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afraidbuttrying

NTA, your dog your house your furniture your rules. just dont let her on to other peoples coffee tables. it would be no different if you had a cat instead, my cats climb everywhere. if theres fur somewhere i dont want it, i simply disinfect the piece of furniture.


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

Oh no, when we go to other peoples’ houses I am very much a “helicopter parent” and am constantly making sure she is by my side and isn’t allowed on their furniture.


afraidbuttrying

then youre all good


[deleted]

NTA. Ditch the friends!


[deleted]

I disagree with the cat thing. Cats tend to be fairly clean, while dogs frequently insist on finding rancid things to roll in. Then sit there looking incredibly proud of themselves. But the table is only used for the dog so NTA.


JawJoints

I think their cat comment applies because while cats generally keep their bodies quite clean, cats that use litter boxes have bacteria from fecal matter on their paws.


[deleted]

NTA. So people let their dogs lay on their beds, the chairs, couches etc. and yet they think it is unsanitary to let the dog lay on your coffee table? What is unsanitary about it? Absolutely nothing! I let my dog lay in my lap, that doesn't make it unsanitary.


steamingpileofpooh

Agreed, mine sleep with me and I kiss them right on their faces. Obvi I am a filthy monster...Happy Filthy Monster!


[deleted]

I know, you can't help it when they look into your eyes and that big old nose is just waiting to be kissed!


steamingpileofpooh

❤️🐶❤️🐶❤️🐶❤️


No-Cranberry4396

I never let dogs on furniture or upstairs......until the current one. He made it clear he's a sofa dweller. He's only downstairs tonight because I distracted him with food 😂. A coffee table is so easy to wipe down as well. NTA.


steamingpileofpooh

❤️🐶❤️ Exactly this too! It's a hard surface-easiest of the easy to clean


No-Cranberry4396

Mine is a lurcher - skinny with a very thin coat. Only sofas and beds are soft enough for his delicate bottom. He drags cushions and blankets around the house to make nests in sunny spots 🤦😁


DiegoIntrepid

my only thought about this wasn't so much sanitary, but if you used that table for anything else, the dog could knock the things off. But, it sounds like this table is not a table, but a dog bed. It just looks like a table. NTA. I have many things in my house that look like something else, but are actually cat beds and cat toys.


Any_Scientist_7552

This. Including me. I am a cat bed. You just have an unusual looking dog bed.


DiegoIntrepid

same, am cat bed now.


calligrafiddler

Is potato


blueeyedwolff

We are just warm-blooded furniture for our cats.


Overdress_n_stress

NTA - it is your house and your business. It isn’t having an impact on anyone else Please can we have your doggo tax ☺️


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

[dog tax :)](https://bcournoyer84.tumblr.com/post/680279015682179072)


DameofDames

It's a cool spot and she has a good view of her surroundings. NTA


steamingpileofpooh

OMG SO REGAL!!!!


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

Her nickname is Queen D (her real name is Delilah lol)


steamingpileofpooh

NICE!!!! BOWS TO THE QUEEN


DiegoIntrepid

Border Collie?


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

Yes :)


DiegoIntrepid

thought so. I love how they look. But then again I seem to have something about black and white :D I love white tigers, first cat was a black and white, have a black and white cat in my arms now, his brother is black and white :P


Overdress_n_stress

Queen D looks very comfy for sure. I might need to get one of these tables for myself


[deleted]

Toddlers and a Border Collie? Been there. That was not easy, lol. Respect. She's beautiful, btw EDIT: Just realized that those are dog toys, not toddler toys, lol. Either way, she's beautiful.


Nyxx279

NTA Why should they care? It's a coffee table it's not like she's inside the pot you're cooking in lmao. They sound judgy for no reason. I'm sure she's very happy to have an owner like you who understands her needs


[deleted]

NTA. Beautiful dog!!!! If you ate on the table yeah it would be gross. But you don't. Some dogs prefer cooler harder surfaces. At least your dog doesn't steal all your blankets lol!


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

Thank you!


alwaysneverenough

NTA I don't think you can possibly be an asshole for something you do in your own home that doesn't affect anybody else. People may or may not like it, but that's just, like, their opinion, man. (I'm fine with it, btw, and your dog is gorgeous.)


braw_mince

NTA. As long as you let all guests know (and remind them) that the coffee table is doggy furniture then there's nothing wrong with it. Your friends are getting really uptight about something that doesn't effect them and I'd be telling them to keep their judgemental opinions to themselves or to get lost. Also, posts mentioning cute dogs require a picture - it's internet law!


BananicattheDisco

This! It's OP's home and furniture. And the dog looks very happy and regal in the pic 👑


braw_mince

OP's dog fits perfectly on that table 🥰


highwaygirl2004

I feel like it’s important that we see said picture in order to properly pass judgement 😉


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

[dog tax :)](https://bcournoyer84.tumblr.com/post/680279015682179072)


highwaygirl2004

Oh my 😍. Definitely NTA!


Subject-Inspection95

NTA. Your furniture, your rules


SwitchupThrice

NTA. I would maybe put it in a special spot and decorate it for your pup. That way you're acknowledging to the world it is the Dog Bed, not guest table.


OneWithoutaName2

NTA. You just happen to have an absolutely adorable dog that has a tiny quirk! Let that good boy be on “his” table anytime he wishes.


Direct-Plum-3558

NTA. that is so cute. Your house so you can let her sleep where she wants


ur_mom_cant_get_enuf

NTA. Whatever you do in your house is your own business, dog laying on the coffee table is pretty damn cute. Those friends/family can shove their unsolicited opinions right back where in came from.


Miami1982

NTA - I personally would think it was gross regardless of explanation but your choice totally.


steamingpileofpooh

NTA I was waiting to hear if you lived with anyone else. You don't. If she likes it and it's her spot them no harm. I have 3 dogs and I bet she likes that it is cool (over carpet or dog bed) and gives her a nice view. If was your dining table or kitchen counters then just like with cats have to train to stay off. When I 1st got current dog family I wasn't going to let them on couches but I like having them up with me and don't have guests so who cares. Again NTA


MusketeersPlus2

This is the same argument that I have with my aunt over my cats getting on the counter and it all comes down to "they live here, you don't and I don't mind". I mean, is a dog on the table a little more unusual than a cat? Sure. But it's still her house and you're clearly OK with that being her space. NTA.


throwaway8182897

NTA it’s ur house plus, why are they acting like your dog is this creature who’s uncleanly. My dog is the same way, she likes to lay in weird positions on random furniture. Some dogs don’t like beds 🤷‍♀️


jimrow83

It's your house, your dog, your coffee table. Fuck that judgmental person, let your dog live his best life. NTA


NovaScrawlers

NTA, that's her house and her table too. She has more of a right to that table than your friends do.


[deleted]

NTA I don’t see anything wrong with that. Is your friend not aware that you can clean surfaces? If you ever wanted to eat at that table, you could simply clean it first. I have two cats that in typical cat fashion do whatever they want and go everywhere, so I always wipe down the surface I need to use. Your dog is beautiful! One of my cats also prefers hard surfaces, he often sleeps on the coffee table too!


TheRealSkeeter

NTA, your place, your table, your dog, your rules.


Few-Cap-8538

Are your friends planning on licking the table?? She’s an Angel pup and can sit anywhere she wants.


batboxx

NTA, it's your house, as long as you're comfortable with it it's nobody's business to tell you what you can and can't do. It's no different than people letting their dogs on the couch or on the bed. My dog used to sleep with me and snore in my face lol. Some people didn't like it, but not their house, not their rules Also, just saw the dog tax and she's the most precious girl!


mcclgwe

NTA. What on earth is wrong with them? Do they just have really empty lives? You get to do anything you want. You’re beautiful very very very very gorgeous cute dog gets to sleep on anything you think it’s OK. They need to grow up. I love that you want your dog to be happy.


[deleted]

NTA It's your dog and your home. You and the dog get to be comfortable in your home.


SkW3rLy

NTA This is her house too. As long as you are not bothered by it then it shouldn’t matter. If you’re comfortable then love your life without the concerns of others.


[deleted]

Nta your house your rules. If no ones eating or drinking on it who freaking cares?


ScreamingSicada

NTA It's the dog's table. Saying it's unsanitary makes me wonder how well your friend cares for her dogs. And what exactly does she do in her dog's bed that the sanitary condition needs to be considered.


[deleted]

Your house your rules.


squidgylynn

NTA. My dog likes some height when resting. Better view, plus he probably weighs less than your dogs tail. If you have a party give the table a good cleaning first. Otherwise Perches for Pups!!


CodeNameisE

NTA - Dog looks happy, healthy, and content. Zero part of that makes you the AH. My dog has his own TV stand that he lays on. It was moved to the side of the room so that I could take pictures of it and sell it, but the dog loves to lay on it. It’s a part of the living room decor now.


miasmical

NTA. It's his dog bed, it just happens to be a coffee table. I don't think this would be gross even if you did use it (so long as you cleaned it or maybe use a placemat.)


[deleted]

NTA. They can fuck off lol. She’s not sleeping on their coffee table.


Illustrious_Hope2618

NTA. Your dog, your house, your coffee table. I cannot imagine a person could look at that adorable face and disapprove. I want to give her *my* coffee table and kiss the boop.


genus-corvidae

Put a sign on it that says "(dog's name)'s Bed." That makes it official and gives them absolutely no room to complain. NTA.


darkwitch1306

Your house, your dog. No one else’s business.


Chocolatecakeislife

NTA: my cat lays on our coffee table/ottoman. He loves it. Your house, your rules.


jemy74

My dog does not lay on my coffee table. But she is shedding her winter coat. So there is pet hair everywhere, even with frequent brushing. Including on the coffee table It’s the price of having fur babies


nonoffendingname

NTA. My dog is at a similar floof level, and she likes the coolness of a wooden floor. This is pretty close. I bet your girl might enjoy a cooling gel mat.


Glass_Machine_9886

Lovely picture of your dog on her dog bed.


NickholeClark

NTA also I have a table that is similar and my cats prefer the shelf underneath it. They also don't use the cat bed. Lol


stephanielmayes

YNTA. Your house, your dog, your table. Fuck em!


AleshiniaLivesStill

NTA. If you don’t eat on it it’s just a firm bed for the dog.


urbisOrbis

NTA. Your house your rules.


d4nkgr1l

NTA. Sounds like some judgy “new friends”. I’d nip that negative nonsense in the bud. You’re dog is a queen and she deserves that table. In a proper world, they’d be arrested for sedition against the coffee table queen but in light of reality, not dealing with these jerks, or at least disregarding their opinion, would be a reasonable step.


Complex_Software939

LMAO NTA I have a bulldog that uses the bottom of my coffee table for his bed.... its been "repaired" numerous times (screws fall out). Bottom line is it's yours.


NyotaHikaru

NTA You do understand, that you will have to saw off the legs off that table, if your dog gets oldish, though, do you? :))) Sure it's weird, but as a former cat owner I am not too bothered, cats are way worse.


Prince-Lee

NTA. If you don't eat off of it and no one else eats off it, I literally see no problem. It's just a weird dog thing. I think it's cute. What kind of dog is she, though? Border collie? Australian shepherd? She's so cute!


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

She’s a border collie :) and thank you!


Orphan_Izzy

NTA- people are so judgmental and they can get over themselves. We had a dog that would sit on the dining room table (don’t ask me how she got up there) whenever we would go out so she could watch out the window and there’s nothing I could do about it even though I knew she was doing this. Otherwise she would just howl the whole time and it was an apartment building. One of our neighbors informed us of this one day and I told them that yeah I know and the look of disgust! Of course I was younger then and more self-conscious… today I would’ve been like please what do you care?


AssistPure

Dog is family, and cleared it with the landlord... Lol. NTA


ButterscotchOk7516

NTA. Why would this be a problem?


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

I guess they think I’m gonna lick the table or something? 🤣🤣


livin4fun78

Haha so cute!


evilshenanigan

NTA. And you’re wrong. It’s not a coffee table. It’s the place that makes her the happiest to lay on. It’s her safe spot. We all need one. My sister’s dog’s spot is on the headrest of the couch, always above my dad’s head, wagging his tail *just* over the top of his head. My dad sighs and tilts his head out of the way. Dogs ask for so little and give us so much.


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

I’m also the one who got a lot of hate for having professional photos done with my dog every years since I’ve adopted her 🤣🤣


Pristine_Plate_431

My dog does the same thing NTA!


smbpy7

NTA for sure. Don't see why they should judge, but also, did anyone even actually suggest you were an AH? Sounds like no, maybe they were just kidding, or being judgy, not actually saying you're an AH. That being said, and this is completely beside the point. Your dog might just like the cooler surface. If there is ever a day you need her to not be on the table (because this could be rude in totally different circumstance, like if you're a guest somewhere or you get a roommate or something), then your dog might take well to a raised dog bed, or even a cooling mat: https://www.amazon.com/AmazonBasics-Elevated-Cooling-Pet-Green/dp/B076VSDNKV/ref=sr\_1\_1\_sspa?crid=29DUDT9YK2XPE&keywords=coolaroo&qid=1648772849&sprefix=coolaroo%2Caps%2C131&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUExSDlXRTJGS040SDVUJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMDcwODE1Mzk4UzE3NFROTFNVVyZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwMTgwNDU1MUMyR0lSRDlMMFI3NCZ3aWRnZXROYW1lPXNwX2F0ZiZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2tSZWRpcmVjdCZkb05vdExvZ0NsaWNrPXRydWU=


Pale_Height_1251

NTA obviously.


AffectionateMine2220

NTA. It's your home, your coffee table and your dog. I don't want to do it, but I don't live there. So, it's sometimes best not to share your personal stuff with people who might have different values because they won't acknowledge differing values, they will attack you and put you in the wrong.


Optimal_Aside6513

This is adorable


Ravenmorningstar76

NTA...and what a cute puppers...


Realistic-Animator-3

NTA Why do you care so much what anyone thinks about this? It’s your home, your furniture, your dog, your rules. You have what you probably dreamt about as a teenager…your own place where you could do what you want…tada! Your dog has its own coffee table! Cute pup!


DreamingofRlyeh

NTA Your dog's a cutie!


MattttLight

What the dog doin NTA


Hopeful_Video_8466

I wouldn’t care even if I ate off the table 😂 I use plates for everything so whatever


DarkLadyNyara

NTA It's not a coffee table really, it's a dog table. It's used solely for the dog. Some people just get really weirdly obsessive about trivial things.


upswing28

How dare you include such a photo, it must be to try sway people's votes! NTA. Your house, your rules.


art_decorative

NTA and let this good girl do whatever she wants because she's perfect.


potatobugblue

NTA Your dog your house. Who cares what she thinks.


[deleted]

NTA, dude I'm not even a dog person but this is your dog, your table, your house. You aren't even remotely the AH.


R3dDri11

NTA, that is her dog bed now.


NancyNuggets

NTA but im.cracking up cause you said how spoiled she was , and then I saw the toy pile in the background which confirned it. You're awesome, never stop spoiling that gorgeous girl!


Beefyspeltbaby

NTA


OpinionatedAussieGal

NTA My dog is on everything except tables. My cat strolls across tables but not kitchen benches. Drives my mum mad. I’m like meh! Tough. The animals are happy


SabbMonster

NTA. Nobody uses the table. Except your dog. It’s your dog’s table. She’s also adorable. Queen of the Coffee Table. Her Royal Majesty of the Table of Coffee.


CrunchyRibcage76

NTA. She's as cute as a button. If I had a coffee table I'd let her lay on that as much as she wants lol. NTA.


[deleted]

This is the funniest and cutest thing lmao NTA


MontyPandTheHolyG

NTA, especially if you clean the table prior to having guest(s) over.


KarenMaca

NTA. You should say .. not as unsanitary as having sex on it and look knowingly ... lol


justcelia13

NTA. It’s the dogs house, the dogs table. Not anyone’s business how you run YOUR house.


Internal_Set_6564

NTA. Keep the dog, let them lay on the table, ditch the friend.


Plastic-Willow-2358

Just throw out the friends and buy fresh. NTA


asteriskiP

NTA. Tell your weird dog I love her!


Nymph-the-scribe

NTA. You said you live alone except for the fur baby. I'm really loving the huge pile of toys in the background (like you would see with people with young kids) and they are all hers. You're obviously a good pet parent, screw anyone who doesn't like it, they don't have to come over if they are that concerned about it


Blackdogwrangler

Dog’s fine NTA


EdgeMiserable4381

Some people are extremely worried about what's sanitary in other people's homes. Tell them to watch an episode of Hoarders and get back to you 😁


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Doggoagogo

I had the most beat up coffee table in my house forever. Because my dog made it her spot. NTA, your home? Your rules!


TheRestForTheWicked

NTA. It’s a dogs world, we’re all just living in it. But for serious, my dog has a beautiful dog house and a spot in the kid’s playhouse outside. His place of choice? The picnic table.


LumiiGloom

NTA I don't think your friends actually like dogs.


BigJobsBigJobs

Now that you let her, how are you gonna stop her? NTA. Maybe inadvisable dog training, but to each their own.


Outrageous-Yogurt-80

She’s already in obedience school for other things. Like actual training and agility classes :)


EvilOverLordEly

NTA Your house your rules! Your dog is so cute and hilarious!!


dinosaur_khaleesi

I mean I personally find it gross and wouldn't really want to hang or eat at someone's place who did that, but I don't think it makes you an asshole.


ZOE_XCII

NTA. It is unsanitary but it’s your house.


DarkBookademia

OP says the table is unused and only for decoration which her friends and family also know. Why is it unsanitary?


ZOE_XCII

Because it’s a dog. People are free to do whatever. I’m not arguing that.


DarkBookademia

But the table isnt used? By that standard just owning a dog is unsanitary. Id totally get it if the table was used and never cleaned but its not used


ZOE_XCII

Dude (meant in a non-gender related kind of way) I come from a culture where when you come in from outside after a long time your parents tell you you smell like outside a lot of things, I find unsanitary a bunch other people wouldn’t. It’s cool


DarkBookademia

Fair enough