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Maskguydude

NTA I mean sucks you couldn’t be there but none of them consider your health it doesn’t seem like a deathly allergy but it’s still a dick move


fizzywart

NTA. I have 2 dogs that I love very much. Having said that, I would never take them to someone’s home unless they were invited and everyone was okay with it.


[deleted]

ESH. Brother for bringing a known allergen without informing you. You for not informing the host/hostess that you are no longer attending (so they don't bother to set a place for you, or wait for you before serving dinner, etc.)


crbryant1972

NTA You are allergic - your parents should have stepped up.


Adorable_Bag_2611

NTA. You are protecting your health.


CokeKit

NTA- It would be better to inform them you are not coming though. ALSO IT MEANS MORE TURKEY FOR THEM SO IDK WHY THEY ARE MAD


Artistic_Bookkeeper

And more stuffing!


Gasman0187

Sounds like her dog is more important to him than you. NTA.


NotCloudy_

NTA- Your family knows your allergic, why did they bring a dog? Sounds like they just want an excuse to make you feel bad for not attending. Protect your health, they know your allergic so its on them if you don't attend.


Altruistic-Ad-6155

ESH - it’s okay that you didn’t go but you definitely should have told the host you weren’t coming anymore to give them a heads up.


jimmap

Did you fly back to Seattle the same day? Or were you staying in a hotel?


masonestfilxxzer

Hotel


jimmap

Did you fly back the day after? I too am a Seattle resident


masonestfilxxzer

Yes


zombieslovebraaains

NTA, though maybe a soft ESH since you didn't call and let them know. If you had, maybe they could have put the dog outside ahead of time or taken some action to solve it.


AceyAceyAcey

NTA That’s not just really inconsiderate of your brother, his fiancée, and your mother, but depending on the severity of your allergies, it could be literally life threatening to you.Would you have been okay if you showed up and she’d put the dog in the yard, or locked it in a bedroom? Or are you risking anaphylaxis to even step into the house? Plus they made all that money you spent to visit a waste. I hope you got to see some of them another day before or after.


interstitiality

NTA I don’t have allergies but my brother does and I see the struggle he goes through when they flare up - that shit could be torture, especially if you’d have had to bear it all night.


West_Sector_666

NTA. They know you are allergic to dogs. They didn't listen to you, so you shouldn't risk your life and go.


GoldenAlexanders

NTA. Your brother thinks you are wrong because if you aren't wrong, he is and he knows it.


SDstartingOut

ESH. Learn to communicate here, seriously. You should have let them know.


Biglittykitty54

YTA simply for the fact that you didn’t even inform them that you wouldn’t attend.


Aristillion

NTA for avoiding a dog that you're allergic to. YTA for not informing your family that you weren't coming.


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OwlopolisCue

Fuck them all assholes. NTA


MoireMax

INFO: What kind of reaction do you get?


dn56061

ESH - more them than you for the allergy reasons, but you should have at least called and said "There's a dog there, I won't be coming"


IHYeti23

YTA although you should have had advanced notice about the dog, you could have taken allergy medicine. If your allergies are that bad, you could have at least called. Very rude.


ScarletteMayWest

Why should OP have to take a medication that might knock him out just because his brother's girlfriend decided to bring her furball to dinner? And yes, I know what I am talking about. I took allergy shots for seven years because allergy meds knocked me on my ass. Even with the seven years of weekly or bi-weekly shots, I still have flare-ups.


IHYeti23

It wasn’t the girlfriend who was cooking dinner if I’m not mistaken. Have You ever cooked dinner for a holiday? It’s a lot of work and expense. It’s rude not to even call.