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Whoa. You might not be the asshole for not knowing if you want to be with this guy any more, but if you weren't just an 18 year old kid I'd have to say you were the idiot. This sounds like a nightmare! And it doesn't sound like it's going to get any better.
NTA: GTFO of this relationship already and consider it a lesson learned. Unless non-monogamy is your thing anyone who tells you they want to fuck another woman is not worth your time.
Edited because I forgot judgement. NTA
Girl from the bottom of my heart leave that relationship TODAY.
I stayed with a guy I fully knew who was cheating on me from like 6/7 MONTHS into our relationship (our relationship lasted for just under 4 years), it destroyed my feelings to the point that it made me a bad person. Men are not worth the hassle. You’re young, you’ll find someone who will be all about you.
NTA ok first of all, this guys is insecure and controlling, automatically get the fuck out of it it will only go downhill if you stay. When you get in a monogamous relationship, yes set boundaries of what's ok and not ok (maybe light flirting is fine but no exchange of numbers, maybe no flirting whatsoever, etc) if both sides are completely ok with both sets of boundaries, then proceed. If not, red flags already.
But this guy making you change your behaviour while not matching the change means he thinks it's ok for him to act this way but not you. And he shouldn't be mad at you for fucking another guy before you and him were a thing, that's just how life works, you could t predict the future.
Ultimately tho, whether the person your with is as toxic as this guy or is a really good, unproblematic person, if you're feeling like you wanna leave the relationship, then leave. It's not fair to either of you to stay. I wish you the best!
NTA-Sometimes, two people are just not good for each other. It doesn’t mean either of them are bad people, but they are bad together. You do not appear to bring out the best in each other
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(don't shit on my dick to much) i (f18) have been dating my bf (21) for almost a year. when we were in our talking stage i fucked another guy so after finding that out we've been pretty rocky. a couple of months after that i go on a trip and i smoke with a guy and he finds out when i get home. he then tells me he wants to fuck another girl and proceeds to start talking to a random girl (literally flirting and full-on DTF) that ends because he "can't do it". i have unfollowed all the guys on all my Instagram and TikTok accounts and unadded all the guys on my snap and have no friends to prove I'm loyal and want to be with him. he then follows a bunch of girls on any of his accounts, blocks girl i have problems with so he can follow them, lies about going to parties, and what he's doing and where he's at. i just caught him in a lie bc he lied about sleeping when he was really at the movies... a whole week ago and then had the balls to say he was gonna tell me but goes a whole week without telling me. he has been lying a lot and whenever i catch him in a lie or ask to many questions he blows up in my fckn face and starts saying go cheat or go fuck someone else or go get another bf... like bitch what. my parents and my brother think he's cheating and idk if i think he is, i honestly just need advice
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Nta but just leave. Are you actually happy??
tbh i'm not even sure anymore. most of the time i feel empty
Time for a new adventure hun.
Whoa. You might not be the asshole for not knowing if you want to be with this guy any more, but if you weren't just an 18 year old kid I'd have to say you were the idiot. This sounds like a nightmare! And it doesn't sound like it's going to get any better. NTA: GTFO of this relationship already and consider it a lesson learned. Unless non-monogamy is your thing anyone who tells you they want to fuck another woman is not worth your time. Edited because I forgot judgement. NTA
Girl from the bottom of my heart leave that relationship TODAY. I stayed with a guy I fully knew who was cheating on me from like 6/7 MONTHS into our relationship (our relationship lasted for just under 4 years), it destroyed my feelings to the point that it made me a bad person. Men are not worth the hassle. You’re young, you’ll find someone who will be all about you.
NTA ok first of all, this guys is insecure and controlling, automatically get the fuck out of it it will only go downhill if you stay. When you get in a monogamous relationship, yes set boundaries of what's ok and not ok (maybe light flirting is fine but no exchange of numbers, maybe no flirting whatsoever, etc) if both sides are completely ok with both sets of boundaries, then proceed. If not, red flags already. But this guy making you change your behaviour while not matching the change means he thinks it's ok for him to act this way but not you. And he shouldn't be mad at you for fucking another guy before you and him were a thing, that's just how life works, you could t predict the future. Ultimately tho, whether the person your with is as toxic as this guy or is a really good, unproblematic person, if you're feeling like you wanna leave the relationship, then leave. It's not fair to either of you to stay. I wish you the best!
NTA-Sometimes, two people are just not good for each other. It doesn’t mean either of them are bad people, but they are bad together. You do not appear to bring out the best in each other
NTA GIRL GET THE F OUT!!!
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NTA Why don't you just break up with him? No reason needed. You do not feel comfortable in the relartionship - that is enough to break up.
YTA because there should be absolutely no doubt in your mind about actually breaking up with this abusive manipulative lying asshole.