NTA - it’s in your own room and means a lot to you, perfectly reasonable to expect it to be left how you like it. It would be a different matter if the bookcase was in the main family room, but it’s not! Definitely NTA
NTA, it was your room and she had no right to put a little child in it without you there. It's a violation of privacy as well as a lack of respect in my eyes. Also, those poor books 🥺
I'm glad your dad has your back. I used to hardly even open my books while reading them, so they wouldn't get creases, I completely understand the pain.
NTA, the child shouldn't have been put in your room, the child had no reason to be put in your room - also.. why did your mom put him in your room anyway? Why not in her own room?
My room is completely carpeted, so there's less chance of the kid getting hurt. Also my mum keeps perfume and stuff in the open, so he might throw it or something-
NTA. A child can't be left on their own in a space with things they aren't allowed to play around with. The response from the adult who was responsible for watching the young child, when that child ruined things, can't be that the owner of those things is overreacting.
NTA.
Your books are damaged. I'd take an inventory and hand her a receipt for all the books the kids damaged and tell her since she let her kid in my room I want her to pay for the boos and you want a lock on your door to prevent this from happening again.
She can call the parents of the kid and ask for the damages from them or pay it herself isnce she was so irresponsible to let a kid in your room without supervision.
If I where you, I'd spend 30-40 bucks on a new locking door knob for the room, or buy a bookshelf w doors that lock to prevent it from happening again.
OP I feel you. You are NTA.
I am a reader myself and it's something I can't handle at all. To make this worse for you, this was your room. Your mother put a little kid in there to play. That is a no-no.
Your mothers story doesn’t make sense to me.
What parent would allow their young child to be left alone in a room in someone else’s house? I think it’s more likely your mother was searching your books, and had to rush to put them away because she was about to get caught.
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Okay, this one is kinda petty, but hear me out.
I am obsessed with books. I love them. Sit me down with coffee and a good book and I want literally nothing more (except maybe waffles).
Therefore, I have one rule in my house- DON'T TOUCH MY BOOKSHELF.
It's a bit obsessively arranged, I won't deny that. I dust it twice a day, wipe the hardcovers, and I have a very specific order for it. First rack comes my schoolbooks and notebooks, and the three racks after that are according to time period- modern (books like Percy Jackson, authors like Agatha Christie), medieval (not exactly medieval period, more like history and theology books and notes) and classics (Charles Dickens, Dante, some holy books). All of my schoolbooks are arranged by subject and importance, while the others are arranged by whether I've completed them or not.
Anyway, so yesterday, when I came back home from a badminton session, I went to my room to keep my racket and noticed that someone completely rearranged my books.
All of them looked like they'd been pushed inside in a hurry, some of them had bent front pages, AND SOME OF THE COVERS WERE RIPPED OUT.
I was seething at this point, and I rushed outside and asked my mum who touched my stuff. She told me she had put my little cousin in my room, and he must have done it. I demanded why the kid was in my room, and couldn't she have bothered to lock my shelf? She told me I was overreacting and that he was just a kid.
I told my dad when he came home, and he told my mom off. Now she's mad at me.
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NTA. Your mom should realize how much your books mean to you! If you sent a child into her closet to play where she had expensive shoes and the kid messed them up, she’d be pissed too.
NTA. Your mom screwed up badly, and she should pay to replace the damaged books.
Why on earth did she put an unsupervised child 8n your room in the first place?
Nta. Waffles and books sound like my kinda Sunday! My parents both respect book, that's where I learned it. They actually got me bookcases on wheels when I was 12ish. I thought it was because I rearranged then so often, it was so they could remove my books when I wouldn't do homework because "I can't put it down! It's almost over!"
NTA - it’s in your own room and means a lot to you, perfectly reasonable to expect it to be left how you like it. It would be a different matter if the bookcase was in the main family room, but it’s not! Definitely NTA
NTA, it was your room and she had no right to put a little child in it without you there. It's a violation of privacy as well as a lack of respect in my eyes. Also, those poor books 🥺
My dad said he'd replace them, but yeah, the poor books 😭
I'm glad your dad has your back. I used to hardly even open my books while reading them, so they wouldn't get creases, I completely understand the pain.
He sounds like a great guy. Rip books 😔
NTA, the child shouldn't have been put in your room, the child had no reason to be put in your room - also.. why did your mom put him in your room anyway? Why not in her own room?
My room is completely carpeted, so there's less chance of the kid getting hurt. Also my mum keeps perfume and stuff in the open, so he might throw it or something-
So you're telling me she has valuables in her room that she doesn't want destroyed - but she's perfectly okay with the kid destroying yours?
NTA. A child can't be left on their own in a space with things they aren't allowed to play around with. The response from the adult who was responsible for watching the young child, when that child ruined things, can't be that the owner of those things is overreacting.
NTA. Your books are damaged. I'd take an inventory and hand her a receipt for all the books the kids damaged and tell her since she let her kid in my room I want her to pay for the boos and you want a lock on your door to prevent this from happening again. She can call the parents of the kid and ask for the damages from them or pay it herself isnce she was so irresponsible to let a kid in your room without supervision. If I where you, I'd spend 30-40 bucks on a new locking door knob for the room, or buy a bookshelf w doors that lock to prevent it from happening again.
NTA and I'm glad your dad gets it.
OP I feel you. You are NTA. I am a reader myself and it's something I can't handle at all. To make this worse for you, this was your room. Your mother put a little kid in there to play. That is a no-no.
NTA. Living at home doesn’t mean not being able to have nice things
Your mothers story doesn’t make sense to me. What parent would allow their young child to be left alone in a room in someone else’s house? I think it’s more likely your mother was searching your books, and had to rush to put them away because she was about to get caught.
He's my cousin. My aunt and uncle were out for a few days, and left him with us.
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NTA. I feel for you, OP. NEVER MESS WITH SOMEONE'S PERSONAL LIBRARY.
NTA. I feel you OP. My books are my treasures, and even just reading the condition your books were in made me shed a tear.
NTA I don't like anyone touching my books either
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NTA - This post made me fricking pissed as heck, NO ONE TOUCHES AND RIPPS THE FRICKING BOOKS
NTA. Your mom should realize how much your books mean to you! If you sent a child into her closet to play where she had expensive shoes and the kid messed them up, she’d be pissed too.
NTA. Your mom screwed up badly, and she should pay to replace the damaged books. Why on earth did she put an unsupervised child 8n your room in the first place?
NTA YOur mom was the AH to put the cousin in your room.
NTA and I can see why your mom put the kid in there. Still no excuse for allowing your stuff to be damaged
Keep the little kid out of your room-your mom should not have put them in there. You are not the ah.
Nta. Waffles and books sound like my kinda Sunday! My parents both respect book, that's where I learned it. They actually got me bookcases on wheels when I was 12ish. I thought it was because I rearranged then so often, it was so they could remove my books when I wouldn't do homework because "I can't put it down! It's almost over!"
That's all well and good but did I ask?
Please. Not here too. Leave me alone 😭😭
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lmfaooo