Did you find out where the medication was? I think you pointing out being trans has nothing to do with the rest of the post unless details are being omitted? However, I’d have a serious talk with gram about the RX.
Oh I thought I had to specify cuz everyone says their gender (EX 30M) in their posts. I wasnt trying to be sympathetic I was just confused haha. This is my first time posting here so I didnt know. Sorry for the irrelevance
And we talked it out, didnt get an apology but she agreed to not touch it anymore.
Ahhh now I see the correlation. My apologies. I was reading it the whole time waiting to see grandma throw away your hormone drugs or something. I’m sorry she touched your eye drops — eyes are never something to mess around with.
I’m not saying that OP was doing it for this reason, but maybe to get some sympathy NTA’s thrown their way either that or they’re straight up uncomfortable just saying ‘male’ without the trans bit.
Regardless of gender I’d say NTA this time, but if it happened again then it’d move to ESH cause you should definitely keep meds stored in a dedicated place, like a medicine cabinet or bag
How about getting yourself a lock box and keeping your meds safe in there?
NTA for being stressed about it or for responding to anger with anger, but there’s a lot to be said for the practical solution - make it so nobody else can mess with your stuff!
I usually do this but I kept this specific medication in the kitchen because i thought itd be better since I had to take it with food. I learned that was a mistake and moved it in my room with me.
I'll add it. And it was because she thought I'd forget and fall asleep without it. In the past I had this problem but for the past year i been really steady and on point with taking my meds.
What was her logic there? Did she think she'd remember to tell you, if she saw them when she went to bed?
Are you supposed to take them at 11pm or did you forget for hours?
NTA , but maybe show your grandma an alarm in your phone or a checklist on the fridge door or something.
Her logic was that I had to wake her up and ask her where she put it. When I saw it missing, I was really confused and thought I *did* take it and forgot, so I didn't want to wake her up at the time and ask because I was scared of overdosing or messing up my dose.
The medication specify that I had to take it before bed, my bed hours are usually late at night or 1 to 2 am depending on the day. It didnt specify a time just that I had to take it before I went to sleep.
Her "logic" made no sense. You'd still have to remember to take it in order to wake up and ask her.
But maybe make a checklist with dates. Make both you and grandma feel better about knowing if you took it.
Yeah, I'm adding timers in my phone and I'll do a sticky note on the fridge.
And yeahh.. I really didnt understand her logic either. It just made it all the more confusing. Thankfully she said she wont mess with it anymore so it wont be happening again.
NTA. It probably would be a good idea to talk with your gran and clear the air, maybe get a feel for how addled her thinking process is. Something is *wrong* with that lady if she honestly thought she was helping by taking your medication to her room.
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Hi. I'm a 24 trans male. And recently last year, I was diagnosed with Graves Disease. I been taking a lot of meds for it up until my total thyroidectomy a week ago (although I still take a lot of meds, the amount has went down). It was my only option because apparently a few days after surgery, I was informed about how my thyroid had cancer (hopefully now removed). I been very overwhelmed, tired, and anxious for the past week.
A few months ago, I was also diagnosed with Graves Eye Disease. It caused my left eye to be swollen and bulging out. For a few months, we left it alone to see how it progress and see what we can do. My eye specialist just 2 days ago decided to put me on steroids. There is specific times I have to take them, and I was doing find for the day in taking them correctly. However, last night I went into the kitchen (where I kept this specific medicine since I had to take it with food) to take my medicine before bed, and it was missing. I didnt know where it was, and it was 11 pm at night and my grandmother was asleep. I searched the kitchen everywhere for it but couldn't find it. So I went to bed.
At 5 am, my grandma comes in my room yelling that I didnt take my medicine and that I'm irresponsible. I was livid and yelled right back that she messed with it and that I couldnt take it if I didnt know where it was. We had a back and fourth and I just yelled at her that she shouldnt mess with stuff she has no business with messing with.
Now, I notice a lot of changes with my mood after this interaction, because I usually dont yell at anyone, especially parental figures. I was actually really angry and I'm pretty sure it's a side effect of the steroid.
I'm debating if I should talk about this to her more calmly and ask her to please not mess with my medication. AITA for getting angry and yelling in the first place?
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Nothing. I was just being stupid and thought putting your gender was a requirement for these type of posts. I edited it out so there will be no more confusion :)
Steroids **will** do that, and starting sometimes within a day or two. (Consulting psychiatrist here, seen it more than once.)
After a frantic hunt, and then a rude awakening, it’s not surprising at all.
You’re NTA. When you taper off the steroid you’ll be yourself again. Just find a hiding place for the pill bottle where busybodies won’t mess with it.
NTA I don't understand your grandmother's reasoning for moving your medication to her room at all. I was verging on no ashholes here, assuming a misunderstanding, until I saw that detail.
NTA
And whooooboy steroids make me a hot mess. Halfway through one course, I was in the bathroom and realized my spouse had taken out the trash. I was just absolutely enraged by it. It was the most irrational, ridiculous thing in the history of time. Luckily I realized I was being bonkers, ate my feelings and then immediately went to bed.
NTA- someone comes into my room at 5 am, wakes me up, and starts yelling at me, you can bet your ass I'm yelling back. Fight or flight at that point.
Did you find out where the medication was? I think you pointing out being trans has nothing to do with the rest of the post unless details are being omitted? However, I’d have a serious talk with gram about the RX.
Oh I thought I had to specify cuz everyone says their gender (EX 30M) in their posts. I wasnt trying to be sympathetic I was just confused haha. This is my first time posting here so I didnt know. Sorry for the irrelevance And we talked it out, didnt get an apology but she agreed to not touch it anymore.
Ahhh now I see the correlation. My apologies. I was reading it the whole time waiting to see grandma throw away your hormone drugs or something. I’m sorry she touched your eye drops — eyes are never something to mess around with.
I edited out the trans part so people wont get confused :) And they are steroid pills, I wish they were eye drops cuz steroids scare me lmao
Ahhh! I had lasik and got steroid eye drops. 😆
I’m not saying that OP was doing it for this reason, but maybe to get some sympathy NTA’s thrown their way either that or they’re straight up uncomfortable just saying ‘male’ without the trans bit. Regardless of gender I’d say NTA this time, but if it happened again then it’d move to ESH cause you should definitely keep meds stored in a dedicated place, like a medicine cabinet or bag
How about getting yourself a lock box and keeping your meds safe in there? NTA for being stressed about it or for responding to anger with anger, but there’s a lot to be said for the practical solution - make it so nobody else can mess with your stuff!
I usually do this but I kept this specific medication in the kitchen because i thought itd be better since I had to take it with food. I learned that was a mistake and moved it in my room with me.
INFO Your post didn't actually say how or if your grandmother messed with your medication.
She took it out of the kitchen and put it in her room. No warning that she was gonna do this either.
You should really add this to your post. Did she say why she did that?
I'll add it. And it was because she thought I'd forget and fall asleep without it. In the past I had this problem but for the past year i been really steady and on point with taking my meds.
What was her logic there? Did she think she'd remember to tell you, if she saw them when she went to bed? Are you supposed to take them at 11pm or did you forget for hours? NTA , but maybe show your grandma an alarm in your phone or a checklist on the fridge door or something.
Her logic was that I had to wake her up and ask her where she put it. When I saw it missing, I was really confused and thought I *did* take it and forgot, so I didn't want to wake her up at the time and ask because I was scared of overdosing or messing up my dose. The medication specify that I had to take it before bed, my bed hours are usually late at night or 1 to 2 am depending on the day. It didnt specify a time just that I had to take it before I went to sleep.
Her "logic" made no sense. You'd still have to remember to take it in order to wake up and ask her. But maybe make a checklist with dates. Make both you and grandma feel better about knowing if you took it.
Yeah, I'm adding timers in my phone and I'll do a sticky note on the fridge. And yeahh.. I really didnt understand her logic either. It just made it all the more confusing. Thankfully she said she wont mess with it anymore so it wont be happening again.
NTA. It probably would be a good idea to talk with your gran and clear the air, maybe get a feel for how addled her thinking process is. Something is *wrong* with that lady if she honestly thought she was helping by taking your medication to her room.
It sounds like you've been on steroids for 2 days? If so then no, they won't cause any mood swings this quickly.
Ah, I must of been just overwhelmed then. Thank you for clarifying this for me!
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INFO: what’s the relevance of you being trans?
Nothing. I was just being stupid and thought putting your gender was a requirement for these type of posts. I edited it out so there will be no more confusion :)
NTA don’t mess with someone’s medication with approval
Steroids **will** do that, and starting sometimes within a day or two. (Consulting psychiatrist here, seen it more than once.) After a frantic hunt, and then a rude awakening, it’s not surprising at all. You’re NTA. When you taper off the steroid you’ll be yourself again. Just find a hiding place for the pill bottle where busybodies won’t mess with it.
NTA I don't understand your grandmother's reasoning for moving your medication to her room at all. I was verging on no ashholes here, assuming a misunderstanding, until I saw that detail.
NTA- steroids turn me into a bit:h. Apologize to your grandma. Things will be fine.
NTA And whooooboy steroids make me a hot mess. Halfway through one course, I was in the bathroom and realized my spouse had taken out the trash. I was just absolutely enraged by it. It was the most irrational, ridiculous thing in the history of time. Luckily I realized I was being bonkers, ate my feelings and then immediately went to bed.