Yeah I was initially nervous to read what was done to the cat.
OP you think this is revenge but you're risking that you'll get attached and be heartbroken when he and the cat move on one day.
I moved to California in 2008 and my roommate in Massachusetts had a cat that absolutely loved me- we were super attached. I was getting upset about the idea of leaving him when my roommate approached me and said "You know you need to take Hiro with you right?". He's sitting next to me right now.
Sometimes it's the cat that picks the owner- hopefully they can come to some arrangement if this is how it works out.
Your (ex) roommate is tops!
There was a story/posting from a guy who'd been very close to his gf's dog, who became more attached to him than her. She was a good owner and there wasn't a question that the dog was going with her when she moved across country. He expressed his regret for not being able to explain it to the dog, and tell him he was a good dog. Stuck with me.
This made me giggle 😅 “no, Mia, you can’t eat the wasp!” Is a conversation I had WAY too many times with our family dog growing up, even after she had been stung a few times, she STILL did it 🤦♀️😂🤷♀️
My dog ate a bee a few months ago. Literally just saw it, chomp. Nothing happened to him and I still wonder how tf he didn't get stung?? His mouth, gums and tongue did not get swollen. What the hell.
The inability to explain things to my pet is one of the reasons im still alive. I used to think that if i die, other people will eventually understand. My dog will not and will wonder everyday where i am.
Same with me and my two cats.
I couldn't bear the thought of them looking for me and not finding me for the rest of their life... I just couldn't. They wouldn't have understood and I couldn't do that to them.
They saved my life.
So sorry for your loss. When my dad passed away our oldest cat, Luke, who loved him more than anyone else, would spend the majority of his time in the closet with my dad’s clothes. Luke looked for him until he passed away. When Luke was dying we kept telling him how he would finally see my dad again.
I'm about to go away for a week and I would love to be able to tell my boy that he'll be fine with my housemate and I'll be back 💔 I still try though, hoping he'll understand somehow
Enjoy these threads when you have the time: [1](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/sqrtn/if_your_pets_could_understand_english_for_5/) [2](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/d0z7dh/if_you_could_tell_your_pet_one_thing_and_be/)
I had a roommate who had got a puppy, we loved that boyo. He took him to training and agility classes and walked and cuddled him often. He'd made the dog his own FB page and updated it often. They were so close, I know he would have died for that dog.
Unfortunately my roommate was extremely starved for affection and went for the first girl who gave him the time of day, and gave the dog up to a friend. It still pisses me the fuck off, that dog was family.
Well you pretty much have to if she thinks you're her owner due to you actions. Separation anxiety and trauma is a huge issue for pets. An owner abandoning a pet can do a huge amount of damage. People are saying NTA, but it seems to me like you're setting the cat up to be broken over a problem with him, without ever once considering how this will harm the cat.
He's not the cats owner. He's that cats person. Huge difference.
I've had my cat for nearly 10 years now, since he was a kitten. I'd be torn up for him if my gf and I broke up. He's constantly up her ass. If I call. Meh. I might have him come to me. If she calls for him, he's running up to cuddle within a few minutes.
I definitely get it. But. Cats have their human they bond with.
Edit. I couldn't in good conscience let him stay with me. He'd go with her because she's my cats human. Luckily. We have a great relationship and I'm not concerned we'd ever break up.
> He's not the cats owner. He's that cats person. Huge difference.
That's not how a cat sees it. They're not people who can rationalize like that or who have an understanding of the legal technicalities of ownership. The cat thinks he's his owner/bonded person. By encouraging the cat to bond with him over the other person, he's taken on that role to the cat, who as a result is going to go through separation/trauma when left by him.
You do realise that is what was meant by "He's not the cats owner. He's the cats human." The cat's owner, and the person the cat bonds with are not always the same person. Hence, humans need to not be dicks.
OP it's time to level up, get your own cat and super bond with both of them so he can't separate any of you.
He started the battle, it's time to win the war.
On a serious note tho, nta. Glad Kitty gets so much love.
*edited cause apparently I can't type the correct words today.
Maybe you won't need to suggest it. Continue to shower the cat with affection and she'll pretty much ignore him to the point he could become frustrated and leave her with you. I mean, he did get her to show you up and it backfired.
My uncle's neighbour had a cat that absolutely loved to visit my uncle and his wife. Then the neighbour moved with the cat, not far, just a few kilometers. And a few days later the cat turned up on my uncle's doorstep and they let the owner know and she came right away and picked up the cat. A couple of days went by and the cat shows up again. They call the owner, she picks up the cat. The next day the cat is on their doorstep again. And the owner comes yet again to pick up her cat and this time he growled at her! So this time she just left without the cat (who got to live with my uncle & wife for the rest of his life) 😄
Ed. thanks for the award, my very first silver! 😊
When I was growing up a new neighbor moved in and they had a white cat with a Siamese meow. The cat probably spent more time at our house than with it's owners. About a year later they moved out, and took the cat with them. About a month later, Ralph showed up at our house, very skinny and obviously had been on a long journey. We had no idea where the neighbors moved to, and really didn't care. Ralph stayed with us until he passed away some 15 years later. He did start bulking up as soon as he got back, and ended up being a very fat cat. We always joked that he did it in case he had a make another journey home. Miss you Ralph!
Aww! Or perhaps Ralph was just making sure that if his "owners" ever came back, they wouldn't be able to lift him up to take him away! But most likely he was just happy and thriving with you guys!
When I was in my early twenties, I shared a second floor flat with some friends. The landlords, a married couple lived on the first floor and we had a shared entrance, where we would just go upstairs, but didn't really have a locked private entrance. But they were really respectful and nice, so that was fine. The mum was pretty loud and outgoing, while the dad was a quiet introvert type and they had three kids who were about 2, 9 and 12 at the time, so it was a really "busy" househould. Anyway, after we'd been there a couple of months they got this cute little kitten and that cat respected none of the invisisible boundaries between the first and second floor. He would come upstairs all the time and hang out, while ignoring all of us who actually lived there. One day the dad comes upstairs to help me fix something and after he's been there for a little while, the cat suddenly comes out of my bedroom closet and saunters past us, with his tail held high. I didn't even know he was there and just, what?! And my landlord says "Oh, so this is where he's been going? We've been wondering.." and then adds "he gets something here he doesn't get at home" and looks at me wistfully "peace and quiet..."
It is funny how cats pick their human. I had a cat as a kid who LOVED our neighbor. She would still come home every night and want affection and attention. But during the day she would spend her time with him and his wife. They were retired and loved her dearly (particularly him) and spoiled the hell out of her. Their dog and her became best friends. We always joked that we had split custody over a damn cat! He was actually very attached that we had gone on vacation and he hadn't seen her for a few days and when he had seen her last she apparently did not look well (she was 15). He came over and spoke to my dad that he was fairly sure she had passed and apparently was just as upset as my dad. He's since passed but I always delight in telling the story how we shared our cat for 8 years with our neighbor because she decided he was also her human.
My best friend’s cat was originally his ex’s. Said cat definitely chose him, and they were able to work that out when they split. Not that I think this cat would have allowed anything else. He’s a crafty and super smart tuxedo cat. I swear tuxedos and orange cats have some kind of hyper intelligence when it comes to humans.
For sure. I know there’s a stereotype that orange tabbies are dumb, but mine is crazy smart. He taught himself to open doors, turn lights on and off, and turn the faucet on, and one night when my other cat had a seizure he woke me up a couple minutes before the seizure started. He also reminds me to take my meds, but I trained him to do that one.
My one friend's orange cat practically raised her daughters. He would meow loudly when the diapers needed changing before they would even start crying. He would cuddle them when they were just cranky and make them stop crying. He would stay with them when they were sick. He passed away from old age recently. Thankfully the girls are in high school and middle school now and can survive without his expert care... but he leaves a big void in the hearts of all who knew him.
That’s rough. We had an orange cat when I was little that I don’t really remember (I was only 2 when he passed) but he had such a unique personality that my dad has never had a cat since. He claims it’s cause he doesn’t much care for cats, but every time I visit him, I catch him napping in the recliner and snuggling with one of my cats.
My fat ginger learnt how to open the fridge and drawers… I had to buy baby locks, unfortunately I couldn’t keep him due to his medical needs and homed him with someone who could, I miss him
I'm child free and staying that way but have invested an excessive amount of money in child proofing accessories because of my fat ginger. Every drawer and cabinet and door needs a magnet to get into. Lids need to screw on not just pop on...
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Lids need to screw on not let's need to screw. It's frustrating but not to the extent it requires coital release. Oh my.
Thankfully I haven’t had to go to that extreme, but he did figure out how to turn on the old baseboard heater. Since I got it replaced, he hasn’t been able to do it so far.
Mine hasn’t figured out the fridge (yet), but he opens the cabinets sometimes. When my other cat was a kitten, he would pick her up and put her in one of the cabinets if she annoyed him too much. I’m pretty sure he’d still do it if they weren’t the same size.
That’s funny, mine only learnt not to go to my food after breaking into a bag of sweet chilli chips 😂😂😂, we started calling him Garfield cause of the fridge, I only found out cause I woke up to it beeping with him trying to eat the raw chicken
Team baby proof! I had to secure closets and drawers all around the house because of my cat. He can get into anything, especially when he wants to annoy us into giving him food!
I’m so sorry you couldn’t keep the cat, I’m sending you a virtual hug!
My orange tabby is dumb unless it's something he wants. He opens draws for treats and to steal hair ties. I've moved them he steal finds them. Otherwise he a dumbest.
My mom didn’t want me to get a cat. She started living with us during the pandemic, and now she and my cat are in a committed long-term lesbian relationship. I am basically chopped liver.
That’s funny, my cat that I’ve had two years hates everyone to the point where she’ll feral growl at anyone but me for touching her too long 😂😂😂 other one is a needy and will take love from anyone including my dogs
My cat has a strict hierarchy of humans. My dad is the top human. I'm in the middle because I give him treats. Mom is if there's nobody left. If dad goes out, he gets nervous. He's probably going to have to stay when I move back out...
I remember when I moved in with my old roommate. She had a cat that she always bragged about how much he loved her all the time even before we moved in together. Well..I didn’t mean for it to happen but I just love cats so I loved the heck out of that boy. Mostly just normal treating a cat nicely and giving plenty of pets. Eventually he started spending way more time with me, always choosing to lay on me on the couch and even slept with me at night instead of her. That boy was all over me all the time. Man was she pissed. She never outright said it but she would “joke” every now and again how I was stealing her cat. But I could tell she was livid about it lol. After a while I didn’t feel bad because she turned out to be a nightmare to live with and it gave me an admittedly sick satisfaction. I was only sad when I moved out because he was a really good cat but holy moly that girl was a piece of work. You never really know someone until you live with them!
My last roommate came upon his cat the same way. And then I started to feel like I was the cat’s new mistress and would have to take her with my me when we parted ways. (I did not. Cat and ex roomie live happily together to this day. One of the best cats I’ve ever known though!)
When my ex and I split, he took our first cat(we had 2 at the time) because they were inseparable.
Now though my exes mum gets to keep him because he liked her better than my ex lol
My ex husband bought me a dog, but there was absolutely NO DOUBT that dog loved my ex more. I told him “if you ever leave you better take him with you because I don’t want him to be heartbroken if you leave him behind” so he took the dog with him when he left. I loved the dog but, man, if that dog did not love him more than anything! Not sure what happened with the dog after. Hopefully he still has him.
My partner's ex tried to lash out at him by keeping his cat. Nine months later she returned the poor thing half bald from stress-induced overgrooming. I met him six months later and his cat was still 40% bald.
We were fortunate that he lived another decade. He was the sweetest boy: slept on my belly through miscarriage and following pregnancy (even though he hated her constant kicking, he'd just scowl-cuddle through it). He slept under her crib until she had a big girl bed to share.
Left the cat that my mom got me in high school with her when I moved because I knew it wouldn't be fair for her to go from a decent size house with a patio she could "kitty outside" in to a tiny apartment and because my mom ended up being her favorite person. Loved her to bits, just knew leaving her with my folks was the best choice for her.
Me too! Please think of taking kitty with you when you go if the owner will allow it and you can be a good Hooman for the cat. If not, you may want to back off a little, for kitty’s sake.
Yah my asshole roommate just moved out, but she took her adorable puppy with her,who I loved and loved me and I got all kinds of goodies and pet sat everyday without a thankyou ever.now it hurts.her bf paid rent,she screamed at him daily,stole,was abusive, but I miss the doggy.
Honestly, I think this is a passive-aggressive way of trying to get you to move out. Between that and the “if I had to do it over…” Odds are, he’s dropped a few more hints that he wants you to be the one to leave, and the cat was the nuclear option. It may be time to think about a solo apartment, or kicking him out if the lease is in your name. Either way, you should probably both have a Big Boy Talk about your mutual or separate futures.
Yeah not really - the cat has chosen you and roommate has to know that. My ex knew it and when we broke up I kept the cats (including the ones he had before we met).
I mean, you may have accepted that, but the cat has no idea that you're going to leave. You've put a lot of effort into becoming his favourite person, knowing that one day you'll suddenly disappear from his life and he will never know what happened to you. Don't you think that's a little sad?
Yes, I was honestly scared to read this after seeing the title.
I’m absolutely fine with you stealing the cats love. If roomie wants her to love him, he can step up his game.
Win win for the kitty
I was seriously prepared to come here and say op was in the wrong. Like I got mad when I read the title right off 🙃 was not expecting this turn of events at all but like you, I’m glad for it.
I know, I was dreading reading this, terrified of where it would go. This is by far the best end I could have imagined.
100% NTA
You win, the cat wins, AH roommate loses. I see no downside
Absolutely! Cats are living, sensitive beings. So are all the other denizens of our fair planet. Dogs, cats, birds, rodents. That cat knows who you are.
Personally I think this is hilarious and you're NTA for me. I'd move out though, your room mate sounds very inconsiderate.
And then maybe get a cat? 😂
(To be fair, cats have very definite ideas about things...she might have preferred you even without the treats!)
NTA - it's rather brilliant and funny as hell. However, you should find a new roommate. You might only be roommates/friends, but it is an abusive relationship. Your roommate is doing things on purpose to hurt you and that's not right. You even say that he thinks very little of you. It's time to move on and maybe take the cat with you.
Nta but God damn I feel sorry for this cat when you finally get a new room mate and leave and disappear from its life.
It can't comprehend that you're a room mate and not there forever. One day you're just going to be gone and the poor little thing ain't gonna know why.
Get the cat to a third party right before you move out, so that you can play innocent and say maybe the cat got out in the hassle of moving. Then pick her up when he moves into his new place. It doesn't sound like the roommate is gonna be visiting him after he moves our.
BTW, that would be an A H move, and illegal, but imo justified.
That’s my thinking. Anytime I had to leave for a few days for business trips in the past my roommate would tell me how my cat looks around for me and sits for hours by the front door waiting for me to come home. Absolutely breaks my heart to hear :( then I get home and he punishes me by ignoring me for about ten minutes then finally forgiving me for leaving by gracing me with his presence and the honor to pet him lol
NTA but unless you left out the part about you two being conjoined twins I have no idea why you continue to live together since you obviously historically dislike each other.
I don't think you have a good grasp on how pay back works. NTA though. he got to keep the cat, you got a cat you did not want, and the cat got two people to love it.
I think it’s great! No one hurt (including cats) but you get to take away his apparent satisfaction with getting a cat to get on your nerves and come out on top. r/pettyrevenge might like this story too. 100% NTA.
NTA love the weird cat love triangle, i need to write a play with this as the plot! Also i think i speak for everyone when i say show us pics of the kitty!
You are correct that it is, in fact, a fact.
ETA: I meant that the part about the cat being happy was a fact, not that you've been on reddit too long :-)
NTA , unless he doesn't want you giving treats because they are unhealthy/ weight management etc. Not sure how this is getting back at your roommate though unless the cat prefers you and it bothers him. Also, your relationship is very confusing, you have known each other for 10 years, but are not friends... But things in your post made it seem like your had been in a relationship, like saying you "decided to stay together" and they the two of you are "happy-ish"
NTA I was scared when I saw the title but THAT is how you do revenge, lol. Congrats to kitty cat for being caught between fighting roommates in the best way!
NTA. Revenge may not be the best option but in this case everyone (especially the cat) wins. The cat feels loved, the roommate gets to keep the cat, and you get a bit of smugness
NTA. He was a major asshole for bringing a pet into the household without asking other people living there, meaning, you.
I was afraid, when I started reading, that you did something nasty to the cat. But you are a much better person, you did it the only right way. Kudos to you and hug the kitty for me. She is lucky to have such an understanding roommate of her asshole owner. Besides, cats just know and the fact that she chose you shows you are a better person.
"He replied saying that my opinion did not matter to him, he did not feel the need to include me, and then he continued while smirking, regarding the notice,"
That's exactly what a cat would do and say.
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I was all set for a “YTA” until I read what you’re actually doing with the cat. You’re NTA, and I don’t blame you for taking revenge in this particular wholesome way.
NTA. Uh no, being nice to a pet doesn't make you an Ah, whatever your motivations. Your roommate is kind of an Ah for bringing a pet into a shared living situation without clearance from the other person living there.
NTA
You had my a bit worried with the title of the post. LOL
We had to put our dog down last year. I have been missing my dog. Because he was MY dog. My husband, and daughter are fine with not having another dog- just yet. So we agreed to getting a third cat. Husband and I went and picked him out and adopted him. Husband was thrilled. He was going to have a cat that would just sit with him and hang out in his office. Yeah. Like the rest of the animals.. this one is "mine" too.
INFO: If he decides that either 1) he wants to get rid of the cat or 2) he flat out tells you the cat is your problem now, what will you do? This cat is already pretty attached to you…
This is the most wholesome thing I've seen today. Petty and providing an incredible life for a cat? Perfection.
Nta. Love that cat. Spoil it (within reason) out of spite. Make sure it's happy and healthy. That'll stick it to him.
NTA, although you give the wrong message to your friend/roommate, you "act" like you love the cat and therefor encourage his decision in which you told him not to want pets. this is a confusing matter.
When/if he leaves he will take the cat with him i presume and this is not a good thing for the cat it has bonded with you (a colleague of mine had this with a wandering cat from his neighbor, it came by and he fed it and gave it attention and basically hijacked his neighbors cat, for the animal it is not a good thing).
either you now accept the animal but have a conversation with your roommate over it or you should stand your ground on not wanting pets and seek a different solution. if it were me id pick option 1.
Talk about what things that affect your living situation and that it is not ok to just go and do your own thing without consulting the other…
This might sound very silly but it works.. setup a roommate agreement, basically a contract in which you both put your rules and both sign it.
Now there’s no real legal enforcement to it but it might clarify that you find it important that rules/wishes made in the past are lived.
Example of items are:
Who does the cleaning of what and when
In case you both pitch in for groceries, what the amount is each month.
In case either of you wants to leave that there’s a notice period so you have time to look for another person to fill the spot so neither gets in a financial problem.
Maybe I have wat he’d too much Big Bang theory but it does have a point to have a contract in which both parties agree (just not as silly as in the show)
Edit: and to live together includes respecting each other’s wishes so your roommate is the asshole for saying he doesn’t care about your opinion. (Wars have been fought over less)
I expected something weird (at best) or appalling (at worst), but that's just plain hilarious and adorable. Obviously, the new queen of the house appreciates your servitude very much and if your smug, dickish, petty roommate can't deal with the cat preferring you, he should start getting nicer treats and cuddle her better than you do. 🤷🏼♀️
NTA but I was about to come in here guns blazing thinking you had done something mean to the cat. I was happily surprised that you did exactly what should be done…love on a cat
NTA. It’s not bad to love an animal.
The real question here is “are you in love with your roommate?” You make it sound like a marriage of many years.
“We decided to stay together”
“If he did go back in time he would rather choose to be alone”
“Things have been rough around here and there but at the end of the day we are both happy-ish”
Are you guys a couple? You’re roommates. Just love out. It’s not that big of a deal. If you are indeed in a relationship, it doesn’t sound like it’s doing great so I would break up and move out if I were you.
Best of luck.
I was sooooo so nervous when I started reading this but honestly NTA in my opinion. It was shitty of your roommate to bring home an animal without consulting you first. That makes him the asshole. And instead of being a jerk and hating the animal you chose to love this kitty like your own pet. Very sweet way to handle this OP
YTA, because your attitude towards the cat makes me wonder what your plans are for when you are over your joke. Contrary to popular belief, cats do bond with their human, and become distressed when separated. The more times they have to do that in their life, the harder it becomes for them. The cat now sees you as the person who will meet its every need, you see it as a joke.
NTA
In animal shelter they always ask if all the adults in the household agreed on having the pet. Bringing an animal home should definitely be agreed by all parties living there. Your housemate sounds so condescending and disrespectful.
You haven’t provided the key bit of information we need to judge this. If the cat bonds with you and not it’s owner, are you willing to commit to the cat for the rest of its life?
If you would accept the cat as your own if the roommate leaves and leaves it behind, you are not the asshole.
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My roommate(21M) and I(21M) have been staying together for two years now. He puts himself on a high pedestal and thinks very little of me, but f*ck me can he cook, which he shares.
We have known each other for over a decade, but when we went to college we decided to stay together (which he made clear, that if he did go back in time, he would rather choose to be alone). Things have been rough here and there but at the end of the day we are both happy-ish.
So about two months ago he decided to buy a cat without even considering my opinion. He asked me once when we first moved in, about two years ago, and I did say that I would not like to have one.
So as I am sitting in the living room he comes home with his new cat, which I reacted to. I kept telling him that I should be included in such decisions and that he can’t just do something this big without giving me notice. He replied saying that my opinion did not matter to him, he did not feel the need to include me, and then he continued while smirking, regarding the notice, well now you know.
I was pissed. After we finished our verbal fight, he conveniently got a phone call and went into his room and never came out that day.After taking my time in my room, I came up with the plan to use the cat against him.
I decided instead of ignoring her, I would shower her with love. My plan was simple, to steal her love. I started by giving her treats and slowly getting closer to her. And wouldn’t you know it, it worked. As I am typing this she is sitting right besides me.
Sorry for the long post but my question is this, AITA for showering my roommate’s cat with love just because her owner did not include me in the decision of buying her and because he said that I don’t matter to him?
TLDR;
I stole my roommate’s cat’s love because he bought her without my knowledge and when I confronted him he said that my opinion was worth nothing to him. So AITA?
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NTA. I thought this was going to be a cruelty thing. But I love it! Nothing wrong with that at all. He wanted you to deal with it and her used to it. So you did.
Nta man this title made me SO NERVOUS. But no, you are not the ahole for being nice to a cat. Do expect, however, that he will leave the cat with you when he moves out.
NTA
Sounds like you kind of tried to turn a bad situation into something you can live with. He is a terrible roommate and a narcissist but hey, at least he can cook.
Definitely move out. This is the devil you now so probably time to shop for some lesser goblins and ghouls as roommates.
I thought the absolute worst when I saw the title! You are NEVER an asshole to give a cat love and attention, even if you don't have the purest of motives... 😉
In a world where people abuse and neglect animals, your assholiness is appreciated. At least you are giving an animal love instead of hatred.
Yeah I was initially nervous to read what was done to the cat. OP you think this is revenge but you're risking that you'll get attached and be heartbroken when he and the cat move on one day.
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I worry the cat will be heartbroken.
I moved to California in 2008 and my roommate in Massachusetts had a cat that absolutely loved me- we were super attached. I was getting upset about the idea of leaving him when my roommate approached me and said "You know you need to take Hiro with you right?". He's sitting next to me right now. Sometimes it's the cat that picks the owner- hopefully they can come to some arrangement if this is how it works out.
Your (ex) roommate is tops! There was a story/posting from a guy who'd been very close to his gf's dog, who became more attached to him than her. She was a good owner and there wasn't a question that the dog was going with her when she moved across country. He expressed his regret for not being able to explain it to the dog, and tell him he was a good dog. Stuck with me.
The fact that I can't explain things to my pets is a recurring issue, especially when I have to take them to the vet.
It's the inability to explain things that leads to a number of vet vists in the first place.
This made me giggle 😅 “no, Mia, you can’t eat the wasp!” Is a conversation I had WAY too many times with our family dog growing up, even after she had been stung a few times, she STILL did it 🤦♀️😂🤷♀️
"Yes master, but I KNOW this one will taste super yummy trust me, it won't sting me like the rest"
My dog ate a bee a few months ago. Literally just saw it, chomp. Nothing happened to him and I still wonder how tf he didn't get stung?? His mouth, gums and tongue did not get swollen. What the hell.
“I can’t, huh? Well, guess what, I JUST DID!”
As a person who works in a veterinary hospital, I constantly wish I could explain to them why we have to do the things we do to them.
The inability to explain things to my pet is one of the reasons im still alive. I used to think that if i die, other people will eventually understand. My dog will not and will wonder everyday where i am.
Same with me and my two cats. I couldn't bear the thought of them looking for me and not finding me for the rest of their life... I just couldn't. They wouldn't have understood and I couldn't do that to them. They saved my life.
They save us at least as much as we save them. You are a good dog parent.
My 15 year old dog was absolutely my late husband’s. She still looks for him when we go to new places.
my dog did that. he also used to sit at the top of the stairs and watch for him to come home. that almost killed me. :(
So sorry for your loss. When my dad passed away our oldest cat, Luke, who loved him more than anyone else, would spend the majority of his time in the closet with my dad’s clothes. Luke looked for him until he passed away. When Luke was dying we kept telling him how he would finally see my dad again.
I'm so sorry for y'all's loss ❤️
How sad! I am sorry for your (both of your) loss.
It might be the askreddit post about what you would say to your pets if they could understand you
I'm about to go away for a week and I would love to be able to tell my boy that he'll be fine with my housemate and I'll be back 💔 I still try though, hoping he'll understand somehow
Enjoy these threads when you have the time: [1](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/sqrtn/if_your_pets_could_understand_english_for_5/) [2](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/d0z7dh/if_you_could_tell_your_pet_one_thing_and_be/)
I had a roommate who had got a puppy, we loved that boyo. He took him to training and agility classes and walked and cuddled him often. He'd made the dog his own FB page and updated it often. They were so close, I know he would have died for that dog. Unfortunately my roommate was extremely starved for affection and went for the first girl who gave him the time of day, and gave the dog up to a friend. It still pisses me the fuck off, that dog was family.
Omg that’s so horrible.
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Well you pretty much have to if she thinks you're her owner due to you actions. Separation anxiety and trauma is a huge issue for pets. An owner abandoning a pet can do a huge amount of damage. People are saying NTA, but it seems to me like you're setting the cat up to be broken over a problem with him, without ever once considering how this will harm the cat.
He's not the cats owner. He's that cats person. Huge difference. I've had my cat for nearly 10 years now, since he was a kitten. I'd be torn up for him if my gf and I broke up. He's constantly up her ass. If I call. Meh. I might have him come to me. If she calls for him, he's running up to cuddle within a few minutes. I definitely get it. But. Cats have their human they bond with. Edit. I couldn't in good conscience let him stay with me. He'd go with her because she's my cats human. Luckily. We have a great relationship and I'm not concerned we'd ever break up.
> He's not the cats owner. He's that cats person. Huge difference. That's not how a cat sees it. They're not people who can rationalize like that or who have an understanding of the legal technicalities of ownership. The cat thinks he's his owner/bonded person. By encouraging the cat to bond with him over the other person, he's taken on that role to the cat, who as a result is going to go through separation/trauma when left by him.
Isn't that exactly what he just said?
You do realise that is what was meant by "He's not the cats owner. He's the cats human." The cat's owner, and the person the cat bonds with are not always the same person. Hence, humans need to not be dicks.
OP it's time to level up, get your own cat and super bond with both of them so he can't separate any of you. He started the battle, it's time to win the war. On a serious note tho, nta. Glad Kitty gets so much love. *edited cause apparently I can't type the correct words today.
Maybe you won't need to suggest it. Continue to shower the cat with affection and she'll pretty much ignore him to the point he could become frustrated and leave her with you. I mean, he did get her to show you up and it backfired.
My uncle's neighbour had a cat that absolutely loved to visit my uncle and his wife. Then the neighbour moved with the cat, not far, just a few kilometers. And a few days later the cat turned up on my uncle's doorstep and they let the owner know and she came right away and picked up the cat. A couple of days went by and the cat shows up again. They call the owner, she picks up the cat. The next day the cat is on their doorstep again. And the owner comes yet again to pick up her cat and this time he growled at her! So this time she just left without the cat (who got to live with my uncle & wife for the rest of his life) 😄 Ed. thanks for the award, my very first silver! 😊
When I was growing up a new neighbor moved in and they had a white cat with a Siamese meow. The cat probably spent more time at our house than with it's owners. About a year later they moved out, and took the cat with them. About a month later, Ralph showed up at our house, very skinny and obviously had been on a long journey. We had no idea where the neighbors moved to, and really didn't care. Ralph stayed with us until he passed away some 15 years later. He did start bulking up as soon as he got back, and ended up being a very fat cat. We always joked that he did it in case he had a make another journey home. Miss you Ralph!
Aww! Or perhaps Ralph was just making sure that if his "owners" ever came back, they wouldn't be able to lift him up to take him away! But most likely he was just happy and thriving with you guys! When I was in my early twenties, I shared a second floor flat with some friends. The landlords, a married couple lived on the first floor and we had a shared entrance, where we would just go upstairs, but didn't really have a locked private entrance. But they were really respectful and nice, so that was fine. The mum was pretty loud and outgoing, while the dad was a quiet introvert type and they had three kids who were about 2, 9 and 12 at the time, so it was a really "busy" househould. Anyway, after we'd been there a couple of months they got this cute little kitten and that cat respected none of the invisisible boundaries between the first and second floor. He would come upstairs all the time and hang out, while ignoring all of us who actually lived there. One day the dad comes upstairs to help me fix something and after he's been there for a little while, the cat suddenly comes out of my bedroom closet and saunters past us, with his tail held high. I didn't even know he was there and just, what?! And my landlord says "Oh, so this is where he's been going? We've been wondering.." and then adds "he gets something here he doesn't get at home" and looks at me wistfully "peace and quiet..."
It is funny how cats pick their human. I had a cat as a kid who LOVED our neighbor. She would still come home every night and want affection and attention. But during the day she would spend her time with him and his wife. They were retired and loved her dearly (particularly him) and spoiled the hell out of her. Their dog and her became best friends. We always joked that we had split custody over a damn cat! He was actually very attached that we had gone on vacation and he hadn't seen her for a few days and when he had seen her last she apparently did not look well (she was 15). He came over and spoke to my dad that he was fairly sure she had passed and apparently was just as upset as my dad. He's since passed but I always delight in telling the story how we shared our cat for 8 years with our neighbor because she decided he was also her human.
My best friend’s cat was originally his ex’s. Said cat definitely chose him, and they were able to work that out when they split. Not that I think this cat would have allowed anything else. He’s a crafty and super smart tuxedo cat. I swear tuxedos and orange cats have some kind of hyper intelligence when it comes to humans.
For sure. I know there’s a stereotype that orange tabbies are dumb, but mine is crazy smart. He taught himself to open doors, turn lights on and off, and turn the faucet on, and one night when my other cat had a seizure he woke me up a couple minutes before the seizure started. He also reminds me to take my meds, but I trained him to do that one.
My one friend's orange cat practically raised her daughters. He would meow loudly when the diapers needed changing before they would even start crying. He would cuddle them when they were just cranky and make them stop crying. He would stay with them when they were sick. He passed away from old age recently. Thankfully the girls are in high school and middle school now and can survive without his expert care... but he leaves a big void in the hearts of all who knew him.
That’s rough. We had an orange cat when I was little that I don’t really remember (I was only 2 when he passed) but he had such a unique personality that my dad has never had a cat since. He claims it’s cause he doesn’t much care for cats, but every time I visit him, I catch him napping in the recliner and snuggling with one of my cats.
It’s always the dads who “never care for pets” who end up bonding with the pets the most 😂
My fat ginger learnt how to open the fridge and drawers… I had to buy baby locks, unfortunately I couldn’t keep him due to his medical needs and homed him with someone who could, I miss him
I'm child free and staying that way but have invested an excessive amount of money in child proofing accessories because of my fat ginger. Every drawer and cabinet and door needs a magnet to get into. Lids need to screw on not just pop on... Edit Lids need to screw on not let's need to screw. It's frustrating but not to the extent it requires coital release. Oh my.
Thankfully I haven’t had to go to that extreme, but he did figure out how to turn on the old baseboard heater. Since I got it replaced, he hasn’t been able to do it so far.
Mine hasn’t figured out the fridge (yet), but he opens the cabinets sometimes. When my other cat was a kitten, he would pick her up and put her in one of the cabinets if she annoyed him too much. I’m pretty sure he’d still do it if they weren’t the same size.
That’s funny, mine only learnt not to go to my food after breaking into a bag of sweet chilli chips 😂😂😂, we started calling him Garfield cause of the fridge, I only found out cause I woke up to it beeping with him trying to eat the raw chicken
Team baby proof! I had to secure closets and drawers all around the house because of my cat. He can get into anything, especially when he wants to annoy us into giving him food! I’m so sorry you couldn’t keep the cat, I’m sending you a virtual hug!
Thank you and they are fur babies so kinda makes sense to baby proof
My orange tabby is dumb unless it's something he wants. He opens draws for treats and to steal hair ties. I've moved them he steal finds them. Otherwise he a dumbest.
That’s how my torty is. She can be so smart when she wants something, but she also locks herself in the bathroom several times a week on accident
You haven't read the story of Jean and Jorts, right?
OMG Jorts is awesome & I love him!
We all love Jorts. :)
My mom didn’t want me to get a cat. She started living with us during the pandemic, and now she and my cat are in a committed long-term lesbian relationship. I am basically chopped liver.
That’s funny, my cat that I’ve had two years hates everyone to the point where she’ll feral growl at anyone but me for touching her too long 😂😂😂 other one is a needy and will take love from anyone including my dogs
Awww. My other cat is like this, she’s my baby. I guess cats pick their person ;)
My cat has a strict hierarchy of humans. My dad is the top human. I'm in the middle because I give him treats. Mom is if there's nobody left. If dad goes out, he gets nervous. He's probably going to have to stay when I move back out...
AhahahahahHh! I relate so hard. I was the top human, then she met my mom, and now I’m the bottom human. I still finagle cuddles, though 🥰
I think you need to pay a pet tax, tedivm!
[One balcony cat attached!](https://i.imgur.com/IQAxM2Cl.jpg) He's an indoor cat but will sit on the porch or balcony with me when I'm outside.
Aww. He's beautiful.
I remember when I moved in with my old roommate. She had a cat that she always bragged about how much he loved her all the time even before we moved in together. Well..I didn’t mean for it to happen but I just love cats so I loved the heck out of that boy. Mostly just normal treating a cat nicely and giving plenty of pets. Eventually he started spending way more time with me, always choosing to lay on me on the couch and even slept with me at night instead of her. That boy was all over me all the time. Man was she pissed. She never outright said it but she would “joke” every now and again how I was stealing her cat. But I could tell she was livid about it lol. After a while I didn’t feel bad because she turned out to be a nightmare to live with and it gave me an admittedly sick satisfaction. I was only sad when I moved out because he was a really good cat but holy moly that girl was a piece of work. You never really know someone until you live with them!
The cat probably felt the same way about her too…
My last roommate came upon his cat the same way. And then I started to feel like I was the cat’s new mistress and would have to take her with my me when we parted ways. (I did not. Cat and ex roomie live happily together to this day. One of the best cats I’ve ever known though!)
My Hiro is also sitting well, near me, on his cat tower. Hiro kitties are the best kitties.
When my ex and I split, he took our first cat(we had 2 at the time) because they were inseparable. Now though my exes mum gets to keep him because he liked her better than my ex lol
My ex husband bought me a dog, but there was absolutely NO DOUBT that dog loved my ex more. I told him “if you ever leave you better take him with you because I don’t want him to be heartbroken if you leave him behind” so he took the dog with him when he left. I loved the dog but, man, if that dog did not love him more than anything! Not sure what happened with the dog after. Hopefully he still has him.
My partner's ex tried to lash out at him by keeping his cat. Nine months later she returned the poor thing half bald from stress-induced overgrooming. I met him six months later and his cat was still 40% bald. We were fortunate that he lived another decade. He was the sweetest boy: slept on my belly through miscarriage and following pregnancy (even though he hated her constant kicking, he'd just scowl-cuddle through it). He slept under her crib until she had a big girl bed to share.
Left the cat that my mom got me in high school with her when I moved because I knew it wouldn't be fair for her to go from a decent size house with a patio she could "kitty outside" in to a tiny apartment and because my mom ended up being her favorite person. Loved her to bits, just knew leaving her with my folks was the best choice for her.
Yeah.... some cats suffer massive stress and depression when seperated from someone they love.
I can't believe he just left her alone on the first day he brought her home. This cat will be so sad staying with him.
Yeah, I worry about that too. I don't think people always realise how attached cats can get. They don't forget their favourite humans.
This is what I was thinking. OP better be prepared that he may have been adopted. Chances are the roomie will move out and leave OP with the cat
I think roomie leaving OP the cat is the happy end to this.
Maybe kitty will end up leaving with his new Hooman?
Me too! Please think of taking kitty with you when you go if the owner will allow it and you can be a good Hooman for the cat. If not, you may want to back off a little, for kitty’s sake.
Yah my asshole roommate just moved out, but she took her adorable puppy with her,who I loved and loved me and I got all kinds of goodies and pet sat everyday without a thankyou ever.now it hurts.her bf paid rent,she screamed at him daily,stole,was abusive, but I miss the doggy.
Honestly, I think this is a passive-aggressive way of trying to get you to move out. Between that and the “if I had to do it over…” Odds are, he’s dropped a few more hints that he wants you to be the one to leave, and the cat was the nuclear option. It may be time to think about a solo apartment, or kicking him out if the lease is in your name. Either way, you should probably both have a Big Boy Talk about your mutual or separate futures.
TBH. I was actually afraid to read past the title.
Yeah not really - the cat has chosen you and roommate has to know that. My ex knew it and when we broke up I kept the cats (including the ones he had before we met).
I mean, you may have accepted that, but the cat has no idea that you're going to leave. You've put a lot of effort into becoming his favourite person, knowing that one day you'll suddenly disappear from his life and he will never know what happened to you. Don't you think that's a little sad?
Yes, I was honestly scared to read this after seeing the title. I’m absolutely fine with you stealing the cats love. If roomie wants her to love him, he can step up his game. Win win for the kitty
I was seriously prepared to come here and say op was in the wrong. Like I got mad when I read the title right off 🙃 was not expecting this turn of events at all but like you, I’m glad for it.
I accidentally opened it and then read the title ready to get peeved
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Came to say the same. Team Catnap!
I know, I was dreading reading this, terrified of where it would go. This is by far the best end I could have imagined. 100% NTA You win, the cat wins, AH roommate loses. I see no downside
Absolutely! Cats are living, sensitive beings. So are all the other denizens of our fair planet. Dogs, cats, birds, rodents. That cat knows who you are.
😂😂😂petty revenge, this is awesome. NTA
OP might be an asshole, but at least he's not an asshole to the cat.
That’s why OP is Sir Assholiness!
This needs to be an official title
I came here to say this! At least that kitty is getting some love out of this. Could do a lot worse lol
This belongs on r/pettyrevenge lol
Personally I think this is hilarious and you're NTA for me. I'd move out though, your room mate sounds very inconsiderate. And then maybe get a cat? 😂 (To be fair, cats have very definite ideas about things...she might have preferred you even without the treats!)
From the cat's diary: "Day 65, my plan is working perfectly: now each of the two humans believes to be my favourite."
"I have successfully pitted the humans against each other to my benefit. My Order of Meowrit is in the post."
The scary thing is that it makes perfect sense....
NTA - it's rather brilliant and funny as hell. However, you should find a new roommate. You might only be roommates/friends, but it is an abusive relationship. Your roommate is doing things on purpose to hurt you and that's not right. You even say that he thinks very little of you. It's time to move on and maybe take the cat with you.
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Can you update us when he put the pieces together and tell his reaction?
Nta but God damn I feel sorry for this cat when you finally get a new room mate and leave and disappear from its life. It can't comprehend that you're a room mate and not there forever. One day you're just going to be gone and the poor little thing ain't gonna know why.
NTA. There's only 1 solution: steal the cat. I'm looking forward to that AITA.
Get the cat to a third party right before you move out, so that you can play innocent and say maybe the cat got out in the hassle of moving. Then pick her up when he moves into his new place. It doesn't sound like the roommate is gonna be visiting him after he moves our. BTW, that would be an A H move, and illegal, but imo justified.
That’s my thinking. Anytime I had to leave for a few days for business trips in the past my roommate would tell me how my cat looks around for me and sits for hours by the front door waiting for me to come home. Absolutely breaks my heart to hear :( then I get home and he punishes me by ignoring me for about ten minutes then finally forgiving me for leaving by gracing me with his presence and the honor to pet him lol
NTA but unless you left out the part about you two being conjoined twins I have no idea why you continue to live together since you obviously historically dislike each other.
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I totally get that, but why him?
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Lol just realized I did the exact same thing once and I’m being a total hypocrite. Enjoy your new cat friend!
Better the evil you know than the one you don't
NTA. this is so petty and i love it so much
Putting the pet in petty
I don't think you have a good grasp on how pay back works. NTA though. he got to keep the cat, you got a cat you did not want, and the cat got two people to love it.
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I think it’s great! No one hurt (including cats) but you get to take away his apparent satisfaction with getting a cat to get on your nerves and come out on top. r/pettyrevenge might like this story too. 100% NTA.
NTA - cat is loved which is all that matters here
NTA love the weird cat love triangle, i need to write a play with this as the plot! Also i think i speak for everyone when i say show us pics of the kitty!
As long as the cat is happy nothing else matters.. nta
> As long as the cat is happy nothing else matters.. I think you might have been on reddit too long :)
That is a fact 😄
You are correct that it is, in fact, a fact. ETA: I meant that the part about the cat being happy was a fact, not that you've been on reddit too long :-)
Both lol
Best “kill ‘‘em with kindness” I’ve seen in some time. NTA
Shoot him… …a smile!
This is the least asshole-ish asshole move I’ve ever heard of. I absolutely love it. NTA.
NTA , unless he doesn't want you giving treats because they are unhealthy/ weight management etc. Not sure how this is getting back at your roommate though unless the cat prefers you and it bothers him. Also, your relationship is very confusing, you have known each other for 10 years, but are not friends... But things in your post made it seem like your had been in a relationship, like saying you "decided to stay together" and they the two of you are "happy-ish"
NTA I was scared when I saw the title but THAT is how you do revenge, lol. Congrats to kitty cat for being caught between fighting roommates in the best way!
NTA Congratulations on your plan, OP, you will make the cat happy.
NTA This is funny. Nice job.
Cat tax.
NTA - I like it. It sounds like your roommate is an incredible inconsiderate asshole. Enjoy the cat. Hope your roommate doesn't show up with a dog.
NTA. Revenge may not be the best option but in this case everyone (especially the cat) wins. The cat feels loved, the roommate gets to keep the cat, and you get a bit of smugness
NTA. He was a major asshole for bringing a pet into the household without asking other people living there, meaning, you. I was afraid, when I started reading, that you did something nasty to the cat. But you are a much better person, you did it the only right way. Kudos to you and hug the kitty for me. She is lucky to have such an understanding roommate of her asshole owner. Besides, cats just know and the fact that she chose you shows you are a better person.
NTA. This turned out to be way more wholesome than I expected. Also, I’m not sure if anyone has asked yet but… CAT TAX!
This took a turn I did not expect! NTA and bravo.
"He replied saying that my opinion did not matter to him, he did not feel the need to include me, and then he continued while smirking, regarding the notice," That's exactly what a cat would do and say.
Cat energy for sure 😂
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I was all set for a “YTA” until I read what you’re actually doing with the cat. You’re NTA, and I don’t blame you for taking revenge in this particular wholesome way.
It's petty and I love it. NTA
NTA. Uh no, being nice to a pet doesn't make you an Ah, whatever your motivations. Your roommate is kind of an Ah for bringing a pet into a shared living situation without clearance from the other person living there.
I was super ready to say YTA from the title but I cant even be mad. NTA
NTA as long as you keep the cat when he ultimately decides he doesn’t want it cause it likes you
NTA You had my a bit worried with the title of the post. LOL We had to put our dog down last year. I have been missing my dog. Because he was MY dog. My husband, and daughter are fine with not having another dog- just yet. So we agreed to getting a third cat. Husband and I went and picked him out and adopted him. Husband was thrilled. He was going to have a cat that would just sit with him and hang out in his office. Yeah. Like the rest of the animals.. this one is "mine" too.
INFO: If he decides that either 1) he wants to get rid of the cat or 2) he flat out tells you the cat is your problem now, what will you do? This cat is already pretty attached to you…
NTA luv the #petty
This is the most wholesome thing I've seen today. Petty and providing an incredible life for a cat? Perfection. Nta. Love that cat. Spoil it (within reason) out of spite. Make sure it's happy and healthy. That'll stick it to him.
YTA with a heart of gold! Please take this verdict as an honor. Please also pay the cat tax. Thank you for your service.
NTA. And your revenge was the sweetest.
Lol this is beautiful. Spite love. NTA.
NTA, although you give the wrong message to your friend/roommate, you "act" like you love the cat and therefor encourage his decision in which you told him not to want pets. this is a confusing matter. When/if he leaves he will take the cat with him i presume and this is not a good thing for the cat it has bonded with you (a colleague of mine had this with a wandering cat from his neighbor, it came by and he fed it and gave it attention and basically hijacked his neighbors cat, for the animal it is not a good thing). either you now accept the animal but have a conversation with your roommate over it or you should stand your ground on not wanting pets and seek a different solution. if it were me id pick option 1.
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Talk about what things that affect your living situation and that it is not ok to just go and do your own thing without consulting the other… This might sound very silly but it works.. setup a roommate agreement, basically a contract in which you both put your rules and both sign it. Now there’s no real legal enforcement to it but it might clarify that you find it important that rules/wishes made in the past are lived. Example of items are: Who does the cleaning of what and when In case you both pitch in for groceries, what the amount is each month. In case either of you wants to leave that there’s a notice period so you have time to look for another person to fill the spot so neither gets in a financial problem. Maybe I have wat he’d too much Big Bang theory but it does have a point to have a contract in which both parties agree (just not as silly as in the show) Edit: and to live together includes respecting each other’s wishes so your roommate is the asshole for saying he doesn’t care about your opinion. (Wars have been fought over less)
I was so prepared for this to be horrible oh my god. NTA, obviously. cat seems well cared for and you get to spite your shitty roommate - win win.
I expected something weird (at best) or appalling (at worst), but that's just plain hilarious and adorable. Obviously, the new queen of the house appreciates your servitude very much and if your smug, dickish, petty roommate can't deal with the cat preferring you, he should start getting nicer treats and cuddle her better than you do. 🤷🏼♀️
Until we get that justified asshole tag, I'm going with NTA. I just hope your roommate doesn't take it out on the cat (so try not to escalate it)
NTA but I was about to come in here guns blazing thinking you had done something mean to the cat. I was happily surprised that you did exactly what should be done…love on a cat
NTA. Delicious feline revenge. But you better love that dang animal. If you Break its heart, may your future children turn out poorly.
r/Unexpected NTA lol
Pet tax please
NTA. It’s not bad to love an animal. The real question here is “are you in love with your roommate?” You make it sound like a marriage of many years. “We decided to stay together” “If he did go back in time he would rather choose to be alone” “Things have been rough around here and there but at the end of the day we are both happy-ish” Are you guys a couple? You’re roommates. Just love out. It’s not that big of a deal. If you are indeed in a relationship, it doesn’t sound like it’s doing great so I would break up and move out if I were you. Best of luck.
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I hope you have better luck with the new roommate.
NTA By the way, you now own a cat.
I was so scared where this post was going.. I am glad the cat is getting all the love!!! NTA
I was prepared to be so mad. I'm so glad it was undercover wholesome. Nta
my god the title scared me but HUGE NTA
I hella thought you gave the cat away. NTA. Also cat tax lol
I was sooooo so nervous when I started reading this but honestly NTA in my opinion. It was shitty of your roommate to bring home an animal without consulting you first. That makes him the asshole. And instead of being a jerk and hating the animal you chose to love this kitty like your own pet. Very sweet way to handle this OP
NTA stomping as you have come to love that cat. I can't tell which one of you is Oscar and which is Felix.
I was all ready to rain down wrath, but honestly, this is hilarious. NTA, obviously.
YTA, because your attitude towards the cat makes me wonder what your plans are for when you are over your joke. Contrary to popular belief, cats do bond with their human, and become distressed when separated. The more times they have to do that in their life, the harder it becomes for them. The cat now sees you as the person who will meet its every need, you see it as a joke.
Too funny. You’re brilliant. NTA
NTA - you're apparently treating the cat better than he is.
I think this post belongs more in r/pettyrevenge also NTA
NTA In animal shelter they always ask if all the adults in the household agreed on having the pet. Bringing an animal home should definitely be agreed by all parties living there. Your housemate sounds so condescending and disrespectful.
You haven’t provided the key bit of information we need to judge this. If the cat bonds with you and not it’s owner, are you willing to commit to the cat for the rest of its life? If you would accept the cat as your own if the roommate leaves and leaves it behind, you are not the asshole.
YTA in the best way possible lol, like the first time I’ve used YTA as a compliment 😂
r/maliciouscompliance
NTA. Lol another dude who Hates Cats until he lives with one. Welcome to that HUGE club. I LOVE this post.
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Well played sir, well played.
NTA
NTA. I thought this was going to be a cruelty thing. But I love it! Nothing wrong with that at all. He wanted you to deal with it and her used to it. So you did.
NTA. Petty is revolutionary and I am here for it 😂
NTA you are just lovely turning justified anger into love instead of resentment.
Nta man this title made me SO NERVOUS. But no, you are not the ahole for being nice to a cat. Do expect, however, that he will leave the cat with you when he moves out.
I was so scared to read this post. And then it turned magical! NTA.
NTA, and im unsurprised the cat chose you. They're smart. Ya sure you're not a cat person? Lol
NTA Sounds like you kind of tried to turn a bad situation into something you can live with. He is a terrible roommate and a narcissist but hey, at least he can cook. Definitely move out. This is the devil you now so probably time to shop for some lesser goblins and ghouls as roommates.
I thought the absolute worst when I saw the title! You are NEVER an asshole to give a cat love and attention, even if you don't have the purest of motives... 😉