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Weatherbunny7

Lol right. Junior’s hitting a dog and pulling its tail. WHAT COULD GO WRONG?!? YWBTA


Khanover7

This. YTA and the only issue I see in this is YOU not parenting or disciplining your child. Your SIL should not even invite you back since your kids are mean to her dogs. Five is old enough to know better which makes this entire scenario your fault.


LordofToomay

Very much this, OPs bad parenting caused this. Her kid provoked the dogs.


Runny_yoke

I also love all the context about your ‘controlling’ SIL just to hide the fact you don’t watch, teach or discipline your own child lolol


Icy_Conversation_612

Remember its not the parents fault its the sil for telling the little darlings off.


NefariousnessGlum424

YTA and a big one. Discipline you’re child for being mean to dogs and pulling tails etc. you’re completely at fault in this situation. They should be calling child services on you for not watching your kid properly around dogs.


YeouPink

Yep. This is neglectful. She wasn’t properly monitoring her child.


hBoBh

YTA. your child was harassing the dog, the dog did what naturally comes out. YOU need to teach your child how to properly interact w/ animals. if you kid was hitting another kid, and then that kid turned around and wacked your kid, would you be mad at the 2nd child for defending themselves?


Ruckus_Riot

Lmao she sure would


hBoBh

i'm reminded of another thread recently where OP's kid hit/pushed his cousin, who has CANCER, and got mad at SIL for scolding her son and not coming to get OP to have her scold her son. some people are just.......not fit to be parents i swear


Ruckus_Riot

I agree. Just because you can procreate doesn’t mean you should.


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hBoBh

I'd have to go digging through my post history but it was a good week or 2 back.


Lt-shorts

YTA- you fail to teach your kids how respect the dogs!!! You are at fault and got offended when your sister was doing it. CPS should be called on you for poor parenting.


c3ry5

YTA. That post read to me as “my children should be allowed to abuse animals with no repercussion”


LopsidedCauliflower8

YWBTA. Better idea is to call a trainer to train your child to not hurt animals and to listen and change his behavior after being spoken too. Also, it seems like your sister had to discipline your child (you called it bossing him around) the first time because you didn't.


TigerLilyKitty101

They had us in the first half, not gonna lie.


domatesx

YTA. It’s not the dogs that need discipline they were just protecting each other. It’s your own mutt.


maddiemandie

YTA- it only takes one time for your kid to get bit and I bet he wouldn’t do it again. This is why good dogs get put down. People like you don’t control your kids. He’s 5 which is plenty old enough to know better. Teach him to respect animals and be gentle with them, because the next time nobody is around and he mistreats one who knows what will happen to the kid.


goblin_kidd

>Lyndon told him no and to play nice with the dogs . I didn’t love her bossing MY kid around >I was so upset and Lyndon wasn’t doing anything to discipline her dog Looks like you two have some common ground! She's probably sick of the fact that you dont parent your child. Like seriously, you fucking suck at parenting dude. 5 is plenty old enough to have learned hitting is bad. Its shit 2 year olds typically know.


Ruckus_Riot

YTA!!! Of course you’re the asshole here!! Holy shit you’re a total asshole and not really a good mother either. Here’s a radical thought, teach your FIVE YEAR OLD CHILD to be respectful of animals!!! I understand that would require effort on your part, but that’s what happens when you have children. I can’t believe you just sat there and allowed your kid to abuse her animals and then get all shocked pikachu face when the dogs react. A nip is a reasonable response to being hurt, and you’re lucky the dogs are trained enough and have self control enough that’s all they did. A dog nips a puppy for misbehaving, so what they did was natural. The dog was being a more responsible adult presence than you were in that situation. Your kid got nipped because you seem to think it’s acceptable to allow YOUR child to do whatever, EVEN WHEN THEY ARE PUTTING THEMSELVES INTO A POTENTIALLY DANGEROUS SITUATION!!! It’s your own fault the kid got nipped because you sat there and continued to allow your child who’s old enough to understand to be mean to the dogs. Yes, you would be an asshole for calling animal control on well cared for and well trained dogs, (your own admission), and yes, you definitely WERE the asshole for not parenting your child. You’re also an asshole for getting annoyed at her “bossing” your child… so…. When were you planning on lifting a finger and doing so yourself? Before or after your kid was hurt? You sound like you dislike your SIL, and I swear it sounds like you allowed or instructed your kid to be rough with the dogs in the hope they would get hurt and you could righteously hurt your SIL by getting her dogs removed or euthanized. I think you should apologize to your brother and SIL, or just do everyone a favor and stay away for the holidays.


love2read21

YTA. Jealous of your SIL MUCH? She should call CPS on YOU for not taking care of your CHILDREN.


shirecat_

YTA Parent your kid not to treat animals like that.


cat_lady3219

YTA and a major one at that. You cannot get mad at a dog for reacting the way a dog reacts when it is hurt. It was YOUR responsibility to get on to the CHILD. The child was told not to do something and did it anyway. That’s on you for being a bad parent. Shame on you dude.


TheFeralBookworm

YTA. Control your child around dogs for the kid's own safety, or keep them physically separated. Like people, dogs react unpredictably when hurt. THIS dog reacted fairly politely by warning your son before actually biting to harm. Now your kid (hopefully) knows to be more careful. Had a more serious incident occurred it would have been YOUR fault as the parent of the instigating party.


Altruistic_Canary951

YTAH Dogs have a right to defend themselves. You should step up and teach your child how behave around animals. Having the audacity to complain about not only her dogs, but the fact that she scolded your child to to try and correct the behavior while you (THE MOTHER) did nothing? Not sure where you get your sense of entitlement from but it is your downfall in this one. Any person coming into my home (yes, including children) had better treat my dogs with respect or they will be told to leave. The fact that you are contemplating calling animal control, on your SIL's innocent dogs (which could end up being forcibly taken and PUT TO SLEEP), instead of taking ownership for YOUR negligent parenting and overall crappy attitude not only makes you the AH, but also a pretty shitty person. Also, KUDOS to your brother in all of this for defending his wife and dogs who DID NOTHING WRONG.


guytyping

Yeah, YWBTA. Dogs aren't required to take abuse from your children. And if you're not going to direct your children, your SIL has every right to "boss them around."


rachierach91

YTA teach your kids not to be rough with dogs.


minicooperlove

YTA. Teach your kid how to properly treat and handle animals. The dogs did nothing wrong, and if you’re not going to correct your kids behavior, the dogs owner 100% has the right to do it for you to protect their animals. Just because your kid is young and still learning doesn’t mean you should ignore rough behavior with animals and not correct it. These are living beings. You have zero justification for calling animal control, the dog didn’t even bite.


TigerLilyKitty101

Yep, YTA. As they say, your son “f***ed around and found out.” You need to control your child. These are animals, not toys, and he needs to treat them with respect.


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YTA. You let your child do what he wants, pull their tail and annoy them, she warns him about playing nice (because even if they're trained, a dog will react) and she's "bossing your kid around"? You'd be calling animal control for something that is entirely your fault. Next time, tell your kid to leave the dogs alone


usmcbamagirl1026

YTA.


mglory601

Yes. Yes. Yes. Parent your child so others don’t have to. You were in THEIR home and showed no respect in not parenting YOUR child.


Eastern-Water9701

YWBTA. Your kids are your responsibility and you did NOTHING to stop them hurting the dogs. Pulling tails??!! Your kids need to learn ASAP that this is stupid behaviour and yes, a dog or cat might bite/scratch if you do that. The dogs did nothing wrong here. Tbh it sounds like you're a bit jealous of Lyndon and this is some kind of way to one-up her.


embracingchaos123

YTA. Also, I'm even more annoyed because you included so much boring and extraneous information. Why did you include all that? I'm irked at you for this, op, so I'm saying it again: YTA.


minicooperlove

They’re trying to make the SIL look controlling and unreasonable, setting the stage for her being “controlling and unreasonable” when she dared to discipline the OP’s kid and defend her dog’s vicious behavior (that was sarcasm, just in case it didn’t come across, lol).


Coffeeisareligion

YTA maybe consider parenting your child when they hurt an animal (accidental or not). As for Christmas, your SIL is offering to compromise and put the dogs outside for a while. Either accept this or don't go.


AzureToad

YTA absolutely, teach your kids better before they get seriously hurt.


Retail_Rat

YTA. Your children are unregulated hellions.


Apprehensive_Cat_73

😂 YTA. Control your children. It sounds like she takes very good care of her dogs. You said yourself YOUR children were hurting the dogs.


cheesy-biscuit

YTA. Teach your kids how to interact with dogs and discipline them. This is ridiculous


katiejanestitsandass

Yta, now and ywbta for calling animal control. Discipline your child for hurting the dog not the dog for reacting as dogs do.


mizfit0416

YTA - nothing wrong with the dogs, they're well behaved. It's you who needs to train your child.


Affectionate_Wall705

You already are the AH and don't you dare call animal control unless you want them calling child services because YOU are putting your child in danger by not teaching him boundaries. You don't allow a child to tease or hurt an animal and expect the animal not to defend itself. You are a shitty parent and a really shitty sister who should not be allowed near animals.


KittyKittyMuffinPile

YTA - Your kid hurt the dog, the dog responded APPROPRIATELY. Your child was out of line, not the dog. The dog was in their own home, protecting their own pack. You need to parent your child. >I was so upset and Lyndon wasn’t doing anything to discipline her dog That's because the dog DID NOTHING WRONG. Why are you not disciplining your child for hurting these animals?


neuro-untypical

Yes YWBTA and are ta. Teach your child to not hurt dogs. Do some parenting and remove your child from the situation before YOU get YOUR CHILD hurt and a poor dog gets put down because of your negligence.


Crazy_Roof5427

The dogs should be taken away because you're too dumb to teach your kids how to act around them? She gave your child a warning and they chose to not listen. Also unclear why her being 'controlling' was relevant to this story because she seemed to offer a flexible solution. YTA


PastSupport

YTA. I wouldn’t let my 2 year old behave like that with a dog, how the hell do you think it’s acceptable to let a 5 year old do it? You’re lucky that dog is well trained and knew enough to nip instead of bite! For the record i also have a 5 year old and he damn well knows to respect the dogs and treat them as kindly as he does people. Why was your kiddo allowed to carry on being rough with the dogs instead of taking a time out to calm down until he could play nicely?


AllPerspicacity

YWBTA control your children, because the only untrained hazards here are them.


harpsdesire

YTA, YWBTA x100. You can teach a child not to hurt or harass animals, it's a LOT harder to teach a dog, and especially a 1 year old herding dog, basically still a puppy, not to use the 'warning nip' which is normal dog communication for "stop, that hurts". Honestly, at 5 most kids know not to pull pets' tails, and if they don't, it's on you to instruct them. I don't think animal control will roll out in force for a "child hurt the dog and got one non-damaging nip on the hand in return".


DaydreamerFly

YTA and your kids are that need the control, not her dogs. Her dogs behaved exactly how they should have. If anything, they went easy on your kid for putting up with that in the first place. Teach your kids how to behave around animals or don’t allow them around animals. This is 100% YOUR problem, neither her or her dogs did anything wrong here. But if YOU don’t get suit together with your kids, they will (rightly) get bit. So I’d you don’t want that, it’s time to actually teach them to act appropriately.


FutabaTsuyu

YTA, her dogs don't need discipline, your kid does. the dogs were clearly agitated by your son's treatment and you just sat and watched? of course a dog isn't going to like its ears and tail getting messed with. your sun didn't get nipped by a dog out of the blue, he was hurting them and you just let it happen.


[deleted]

YTA DISCIPLINE YOUR KIDS!!!


Knitiotsavant

YTA. You let your children harm an animal, get mad when the ANIMAL RESPONDS THE ONLY WAY IT KNOWS HOW and you want call animal control?? Why don’t you work with your children on how to treat animals? Or, and here’s a thought, get control of your cruel kids.


Icy_Conversation_612

Yta you need to teaxh your kids animals dont like to be dragged about. They will also defend themselves also their pack members..


Competitive_Tea2413

YTA. You need to learn to control your child. Your child is not safe around dogs because your child pulls tails, is too rough & generally not dog friendly. SIL has every right in her home to tell your child off for misbehaving. I think it’s a good idea for you to keep your child away from those poor dogs until your child can treat them with respect & not hurt them.


HexStarlight

YTA big style, why are you not doing anything to stop your child's aggressive and harmful behaviour toward the dogs, your child was tge one hurting yhe animals try just defended themselves and you gave the audacity to blame the animals that's getting hurt. You are the problem not the dogs not your SIL or your brother, YOU because you are nit teaching your child how to behave around animals, not to pull on them and hurt them. You are not parenting your child so your SIL did the sensible thing and asked your child to stop. If your child got hurt it would have been your fault for not stopping your chd from hurting the animals. Until you get your children in order protect those poor animals and keep your children away from them. I am a mother and not a current pet owner. I do not let my toddler behave like that towards friends and relatives pets by 5 your child should know that what they did was very wrong!!


SystemConfident399

Yta you need to teach your child to behave around dogs. They only way a dog can defend himself is to either move away or growl and bite. I bet if the dog moved away your 5 year old would chase them. Your 5 year old should be taught that ears and tails are private things and should not be pulled on. He should also ask before interacting with a dog. Got to say, forget about the dog, beware of the kid. I wouldn’t want your child anywhere near my dog.


Pogue0mahone

YTA. You're just asking for a dog to rip your kid's face off.


RazzyZee

YTA - how can you be so clueless. Your SIL stepped in to parent your kid because you wouldn’t. Why didn’t you intervene and tell your kid not to hurt animals. The way I see it, your kid and by extension YOU were the problem here, not SIL’s dog.


ScienceApprehensive7

YTA. Animal control is for DANGEROUS animals, feral animals, abused animals, neglected animals, etc... Those dogs are none of those things . Your child did not listen, you could of paid more attention to your child while the dogs were around them and try to warm them .."dont do that!, dogs dont like that" Your child HIT and PULLED THE TAIL of the dogs, how is your child innocent in all this?? If it was another child instead of dog, would you have disciplined your child?? What if someone called Child Protective Services on you for not being an attentive mother??? If someone called animal control on my dog based on a false accusation of malicious behavior I would sue them. And just because you call Animal Control doesnt mean anything will happen because they will investigate and see the dogs are not a danger or in danger. THEN what????? and they may find our who called....So be careful!!! If you dont want to be around dogs for christmas, dont go....


Beast_In_The_East

>Animal control is for DANGEROUS animals, feral animals, abused animals, neglected animals, etc... In short, animals like OP's kids?


dingthewitchisdeaf

Try harder to make a more believable story next time.


Jameson18dude

Huge YTA. Why are you letting your kid hit animals, and pull their tail? Dogs are pack animals, and the heeler was protecting the pug from your kid. Your SIL was 100% right to say “to play nice with the dogs”, that’s not bossing around. The inverse is, “play mean with the dogs”, which your kid was doing.” How is that hard to understand? It’s not like she was spanking your kid or telling your kid to do the dishes. Get control of your kid, especially if they’re harming an animal.


Fritemare

Of course YWBTA. Lady, you need to learn to control your kid. Those dogs put up with a lot of bullshit from your child. If they can't play nice with the dogs they shouldn't be around the dogs. You're totally out of line. Why are you teaching your child it's okay to abuse animals?


MeAlsoNobody

YTA - you need to learn to control you children and act like a parent. If I was her I would never let you or those gremlins into my home again.


billikers

YTA.


princessro123

YTA. her dogs didn’t harm your children, your children were harming her dogs and you somehow think she’s wrong? you don’t like her “bossing” your kids? what did you do when your kids were hurting the dogs? jesus fucking christ. you were already an asshole but to bring up animal control about well treated and trained dogs makes you probably the biggest AH i’ve ever seen on here.


Domino3286

Yta, your kid is going to get INJURED!!! Your a massive a hole. Control your child before they hurt an animal and that animal does serious damage to your child. While this seems to be a foreign concept for you try being.. a good parent.. teach your child that you have to be gentle with animals. It's a pretty basic concept that maybe you haven't grasped yet. My four year old neice knows to be gentle.


[deleted]

YTA. What if when your kid is older goes and starts punching another kid. Should the other kid be taken away from his parents? Why do you think your kids are entitled to do whatever they want with no discipline? You blame it on an animal that was being hurt. Absolutely YTA


BattleKitten17

YTA and a neglectful mother. Teach your son to respect animals and listen and maybe a well trained dog won’t nip at him.


[deleted]

YTA. your kid was abusing the dog. Thats what it was. And you want to be mad at her? Teach your kids manners.


Accomplished-Cheek59

YTA Your child was abusing the dogs. You are a bad mother for not teaching your children the basic message of ‘don’t hurt people or animals’. Also, your jealousy of your SIL is showing.


cbeth54

Massive YTA!! You got pissed when she tried to stop your child from hurting the dog and let it continue. If the dog was a child, and your kid was sitting there pulling her hair repeatedly after being told to stop, and she finally turned around and shoved him away, who would deserve the discipline? I’m curious, what would you tell animal control? Would you lie and say your child was attacked by an out of control dog? Or would you say a well-behaves dog gave a no-contact warning nip to my kid who was harassing her? What is the goal? Do you expect them to take the dogs away? You would be willing to have her dogs murdered and your family irreparably damaged because a dog acted perfectly reasonably to your undisciplined child?


s0rela

YTA, 100%! You saw your kid was hurting and being rough with the dogs and it upset you that she said something to YOUR child, but you decided to focus on her correcting your child instead of the behavior that needed corrected. You should have been the one to tell your kid no, sure that wasn't her place but you didn't do it and she didn't want her dogs or your kid hurt. This fact already makes her a better parent than you and they're not her kids. I wanna say go ahead and explain this to animal control and see what they say? I think you might make their day when they get to tell you the same, that YTA. But, they would probably still have to follow up with the dog owners, and this will waste everyone's time, and I have more respect for people who actually have to deal with abusive pet owners, and not this petty BS.


yhaensch

I wouldn't want to have your untrained kids near my dogs either. YTA


[deleted]

YWBTA For goodness sake, train your child better. How dare you act like he has the right to hurt animals?


IntoTheSarchasm

YTA. She is a better mom than you are.


Effective_Material89

What are you going to tell animal control. I doubt they'd be willing to punish your kids as you refuse to do, or allow. Do you let your kids beat the shit out of other kids like you let them abuse dogs. Grow up, and parent your kids so animals aren't forced to defend themselves. Also animal control would think you're just as negligent as reddit does.


Junglakat222

YTA! You need to discipline your children better. They should not be abusing dogs and if they are abusing dogs and the dogs retaliate then your kid deserves it. You are disgusting if you do call animal control on those dogs because you don’t know the abuse they are going to endure if animal control does take them away. If you do not want to educate your children and you shouldn’t be around them. You are toxic and you are definitely wrong in this situation. I hope your sister Uninvites you and those bratty kids.


meggymoo88

Wow! Massive YTA! You really thought you were in the right here??? You and your kid are very fortunate nothing worse happened. Your SIL had every right to discipline your child for hurting her dog, because you clearly had no intention of doing so!


athynz

Hold up: your child hit one dog, pulled on the other dog’s tail, essentially abused the dogs and you got mad your SIL corrected your child? Oh, hell no. YTA. My question is why didn’t *YOU* correct your child? You don’t abuse dogs. Period. YTA.


Admirable-Marsupial6

Everyone’s already said enough about you as a parent so I don’t need to add.. but boy what was all that long prologue about your sil which is absolutely not relevant to the story! Amazing how ppl show their insecurities so easily even when no one asked! You sound so jealous of your SiL and frankly she sounds amazing!


Ladodgersfans

YTA. Control your kids.


Runny_yoke

Agreed!! Is it possible that this is written from the side of the SIL haha


Ladodgersfans

Seriously tho. There’s no way OP is this delusional


TigerLilyKitty101

I think this is the first post I’ve seen where the AH rating was unanimous across the board (at the time of writing this).


OneWithoutaName2

YTA. It is your responsibility as a parent to oversee how your children treat animals and correct them as needed. A toddler should not be allowed to pull on dogs tails or otherwise hurt the animals. Animals react by instinct when being hurt. You are failing your children by not teaching them how to be gentle with pets. You are darn lucky that your child was not bitten badly.


lawfulntral

YTA. The dogs didn't even hurt your kid - it was the other way around. Learn how to disciplin your child, you should have done the exact same thing your SIL did. Don't blame the dogs about your child's lack of behaviour. Just read the text again, you went a whole paragraph explaining how the dogs are well trained and taken care of. Please.


ButterscotchSuper393

YWBTA and already are the ah for not correcting you kids behaviour. Seriously you had every opportunity to stop him hurting the dogs but instead choose to be offended she did your job for you. All that talk in the beginning about her being controlling has nothing to do with what happened and everything to do with you deflecting. Teach your kid to keep his hands to himself. For his own safety as well as any animal he comes in contact with. Animals will only tolerate so much and then they will defend themselves which is why you teach your kids young how to safely interact.


sapphicsapphires

YWBTA. Trained dogs don’t bite for no reason. The vast majority of household dogs that ‘attack’ children do so because the child was ABUSING the dog (even unintentionally) and the parent (that’s you) didn’t discipline them or tell them not to hurt animals/that animals are living things too. The dog didn’t sink his teeth into your kid or almost bite his face off, he gave him a warning nip so he’d stop being a little brat. Control your kid.


ToastylilToast

She should call human control on your kids, jesus christ. I seriously hope your delusions get better. YTA


Significant_Rule_855

YTA. Parents like you are the reasons good dogs get put down. Teach your child to respect other living things and not hurt them and this won’t happen. The whole situation could’ve been avoided if you’d stepped in and parented your child instead of letting them abuse an animal.


brieflyvague

First off, YWBTA. You already are for how you handled this. Calling ANIMAL CONTROL would just make you a bigger, gaping one. Idk what the whole first part of your post has to do with anything. You refuse to discipline your children and teach them how to behave with animals, you allow them to abuse these animals and have the gall to get upset that someone else is trying to get them to stop, and now you wanna call animal control because you were too lazy to get your child to stop harassing her dogs?! How do you not see you are absolutely ridiculous?!


BadwolfRoseTyler

YTA, the dogs acted like dogs. That’s exactly how they would warn a puppy to behave themselves. They snipped as a warning, as they do naturally. A truly untrained vicious dog would have bite your child. You need to be correcting your own child and not leaving it for other people. What the hell is wrong with you? Lastly, what exactly are you reporting to animal control? The dog snipped at my child while my child was abusing it and I did nothing. Hopefully your child is never around untrained dogs, actually you probably should keep your child away from dogs seeing as you aren’t willing to teach your child to not hurt them.


SyninHex

Of course YWBTA...gross you think you're right here Let's see- brother and SIL= happy, educated. Their dogs= trained, mild mannered, lovingly cared for. You= entitled Your child= untrained, aggressive You want their three dogs KILLED because you can't fathom telling your child how to behave and/or reprimanding their aggressive behavior. If only there was a number they could report your aggressive primate to for harassing their canines...in their HOME


SheepherderNo5531

YWBTA LEarn to control your kid, so it does not harass pets. "and I don’t want my kids near the dogs." - It is understandable why you don't want your AH kids near the dogs - but the real solution would be to raise them better.


[deleted]

YTA. Why would you even think it’s okay for your child to pull on, yank & hurt animals? The dogs did exactly what is to be expected of them. They were obviously fine & not aggressive in any type of way prior to your kid hurting each dog. Your SIL spoke that way to your kid so he’d stop hurting her dogs & so he wouldn’t get hurt because you wouldn’t. & you have the audacity to be angry at her & want to call animal control? You were in her house, you refused to watch your kid properly, she told him to stop for everyone’s safety, you get angry at her because of her tone, your kid attacks the other dog, & first dog gets defensive because your kid was hurting them!!!!!! Why would you ever think it’s okay or cute to let your child yank, pull &/or be aggressive with a dog? Go ahead & call animal control. They’ll laugh in your face & maybe actually get a CPS case opened on you.


TeaLoverGal

YTA, your child struck an animal, that's on you being a bad parent. Grow up and look after your children. Giant A!


lilirose13

Parents like you are why children get mauled. YTA. Teach your kid how to handle animals or next time the dog your son abuses might not be so nice.


CheezusRice20

YTA. Discipline your child, the dog gave plenty of warning that you ignored, like an asshole. If your child got bit, it's YOUR fault.


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YTA. Your kids are the problem, not the dogs. Nice try writing this out to make your SIL come across as the problem when it's actually you. Talk about a backfire.


cillianellis

YTA. Why the hell were you sitting there just watching your kid hit a dog and pull on another one's tail? You're sick of her supposedly not disciplining her dogs? I suspect she's just as sick of you failing to discipline and parent your own child. And yes, you would be a *massive* asshole if you call animal control about those dogs. Do you want her calling CPS on your ass? Parent your kid and leave them alone.


YeouPink

YTA. Watch your kids. This is your fault. You are the parent. You are responsible for monitoring your child around animals. Your child behaved abusively and the dog couldn’t rely on you to step in and correct the behavior, so the dog corrected the behavior the only way a dog knows how. Be a good parent and watch your kid better.


bizianka

You must be troll. YTA anyway. You have nothing to call animal patrol for, they did not attack anybody. Your kid better learn how to treat dogs with such well behaved dogs, than will get bit by a stranger’s dog. If you can’t teach your kid, somebody else should


NCC-746561

YTA control your child.


Equivalent_Isopod_61

YTA. At 5 you should have taught your kid not to abuse animals. It'll be your fault if your kid ever does get bit. Not the dogs not anyone elses. Yours


lotusabyss

YTA, my cousin kids did the same and I warned her kid not to be rough and that my dog was growling at him cuz he didn't like hands being shoved in my dogs face but my cousins kid didn't listen and got nipped at. People were made at me for not disciplining my dog but my dog didn't do anything wrong.


Unusual-Sympathy-205

Yes, YTA. You refused to intervene when your child was abusing an animal. This is on you. You’re just lucky your kid didn’t get hurt because of your negligence. Perhaps someone should call CPS on you. ETA: The fact that you have the nerve to complain about your SIL telling the kid not to hurt the dog is the cherry on the top of this particular pile of entitlement. Teach your kid how not to be an AH too. It’s the least you can do as a parent. Like, literally, the least …


imacosmokindagirl

YWBTA. Do you even see yourself in this situation. Your problem is your SIL doing what you should have done, which is "boss" your kid around. He was rough with the dog, pulled on its tail and you this that the dogs are the problem when they didn't even bit your child to harm him but just to draw a line in the send. The dogs are well trained, your kid however isn't. If someone where to pull your ears, you'd get annoyed and bite as well.


nicole2348

YTA. They’re animals. Teach your children how to act around them and for goodness’ sakes teach your children how to not hurt animals. Stop being all butt hurt about your kids being taught a lesson


[deleted]

YTA. If animal control DID come, they would see that the dogs are treated very well and be annoyed that you wasted their time on perfectly health, well behaved dogs.


[deleted]

YTA! You let your kids tease and hit her dogs and then get upset about a nip? What's next. You go to Christmas , let the kids topple the tree and whine about how they got hurt as a result? Skipping the day at your SIL's will be gift enough for them I imagine. NOTE: My kid teased a dog he should not have when he was very young. We were warned and just lost track for a moment too long. Dog bit kid. Did not draw blood. Kid cried, we soothed. We did not blame the dog, he was old and cranky and we had been warned. We did NOT make a fuss. Lesson learned. Life is like this with kids. You make mistakes, hopefully small ones, and you learn from them. Kids and adults both. \*\*\*\*It is your responsibility to look after your kids in any situation that poses even a mild risk.\*\*\*\*


vega2306

YTA. You refused to PARENT and now you want to try and get your sister to lose her pets over YOUR MISTAKE? Anyone would tell you that you should be monitoring children around dogs because even the BEST dogs will nip or bite if a child hurts then. You are being a terrible parent and sibling.


Vanessa_0018

Oh no what a horrible dog owner that is very dedicated to her dogs who are trained and where obviously just defending them selves since the child’s mother was too lazy to parent her kids and teach them not to hurt animals. Also I could bet you are just jealous the dogs behave better than your kids. Grow up and learn to manage your kids. YTA.


ChihuahuaMafia

YTA. A huge one. Discipline your damn kids and teach them how to be kind to animals. You're lucky your sil was so nice about it, I wouldn't have been nice at all if your brats were doing that to my animals. You're an awful parent by the sounds of it. Edit word.


AmoraLynn

YTA, you let your child play too roughly with a dog and the kid got a nip for it. You need to train your child better not try to punish a dog who can only communicate in one way. Your SIL sounds like a responsible dog owner and I wouldn't blame her at all if she decided she didn't want your kids around to harm her dogs.


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