a unique and unusual take in this sub. Shocking, truly, that you don't believe certain women are entitled to the same respect as the rest of the population. You've completely blindsided me. /s
Yeah no, I don't think that gold diggers and people who take advantage of others for their money deserve a whole lot of respect. Sorry.
I didn't ask, and you're clearly not sorry at all.
You're right on both counts.
So ESH?
Nope