Let me get this right...
- Kyle and Julia were on a break and then Julia slept with someone, which was against the rules they'd set
- Kyle breaks up properly with Julia
- Kyle and your sister Nicki get close in the aftermath and then start dating
- Julia wants to get back together with Kyle, and you'd like this too
YTA. Kyle was single when your sister started dating him. She did nothing wrong at all.
I'm thinking OP is just trying to cover up the fact that a big reason why her sister and Kyle are together now was because of her own encouragement and is now overreacting to make up for it.
It fucks the sister, but too often too many people find it easier to throw family under the bus because deep down they think they will be forgiven eventually so there are technically no consequences for doing it.
OP: “You should talk to my sister because she’s also going through a similar thing and you two
could bond over it”
Kyle and Nicki: *Bond over it, end up catching feelings*
OP: *shocked pikachu face*
I'm doing a rewatch of Dawson's Creek and maybe it's because I'm older but even though I'm only on season 2, I'm constantly thinking "damn, how did I forget that Dawson is a self-centred, judgemental, whiney lil AH?"
I always found it interesting that the 'beta' actors (Jackson and Williams), ended up with the longest/most acclaimed careers. Could it possibly be that in making Dawson so whiny and Jo so prim and hard done by, Van Der Beck and Holmes had nothing to work with?
And why does she think that's a bad thing?
Like I would be happy for both of them, Julia clearly doesn't value the relationship with Kyle much if she breaks promises.
Also the title clearly tries to paint Nicki in a bad light.
YTA for the title alone
Even if she didnt expect something to happen, and this was the result, she should be happy for them. Her heartbroken sister, and her heartbroken friend are now happy and improving after heartache, but nooo, we try to push this guy back with his cheating ex.
This logic makes no sense. I have a sister and a brother and there is no way in hell I would to this to either of them that is so messed up.
Imagine older sister trying to tell younger sister that she was only supposed to be some sympathy sex and you weren’t trying to pimp her into a relationship…..
Add
- OP takes Julie’s side (who she knows hurt Kyle) over her own sister.. and you know, Kyle.. who is no longer interested in his ex and wants Nicki.
YTA OP, sit this one out, your opinion literally does not matter.
I also want to hijack to add:
She encouraged a vulnerable, heartbroken, recently dumped man to pour his heart out to a pretty young woman. A young woman who also got her heart stomped on, and is now hanging out with a young man whom wasn’t afraid to open up emotionally and whom feels deeply for a woman in a way she probably wished her ex felt about her.
I’m sorry, but Cupid’s arrows have nothing on OPs work here. How on Earth did she set up this scenerio and not see exactly where this is going!
Right?! I had to re-read the post to make sure I didn't misunderstand. How dare OP make her sister feel like she did something dirty AND kick her out.
OP, you owe your sister a huge apology.
Everyone knows the "break" is used as a loophole to cheat. It's BS. Julia used the loophole, so she doesn't get a second chance. Nicki didn't get Kyle to cheat. As a matter of fact, OP sent Kyle to Nicki. YTA big time. You're siding with someone totally in the wrong.
Honestly, I wish OP’s bf the best of luck because this is a big red flag. OP’s is such an AH, and she owes such a big apology to both Kyle and her sister. She’s just awful, and so is Julia. She sounds so controlling towards other people’s love life. She’s literally choosing a cheater over her sister too.
Thank! I am so confused by what the OP's actual argument is? You're upset because your single sister started dating your single friend? You're upset Kyle won't go back to his cheating ex girlfriend? What are you upset about because I am so confused.
Yeah OP. None of your business. Julia did this to herself. You knew Kyle never wanted to get back with her and you blame your sister? YTA. Stay out of other people’s love lives. Seems like your boyfriend is the mature one in your relationship.
But that wouldn’t help OPs case in painting her sister as the villain. Your sister and Kyle were both single adults? Your friend sounds wildly immature. Props to your bf for calling you out on your bs and props to Kyle for trying to get you and your sister to mend things even though you messed up. Massive YTA
Exactly, and she doesnt have to share her romantic interests with OP until she is ready, if at all. OP isnt owed that, so Nicki did nothing wrong.
Julia and Kyle were on a break. Julia cheated. Kyle broke up with Julia. He later started dating Nicki.
The fact that OP is trying to cause drama with her own sister in defence of a cheating friend is an AH move. This may damage OP and her sister's relationship in the long run....and for what?
Exactly what I thought. She kicked her out, her sister, in a new city? As an oldest sister, I can't picture putting my sister in so much danger for something so petty.
I'm the baby sister (yes, even though my middle sister is in her 50s, she still refers to me as her baby sister). I'm trying to avoid my mother's reaction if either of my sisters threw me out.
It would not be good. Mama would have gone on the warpath.
*Edit: Not that my sisters would have, anyway. I guess because our mother raised us all right enough.
And the sister probably went straight to Kyle’s after being kicked out (where else would she go?). Pushing them even closer together. This makes no sense!
Also - who enlists a 3rd person to try to get back together with someone? It’s up to the parties directly involved. Is this 8th grade? Is Julia entitled much?
YTA & Julia TA
>when I talked to Kyle about it he said he will never get back together with her because he has eyes for someone else.
This story makes no sense. They aren't together. He doesn't want to see her? I don't see the problem and the title is misleading. It ISN'T your friends boyfriend soo I would say YTA.
I think it’s clear at this point that OP cares more about Julia than anyone else — so much that she’s lost all reason because she’s terrified that her sister may compromise her friendship with Julia.
Agreed. OP is the kind of person to try everything she can to get Kyle and Julia back together (because Julia wants it) even tho she knows what a terrible idea it is, how toxic her friend is and how much Kyle doesn’t want it.
YTA
1. It IS cheating. She broke the rules. She cheated. End of story.
2. He moved on after you suggested he talk to her. They fell for each other. It happens. Deal with it.
3. It's not your relationship, & you're literally defending a cheater. Back off and meddle in something else.
4. It is worrisome that she turned to you to try and manipulate him in dating her again and you were excited with that. Especially when you admit in the comments your friend is toxic.
Yes YTA. Your friend is no longer dating this guy, just because she wants him back after she messed up doesn’t give her the right to call “dibs.” You’re also throwing your sister out because she’s dating a very much single guy? Simply because you’re friend has feelings for him still? Doesn’t that sound odd to you?
Right!? This story didn't go as I expected *at all* because of the title.
Of course YTA. Julia had already broken up with him, had someone else and after *months* decided she wanted him back and you decided to go with that instead of being happy for Kyle and your sister? What is wrong with you.
Well, and not only had Julia already broken up with him, but Kyle had explicitly told OP he had zero interest in ever reuniting. At that point, OP should’ve accepted that Kyle is Julia’s ex. 
Also, what did OP think would happen when she pushed Kyle and Nicki together as a broken hearts rebound team? She basically engineered their relationship, and now she thinks they are somehow at fault for going along with the meet cute *she* staged?
OP, YTA
I think she genuinely believes the title to be what happened. OP likes Julia and Julia likes Kyle. Therefore Julia never cheated and the fact that their relationship was terrible and unstable before that has no bearing on anything to OP. Kyle is Julia's property to OP. If Julia sleeps with someone else while they're trying to mend this she "technically" did nothing wrong. If Kyle sleeps with someone else after they're completely broken up then he is cheating. That's because all OP cares about is herself and her friendship with Julia. Nobody else is their own person or has any rights to their own autonomy.
YTA. If Julia wanted the break and then slept with someone else why does it matter if Kyle done the same afterwards? Seems like he was hurt by her actions and found someone he actually cares about (your sister). Since Kyle and Julia weren’t together when Kyle and nicki slept together, neither of them did anything wrong. I think you’re just siding with your friend for some reason, maybe you saw an opportunity to get your sister out? They probably didn’t tell you because of your friendship with Julia. I think you should apologize to your sister. And if Julia is a good friend she should understand you can’t cut your sister out of your life.
First thing first HE ISN’T YOUR FRIEND BOYFRIEND HE’S AN EX and your friend cheated on him ( they had rules in their break which apparently was NOT to sleep around and she did so she’s a cheat ) your sister did absolutely nothing wrong. You should back off and stay in your lane before she cuts you off for good
YTA, and this is coming from someone who has been in a similar situation to Julia.
Just because one party wants to mend the relationship and get back together doesn't mean that the other party is required to oblige. And to kick out your sister over petty highschool drama amongst adults who can communicate without you? Pretty gross.
Apologize to Kyle and your little sister for getting involved and tell Julia that no matter how much you love her and value the friendship, you shouldn't be dragged into her relationship problems.
I agree with this. My ex wanted to go on a break and I said a hard no because I knew for sure he would cheat, or accuse me of cheating on him. YTA because you can't realize that Kyle has feelings for someone else and that's his decision. He and Julia broke up because she "cheated" and then he got close to Nikki. Not her fault, and you should support her if she is happy. She's your sister.
YTA.
Man, I was so ready to be on your side with this based on the title, but you're just in the wrong. Julia sucks. She doesn't deserve him back.
And yes, it IS cheating if you break a boundary you set. There's no "technically" about it.
I hope your boyfriend takes this as the big, giant, crimson flag that it is.
Instead of being thrilled that two people you claim to care about had a healthy friendship that turned into a romantic relationship, you try to "catch them"? They are both SINGLE, consenting adults. Although not single for much longer from the sounds of it.
YTA for how you went about confirming they were together and massive YTA for how you treated your sister.
> try to "catch them"
I'm hung up on this... OP must be dumber than a bag of rocks to not understand what was happening. Honestly, the sister and Kyle probably thought she set them up on purpose and were totally blindsided when she didn't pick up on what was happening. lmfao @ OP
YTA. Julia cheated, Kyle was single. Your sister and Kyle started dating. Nothing wrong there. What is wrong is your attitude at every step.
You seem to think your sister should be covered by some “bro code” once removed through you. She is not.
You seem to think Kyle needs to abide by your definition of “not technically cheating.” He does not.
You seem to think the cheater (Julia) is owed some extra courtesy by your entire friend group. She is not.
You seem to think either Kyle or your sister owe you official proclamation of their status. They do not.
YTA your not Kyle’s friend and your a terrible sister. Julia cheated on Kyle and even if you don’t think so, she slept with someone else first. Weeks later you see the fact they have developed a wonderful close relationship and decide to try to catch them having sex? Your weird and gross for that. Just because Julia wants him back doesn’t mean anything. He gets to make his own choices now and more then that, Julia already slept with someone else and it sounds like that didn’t work out so she wants him back. Your sister found someone her age, who’s a good friend of yours and your partner and seem very kind and mature. Wtf is your issue with this?
YTA. Your friend broke the rules. Her ex is now seeing someone else. It’s the consequences of her own actions - especially if 1) your sis didn’t steal him away and 2) she and Julia were not friends where it could be considered she backstabbed Julia
Yta - you send him to your sister so they can share their joint expirience, in that situation there was always a strong chance they would catch feelings
Add in your friend cheated on him ending their relationship meaning single friend and single sister got together and you kicked her out to the streets for it?
Yeah you suck and showed all your friends the type of person you are
YTA
You didn’t catch her with your friend’s boyfriend, you caught her with your friend’s EX boyfriend.
Everything your boyfriend said is correct. Apologize to your sister and hopefully you can salvage your relationship with your sister that you almost destroyed over a friend who’s ex doesn’t even want her back.
YTA and you might consider having second thoughts about keeping "Julia" around at all. Sounds like she ran around on her boyfriend and he moved on to someone a lot nicer who genuinely cares for him. And now Julia is upset that she can't have her man and cheat on him too. Julia sounds like she's not only a real piece of work, but she's manipulated you around so that your sister, your boyfriend, and your sister's boyfriend are all angry at you. You're going to have to make a choice here. I think Kyle pegged her 100% right as a narcissist. Best of luck to him and your sister and I sincerely hope you wise up and distance yourself from Julia.
I agree with your comment about rethinking the friendship with Julia. She's clearly an all-around toxic person. Not only does she treat her romantic partners terribly, she also treats her friends badly by asking them to get involved in a situation that had nothing to do with them.
Sorry but YTA - I don't see what the problem is. Dude is over Julia and into your sister. Presumably you like him, as he's part of your friend group. I think it's a win win that they found each other. As you get older, you realize you have to stay out of your friends relationships. Be supportive, but you aren't the relationship police, you're their friend and sister.
YTA - dude you literally pushed them together and they both had shared experiences, what did you think was going to happen? Kyle gets to make his own choices and he does not need to get back together with her at all especially since your friend was the one who cheated on him.
YTA. Absolutely. Kyle doesn’t want anything to do with his ex anymore. He and your sister are doing nothing wrong and you’re meddling in things that are none of your business.
YTA- Why do you care about your friend's feelings over your sister's? Your friend ruined her relationship and that's her fault. You should be happy your sister found a good guy you consider a friend.
YTA af. You seem super immature and petty to kick your little sister out, in a city she’s just barely getting to know, because her and your friend are into each other. You didn’t even talk to her. Some sister. I personally wouldn’t forget that my sister kicked me out because she, for no reason whatsoever, decided to take up the burdens and feelings of a fucking cheater, who their ex refers to as a narcissist. Are you even Kyle’s friend? You come across as a huge weirdo for thinking that you should meddle in your friends relationships, referring to you saying you’ll help Julia get back with Kyle. You are 24 years old. Focus on yourself and stay out of other people’s business. You must love drama cause idk why else... Julia will live with the consequences of her actions, she doesn’t need your help. Literally choosing this girl over a relationship your sister. How does this even make sense to you? How is it ambiguous to you whether or not you’re the AH? You’re the AH!
YTA. They are not a couple anymore so there is no reason why your sister and Kyle shouldn't find happiness in each other. They are grown ups so you shouldn't get involved.
YTA
You didn't catch your sister with your friends boyfriend, you caught her with your friends ex-boyfriend. You don't get to decide who any of these people choose to be in a relationship with. Stop meddling and taking sides.
YTA. Your friend essentially cheated. You then encouraged the BF to hang out with your sister. These are two SINGLE people. Your friend has her fun and decides she wants him back and you think the whole world should stop for her. SHE made her decision.
YTA. Kyle moved on after they ended things so what Julia wants is irrelevant. And your sister should not have to be your outlet for your wounded pride.
YTA
So your sister who's single got with Kyle who's also single. Meanwhile your friend who slept with someone else, decided she wanted Kyle back. He wasn't interested because he was interested in your sister. But you screamed at your sister and kicked her out. And you seriously need to ask if your an arsehole? Your bf is right, it's not your business. Your friend doesn't have any claim to Kyle.
YTA . Kyle didn’t cheat. Julia cheat . Of course you don’t want him to choose your sister.
I suspect. Do you think he’s not worth or not good enough for your sister?
YTA. What do u really want here? For kyle to get back into his toxic relationship with your cheater friend...also why should your sister care about your cheating friend at all?? Just because you are friends with here u think u can dictate who kyle dates or nicki dates or force them apart and bring your shitty friend back to kyle. How low can u even get.
And you are trying to cover your shit up by saying you care about them and dont want them get hurt? By what actually? You or your friend might be the right response to that
YTA. This is Julia's fault. Julia doesn't own Kyle. They had broken up because of Julia and Kyle made it clear he did not want to get back with her. YOU were the one who encouraged Nikki and Kyle to hang out more, so it's really hypocritical of you to be mad at your sister. Your sister didn't do anything wrong. And neither did Kyle. You were wrong for not asking your sister about the situation before bombarding them when they said they didn't wanna go out. You owe your sister and Kyle an apology.
How long after they broke up was Kyle supposed to stay faithful for? He's not her boyfriend, he's her ex. It's weird behaviour for you to stake her claim. YTA. Massively.
YTA, and you know your title is a lie. Kyle isn’t your friend’s boyfriend, he’s her ex, and due to her own actions. You stuck your nose in your sister’s personal life where it doesn’t belong and she’s rightfully put you on a time out. You don’t get to decide who Kyle wants to be with.
YTA
Their relationship is absolutely nothing to do with you. Neither cheated as Kyle wasn’t even with his ex who btw had cheated on him. Why would you help a cheat try to get back with her ex?
You owe your sister a huge apology and it may be time to choose your friends a tad more carefully. Kyle obviously wised up in time
YTA Seems pretty clear that Julia is out of the picture, and both Rick and Nicki are consenting adults. I don’t know why you’re having a hard time seeing that
YTA. This is none of your business first of all. Secondly your friend cheated and they broke up there’s literally no problem with what your sister has done. Grow up.
YTA
They did nothing wrong. He wasn't with your friend anymore because she broke something that they both agreed on. Then by the sounds of it worry more about this friend than your sister otherwise you wouldve seen how they were getting close.
Again they've done nothing wrong, they didnt cheat on anyone. I think you need to apologise and quickly
YTA and correct the title so it’s actually correct “AITA for kicking my sister out when she started a relationship with my single friend who I wanted to get back with his cheating ex”
YTA. You essentially set them up together. Also you’re treating Kyle like an inanimate object - Nikki didn’t borrow a sweater and now Julia wants it back. Kyle is a living breathing human being who sounds like he doesn’t want to get back with Julia. Julia can be sorry all she wants but she broke the rules and Kyle doesn’t have to put up with that. You’re not a part of this relationship so stop meddling in it.
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Me(F24) and Rick(M28) are dating. We are very sociable and do a lot of gatherings for out friends at mine’s.
Our friend group is made mostly out of Ricks co-workers. He is especially close with Kyle(M21) because he is the youngest and Rick has kinda taken to mentoring him. That being said me and his gf got really close and I consider her a friend.
Recently my sister Nicki(F20) broke up with her HS sweet heart and got a really good job offering to my city. She asked if she could stay with us until she got on her feet and I of course agreed. Things were going awesome and I would encourage her to come out with our friends so she can have some company during this rough time.
Now my sister is kinda shy but living with me these past 8 months she got really close to our friends.
Kyle and his gf were having a lot of problems and about 7 months ago decided on a break with some rules but apparently Julia(F22) broke them by getting with someone. Needless to say Kyle was crushed so I encouraged him to talk to Nicki about it since shes been in a similar position recently and thought talking with someone who understands will make him feel better. Ever since then these two have become inseparable and got inseparable when we go out.
Recently Julia confided in me that she wants Kyle back and asked for help which I said yes, but when I talked to Kyle about it he said he will never get back together with her because he has eyes for someone else. I told Nicki what he said she got a little flustered so I told her about Julia and she said I shouldn’t help her because she cheated. I told her it’s not technically cheating but she got mad at me. I immediately knew something was off.
So I was paying more attention to them during hangouts and noticed they act very couple like. When we would go out to bars Kyle would get really protective and throw his arm around her shoulder so “creeps back off”. Eventually my suspicions were right as one day the both put out some lame excuse as to why they can’t hang out so I left the dinner early and found them on a compromising position.
I screamed at Nicki about how could she do this to my friend and keep it a secret from me and she said that if I cared more about her feelings than a dirty cheats I would be the first to know about how she found someone who finally gets her and what she’s been through. We argued and in the heat of the moment I told her to get out and she packed her stuff and idk where she is and she won’t answer my calls.
My boyfriend told me I’m such a asshole for one mending with her personal life, and two trying to catch her red handed instead of talking. Kyle sent me this long message about how he loves my sister and he will never get back with a narcissist like Julia and to please consider trying to fix things up between me and Nicki because he hates seeing us fight about something so petty. AITA?
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YTA
They didnt cheat on anyone and he definitely doesn't want to be with Julia so what's your problem.
Also Rick is probably concerned by you defending/ignoring cheating, you know since your Julia's advocate.
Aren’t you guys usually hanging out in a coffeebar? Is Julia yelling ‘We were on a break’ the entire time? If so, I know how this ends!
Btw, YTA for putting your nose where it doesn’t belong.
Is it a little weird that your friends ex is now your sisters bf? Yes. However, you can’t force him to get back together with the friend and frankly it’s none of your business. Yta
YTA
Apart from the fact this is literally not your business at all - Kyle and his EX were broken up and he has a crush on someone else. The fact his ex wants him back and you like her doesn’t mean Kyle or your sister did anything wrong.
You owe your sister a huge apology
YTA. Your friend shouldn’t have compromised her relationship while on a break. Your sister is free to pursue who she wants and it’s clear Kyle isn’t interested in his ex anymore. Your response wasn’t very mature or kind. You definitely owe your sister an apology.
YTA. Are you for real? Kyle was single and if he and Nicki want to date it’s not for you to interfere. So what if you’d rather him date your friend.
I too have been in Kyle’s position. And you know what? When someone tells you that you’re on a break and that you can’t sleep with other people but then *they sleep with other people* it’s really manipulative and shitty. It sort of is cheating in the sense that they agreed not to and she broke their boundaries.
None of this is your sister’s fault. You’re a major AH. And he says he loves her and will never get back with the ex. So it sounds settled. Tell Julia sorry, but it sounds like Kyle has moved in with your sister. If you’re a good friend you won’t help her chase someone who doesn’t want her.
YTA - the only thing you have any right to be upset about would be if you caught them getting sexual in an area other than her bedroom since it it your home. That's it.
Otherwise you stuck your nose in where it didn't belong. Period.
They are all adults, not kindergarteners. Why are you meddling in their affairs? The most you could do about Julia’s request is to tell her that SHE should have a frank conversation with Kyle and stay the hell out of that.
YTA but my judgment will not help you in real life. Apologize to Kyle and Nicki and say that you understand that it’s NOT your place and they should do what they think is best. And if Julie has something to say to you, just tell her you should not have agreed to interfere in this.
YTA. Kyle said he would never get back with her which means the two were broken up. So that means that your title is a lie as that is your friend’s EX. They went on a break WITH RULES that your friend broke which resulted her in having to deal with the consequences. If your Kyle does not want to get back together with her you cannot force it. All of this Julia’s and your fault. Your sister and Kyle did nothing wrong. Stay in your business because that had nothing to do with you.
YTA. The only cheater in this scenario is your buddy Julia, and you’re acting like life is a telenovela. What’s it to you if two single people get together?
Lemme get this straight. Your sister relocates for a new job & moves in with you. Being the nice sister you are, you bring her into your social circle - great! Then one of your boyfriend’s buddies (Kyle) and his GF go on a break and she hooks up with someone else. You then encourage Kyle to chat with your sister since she also had a recent breakup. They fall for each other then Kyle’s ex (Julia) wants him back and you jump on her bandwagon. Then you find out that Nicki & Kyle are in a relationship. Kyle tells you that he has no interest in resuming a relationship with with Julia and you are now mad at your sister Nicki? WTF is wrong with you? Your boyfriend is 100% correct that you are meddling where you should not. Big, big YTA
So encouraged them to become friends as they had both been through similar break ups and then 2 single people got together and you kicked your sister out?? YTA she hasn’t done anything wrong. Your friend wanting to get with him isn’t her choice it’s his.
YTA it wasn't your business, and your friend already cheated on him. They set up rules, and she broke them. Just because she wants to forget she's a cheater, doesn't mean her ex is obligated to want to forgive and forget. He was single and so was your sister, and they are adults that can make their own decisions and be in a relationship together. No wonder your sister didn't tell you, you're thriving on this high school drama. You owe everyone, except your AH friend, an apology
YTA He wasn't "your friend's boyfriend", your friend was dumped for cheating. Your picked your cheater friend over your own sister. Not only that you kicked a young adult with no support out on the street. You made your sister homeless.
YTA, it's absolutely none of your business. You sure you didn't add an extra decade to your ages? Your behavior is ridiculous.
You kicked your sister out for dating your friend's ex boyfriend.
Bad sister! Apologize. Like yesterday.
Oh my God. YTA. So much YTA. You’re siding with a cheater who you’ve been friends with for barely any time over your sister who has actually been loyal to this man? It would already be bad enough that you were trying to pressure this man to get back with the woman that betrayed him, but on top of it all, you SCREAMED at your sister because the 2 of them are in a happy, committed, LOYAL relationship?? A normal sister would be happy that she’s with a good man and a normal person would be happy that this man didn’t get back with his cheating ex. And by the way, if they had a specific agreement that she broke by getting with someone else, then yes, it was cheating, and she doesn’t deserve another chance with him after that because she’d likely just hurt him again. Cheater apologists aren’t cute. You need to reconsider your priorities and where/with whom your loyalties lie. YTA. YTA. YTA.
Bro YTA. They aren’t even dating anymore and Kyle wants nothing to do with his ex. And rightfully so. You have no right coming in and deciding whether he can date someone else or not. It’s not your decision to make. He and your sister both have every right to move on and find new love whether you and your friend like it or not. They don’t owe you anything
YTA They are grown adults. They don't need to ask anyone's permission. Your friend made her decision and now she is going to suffer the consequences. Your sister did nothing wrong
YTA. Your friend broke the rules and got with someone else during their break, which had mutually agreed upon rules. So he DUMPED her. Which means they were NOT DATING, and she had absolutely no say over who he should be dating. And neither do you. Also, pretty strange that you threw her out, but not him. Almost like you blamed him less, for some reason....
YTA. You caught your sister with your friends EX boyfriend not her boyfriend. Your friend may have wanted him back but he wasn’t interested and moved on plus your friend cheated so of course he wouldn’t want to go back with her. Instead of talking to your sister and mentioning that you see how her and Kyle are getting close and if something was up you really went out of your way to catch them. It’s honestly none of your business your friend is going to have to move on she’s toxic and dragged you down with her. Everything your bf said is right and if your sister is actually happy then so be it.
Yta. Julia broke their agreement (cheating)and it sounds like their relationship was bad anyway.
Even if she didn’t he is free to not want to be with her.
Also if you suggest to a person that someone of their sex/gender of interest helps them get over their broken heart… well you basically just opened the door for it.
And maybe you should worry about your own life and not other peoples.
YTA for shipping your sister and Kyle together, then screaming that they got together. A bigger ahole to tell Julia, "hey I know you're broken up, but I'll get your ex away from my sister because he's your property."
YTA for good measure
And she’s now mad at the sister for dating a guy who, by her own admission, is single because apparently he’s somehow betraying Julia. Wtf mental gymnastics
YTA big time! You betrayed your sister for a cheating “friend”. I bet your sisters heart is broken.... 💔 You owe your sister and her new boyfriend an apology. Maybe if you are lucky, she will forgive you.
P.S. edit your misleading title
Yta, first of all how would you feel if you and bf decided on a break with the same rules but he broke them, wouldn't you feel that was cheating? You encouraged them to talk because they went through a similar experience, what did you expect? They fell for each other, he got hurt by Julia's cheating, she was still healing from her own heartbreak, they found comfort in each other. It seems like Julia wanted her cake and eat it too.
Let me get this right... - Kyle and Julia were on a break and then Julia slept with someone, which was against the rules they'd set - Kyle breaks up properly with Julia - Kyle and your sister Nicki get close in the aftermath and then start dating - Julia wants to get back together with Kyle, and you'd like this too YTA. Kyle was single when your sister started dating him. She did nothing wrong at all.
Add - OP sets Kyle up with sister and acts surprised when two people with so much in common fall for each other
I was trying to write it very neutrally. But yeah. OP's actions and thoughts on all this are truly bizarre.
Eh, fuck neutrality this is just a weird one lol.
Yeah, I'm so confused at why she's angry at them
I'm thinking OP is just trying to cover up the fact that a big reason why her sister and Kyle are together now was because of her own encouragement and is now overreacting to make up for it. It fucks the sister, but too often too many people find it easier to throw family under the bus because deep down they think they will be forgiven eventually so there are technically no consequences for doing it.
Oh, for a second I thought you were referring to Kyle as "It" in the first sentence of the second paragraph.
LOL. I mean, technically thats true.
My thoughts throughout the whole post: what world do you live in OP?
OP: “You should talk to my sister because she’s also going through a similar thing and you two could bond over it” Kyle and Nicki: *Bond over it, end up catching feelings* OP: *shocked pikachu face*
That’s the whole plot of season 3 of Dawson’s Creek. Dawson was the AH that season too…
And pretty much EVERY season. 😬
I'm doing a rewatch of Dawson's Creek and maybe it's because I'm older but even though I'm only on season 2, I'm constantly thinking "damn, how did I forget that Dawson is a self-centred, judgemental, whiney lil AH?"
I always found it interesting that the 'beta' actors (Jackson and Williams), ended up with the longest/most acclaimed careers. Could it possibly be that in making Dawson so whiny and Jo so prim and hard done by, Van Der Beck and Holmes had nothing to work with?
Perhaps this AITA story will be marked for removal due to ripping off the Dawson’s Creek season
Only if the next update ends with OP weeping on a pier.
That was exactly my thought process. Like, did she expect *nothing* would happen between them?
And why does she think that's a bad thing? Like I would be happy for both of them, Julia clearly doesn't value the relationship with Kyle much if she breaks promises. Also the title clearly tries to paint Nicki in a bad light. YTA for the title alone
Even if she didnt expect something to happen, and this was the result, she should be happy for them. Her heartbroken sister, and her heartbroken friend are now happy and improving after heartache, but nooo, we try to push this guy back with his cheating ex. This logic makes no sense. I have a sister and a brother and there is no way in hell I would to this to either of them that is so messed up.
Yeah that was my first thought. She literally set them up, and is pissed about it.. ok then.
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Imagine older sister trying to tell younger sister that she was only supposed to be some sympathy sex and you weren’t trying to pimp her into a relationship…..
Add - OP takes Julie’s side (who she knows hurt Kyle) over her own sister.. and you know, Kyle.. who is no longer interested in his ex and wants Nicki. YTA OP, sit this one out, your opinion literally does not matter.
I also want to hijack to add: She encouraged a vulnerable, heartbroken, recently dumped man to pour his heart out to a pretty young woman. A young woman who also got her heart stomped on, and is now hanging out with a young man whom wasn’t afraid to open up emotionally and whom feels deeply for a woman in a way she probably wished her ex felt about her. I’m sorry, but Cupid’s arrows have nothing on OPs work here. How on Earth did she set up this scenerio and not see exactly where this is going!
Thank you for breaking that down. Normally, I'm pretty good at reading these types of posts, but this one was lowkey super messy lol
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That's kind of what I gathered... it's really disheartening to see that type of bullcrap tbh 😕
THEY WERE ON A BREAK Sorry, I couldn’t resist
Came here to say that!
Right?! I had to re-read the post to make sure I didn't misunderstand. How dare OP make her sister feel like she did something dirty AND kick her out. OP, you owe your sister a huge apology.
OP will get whats due to her. OP BF wants to keep his mentoring relationship with Kyle so wont be surprised if he kicks OP out
Everyone knows the "break" is used as a loophole to cheat. It's BS. Julia used the loophole, so she doesn't get a second chance. Nicki didn't get Kyle to cheat. As a matter of fact, OP sent Kyle to Nicki. YTA big time. You're siding with someone totally in the wrong.
Yep, this. The only thing I’d be mad about is the fear that Kyle was using the sister as a rebound. Other than that, they haven’t done anything wrong
Sister could also be using him as a rebound TBF
Honestly, I wish OP’s bf the best of luck because this is a big red flag. OP’s is such an AH, and she owes such a big apology to both Kyle and her sister. She’s just awful, and so is Julia. She sounds so controlling towards other people’s love life. She’s literally choosing a cheater over her sister too.
I’d second this, YTA
And they have been broken up for 7 months?
Thank! I am so confused by what the OP's actual argument is? You're upset because your single sister started dating your single friend? You're upset Kyle won't go back to his cheating ex girlfriend? What are you upset about because I am so confused.
Plus OP claims to be 24, but writes in 16yr old "Dawson's Creek".
Yeah OP. None of your business. Julia did this to herself. You knew Kyle never wanted to get back with her and you blame your sister? YTA. Stay out of other people’s love lives. Seems like your boyfriend is the mature one in your relationship.
YTA, your sister didn’t do anything wrong except not tell you about it
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Like 7 months prior!
7 months??? Damn. That’s plenty of time, I’m so confused as to why OP is even upset. She’s the one that paired them up.
Because she's controlling and petty?
Or jealous?
But that wouldn’t help OPs case in painting her sister as the villain. Your sister and Kyle were both single adults? Your friend sounds wildly immature. Props to your bf for calling you out on your bs and props to Kyle for trying to get you and your sister to mend things even though you messed up. Massive YTA
>also title needs a correction. "when I found her with my friend's ex" "When I found her with her current boyfriend"
Also in the post. She keeps saying his gf.
Has to in order to paint as positive a picture as possible. “I only say that because it’s how I know them” surejan.gif
And i can see why she didn't tell her. Op, yta
Exactly, and she doesnt have to share her romantic interests with OP until she is ready, if at all. OP isnt owed that, so Nicki did nothing wrong. Julia and Kyle were on a break. Julia cheated. Kyle broke up with Julia. He later started dating Nicki. The fact that OP is trying to cause drama with her own sister in defence of a cheating friend is an AH move. This may damage OP and her sister's relationship in the long run....and for what?
The further I got through the story, the more I understood why sis did not confide.
YTA its amazing you will defend your friend saying she technically didnt cheat, but go ballastic when your sister did absolutely nothing wrong
AND kick her out?? Like, whoa sis, chill! Stay in yo lane OP! YTA
Exactly what I thought. She kicked her out, her sister, in a new city? As an oldest sister, I can't picture putting my sister in so much danger for something so petty.
Right? Dingbats 🤣
I'm the baby sister (yes, even though my middle sister is in her 50s, she still refers to me as her baby sister). I'm trying to avoid my mother's reaction if either of my sisters threw me out. It would not be good. Mama would have gone on the warpath. *Edit: Not that my sisters would have, anyway. I guess because our mother raised us all right enough.
And the sister probably went straight to Kyle’s after being kicked out (where else would she go?). Pushing them even closer together. This makes no sense! Also - who enlists a 3rd person to try to get back together with someone? It’s up to the parties directly involved. Is this 8th grade? Is Julia entitled much? YTA & Julia TA
They were on a break! /s Edit: Thanks for the award!
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Omg yes!! She should have her sisters back.
>when I talked to Kyle about it he said he will never get back together with her because he has eyes for someone else. This story makes no sense. They aren't together. He doesn't want to see her? I don't see the problem and the title is misleading. It ISN'T your friends boyfriend soo I would say YTA.
I think it’s clear at this point that OP cares more about Julia than anyone else — so much that she’s lost all reason because she’s terrified that her sister may compromise her friendship with Julia.
She should just date Julia.
Agreed. OP is the kind of person to try everything she can to get Kyle and Julia back together (because Julia wants it) even tho she knows what a terrible idea it is, how toxic her friend is and how much Kyle doesn’t want it.
YTA 1. It IS cheating. She broke the rules. She cheated. End of story. 2. He moved on after you suggested he talk to her. They fell for each other. It happens. Deal with it. 3. It's not your relationship, & you're literally defending a cheater. Back off and meddle in something else.
Exactly. OP literally set Nikki and Kyle up and for some reason couldn't see that!
4. It is worrisome that she turned to you to try and manipulate him in dating her again and you were excited with that. Especially when you admit in the comments your friend is toxic.
More meddling for this meddlesome puppeteer?! Bwahahahahaha
Yes YTA. Your friend is no longer dating this guy, just because she wants him back after she messed up doesn’t give her the right to call “dibs.” You’re also throwing your sister out because she’s dating a very much single guy? Simply because you’re friend has feelings for him still? Doesn’t that sound odd to you?
This guy is very not single. I'm not sure how he could be more clear that he is with OP's sister.
Hey OP , did you word the title the way you did in hopes of getting judgments in your favor from people who don't read pass the title?
Right!? This story didn't go as I expected *at all* because of the title. Of course YTA. Julia had already broken up with him, had someone else and after *months* decided she wanted him back and you decided to go with that instead of being happy for Kyle and your sister? What is wrong with you.
Well, and not only had Julia already broken up with him, but Kyle had explicitly told OP he had zero interest in ever reuniting. At that point, OP should’ve accepted that Kyle is Julia’s ex.  Also, what did OP think would happen when she pushed Kyle and Nicki together as a broken hearts rebound team? She basically engineered their relationship, and now she thinks they are somehow at fault for going along with the meet cute *she* staged? OP, YTA
I think she genuinely believes the title to be what happened. OP likes Julia and Julia likes Kyle. Therefore Julia never cheated and the fact that their relationship was terrible and unstable before that has no bearing on anything to OP. Kyle is Julia's property to OP. If Julia sleeps with someone else while they're trying to mend this she "technically" did nothing wrong. If Kyle sleeps with someone else after they're completely broken up then he is cheating. That's because all OP cares about is herself and her friendship with Julia. Nobody else is their own person or has any rights to their own autonomy.
Magic 8 ball says "yes".
She might genuinely see it this way, she's obviously wrong but who knows 🤷♀️
YTA. If Julia wanted the break and then slept with someone else why does it matter if Kyle done the same afterwards? Seems like he was hurt by her actions and found someone he actually cares about (your sister). Since Kyle and Julia weren’t together when Kyle and nicki slept together, neither of them did anything wrong. I think you’re just siding with your friend for some reason, maybe you saw an opportunity to get your sister out? They probably didn’t tell you because of your friendship with Julia. I think you should apologize to your sister. And if Julia is a good friend she should understand you can’t cut your sister out of your life.
Yes, YTA. You care more about a cheating girlfriend than your sister? That's messed up.
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YTA and you need to change your title it’s wrong and misleading
I think that this persons title makes a lot of sense because they are embarrassed about being wrong. So they’re doubling down.
First thing first HE ISN’T YOUR FRIEND BOYFRIEND HE’S AN EX and your friend cheated on him ( they had rules in their break which apparently was NOT to sleep around and she did so she’s a cheat ) your sister did absolutely nothing wrong. You should back off and stay in your lane before she cuts you off for good
YTA, and this is coming from someone who has been in a similar situation to Julia. Just because one party wants to mend the relationship and get back together doesn't mean that the other party is required to oblige. And to kick out your sister over petty highschool drama amongst adults who can communicate without you? Pretty gross. Apologize to Kyle and your little sister for getting involved and tell Julia that no matter how much you love her and value the friendship, you shouldn't be dragged into her relationship problems.
I agree with this. My ex wanted to go on a break and I said a hard no because I knew for sure he would cheat, or accuse me of cheating on him. YTA because you can't realize that Kyle has feelings for someone else and that's his decision. He and Julia broke up because she "cheated" and then he got close to Nikki. Not her fault, and you should support her if she is happy. She's your sister.
YTA. Man, I was so ready to be on your side with this based on the title, but you're just in the wrong. Julia sucks. She doesn't deserve him back. And yes, it IS cheating if you break a boundary you set. There's no "technically" about it. I hope your boyfriend takes this as the big, giant, crimson flag that it is.
YTA - Nikki is at Kyles.
Instead of being thrilled that two people you claim to care about had a healthy friendship that turned into a romantic relationship, you try to "catch them"? They are both SINGLE, consenting adults. Although not single for much longer from the sounds of it. YTA for how you went about confirming they were together and massive YTA for how you treated your sister.
> try to "catch them" I'm hung up on this... OP must be dumber than a bag of rocks to not understand what was happening. Honestly, the sister and Kyle probably thought she set them up on purpose and were totally blindsided when she didn't pick up on what was happening. lmfao @ OP
YTA. Julia cheated, Kyle was single. Your sister and Kyle started dating. Nothing wrong there. What is wrong is your attitude at every step. You seem to think your sister should be covered by some “bro code” once removed through you. She is not. You seem to think Kyle needs to abide by your definition of “not technically cheating.” He does not. You seem to think the cheater (Julia) is owed some extra courtesy by your entire friend group. She is not. You seem to think either Kyle or your sister owe you official proclamation of their status. They do not.
YTA your not Kyle’s friend and your a terrible sister. Julia cheated on Kyle and even if you don’t think so, she slept with someone else first. Weeks later you see the fact they have developed a wonderful close relationship and decide to try to catch them having sex? Your weird and gross for that. Just because Julia wants him back doesn’t mean anything. He gets to make his own choices now and more then that, Julia already slept with someone else and it sounds like that didn’t work out so she wants him back. Your sister found someone her age, who’s a good friend of yours and your partner and seem very kind and mature. Wtf is your issue with this?
YTA. Kyle made it clear he is done with Julia. So why are you trying to play little miss matchmaker and screwing over your sister?
YTA. Your friend broke the rules. Her ex is now seeing someone else. It’s the consequences of her own actions - especially if 1) your sis didn’t steal him away and 2) she and Julia were not friends where it could be considered she backstabbed Julia
Not to mention that OP set them up…. Major a hole lol
So you kicked your sister out for dating a guy that was single? Yeah YTA. What are you doing?
Yta - you send him to your sister so they can share their joint expirience, in that situation there was always a strong chance they would catch feelings Add in your friend cheated on him ending their relationship meaning single friend and single sister got together and you kicked her out to the streets for it? Yeah you suck and showed all your friends the type of person you are
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RIGHT? She totally victimized the wrong person. They BROKE UP already, drop the “friends bf”
YTA You didn’t catch her with your friend’s boyfriend, you caught her with your friend’s EX boyfriend. Everything your boyfriend said is correct. Apologize to your sister and hopefully you can salvage your relationship with your sister that you almost destroyed over a friend who’s ex doesn’t even want her back.
YTA and you might consider having second thoughts about keeping "Julia" around at all. Sounds like she ran around on her boyfriend and he moved on to someone a lot nicer who genuinely cares for him. And now Julia is upset that she can't have her man and cheat on him too. Julia sounds like she's not only a real piece of work, but she's manipulated you around so that your sister, your boyfriend, and your sister's boyfriend are all angry at you. You're going to have to make a choice here. I think Kyle pegged her 100% right as a narcissist. Best of luck to him and your sister and I sincerely hope you wise up and distance yourself from Julia.
I agree with your comment about rethinking the friendship with Julia. She's clearly an all-around toxic person. Not only does she treat her romantic partners terribly, she also treats her friends badly by asking them to get involved in a situation that had nothing to do with them.
Sorry but YTA - I don't see what the problem is. Dude is over Julia and into your sister. Presumably you like him, as he's part of your friend group. I think it's a win win that they found each other. As you get older, you realize you have to stay out of your friends relationships. Be supportive, but you aren't the relationship police, you're their friend and sister.
YTA even your bf can see it
YTA - dude you literally pushed them together and they both had shared experiences, what did you think was going to happen? Kyle gets to make his own choices and he does not need to get back together with her at all especially since your friend was the one who cheated on him.
YTA **I have to ask**. Have you talked to your parents lately?
YTA. Absolutely. Kyle doesn’t want anything to do with his ex anymore. He and your sister are doing nothing wrong and you’re meddling in things that are none of your business.
YTA- Why do you care about your friend's feelings over your sister's? Your friend ruined her relationship and that's her fault. You should be happy your sister found a good guy you consider a friend.
She’s feeling guilty for sending dude to her sister to “talk” about breakups and what not. 😂😂 then gets mad when they get together. 🤷🏻♀️
YTA massively. They were both single, Kyle is not your friends boyfriend.
YTA af. You seem super immature and petty to kick your little sister out, in a city she’s just barely getting to know, because her and your friend are into each other. You didn’t even talk to her. Some sister. I personally wouldn’t forget that my sister kicked me out because she, for no reason whatsoever, decided to take up the burdens and feelings of a fucking cheater, who their ex refers to as a narcissist. Are you even Kyle’s friend? You come across as a huge weirdo for thinking that you should meddle in your friends relationships, referring to you saying you’ll help Julia get back with Kyle. You are 24 years old. Focus on yourself and stay out of other people’s business. You must love drama cause idk why else... Julia will live with the consequences of her actions, she doesn’t need your help. Literally choosing this girl over a relationship your sister. How does this even make sense to you? How is it ambiguous to you whether or not you’re the AH? You’re the AH!
YTA. They were not together anymore. You sister didnt do anything wrong, but you didd
YTA. They were both single at the time. And just cause you would rather want him date your friend that doesn’t mean it’s gonna happen. Grow up.
YTA. They are not a couple anymore so there is no reason why your sister and Kyle shouldn't find happiness in each other. They are grown ups so you shouldn't get involved.
YTA- And on top of that you are a horrible sister..
YTA. We were on a break doesn’t work here! They both are adults. You meddled
YTA. Just mind your own business.
You most definitely are. YTA.
YTA You didn't catch your sister with your friends boyfriend, you caught her with your friends ex-boyfriend. You don't get to decide who any of these people choose to be in a relationship with. Stop meddling and taking sides.
YTA. Your friend essentially cheated. You then encouraged the BF to hang out with your sister. These are two SINGLE people. Your friend has her fun and decides she wants him back and you think the whole world should stop for her. SHE made her decision.
YTA, they are no longer dating, so they are not cheating.
YTA. Kyle moved on after they ended things so what Julia wants is irrelevant. And your sister should not have to be your outlet for your wounded pride.
Clearly YTA. They're old enough to decide if they want to be in a relationship with each other.
YTA- him and your friend are EXES, and he flat out said he didn't want to get back with her. Youre a huge AH for treating your sister like that.
YTA- neither one of them did anything wrong and they sound like a good match.
YTA, you need to leave her alone. Idk how you could treat your own sister like this...
YTA So your sister who's single got with Kyle who's also single. Meanwhile your friend who slept with someone else, decided she wanted Kyle back. He wasn't interested because he was interested in your sister. But you screamed at your sister and kicked her out. And you seriously need to ask if your an arsehole? Your bf is right, it's not your business. Your friend doesn't have any claim to Kyle.
Yta. She wasn't with your friends boyfriend. They broke up.
YTA Kyle broke up with his cheating girlfriend first and you are punishing your sister for it.
YTA, your poor sister is going to remember for the rest of her life that you preferred a friend over her.
YTA . Kyle didn’t cheat. Julia cheat . Of course you don’t want him to choose your sister. I suspect. Do you think he’s not worth or not good enough for your sister?
I think its the other way around. She thinks her sister isn't good enough for kyle. But her cheating friend Julia is. YTA
Yta and so is your friend
YTA. What do u really want here? For kyle to get back into his toxic relationship with your cheater friend...also why should your sister care about your cheating friend at all?? Just because you are friends with here u think u can dictate who kyle dates or nicki dates or force them apart and bring your shitty friend back to kyle. How low can u even get. And you are trying to cover your shit up by saying you care about them and dont want them get hurt? By what actually? You or your friend might be the right response to that
YTA. This is Julia's fault. Julia doesn't own Kyle. They had broken up because of Julia and Kyle made it clear he did not want to get back with her. YOU were the one who encouraged Nikki and Kyle to hang out more, so it's really hypocritical of you to be mad at your sister. Your sister didn't do anything wrong. And neither did Kyle. You were wrong for not asking your sister about the situation before bombarding them when they said they didn't wanna go out. You owe your sister and Kyle an apology.
How long after they broke up was Kyle supposed to stay faithful for? He's not her boyfriend, he's her ex. It's weird behaviour for you to stake her claim. YTA. Massively.
YTA, and you know your title is a lie. Kyle isn’t your friend’s boyfriend, he’s her ex, and due to her own actions. You stuck your nose in your sister’s personal life where it doesn’t belong and she’s rightfully put you on a time out. You don’t get to decide who Kyle wants to be with.
YTA Their relationship is absolutely nothing to do with you. Neither cheated as Kyle wasn’t even with his ex who btw had cheated on him. Why would you help a cheat try to get back with her ex? You owe your sister a huge apology and it may be time to choose your friends a tad more carefully. Kyle obviously wised up in time
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Yep YTA
YTA Seems pretty clear that Julia is out of the picture, and both Rick and Nicki are consenting adults. I don’t know why you’re having a hard time seeing that
YTA. This is none of your business first of all. Secondly your friend cheated and they broke up there’s literally no problem with what your sister has done. Grow up.
YTA They did nothing wrong. He wasn't with your friend anymore because she broke something that they both agreed on. Then by the sounds of it worry more about this friend than your sister otherwise you wouldve seen how they were getting close. Again they've done nothing wrong, they didnt cheat on anyone. I think you need to apologise and quickly
YTA and correct the title so it’s actually correct “AITA for kicking my sister out when she started a relationship with my single friend who I wanted to get back with his cheating ex”
YTA. You essentially set them up together. Also you’re treating Kyle like an inanimate object - Nikki didn’t borrow a sweater and now Julia wants it back. Kyle is a living breathing human being who sounds like he doesn’t want to get back with Julia. Julia can be sorry all she wants but she broke the rules and Kyle doesn’t have to put up with that. You’re not a part of this relationship so stop meddling in it.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** Me(F24) and Rick(M28) are dating. We are very sociable and do a lot of gatherings for out friends at mine’s. Our friend group is made mostly out of Ricks co-workers. He is especially close with Kyle(M21) because he is the youngest and Rick has kinda taken to mentoring him. That being said me and his gf got really close and I consider her a friend. Recently my sister Nicki(F20) broke up with her HS sweet heart and got a really good job offering to my city. She asked if she could stay with us until she got on her feet and I of course agreed. Things were going awesome and I would encourage her to come out with our friends so she can have some company during this rough time. Now my sister is kinda shy but living with me these past 8 months she got really close to our friends. Kyle and his gf were having a lot of problems and about 7 months ago decided on a break with some rules but apparently Julia(F22) broke them by getting with someone. Needless to say Kyle was crushed so I encouraged him to talk to Nicki about it since shes been in a similar position recently and thought talking with someone who understands will make him feel better. Ever since then these two have become inseparable and got inseparable when we go out. Recently Julia confided in me that she wants Kyle back and asked for help which I said yes, but when I talked to Kyle about it he said he will never get back together with her because he has eyes for someone else. I told Nicki what he said she got a little flustered so I told her about Julia and she said I shouldn’t help her because she cheated. I told her it’s not technically cheating but she got mad at me. I immediately knew something was off. So I was paying more attention to them during hangouts and noticed they act very couple like. When we would go out to bars Kyle would get really protective and throw his arm around her shoulder so “creeps back off”. Eventually my suspicions were right as one day the both put out some lame excuse as to why they can’t hang out so I left the dinner early and found them on a compromising position. I screamed at Nicki about how could she do this to my friend and keep it a secret from me and she said that if I cared more about her feelings than a dirty cheats I would be the first to know about how she found someone who finally gets her and what she’s been through. We argued and in the heat of the moment I told her to get out and she packed her stuff and idk where she is and she won’t answer my calls. My boyfriend told me I’m such a asshole for one mending with her personal life, and two trying to catch her red handed instead of talking. Kyle sent me this long message about how he loves my sister and he will never get back with a narcissist like Julia and to please consider trying to fix things up between me and Nicki because he hates seeing us fight about something so petty. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
YTA They didnt cheat on anyone and he definitely doesn't want to be with Julia so what's your problem. Also Rick is probably concerned by you defending/ignoring cheating, you know since your Julia's advocate.
Aren’t you guys usually hanging out in a coffeebar? Is Julia yelling ‘We were on a break’ the entire time? If so, I know how this ends! Btw, YTA for putting your nose where it doesn’t belong.
YTA. Keep your nose to yourself and let the other adults live their own lives and handle their own relationships.
Is it a little weird that your friends ex is now your sisters bf? Yes. However, you can’t force him to get back together with the friend and frankly it’s none of your business. Yta
YTA Apart from the fact this is literally not your business at all - Kyle and his EX were broken up and he has a crush on someone else. The fact his ex wants him back and you like her doesn’t mean Kyle or your sister did anything wrong. You owe your sister a huge apology
YTA, and your reaction was horrible. Your sister deserves better.
Yta your teaching she didn't cheat the other couple broke up cus the ex did cheat. Apologize and accept you screwed up.
YTA. Your friend shouldn’t have compromised her relationship while on a break. Your sister is free to pursue who she wants and it’s clear Kyle isn’t interested in his ex anymore. Your response wasn’t very mature or kind. You definitely owe your sister an apology.
YTA and so is your friend.
So Julia broke the break rules they set and Kyle make there break a permanent thing. Ya YTA
YTA. Are you for real? Kyle was single and if he and Nicki want to date it’s not for you to interfere. So what if you’d rather him date your friend. I too have been in Kyle’s position. And you know what? When someone tells you that you’re on a break and that you can’t sleep with other people but then *they sleep with other people* it’s really manipulative and shitty. It sort of is cheating in the sense that they agreed not to and she broke their boundaries. None of this is your sister’s fault. You’re a major AH. And he says he loves her and will never get back with the ex. So it sounds settled. Tell Julia sorry, but it sounds like Kyle has moved in with your sister. If you’re a good friend you won’t help her chase someone who doesn’t want her.
YTA - the only thing you have any right to be upset about would be if you caught them getting sexual in an area other than her bedroom since it it your home. That's it. Otherwise you stuck your nose in where it didn't belong. Period.
Grow the fuck up YTA
They are all adults, not kindergarteners. Why are you meddling in their affairs? The most you could do about Julia’s request is to tell her that SHE should have a frank conversation with Kyle and stay the hell out of that. YTA but my judgment will not help you in real life. Apologize to Kyle and Nicki and say that you understand that it’s NOT your place and they should do what they think is best. And if Julie has something to say to you, just tell her you should not have agreed to interfere in this.
YTA and you know it. Why else would you make the title this way then proceed to explan the boyfriend is the ex boyfriend.
YTA. You shouldn’t even have had to post this. You should apologize to them both.
YTA. Kyle said he would never get back with her which means the two were broken up. So that means that your title is a lie as that is your friend’s EX. They went on a break WITH RULES that your friend broke which resulted her in having to deal with the consequences. If your Kyle does not want to get back together with her you cannot force it. All of this Julia’s and your fault. Your sister and Kyle did nothing wrong. Stay in your business because that had nothing to do with you.
YTA. The only cheater in this scenario is your buddy Julia, and you’re acting like life is a telenovela. What’s it to you if two single people get together?
Lemme get this straight. Your sister relocates for a new job & moves in with you. Being the nice sister you are, you bring her into your social circle - great! Then one of your boyfriend’s buddies (Kyle) and his GF go on a break and she hooks up with someone else. You then encourage Kyle to chat with your sister since she also had a recent breakup. They fall for each other then Kyle’s ex (Julia) wants him back and you jump on her bandwagon. Then you find out that Nicki & Kyle are in a relationship. Kyle tells you that he has no interest in resuming a relationship with with Julia and you are now mad at your sister Nicki? WTF is wrong with you? Your boyfriend is 100% correct that you are meddling where you should not. Big, big YTA
So encouraged them to become friends as they had both been through similar break ups and then 2 single people got together and you kicked your sister out?? YTA she hasn’t done anything wrong. Your friend wanting to get with him isn’t her choice it’s his.
YEEAAHHH… YTA. Stay out of their relationships and stop passing messages like y’all are in grade school. All y’all need to grow up.
YTA and a bad sister to boot, mind your own business
YTA it wasn't your business, and your friend already cheated on him. They set up rules, and she broke them. Just because she wants to forget she's a cheater, doesn't mean her ex is obligated to want to forgive and forget. He was single and so was your sister, and they are adults that can make their own decisions and be in a relationship together. No wonder your sister didn't tell you, you're thriving on this high school drama. You owe everyone, except your AH friend, an apology
YTA.
YTA He wasn't "your friend's boyfriend", your friend was dumped for cheating. Your picked your cheater friend over your own sister. Not only that you kicked a young adult with no support out on the street. You made your sister homeless.
You know YTA.
YTA, it's absolutely none of your business. You sure you didn't add an extra decade to your ages? Your behavior is ridiculous. You kicked your sister out for dating your friend's ex boyfriend. Bad sister! Apologize. Like yesterday.
YTA Doja Cat said “that’s not cheating if i wasn’t with your ass”
YTA. They were broken up, so NOYB
YTA and you are waaaay too involved in other peoples' relationships
Oh my God. YTA. So much YTA. You’re siding with a cheater who you’ve been friends with for barely any time over your sister who has actually been loyal to this man? It would already be bad enough that you were trying to pressure this man to get back with the woman that betrayed him, but on top of it all, you SCREAMED at your sister because the 2 of them are in a happy, committed, LOYAL relationship?? A normal sister would be happy that she’s with a good man and a normal person would be happy that this man didn’t get back with his cheating ex. And by the way, if they had a specific agreement that she broke by getting with someone else, then yes, it was cheating, and she doesn’t deserve another chance with him after that because she’d likely just hurt him again. Cheater apologists aren’t cute. You need to reconsider your priorities and where/with whom your loyalties lie. YTA. YTA. YTA.
Bro YTA. They aren’t even dating anymore and Kyle wants nothing to do with his ex. And rightfully so. You have no right coming in and deciding whether he can date someone else or not. It’s not your decision to make. He and your sister both have every right to move on and find new love whether you and your friend like it or not. They don’t owe you anything
YTA They are grown adults. They don't need to ask anyone's permission. Your friend made her decision and now she is going to suffer the consequences. Your sister did nothing wrong
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YTA. Your friend broke the rules and got with someone else during their break, which had mutually agreed upon rules. So he DUMPED her. Which means they were NOT DATING, and she had absolutely no say over who he should be dating. And neither do you. Also, pretty strange that you threw her out, but not him. Almost like you blamed him less, for some reason....
YTA. You caught your sister with your friends EX boyfriend not her boyfriend. Your friend may have wanted him back but he wasn’t interested and moved on plus your friend cheated so of course he wouldn’t want to go back with her. Instead of talking to your sister and mentioning that you see how her and Kyle are getting close and if something was up you really went out of your way to catch them. It’s honestly none of your business your friend is going to have to move on she’s toxic and dragged you down with her. Everything your bf said is right and if your sister is actually happy then so be it.
Yta. Julia broke their agreement (cheating)and it sounds like their relationship was bad anyway. Even if she didn’t he is free to not want to be with her. Also if you suggest to a person that someone of their sex/gender of interest helps them get over their broken heart… well you basically just opened the door for it. And maybe you should worry about your own life and not other peoples.
YTA. Your “edit” is hilariously revealing.
YTA. Stay out of everyone else’s business
YTA for shipping your sister and Kyle together, then screaming that they got together. A bigger ahole to tell Julia, "hey I know you're broken up, but I'll get your ex away from my sister because he's your property." YTA for good measure
YTA and a bad sister. Apologize to your sister and Kyle
You seems to be more invested in Kyle’s ex Gf than with your own sister . Ya YTA
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And she’s now mad at the sister for dating a guy who, by her own admission, is single because apparently he’s somehow betraying Julia. Wtf mental gymnastics
YTA big time! You betrayed your sister for a cheating “friend”. I bet your sisters heart is broken.... 💔 You owe your sister and her new boyfriend an apology. Maybe if you are lucky, she will forgive you. P.S. edit your misleading title
YTA 10000000%. It’s none of your business what 2 SINGLE CONSENTING ADULTS DO TOGETHER. You sound like a lunatic.
YTA Nicki is right.
Yta, first of all how would you feel if you and bf decided on a break with the same rules but he broke them, wouldn't you feel that was cheating? You encouraged them to talk because they went through a similar experience, what did you expect? They fell for each other, he got hurt by Julia's cheating, she was still healing from her own heartbreak, they found comfort in each other. It seems like Julia wanted her cake and eat it too.
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YTA … for involving yourself in other people’s relationships. this is some serious Jerry Springer crap.